The Hero's Journey of Trauma

In this episode, I am going to share with you all what the Hero's Journey of Trauma is.  How some people know that they have it, and when you understand it,  it can change your life.  You are not alone, I am here to help you understand.

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Transcript

 Today I wanna talk about trauma, little T, trauma, big T trauma. If you have had trauma, I'm talking to you today and I want you to hear and listen to what I say and what resonates with you and gives you the truth tingle in your body. Pay attention to that. That is resonance, saying that this is true.

If that happens for you, as I'm talking, listen to it, make a note of it, and pay attention to what I just said. All right. Trauma is terrible. I can't stand it. I can't stand. I couldn't stand my own and mine wasn't as bad as other people's. And knowing that made me just not be able to stand everyone else's either.

Trauma is terrible, but there's something there that I have found is possible. If you have it, that makes it worth it. Oh my God. Did she say that? Yes. I said it. It could be worth it. That's what I wanna talk to you about, because if you've had trauma and it's still affecting you, then you can feel like, well, great, because other people hurt me, I have to be affected for my whole life.

And then guess what? Oh, I have to be the one to solve it too. Great. Thank you. The people who hurt me don't get to heal me. I have to do it myself. Wow. Thanks a lot. God. I know all of those feelings. It feels so unfair that it makes you wonder, is something wrong with me? Why do I deserve this crap? Why do I keep getting it?

All of those feelings are natural and normal. If you have had trauma, I'm gonna put another spin on this, which I know is true because I've seen it happen in my office and I've done it myself. And the gift of trauma should you choose to accept it. Is that if you go on a journey with it and you go into it and get some good, good therapy for it, if you use it to guide you toward the questions, it makes you ask and you seek answers to those.

It has the potential to take you on a hero's journey and a hero's journey. Should you choose to accept it, I promise you can take you to a place that is so amazing that you may not reach it till you're in your fifties or even your sixties. Some may be in their thirties and forties. Whenever you reach it, it does.

It won't matter how old you are when you reach it, it will be so wonderful that you could reach a point where you will say to yourself, oh my God. That's the best thing that ever happened to me. Now, disclaimer, I do not condone or accept abuse in any stretch form of the imagination. It's wrong, it's not okay.

I do not condone it. I condemn it. However, if it has already happened to you, then what I want you to do is make the best possible outcome. Happen as a result of it. I want you to alchemize that wrong evil into something so beautiful that you could overcome it, transcend it, transmute it, and stand in awe of yourself who took something so wrong and made something beautiful out of it.

So I believe that trauma, if it's already happened. There's nothing we can do about it. That fact that it happened, it happened. If you are sitting in a place where you are aware this happened to you and nothing's going to change that fact, then you are left with what do you do with it? There's something in you that knows it is so incredibly wrong that you.

Hate it. You hate what happened to you and you should because it's not right in any way, shape, or form. However, it is allowed. Wait a minute, it's allowed, it can happen somehow in the universe. It was allowed. Now that is a mind bender. Not only was it allowed, it was allowed to happen to you. What the actual f These questions that it makes you ask yourself if you follow them to their answers will take you somewhere profound.

Because first you must hate what that hate was. It's a natural response to hate it. Yes. I give you that. Hate it for as long as you need to hate it. That's righteous. It's righteous hate and it's righteous anger. But then when you're done with that, you realize that hate is what happened to you. Hate is what happened to me.

So do I wanna be what happened to me? Hell no. I don't wanna be hate, hates what happened to me. Damn. What do I do now? How do I not be? What happened to me first thing? Some damn good therapy. 'cause when you are young. You are abused. Your young self had no choice but to conclude something's wrong with you and you don't deserve love.

You had no choice. Everyone who has trauma feels believes inside of their subconscious. I am not worthy of love. That fear of that being true lives in you, and I know it does. Here's what I want you to know. That is only a belief you were forced to believe by hate, by hurt, by unhealed wounds that turned into evil, but that is not the most powerful force in the universe.

The belief that you were forced to believe by evil is not the most powerful force in the universe. You know what is truth? Truth is more powerful than that. Now this belief is really powerful in you. It in your subconscious controls 95% of your behavior. So you walk around believing, I don't deserve love, love doesn't come to me.

And you have to believe it because you're too scared to believe otherwise 'cause you'll get hurt again. I know. So you're, you're wandering around in the world with that belief, which is attracting people who cannot love you. And so then you get hurt again. That's an incredibly powerful force. No question about it.

It's the force of trauma and what it did to your subconscious, what it, how it made you protect yourself, and how you are not okay to let that guard down. It's just not the most powerful force in the universe. Truth is, and the truth is that the person or people or circumstances that hurt you, forced you to believe it.

Out of their own unhealed hurts. Absolute unhealed traumas themselves. So what, what didn't they do? They didn't heal it. They didn't look at themselves and go, I have a problem. I've gotta do something about this. And that's how it got down to you. So if you don't heal it, you're just the same as them.

