Gather 'round for a heartwarming and laughter-filled encounter with one of my dearest companions, Miss Wendy! Join us on a voyage that's as much about embracing life's quirks as it is about acknowledging the little affirmations that fortify the foundations of friendship and self-love
Gather 'round for a heartwarming and laughter-filled encounter with one of my dearest companions, Miss Wendy! Join us on a voyage that's as much about embracing life's quirks as it is about acknowledging the little affirmations that fortify the foundations of friendship and self-love
What's up, gang? It's Trinisha English and you are listening to the Things you Should Know podcast. He's got a baby mama. That's from here. He got two black baby mamas, oh yeah, and now this Asian one. Sometimes you gotta switch it up. No, they don't have that workout for you Now. Well, for him, alright.
Speaker 2:Stick with what you know, okay.
Speaker 1:What's up everybody? Welcome back to the podcast. This is the Things you Should Know podcast, featuring Trinisha English. Hi, I'm Trinisha English. I actually have a really, really good friend here, which is interesting, right, because I met you through my mother and I don't know me and my mother are friendly. She's my mom. I wouldn't call her my friend, right? We're gonna welcome my good friend, miss Wendy. Welcome, miss Wendy, to the podcast. Thanks for taking some time out of your day to come and do something stupid with me, not a problem. Not a problem.
Speaker 2:Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So I was saying to this I met Miss Wendy, so Miss Wendy is a friend of my mother's and got a chance to kind of like watch me grow up and as a part of that, me and Miss Wendy have been able to create our own relationship and have become friends along the way. So I really like enjoy what we have. I know we don't kick it a lot because you know you hang out with my mom and she be trying to feel some type of way about you know me kicking in with her friends. Never knew that I'm right. I mean not like really really, but like kinda like. When I told her I was having you on the podcast, she was like oh sir, have Miss Wendy on the podcast. Miss Wendy is the cool one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, miss Wendy is the cool one. Everybody needs like someone like that, a cool family friend or cool aunt, right, that they can, you know, talk to. So I agree, anyway. So, miss Wendy, thank you for who you are in my life and all the things that you've done. How are things going for you though 2024? How's it treating you?
Speaker 2:2024 ain't bad Better than the past couple years. I'll take it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, good, good, uh, miss Wendy, uh, what are you doing right now to bring yourself joy? I'm in therapy. Oh, really Me too.
Speaker 2:Yes, I am, I'm in therapy. How's that going? I'm learning a lot in there, learning a lot about myself, should I say. I'm learning how to do things that seem to come natural to a lot of people, like deep breathing exercises, right?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Never done them before in my life right Really. Breathe regularly, right, and nobody ever told me. Take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale out through your mouth, right? Nobody ever told me that, but I find myself in a lot of situations that helps me. I'm a person that goes from zero to a hundred, really, really fast, it's the.
Speaker 2:Leo, in you, it absolutely is, and I'm not mad about it. Some are, but I'm not. Um, but yeah, it helps me there. So, other than that, I've switched positions at my job. I love my position and life is just good right now.
Speaker 1:Good, good, good Well, miss Wendy, I appreciate that. Thanks for sharing it. Um, so, uh, you talked about being in therapy. I'm in therapy too. Um, it's something that I've learned in therapy is like to really lean into this self care thing, and my therapist has talked to me a lot about like there are things that I imagine self care are that aren't actually self care for me, okay, and so like actually figuring out what is your self care and leaning into those things. So I have found, like bathing is a form of self care for me, like it's very ritualistic for me. I got my lotions, my potions, my all of that. Um, I literally took a two hour bath today when.
Speaker 2:I love in the gym.
Speaker 1:It was everything, yes, but the other thing that my therapist has pointed out to me is like a form of self care is, uh, the deep dives that I do on social media. So at least once a week I spend 45 minutes, at least 45 minutes, doing a deep dive into what I call the my lust list. So there are five individuals, there are five individuals who I get on their social media as I follow them on social media and I just do a deep dive and they just looking, uh, things that are visually appealing are nice to me. I like to look at things that are visually appealing, which I think everyone does Right.
