Long Awaited USA Visit, Dating in Berlin vs America, and Club Experiences w/ Justin Small | Ep 77

Today I sit with Justin Small. We talk about his visit back to the USA after being away for a year. Also we share our observations on dating in Berlin vs NYC. He shares some of club experiences in Berlin and advice.

Timestamps
(2:27) Berlin Nightlife Lifestyle
(6:27) First Time Doing Comedy in NYC
(15:22) Visiting USA First Time In A Year
(37:14) Dating In Berlin
(55:27) Kitkat and Berlin Clubs
(1:16:37) Advice For Living In Berlin

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00;00;00;00 - 00;00;14;19
Unknown
Everybody's kind of polite and everybody's kind of cool. But when you go to certain places, you just know you walk into a building. Somebody here probably has a gun. It's just not even a thought you really have outside the US. And when you're in the US, you're like a fish in water because like when you're there, you don't even think about that.

00;00;14;19 - 00;00;41;28
Unknown
Although it's true, until you leave and you come back, you're like, oh, right. You could die at any time over here, you know? Or there's just crazy people everywhere, you know. Welcome to the Third Culture Talk podcast. I'm your host Nya Yeanafehn. Anything this podcast, we talk with people that are raised in a culture different than their parents, home culture or way of life or nationality, and now they're living in today's culture, which is vastly different than it is of our parents or even back in the day.

00;00;42;00 - 00;01;04;24
Unknown
So let's begin today's episode. You're a plant city. Yeah. So, like, I'm watering your plants. Oh. Pushes away. Yeah. And then Sandy, you know, Sandy Jones, him and his wife Saskia are out of town for the holidays, so I'm also cat sitting for them, but they're at the other end of the city. Then my sleep schedule is so fucked up since I came back from the US.

00;01;04;24 - 00;01;21;22
Unknown
And now I'm bartending, right? So, I just be like. Like I'd be out late, you know, especially if I'm bartending. I might be out to, like, like, get home at five in the morning or something. Sleep in just like six. You know, sleep it. Maybe seven or something. Six hours of sleep, seven hours of sleep.

00;01;21;22 - 00;01;39;08
Unknown
That's like 2 p.m.. And that's when the sun is about to go and I'm about to go down after that, sun is already starting to go down. And then just so then you just got to start your day. So I'm not even I'm so waking up at like two. That means I gotta like I'm eating something by three and getting dressed by like 330.

00;01;39;15 - 00;01;54;10
Unknown
And then I'm like out the crib by like four. And then I really only have four hours before comedy shit starts, you know? So bro. And it's, you really got to start thinking about comedy shit like an hour before, like, okay, I'm not seeing him on my set list, okay? I got to start, right? Getting ready to commit to where I got to go.

00;01;54;12 - 00;02;10;12
Unknown
So I really only have, like, three hours to like to myself to, like, do some shit, you know? And then that often means, like, I don't have time to run all the way down to the end of one line water. These plants get all the way up to the other one, feed these cats, then do my spot, then just go home.

00;02;10;12 - 00;02;26;15
Unknown
And yeah, so I like end up doing the spot. Then I gotta go all the way over here, do this. Then I got I'll get home at like 2 a.m. and I'm like, what am I doing, bro? And also because I woke up at like 2 p.m., I'm just at the crib awake. Oh bro. So you day. Yeah.

00;02;26;15 - 00;02;45;21
Unknown
You live in some real Berlin. I feel like that's like a night life style, like, you know, but the bartending just anchors you to the night. Yeah, in the daytime you just like a like a zombie dude. Like. Yeah, bro, on the weekends. Because. Because if I'm working, it's on the weekends, and then I'm trying to get my sleep schedule back together throughout the week.

00;02;45;26 - 00;03;01;26
Unknown
By the time the next weekend comes like, bam, I'm back at work again and stand up at night, too. Sometimes, you know you close or you go on later. You don't get home, right? So maybe like midnight or something. And bro, yes, it's I'm actually struggling a little bit with my sleep schedule I would imagine, because like, yeah, I used to work in the tech world.

00;03;01;26 - 00;03;21;01
Unknown
I mean, you know, before doing all this. So like tech world starts early. For the most part. So and because of that you're used to being productive and getting shit done and then having time to kind of decompress. Yeah I wake up and I feel like every day is just on the go and I don't get as much done as I would like.

00;03;21;01 - 00;03;36;02
Unknown
And I'm not in tech. So like when you don't do something, it works like I'll, I'll figure that tomorrow, you know, I'll, I'll do it tomorrow. Like when it's when you are your work. It takes a bigger toll. Like I didn't do what I should have done today. Yeah, I pushed it back another day. I'm not hustling like I should be.

00;03;36;03 - 00;03;51;01
Unknown
Yeah. You know, it takes more of a toll on you. Kind of. Right. So it's like you just know for the last three days, like I have Saturn in return. What I needed to do. Right? Or punch this up or uploaded this. You just keep pushing it back and it feels like it's a greater toll on you than if it was just work.

00;03;51;06 - 00;04;09;17
Unknown
Yeah. And you just, like, trying to scramble, you know, and like, there's no KPIs, you know, is that KPIs to hit you just like, Yeah. Don't even touch my pen in a notebook in a minute. I don't know what's happening. Yeah. Hey, I only like downer all day. Oh, tell me about it, then. The diet is fucked up because you'll eat at home and then I'm out.

00;04;09;17 - 00;04;28;00
Unknown
And then if I. If unless I have food already cooked at the crib, then that's like perfect scenario. Otherwise you're eating dinner late, right? Late night dinner, even if you're eating at home, is still late, but at least you ate your own food. You know, it's like home cooked. But yeah, bro, I'm. That means I'd be missing the gym.

00;04;28;00 - 00;04;54;13
Unknown
I'd be ab, you know, because everything just gets pushed back. Wow. Yeah. I mean, I'm saying this all this out loud. I'm like, man, I got to get this shit in control. Hahaha. Yeah. It's like, interesting start to because, I mean, that is something, you know, when you live in Berlin, you got unconditional jobs, not bartend is not unconditional, but living in the city you have bartending that kind of just shift your whole circadian rhythm facts to a whole different side.

00;04;54;13 - 00;05;19;19
Unknown
Yeah. And then trying to be a regular person when you probably for a decent part of your. Yeah, dogshit or when you out here in Europe is working in corporate environments where as I kind of structured morning. Yup yup yup. And that helps with the ADHD too. It's so much easier to like to stay on focus when you've got structure and like a place you got to be and time schedule and like, you know, like KPIs and to do lists and shit, right?

00;05;19;19 - 00;05;36;18
Unknown
And yeah, I mean, so I've been doing this kind of like, yeah, I've lived a bit of a freelance life too. And then I'm also doing this comedy thing. So it's interesting how much I'm learning about my been learning about myself and now, you know, this whole bartender thing. So this is actually my first time working in service.

00;05;36;20 - 00;05;54;07
Unknown
So I'm learning a ton about myself in this way too. Yeah. So the service thing, the fact that it's all another late night gig, the fact that it's. Yes. Like, yeah, totally different drinks, all that stuff. Yeah. That shit is cool too. Yeah, yeah. But before we get into that though, let me give you a proper introduction.

00;05;54;07 - 00;06;11;29
Unknown
Yeah. So the person I'm talking to is Justin Small. He is a standup comedian. He's a bartender. He's an entrepreneur. He's a dope black dude here in Berlin. So there are black people here in Berlin. Not just me, him. And unlike, like, five others. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you could call it a tribe if you want.

00;06;12;02 - 00;06;32;01
Unknown
Yeah. The lost tribe of Africa out here. Germany? No. Hell, yeah. But, Yeah. Oh, go to justice for all. And, you know, thank you very much for coming on again. Thanks for having me. You's on earlier. And then, you know, you back now, and, recently you went to America for the first time in, like, a couple years, right?

00;06;32;04 - 00;06;51;11
Unknown
Yeah. And about a year and a half man. And it was lovely experience to experience. Yeah. Your boys will be boys from the Midwest, you know Ohio in this bitch Cleveland shout out. There you go. You deal with we don't make it out often. So you got to do it when you can. You know. But yeah, it was it was a, it was, it was a lovely time.

00;06;51;11 - 00;07;11;01
Unknown
I got to do some comedy, visit some family in Cleveland. Chicago. Got to do my first open mic spot in New York. Oh. How was that? It was good. It was good. I paid six bucks. That's the price. Yeah, yeah, I was trying to explain to somebody what it's like to pay six bucks to get on stage and you have to pay six bucks to entertain people.

00;07;11;01 - 00;07;27;24
Unknown
I was like, I'm sorry. I tell people to people. I was like, yo, it's like you paying six bucks to suck this guy's dick. Nick, why? Wait, wait, you know, you are paying to entertain other people. You know what I mean, though? Well, that too. Sorry. I kind of jumped off the. Jumped out the window with that one.

00;07;27;24 - 00;07;32;25
Unknown
Maybe, but with.

00;07;32;27 - 00;07;49;08
Unknown
I don't think that's the same. It's definitely not the same. That's an extreme turn up version. But, you know, but I mean, yeah, I meant to be shocking. Kind of on purpose, you know what it is. But I. But where are you coming from? Yeah, right. No pun intended. No.

00;07;49;11 - 00;08;16;29
Unknown
Nice, nice, nice. Is it? Yeah, yeah. Comedy in New York City. Denver, yo, is different, man. Yeah, yeah is different. It's a different beast, bro. I think the most fruitful experience I had comedy wise visiting the States, this time around, because I don't visit often. And these days, as I'm progressing, you know, I'm starting to really take it more seriously when I go make sure I get spots whatever city I'm in.

00;08;17;01 - 00;08;37;26
Unknown
And, you know, mix, mingle, meet other comedians, parlay more opportunities hopefully. So yeah, the most fruitful experience I had was watching was watching standup professional standup. Okay. I went to this place called The Sesh. I don't know if you. Oh, yes. Yes, ran by, Jamie Wolf and, and, Zach's, guy's last name, but.

00;08;37;26 - 00;09;00;16
Unknown
Yeah. So. Okay. Yeah. These names do sound familiar. It's, it's it was cool because it was some very DIY comedy. It wasn't in a comedy clubs, like a pop up location. This sounds familiar. Yeah, yeah, yeah, they got, like, two locations and shit. Like. Yeah. So in it felt very Berlin to me, you know, because it was just an underground, you know, just a dude at the door.

00;09;00;16 - 00;09;17;07
Unknown
You walk up. Oh, is this the spot? Eventbrite. Boop. You come in, you go down, you go through small labyrinth, you open the open the door. It's like, you know, 150 seats in here. And just a stage and just you could see they could just set it up just for a show. And I'm like, oh, this is organic and cool as fuck, right?

00;09;17;07 - 00;09;31;23
Unknown
Everybody who found this location, who signed up and paid a ticket for this is here for it, and they're excited and they're ready to fucking go. Yeah, it's a dope show. And then I'm seeing comics that I've seen on YouTube, like everybody says, like, oh yeah, you go to New York and you see people you don't know who's going to show up.

