The Stories We Inherited Aren't Ours to Keep

Everyone carries invisible scripts about who they're supposed to be, what they deserve, and how money works – but few of us stop to question where these beliefs actually came from. As your Catalyst Coach, I'm pulling back the curtain on the patterns we unconsciously inherited as children that continue shaping our adult lives around self-worth, success, and financial abundance.

This episode gets deeply personal as I share how becoming the default "mom" to my younger brothers at age 14 programmed me to believe my value was tied exclusively to what I could do for others. Sound familiar? Whether you were the responsible eldest, the peacemaker, the achiever, or the invisible child, these early roles create templates for how we show up in relationships, careers, and especially in our relationship with money.

The stories we tell ourselves about money – "you have to work hard for every dollar," "we can't afford that," or "people like us don't have money" – aren't random thoughts. They're inherited beliefs passed through generations that silently limit what we allow ourselves to earn, charge, or receive. The breakthrough comes when we recognize these narratives aren't actually ours. Through powerful journaling prompts and the forgiveness work that transformed my own life, I'll guide you toward releasing these old stories and writing new ones aligned with your true worth. Your radiance isn't something you earn through productivity or perfection – it's your birthright waiting to be reclaimed. Join me next week as we continue this healing journey by unlearning hustle culture and finding flow instead.

Before you go, grab your journal and ask yourself:
 ✨ What story did I inherit around money, success, or worth?
 ✨ Where did that story come from?
 ✨ And… what would I write instead, if I believed I was already enough?

Chapters

• 0:57 Welcome to Unleash Your Inner Radiance
• 1:48 My Story as the Oldest Daughter
• 4:03 How Childhood Roles Shape Identity
• 5:33 Forgiveness Journey and Signature Course
• 7:58 Journal Prompts and Next Episode Preview

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:29

Hey, radiant Souls, welcome back to Unleash your Inner Radiance. I'm Lisa, your Catalyst, life, wellness and Transformation Coach, and in this episode we are going to have some fun. Today we're going to dive into a topic that lives underneath so many of our adult struggles with self-worth, self-confidence, money, even our relationships. These are the stories that we inherited. So I'm talking about the patterns we picked up as kids, the roles we stepped into way too early, the unspoken rules, the expectations, the be a good girl, don't be a burden messages and the money beliefs that we passed down from generation to generation to generation before us.

Speaker 1: 1:19

Some of you know this I am the oldest child. I have two, three younger brothers One passed away and as the oldest daughter, I had to step into the role of mother when I was in ninth grade, not because my mom left my dad, but because my mom decided when I was in ninth grade she was going back to school and to work full time. So the mom, who stayed home all these years, just decided I'm going to go do this for myself. Decided I'm going to go do this for myself. So if you are an oldest daughter, too, you probably already know where I'm going to go with this right Because I was the helper, I was the caretaker, I was the overachiever, the one who held it all together because she decided she was going to go do that. I didn't just grow up in that year, I grew up fast because I had to. I had two younger brothers, and that pressure shaped me. But along with that, it also wounded me, and that we're going to talk about in a little bit, and that we're going to talk about in a little bit. It told me that my self-worth was wrapped up in what I could do, give or carry for others. That was what my self-worth was, and let's talk about. When it came to money, oh, I inherited all the things you have to work hard for every dollar. Money doesn't grow on trees. We can't afford that. People like us just don't have money Sound familiar. These beliefs in my life, although silent, invisible, were very powerful, and until I stopped and asked whose story is this, and is it even mine to carry anymore? But here's what I want you to know. So much of the self-doubt, the burnout, the fear of charging what you're worth or even letting yourself desire more, isn't because you're broken. It's because you're still operating from those old programs that were never truly yours to begin with. So in this episode, we're going to talk about how childhood roles and family dynamics shape your identity. Kind of like mine, when my mom just up and decides I'm going to go back to work and I'm going to go back to school. Okay, who's going to be the mom? Oh, wait me, because I'm the oldest and I'm the girl. Right, that's how that works. How about we talk about the specific wounds, your worth wounds that many of us carry into adulthood, the lack of self-worth that we carry, and how about common money narratives that we inherit and how we spot them? Because you have to stop and look and go. This has to end. Or, I'm also going to give you simple journaling prompts to begin releasing the old stories and rewriting the new ones, and I want to talk about why it's not selfish to heal. It's actually how we set future generations free.

Speaker 1: 4:55

I also want to share a piece of my own chapter from Unstoppable 4, the powerhouse edition, which I am so blessed to have been a part of. I got to write a chapter in an international book, um, top selling in the United States. It truly was a powerhouse, and I got to write it with 25 other women. So when I was writing, that is about the moment that I realized I had been living out someone else's definition of enough, and I want to talk to you about how I began the sacred work of rewriting that narrative. So I put myself through a huge forgiveness journey Forgiving myself, forgiving others who had done wrong to me, forgiving past, like my childhood, and just all the years up to now where I'm 58. And I took all that I had done and I put it into my signature course. So my signature course is really powerful and if you have anyone, including yourself, who you need to forgive, trust me, this course is a life changer and it will give you what you need to question everything and find who you are. So I have it on discount right now because I'm relaunching it and I'm super excited about it, so you can click down in the show notes and find out about it.

Speaker 1: 6:56

But here's the truth you get to choose your story now. You get to rewrite your script. You get to decide what success looks like, what money means to you and what you're worthy of. To decide that and Radiant One you are so worth so much more than what you've been led to believe. So here. I'm going to give you a little call to action. Before we go, I want you to grab your journal and ask yourself these three questions One, what story did I inherit around money, success and self-worth? Two, where did that story come from? And three, what would I write instead if I believed I was already enough? What would you write I'd love to hear? And then I want you to get ready for next week's episode.

Speaker 1: 8:14

We are going to unlearn the hustle. We are going to redefine success and finding flow Got to get into that flow right. So, if you've ever tied your value to how much you do, how productive you are or how perfectly you perform, this one's for you, because we just need to do things messy. That is the best way to do it right. We are just going to do it messy. That is the best way to do it right. We are just going to do it messy. We're not going to be perfectionist, because perfectionism is not what we need to do.

Speaker 1: 8:49

And we will talk about breaking the addiction to hustle culture, because a lot of us get in that hustle culture, especially new moms. Right, you got to have a job. You got to have kids. You got to have kids. They got to go to daycare, they got to be in sports. It's hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle, and I want you to learn how to lead with intention, alignment and flow. So don't miss it. Until then, I want you to keep shining, keep healing and remember your radiance isn't something you earn, it is something you reclaim. See you next week.