Speaker 1:And so I spend 45 minutes looking at people who I find visually appealing. That's different. You think so I do. I mean listen, try it on. Ms Wendy, I know you're practicing forms of self care. I like, really do. Like you don't ever get on social media and be like oh, so I think so, and so is fine, and now I'm just in a social media trance yes, yes and some in some ways it is a trance.
Speaker 1:I will say this I try to only look at new content. I guess 45 minutes is a little excessive. That may be an or maybe overshooting it, but I do spend time on social media um lusting after these people, and my lust for Jaylen Hertz has been captured on this podcast before you know. Jaylen Hertz. I don't know who that is. Oh, ms Wendy. Jaylen Hertz is the um quarterback of the Philadelphia Eagles. I forgot Race girls or sports girls.
Speaker 1:Yes, we are sports girls mainly because a lot of those men are visually appealing for myself.
Speaker 2:So you're talking about a man in a football uniform. That doesn't appeal to me Really. Tight pants, tight clothes no, thank you.
Speaker 1:Are you? Is it just football, or are there other athletes? Like what about basketball? You into basketball guys?
Speaker 2:Tight pants, tight clothes, no Basketball, love it Okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, uh, who was the basketball? I go to back in the day.
Speaker 2:Let me think, Of course, Michael Jordan right.
Speaker 1:Are you from Jay?
Speaker 2:He's not appealing to you.
Speaker 1:No, well, something. He just seems like my, like a my dad.
Speaker 2:Probably because of his age Right. So you didn't come up in that era. Like you know. Okay, let me see Just Mr Jordan what's your name Jaylen Hertz. All right, if you say so.
Speaker 1:I mean, let me find some. These are just all his football.
Speaker 2:He not doing it for me?
Speaker 1:Yeah, let me see let's do like magazine something. There we go yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I should have.
Speaker 1:I should have pulled all of these yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, I ain't y'all age now, I guess.
Speaker 1:Oh, he's not my age, he's much younger.
Speaker 2:Much better picture. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Football stuff doesn't really do him justice.
Speaker 2:Here's a nice looking young man.
Speaker 1:Right Little chills. Little jaw looks like a Tyler Perry villain a little bit. Yeah, he's also like very into black women. He wrote a love letter to black women in the middle of the season and has his entire team is black women, his agent, his publicist.
Speaker 2:Nice, right yeah. So that's a plus for that.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, no, I will say that really put him over the edge, because I try to be age appropriate in my lust and he's like 25. He's young? Yeah, very much so I would be a cougar.
Speaker 2:Definitely would be a cougar, yeah, so.
Speaker 1:I try to keep it up. But yeah, my lust for Jalen Hertz is really well documented. But I actually lied to you. I said I have five. I actually have four people and I'm looking for a fifth spot. I got a potential, but I'm looking for a fifth spot. Now do they have to be? Football player, basketball I'm actually all over the map. I'm an equal opportunity luster. Okay all right, so you ready for my first go-to? Well, I guess technically Jaylin.
Speaker 2:I was gonna write say he's your father.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I again I also want to like stand for some other people on this episode, all right, so One I kind of preview to you. So I'm gonna start here Andre 3000. And I have actually grown up having a crush with Andre 3000. Okay, andre 3000. Okay, like I remember Seeing him in the Rosa Parks video and being like huh, okay, interesting, and then I'm just gonna like it. I think the silk press in the hey-ya video and all of that. I think that just did it for me. He's a little Off the beaten path, a little me weird Okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I could be into it. I could be into okay, something about that is appealing and he is aging like fine wine.
Speaker 2:Yes, he does, he looks good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he looks real good. What, andre, do it for you back in the day. No really, or you're a big boy. I can see that. I can see. I can see that that you were a little bit more of a big boy type of. Really, how do you feel about him aging though?