00;09;31;23 - 00;09;50;13
Unknown
Like there's this guy, what's his name? Usama. Osama Siddiq, dude. Yeah. Funny, dude. Yeah, I like this guy a lot, man. And I've seen him over the years on YouTube, and I'm just. I'm like, I'm not thinking about who could show up and just ready for the show. And he opens. I'm like, what? I'll take a picture because I'm like, what?

00;09;50;15 - 00;10;08;26
Unknown
And then, the few people I didn't recognize and then also this guy in finance, you know. Yeah, in finance roles with some of these, you know, the, what you might call it's like the Sam Merrill's in the in the, kill Tony's of the world or whatever. Yeah. You know, my man on Mark, Norman and Sam Maryland said shit, but.

00;10;08;26 - 00;10;26;18
Unknown
Yeah. So, it was nice to just have that New York little, like, sprinkle of, like. Oh, shit. This is really is watching people on some really high level comedy, you know, do their thing. They're not at the cream of the crop yet, but you can see yours. You can start to see yourself there. It's clearly above you.

00;10;26;19 - 00;10;42;23
Unknown
Not not you, but clearly above where I'm at right now. But, Yeah, nice to see that, because you don't really have much of that in Berlin. Yeah. I mean, Berlin is such a new scene, you know, in, in New York City, you see that all the time. You know, like Osama, like, you know, we used to do mice and stuff like that, you know what I'm saying?

00;10;42;23 - 00;11;07;15
Unknown
And I then, you know, I love it. I mean, he always been funny. So like, then you see the elevations be happening, but I, you still in the same mix. There's almost kind of like you it kind of elevate you in a bit because, you have people that you're side by side with and then you see them on like then on TV or something that you see them on, like on Netflix, you might get them bro, I was just getting pizza, would you like a week ago and then and I don't even know, you had this Netflix joint and then boom, I see you now.

00;11;07;15 - 00;11;22;17
Unknown
I see you the next day. You're like, all right then. So you know, hey what's up man? There. So what, you like I saw you on TV like, wow. Yeah. Awesome bro. And that's crazy because that's what happens when you live in a country with industry behind it, right? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's going to happen here in Berlin.

00;11;22;17 - 00;11;47;28
Unknown
You just I mean for sure it's a, it's a, it's a slow roll. I mean, I, you know, what's interesting when you say that is it's kind of starting to happen on a very light basis. I think for some Berlin comics putting themselves out there. I think we've talked about this a little bit before, but you start to see people kind of gravitating to something, you know, kind of hitching their stand up to like another wagon and starting to take off.

00;11;47;28 - 00;12;05;11
Unknown
Like, let's say you with your podcast, your weather thing, you're oh, thank, you know, I think you got for give me a run. There's a few things I think you got pop in the weather thing is. Yeah, the weather thing. I was kind of weird that happened because, it came. I don't even know why I even I just decided, like, I'm just talking about the weather in Germany.

00;12;05;11 - 00;12;21;03
Unknown
I love that it did it. And and. Yeah. Sorry. You know, and if you so actually asking like, hey, so you didn't talk about the weather or like hey or sorry, send me your reports. Now there's some girl she was like, oh yeah. You didn't hear about the tornado that was going to be happening. You you probably talk about this like like on the field reports.

00;12;21;03 - 00;12;36;24
Unknown
Now I got a actually this is my messaged me like, hey, you need to pick it up with some of your German words. I'm here to say he'd be more specific. I'm like, yo, this is a real job. Where this? Yeah, yeah, for sure bro. People are like, you got responsibilities, bro. So I talked about the temperature, the time now, like the actual, like humidity.

00;12;36;24 - 00;12;53;05
Unknown
And you forgot about the barometric pressure. It's not like, you know what I mean? That's that's that is Whoa. Talk about that for a second, man. Like, okay, so you so you it's kind of like a snowball effect. You would say you were. It was just a funky, funky thing. I'm gonna just talk about the weather in German now.

00;12;53;06 - 00;13;13;13
Unknown
People are supporting you. Yeah. Now, like I think is because. Are these fans, would you say these started as, like, fans, or is it like, I see this guy hustling and I want to I want to help him. I think weather I think fans, I think they just saw something that they maybe haven't seen. And then, what happened was that new people that will follow me, they'll see it and then immediately like, oh, this is yeah.

00;13;13;20 - 00;13;28;10
Unknown
So it was like that thing that caught on. And I think maybe also me speaking German too, like in the way I'm doing it. So the kind of like, whoa, where are you come from? Like what is, you know, because again, I'm not speaking it like very like it's kind of like a hello or something, like I'm adding my personality.

00;13;28;14 - 00;13;45;05
Unknown
So it's even more like whoa, what's. Oh. So you know, I'm a, I'm a black dude. Just saying like hey you know Wiggins there here is the in. If it's yellow Berlin if that's amended I. Whoa. What. Yeah totally. So what do you what what's happening. It's going to be it's going to pique their interest. Like what the fuck is this.

00;13;45;05 - 00;14;03;05
Unknown
I need to see what's up with that. Right? I mean, I'm doing every day. Thank you. Bring some. Of course bro. Thank you. Dope, man. Yo. Okay, so, Interesting, man. Interesting. I feel like I might start interviewing you real quick. I mean, you, I mean, I think I think this what happened last time we did the podcast, which is cool.

00;14;03;05 - 00;14;18;20
Unknown
I mean, which is cool. Yeah. We're good to go back and forth game together. You know, also getting to know your hustle, man. We do a lot of this stuff in a silo right. Like every everybody kind of does their own thing right in their room in their almost most intimate setting. Right. Yeah. Because we were talking about you got your thing.

00;14;18;21 - 00;14;36;27
Unknown
You know, this girl glory is like, blowing up on, like, TikTok and Instagram. Draco. Which, of course, like Victor Petrescu and Shadowhawk. Yeah. I know if you ever really met She-Hulk. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. You know, and then people who are trying to do their thing, you know, at the Luis and the Bruno's with their podcast, you know what I mean?

00;14;36;29 - 00;14;52;16
Unknown
Maya's doing her cartooning and, and in comics and stuff. Doing. You write? Yeah, I'm doing my writing. I'm doing my cartooning and shit, like sketch writing and stuff. So it's just so, as you're saying, like, oh, yeah, you know, in the US, this comic, we used to get pizza, get a bottle, blah. And next thing you see, I'm here, here.

00;14;52;22 - 00;15;06;11
Unknown
It's kind of starting to happen, bro. Yeah. In this but in a digital way and on like I would say like a lighter scale like you, you know, we're talking talk and talking and you open up your Instagram and next thing you know, one of our homies is like opening up for somebody like, oh, shit, in a random country.

00;15;06;12 - 00;15;24;00
Unknown
Yeah. Or they're on a big stage in a theater. We're like, oh shit, you're right. Hey, they just posted something like, oh shit, they got 16 cities. They're about to do what the fuck? Yeah, but when they come from, Yeah. It's slowly. Yeah, right. We're surprising each other, Opportunities. That does. Yeah. You write about that, but I want to go back to.

00;15;24;00 - 00;15;43;18
Unknown
Because I feel like when you go away from America, right? For a long time and you go back to some things that, like you, you forget that you, you forget that was like part of America. Like you body feels out of tune and you got to give retune or something. What was the first thing you came across when you came back to America after being away for so long that you were like, oh, okay, this I forgot, this is here.

00;15;43;21 - 00;16;04;10
Unknown
Damn, that's a good question. The got getting, retuned. Oh, well, one thing is like, you know, Americans just be funny as shit and, like, people are just on it, you know, sometimes, you know, like, you'll just meet people who are just fucking funny or just, like, super easy to talk to. You just find yourself in conversation.

00;16;04;10 - 00;16;19;04
Unknown
And I'd be forgetting that here. Like it'll catch me off guard. I go back home, you know, like you're standing in line somewhere and, you know, something weird happens. You meet eyes with a stranger and you guys just start talking about it. Oh shit. Did you see that. You're like, wow, these motherfuckers talking to me, you know, about.

00;16;19;11 - 00;16;36;22
Unknown
Yeah. So. Oh, shit. And then next thing you know, you just click start, laugh. And I'm like, all right, I forgot. We just be talking because if you don't know Germans, it's it's not, it's not the same, you know, I mean it's not the same. They don't just be small talk isn't really as much a thing. Yeah. They might give a smile on the head and you know.

00;16;36;24 - 00;16;50;18
Unknown
Or sometimes, I ain't gonna lie, you know I came across situation where do have small talk but I don't know any German. So it would be like I feel like inside German, you know like kind of like, all right. We talking about some, you know, I'm throwing some slang in there to be like, yeah, yeah.

00;16;50;26 - 00;17;12;18
Unknown
You know, I mean, yeah, you're definitely right. Of course, it's not that there are Germans that do do small talk, but now we gotta find a way to small talk if we have this language barrier now too, right. Yeah. You know, but yeah. Shit. So definitely Americans, we'd be rapping, we'd be funny. Definitely the presence of danger, the imminent presence of danger.

00;17;12;18 - 00;17;33;13
Unknown
You know what I mean? Like, dude, I mean, I remember, like, so, you know, from Cleveland Post 911 also having, like, lived in Atlanta, you know what I mean? There's just a thing like, there's just more focus around that, you know, you don't want to just kind of stay in your lane or fuck with people too much, you know what I mean?

00;17;33;14 - 00;17;51;02
Unknown
You just you just don't know. People just have that. Oh, no, it's just the US, man. You just don't fuck with people, right? Everybody's kind of polite and everybody's kind of cool. But when you go to certain places, you just know you walk into a building. Someone in here probably has a gun. It's just not even a thought you really have outside the US.

00;17;51;05 - 00;18;10;01
Unknown
And when you're in the US, you're like a fish in water because like when you're there, you don't even think about that. Although it's true, until you leave and you come back, you're like, oh, right, you could die at any time over here, you know? Or there's just crazy people everywhere, you know? Right? Yeah. So that was something you have to remember, like, oh, shit.

00;18;10;01 - 00;18;33;08
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. That I, that that, aura, that aura. But that fabric of danger. And that's in America, especially when it comes like, I mean, because Midwest has guns, you know, and even going back to the Lantern one, like, my mom lives in a in that area, right. And going back after a while, like being here in Berlin and then traveling back and just knowing people around has guns.

00;18;33;10 - 00;18;51;29
Unknown
I'm like, I don't think I can really. You know what I mean? Because, like, for one, you, I talked about this in another podcast, but, like, I don't have one, so like, already, just like I'm naked out here. Kind of. Right? Yeah. And on top of it, like, you know, you can go in any place and then they can just be like singled out.

00;18;52;01 - 00;19;10;11
Unknown
Or like, you know, everyone around you has some more of them. That's the thing you just know and you're like oh my God you know. Yeah. Unnerving. It's it's a weird reality man. You get back to the US and there's just a presence of shit can go down. It's you don't have that feeling in a most European place.

00;19;10;12 - 00;19;33;20
Unknown
You just it just doesn't exist there, you know? Yeah. Amen. I'm not sure if I'm going to keep this in the podcast or nothing about, but I'll tell you the story, okay? I, so. Oh, okay. In the U.S of fucked around a lot, you know, and gotten in trouble and shit, right? I've never been arrested or never been booked, don't have a record, but I have been in handcuffs like 2 or 3 times.

