The Gospel According to Jeromy
Welcome to "The Gospel According to Jeromy" podcast, where faith, humor, and heartfelt stories collide in a lively conversation about life, love, and everything in between. Join your host Jeromy Deibler, along with co-hosts Jennifer Deibler and Drew Powell, as they share the Dieblers journey from being the acclaimed Christian band FFH to their current path in spiritual direction.
In this engaging and candid podcast, Jeromy, Jennifer, and Drew offer a unique blend of perspectives on spirituality, mental health, emotional well-being, and personal growth. Drawing from their extensive experiences on the road and life's ups and downs, they explore the joys and challenges of faith, all while sprinkling in some humor along the way.
Get ready for spirited debates, deep dives into controversial thoughts, and heartwarming memories as they invite you into their world of faith, questions, and spiritual exploration. Whether you're a longtime believer, a spiritual seeker, or simply someone looking for meaningful conversations, "The Gospel According to Jeromy" podcast has something for everyone.
Tune in to join the conversation, laugh, learn, and be inspired as Jeromy, Jennifer, and Drew navigate the twists and turns of life's spiritual journey. It's a podcast that's as diverse as their experiences and as authentic as their hearts. Subscribe today and embark on a captivating exploration of faith, laughter, and the adventure of the human spirit.
The Gospel According to Jeromy
Marriage Stuff with Ashlyn and Coby Martin
Join us for a delightful journey as we catch up with the newlyweds, Coby and Ashlyn Martin, just two months into their marriage. We take a lighthearted trip down memory lane, sharing funny stories from their wedding day, including a laughable mix-up with their marriage license. Coby opens up about his transformation from artist to producer, while Ashlyn shares the joys and trials of her nursing career. From their Adventist upbringing to post-wedding adventures at the Joseph Hotel and a dreamy Napa Valley honeymoon, this episode is brimming with humor and heartfelt moments.
Family gatherings and cultural quirks spice up our conversation as we navigate the chaotic yet charming aftermath of a wedding. Who picks up the tab for the honeymoon? We dive into these expectations and more. Plus, we chat about the thrill of touring with Steven Curtis Chapman and the possibility of a musical duo named Martin. Through playful banter, we reflect on wedding stress, the emotional void post-ceremony, and the evolving nature of marriage celebrations. Our discussion is not without its quirky tangents—from the complexities of modern dating to humorous end-of-life planning scenarios.
We also touch on deeper themes like spiritual signs and the emotional challenges faced in healthcare settings, blending personal anecdotes with broader insights. Between negotiating political differences in relationships and sharing laughs over dinner plans, this episode is a tapestry of experiences and emotions. Don't miss the creative projects from Coby James Music and Ashlyn, which we highlight, promising even more laughter and insights in the episodes to come.
Okay, you good. I think we have numbers going Everybody's on.
Speaker 2:Okay, you should keep your headphones on the whole time it's a vibe. Oh no, hey everybody, welcome to the Gospel According to Jeremy. I'm here with Jeremy Deibler, with my wife.
Speaker 1:Jennifer.
Speaker 2:Deibler, and we have some Really fun guests with us Tonight. Oh my gosh. Josh and Mary we haven't seen these guys Since we married them.
Speaker 1:This is Kobe, we didn't marry them, kobe and Ashlyn Martin. I was there.
Speaker 2:These guys are both artists. You have to get up Close to your mic. Ashley Ashlyn's shy Both artists. These guys are both artists. You have to get up close to your mic, Ashley Ashlyn's shy. Both artists met each other at an artist retreat. Kobe James is a producer, artist, songwriter.
Speaker 3:Are you getting more into?
Speaker 1:producing now.
Speaker 3:That's pretty much all I do now.
Speaker 1:That's a shame. It kind of is.
Speaker 3:We were talking about that on the drive. Actually it's a big time.
Speaker 1:Fat shame, because you're amazing.
Speaker 2:Remember me trying to start the show. Oh yeah, Sorry about that, and Ashley's also a singer-songwriter artist, but currently a nurse.
Speaker 4:Yes, almost a nurse In student.
Speaker 2:Yes, Okay, all right, some background. These guys just walked in. We really didn't talk at all. We didn't talk Because the last time we were together was two months ago. Was Didn't talk at all. We didn't talk Because the last time we were together was two months ago, was it that long ago?
Speaker 1:It was their wedding day. Yeah, that was two. You guys have been married for two months. Yeah, isn't that insane.
Speaker 3:Actually speaking of that. Can you sign this just when you get the chance? Is this your marriage license? That's our license. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2:So that thing we did wasn't really that official. It did happen Okay.
Speaker 3:So we'll be married.
Speaker 2:It was in God's eyes.
Speaker 3:It was in God's eyes only September 15th.
Speaker 1:Oh well, we got to backdate it.
Speaker 2:That's the important eyes, he said he can't backdate it, so it won't matter. I'm not going to sign this in Sharpie. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:So what's going to happen? What's your official?
Speaker 3:I mean we're going with the wedding.
Speaker 2:August 4th. Yeah, okay yeah have you guys
Speaker 1:had sex. Yet agreed, we're saving it for, you're saving it for tonight, you gotta save it for your, for your like for the official documentary yeah
Speaker 2:you gotta save it for your first anniversary right, yeah was it everything you hoped it would be oh, my gosh.
Speaker 1:I don't want to talk about that no, we are talking about that. That's not what I expected. Good, I didn't either. I was not thinking you were going to do that.
Speaker 2:When no one really ever gets to talk to newly newlyweds.
Speaker 3:Are we sending?
Speaker 2:this to your parents, ash? No, do they know what a podcast is?
Speaker 1:Yes, of course they know what a podcast is. There's a lot of stuff I want to talk about. Well, of course they know what a podcast is. There's a lot of stuff I want to talk about Well that we don't know.
Speaker 2:I want to talk about kind of our experience.
Speaker 1:We have four children.
Speaker 2:I want to talk about our experience together, kind of doing your premarital stuff.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I want to talk about the wedding day. That was really fun.
Speaker 3:Oh, yeah, yes.
Speaker 2:So fun. Also, not all marriage stuff. I want to talk about the Adventist stuff because you know we, jennifer and I, got an education in Seventh-day Adventist, working with your parents, and I want to talk about some of your health stuff too, because we have people that listen, that are, you know, kind of in that world, some of them.
Speaker 1:That's a lot to cover.
Speaker 2:Well, I know.
Speaker 1:We also got our Adventist info from Gamel Girls.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, that's right, the classic and.
Speaker 3:I feel like that's the best representation.
Speaker 1:I think so too, probably the Kims, Can you?
Speaker 2:hear her. Okay, she needs to come closer. Okay, yeah, just stay on it.
Speaker 4:You too Do you need a massage, do you need?
Speaker 1:You too, kobe.
Speaker 4:No, do not.
Speaker 1:You're like back here, but you're louder.
Speaker 2:I'm here, he is loud. Also, quick hello to the one who got us together, john Mays.
Speaker 1:Yes, he's over here, that one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a poster back here.
Speaker 1:John Mays, he got them together.
Speaker 3:He did Actually that's kind of true, yeah.
Speaker 4:He really did, did he really yeah, have happened that's right.
Speaker 2:The retreat right?
Speaker 3:no, well, we had followed each other for like a year because of centricity because, we had like mutual followers I followed you because you were cute his dad followed me because you were cute because she was cute, and then he kept saying dude, look at this cute girl he wanted you to.
Speaker 1:How about it?
Speaker 3:I also had a girlfriend at the time he was like dude, come on like, did you really?
Speaker 1:say that oh yeah.
Speaker 3:yeah, I was like dad, I'm dating someone.
Speaker 4:He was like yeah, but like you know, Whatever?
Speaker 1:Come on, Lock in dude but did you see? Her. Yeah, I did, did you see?
Speaker 3:this. I didn't think I had a shot, if I'm being so for real.
Speaker 1:I mean I said something like Ashlyn Kobe's a lot and your entire audience was like. Everyone started laughing.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that makes me feel better, because there have been times where I have seen or talked to girls like not for Hutch, but I've been like oh wonder.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then I've said something to hutch like dude, like she's and he's like gross daddy, yeah, no no it's not.
Speaker 1:It's not weird.
Speaker 3:If you're close with your parents, it's not yeah, no, yeah, okay you need to talk to hutch if they know, because they know you guys know your son better than anybody and so, like my dad knew me and he was just like dude, you're, she's like sweet, she like posts with her family all the time. Her Instagram was super modest. It wasn't like she was just like you know, right? So it's hard to find, so I don't know. He has good radar.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and he was right. Look at this.
Speaker 2:He's great too, by the way.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, that's crazy Buck if you're listening.
Speaker 2:That's really fun. And your mom is so sweet that we know each other. Yeah, it's just wild. Yeah, yeah, your mom and I instantly hit it off.