Speaker 2:I Mean he's not like Andre 3000. No, yeah but, he's not bad. You know he's not bad. The years hadn't treated him too bad, but you can tell there's a difference, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you can. You can that relay us back to the self-care thing you know, I would wonder what big boys for myself care is. You know, he owns like owls.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he I saw like on social media a couple of months ago Like maybe he owns like three or four owls. He takes him to the studio with him. I also say like I don't think one the self care crisis been a big thing for a while, I would say, but it's only very rare. Like what would did self care look like for men in the 90s?
Speaker 2:It probably wasn't yeah, they probably weren't doing it and, to be honest, it's probably not that big for now, except for people who know about it. Yeah, gone through therapy or were taught that. And I'm not gonna say that black men, especially my age, they don't believe in therapy, they don't believe in self-care, that they weren't taught it.
Speaker 1:No, and that's interesting that you say that right, because I think that that is really it, because there used to be such stigma Like I actually was really surprised when you told me you were in therapy, because there's so much stigma, especially In our black community, but also if with folks your age because when I first started therapy, what was said to me and I won't say who said it, but what was said to me is therapy, crazy people go to therapy.
Speaker 2:But what you have to understand is, like you said, my generation, 70s baby, then think about to the 60s, think about to the 50s, think about to the there were not such thing as therapists. Yeah, so a lot of things that happen in our community back in those days were kept within the family. Right, you don't tell. What goes on in this house stays in this house, right? Yeah, that came from right. So literally everything stayed in the house. So there was no one there to say you know, maybe you should, and then you have the money situation from back in the day right.
Speaker 2:Don't nobody had a money go. We barely go to the doctor. Let on a therapist right. That's crazy.
Speaker 1:So yeah, and not having therapists. Are you know that? Look like you I even think like like the black experience in this country. It's based in trauma, right. So it like even all of it. So it is really exciting, right, that we can get to this movement that is, the self-care movement, this therapy movement, and it's sad to see Black men not be as, be able to be as far along down the path as black women have been able to get. I agree.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but they were raised difference, a different generation. Yeah, even today up back in my day it was Men don't cry, men don't cry, men don't cry. And they have so much trauma to brothers so they have so much trauma that's built up that like you need to cry. Yeah, really you need to cry from when you were 17. Right in your 50, but literally, and you can tell it right, maybe not so much in you guys's generation, because now there's therapists there, but my generation yeah, men need to cry.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I find I've started to find it attractive when men cry. Mm-hmm because it shows that they are in touch with that emotion, like they're willing to a man this cry. It's less likely to beat you, you're right. You're right.
Speaker 1:Let me not say that, but I just you know, in my mind, stereotypically, I feel like you, being able to be in touch with your emotions, like that and be vulnerable. Let's me know that I'm gonna be able to be vulnerable with you and I can trust you. Agree, we can be a safe space. Agree for each other. So, yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 1:Gang Trenisha English from the Things you Should Know podcast here, reminding you to rate and review and, if you haven't already, be sure to follow us on social media at Things you Should Know pod, like and share and comment, interact with us and, if you haven't already, click that subscribe button wherever you get your podcast. Alright, you ready for this next person on my list. List Now this. I should have been googling him because I know you aren't going to know who he is, but he is fine. His name is Yaya Abdulmenti. Yeah, never in my life heard of that. He was the. He's the new Candyman. I know we're going to find the pictures again, so it looks like all your people are the same type.
Speaker 2:I thought, no, maybe I'm waiting to see somebody looks a little different. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, okay, maybe I might have a type he's a nice looking guy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like easy on the eyes. I really go for men that I feel like will be able to show up in the way that I want them to show up for me and I can take them home to my dad. I want a guy that I think I'm going to be able to get past my dad. So, yeah, I like him. Yeah, a little clean, a little rough around the edges, but kind of clean up like somebody you could clean up Okay. So yeah, I think he's all right.