00;19;33;23 - 00;19;57;05
Unknown
Down. In in Germany, I've gotten in trouble. I don't have a record. I have been arrested twice, but I've never been in handcuffs. Yeah. And I'm like, it's interesting, right? I'm like, how does that how does this work? Okay, I got I got stopped by undercover cops once. Right? Right. And, when these dudes found something on me, they were like, okay, we had to go to the station.

00;19;57;08 - 00;20;15;14
Unknown
And so we. I was looking around for the police car, and they brought me to actually, like, it was like this, two door superfly Mercedes. I was like, what is this is, like, about to shoot a music video? You know, like, what is this? They're like, oh, get in. So they, like, have to open the door. They flip the seat down, they sit in the back, and there's no there's no guard.

00;20;15;18 - 00;20;36;14
Unknown
It's just a super fly sports car. And I'm just sitting there in the back. There's no divider there. So I'm like, I can have a what you don't. They don't even search me for real. They didn't search. You know I'm not. They just search my pockets. Okay. You got some money. Okay. Come with us. You know, and I'm sitting here, I'm like, what do you mean you're not going to restrain me?

00;20;36;14 - 00;20;50;13
Unknown
Or, like. I mean, I'm not a threat to you, right? No, but I'm just like. It's a different country, bro. They don't. They're not even worried about. That's why, you know, in the U.S, messing with a pencil in their pocket. I'm about to stab both of you and get it. Yeah. Roll out the car. And even when you buy get you a registration.

00;20;50;13 - 00;21;08;10
Unknown
So you go in a glove department. We got the hand on a on a gun. Yeah. Yeah dude. Immediately they are they're looking at you kind of like yeah I like, you know, my hand that like totally like, you know. And they were super chill. So I'm like this was an interesting experience, bro. Wow. So yeah, I was just strolling to the.

00;21;08;11 - 00;21;23;00
Unknown
Yeah. Weird station. Yeah, man. I was like, can we stop over here? Can I get some food? Yo, yo, y'all did a little long walk through the park. Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly. Yeah, we got a little spot. Spot? See a guy, we had a little walk, you know, we we went on a hike. You know, hike. We had lunch.

00;21;23;01 - 00;21;36;12
Unknown
There you go. Guys. Been doing there. Came back and sent me some waffles. Walked it off. Got some coffee. Exactly, bro. I was like, oh, yeah. You know, it's getting kind of late. We should go. We should, we should, we should go to the station. But yeah. You're going. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Yeah exactly bro. It was, it was like charming.

00;21;36;15 - 00;21;55;13
Unknown
It was. It was a charm. Park rest. Yeah. It was, it wasn't a nice car. It was whimsical and charming. It had the windows down. The air was touching my face, the breeze of, a person I was thinking about. Like I was motivated, bro. I've never been a car. This fly, I was, you know, me. I was like, bro, the sky's the limit.

00;21;55;14 - 00;22;10;02
Unknown
Oh, that's like that's how this tribute is like, oh, I'm going to use this for motivation, you know what I mean? We're not here to surprise you and bring you down. We heard him. Only we're to uplift you. You're on your way to the station. Yo. You could. This could be you. This is. This could be you. Just turn it around.

00;22;10;05 - 00;22;30;07
Unknown
Yeah. Crazy shit. Rose. Super fly Mercedes. I'm not a car guy, but I wish I knew. I will tell you. Damn, bro. Yeah, no. That's why. Oh, yeah. No regard for what? You know, son, about that social contract that's out here. That's different. Like it just. It just is, dammit. The longer you stay here, the stronger you. Just now I want say, where are you?

00;22;30;07 - 00;22;47;04
Unknown
But the more you kind of enveloped in that, blanket. That's that, that societal blanket of this is how we do things and like, you know. All right. Yeah. All this food, the bills come in cash only. Yeah. You gotta ask them down the street. What do you mean? I mean, like, run away. But I go down the street and keep on going.

00;22;47;09 - 00;23;04;05
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. I never turn around. Yeah. You know, the. No just was right there. If you go down three blocks and then, you know, you see the ATM like three blocks, that's enough time and space for me to never come back. Yeah, right. It's a head start, I calculated. Yeah, I know what, three blocks. You ain't never catch my ass.

00;23;04;05 - 00;23;20;19
Unknown
Yeah, you taught me three blocks. You never told me. You should have never even told me. I was thinking about paying. Now I'm never not paying, but. Amen. No, I mean, here, you know, they'll serve you, and then you pay. You know, you come to the register to pay after. I just pay upfront because I'd be forgetting to pay sometimes.

00;23;20;19 - 00;23;34;27
Unknown
Right? I sat down, I ate my food. I'll just walk out. I've. I've walked out before though, like, hey, I'm like, oh, shit, oh, shit. My bad I yeah, sorry you betrayed your trust. You know, it gave me something to do. Provided by. Hey, you did you know that like. No. Like. Hey, hey, are you trying to take the money?

00;23;34;27 - 00;23;52;07
Unknown
What are you doing? Hey, hey. Yeah, totally. Yeah. I'll respond if they. If they call after me, I'll respond as if they're about to jump me. Because that's what you might expect. Where we're from. You mean like. Oh, shit. Oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I forgot to, you know. And here. Yeah, you're they're very calm. You're like, oh, excuse me, excuse me.

00;23;52;07 - 00;24;07;08
Unknown
Did you, you know, you forgot to write. Yeah. You put an idea why they're like you. You got to like somebody go down like, no, no, no, I, I come out, you know, you 100%, man. So how about you? What kind of things will you have to readjust to when you, when you get back to New York? Is that where you.

00;24;07;08 - 00;24;24;14
Unknown
Yeah. New York. Yeah. So, that's why I went to last in, in the States. I went back in September. Dads in New York. Mom's in Atlanta. Yeah. Mom's Atlanta. I got family in New York or whatever. And then, you know, I so I live that for, like, for a while before, moving here to Berlin and your parents relocated to Atlanta.

00;24;24;14 - 00;24;42;06
Unknown
They're still together? Yeah. So my father, he passed away, but my mom. I'm sorry. That's my family. That's cool. Family there. And like, my sister and, like, you know, my brother's, like, in different places, I would say, like, my mom and a decent part of my family are now in the South. Or whatever. I still got family.

00;24;42;06 - 00;25;01;20
Unknown
I got like family all over. I got like a big ass, I got family East Coast, Jersey, New York, Connecticut. Then I got some in Iowa. Okay. Yeah. I heard all over the world there's like a whole spread. But I went in New York colonizing. Yeah. Big. You know when it comes to yeah. When it comes to immigration, they put you in the weirdest places that, like.

00;25;01;20 - 00;25;19;07
Unknown
Yeah, Iowa. Let's spread these negros out so they can. So they can't come together and take over. Let's put you somewhere where the land is cheap. Iowa, North Dakota. You know, I want to be in New York. Yeah, buddy. And said, as everyone else around here who are American. So we also need to we need to adjust these people to Americans.

00;25;19;07 - 00;25;39;10
Unknown
We need to adjust these white people to black people. So, you know, we'll put you in Iowa where you can change other. And if something happens, this cornfields. Yeah. We go find you, man. You know what? What's the show? You know, the crows won't get you, by the way. So once in New York City and the first thing was just sound, I would say, like, just loud sound and whatever.

00;25;39;11 - 00;25;55;03
Unknown
Just get used to that. I mean, that wasn't as bad, but just be like, oh, okay. I literally just kind of constant, constant playing music is loud like a bro. I word there's like this little, air train. I think it is from JFK to where you going to go to take like, what is it, not Broadway Junction?

00;25;55;03 - 00;26;09;29
Unknown
I forgot the name of the whatever, but you where you can take the J train or whatever. Right. And I remember in this train station, they had like a little bar or something or whatever, and like the I guess they had, like a birthday party and it was bumping some, like, music, like people were like dancing or whatever.

00;26;09;29 - 00;26;25;11
Unknown
It was like in a train station, but it was like a bar thing in, in part of the train station. And like the I was like, this is some New York shit right here, because I think bumping is music loud and everything is not quiet like they having a good time and shit. Right. Second one is that danger.

00;26;25;11 - 00;26;44;22
Unknown
Right. So like just now being in a place where I'm like oh I like, you know, seeing certain like people how people move in or like, you know, be on a train. It's like on a circle back to the US you don't have here. You don't have the possible presence of people scheming on you. Yeah, right. Because that's another thing in the US, people are could be looking at you like a right.

00;26;44;22 - 00;27;04;08
Unknown
Yeah. Okay. So go ahead. Yeah. Now you right. Like I had a big book bag and stuff. So I'm like I'm already looking like I like, you know, the way I'm holding it, the way I'm like, looking at people, the way I'm trying. And you know, no, I can't, you know, I mean, so I had like readjust in that moment and then even the J train because as I was going to certain neighborhoods too, I'm just like, shit, I'm going to like around eight, nine.

00;27;04;14 - 00;27;22;14
Unknown
No, like around 10 p.m., 11 p.m.. So, you know, J train can get kind of crazy depending on like, especially when coming from all the way from Queens and going all the way back to where I was going to in Williamsburg and in Brooklyn. It was just like I was on a train, just like I like, yo, you know, who about to come on the train, get anything happen so I can.

00;27;22;14 - 00;27;41;25
Unknown
Come on, look at you by yo, you know, like lady, lady a week ago. Got burned on the train. Like she got burned alive. Burned alive. Bro. What the fuck did you just tell me? Yeah. You see that? Yo. Yes. So what kind of things happen on bro? Bro? Burned alive, bro? I'm talking about like, yo, she was like she was on bad, I guess.

00;27;42;01 - 00;28;00;04
Unknown
Why? Woman. Backpack or something. I don't know who. And she was like I don't I don't, I don't even remember what train. But some dudes came just litter on fire bro. Like squirt or gasoline or something or I don't know the full story, but I just know you saw the video on like, these are like, like in flames or just like, you know, and no one helped her.

00;28;00;04 - 00;28;17;02
Unknown
The cops were like, walking past was just kind of like looking at that like, yo, holy shit. You know? I mean, guess what? People just walk by like, yo, this your crazy son? Yo, things that happen on the subway, people don't help you go like I'm me. For real. Like the only help you win is over the amount of times I've been on the subway.

00;28;17;02 - 00;28;33;02
Unknown
And something's about to go down. And people, like, literally made a strong decision. Not to do anything. It's like I'm turning on some. I can get stomped out and somebody will have a camera and get all the angles and but not even help out like I'm talking my purse getting stomped out again to boot as the boots come.

00;28;33;03 - 00;28;50;21
Unknown
Yeah, at the bottom for the angle and it hits the person's face. Cinematic. You know, somebody's got 60 frames per second to get slo mo, you know what I mean? Like, people have a full production to fucking get, you know, this footage but then not help. Like, even the woman was getting burned a, you know, people pull their phones out and be like, oh shit.

00;28;50;21 - 00;29;11;08
Unknown
Yeah. Like, yo, you have your phone out and seen someone getting burned alive. You know, like what? Put the. But like you, this this video has gone over a minute. Like, put the phone down. You got what you like. Go and check it off. Throw it on or stop, drop and roll or some shit. Look. Oh, man. You know, camera angles, sturdy, decent man like you know, zoom it.