Speaker 1:I mean we knew you would. We knew you would. I mean, it's just like we're like the same yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, in what way?
Speaker 1:She's into the same stuff. I'm into the health stuff. Yeah, we're a lot alike.
Speaker 2:It makes a lot of sense, yeah, but it's just funny, so so these guys got married first week of August in a field in the middle of the afternoon.
Speaker 4:It was hot, it was hot.
Speaker 2:It was brutal, we knew it would be. Oh, it was so hot, but it was beautiful, it didn't rain.
Speaker 4:That was amazing.
Speaker 1:It didn't rain. Yeah, all right Was there anything about that day that you look back and go? I wish I could change this.
Speaker 2:Way to go dark right away.
Speaker 3:You know it way. You know that's a good question. Uh, I don't think so.
Speaker 4:Well, our coordinator yeah, really well she was really, if you're listening, we would have asked you she's definitely not actually.
Speaker 2:That's funny because I had an experience with her that day oh really, it sounds like everyone did, we did, everyone did remember towards the end and I was like well, we'll see yeah, everyone did, apparently everyone did and like everyone did, really Everyone in our wedding parties were like yo wedding was amazing.
Speaker 3:That chick is a lot.
Speaker 4:Really, and our ceremony didn't go how we had expected. She messed it up.
Speaker 3:Oh no, how so? Like well, we had talked about all the guys coming in, which. That must have changed. I don't know but all the guys were supposed to walk in together I actually thought that, yeah, not down the aisle over that, and so they sent them one at a time and then all the girls went.
Speaker 4:So it was, and then the music was so long because of that they had to play the dj.
Speaker 3:God bless his soul. Like was able to like play the song. We didn't die at least at least he did that.
Speaker 1:I mean, he was like having him, he was awesome yeah he was on it ready for it. I actually thought that whenever the guys were coming down, I was like no, we talked about this.
Speaker 2:It was weird. They're supposed to come in with Kobe. Yeah, your aisle was minimum a football field long. Yeah, no, it really was. That's a long walk for you. It was long, oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:I remember seeing the kids.
Speaker 2:It was absolutely 100 yards.
Speaker 3:I was listening to the song play out and I was like this song's about to end. I was like, and the kid was like had just started walking and I was like this is going to take so long yeah.
Speaker 2:So the listeners don't feel like they're nodding on an inside joke. These guys got married in a field in south of Franklin.
Speaker 1:South of. France.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the barn and the kind of dancing area was in these two buildings and then the tree that they got married under was probably 150 yards away. The aisle was just two-lane mowed patch and it was seriously. I mean, you started out, Ashlyn, you were teeny, teeny teeny tiny my bad. And then you just got bigger and bigger and bigger. And what was funny is we had conversations and we had time to have full-on conversations, like we talked about the one dude's hair. Yeah, dude the guy that's super funny, that came down first by himself.
Speaker 3:Ben Becker Long hair.
Speaker 2:Well, was he.
Speaker 3:I can't remember I was like this guy, he's something.
Speaker 2:And you're like, yeah, he really is something. Maybe Tommy it was Tommy. I think it was Tommy. It has to be, Tommy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was so long and we had literally time to comment on every single person that walked down. It was at least what I mean. How long do you think it was?
Speaker 2:It was a long walk down so all the guys came what was funny before the ceremony and Tommy and I had met the night before but I still don't think he understood my sense of humor really and so he was changing and he's kind of he's got the same skin complexion as my kids, just, you know, pale. And he took off his shirt and his back is just like moles and freckles and I walked by him and I was like might want to get that mole looked at he was like oh yeah, I have.
Speaker 3:I was like man, I'm just dude, I used to shave his back hair before day two yeah, that's a good. He'd be like, come on man, you got to help me out. I mean, he would, he needed it, he needed. That's a good friend. He'd be like, come on man you got to help me out.
Speaker 1:I mean, he needed it, he needed the help. That's a good friend. Yeah, we'd get in the tub.
Speaker 3:I'd hose him down afterwards.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, that's hilarious. I was a lot of hair that's kind of freaky, so what did you?
Speaker 2:guys do the day after the wedding.
Speaker 4:You got married, then Joseph Hotel downtown because the family I babysit for their dad he manages it. Oh my god, yeah. So he got us like, yeah, like King Suite or something like that.
Speaker 2:And it was so fun. The next day did you hang out?
Speaker 4:Yeah for like to like midday. Then we actually went back. We got lunch with his family.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:And hung out with them.
Speaker 3:We went back to Pinewood.
Speaker 2:That was a blast, it was super fun. Oh good, it's weird, though. Right, we did that, that was weird, so you come back the next.
Speaker 1:We came back the next day to open like presents.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna make sure yeah going and it's like okay, so we're back and everybody knows what happened last night yeah or didn't happen, yeah night, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Wasn't that weird, Not for us really.
Speaker 4:No, they're so chill.
Speaker 2:We even made a joke about it, I think, and my dad, was like well, I wasn't going to say anything, I could see your parents be super chill yeah, I don't know about John.
Speaker 4:We probably wouldn't have seen them the next day no.
Speaker 3:We didn't it different?
Speaker 1:with the girl's family.
Speaker 3:Yeah, um a hundred percent. Yeah, it wasn't weird, though okay, I have a question.
Speaker 1:I saw this, I don't know if I'm right about this who pays for the honeymoon? Me, we do okay, yeah, because I felt like I read somewhere that your parents paid I would have loved for that, because I was like that is not clay's parents are oh, rock on, yeah, I I was like is that because we didn't have that, that?
Speaker 3:but you didn't either we went to Napa Valley it was so fun it was unbelievable.
Speaker 2:Did you just eat at nice restaurants, nice restaurants?
Speaker 4:wineries did you go to Fresh Laundry?
Speaker 3:wait.
Speaker 4:Fresh.
Speaker 1:Laundry is the crazy expensive one so no, we didn't do that one, but everybody told us to if your parents were paying, we did like the bistro jante and we did like all those like fun little bistros and all there.
Speaker 3:I mean, the food was unbelievable we went to a spa.
Speaker 4:That was fun. We got massages. The spa was great nice, it was great.
Speaker 3:I I've only been there once for like a day because we toured there. Steven curtis always makes sure to tour there.
Speaker 4:He loves it, him and his wife.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Mary Beth comes to that show.
Speaker 4:That is so funny.
Speaker 3:But we were only there for a day, so I really got to see it and it was beautiful, but we didn't get to do anything. So I was like this would be so fun.
Speaker 1:Oh nice, that's, so neat.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we did a couple of things with steven curtis, chapman and uh, and he has good taste. Yes, now, when we were out with him, of course we weren't, it wasn't with him, with him we were sort of playing shows together, but we were. It was a lot of festivals and stuff, and so we were in our bus, which is great, I'm not complaining right but we would leave the show and then we'd get to the next show and Stephen would have the plane.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, he gave up on the roughening thing a long time ago.
Speaker 2:Like he's, just like I'm done.
Speaker 3:I'm just I'm taking it easy. Yeah, he's got it figured out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we shared that summer. Oddly enough, we sort of shared a tour manager, so the tour manager would go with Stephen, obviously, and one night I don't know what happened one night and uh, I was, I guess is that trask. Yeah, it was dave trask and so is he still with him?
Speaker 1:no, no, he works.
Speaker 2:We saw him at a couple shows though okay, yeah um sorry, ashlyn, we've already gotten into music, business stuff but, um one night I I guess I talked longer than I normally do and I called trask and they were on the plane. I guess they were getting ready to take off. Where they landed and trask said steven wants to know if you're going to do another invitation tomorrow. If he should show up a little bit later, I was like no, I love that, love that.
Speaker 3:Tell them no more talking.
Speaker 2:I love that, so you're not doing music stuff anymore. No, which I've heard from several people, including John Mays that you're actually the talent of this duo.
Speaker 1:That's not true the full talent, she writes.
Speaker 3:No she sings, she does it all.
Speaker 4:I honestly love doing it the most with Kobe.
Speaker 1:Like that's like I feel like my I don't know the most fun for me, but you're not doing that. No, well, we're, we're talking about starting a duo.
Speaker 3:You should type, I think you should do that, martin, I love it.
Speaker 1:Please do yeah, martin, just martin. Oh yeah, I love it. That's kind of dumb okay why martin?
Speaker 3:it's our last name.
Speaker 4:You see, you forget because that's right because your name isn't real.
Speaker 1:No one knows that everybody's like.
Speaker 3:Mrs james, I'm like no, my last name's martin.
Speaker 4:I know it's very confusing oh my gosh, I love that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's such a fun deal please do that. Yeah, and we have like some really fun song ideas already, like we've like on our honeymoon actually we like brainstormed a ton oh, that's a bunch of fun ideas and it's, you know, like there's a uniqueness of writing with like somebody that you know like better than anybody else, Like we did when I left Centricity. I ended up just writing with her and we wrote, like I don't know, five songs together.