Speaker 2:He's got a nice body on him. Yeah, no, I do like a body. I do like a body. Yeah, I'm a body girl.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay. So, yeah, yeah, he is fine. Now this one, I know you know, okay, carmelo Anthony is also on my list, list.
Speaker 2:All right. So, like I said, you have a type.
Speaker 1:I wish y'all could have seen Miss Wendy's face just now when I said that Carmelo Anthony, nothing about.
Speaker 2:Carmelo does it for you. I mean, he's okay.
Speaker 1:I've now got to know, like all right, okay, Miss Wendy, who you? Who? Who's doing it for you? Who's tickling your fancy? You see him on the cover of a magazine. You see him across your Instagram feed, you see him on the TV and you like, hmm, no God did it right with that one.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say back in the day his name was young Jeezy, but today his name is just Jeezy, and let me add the single Jeezy at that.
Speaker 1:You hear me. Let's not forget that part. Single Jeezy, I don't like the Mary version.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, no, not this. No, no, no. I don't like that. We can keep that one out.
Speaker 1:What is it about Jeezy that does it for you? Or yeah, like, what is it that pulls you to a guy?
Speaker 2:I think he's a very nice looking guy Back in his day when he first released his album. I still thought it was nice looking, but I think for me it's the growth in. Jeezy Right Especially. Jeezy is a couple of years younger than I am so like when he first started.
Speaker 2:You know I've also read his book. So in his book he kind of describes like how he grew up really poor. Dad was in the service, mom just kind of took care of everything, but they didn't have anything right. So he literally started from the bottom with nothing. He used to steal, he used to do this, do that, start selling drugs at a very young age, things like that. And to look at the growth in him now is like wow I know people are really sitting back. He used to live in Japan. I didn't know that.
Speaker 2:People probably still living in Japan. Is that okay? It's that his dad was in the military, so just sitting back looking at his growth is just like you was fine then, but now I don't read this story and I'm looking at you on all these interviews you're doing. Yeah, that does it for me.
Speaker 1:Is growth now? Like a like what is the thing that attracts you to a man? Like so for me it's like humor, comedy, right. Like if I feel like you aren't going to take yourself too seriously and I need for you not to take me too seriously because I'm nuts. Like if I feel that way, like that's it. What is it for you? Is it growth in the thing?
Speaker 2:No, no, no, no. I say that because that's a big thing for me with him. Um, remember our age difference though right Um but literally like if I'm out and I say somebody's attractive, I'ma Nice smile person. What's your smile look?
Speaker 1:like.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what's that smile? Look like right, we can handle the rest. So what does that smile? I'm not saying you have to be.
Speaker 1:We can handle the rest did you get them teeth together.
Speaker 2:Right we can't be having plaque ginger bite. It can be having bad breath, you know we can't be having ashy lips. You know all that plays a part, and keep in mind the fact that I am not a kisser, but that mouth is still important really absolutely, I Mean I that to me for me personally, like I know that's what people comment.
Speaker 1:People comment on my mouth constantly. Because I mean, if I do say to myself I got a pretty decent smile, I agree. Shout out to the parents Okay, the genetics are working hard, all right. So yeah, no, that's interesting. I always say, yeah, I'm gonna. I like a smile, yeah, and I love it when you smell. When a man smells good, your smell can. If you smell good, you got a nice smile. We can really figure the rest.
Speaker 2:Because I like to laugh yep, Yep if I'm be honest with you, if I go out on a date with a man and I don't laugh, I'm out, you won't see me. Yeah, I'm the same way, I'm you won't see me. It's like life just can't be this serious, like everything just can't. We have to laugh. Yeah, I laughed at the pain sometimes you have to laugh.
Speaker 2:So you know that's. That's really it for me. I love a nice smile. I was funny. I was at mr Dan, just I probably shouldn't say that, but I'm gonna say.
Speaker 1:I was my husband, but I was okay.