Perpetuating the pain, perpetuating the trauma, perpetuating the belief that you are not worthy of love. And then because that hurts so bad, you end up hurting other people in, in some ways, and for sure yourself. So the first thing is really good therapy. Now, I would recommend hypnotherapy. Because it gets to the subconscious level directly and faster.

I'd also recommend that you do it with me because I can't stand how you feel, and I will go after it and heal it as fast as I can possibly heal it. But good therapy reveals the truth and the truth is you always were lovable. You were born. Beautiful. You were born like a perfect innocent baby. Look at an innocent baby.

That's what you were, you were perfect. All you needed was being held, loved, nurtured, encouraged, cared for. All you needed was consistent valuing, and you just didn't get it, but you always did deserve it, and that is the truth. Good therapy will align you back up with that truth, and you will be the first one who begins to heal it.

You'll be the first one who doesn't pass it down. You'll be a hero because you'll grow yourself into something that nobody taught you that is beautiful, that is good, that believes that love is possible and real and kindness matters. You will not perpetuate. When that happens, you'll fall in love with yourself because it's undeniable to you that nobody taught you that and that you did it, and that it took a great deal of courage, a great deal of strength, a great deal of determination, and it will change you from the inside and you will know.

Tangibly, like I know I'm sitting in this chair and can feel it, that you are something worth loving.

That is a hero's journey. You cannot do it alone.

You need support to face. The fear that we are not lovable at our core is the scariest thing we can possibly face. If you face it, you'll find out it's not true. If you go through that with a good therapist and hopefully hypnotherapy, to really get to where that belief lives and heal it in your subconscious, you will know unequivocally that that was never true and that will change the way you feel inside.

That has the power to do incredible things. Once you have gone through the vulnerability tunnels, it took to face that incredible fear that somebody else put there,

the reward is massive. You become a vessel of love. You become an alchemist. You're an alchemist. You took some dark kernel of evil. Instead of becoming that kernel of evil as a result of it, you alchemized it into something gorgeous, something miraculous because no one taught you to do it, but you did it.

You transmuted it. You decided that love is what you are for. The reason you hate what happened to you is because it was absent of love, it was anti love, and you felt that nobody ever anywhere could love you properly, and in that horrible. Reality. You decided to be it yourself. If nobody or nothing will love me, well then I will start.

Damnit, I will start. I will accept everything inside of me in rebellion against those that said, I'm not okay. I will accept everything that comes out. I will go to a therapist. I will, I will put it out on the table. I will bring it to the light of day. I will admit it. I will look at it. I will examine it.

We will find out if it's true and you will find out it's not true. You'll find out that you are love and you have the power to change this world If you are that entity,

trauma sucks.

But it exists. And as I have had to seek the answers to why, how does anyone, why does anyone have to suffer that crap? I can't stand that. Anyone anywhere has to. So I had to find out how could it be that that's allowed? It is allowed. It is allowed. How? Why? How could this. My particular trauma was not near the horrific things that some people have experienced, and yet it was enough to make me want to alchemize it.

I have zero blame. I have complete understanding as to how it happened. It was nobody's fault. It was pain passed down and it wasn't even the worst. Kind of trauma. There was something about me that was so sensitive that it just, I couldn't stand it. Simply. What it was for me was I was innocently begging out of desperation for this pain to stop, and I was three and it just didn't stop that moment that I know I was love.

I was pure innocent love and hate one. Hate won the moment. Hate won the day. That created a kernel in me that could not stand a world built on that, and that I, for some reason, somehow my whole life became about finding out, finding out how to create a world made of love, where love actually wins. Where love is enough.

It's a life mission that gave me the ache. That gave me this longing that I have to find out these answers even where everywhere I go, no one else is talking about it. And I have to be this weirdo. I can't, I can't stop. And it's the best thing that ever happened to me because vulnerability after tunnel, after vulnerability tunnel brought me to everything I've ever wanted.

And it's continuing not everything I ever wanted yet. 'cause the world is not there yet. But you know what I mean? Showing me that I am on the path that will take us there. So if you have trauma, everything you feel about it is right, it makes sense, but it is an opportunity for you to be opposite of what happened to you.

And you can't do it alone. But if you choose that journey, I promise you it is possible for your life to get so good. So incredibly beautiful that you just may say something about it was worth it. Imagine a life that good. I mean, really, I know how bad it was. I'm not discounting that at all. It was horrific.

It was wrong. It was evil. It was terrible. It was nothing good about it. I condemn it. Wholeheartedly whole solely. But imagine how good it would have to become for you to one day say, oh my God. Something about that made me, helped make me this. And I'm grateful. Life would have to be so beautiful for that to ever be true, and I'm telling you that I believe that is absolutely possible.

It's an inner journey, and if you choose it, you are a hero to yourself, to your children if you have them, to everything you do, everything you touch, everyone you see everything you do, and you will feel it reflected back to you in so much beauty. Find a good therapist to help you do that because without it.

It will perpetuate. That's how it happened to you. They didn't do the work. That's how it happened to you. Trauma can be a hero's journey. If you choose to accept it, seek the help to go through it, and you'll be your own hero and this world's hero. Thanks.