Speaker 3:It was just like a different thing. Like we, just it would take us two weeks to write a song. We'd like do a verse and then like go get food.
Speaker 4:That's my fault though.
Speaker 3:Yeah, her attention span is like of a toddler, but like we would write like a verse, and then we'd just like take a break for two days and then we'd like be at dinner and we'd be like just singing through it and we'd come up with like parts of the chorus it was just like it's wicked, it was great.
Speaker 1:That would be so good, you guys.
Speaker 2:Yeah, let's do could the ford do it like we could replace little big town? That would be crazy, that won't work that won't work.
Speaker 4:Kidding, they are so good they are.
Speaker 1:They're amazing you have to take a picture like this, where you're, like you're fighting.
Speaker 3:Uh, yeah, can I be jennifer?
Speaker 1:yes, you be jennifer looking away mad do you guys fight?
Speaker 2:have you had a fight since the wedding?
Speaker 3:oh, honestly uh, I don't think so I don't know, I mean like I mean what is fight? Well, you're mad at each other you know, I mean every now and then, we just, you know get annoyed, but that's different.
Speaker 4:Yeah, but nothing like I haven't like have you fought?
Speaker 3:I haven't seen you fight we've had 100 for sure, like cussing oh yeah, what are you gonna act like? You don't now, okay, no, I mean, we've definitely been through hard seasons where we didn't like each other as much, and then I think we get out of that we don't like each other. Yeah, it's like I mean, I remember there is a hard, there's a really hard season where it was like hard to enjoy each other at all and then we got out of that and now we're. I feel like we're a little over some of that hump yeah.
Speaker 4:Well, that's good.
Speaker 3:Anxiety of the wedding also like not worrying about that.
Speaker 4:Summer was rough Summer was rough, we were engaged for like just enough. Too much time, I feel like Summer was a lot. Engagement is hard.
Speaker 2:I remember us talking about this.
Speaker 4:Like stressed out. Yeah, well, my family also went to italy. Like my sisters were gone the whole summer and then my parents were gone for two weeks, I felt like I had to do a lot by myself.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so that was stressful and then I don't really know how to help.
Speaker 4:And then kobe didn't want to have a wedding from the start.
Speaker 3:Well, not that I didn't want to have a wedding. He was like let's take the money and run right, I didn't care about the doing it as big as we did, but honestly, like now after looking back, it was amazing and I was like wow, like that was incredible, so fun, you have it so incredible yeah so like I think you know, I wasn't yeah, I wasn't necessarily like a big help, because I just didn't know what to even help with yeah, but on the wedding day he was very like oh my gosh, like this looks great like
Speaker 1:who picked?
Speaker 2:all this stuff and I was like you've got to be kidding, it was gorgeous it was epic, yeah, yeah, the table, the settings were gorgeous, yeah, everything but they have to be now like everything's compared like yeah, when, when her and I got married um, you know, it doesn't seem like that long ago, but in in marriage years, because weddings have changed so much.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Her mom our whole budget. This included everything Her mom said we can spend nine grand.
Speaker 3:That's insane, right, and we did it the whole.
Speaker 2:I mean we did the whole wedding we had served food, dang, and as we were, getting ready for it. Her mom offered us that, and at the time you could buy a new Ford Explorer.
Speaker 1:You couldn't buy a new one. It would have been a used one. 95.
Speaker 3:Okay, but nine grand was a little bit more than it is now.
Speaker 1:Oh sure.
Speaker 3:In today's cost of what? 20 If I could use my phone I would google it, maybe 20.
Speaker 2:You can do it. No, no, you can't. You, you can do it, maybe you can do it, but I also no, no, you can't.
Speaker 1:No you can't do it for 20.
Speaker 3:It's got to be small. I had a friend do it but it was small like private ceremony.
Speaker 1:I have a friend who's a wedding person and she said I won't do one. That's less than 100. Now A hundred thousand. A hundred thousand. She said I won't. She said I can't get it to look how I want it to look. Wow, if they're spending less than a hundred thousand dollars.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean that's Brian. I mean he told us for.
Speaker 1:Maybe they don't want you to tell them. Well, I mean I kept asking Brian.
Speaker 2:more than that, more than that, he's like dude you don't even know that's fun own stuff. Yeah, and it was very simple. Wow, but it's beautiful, kathy. Uh, my mother-in-law, mimi, she offered us the money to elope. She said you can still have just a small wedding, but I'll give you this money. You have a car or whatever. Yeah, we had the same opportunity, I would have done it, but somebody wanted a wedding, I wanted the dress.
Speaker 3:Yeah, me too look the wedding industry has these women by the balls, they, they do they do?
Speaker 4:If you're on your second marriage, you could do that Right, but your first is like yeah, I mean, now that I've been married this long, I'm like, well, that was stupid.
Speaker 2:Right, but you know when you're young and I don't know. No, you need to do it. I guess I get it.
Speaker 4:I get it. It was. It was unbelievable. Honestly, I would not trade it I wouldn't trade it either.
Speaker 3:That's awesome. It was so fun every it was worth every penny.
Speaker 2:I I don't I really don't feel that old, but I did at your wedding because there's a lot of stuff like at your rehearsal, uh-huh the little the little like devotional time that was crazy is that a thing?
Speaker 4:no, I mean, I don't know. One of my friends did that for her wedding and I like hadn't seen it before. I was like, oh, that's really cool so I didn't know this was normal.
Speaker 3:No, that's not like a thing. I don't know. I really wasn't expecting. I mean doing speeches at your rehearsal. I feel like is kind of a thing yeah, people do like friends that are close that aren't the maid of honor, the whatever, but but ours was definitely like. I didn't expect it to be what it was at all.
Speaker 1:I know you guys were like speeches start at whatever time and I was like what Speeches?
Speaker 3:Speeches.
Speaker 1:I've been to a lot of weddings with speeches for the rehearsal dinner, I mean yeah, but I thought it was like the parents give us, the dad gives a speech.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and then somebody else prays you know for the meal.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay, so you guys go to Honeymoon, come back, move into your place and just start your life? Yeah, is there anything that surprises you now? Like, oh, I didn't like. Okay, so this is what this feels like.
Speaker 4:No. The day after the wedding Really yeah. I like laid staring at the ceiling for like an hour. Really, I was like what do I do now? Were you just exhausted Well, not really tired. I just like so much of my emotional energy had been wrapped up in planning everything. Yeah, that then to just have it be over, just like that. I was like what do I do?
Speaker 1:we also thought we threw who am I like literally a fake wedding like we kept saying like we're not married, like we're not. This didn't work.
Speaker 4:This is yeah, okay, it didn't take like I think I cried three times and I was like is this a prank really?
Speaker 3:seriously look like. When we were actually doing the wedding, I was like this isn't real, like this isn't a real really, that's so interesting like a play wedding yeah, you're looking at, you're seeing if we're running yeah, it was um.
Speaker 1:I remember it was real, except for we haven't signed that yet, but right other than that it was. I remember it was real, except for we haven't signed that yet, but other than that it was real, we didn't have these back in the Bible times, though.
Speaker 3:That's right. No, it was a dowry. Yeah, it's different.
Speaker 2:So I do remember we went to Disney World on our honeymoon.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, we did. I feel like I need to we threw out Disney World.
Speaker 3:That was an option for a minute. We almost did that, Okay listen, let me explain why.
Speaker 1:We went to Disney World At the time it was, father of the Bride was big and Disney World just opened their little wedding chapel and so they were really pushing towards these young couples to come get married there, and so they were really like that was all the marketing. So my sister wanted to go there and I didn't have any clue what I wanted to do and he was like what do you want to do? I'm like I don't know Disney World, because my sister wants to do that.
Speaker 3:I don't know, I bet it was fun, I had never thought about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I hadn't thought about any of it. It wasn't that great. It wasn't great? No, because Jennifer doesn't relax at Disney World.
Speaker 1:She has to conquer, I get one of those people.
Speaker 3:My dad's that way. That's your fault.
Speaker 2:My dad's so locked in Look Buck and her. They've met their match.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because she turns into an. Enneagram 7 hoarder at Disney World Time hoarder we had to get a trinket from every country in epcot to bring home with us. I love it. Yes, I mean we. We were there when the park opened till the park closed my dad's not that way.
Speaker 3:My dad can't do that, really no he's not till it closes. No, oh really yeah he's gotta go back take a little nap but I get that now.
Speaker 1:They they're going to watch this. I wanted to marry her. I get that now.
Speaker 2:I wanted to marry her so bad that I don't think I ever thought one time, until after we were married, how it was going to feel to be married. I just wanted to be married.
Speaker 4:And I remember at Disney World going.
Speaker 2:Oh, I did that.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So okay, here we are yeah not not regret, but more like yeah oh I think for us this is not worth it no, totally worth it.
Speaker 2:I was just like, but now what like? There's such build up.
