Transform Your 2025 with Self-Love and Acceptance

Chapters

• 0:00 Letting Go of Guilt in 2025
• 13:40 Embracing Yourself in 2025

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:29

Hello, beautiful souls, and welcome back to another episode of Unleash your Inner Radiance. I'm Lisa Dorn, your life transformation coach, real estate agent and international author. I am so thrilled that you are here with me today as we dive into the topic that is close to my heart, like most of these episodes are. Let's talk about something we all need to leave behind in 2024. And I hope you left it behind because it is guilt. Let's talk about something we all need to leave behind in 2024. And I hope you left it behind because it is guilt. Today and every day, let's stop feeling guilty for simply being human. It's time to free ourselves from the weight of unrealistic expectations and embrace who we truly are. If you are ready to make 2025 the year of self-acceptance and joy, this episode is for you. Let's get started.

Speaker 1: 1:23

The guilt trap. Let's start by talking about guilt. Guilt, it can be healthy and it can be a healthy emotion when it's about taking responsibility for a genuine mistake. But way too often, guilt becomes like a constant companion that shows up when it's not needing. We don't need it. We don't want it to show up, and you know what it's doing. It's holding us back Because, if you guys are like me, it whispers. You should have done more or you're not enough. Does this sound familiar? You know we live in a world that is constantly telling us to do more, be more and have it all together, but here's the truth. You don't have to carry that burden. Guilt doesn't make you a better person. It doesn't make you a more productive person or a more loving person or a more successful person. In fact, it often does the opposite, because it weighs you down, it drains your energy, and that keeps you from fully enjoying your life. So let's talk about how we're going to stop the feeling of guilt.

Speaker 1: 2:58

I've got 19 things that you need to do to stop feeling guilty and let go of guilt in 2025. Here they are. One having an opinion. It's okay to think for yourself, because your voice does matter. However, you don't have to agree with everyone to be kind or respectful. You don't.

Speaker 1: 3:25

Two is saying no. Saying no is not an act of self-care and it's certainly not selfish. It's about setting boundaries, it's about protecting your time and your energy, and that's your right. Three my favorite taking a nap. Rest is not laziness, but it is essential to your human body. Right. Your body and your mind need downtime to recharge. Number four eating food that you enjoy. You know food is nourishment, but it's also a joy. So let go of the guilt about indulging in your favorite treats now and then. Number five is aging. Now, I know it's hard to look at this way, but aging is a privilege, and every year you're here is a gift. So let's celebrate that journey instead of feeling bad about your wrinkles and your gray hair. Right, we all have gray hair. Color it Skipping a workout. Your worth isn't tied to how many workouts you do, so listen to your body, sometimes rest and maybe meditation or a light yoga is way more important.

Speaker 1: 5:05

Seven making mistakes. You know we all mess up. Clean up your messes, learn from them and move on, because your mistakes do not define you, but how you grow from them does. So how do you grow from your mistakes? Eight watching silly TV. You know joy doesn't have to be productive. If a funny show makes you laugh, enjoy it guilt-free. You don't always have to be busy.

Speaker 1: 5:45

Nine not being able to do it all. You're one person. You are not a superhero None of us are and you don't have to do everything, and that's okay. And that is something that I need to learn for myself, because to me, I just think I have to do everything in order for it to be done right, and I need to get over that. Ten not having it all together all the time. Life is messy. All the time Life is messy, it's okay to drop the ball sometimes, apologize if you need to, but then let it go. We all just need to learn to do life messy, because that is the only way we can get through it.

Speaker 1: 6:38

Eleven I am notorious for this, for getting to text back. Own it if you forget, but don't beat yourself up. People who love you will understand. Do you know how many times I start writing a text and then I must get a phone call, or God only knows what happens. And then I'm wondering why that person didn't text me back? Well, it's because I never sent the text in the first place. I'm wondering why that person didn't text me back? Well, it's because I never sent the text in the first place.

Speaker 1: 7:00

Twelve being blamed for things that aren't your fault. You are not responsible for other people's choices or emotions, so let go of the guilt that doesn't belong to you. You don't need that on your shoulders. Thirteen feeding your family or yourself meals, easy meals like frozen pizza. I used to eat cereal for dinner all the time because I love Cheerios. Who cares? You are doing your best and that is enough.