00;29;11;10 - 00;29;29;05
Unknown
I'm like, yeah. So people in the subway don't help you, so it's almost. You have to fend for yourself, bro. That's wild bro, that's wild. A man that's wild. So that's the things I had to worry about. And then, Yeah, I mean, the rat, just to tie a bow in that one tab on that one and shit I'm worried about.

00;29;29;06 - 00;29;43;13
Unknown
Yeah. And a third is, this one happened slowly as the weeks went by, or a week went by where I just felt like, especially in New York City, I just felt like I needed to get more money. Like, because you just round, like, a lot of wealth or you just see certain people the way they dressed up or whatever.

00;29;43;13 - 00;29;59;18
Unknown
And then living in New York City, you just realize how much it cost to do certain things or the things you would want to do. In that city with by yourself, with other people, whatever. You know, you just, like, make more money and then shit in New York City got even more expensive. Fact. Same in Cleveland, bro.

00;29;59;24 - 00;30;16;05
Unknown
That was a that was a mindful that was like, yo, I'm paying $35 for a six pack of beer and chips. What. This is crazy. And then you get to the register and their sales tax and I'm like wait what the fuck. Yeah. And then tell it to you like it's you know and then you know then thinking like yo I gotta haggle this do.

00;30;16;05 - 00;30;31;06
Unknown
So even haggling like being like, yo, I thought this the hottest 35 like that. This she used to call a 20. Yeah. Now it's 35, but, yo. So how much do, like, you gotta, you know, banter and fucking, like, be even getting used to that. Like, I was walking around like, damn, I should talk that do down.

00;30;31;06 - 00;30;51;07
Unknown
Yo fuck. Like $35. I want a fuck, man. You know, even dealing with that now, like, Interesting, bro. Yeah. I mean, there's a lot more to it, but, those are like, the top three, of course. Yeah. It's fun. It's funny, cause I was just thinking about what I said. What you said. Because, like, I'm from Ohio, and I'm like, yeah, you know, people are just, like, really nice and shit, and you're like, yeah, niggas getting burnt alive on the train.

00;30;51;12 - 00;31;09;00
Unknown
Yeah. Oh, bro, that's for different places, man. Yeah. I mean, people aggressively ask for money, you know, get used to that. You know, by walks, you know, lady come, you know, here in Berlin. Hey, can I please get some that should have gone, you know, my name is Bob Mann. New York City. Like, give me money. You know.

00;31;09;02 - 00;31;24;19
Unknown
What the fuck? Yeah, I got, I want I angry, I, I, I was like, yo, what the fuck? I'm like, yo, we talk. Hello. How you doing? You give him money, you you back on the store. Yo, give me some juice. I'm like, yo, you make a request now give me, give me the give me the orange juice with this off flavor in this, I'm like, that's not even my favorite one.

00;31;24;21 - 00;31;42;16
Unknown
Yeah, you you know, bro, that she got me bro. She a million mother give me money. I'm like, yo, who the fuck you talking like so if it's like, give me back in character of like, yo, what the hood of me, bro. Whole day I was angry. Hey, man, I don't know if you guys can see this, but when you were talking, bro, you got the crazy eye down girl, y'all.

00;31;42;17 - 00;31;58;15
Unknown
Hey. What the what? Yeah, well, your eyebrow, your eyebrow. I'm like, oh, dude, you got it, bro. You got it. Fuck you. Like, you know what I mean? Because you give me money, I'm like, yo, like yo, hello. What's your name like? My name is, your name is. How's your day? Like yo pleasantries. A little bit like she just said.

00;31;58;20 - 00;32;10;23
Unknown
And as you look at in the store, kind of like looking like, is he going to get it? Did you buy yet? Nah, that's all it is. The one of the left. Yeah. How about by all of it. And they give you none of it. How about how about I do that? Like now? You trying to make me look now?

00;32;10;23 - 00;32;28;01
Unknown
You making me being petty? Like, I hear you, bro. Bro. Now it ain't start. Gave me back into like. See, bro, you hit that crazy I like three times. I was like, he's there right now bro. He's there right now. Looking. He's looking in the eye of a of a crackhead right now. He's bro that she have be angry for a bro.

00;32;28;01 - 00;32;41;09
Unknown
I was the same thing I was saying. I was saying that like to myself and like whatever for like the whole day. You're what the fuck yo like, because if somebody else was with me, those like yo man use. But it's not like like yo I was like, I this is. Yeah, this is what happens. We come back to New York City.

00;32;41;11 - 00;32;58;07
Unknown
Yeah, that's the thing. I was peaceful. Yeah. And you know, I came to New York. I was, because even in New York, when, you know, this just going on before you came, you're probably more zen about it anyway. But it'll catch you off guard when you like, because you'll think you're. So. Why are people like this? Oh, my God, any bullet arriving in Europe for a minute, I almost lost my edge.

00;32;58;10 - 00;33;12;22
Unknown
And she. I mean, like, she was like, maybe she's. Maybe she sensed it in you. She's like, this nigga, this has been American a long time, but I. Yeah, maybe you saw it. Yeah. Me eye contact. I was too. I didn't have the crazy eyes make eye contact with me. Hey, you know, he she was like, yeah, yeah.

00;33;12;24 - 00;33;29;07
Unknown
Dog food now. Like, you know, I mean, my son robbed me via asking you. That's what it is, bro. Robbie, what a question. That's what it is for. Like. Yeah, I feel like I'll be. She trying to rob me call intimidation man. All right. I'm talking about give you this type of flavor juice. I don't even like that flavor, man.

00;33;29;07 - 00;33;55;21
Unknown
I was on the train the other day and disrespectful homeless dude. He was on the road being obnoxious, man. Screaming, better, better, better. Which was like, please, please, please, like please anybody. He's screaming and shit. Please. He's crying like, it's like it is all fake. You could tell he's just, but it's just so over-the-top that you could tell people felt bad for him.

00;33;55;21 - 00;34;13;08
Unknown
But you're freaking people out, dog. Nobody's. You know what I mean? You're kind of. He's counterintuitive, you know? It's just going over the top, begging and crying. He gets up part of the train, he gets on his hands and knees, and he puts his face down on the ground and he's just like, please, please, please. He's like screaming the shit right?

00;34;13;15 - 00;34;32;13
Unknown
Saying behind the. And nobody, nobody's looking, nobody's helping everybody. Just kind of like, whoa, this is too much. And, this dude. Yeah. Eventually he stands up on his knees and he's just like, what's wrong with you people? Nothing. No food, no nothing. So I turn around, give this guy a banana, right, turn around to my banana.

00;34;32;16 - 00;34;47;15
Unknown
And then he's like, thank you. And he keeps talking and screaming and shit. Then you get to the capacitor. Dude stands up, some lady turns around, she says, I'm sorry, this is all I have. Puts change in his hand. And it was like $0.03. He said, $0.03, fuck this. And he threw it on the ground and walked off the train.

00;34;47;17 - 00;35;05;24
Unknown
Freaked everybody out, fell because he threw the change. I was like, oh shit. I immediately start laughing at me. I was like, what is this guy's problem? I'm like, yeah, okay, so it's not about it's not about the change, is it? You know, like something else, bro. You got a fucking banana just now, bro. Talking about food. You got bananas.

00;35;05;24 - 00;35;26;08
Unknown
Oh my bro, every. If it's about to change, every cent counts. Right. Niggas know that. So you're at least up in 100mg of potassium. Like saying bro, you got a banana. You got you bro. You're fucking $0.97 more to a dollar, man. Fucking euro bro. Some positive about this shit. I keep on grinding. You might guy you some bread and you need bread straight up.

00;35;26;08 - 00;35;45;06
Unknown
So I fucking so it was just strange to me. Like everybody freaked out. I started laughing and and I started looking around because then I started realizing other people are laughing because the first people were shocked. Yeah. And then we all kind of realized together this that was actually extremely. Yeah. It's like really crazy. That was actually really crazy.

00;35;45;06 - 00;36;00;02
Unknown
We all just witnessed some really funny shit that we thought it was like, actually, let's not be that guy was an asshole, right? And that turn around looking at people is like, yo, can I get my banana back? I was like, yeah, you did give a banana, didn't you? What? Whatever he came out of you, it had to, man.

00;36;00;02 - 00;36;14;15
Unknown
It just kind of like ease the tension around people because there's. He was he was kind of a big dude, kind of intimidating looking. And when he was just kind of like freaking people out, especially their women, kind of clutching their pearls in their purses and shit like, oh, you know, and there dudes on the train like, yo, what the fuck is up with this guy?

00;36;14;21 - 00;36;32;29
Unknown
Yeah. Through the change on the ground, everyone kind of freaked out. I started laughing. Someone. I do start laughing. Someone just start laughing. And people just kind of eased up and they're like, that guy was a piece of shit, wasn't he? So he's kind of crazy. Yeah. So that should do happen around it when that happens, bro. I think it's not even about the money.

00;36;33;02 - 00;36;54;04
Unknown
It's about something else bro. Yeah. $0.03. Still $0.03 dawg. Yeah. It's like what are you stressing about. Totally. I mean listen I'm not homeless. I know what it's like, you know you know I'm not going to judge this man. But I'm just saying we doing all right and trying to be positive, you know. Yeah. That's, I mean, so you been so you been for.

00;36;54;06 - 00;37;13;15
Unknown
You been in Berlin for how long? Exactly? Like around. Like how much? A cumulatively, the cumulatively. I've been here for, like, I'd say about, like, eight years I've lived in Munich for a year. I lived in Berlin for a few years. I lived in Malaysia for a year. Came back to Berlin. Okay. And in Berlin.

00;37;13;15 - 00;37;31;16
Unknown
Right. So, I guess, you know, you know, probably the thing to ask people ask me a lot or so like that is how has the dating been for you in general. I know I brought I know I have to ask you know because you you're on second time. So you live in Berlin. You're a black man here in Berlin.

00;37;31;20 - 00;37;50;11
Unknown
And, I'm pretty sure other black people probably have the. This is I, I see that people just want to see how black people are living here, too, but they just be like, well, you out there? Like what? Who? When? Where? How? Oh, yeah. Just in general, you know, just general I'm not this is not a dating podcast.

00;37;50;11 - 00;38;08;12
Unknown
So you know for sure. Yeah. Actually, it would be cool if, if, we could do a whole episode just on being black and dating in Berlin. You know, dating in Berlin. Dating in Europe. You know what I mean? That could be an interesting. That would be crazy. You you could invite a few. You could find a few brothers on here, you know, I mean, and maybe even throw in, like, a Arab Latina or something.

00;38;08;12 - 00;38;34;13
Unknown
Just have a big, you know, a little bit of color, maybe mostly black. And just we actually talk about it, you know? I mean, man, when you think about that, that's actually. Because it is enough. We could talk about this a whole other episode too, right? Yeah. Dating. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. There's so many aspects about dating, you know, and also some of us have been here for a while, like pre pandemic is different than the post pandemic okay.