Speaker 3:That's how I felt we had been looking forward to it for so long, like it had been this thing we've been checking off since we were 18 yeah, it was like we had all these little life milestones to hit and then, like marriage was like the final one.
Speaker 3:We were like we gotta just do this, finish this, then we can get married, like, and so it had been this like big thing that we've been waiting for for so long. And then finally it happened and it was like it kind of felt like freedom, kind of felt like ah yeah it's over we did it, yeah, and now, and now what?
Speaker 1:Well, part of the reason that we wanted to have this podcast is that, ashlyn?
Speaker 2:you got an announcement right, yeah, I'm just kidding. I'm not pregnant we just freaked your parents out.
Speaker 4:No, I was like am I?
Speaker 1:Am I pregnant? What did you tell them? That's hilarious that you started to think, maybe you were.
Speaker 2:No, I'm just kidding. We just wanted to freak Buck out a little bit.
Speaker 3:Although he'd probably be happy, no, he'd be freaked out.
Speaker 2:Would he?
Speaker 3:Yeah, he'd be like oh gosh.
Speaker 1:Too much.
Speaker 3:He? He'd be freaked out, would he? Yeah, he'd be like oh gosh, too much.
Speaker 1:He'd be like well, I guess you're starting.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he would, here we go, they'd be great, but he'd be like, oh gosh. That would be his reaction initially.
Speaker 2:So are your friends like? I'm sure you have friends that were already married. They're like you gotta get married.
Speaker 4:Now there's going to be friends that are like when are you having kids? Yeah, I haven't heard the kids thing yet. Uh, not really my siblings a little bit.
Speaker 2:Oh really funny, but not really it's so annoying too.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, what do you call it?
Speaker 2:same boat syndrome.
Speaker 1:Same boat syndrome, yeah everybody like if they were married. They want you everybody to be married oh, that's so kids are like you need to have kids.
Speaker 3:They want you to be in the same boat. Yep, yeah, I get that, that's so we haven't had too many, because a lot of our friends are either dating or engaged or or not or single. Or single, they're probably just not there yet.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So you're kind of the first. We really are Honestly yeah.
Speaker 3:We had one pair of friends that got married, the good hair people. Good hair people. That guy does have Unbelievable hair.
Speaker 1:Actually, we talked about that when he was coming down the aisle. I don't know which one this is.
Speaker 3:His hair is unreal. I mean she's curly. They're from New York, prince Charming, yeah, they.
Speaker 2:They were real quiet.
Speaker 3:Okay, oh, really, they actually that's shocking.
Speaker 2:They were going to hire me to do their marriage counseling and then fired me before they did.
Speaker 1:That makes sense Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:That tracks. We drove funny story about them. They got married middle of September, end of September, and so we had a flight because Ashlyn was doing her hair and her makeup for the day of the wedding. Oh my gosh my god. So we had a flight, the night before to get in, so we weren't like trying to get their day of or anything like that. Well, our flight gets canceled and it's seven o'clock at night and our flight gets canceled and I'm like well, is there any other flights to like any airport close to?
Speaker 2:albany. Is that where they are?
Speaker 3:no, uh, they're in binghamton which is big hampton yeah middle of. Syracuse, or there's one other one that you could get to, or maybe a third, but anyways no flights. We would be getting in at like three o'clock the wedding's at four. Can't do it you guys, so we get in our car.
Speaker 4:Drove and drove overnight. We just knew it took 15 hours, 15 hours.
Speaker 1:What time did you do that?
Speaker 4:then the next day, oh gosh, I don't know, we were so tired. We got there right in time to start her hair, wow what'd you do? Like I took a shower and then I just did like a half up, half down like fun curl thing.
Speaker 3:She looked beautiful but it was our own form of hell, yeah.
Speaker 4:Especially driving through the night.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no one on the road it starts to look the same, you start feeling like you're in like Stranger Things or something you really do. You can't see anything. There's fog Like it was just terrible.
Speaker 2:That's the worst when you're you know you guys had to do it it but yeah we've had drives before where it's going to be, like here to florida or back. When we were, you know, when I was in pit, we'd be like let's just go, and it would be like 10 o'clock and we're like you know what, let's not leave in the morning, let's just leave now and it seems like such a good idea you know what it kind of does, and then you get an hour in, yeah, at about one, you're like
Speaker 2:oh man, this was stupid.
Speaker 4:No, what's crazy is driving six hours and looking and saying you have seven left. Yes, that's awful, and you can't turn around.
Speaker 3:No, you can't.
Speaker 1:You're just stuck in the middle of nowhere and when you go to the airport and you think, oh, I'm going to fly, yep, you're not hyped up and ready to drive 15 hours.
Speaker 3:That's rough. I've done some terrible stuff like that because of shows but, nothing that far and that bad.
Speaker 2:How did you end up on the road with Stephen Curtis Chapman? You guys had a Stephen Curtis spoof or something didn't you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, me and my buddy did a song. We did a parody song about Stephen Curtis Chapman. It was a punk rock song.
Speaker 2:Wasn't it? Like I hope Stephen Curtis Chapman will sing with me, or something it was, I want to write a banger like Stephen Curtis.
Speaker 1:Chapman oh my gosh, I love it.
Speaker 3:Radio's been better off since 1987 and I want to marry beth to singer all the songs. I write like it was.
Speaker 3:It was really fun and so like we had mullets in the video and it was like this whole thing, like it was really fun and uh k love kind of embraced it and like loved it, and so they brought us on k love to like, just like play some of our like kojo was our thing, our Kojo parody songs, and they surprised us with Steven to come in the studio and then we wrote a song. Oh, I got a little spill. Then we wrote a song at Caleb's studios. They recorded the whole thing and the experience. It was awesome.
Speaker 2:Was it Scott Smith? Yeah, Scott and Kelly.
Speaker 3:And after that there was talks of he needed a band to come out with him, and there was talks about us being involved in that somehow. And then it just kind of happened, he asked us to come out with him. Well he, he also wrote us a response song too. I forgot to tell you that like we wrote a song and he did a video and a response song that, like, went viral on socials.
Speaker 2:Tell people where they can find it, just and it's all there, it's in the archives, um, but it's uh.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so there was this whole saga and then we went on the road with him, open forum and or we did like an intermission kind of thing, yeah, and we were in his band, so I got to like really work on my guitar skills like I've always been a guitar player but like that was definitely like one of the um more hard things I've done as a guitar player was, yeah, his stuff's just not easy.
Speaker 3:You know it was. It was really fun. And he wrote me like he like recorded the whole set and then he also recorded the second guitar parts, like whole part of the set. Yeah, and I like it was unbelievable. He like sent me videos of like how to play it and like it was so sweet, but it was intricate, like it was.
Speaker 2:You have to play it this way so you have like iphone video of Stephen Curtis Chapman.
Speaker 3:He'sman, he's like hey goby, james, this is how you do it. Right here I'm steve and curtis and he would like hit it or whatever and like, but like he would know, I would know. He would know too, like if I didn't hit it right, like I'd miss a part or something, and he would know if it was like a little bit different and he's like hey, so like next time, make sure that that part. I was like dude, this guy is like dialed in.
Speaker 2:It was intense. Did you go out at all with him?
Speaker 4:I didn't go.
Speaker 3:You came to some shows.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I came with his family some.
Speaker 3:So it was fun.
Speaker 4:It was cool, he's so nice.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he is.
Speaker 4:And we saw him in the airport.
Speaker 3:actually, On our way back from our honeymoon.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow we bumped into him, that's so cool.
Speaker 3:We were like well, we we're like oh, we're just in Napa. I was like dude, you inspired me to go to Napa. I was like you're the reason we went to Napa.
Speaker 4:He was like oh was it great. Yeah, he's so nice.
Speaker 3:Kobe James, how the heck are you? That's so funny. It was great, so good so okay.
Speaker 2:So now you're two months in. Now you gotta figure out where you're spending Christmas that's gonna be drama.
Speaker 3:Well, thankfully his brother's getting married in December. Now you got to figure out where you're spending Christmas.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, that's going to be drama. We already got it figured out Well thankfully his brother's getting married in December.
Speaker 3:Oh, right, right, yeah, yeah, and they're taking their honeymoon over Christmas.
Speaker 4:So it kind of like he already ruined Christmas a little bit Right, we didn't have to do it.
Speaker 3:We didn't have to do it. Yeah, it's great right after their wedding, like we're just staying the next day, we're going to just open some presents and hang out and kind of we've done that before like a different day, christmas, and then we'll do Christmas, I guess, with her family just depending on if they're doing something or whatever.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, that was one thing that was apparent at your rehearsal dinner. Is that both of your families? Yeah, and involved. Yeah, it's not like one of you is an only and you're just kind of being absorbed into it. I mean, yeah, and I also learned that the Adventist, adventist, adventist. You could say either Because, you know, I said, as you know, I sat across from your parents, yeah, and your dad kind of gave me Adventist 101.