Speaker 1: 7:40

Fourteen changing pant sizes. Well, bodies change. Pants are just fabric and your worth isn't tied to the number on the tag. However, when you gain weight because of menopause or whatever else is going on with your body because you're just older, going and buying bigger pants is a little detrimental to you. But you know we all have to go through it. Fifteen overdoing it or underdoing it. Some days you give 110%, some days you barely scrape by. Both are a part of being human. Barely scrape by. Both are a part of being human. Sixteen having a failed short chart. Hmm, your value is not tied to how perfectly you run your household. Give yourself grace, just do that, it's okay.

Speaker 1: 8:44

Seventeen having big feelings. You know emotions are normal. Whether you're feeling joy, sadness, anger or fear. It's all a part of the human experience. But if you've got big emotions, you might want to keep a journal so that we can figure out your trigger points. 18, being a work in progress, you know none of us are finished products, and be happy that we're not, because we'd probably be dead, but life is about growth and not perfection, because perfection will hold you back. You don't need to know everything to do something. So keep growing, keep reading, keep listening to podcasts, keep doing things that make your mind grow, things that make your mind grow 19.

Speaker 1: 9:47

Being imperfectly human, let's all embrace our humanness. Is that a word? It's what makes us beautifully unique. How's that for a list? Now we're going to go into something that is really tough to do the power of letting go. When we let go of guilt, we make room for something much more powerful Freedom. Freedom to live authentically. Freedom to pursue our dreams, freedom to enjoy life without constantly second-guessing ourselves. Do you do that? Because I second-guess myself a lot.

Speaker 1: 10:37

So let's talk about a few steps to help you start letting go of guilt. So are you ready for this One? You need to recognize it, notice when you are feeling guilty and ask yourself is this guilt serving me? Two challenge it Is the guilt based on a real mistake or is it coming from unrealistic expectations? If it's the latter, let it go. And trust me, that one is a little bit hard to let go, because a lot of my guilt is based on unrealistic expectations of myself.

Speaker 1: 11:26

Three reframe your thoughts. This is where I said to keep a journal, instead of thinking I should have done more, try. I did the best with what I could with what I had. Four practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you would show a friend and remind yourself that you are human and that you are doing your best. Even if you are not giving 100%, as long as you are moving forward, you're doing your best. And then I want to talk about five, because I want you to set realistic expectations, because perfection isn't a goal. I want you to focus on progress, not perfection. I am more of the perfectionist and that does not serve me at all.

Speaker 1: 12:30

And then six focus on gratitude. Instead of dwelling on what you didn't do, celebrate what you did. I know that's hard, because if you don't feel like doing something and you don't do it, then you're like guilty because you didn't do it. So I'm in this letter writing thing and my goal is to write 10 to 20 to 30 letters a day, and some days I get in the mode where I don't just can't focus right. So therefore I don't write any letters. But if I just would have wrote 10 letters, that would have been something right. So that's why I'm saying you need to focus on the gratitude instead of dwelling on what you didn't do. So I need to focus on the fact that I wrote 10 letters no, I didn't write 20. And no, I didn't write 30. But I need to celebrate the fact that I wrote 10. Because gratitude shifts your mindset from lack to abundance. So that's how I'm working on shifting my mindset, and I think we should work on that together.

Speaker 1: 13:41

So here is my challenge for you I'm giving you permission to be you, and my challenge for you as we step into 2025 is to give yourself permission to be you. Drop the guilt, embrace your imperfections, celebrate your wins, no matter how small, because they are all wins, and remember you don't have to do it all to be worthy, because you already are. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. I want to spread this message of self-love and acceptance to everybody and, if you want more inspiration, connect with me on social media or visit my website at changeyourlifewithlisacom. But until next time, I want you to remember that you are worthy and deserving of everything you want in your life. So keep shining, keep loving yourself and keep being radiantly unapologetically you. This is Lisa, and I will see you on the next episode. Here's to an amazing, guilt-free 2025.