00;38;34;13 - 00;38;59;02
Unknown
Talking about the how has dating been pre pandemic versus post pandemic. All right so I think so my experience is that there's a different kind of like social makeup of the city after the pandemic because during the pandemic Berlin has so many transplants. So many people aren't from here. So let's say when the pandemic happens, a lot of people are forced to go back to where they came from.

00;38;59;09 - 00;39;14;06
Unknown
You know? I mean, a lot of people chose to go back to where they came from. Some people were here and their visas ran out and they had to go back home. So there's a huge exodus of people out of Berlin. A lot of jobs closed down. A lot of companies allowed you to work remotely a lot.

00;39;14;07 - 00;39;32;05
Unknown
So a lot of people left Berlin, and a lot of those people did not return after things opened up. There are people who stayed in Berlin, you know, the Berliners who are Germans who whatever, who live here. Then, you know, all the expats who stayed here because they've got paperwork, incidents or they've become citizens or whatever permanent residents like.

00;39;32;05 - 00;39;51;17
Unknown
So there's a core people who stayed. But then after the world opened up again, I think a flood of people came back to Berlin. I don't think they were the same people who left. And I think the people who were here before, let's say, you know, or around our age didn't come back as much. And I think more young people have started coming into Berlin.

00;39;51;17 - 00;40;19;07
Unknown
Right? You know, you know, it was it was it's let's say it was about around four years ish of transition from pandemic to, like, full on and a pandemic in Berlin getting back into it. Shit. Right. 2020 or 2019 to, let's say like 2023 ish, right? Three years or so. So when I look at Berlin now, it's more younger millennials and Gen Z than before.

00;40;19;09 - 00;40;54;23
Unknown
So what is that done to the dating I mean I think it's made. So I think this gen new generation is a little bit like and you know, since things have changed this pandemic and woke movement, all this stuff MeToo dating is a little bit I think up more uptight people are a bit more like, let's say, I think I mean, I'll just say, let's put like this I think she was easier before the pandemic, man, if we're just talking about hookup culture, I think things were easier in the pandemic because I think people are way more discerning now.

00;40;54;26 - 00;41;17;15
Unknown
For example. Right, right. Because we also have different, different popularity in dating apps, like before the pandemic, it was all about Tinder. Tinder is how you get it in a Tinder with the big thing out here, right? For sure. Like in Tinder, it promotes hookups. And that was also the general culture of the city, right? Like if you you'd be weird if you were in like a committed relationship and you weren't poly or open or something, you know?

00;41;17;15 - 00;41;49;10
Unknown
Wow. I think since the pandemic hinge is now the like the main app like especially hinge Bumble people like talk shit about Tinder. So on hinge you have more prompts and you have more discerning ways of determining who you're going to go on a date with. And it's designed to be more intentional, and finding somebody. And then I think people here are, excuse me, they have a greater filtration of like, boundaries, therapy, all this other stuff.

00;41;49;10 - 00;42;08;16
Unknown
So like, I think it's, it's, if you're just meeting girls off the apps. I mean, from my experience, like, I was having more. Okay, if the intention is to hook up, you know, find two people who want to hook up with each other. Right. It's. Yeah, it seemed like it was easier back in the day than it is now.

00;42;08;18 - 00;42;29;25
Unknown
Now, since people are more intentional about their dating, their intentions, their boundaries, what they're looking for and like you know, like discerning toxicity within somebody before going to certain next steps. That's so interesting. Especially with the changes in apps and stuff, because, I mean, I think even in New York City, there always like a stigma with, Tinder.

00;42;29;25 - 00;42;51;28
Unknown
And then hinge started to become a thing as the pandemic started going about. And then Bumble. Bumble was always like, kind of, you know, I mean, things where it was like, it was there. Yeah, they were just there. They're it's a yellow, brain. Yeah. It's the one where girls can find me. Oh, shit. Now I get to choose and they'll still be like, I, right?

00;42;51;29 - 00;43;08;13
Unknown
You know, right in the in, the guy still has to do their thing, right? Yeah. Hinge. You gotta. Yeah. I mean, hinge does force you to be intentional. You know? Yeah. Like really I mean, I haven't been on hinge for, like a year now or so, but like, because you're dating or because you, I mean, just getting it in in the streets.

00;43;08;16 - 00;43;27;05
Unknown
You know, it's funny if people ask me about the dating sense of me being here, and it sounds so cliche or something, but I really been just focusing on, like, shit that I just haven't had the time. I mean, like, you know, maybe if you know the guy, you know, in there or whatever, right? But nothing like as of where someone who's new here would be.

00;43;27;07 - 00;43;45;20
Unknown
So yeah, this expectation once of how somebody dates when a new to the city here in Berlin. Like it's kind of like you out in these streets. Yeah. Yeah. Especially black man in Europe. Like it's just another thing of like yo you out here right. Like I'm like yeah kind of nah, nah not kind of. Don't raise your voice.

00;43;45;20 - 00;44;03;10
Unknown
Nah. You out here like I base to the to the voice over here. I'm out here. I'm like facts, you know, I know, yeah, I hear you, dog. In another, like I was saying, man, some people have been here enough time. You you have to like I always say, like, you can have more than one whole phase if you put in a lifetime.

00;44;03;10 - 00;44;20;20
Unknown
You know what I mean? Like some say. Oh, shit, I just got to college and. Oh, well, everything's all new or something. But then in that later phase in life, you get into the real world, you start making real money, you live in a different country, people are treating you different, different standard of beauty, different social construct in this world.

00;44;20;20 - 00;44;37;19
Unknown
And next thing you know, you're just like, oh, you know, then you calm down and then you have a girlfriend and a dog. Maybe things break up, you're back in the streets again, you know? Yeah, I've been here for almost a decade, like, you know, but yeah, man, I but I, I know what you mean. Because when I first moved to Berlin, I came from Munich.

00;44;37;19 - 00;44;57;03
Unknown
Munich. And I had a long distance girlfriend from Munich. Oh, wow. The first two years I was living in Berlin. Two years? Yeah, bro. Yeah. So I remember people telling me, like, bro, you have a girlfriend, but you're open, right? Oh you're exclusive. You like this kind of shit. They wouldn't really say you, but that's the vibe, you know, like, well, what are you doing then?

00;44;57;03 - 00;45;16;09
Unknown
You know? Wait, so you're not fucking anybody, but you're way, you know, I'm like, what are you talking about? You know? Oh, yeah. It was like that. It was. I think Berlin was. Berlin was freakier. I'll say Berlin was more openly freaky before the pandemic. Really, guys? It's freaky now. It's it's freaking. Yeah, but it was even more free.

00;45;16;09 - 00;45;34;24
Unknown
Yeah, yeah, I think so, man, I think so. And I think I think I think people who were here before the pandemic would agree with me too. I mean, and it's not like it's not it's not freaky. It's still freaky. Right. But it just it was it was a little more wide open. Wow. Yeah. That's great. You know like even imagine that.

00;45;34;24 - 00;45;53;07
Unknown
Like. Yeah, man. I mean that's why that's that's why you it's it's a topic brothers want to know. What's it like out there. You know, I'm sure when people ask you like, yo, what's it like out there? Even though you're still, you know, you're doing your thing. You so probably like, go you know it, it's still and you're even when you're modest and you hear other people's stories, right?

00;45;53;08 - 00;46;08;13
Unknown
Right. Yeah. Like the, you know, stories of me. Yeah. I mean, you know, I guess the one thing about Berlin, I, I don't know, maybe I heard it from somebody or so, but I feel like eventually something weird is going to happen to you in the course of dating or like that, or dating other people here in Berlin.

00;46;08;13 - 00;46;30;09
Unknown
Like just something that's very like. All right, only here. This this is here. Yeah. No, I just I never experienced some shit until I got here. Yeah. I was fucking around with some people. This is crazy. Most definitely. Yeah. There's been some situation where it's like, yo, what the like what's what's going on here? Yeah, totally. Like, I didn't even know this was a, this was a thing like this.

00;46;30;09 - 00;46;49;19
Unknown
Oh, this can happen. It's exactly like what my entire universe just cracked a little bit. And now there's a figure in in a whole other area over here, like. Wow. Yeah. I didn't know that existed. Oh, and one time, man, this is, I'm more after a show, man. It's like, it was me and it was two girls or whatever it was that the show, and it was just hanging out.

00;46;49;19 - 00;47;03;18
Unknown
It was like. It was like, get a drink or two. I was like, yeah, it's is, you know, drink. And it's like that. And it was like, hey, would you like to go to another bar? So, the one two girls, her boyfriend was working at his bar, so. Yeah. Cool. Let's go. Whatever, you know, is one of those nights where things is going or whatever is her friend or, you know, a friend, whatever.

00;47;03;18 - 00;47;16;10
Unknown
It was like, you know, I think it was trying to, like, set her up with me or something like that. Right. So we go to this place or whatever, we all sit and there's like table or whatever, we all talk and stuff. And then I think her and a girl was talking and they just kind of disappeared. Right.

00;47;16;13 - 00;47;32;12
Unknown
So her and I were talking, I think this was like around, you know, end of last year or something. I'll just like, hey, so what's your New Year's resolution? Just like, you know, whatever. And she's like, yeah, my New Year's resolution. Is that. So, I want to have like, a threesome. Usually I have it will like, you know, a guy and a girl by this.

00;47;32;12 - 00;47;53;01
Unknown
I want two guys, and, I don't want them to be gay. And she was like, going a detail. Right now, she's like, how about you? I was like, not gain weight. No. Get better sleep. Like the the standard. What the. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And then she was like, come on. But for real, I'm like, no, that's, that's all I got.

00;47;53;01 - 00;48;12;16
Unknown
I'm I'm empty when it comes to that. Hey, man, some people got goals, man. Yeah, we'll have goals that come on, like for real. I was like, I don't even know. Like, I don't know what to say to you after that. Yeah. For sure. Yo, bro, I, I'm like that. She was. Wow. I'm like Yeah bro.

00;48;12;16 - 00;48;30;17
Unknown
It's going to make you. It's going to make you freeze, bro. And she said it like there was like like it wasn't like it wasn't kind of like out there. Yeah. And again she looked she don't look like the person that would eat that, you know, I mean it's not I mean, you know, we do stereotype but I mean she look like I was not assuming that was going to come from her.

00;48;30;25 - 00;48;50;12
Unknown
So like when she said it, I was kinda like, oh, damn, yo, you got like a whole entire corporate job to, like, yeah, I get, oh, me, I don't know what I'm. I guess I'm not saying my new year, right. Yeah, yeah. No, I'm, I got big, you know, basic shit. Totally, bro. Like you're thinking, like, when you think it's almost like a job.

00;48;50;12 - 00;49;12;11
Unknown
When you think about your KPIs, like, what are your KPIs? Jesus Christ, your KPIs is like, based on sexuality and and numbers of dicks. That is. Yeah, that's wild man. Wow. Trending upwards. Are we? Yeah. So I was like, sorry, it's. Oh yeah man. It's all about the trans man. It's all the trans seasonality. Yeah. So they.

00;49;12;13 - 00;49;30;22
Unknown
Yeah. Dating here is it's something and all people always asking I feel like people ask because they're like, hey, so there's something happening. You get yeah. I mean, if I just sat here like, it's been great. Know my. Well, what have you been? You have you really been out here? Yeah, totally. They'll be like, okay, you're hiding something.

