Transform Your Life with Self-Acceptance and Resilience

This episode focuses on redefining love through the powerful lens of self-love. We explore personal stories of struggle, the importance of boundaries, and actionable challenges that encourage listeners to cherish themselves first. 

• Exploring self-love and its importance 
• Personal stories of struggle with self-worth 
• The impact of loving oneself on relationships 
• The Valentine’s Day challenge: write a love letter to yourself 
• Introduction to the Resilient Radiance course 
• Remembering that self-love is not selfish

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:29

The love we deserve. It's Valentine's Day and guess what? This is episode 100. And today is a day that's supposed to be all about love, and yet, for so many of us, it's just another reminder of what we feel is missing in our lives, whether it's the love we never got, the heartbreak we never healed from, or the way we constantly put ourselves last. But today, today is different. Today, we rewrite that story, because love isn't something we wait for, something we earn or something someone else gives us. It's something we become, and it starts with how we love ourselves.

Speaker 1: 1:16

I'm Lisa Dorn, your life and transformation coach, real estate agent in the state of Minnesota and best-selling author. If last week's episode on letting go of guilt, overcoming self-sabotage and building resilience spoke to you, then today's episode is going to take things to an even deeper level. We are talking about self-love true, deep, unwavering self-love, and how we can transform our past into resilience and radiance. Let's talk about the hard truth, about love. Let me ask you something when was the last time you looked at yourself, not just in the mirror, but really, truly looked at yourself, and felt love? Not criticism, not judgment, not I'll love myself when, but actual, unconditional love. If that feels hard. I get it, trust me. I get it Because for so many of us, love wasn't modeled in a healthy way.

Speaker 1: 2:27

Maybe we were told we were too much or not enough. Maybe we gave love to people who couldn't give it back. Maybe we learned to love others at the expense of ourselves. But here's the thing the way we love ourselves sets the standard for every other relationship in our lives, and if we don't believe we are worthy, we will keep settling for less. The moment that changed me. I want to share something really personal with you.

Speaker 1: 3:07

There was a time in my life when I didn't know what self-love even looked like, and you know, sometimes I still struggle with it to this day. But what I did was I poured everything into other people, thinking if I could be just enough for them. Maybe I'd feel enough for myself. I was a people pleaser. I ignored my needs. I stayed in places where I was not valued, in friendships where I was not valued, in a marriage where I was not valued. And when things fell apart, I blamed me. I thought if I had just been better, if I'd just been tried harder, if I'd just been a better wife, if I'd been less of this and more of that. If I'd just been a better mom, maybe they would have stayed, maybe they would have loved me the way I needed. But do you know what I've learned? But do you know what I've learned? The love that's meant for you will never require you to betray yourself to receive it. And the moment I started choosing me, setting boundaries, speaking kindly to myself which I still have problems with to this day because we still get stuck in our old patterns right, but walking away from what drained me changed everything. So if you've been waiting for permission to love yourself without conditions, this is it.

Speaker 1: 4:57

So I have a Valentine's Day challenge for you, because today is the day of love, right? I want you guys to write a love letter to yourself. So, yes, this is Valentine's Day. I don't know what you're doing, but I want you to take some time for you, on this Valentine's Day, to write a love letter to you. Not a gratitude list, not a pep talk, but a real letter, one that speaks to your heart, your resilience, your worth, your worth. I want you to sit down with a pen and pour out love the way you would for someone you cherish, like your mom or your grandmother or your children Write to the version of you that needed to hear it the most. Maybe it's the younger you who never felt good enough. Maybe it's the present you who's struggling. Maybe it's the future you who's learning to trust herself. And when you're done, I want you to read it. I want you to read it out loud to yourself, let the words sink in, let yourself feel it, because the most important love story you will ever have is the one you build with yourself.

Speaker 1: 6:32

So for Love Yourself, february, I have a resilient radiance course. Too many hours because this work is so important. Resilient radiance is still available. For love yourself, february, because I just want this to be. Love yourself, february. I want you to start loving yourself. And this course is for the woman who is done carrying resentment and anger and guilt, who is ready to love herself fully, who is ready to let go of the stories that keep her small and step into the life where she is the main character. If that's you, don't wait. You deserve this. Sign up today and give yourself the love you've always deserved. Well, that is it for this episode, my 100th episode that fell on Valentine's Day. So, radiant souls this Valentine's Day, whether you are spending it with someone or by yourself. Remember you are worthy, already enough and already loved, Not because of what you do, not because of who chooses you, but simply because you are you. So go be unapologetically. You Love yourself hard and, as always, keep unleashing your inner radiance. See you on the next episode.