Speaker 2:Mr Dan just today and the guy that was in there I think he's one of the owners and the first thing I noticed when I got to a counter was Jesus man's smile. It's nice. And I told him and I don't think he's used to compliments. It's another thing about black me Black men are not used to compliments, right.
Speaker 1:They're not used to that. This is what I'm learning at this big day.
Speaker 2:Put it in your pocket, put it in your pocket, because we, as women, love to be complimenting and we get compliments right. But don't forget to compliment that man, even if he ain't yours.
Speaker 1:Put them on game I'm going outside to. I'm gonna go outside tonight and that's gonna be my thing. I'm just about to be out here, complicate, compliment me because you're right, like I I Don't often compliment, or I will see a man and like will say, oh, he's fine, or he, but I won't say anything to him. I'm about to have him eat another poem.
Speaker 2:I said that to him yesterday. He smiled even bigger. Oh, he just kind of he didn't know what to say. He was like shot. I said it's okay, I just want to tell you have a nice smile, because you do. I seen it when I hit the door. Oh, let's go when I hit the door. Okay, hey, you had them shook up. I mean, I'm just because they not used to compliment.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all right, let me do that. Okay, so listen, there you go, remember they like to feel good too. Yeah, it's everything right.
Speaker 2:It is, words are powerful. Mm-hmm, it's nothing like a complete stranger saying you have a nice smile, you like, put a little pep in your step, a little bit like, oh you know, this girl today told me I was at work, she told me had a nice smile. Then your wife comes in and be like, well, you do, but guess what? Y'all been married 20 years. She never said anything right, miss Wendy did today. Okay, so shout out to the man that mr Dan's With the nice smile.
Speaker 1:The next beautiful, the next time I go in there because I'm they don't be that many people working in there, so when, I see him, I'll be like oh.
Speaker 2:I mean with the nice man with the nice and plus the man that do work in there are Like 80 right this man is like my age right, he has a very nice. I'm spicing out at their door like they. No sunshine outside, but it's.
Speaker 1:Miss Wendy. Below I'm cracking up. Miss Wendy, I'm about to go, I'm about to run your game on somebody.
Speaker 2:I'm a car, you call me and let me know how I work. Tell me how they looked when you said it.
Speaker 1:It's gonna light them up like shot.
Speaker 2:They gonna tell somebody to watch okay, all right now we know.
Speaker 1:All right, miss Wendy, anybody else that is like we still for young GZ, anyone else that you thinking like it's fine Top of the line.
Speaker 2:What's the name of the guy, cuz I'm not good with names. That was um Queen sugar.
Speaker 1:Kofi is his last name, brown now that don't sound right coffee, it's coffee.
Speaker 2:Oh no, but he fine baby. Yes, he is.
Speaker 1:Um, I was like crowdsourcing. I've been crowdsourcing for this little open spot that I got and Kofi's name has come up a lot. Okay, he, I'm not gonna say he doesn't do it for me, but I Can't find, I can't, I can't make myself go all the way, kofi, so be that's his name, yep, that's him. I can't make myself go all the way. It's something about it, something's missing.
Speaker 2:Okay for me personally, because, I said, all your people look the same.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they do. I mean he actually favors some of them like pull up.
Speaker 2:Carmelo Anthony. No, coffee is. It's dark, he's. He has a nice smile, anthony. Yeah, let me. I will say this for me.
Speaker 1:I don't necessarily know that I think Carmelo Anthony is fine. I think he's fly. I like the way he carries himself, I like the way he dresses. I mean, I Wouldn't like if I met Carmelo Anthony I wouldn't be trying to holler, holler for real, because he's a serial cheater and that is an attractive to me, okay, but kind of like the way that he Carries himself.
Speaker 1:And I will also say, for me it's also the growth. So like when Carmelo first hit the league and when he was younger he was not attractive to me. He's become attractive to me because he's like, I don't say like mellow down, but I think like his post NBA persona is a little bit different and that is what I find attractive about him, not necessarily his look. I also really enjoyed the way he's under. He's handling His son's disrespect.