00;49;30;24 - 00;49;46;10
Unknown
Yeah. There be like. Because people want to know it's it's that kind of prep. You want to know what it was? The juice. And everyone always ask the longer you here and then even a little bit you date, the more something's going to come up where you like, oh, whoa, whoa, dude, listen, you're just like you said, bro.

00;49;46;10 - 00;50;05;03
Unknown
Like, we're comedians, and sometimes you'll meet people. You just say some shit. You mean was like, I'm at a loss for words, yo. Yeah, man, I was, I want a day with this girl. And then I'm going off hinge and, we went to a. We went to a restaurant. Right. We met for lunch, like, first date.

00;50;05;05 - 00;50;22;02
Unknown
We're sitting there, we're having a good time. And in my in my profile, it brought something like you. Yeah. It's, it's something like on hinge. You should leave a comment or. I don't know, I basically I say something like, hit me up. If you're down to earth, you know, you're cool. You're laid back down to earth with a sprinkle of ratchet.

00;50;22;04 - 00;50;38;10
Unknown
Okay shawty sex me back. She said that's me. And I said cool. So we hit it off we went on this day we're going to lunch. You know we're talking. She, she just brings it. I'm, she's asked me at some point she says yeah. So so what's your situation. I said, what do you mean? She's like, you know, like who you're fucking with.

00;50;38;12 - 00;50;53;10
Unknown
When, how often, how many? I was like, oh, shit. Then what? Oh, okay. So, I appreciate, you know, let's get straight to the point. Yeah. So as I explained to her, you know, I mean, at the time, you know, there's you grow up with of not little while, but that's it's kind of ended the moments, you know.

00;50;53;10 - 00;51;11;06
Unknown
So I be swiping and shit. See what's up. I'm not committed kind of in the streets. But you know, respectfully, she's like and she's like, okay, cool. I said, how about you? She said, you know, I'm not I'm not really hooking up with anybody. It's just me and my brother.

00;51;11;09 - 00;51;30;03
Unknown
I was like, oh, you're your brother? And she was like, yeah, my brother. And I was like, you mean like she's like, yeah, I'm into like sibling fetish. I was like, oh, bro, okay. And there's, I don't know. But it was the first time I ever heard any shit like that. So it was just like, what? What? Whoa.

00;51;30;05 - 00;51;57;03
Unknown
Okay. You know, and I asked her, I was like. Like your real brother. She's like, no, my play brother. It's like, oh. Oh, shit. Okay. Well, you know, and she's like, yeah, you know, it's like my play brother, you know, like. Like, you know, when we're at a house party or something, we're like, out somewhere. We introduce ourselves, you know, we're like hugged up and I'm like, yeah, this is I'm so-and-so, this is my brother.

00;51;57;05 - 00;52;17;00
Unknown
And I'm like, oh, you be introducing to each other people in public like, this is your brother and you're his sister. She's like, yeah, we do it in public sometimes. And I'm like, so people in public will think your that's your brother is I mean, yeah, I mean I don't know, I suppose they're actually like different because she's I'm not I'm not going to put out there like that.

00;52;17;00 - 00;52;33;13
Unknown
She might see this I don't know. But she was like you know she's mixing the other guy things, different ethnicities. So I don't know how much you believe it. But she was like, yes, we introduce each other like that I sibling fetish. I was like, oh, I just, you know, something's telling me, Dave, you didn't ask a follow up question of, this is your real brother.

00;52;33;13 - 00;52;48;08
Unknown
She would have just left it at this is my brother. She might have. And you would have just kept one. What, like you didn't win for the rest of that conversation? Like she'd just be fucking her actual for real? For real brother. Yeah, yeah. She was. You going to wow. That is different even by yo, by the way.

00;52;48;08 - 00;53;12;06
Unknown
Because, you know, this is our first day. I want you to have first impressions. That fucking my brother. You know that this and this. Wow. That's crazy. As you said. Yeah, yeah, she just put it out there, man. And, Yeah. And I was like, we should go because mom's going to be home soon. I was, I was like, no, she, like I said, I thought I saw just pick up line in the corner.

00;53;12;06 - 00;53;27;11
Unknown
Let me sleep. I honestly wish I was that smooth. Yo, I wish I was asked moon. I wish, I wish, I wish I knew how I already felt because in that moment I was like, I don't know how I feel about this now. I'm like, yeah, I mean, that is jarring, right? You know? And it was like, hey, you ain't got no drinks on you.

00;53;27;11 - 00;53;48;04
Unknown
I'm in on the I mean, yeah, no, we're pretty sober. Oh, we're even sober. We're pretty sober. Yeah. And I was like, wild. Wow. That is so my real first. My real, follow up question was, you know, she said the sibling, I said. Are you an only child? She said, yeah, because.

00;53;48;06 - 00;54;05;04
Unknown
But hold on. Listen, you know, because I got brothers, I would never was. Have you ever fucking around with this brother? Yeah, I, I'm a brother about. Yeah. Like, what do you mean? I well, for you, you figure it out. Yeah. You know, let's get out of here bro. Issue was so silly to me, man. I was just like, yeah, so.

00;54;05;04 - 00;54;24;17
Unknown
So yeah, the whole sibling thing, blah blah blah. They know that you like regular. Regular. We just sit. Yeah. There's a table right here. There's a table right here. That's that. Okay. All right. So there may be some things that are constant is that when these things are revealed is not like in a way we're like you looking over your shoulder, you're like, hey, by the way, I'm into this thing.

00;54;24;17 - 00;54;50;04
Unknown
It's like, yeah, like, you know, it probably echoing right tones. Yeah, yeah. So yeah, this is what I do. But you be sitting down like a yeah. Hey, yo. Oh, you you even changed tone, right? Your tone was constant as you said. This information, no uptick, no down pitch is right. No. And, another thing is, I think in most cities people would have some discretion about something like that.

00;54;50;04 - 00;55;14;15
Unknown
But I think in Berlin, just like, what's up? Yeah. So what I'm into. Yeah. Right. People upfront about it, they fly their freak flag. Yeah. I mean, Berlin does make you very, How would you say I'm not? I guess the right word is to be not as shocked about certain things. You know, like, dude, I go back home and I'm not really surprised by much, bro.

00;55;14;18 - 00;55;30;16
Unknown
I'm really not surprised by much, bro. When I go back to the U.S. Yeah. You know, just like you here in Berlin, you see these things, you know, like, I mean, it's, you know, King clubs out here, right? So when you hear people talk about it, you just kind of look at first like, whoa. But you hear so many times like, oh, you know, but oh, I didn't know that.

00;55;30;16 - 00;55;52;12
Unknown
I took the coffee there or. Yeah. Jazz. You know, I, I guess they played jazz in those places I get. Yeah, 100%, man. 100%. And then when you see some of that stuff, it's it's really like, you know, it's it's it's kind of the opposite. It's like the opposite end of the spectrum of like having seen like like real like violence or like war.

00;55;52;13 - 00;56;10;25
Unknown
Like you just walk around, you see some crazy shit and you're like, you ain't seen nothing. You have nothing. You know, I was in an inspection. You see, some really strange things in these clubs, and people tell stories. You're like thinking you ain't seen nothing, bro. You haven't seen shit. Yeah, I was with you, bro. For real? You been to,

00;56;10;27 - 00;56;30;05
Unknown
You going to kick, before? I've been there a few times. Yeah. I've. I've, just for research. I just, you know, he's a comedian. So this research purpose for research purposes, just to let the tribe know, the lost tribe of Africa here in Germany, you know, report back. We're back from the field. It's poppin, but,

00;56;30;07 - 00;56;58;21
Unknown
Yeah, man. Like, you'll you'll see stuff in there that like, will actually test you, like, and how you feel about things, you know, it'll show you where your boundaries are at and what you really think, you know, like, most of it's really not having any I mean, none of it's really a big deal at all. I mean, yeah, it's you just realize you actually realize how little of a big deal it is, and then you go home and your people hear saying, shit, you're like j nothing, dude.

00;56;58;23 - 00;57;18;13
Unknown
You should have seen this, this. And this is just like, whoa, that's for real. Yeah, bro. Pay 20 bucks. So did he party without the crimes, bro? It's it's, that the guy Tuesday, bro was on a Tuesday, zoo lube, miniature sized baby oil. Yeah, bro. Yeah, cause because you're up there, he goes. Yeah, yeah.

00;57;18;13 - 00;57;37;18
Unknown
You know, very climate conscious. Environmental friendly. Yeah. Totally, bro. They do the small sizes. This oil is small portions. Vegan oil, vegan oil. Right. And it comes with a side salad. You know what I mean? Cause this is Europe, bro. Any oil that has not been used, make sure use this as the, condiments for your salad, please.

00;57;37;18 - 00;57;54;01
Unknown
100%, bro. Actually. Why not? I mean, people have put olive oil on salad, too. It's like, as a as a light. As a light dressing. There you go, you baby oil. Also vegan and edible. It's like yeah, whatever you don't use use with this. Oh, shit. Who should I cut this out? You know, somebody might take this idea.

00;57;54;07 - 00;58;10;02
Unknown
I mean, that is in jail, bro. He's not going to. Oh, yeah. He's that that's that was his. That's going to be his next. Yeah. Totally. Totally. But good. Keep keep this keep this. You might want to cut that out I did I yeah I mean well whatever you know even moving on a on a little Australia.

00;58;10;09 - 00;58;26;03
Unknown
Yeah, man. I'm curious I'm curious that the viewers want to hear any of these stories in the how graphic they want to get. We don't have to today, but if they wanted to, we could run it back if they wanted to hear some shit. Yeah, I mean, definitely, bro, cause I think we know again in Berlin.

00;58;26;03 - 00;58;45;15
Unknown
It's better you got all this coming from a black dude is going to be just different. Because again, it's like, even for me, like, you know, I it is what it is. Is somebody from Berlin or German people like myself. Oh kick it. I'm like, yeah. That's like that's, you know, when you say like, yo, this like, you know, this the tone, the way you say bye, yo, this should happen.

00;58;45;15 - 00;59;04;12
Unknown
This is not you like yo were. It's different strokes for different folks. It's not the you know, it's like that, that whole environment. I'm also not super well steeped in it because there's there's a whole universe around that. I've only just started dipping my toes in and start to realizing and reporting back to the tribe. Yeah. Thank you very much for it.

00;59;04;12 - 00;59;27;13
Unknown
Yeah, that it's actually it's actually not quite what, you know, it's like, it's like I'll give you kind of like the, my perspective of it. And I think I'm pretty good at articulating and putting of, you know, words to my emotions. And what I'm thinking is feeling at the moment. So I think I can help you understand yourself in your how, how you would feel in your own shoes.

00;59;27;17 - 00;59;41;13
Unknown
Right, right. Cause other people just talk about, oh, this is the environment. And then you start to think about how you'd feel in that environment. I'm like, this is the environment I was in, and this is how I felt about all the stimuli around. And then you're like, oh, okay, that's okay. So it's not so crazy.