Speaker 4:Oh.
Speaker 2:And it was like oh really. Well, he talked to me about how important the Sabbath is.
Speaker 4:Did you ask him?
Speaker 1:No no not at all. Well, we were just talking.
Speaker 2:I actually think it was your mom.
Speaker 1:That tracks.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think it was your mom.
Speaker 1:We were just talking and it kind of came up.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It wasn't weird.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's so funny.
Speaker 2:But it's, I mean it is, it's a thing.
Speaker 3:Oh, it's heavy. It's a thing it's very important to them.
Speaker 2:So are you going to church on Saturdays or Sundays now?
Speaker 4:Sundays, we've actually been going to Journey.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, In Brentwood.
Speaker 3:Yeah, oh, really.
Speaker 1:We love it, we really like it?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, Does it.
Speaker 4:Well, my sister, she has a boyfriend now and he is not Adventist, and so that's kind of been a whole thing for them too, like, in a sense, it's kind of re-sparked everything, like I think they saw that I was like a lost cause.
Speaker 3:They gave up on us yeah.
Speaker 4:And so they're kind of like cracking down harder on, like my siblings.
Speaker 2:Oh they are. Yeah, it's not like they're going, it's okay they're going. No, no, no.
Speaker 4:It's like, yeah, it's kind of crazy, oh is it drama.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's definitely re-sparked more of the just like just Adventist conversations, I feel like for a good year or two.
Speaker 4:It's just like overcompensating. We'll go there, they'll play a sermon.
Speaker 3:Oh points, whatever Talking about the law and just like it's just kind of you know it's a whole thing, but we just try to. You know just, we always want to embrace what they believe. We're not going to like infringe on their beliefs when we're with them. You know we're going to, I'm not going to go eat pork in front of them and you know, do the whole. I want to. Just we want. There's people who, you know, think one thing we're not going to go and get spit, you know whatever.
Speaker 1:Why are you laughing?
Speaker 2:Nothing.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:You know what I was thinking.
Speaker 2:When you were talking about food.
Speaker 1:It just made me think the rehearsal dinner food was insane.
Speaker 4:Oh, did you like it? Yeah, it was so good.
Speaker 3:Or bad. Oh my gosh. Oh, I was on cloud nine.
Speaker 1:I don't remember there was some stuff.
Speaker 3:We took some home.
Speaker 1:There was some stuff that was so good. They were going to throw it away. They were.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely no. Your parents were like please take some.
Speaker 3:I asked you, I was like.
Speaker 2:John, are you going to?
Speaker 1:He's like dude, take it what was sick was like my dad said. There was, like, I guess, with an event what that number was. It had to be so freaking expensive. It was a lot, it had to be insane. I kind of know, no, don't say it, don't say it.
Speaker 3:I'm not but I think I kind of know, but it was like a thing where he was paying it no matter what. Oh, okay, and he was worried we weren't going to reach the number.
Speaker 1:So, it wasn't going to be worth the money. You just reached the number. Yeah, it was so good. It was awesome and then the wedding was Tzatziki's, which is my favorite.
Speaker 2:Oh, it's Greek food and snow cones.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that was a play, that was a crazy good call, sorry to go back.
Speaker 1:I feel like we went backwards.
Speaker 2:No, I just feel like all of a sudden he went. If there is a preacher Kobe in there somewhere, he went to it. I'll be honest.
Speaker 3:He stuck with her family, and just the difference in beliefs, like it challenged me in a lot of ways to like look into stuff and figure out what I thought, because you know it was just interesting.
Speaker 2:That is how we met. We met because of hell.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:That's how we met. That's so true. Remember we talked about well, because john told you you need to call jeremy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he was like I don't think he even believes it or what he said something about it. I was like, well, don't out me sorry. Yeah, yeah, john mays. And then I also grant hubbard uh, mentioned you.
Speaker 1:He was like really, so I heard your name. Gosh, I haven't talked to grant, well, I've heard your name multiple times.
Speaker 3:John had mentioned you, granted mentioned you and I was at coffee with grant. You were at the same coffee shop.
Speaker 1:Okay, and.
Speaker 3:Grant goes that's Jeremy. I was like you know what John told me about him and you're telling me about him, and he was like you should go say hi. So then I went and said hi to you.
Speaker 1:And you were like here's my number, and it was after that.
Speaker 2:Oh cool, cool, Best friends ever since man.
Speaker 1:I saw him at Tractor Supply not long ago oh my God, yeah, I think they have chickens too, maybe because we were both buying food. They're great, Grant, he was, and Cammie, we knew Grant before.
Speaker 2:We had a record deal and he was at a record. He was trying to get us signed. He's like yeah, he was great I believe so much in you guys.
Speaker 1:But he did tell us. He said it is Just, don't he goes man, it's so bad. Oh, no way.
Speaker 3:That's crazy.
Speaker 2:I agree.
Speaker 3:That's crazy. I'm going to check in with you.
Speaker 2:That's weird. So I kind of feel like when people talk to me about like they'll say I heard God speak, or whatever, I'm always like what did it sound like?
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because for me it's always stuff like that, Like something will come up and then it'll be like well, have you met, so-and-so. And then another person will be like have you met, so-and-so.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's God to me, man, I got to pay attention to this.
Speaker 3:It's like ser weird thing. There's just always weird stuff. I don't really believe in coincidences, so there's a ton of that stuff that I'm just like oh okay, this is where I'm going.
Speaker 2:Have you heard God's voice?
Speaker 4:I think so have you really. I don't know, I feel like I like I don't know. I've tried to get more specific with, like what I pray for, like not be like super vague.
Speaker 2:Like what do you mean?
Speaker 4:Like with nursing, like I have to pick. We had to interview over the summer like for where we want to work, um, and it's kind of stressful because in school, like they teach us how to be a nurse, ish, like how to pass the NCLEX, and then like they don't, they teach you how to interview but like not really like how the whole process works and like where you're gonna go, whatever. So I wanted to work in the icu and it's pretty competitive, um, and specifically the hospital I wanted to be at and like I don't know, there's just a lot of people interviewing for it and I like had interviewed for like a bunch of positions at the hospital and like got a lot except for that one. So I was like okay, like I'm just, I guess I need to like pursue other options, whatever, um. And then, like literally the day after the wedding, when I was like not knowing what I was supposed to do, I got an email. They're like hey, like we know you just got married, you're busy, but like we got this final offer for you.
Speaker 4:We just want to let you know it was exactly where I like oh, that's where I've been praying to be since I started nursing school and so, like I don't know, I felt like that was an obvious, like sign of like you are meant to be here because I got another job at vanderbilt and stuff. But um, yeah, I don't know, I feel like when I'm more intentional with stuff that I can trust, that like okay, that's maybe where I'm supposed to be when it opens up or doesn't, because I had peace that I wasn't supposed to be there. I was like, okay, I'm not supposed to work here, I guess.
Speaker 1:But what made you want to go into nursing?
Speaker 4:um, I kind of took like a roundabout path, I think like in high school I was like set on music type stuff, um, and then when I started college I was a business major. Uh, because I didn't know what I wanted to do, because my dad's a doctor and like that whole like Adventist world is like doctors and medical really.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like a huge thing.
Speaker 4:I didn't want to do that because I want to do something different. And now here I am. But yeah, I think like my grandpa honestly kind of inspired it because he's like always had like back surgeries and tons of health issues, but like he's been like my best friend, like I danced with him at our wedding and stuff he witnessed to me. Really, I'm sure he did. Yeah, he did.
Speaker 2:So sweet. He talked to me about you and how you're buddies.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:He gave me the entire gospel and plan of salvation.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I wanted to be like Paul.
Speaker 2:Paul, did you hear me? I mean.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty Christian.
Speaker 2:He's like yes, I heard you and you need to get saved. I he's like yes, I heard you and you need to get saved.
Speaker 3:I'm pretty Christian, that's what he does sometimes too. I think he's just making sure, yeah, he's got to double up. Just making sure that's right, yeah.
Speaker 4:It's like his conversation starter? I think I don't know that's so sweet, but he had a lot of issues and I would always go to his house and play nurse play underlying passion?
Speaker 2:I didn't know I had, so so you're, are you in the enneagram for space? Yeah, very so kind of the caring.
Speaker 1:But it's funny that you.
Speaker 4:You wanted to be different, you did, yeah, yeah you know that that squares yeah, I was like no, I'm not doing that, everybody does that right, like there was a natural path for me, but I, I didn't want to. I didn't want to do that. I thought it was boring.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:But yeah.
Speaker 1:So funny, do you?
Speaker 4:like it. I love it.
Speaker 1:Do you really? I really love it. Man, you have to be a special person to love being a nurse. Yeah, because I cannot imagine.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I think it's awesome.