Speaker 2:He publicly okay yeah, nothing about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, kyan did like an interview with Lala and this she was asking him who his favorite basketball player was. He said like four people before he said his dad. And she, like Lala, goes to him like I'm wondering when you're going to finally say your dad's name and he's like I mean my dad's cool, but like Paul George is nice.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:So he like really does it. And then a couple of days before that, there was this thing where they like showed him a Photo of his dad or or they were together and they asked Kyan to rank his dad's outfit and he was like I mean, I guess I give him a 70 try. And how does this young man 17 turn 17 yesterday? Okay, yeah. So I mean, like you know, that's kind of like the age where you start to create like some sort of I think I don't know, I was, wasn't a son, but I feel like that's the time where you start to create like a little bit of a rivalry with your parents in some ways.
Speaker 2:Well, and when I look at things like that, I also think of that's my dad, right. Yeah everybody else, he's probably super cool yeah, you just like it's my dad who, in turn, is a serial cheater, like you say.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So all that plays a part as well.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, you're right, like it definitely does, like you feel some type of way. I mean, in that same interview he talked about his mom being his best friend, right? So you know, it definitely impacts how you see your parent and yeah, you know, now kids get to be different, right Then, when you were even I was a kid right, kids get to show up much differently.
Speaker 1:Absolutely I mean Lala said it back like oh, kyan's my best friend. My mother would never have said that about me. Absolutely. Yeah, she's not my best friend. Yeah, absolutely not. So you know, just different generations, different strokes. So I don't know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Carmela's like yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, like I said, it's the swag of Carmela. A quick thing you should know. If you haven't already subscribe to the things you should know podcasts. Wherever you get your podcast, I will also say this other person on my. I have one more person on my list list.
Speaker 1:And this person is also completely about the swag, because I don't. I wouldn't say like I am attracted to this person, but I am, like, attracted to this person. It's Sydney Colson. I don't even know who that is. She plays for the Las Vegas aces. She's been like a 10 year vet in the WNBA, okay, but she just started this. I'm going to click on this picture, this internet show called the Cine T P show. Okay, she's hilarious.
Speaker 1:Okay, she just doesn't take herself seriously at all and she like is fine, like she's a pretty girl. She is really pretty, like she's naturally pretty very naturally pretty, like she's just a really beautiful woman, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:She is.
Speaker 1:So, okay, I spend probably every couple of weeks. Every couple of weeks I get into a little social media like deep dive of Sydney Colson.
Speaker 2:So you like literally click on her page and just like go through until I see something that I've already seen before. All right, y'all generation is definitely different with that social media.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like cause. Well, it was like a magazine right Back in Y'all's day Correct yeah.
Speaker 2:And you go to the, but y'all spend hours and hours like the magazines, wasn't that long?
Speaker 1:Yeah, cause we just have unlimited access to content right. Right Like and she and you have folks like Sydney Colson, like Jalen Hurts, really like, who it's also part of, like their job and their persona. They're also getting paid to keep feeding the algorithm content. And God bless America, and so God bless.
Speaker 2:America, you help them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do, I do. These are the, these are the people that I invested.
Speaker 2:So like do you comment on their status? No, I don't comment. I like, I'm not a commenter. Yeah, I'm a lurker.
Speaker 1:I'm a creep, completely, yeah. Yeah, I'm just a lurker. I like some things, you know. Double tap it, but I'm not commenting, cause here's the thing like for me. I think the point of comments is so that the person's going to see it and they're never going to see it.
Speaker 2:They're never going to see it.
Speaker 1:But you'd be surprised, I mean, if I ever had like something really good to say, like maybe, but I'm not about to be the 2,000th person that comments on this and says, oh, you're so fine.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's my husband, I get it. Yeah, I'm not about to do that, that's that feels real lame. It is. That's where I draw the line. Okay, yeah, but yeah, she's. How does she?