00;59;41;16 - 00;59;57;10
Unknown
So okay. The one thing that always because I mean I may get invited actually like I know some people they're like oh I could put you on a list or hey I'm playing there, I can put you on or this is not what I, oh you know people bro. Yeah. I mean yeah, but it's just the one thing I don't think I can get over is the whole what I have to wear.

00;59;57;10 - 01;00;16;09
Unknown
Right. And I'm, I got to be honest, I don't really know. But any time has been suggested. I'm like, I don't think I can even make it out the door. You know what I'm saying, so I don't. I know, bro, I know what you mean. Okay. Yeah. Like I then go to, you know like leather or something like even just wear leather touch in my bare skin.

01;00;16;09 - 01;00;36;29
Unknown
I'm not even ready for that yet. You know what I'm saying. So like you know or wearing skin even skimpy. I don't even like the word skimpy in my name attached to it. Oh. Yeah. I got, you know, I mean, I got some, I mean, I maybe I gotta work through some things, but, you know, I, I know I will wear it.

01;00;36;29 - 01;00;53;18
Unknown
And if I walk past a mirror, I see myself, I'll be like, nah, you like, Cause in your head you see you and all your skin like, yeah, like nigga, what you doing? I'll be like, yo, somebody from where I'm from. Going to see me buy a yo where you going like yo, what happened bro? I'm like, yo, you saw that nigga down.

01;00;53;18 - 01;01;10;11
Unknown
Now y'all when you're up, bro, you fucking trippin, bro. Berlanga I'm turned out. Yo, this shit got it. Like, yo, listen, you understand, man, you know this is what's happening out there. Well, this is you out there. Yeah, I heard his family down in Atlanta. So then I heard something. Yeah, I heard what's happening to you out there.

01;01;10;11 - 01;01;29;27
Unknown
Now, I don't know what's happening out there, but with you. Yeah, you can you you stay up, man. Yeah. You know. Yeah. Be all as well man. Oh man. That's come visit. Yeah. Yeah I'll let you know. You know. You know I 100% struggled with that two, 100%. You know, because it's because it's also part of our culture thing.

01;01;29;29 - 01;01;53;23
Unknown
You know what I mean? African-American culture is relatively conservative. You know, sexually conservative. We do all the talking and this and this and that. But think also be on church on Sundays, you know, especially in the place like the South and stuff. But, so I would say that, you know, an end in black people who kind of lean in this direction of like, oh, this is still also kind of fun, right?

01;01;53;25 - 01;02;20;10
Unknown
They kind of get labeled as alternative, right? Yeah. But the thing is, is one thing I realize is like this whole spectrum of black, the blackness as a spectrum, and you as an individual occupy your own location on that spectrum. So when it comes to fitting in, it's just a lot of motherfuckers who over here on this part of the spectrum who oftentimes prevent each other from traveling outside the spectrum just to discover and find new things about themselves.

01;02;20;11 - 01;02;43;05
Unknown
Right. Which would be good, because then you can bring it back to the spectrum, tell them about it, and they can continue to be themselves more. Right? You know what I'm saying? Right? No, no, no. Hey, maybe you said you had a struggle like, of that thing, because, you know, masculinity and not wanting to look, you know, gay or whatever, or feel get all these, all these internal like things that you might feel are issues aren't really issues.

01;02;43;05 - 01;03;04;11
Unknown
Right? But let's just say like, yes, this these are things, you know, that, you know, black men communities struggle with is like just being able to feel silly. Let's just let's just start there, feel silly. 99 we go to a sexual place, but just feel silly. Yeah. Like we're too cool for that. Even though we are silly as shit.

01;03;04;17 - 01;03;22;19
Unknown
Yeah, we're too cool to be perceived in a certain way by other people. Were very much care what you know. You go to the hip hop club, you look fly, you dress, fly. Yeah. You taught, you're taught. It's a social event. You're talking to people. You dance with people. Oh, who's, checking people's clothes? This and that. Look, CB seen the techno club.

01;03;22;22 - 01;03;38;02
Unknown
Sometimes you just show up by yourself and some dirty sneakers and whatever, because you're really just there to dance and have a personal experience with the music. Two totally different environments. Right? Right. So that's why some black people go to techno clubs, like I don't really get it. And then a lot of white people go to the hip hop club.

01;03;38;02 - 01;04;04;15
Unknown
They're like, I'm uncomfortable because they're expecting me to dance for real. You know? Yes, for you know what I mean? You know? But the philosophy around each of these establishments is just different. And if you adopt that mindset in each one, you'll you'll do better. Yeah. So I say all this to say, like in these kinds of kinky clubs and stuff, like, you know, there's definitely going to be like a shedding of ego that happens because I know that feeling.

01;04;04;17 - 01;04;24;00
Unknown
But the awesome thing that I realize on the other side, you know, the first time I walked into the club was just a Monday. Still fucking crazy for, what, a day it was. And it was, a homie Nigerian-American homie that brought me in. Oh, and he's the one that showed me kind of, like, the ropes and everything.

01;04;24;00 - 01;04;39;20
Unknown
So what I realized when I got in there, I was only up in there in my. Y'all. There's going to be more context on another episode coming soon, but you'll just hear this shit for now. I was up in this bitch and just sneakers, socks, my underwear, no shirt. And I had like, my fly crystals and shit on, that's all.

01;04;39;23 - 01;05;00;29
Unknown
Okay. That's it. And, the thing is, when I walked up in there, I looked around and it hit me. Oh, I get it now. I wish I had more cool shit on, you know what I mean? Interesting, because you start to see how, like, how far you can go immersed in it and how, like, how much fun it actually is.

01;05;00;29 - 01;05;21;11
Unknown
You know, like I was there like, oh, shit, I could see I get it now. I wish I had more swag. I always had more swag on, you know? And another thing is like, you'll be up in there and, I'll, you know, all kind of body types, all colors, all shapes, all sizes, you know, you'll have fit people, unfit people.

01;05;21;16 - 01;05;40;24
Unknown
Everybody's got a degree of sex appeal. You know, and so it's cool. There's a degree of comfort. There's no the defense barriers are so high. Everybody's just kind of chill, laid back and seeing what happens. And friendly and flirty. It's in the air, you know. And and among that fluffiness in the air, it's kind of like a no pressure feeling.

01;05;40;26 - 01;05;56;27
Unknown
Wow. Super chill. I wake up in there, I'm half nude, but I see Shorty in here. He's got the full lace, this and that. You know, dude's got the, you know, leather collar on and some, like, leather harness and shit. You see a brother walk by, he's like, oh, he's got leather pants on. He walks past. You was asked cheeks are out.

01;05;56;27 - 01;06;12;16
Unknown
It's like, oh shit, niggas are up in here too. Just getting freaky, getting silly and shit. And at first I was like, oh, if he can do, I can do it, you know what I mean? I think it's way buffer than me and way more. And he's walking around with a bad shorty and he's got his butt cheeks out.

01;06;12;18 - 01;06;28;08
Unknown
He that's that's funny. Black people no matter what. Black. Yo. But he was with a finesse girl doll, you know what I mean? So it might be I. That's what I'm saying. I know our social currency. I know what it's going to take to make a bit. Okay? Maybe I can see myself there. I know I threw that in there for a reason.

01;06;28;10 - 01;06;47;12
Unknown
And it's true. It's true. She was bad. His ass cheeks were out. He was on some Prince shit, right? He was on some Prince shit, but he was chalk. But now you know, light skinned chocolate brother, you know me out here. We struck up a conversation with his ass cheeks out. It's it's fine, bro, it's fine. We just talking, bro.

01;06;47;18 - 01;07;04;25
Unknown
We just talking. Oh, no. Jesus. No homo. Now, I'm not worried about it. You're worried about. Yeah. Get your mind out the gutter or even know this. Is it taking place in a King club, right, man, I'm just saying. Right. Yeah, yeah. A conversation. Get your mind out the King Club. All right. Leave his there. Yeah. Thank you, thank you.

01;07;04;28 - 01;07;25;11
Unknown
So I'm saying, like. And he was telling me he was like, bro, you know. No, I don't live in Berlin. I'm so like I'm just down. I'm like, down with the kick and this kind of like life. And you don't see this kind of peacefulness anywhere. He's like, bro, I save money. I come to Berlin like once every two months just for like 3 or 4 days.

01;07;25;11 - 01;07;42;01
Unknown
Come to the Kit-Kat three like three nights in a row dip. Because you just get to be another side of yourself. You can't be anywhere else. That's why you. And another thing is, you're a fit dude, man. You you already got an outfit. It's true. You okay? So, see, this is this is important. I love this right here.

01;07;42;01 - 01;08;04;22
Unknown
Because, you know, again, there's a there's a perception of what you have to wear. So even what you just said that I was like, you know, I, you know, I'm still skeptical, of course, because, you know, here's while I will go, I just it's kind of the thing with that comedy, I guess, of being like, yo, Jess, is there?

01;08;04;22 - 01;08;23;13
Unknown
Like, yo, it just it's just. Why not? Right? At the same time, I'll be like, damn, yo, I'm my to really be in line and be there. I'm. I'm really here. Oh my God, yo, somebody's going to see me. I'll cover my face like, no. Oh, shit. Like, The thing is though, is like, okay, I took my brother.

01;08;23;13 - 01;08;39;16
Unknown
I got two older brothers. I took my oldest brother with me when he came to visit the oldest brother. Oh shit. Yeah. Because. Because he. Because he's down. He's wild. Broke my brother down a well one of was married though, so he's, I think it's like he came to visit me. Yeah. And he was, he's wow.

01;08;39;16 - 01;08;54;19
Unknown
So he's on like I've told him about the club a little bit. He's done some research. He's like, bro, we got to go when I come. Oh, he's on some, you know, father's like two meters tall. I saw some alpha shit, you know, he's, you know, buff and shit. And I'm telling him about outfits. And when we start talking about it, he sees a little bit nervous, like, man, what do you mean?

01;08;54;19 - 01;09;08;02
Unknown
I got a wear something. So I'm like, yeah, you know, it's going to be cool down. And I'm like, bro, don't worry about it. There's a store down the street from where I live. I'll take you, go shopping. You gotta go inside the store. Yeah, I took him to this because I've been enough times now that I. I know what it's like.

01;09;08;02 - 01;09;23;24
Unknown
Like you've been in there. You're going to want to have some swaggy shit because it also speaks to you. It's like. It's like if you were going to regular club, you're going to want to look fly, right? You find in it doesn't mean you're going to wear like a tall teen, some baggy jeans, because that's not fly. Do you want to fly to someone else?

01;09;23;24 - 01;09;38;13
Unknown
Right. When I go to the when I go to the it, I'm gonna wear some shit that I think is fly to me. You know what I mean. And that's what makes me comfortable. Right. I just also know if you go to the hip hop club for example, you got to hit certain notes that you let niggas know like oh yeah that's what if I could be here, right.

01;09;38;19 - 01;09;58;17
Unknown
You got to kick let them, you know, it's, it's almost in part signaling even just to get in like, oh, I'm aware that this person knows the culture of the place and they're not on some super touristy. Oh, well, what is this? I just want to, you know, there likely going to be a participating member of the fun and add to the party, not take anything away.