Speaker 2:Not me either. You're like suck it up buttercup, yeah I can't imagine being doing that bagging bodies now, I mean it's crazy dead ones, dead ones, what?
Speaker 4:what are we doing with them? What are you doing? Well, in the icu I'm on a neuro floor right now for, like my preceptorship. It's like in your last semester. It's like a trial run of like how your job might be, um, and so I see you. Obviously everyone's like really sick, but this guy had COVID ended up dying, so his family like came and saw him and like that's like a whole different thing. That I didn't. I mean, I knew that would be sad. I didn't expect it to be as sad as it was Like watching people like talk to their loved ones for the last time, even though they're already gone. But yeah, we had to like take out all of his lines and like everything.
Speaker 1:And so, yeah it was sad what happens then, because when my dad died it was like that he was hooked up to all kinds of stuff yeah and then they're like okay, you guys go out we're gonna take everything off of him and then you can come back and say goodbye yeah, even though he was gone.
Speaker 4:I didn't go back in yeah, I don't think I could. No, I don't, don't I couldn't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm guessing it's different when it's a stranger. Very.
Speaker 1:Well, when it's a yeah, but then what happens? They take all the stuff off. People can come in and talk to them.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And then you literally put them in a bag.
Speaker 4:Mm-hmm. And then they. And you had to do that yeah.
Speaker 2:You and other people.
Speaker 4:Yeah Well, I didn't realize that he had died at first.
Speaker 3:This is kind of funny what she had no idea.
Speaker 4:It's like not funny, but kind of funny, I didn't know. The nurse was like hey, this will be a good experience for you, why don't you come help me? I was like, okay, cool, so we go in the. And so I'm like, hey, buddy, like like patty's, like the nurse gave me a weird look you need a blanket.
Speaker 4:You're kind of cold no, the nurse was like and I was awesome and so I just kept talking to him and like was wiping him down. I was like we're just gonna do this and she was like, yeah, okay, well, when you're done with that, we need to put him in this bag. And and I was like oh my gosh, and immediately like my heart just dropped to my stomach and it kind of freaked me out.
Speaker 2:Well, it's kind of freaked you out that you didn't know.
Speaker 4:Yeah, oh, like worst prank ever, right yeah.
Speaker 2:Meanwhile he's in that hovering space.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he's just hanging over. Oh honey, I'm not there anymore.
Speaker 3:What are we doing? This chick doesn't know. I'm dead, yeah. I'm so gone. So you weren't there when he died.
Speaker 1:So then you put him in a bag, zip him up and you put him on a thing and roll him out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Weird who's down there. Did you put him in the fridge? You did so. You slid him in.
Speaker 4:You have to like, crank them up on a, like a. It's like a pulley type thing. Cause it they're so heavy. And then it just like lowers them into a freezer.
Speaker 1:Wow, so they can get picked up by, like the funeral home, and then the funeral home comes and gets them and does whatever, for some reason you feel like it should be more sacred.
Speaker 3:I don't know why.
Speaker 1:I know, you know it almost feels like. Yeah, when my dad died, it was chaos. I mean it was horrible, but because there was just so much going on and my mom was trying to you know he was it was just awful. But I'm standing over him and I'm looking at my sister and I'm like don't look down.
Speaker 4:Don't look down yeah.
Speaker 1:Because he was bleeding. It was just really bad oh wow, and I was like just don't look down, and I was like just don't look down and I knew he was gone.
Speaker 4:Like.
Speaker 1:I was watching the monitor and I knew and my mom didn't know yet because he was on a ventilator, so it just kept pumping, and so I'm like yeah. That's what's heartbreaking. It was rough and the nurse finally had to tell her he's gone.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it was rough, sorry, I brought it down, didn't I? Sorry.
Speaker 1:No, no, it's no, but it's. I did. I know I didn't tell her. The nurse told her. I told my sister I was like he's gone yeah, we had to call it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we had to, like, check a patient because they were like suspecting him to be brain dead, um, and his wife was there. It's kind of crazy. He had come in because, like he had covet and then he fell so he had a brain bleed and this is the guy that you put in the bag.
Speaker 1:It's a different guy, different guy, but that's what ended up killing him.
Speaker 2:What's going on with COVID?
Speaker 4:I don't know. Is COVID resurging? I guess I think yeah.
Speaker 3:We had it recently.
Speaker 1:Well, I know it's going around, but it's killing people again.
Speaker 3:I don't know. I mean he didn't die from COVID, but the other guy, the guy that you put in the bag. He died from COVID. He also had HIV.
Speaker 2:He was struggling, so you quick got a transfusion. He wasn't looking good, he was struggling.
Speaker 1:He had some comorbidities.
Speaker 2:There's a couple things going on. Listen to me.
Speaker 3:You kind of were a nurse then you know, do I look like a nurse?
Speaker 1:You do, I was able to be in my but my dad also had. He was a mess. He also had like we had to suit up. He had some sort of blood infection from the hospital oh my goodness oh wow, it was rough. Yeah, it was gross. That's horrible. So I was like I could never. Sorry, babe, it's not happening Like she did, drain his lungs and stuff, oh thanks. We're going to have to we're going to need somebody to do that stuff.
Speaker 2:If you need it, I'm over here making a list. You know, this is the thing Me and Ash have decided. You know what this list is? Oh, what we're gonna have to talk about your dad's last day. So what else do we need to do?
Speaker 1:you think we're gonna have to talk about my dad's last day.
Speaker 2:Well, with the way that you just talked about it now. Yeah why?
Speaker 1:what do you mean? Well, because was I very detached, yeah, yeah like and I think, well, I have to be well.
Speaker 2:I think I told you this before the wedding, because the week before the wedding you had typical. You know, always something comes up before the wedding you had trauma. When we met at Barnes Noble and I think I told you compartments are good, you're allowed to put it in there. You just you got to open it up sometime. You just can't leave it in there forever.
Speaker 2:But it can't leave it in there forever. But it's your wedding week. Put it in a but the losing people. I have a friend, um, my friend omar is uh, he's an er doc and we need to have him on. Sometimes we do he, it's, you know. He said it's rare to lose somebody, even in the er. You're not.
Speaker 2:You know it's not happening every day yeah but, um, he said when you know, when it I I've asked him, like tell me what that's like to walk out to a family? And he says of course it's different. There are some people that come in that are destitute. Nobody's there, you know, with them. He said, but when you have to walk out, and it's a surprise, and he said man, you know, I put it in a compartment, but then later he goes. I have have to, I don't get over this stuff yeah, I couldn't I couldn't.
Speaker 2:He said you, and he's an enneagram, four, three, very much a romantic. So he he's like I don't get over this stuff man, it's just not.
Speaker 4:That's the wrong thing to be in, then an er doctor well, she's doing it I feel like it's a perfect balance though, because really you see some doctors who are so like desensitized they're cold and like these are people's real lives, like they're going through that they need to have someone that can be strong for them but also like feel for them.
Speaker 3:I feel like like nurses, joking about stuff you know, after a person's dead. It's like, yeah, she can't kind of, she can't do that. But it's like I guess some different numbers.
Speaker 1:I guess too after you've been in it a long time. Yeah, it's different, there was a guy came in when right after my dad died. I don't think he knew he's talking on the phone. Some nerd, I'm like buddy get out of here, yeah. He's talking really. I'm like okay, know the?
Speaker 4:yeah, he's talking really I'm like, okay, know the room get out. Yeah, like it was just bizarre. Yeah, it's heartbreaking. Yeah, we had a guy who was he. Yeah, he was brain dead. But like we were like we suspected him to be brain dead. But there's like a test you have to do, like you test all the reflexes and stuff, see if there's any brain activity, um, but you'd set a timer for like eight minutes. Uh, the doctor I mean I don't really know all the science behind it, but anyway, we're all like in the room and his wife, like the guy's wife knew that we were like this was like these eight minutes determined if her husband was going to get better or not Wow.
Speaker 4:And so she like walked out to wait and, like we said, it was the longest eight minutes I feel like of my whole life. Like everyone's just watching the monitor for like anything, like any signs of like life or activity and were there no. Like the timer went off and the doctor was like all right, time of death 9, 42 am. Thank you everyone for your help. I have to go talk to his family. And oh how horrible. And she was just like the cutest old woman.
Speaker 4:Yeah, she was like so sweet he was gonna be fine too.
Speaker 3:It was like the fall in the hospital is what he fell in the hospital yeah, he like, he like, was it sometimes with old people? She says like they just, even though nurses tell him like don't get up, like they just want to feel like they have some autonomy a little bit so they'll do it and he just fell, but she just like went in the room and held his hand and like we couldn't.
Speaker 4:We could see through the glass, but we couldn't hear what she was saying and she was just like kissing his hand and talking to him and like there's.
Speaker 1:His sons came in the room too, so like the whole family was in there and they were just like all hugging, like you're not gonna do that I'm not good with this stuff no, no'm just not going to be able to drain your lungs like my mom did and stuff, that's the stuff. I'm not going to be able to do, I think it's a search engine.