Speaker 1:Uh, cindy Coulson is maybe a year older than I am. I think she's 34. So we could really make it happen. She's 34. She's from Houston, texas too. Okay, hmm, national champion, I mean. I mean I can run down the stats Like I'll be going up. So, yeah, have you ever been to one of her games? I have not been to one of her games, but she had a viewing for our screening for her show during all star weekend and I went to that.
Speaker 2:Okay, did you get to meet her?
Speaker 1:Yeah, took a picture with her and everything Okay. Didn't confess my love, didn't compliment her, didn't tell she had a nice mom Fumbled the ball. Fumbled the ball, definitely fumbled the whole thing. Fumbled the whole thing, I mean. But I didn't. I, cindy, I ain't. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I'm not even about to waste your time. I don't know what to do Now. These other, these other niggas. I named.
Speaker 2:I know what to do with them, but, Cindy, I don't know what to do. I'm just talking.
Speaker 1:Okay, don't worry about me.
Speaker 2:Don't worry about me, I'm just here. I'm just here to stare, just looking. I just want to see you Like I'm doing your social media page. I'm just staring, I'm just staring. That's it. I get it. I get it Okay.
Speaker 1:All right, I get it. Yeah, but yeah, those are my little celebrity crushes.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm just going to be on social media for 45 minutes a week.
Speaker 1:I think I might have overshot it. Now, hearing that back that's that's does feel excessive. But yeah, I will say, like you know, you do a little social media deep dives. I'd be like, hmm, I want to look at cause, like I think a lot of people get on social media and they're just looking at what's on social media. This actually might be really weird.
Speaker 1:I get on social media with an intent, like sometimes I'm just scrolling, but like I'll be like, oh, I want to see what's going on in the city this weekend or what's been happening, so I'm scrolling to that. Or I want to see what the what sports content right From one of the many sports teams that I'm putting out. Like I want to see what the WNBA is talking about today or what the women's basketball feed is talking about today, so I'll get on that. And then I'll be like you know what I really want to look at? Something that is visually appealing, okay, and so I'll pick one of these mini Instagram pages to go to. I mean, if that's what you like, things that are visually appealing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we all like to look at visually appealing things, I don't see anything wrong.
Speaker 1:I like that. I think it's something we all can agree on. When things look nice, like people want to look at them and sometimes people look really nice.
Speaker 2:Sometimes people look really nice yeah.
Speaker 1:It may be objectifying them, but like it's fine, it's harmless, I think it's okay, yeah, I mean that's what they're on there for.
Speaker 2:Trust me.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Cause if I had a page I didn't want you to see me, I would never, ever put a picture of it Exactly.
Speaker 1:Right so and that's what you put on social media. You take a picture and you're like, oh she fly, oh she tied. Or you promote your content from your for your podcast, right, Whatever you are putting things you want people to see and that lovely list of individuals is yours, it's your thing, they're what. They're what I want to see.
Speaker 2:Oh, all right.
Speaker 1:I'm here to judge you.
Speaker 2:honey, just remember to tell them that they have a nice smile. If they have, yes.
Speaker 1:That's it. That's what we're going to do. Listen, tell them they have a nice smile. That's going to have to be the title of this episode. Tell them they have a nice smile.
Speaker 2:Watch how their face change. You've got to stare on them when you say it now.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Because sometimes they're going to immediately look away or look down because they're going to be shocked. Like did she just say that to me? Yes, and I'm sorry you've never heard it before. Let me say it again.
Speaker 1:Miss Wendy, you'll be pulling them down. Try my best.
Speaker 2:It's the simple things, right, that's what they like. They like the simple things. Trust me. I'm telling you, man, don't hear it often. We don't really hear it often either yeah. Don't let it be a man who was raised by a single mother. Right Now, you have the single mothers that are overbearing. I think their sons are their men, right, and they will fluff them to death, right? But still, this ain't coming from your mama.
