Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula

From Fear of Death to Funeral Design: Ruby Cohen Love & Cafe Mortel

Traci Arieli

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli speaks with Ruby Cohen Love, founder of Cafe Mortel, about reimagining what a funeral can be. Ruby shares her journey from struggling with fear of death and bipolar disorder to creating deeply personal and artistic memorials that reflect the true essence of a life. 

Together, they explore how funerals and memorials can move beyond tradition, why planning ahead is a gift to loved ones, and how art, food, music, and personal storytelling transform grief into legacy. Ruby also opens up about envisioning her own funeral as a fashion exhibition, hosting “funeral rehearsals,” and her mission to design ceremonies that are authentic, beautiful, and sustainable. 

Key takeaways: 

  • How fear of death can evolve into creative meaning-making 
  • The role of art, design, and ritual in end-of-life planning 
  • What it means to create a funeral that truly reflects a person’s life 
  • Why pre-planning is an act of love and service to family 
  • How Cafe Mortel helps people design unforgettable memorials 

This episode will inspire you to think differently about funerals, death, and the legacies we leave behind. 

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