Speaker 3:Yeah, just for safety.
Speaker 2:It's the fluids I was getting emotional.
Speaker 1:It's the fluids. I can't do the fluids, but you'll be around, oh yeah. I can't do that I can't. Maybe it's there somewhere.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know, I don't really want you to do the fluids, but I'm not saying I'm hoping we don't have fluids to do. I'm not saying I can do the fluids.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she'll come over and do the fluids.
Speaker 2:I don't want that either. I don't want Ashlyn doing my fluids. Please Listen.
Speaker 3:Ashlyn can do your fluids what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying is we're going to have to have somebody there, like a nurse person, to come in. That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Me and Ashlyn decided we're checking out a life. At the same time, we're just going to call it.
Speaker 2:You're notebooking it, we're notebooking it. We're going to one of those chambers in Sweden and we're just going to call it If you haven't seen the notebook yet. Spoiler they die together. Spoiler they die, they do.
Speaker 1:Do you guys like the notebook?
Speaker 3:I love the notebook.
Speaker 1:I love it, you do, okay, I'm the only one I hate it.
Speaker 2:You're not sentimental, I am sentimental, I'm a two, I love that stuff.
Speaker 1:I hate it. I'm like it's just as gross to me. I'm going why do you want to push every emotional button?
Speaker 3:I'm like, come on, it's perfect, it's ridiculous. Yeah, so what you're gonna need is some of the romeo and juliet berries, in case something happens. We're just gonna go and we're gonna tell our kids hey guys sorry, we're calling it july 5th at. You know, whatever, we're 80, we're 85 it's over.
Speaker 1:You think that, but at 85 you'll be like, um, I have time left. That's true, maybe we will. Yeah, the second one of us is going, though it's over yeah, yeah, yeah, we're gonna call it I see that I do know this if he dies, I am not getting married again oh my gosh, I don't want to talk about this my dad said that because now that's recording, there's no shot.
Speaker 3:He was like I don't want any of that. Oh god, I don't want to deal with that like I'm done. No, thank you, I don't want to try.
Speaker 1:I mean, I don't understand people at my age dating I. I have a friend who's doing it and I just I mean Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 4:Looks exhausting. Golden Bachelorette.
Speaker 3:You'd be a good Golden Bachelorette. You would kill it. People would be lined up around them. Oh, you would murder.
Speaker 2:Actually, you could probably get Bachelor people on to you would be in between.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you would close the age gap.
Speaker 1:You'd be the middle girl well, I am married, so there is that but I, like my friend, is going through a divorce and dating and I'm just like oh, wow, wow it just seems, it seems horrible yeah, half your age plus seven, you'd have 34 year olds on there.
Speaker 2:Okay, isn't that the formula? Who are we? Talking about oh wait, that's after age plus eight. So 35, okay, 35 is good we can still work with that. I can do that I wrote down our enneagram numbers.
Speaker 4:Actually that sounds exhausting I couldn't keep up with a 35 year old no, thank you.
Speaker 1:Let's go to cabo, let's go, it'd be great it's some brad or mark.
Speaker 2:Come on, let's go to cabo.
Speaker 1:Five I need to be in my pjs. What are 35? Justin, it's going to be in my PJs. It's five.
Speaker 2:Come on, let's get a guy though it's five, I need to be in my PJs. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What are 35? Justin, it's going to be some 35-year-old 35?
Speaker 1:Yeah, what's the name of a 35-year-old? Justin? Oh, I saw it.
Speaker 2:My name's Justin, Totally that the glasses.
Speaker 3:That's hilarious.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, yeah no.
Speaker 3:I have a two.
Speaker 2:You're a two, you're a four, three.
Speaker 3:I'm a two, three, technically Okay.
Speaker 4:Interesting Four three.
Speaker 2:This room is all heart actually. Yeah, all heart, except for this, except me.
Speaker 1:I do have a strong five.
Speaker 2:You have a little conspiracy theorist, Dennis. I got a strong five.
Speaker 1:That's cold as ice.
Speaker 2:This is the one that is not draining my I am not.
Speaker 1:My five wing is not draining your fluids, no fluids will be drained.
Speaker 3:Absolutely none. That's so good, thank you.
Speaker 4:Quite frankly, no fluids. Oh my gosh, it's the only thing he's doing lately.
Speaker 3:You're so good at it, I've been hooked on it Trumping it. Yeah, it's the only thing he's doing lately. You're so good at it, I've been hooked on it Trumping it. Yeah, I take it back we have had fights in marriage.
Speaker 4:It's over that voice.
Speaker 1:Really she comes to stop so badly.
Speaker 4:Like it's nonstop, I know.
Speaker 2:But it's good you do need. I don't mean to bring up sex again, but you do need to do that.
Speaker 3:Ew it. I think it's going to fit Kobe.
Speaker 2:Meanwhile she's going, it's definitely not.
Speaker 1:You're fine, it's definitely going to fit. You're totally fine. No worries there Might be too big, okay.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:On our wedding night.
Speaker 1:No, don't do this On our wedding night.
Speaker 2:No, I want to hear, Don't do this. We took a shower on our wedding night and it was the first time that she saw me naked and she looked at me and she just starts belly laughing. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:And I was like what is funny?
Speaker 2:No way. And she's like I've never seen this before. You have an actual belt that's holding your stomach.
Speaker 1:You look like you have a natural belt on, like his body made a belt and his stomach hung over it.
Speaker 4:And it made me laugh so hard, even though he was really really skinny you still had this natural belt.
Speaker 1:Now I have it, but you had this natural belt with this belly sticking out over it.
Speaker 3:And now I have it, and I get it. Look it happens.
Speaker 1:You can look at me and laugh later if you want.
Speaker 2:No, I can't. I walked into the bathroom today and she's in the bathroom. She's like pull the curtain. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I was like pull the curtain why? Why are we talking about this?
Speaker 2:She's like pull the curtain. In the middle of the day.
Speaker 1:I know well, my hip is hurting. I needed to soak in Epsom salt.
Speaker 3:You are old.
Speaker 2:That was maybe the oldest thing I've ever heard you say I'm sorry it was happening I had
Speaker 3:to soak my hip so long Midday I walked like 5 miles today.
Speaker 1:Wow my hips were hurting. I needed a midday soak at 2pm. I got new shoes and my hip's been hurting.
Speaker 2:What'd you get? They're.
Speaker 1:Nikes. But I can tell you it's right here. Oh, 56.
Speaker 2:Yeah we need to shut it down. We're trying to keep them at an hour.
Speaker 1:Oh cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I feel like we didn't cover so many things. We'll have to have them on again.
Speaker 3:Ugh we can do that.
Speaker 2:What else do we? I don't know To speak fluent Japanese. So this is episode 40 of my podcast, which you've not seen. I know you've seen it because you were the one that commented that you like the bony ass room.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh how funny, I forgot about that and you're in the bony ass room. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So you have to tune in because the next. So episode 41 is going to be hosted by Jennifer and episode 42 is going to be hosted by Drew.
Speaker 1:They have to bring because they always oh no, I have to prepare something.
Speaker 2:I try to bring topics, because the origins of this was it was going to be about soul care.
Speaker 1:It was going to be all spiritual. It was going to be, like discovering what God is like. And from episode one you should have never had me on it, correct, he's derailed the whole situation From episode one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Actually we should just call it derailed, because the whole thing, that's a great podcast name Derailed is so good, write that down.
Speaker 4:Derailed.
Speaker 3:Derailed. That's a really good podcast name.
Speaker 1:I need to do my news one though.
Speaker 2:You don't.
Speaker 1:You and I should do it. Oh, my word, you could do your Trump voice the whole time.
Speaker 2:Are you the more left of the two?
Speaker 1:No, I'm just like unproblematic left. What you mean? No, politically, you said.
Speaker 4:You thought oh no, it's just the voice, it's just the oh, you just don't like it could be anybody's voice. No, I just I'll.
Speaker 3:I'll ride a bit until it's in the ground, dead like I, you know. I'll go, you know, as long as it gets a laugh still sometimes that bit only dies, when trump does they can't get me three shots, shots.
Speaker 4:Haven't done it yet.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I dodged two of them. That's what I said. I said, joe, you gotta try harder.
Speaker 2:I don't know how this duo is gonna work, but you can't let him have a microphone that much.
Speaker 4:Oh I know it's every new person we meet, he gets a new chance to try it out. You have the nicest, teeth, oh, my God Aren't they unbelievable.
Speaker 3:I mean, you don't want to smile, you have great teeth too, no yeah you do, I don't.
Speaker 2:I was thinking that earlier in another episode. No, her teeth are wonky, my teeth are jacked up? They're not. Mine are yellow too.
Speaker 1:It has something to do with our moms? No, it has to do with your skin tone. It does not. Yes, it does?
