Episode 75: 10x Jump - Hiring WHOs

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Welcome to CEO Meets Homeschool. My name is Tamiya Parker and I am both a CEO and homeschool mom to my four boys. Welcome to episode 75. This episode, I am going to try to take courage and share more of a type of story that I tend not to share. So my struggle really is, I am such an introvert that I have a hard time sharing stories that could involve other people. Just because I think everybody feels the same way I do and doesn't like their story shared. But on the flip side, isn't life just a series of stories? So I'm going to try it. And if you want to send me feedback, I'd love to hear it. If these are the types of podcasts that you appreciate, or if it didn't really make a difference. So, but, and. I just kind of remind on the Myers Briggs, I'm a INFJ and I always appreciate it when I heard some of the breakdown of those that are INFJ personalities. And we are not small talk people, like I appreciate meaningful conversations. I'm really not. Great at small talk. And so this, the story I'm going to share is just kind of meaningful to me. So I'm going to give a bit of a backstory. In 2023, I had conversations with entrepreneurs, business owners, several of which were in their mid fifties, highly successful that I was hoping to learn from. And several of them shared some mass regrets that they had. And so I was. Sort of surprised and disappointed one particular conversation. I was actually in Chamonix, France. We were skiing with the kiddos. And I, this was actually the only work call I took in three weeks. That was not just tied to my staff and I let them know, like I was in France, but it was no big deal. And I was like, trust me, I'm not my team. They're. Taking care of things, it's, you're not interrupting. And he goes, I'll never forget it, he goes, I'm doing something wrong, if you're in Chamonix, and I'm here doing 12 hour workdays, micromanaging, and um, it was such a profound moment to me, because at first I was like, what's going on? Why is he saying this? And it was just learning to be able to step away and be with your family and create boundaries. And so this has opened a whole new world of like paying attention to how in the world of workaholics, it's really hard to stop, to keep working all the time. You may not even enjoy it, but it's just this habit. And so I've paid a lot more attention to that. And some of the folks coming in my circle. So. Recently, let me get to my story. Now. I was at an event where there's about 300, either business owners or future business owners. It was really neat environment. And I had a chance to meet a pretty young person. They were someone in their mid 20s who and so the details aren't clear. relevant because I'm pretty sure I don't have them correct, but let me just give an example of what they roughly could. Say someone bought a company for 200, 000, maybe two million, and then they sold it for a hundred million. So it's like a phenomenal experience this young person had. And they were probably set to go do really awesome stuff. So I, I heard a little bit about the story, but during one of the networking type things, I was introduced to him and we had a few moments to chat and he had asked, it was kind of fun talking to him cause he was so young and my oldest kiddo is 17 years old. And so this person who just, Made a really great business sale. It was closer to my son's age and Teenagers are tough and they don't always listen to their parents and they don't think their parents are very smart. So to have this Young adult turned to me and say, what would you tell yourself if you were 20 years younger? I was like, this is super fun. So the point I want to emphasize is in 2023, I had all these conversations with businessmen in their mid fifties, roughly, With this mass amount of regret. And then all of a sudden I'm talking to a young, in their twenties business entrepreneur person. And I was like, Oh, this just like kind of boggles my mind. It's this 30 year difference, you know, what info? And he was asking really deep. Like awesome questions and I loved it and it was really fun and I just shared my thoughts whether it was helpful or not. It did my heart good and I think probably one of the biggest things is if I switch to talk about personal development. If you can take care of yourself, we're all complicated, messed up. We all have like crazy stuff that we've been through, but if you can learn to take care of yourself, and then you're put in a place of leadership and you can care for the people that are in your circle, it just flows through, like, say, if it's a company, It flows from the top all the way down, and it can have such a profound effect on other people. Say you're leading your staff, and then your staff take that and apply it. And they're feeding into their families. Like, I just, I think it's such a beautiful dynamic, and not done often enough. I'm not big on saying our, the people we work with, it's our family. I actually think the opposite. I think, you know, no, these are not our family. You know, separate. Work and your personal life, but if you can make sure that you honor, like that, we know that your family should always come first. That's where I think the emphasis needs to be. So anyway, I shared a little bit with this young entrepreneur, my thoughts of what I would give myself if I was 20 years younger, and. I think it goes, it sort of goes down this path about what Dan Sullivan in Strategic Coach teaches about your unique ability. If you can like hone in on what your unique ability is, what's your God given gift and just focus on that. To me, you've lived a life worth living. And I shared with him, I said, you know, From what it sounds like, he's had a huge amount of success in a short period of time, and there's going to be a lot of people approaching you, telling you what you should do. And I just mentioned, I said, you're going to come to a point where you're going to, your gut's going to say, this is why I was placed on earth. This is something I should pursue. And no one's going to understand it. And I was like, I think you should still go for it. Like, you're going to know. And no one else has the same unique ability that you would have. And so I shared a little bit about that and it was a really fun conversation. And it was awesome to see up and coming entrepreneurs that are caring and really want to hopefully make an impact on our earth. So that was the story I wanted to share today. And Oh, I guess I should do the next 10 X jump. I kind of got sidetracked. So the 10 X jump for this podcast is the title I'm going to put is hiring who's Kind of the who not how and this actually should have been the first 10x jump that I started this series with and it really was I Hired some help with child care one to two times a week and It was a disaster My kids had full access to me all the time. So what probably should have taken me two hours normally took me two hours 8 hours, 10 hours, but I, so my kids could kind of come wander in the office, even when I had child care. I remember it was like barely worth it, but I did get help. And, but it was never that my kids were so separated that they couldn't kind of be near me and, In hindsight, I'm so grateful that I always kept this open door where I was always still the mom. I wasn't separated from them and this is again, not judging for those that have to go down this path, but this was just my. Unique schedule that I wanted to do. I had to do some meetings and they may have been choppy. They may have had interruptions and it was just the path that I chose to walk down. And yes, I grew my company super slow because I couldn't do a whole lot. And I had very limited help. I look back at that and I feel like my goal was to first be a mom and then the business was second. And I feel like that was where my priority what priorities were. And I, I followed through on that. So, but it was still a 10 X jump where you have a problem that you need to solve. And in my case. I just needed a little buffer room, a little bit of space to be able to make some, to schedule some meetings and actually take the call without kiddos interrupting. So I did it. I didn't do this great. I eventually switched to where I would tell every new potential client. I also homeschool my kids. My kids are young and you may hear them crying in the background. And that gave me the allowance to not try to pretend. That I didn't homeschool because I think sometimes we don't want to hear the kids or we want to present something that's not the reality of what our lives look like. So I realized by just sort of switching how I presented it, it helped me not be so stressed out. So, but. That was the journey of where I started hiring folks to help me. And so I think I had somebody come between two to four hours and they did that twice a week. And it was, it was helpful, but it was like a baby step into kind of the future of where I was heading. So I wanted to share that today. Have a great day, everyone.