Speaker 1:It feels a lot different. Is this yeah?
Speaker 2:It's coming a little different, because she's been saying this since she was one, when you probably wasn't cute, you probably didn't have a beautiful smile, right. But now, at this big age, baby, you've grown and you have a very nice smile.
Speaker 1:And she probably hasn't told you at your big age?
Speaker 2:She probably hasn't Probably. When you was a kid and she figured well, I told you five times. So you good now. But let me tell you now that you're older, oh, oh, oh, oh. I might have you at the club tonight saying oh, he got a nice smile. But instead of saying it to somebody separate you. You're going to say it to him and he's going to be like look at that goofy Thank you. He ain't going to know what to say. Hurry up with the thank you, Sorry, Hurry it up. Hurry it up now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I'm definitely about. Yeah, I'm trying that. I'll report back. Let me know how it goes. Let me know the little picture.
Speaker 2:Because I also because?
Speaker 1:because the thing is, I already know what's coming, because that's what people say to me, uh-huh, so they're going to be real sure, and does it?
Speaker 2:stun you a little bit? Or did you be like no, because I do, because I'm used to it. Plus, you come from not a single parent household. Yeah, there's a difference, right, and your dad is a good dad, so you know, I'm sure there were plenty of compliments on you guys were coming up, right, because that's what daddies do for their daughters Good daddies anyway, yeah.
Speaker 1:No, I hear it so much like it doesn't what. The other day I went out and a guy told me that I had nice eyes. Now, Miss Wendy, maybe I do have nice eyes, but I have the smallest eyes in the world, and when I smile I don't have any eyes at all, right. And so you're telling me that I have nice eyes, and I know you cannot say and I've also been drinking right now, so that real smile.
Speaker 1:I know you cannot see my eyes, but Because it was something I hadn't heard before, I said oh, thank you, mm-hmm. See how you sat back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I said back.
Speaker 1:But when people tell me I have a nice smile, it literally rolls off my back because I hear it so often, literally from women, from men at the grocery store, all that like I'm constantly. I probably someone tells me I have a nice smile every day.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, that feels good.
Speaker 1:But see to you is normal. Yes to somebody that doesn't hear it. Yeah, I'm gonna be like Thank you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they only know what to say. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Miss Wendy, is anything you want else else you want to talk about? You want the people to know I'm gonna help the people with you. Really, you crushed it. You gave pride the best nugget, we the game.
Speaker 2:Just keep the compliments coming, ladies. Hey, let's keep it fellas to the off fellas, to y'all slip a little bit, y'all sleep a little bit. Don't let your girl go to work tomorrow and somebody else tell them you know you, you sure look nice in that dress. Yeah, I ain't said it since 2023.
Speaker 1:It's 2024.
Speaker 2:We ain't, we're not most of the second quarter. Baby, I better get it together.
Speaker 1:Throw those compliments out, y'all. Thank y'all so much for listening. Thank you, miss Wendy, for coming, and you just you just Just gotta give you a round of applause on the way out. I really appreciate you taking the time and I really appreciate you all for listening. Please remember to like, subscribe and share and I will see you next time. Okay, bye.
Speaker 2:Telling you. Here tellin everybody you got a nice smile. You got a Watch.
Speaker 2:Just watch the reactions from people you just gonna be like now the ones you don't get a reaction with that's because they've been hearing this, but I can guarantee you about 90% men and women right, because some women, like I said, there's a difference. You were born in a two-parent house so you've always had both your parents right and you have good parents, you have great parents. But people who didn't have that it's like the shit, sad, nice smile. I never heard that one before. You're just like the shit is wrong, game on me.
Speaker 1:I did, but you do have a nice smile.
Speaker 2:You know, that's just kind of how that goes, that's how it goes I use to something that's alarming and it's shocking to you know how to take it? Just kind of like oh, oh okay. She said I had a night. I guess I do, you do.