Speaker 3:She got them pearlies. I don't know how she did it, she got the pearlies. Yeah, you have nice teeth Like smile, unbelievable you have a handsome family. You're all good looking, oh thank you, but your teeth are great.
Speaker 1:Thank you your teeth are great.
Speaker 3:John is a handsome guy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he is you too. It's like crazy. There's just something we need to ask you about your mom off the air, but we'll okay. Okay, that's weird. I'm so curious, so weird, so interesting. Okay, I want to know the compartment thing, that you put everything in a compartment, yeah, gov. Have you opened the compartment back up and dealt with anything that you were stressed about?
Speaker 2:not really that's why they called yeah, I don't know how to.
Speaker 4:okay, all right, we'll. All right, we'll talk about that off the air, do?
Speaker 1:you want to air it out right now. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2:Do you do you so, pete? I've clients have contacted me from this podcast. Wow, Do you recommend me?
Speaker 3:Oh gosh yeah.
Speaker 4:Oh one billion thousand percent.
Speaker 1:Oh, a billion thousand. Oh, my gosh. Yes, both of you.
Speaker 3:That's so sweet it was perfect for us because we, like I don't know, we don't open up easily to people and I feel like the way you go about it it's a little more unconventional, which we appreciate, like it's a more conversational, like relationship. It's just different. It's not like you don't feel, like you're just a I don't know a patient, plus he is he's got a bad mouth and he's politically incorrect.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 1:So like bad mouth and he's politically incorrect, right?
Speaker 3:so like we need you guys, which is perfect, correct perfect for jennifer, which I love I'm a little raw, yeah, which is why I don't always connect with like like therapists and stuff like that like it was a little hard for me to like ever like feel like we're doing something.
Speaker 2:I'm like what is this like?
Speaker 3:right, you know like what is this?
Speaker 2:well, and you're kind of like there are people who go to therapy and they kind of they go.
Speaker 1:I know what you're doing here. Like you can't therapy me, so how does?
Speaker 3:that make you feel though I'm like you know how it makes me feel I don't feel great about that. You know what?
Speaker 2:I mean Like bro, what do?
Speaker 3:you want me to say You're not stupid here.
Speaker 2:If I felt great I wouldn't be here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 4:Not good, not good, all right Not good, I got to learn how to do that oh no.
Speaker 3:You just got to cackle like Kamala and then we'll be perfect. Oh man.
Speaker 1:The duo you can do it.
Speaker 2:Cackle like Kamala. That's a t-shirt, yeah.
Speaker 1:Cackling Kamala.
Speaker 3:That's what we okay, remember, we just talked about that divorce thing we talked about.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty good with people who are voting for people I don't agree with. I am too, but not my husband, that's right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I don't know how you do it, no, but I, uh, no, I really are not voting for kamala.
Speaker 1:No, please, please make that I actually kind of believed it.
Speaker 4:I did too. I was like the feminist thing you never know.
Speaker 1:Look it's. You never know. With this one I just wrote a song with a.
Speaker 3:Christian artist about politics and how-.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but it's just about how we should be kind and not worry about, you know like, love our neighbor, even if they're voting for Kamala or voting for Trump, and it's good timed but well timed.
Speaker 2:But I actually I mean, look, I have to realize that I have some strong opinions about things and there are things that I think I'm right about, and I have to realize that person feels the same way.
Speaker 1:Isn't that?
Speaker 2:crazy.
Speaker 4:And so that you're just like okay, I respect that, you have reasons for that I understand.
Speaker 2:You know, that's the thing.
Speaker 3:You're wrong, I don't. Well, I'm that way with religion too, right. There's people who believe so wholeheartedly in one thing and I'm like, I respect that you believe that so wholeheartedly and I'm not going to come at you for that.
Speaker 2:That's where I'm like this is we got to get Okay? So I mean, I've said this on this podcast before, so I think that unborn babies are humans. So I don't want abortion, right, Right, but I understand why somebody would get it.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:I have a teenage daughter and at least I can go. Yeah, I see where you're coming from. I just, until we get there, we're not going to move forward.
Speaker 3:I think that's a really wise way to look at it. Her abby kind of had a stance like that too sometimes yeah it. It also like not not that I'm saying that I agree with this, but it made sense where she was like not that I agree with killing babies, but also, if it's going to happen, no matter what, why not let it be safe? If it's gonna happen, I understand. I was like that's. I mean, I get that point I get that point.
Speaker 1:I'm not like I don't agree. I'm not what I said.
Speaker 3:I don't agree, but I do like understand that I'm not going murder.
Speaker 2:I'm just like, okay, it's somebody who doesn't like guns. I'm like, okay, I understand I I understand if guns are scary. You know what I mean. Like I get it. And until we're able to say I get it, I don't know. You know, talking to your parents about the sabbath, they were passionate about it. Your mom was heartbroken and I was like, well, if this is what you've lived with for your whole, I get it you know that's crazy, that whole conversation happened yeah, it was a whole conversation.
Speaker 1:That's funny. Yeah, that's super interesting. Yeah, we were in our own world well, I think a couple drinks deep I don't good for you in your mom in your, in your parents defense.
Speaker 2:They knew that we probably knew yeah, so it's not like they opened with. Do you believe our kids are you know?
Speaker 1:not observing this happen. Yeah, yeah, right. I mean, they knew that. We knew what was going on with you guys For sure.
Speaker 2:Hey, listen for the Adventist, adventist.
Speaker 4:Say Adventist. I say Adventist.
Speaker 2:We've played Adventist shows. We love them For the Adventist community out there, it's always good. We're still your people. Don't block us. We've been blocked by who we like the food.
Speaker 1:The trans community in Dixon, tennessee, specifically what. I don't remember how that came about.
Speaker 2:Okay, there was a podcast or something where we talked about.
Speaker 3:I could see how you wouldn't have a lot of common ground. We talked about trans issues.
Speaker 2:On the same day we got some hate from Dixon Tennessee.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's what it was. That's what it was Okay. Oh, that's what it was. That's what it was Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, Actually, I think you hated on Dixon Tennessee.
Speaker 1:Did I? Yeah, because I'm dying to go there to that hamburger place.
Speaker 2:Oh, maybe it was Drew.
Speaker 1:Maybe it was Drew, because I talked about how I want to go there and eat at that hamburger place that Scott did on Pilate Eats. Food, but that's the one place on the listens to us the.
Speaker 2:Starbucks and Dixon are you know?
Speaker 1:what well you know? Oh yeah, that's the audience. Okay, we have gone way off listen everybody.
Speaker 2:Here's what we need to do so we need to have a part two of this. Okay, we need to have you back on in like six months.
Speaker 4:I'm 100% down and we can talk about the fights yes, and by that I'm 100% down and we can talk about the fights. Yes, and by that time you guys will have Recorded some music together.
Speaker 1:Yes, right, as MRTN, I am so excited about that. Look, we actually will.
Speaker 2:If you do the MRTN, people are gonna think it's Martian.
Speaker 3:It's definitely like A pretty Like. It's a big trend Right now. Yeah, take letters out, just take letters out.
Speaker 1:Why why? Because it looks cool.
Speaker 3:It does look cool.
Speaker 2:I'm sure, what is it going to be?
Speaker 3:M-R-T-N Just no vowels.
Speaker 1:Just take the vowels out.
Speaker 3:On a banner or on a hat.
Speaker 1:I'm seeing it on a hat.
Speaker 3:M-R-T-N is all the vowels out right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm just saying that's what you're doing.
Speaker 2:I'm seeing it. It's cool. It looks TCH that would be.
Speaker 1:I think he even talked about it. I don't like it. I think Hutch is better.
Speaker 2:Did you guys eat yet? Because, we're going to throw some pizzas in the oven, so you got pizza.
Speaker 4:It's honestly great. Is that right? Yeah, let's do that, because you're ramen people.
Speaker 2:I don't think we have any ramen.
Speaker 1:No, I never have ramen. Well actually we're not like ramen. What do you mean?
Speaker 3:by ramen people. No, you brought ramen here. Last time you came here, you brought ramen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you got it at a ramen place. We're pretty eclectic.
Speaker 2:Bougie.
Speaker 3:Ramen, we do kind of everything.
Speaker 2:That's a good name, Bougie Ramen.
Speaker 3:No, it's actually terrible, but anyway, so let's go eat.
Speaker 2:Thank you everybody for joining us on the Gospel. According to Jeremy, you can find these guys Kobe James Music. Kobe James Music and your.
Speaker 4:Ashlyn Martin.
Speaker 2:Ashlyn.
Speaker 4:Martin, I know I made the switch. It's so cute Look these guys up.
Speaker 2:They're great, and look for the music that is coming. Yes, and you want to sign us off? You usually do.
Speaker 1:Nah, I'm okay, all right, see you everybody.
Speaker 2:Peace, thank you.