01;09;58;19 - 01;10;16;04
Unknown
That's kind of what you're signaling when you get in there with all this kind of need to even get in, right? Yeah, it'd be denying people right for show. And so when I'm at the store with my brother, we just get some something comfortable for him. It's like it was like a leather harness was just the strap that goes down like this strap go like this, cross across the back.

01;10;16;06 - 01;10;35;20
Unknown
And then he got some and he's got some, like black shorts. We went on a on a day where it's like, not too troublesome to get in. It was just me and him and I'm up in there, you know, I got, a spike collar run. I got this crystal choker on. I got this little, like, I got this rope thing that I like tied just a couple Jabari knots in it around my around my torso.

01;10;35;21 - 01;10;53;29
Unknown
Okay. And I got some short shorts on some black short shorts. We walk up in there and it was chill. And as soon as you walked in there, he was like, bro, I know what you mean because you're looking around and you see dudes who are very much comfortable in their swag and the their comfort in their swag mix helps add to them looking good in it.

01;10;54;02 - 01;11;15;19
Unknown
You know what I mean? And he was looking around. He's like, bro, I know what you mean. I wish I had more fly shit on, you know? That's, Oh, shit. Yo, for you, myself and your older brother shoots like a yo like, yo, you got your shoulders up like, yo. Oh, shit. This is actually last season, while Cheryl Raven's little,

01;11;15;21 - 01;11;30;15
Unknown
And he was just like, bro, I was. Yeah, I was telling him I was like, bro, we should go on. We should go on a freaky day. We went on like a off day, which still freaky, but. Right. You know, and when we were up in there, he was like, not only should I got more shit, it got like, got got some real swag, but we should have come on a crazy day.

01;11;30;16 - 01;11;50;06
Unknown
Yeah. You know, because. Oh, shit. It's it's interesting, man. Check you out. I got something out the the lost tribe. Who lost tribe, man. Helping them connect with themselves, bro, is what it is. Yeah, because I connected with myself in a way. Right? Like. Yeah, that's what I be like. I'm getting. I'll getting them together. I'm totally fucking around.

01;11;50;09 - 01;11;59;24
Unknown
That's totally fucking around. I was too nervous to even say it out loud. I totally fucking or.

01;11;59;26 - 01;12;14;22
Unknown
That's what that awkward pause was. I was like, what? I'm saying, I'm not gonna say that shit. Yeah, I'm gonna say that shit. I said it. Okay, okay, okay, okay. Yo, bro, I had to.

01;12;14;24 - 01;12;39;29
Unknown
I couldn't lie to you. Oh, yeah. Oh. Oh, that's. I go lie on. That was one of the possibilities of what we're going to visit. 100%. I know, and he said, I will go find myself what I felt, if I felt if.

01;12;40;01 - 01;13;00;24
Unknown
Fuck. That's, funny as hell. That song by myself. I'm gay. Pause. Okay. No homo. What is this? Better you said to you. Like I said. Yeah. How are you going to take this? Yeah. Kind of take it back. Like I can't let it. Can't let it sit out there for too long, bro. I'm saying, like, long enough they can clip it.

01;13;00;26 - 01;13;17;05
Unknown
I'm like, yo, now you can clip it off of that. The follow up was fucking around dog hair. You said it too fast. I couldn't see. Yeah, he's this recluse. So that was for me. It's.

01;13;17;07 - 01;13;32;06
Unknown
I feel like I'm secure with my sexuality. Oh. I'm gay. No, I'm just kidding. So that's funny, yo, cause that was the the. It's kind of felt like this was really dope, but was all like, Yo, that. Yeah. Do you, bro? You know, I mean, yo, that's that's that's what's up, man. Yeah. Well, you know what?

01;13;32;06 - 01;13;51;10
Unknown
Thank you very much for coming on. Oh, now that's hilarious. Thank you. We're good. Yeah, man. Yeah, we're gonna go to commercial break, so. Yeah. Where they can. Where can they find you? Aside from this Kit Kat? ExAC exactly. You find me under the bridge, waiting for the club to open. Oh. That's hilarious. That was funny. And that's been our guests.

01;13;51;12 - 01;14;13;01
Unknown
And, thank you very much. I get the fuck out of here, and I just. Oh, stupid. I had to do that, man. Yeah, you had to, bro. That was very. That was, that was a mic drop below Marius. Oh, my God. But I did, though, and I when I say that, I really mean I heard something interesting on this on a YouTube channel.

01;14;13;01 - 01;14;29;04
Unknown
And they were saying, like, you know, there's there's actual power in comfortably being able to sit in intimacy, you know, let's say, like, you know, a lot of people, let's say you're talking to a girl that you like or you're approaching a girl that you don't know that you think is cute, who looked at you from across the bar?

01;14;29;04 - 01;14;55;03
Unknown
Like, like I'm gonna do it over there, and here we go. And you're on these things, and you get there and, you know, you know, I became so much more comfortable with that kind of scenario where you're walking up, where you're approaching a stranger, and the nature of the conversation is flirtatious just off jump. And then maybe you start building some rapport.

01;14;55;03 - 01;15;21;03
Unknown
And there there's like an intent, let's say in a club like this, it's like there's an intensity to the conversation. We're kind of seeing where this is going to go, even if it's just a like conversation. Is there something here? Is it maybe goes deeper, maybe just right. And, you know, sometimes you do see things getting deep and intense and stuff and it's like it's a nice practice to be able to remain zen, to remain calm in those in those moments, you're nothing like, oh, what's going to.

01;15;21;05 - 01;15;38;28
Unknown
Oh, she look at me like this. So she okay. Oh she's touching her hair. But to just kind of just do you and not worry about it. You know, there's a certain stoicism that you get from being in those environments where, like, let's say next, you find yourself in the hip hop club, which is a very much seen be seen, who's looking at me?

01;15;39;03 - 01;15;57;21
Unknown
You know, social stress, anxiety. Oh, I'm a fly enough. I'm like, oh, she checking me out? Might say something. You know, in the club like that, people can just kind of censor Zen this. You're not really frazzled by what's going on. And I think people will find that interesting about your energy and approach you maybe. Right. You know, that's actually a very interesting way of breaking that down.

01;15;57;21 - 01;16;13;23
Unknown
Yeah. Because, you know, again, you in that situation, obviously it feels out of pocket in some sense. But then as you in the pocket you kind of get comfortable to what you're saying. It's almost like in almost like comedy bro. And being on stage like it's you get comfortable with the silence at some point because you know, you've built the tension, right.

01;16;13;23 - 01;16;33;25
Unknown
This is part of where you're going with it, right? Right. You know, you kind of just able to sit in the pocket in and be clear minded and be able to feel this like potential intimate connection without it freaking you out or giving you social anxiety. Right. You know, or like, you know, whatever. You know, nervousness is in such.

01;16;33;28 - 01;17;02;01
Unknown
That's a good as point. Yeah, but I never really thought about it like that. Oh. So. All right, so I got a question I want to ask you. Right. Sure. If someone was to if someone was deciding to move to Berlin, what would be the top three advice you give to somebody moving to Berlin? Like, what would be the thing you would tell them, like, in terms of what to expect, what to do, what to look out for, what to explore.

01;17;02;03 - 01;17;16;14
Unknown
Okay. This is like like outside of a job, for example, just outside of a job, just in general, just in terms of like if someone wants to come to Berlin and get the full or get somewhat of the experience of Berlin, and they'll just be hanging out for three months or something, three months, enough time to kind of explore, enjoy it.

01;17;16;14 - 01;17;34;15
Unknown
Yeah. Right. Right. Sure. And they got the apartment hooked up in everything. They just. What do I do? Yeah. The money I got, the apartment, they got the animal dung. They got everything. They got it set up. Damn, that's a good question. And if I wasn't here, you just go navigate your life in Berlin. This is what to do?

01;17;34;16 - 01;17;55;04
Unknown
Yeah. Just like, you know. Damn, that's a good question. So I would I would, first of all, I set people up for the expectation of, like, you know, this. The city has, you know, prides itself on anti culture, right? So you don't see high heels in Berlin. That is. Wow. Yeah. I don't think I've seen it strip.

01;17;55;07 - 01;18;14;25
Unknown
Right, right. Sometimes from time to time you know. But not in any of the dance clubs or comedy clubs. You see anybody in high heels and if they got heels or not, heels, heels, you know. So yeah, it's a very much anti culture city. Like the whole corporate style is not really is kind of frowned upon.

01;18;14;25 - 01;18;36;12
Unknown
You know, the whole, you know, extra super done up pretty may. I don't even know what you call this style but like very well done up, pretty makeup, feminine style, like a lot of makeup and high heels and super pretty dresses and like, nice is very much comfort. First casual culture. You'll see it reflected in the best clubs you go to in New York, LA.

01;18;36;13 - 01;18;51;22
Unknown
You got to have the right shoes on, the hard shoes you got, have a button up here, got it. So you got to even look at least relatively handsome in a place like Miami. If you're not even handsome or pretty, you're not even getting into hell. Nah. Aside from the swag, you know? Right. Berlin is the complete opposite.

01;18;51;25 - 01;19;18;17
Unknown
We want to, you know, it's much more down to earth, you know? Didn't, you know, like, rejection of, like, that whole corporate autocracy, aristocracy, rich kind of thing. So we want to see you in some shoes that look like you're ready to dance to some techno and get shoes stepped on tonight, you know, do like, you know, we, you know, we want to see that, yeah, that you kind of fit the culture of what's happening in here.

01;19;18;20 - 01;19;39;26
Unknown
This is the kind of station where we put cameras over both your phones, because it's about to get in. Both your cameras is about to get ratcheting here. Yeah, right. And, well, dress the dress reflecting that you're ready to sweat. Ready to dance. Now I have a good time. Look like you know what's going on, you know, so I would say be prepared for that if you want to go out, have a good time, experience some cool Berlin shit.

01;19;39;28 - 01;20;03;12
Unknown
I would, I would say be prepared for that. I would also say Let's see. It's a cash only society. Bring cash or be ready to pull out, pull out cash when you get there. You know be ready for that. It's going to freak you out. How often like people aren't going to take card here.

01;20;03;14 - 01;20;21;02
Unknown
You go back to the U.S. I'm sure we got homies that haven't used cash in years. All right. That trips me out because that also is like, well, what the fuck is happening over there? I've been home and locked up. I mean, I haven't lived there long enough to really experience that, but, yeah, cash society. Yeah.

01;20;21;03 - 01;20;43;17
Unknown
In Berlin specifically. But, yeah, I would say if you, if you, if you can ride a bike and if you're here, let's say three months in the summertime, get a bike, yo, get a bicycle. It's going to increase your quality of life the way you see the city, experience the city, interact with it, fly through the breeze in your hair, seeing all the pretty people above ground and stuff like that.

01;20;43;17 - 01;21;00;24
Unknown
You'll get to take the the as I say, the tube I was about to say the subway now never lived in either of those cities. You're watching the Uber on what's happening? Yeah. What's happening? Yeah. Who am I? And, yeah, you also get to take the Uber, which is great. You get see the people. But there's just something magical about bicycle in the summertime in Berlin.

01;21;00;24 - 01;21;22;00
Unknown
Yeah. Definitely. So be ready for the anti culture. What was the other one. No. Yeah. Cash base aside, cash base society, get a bike in the summertime and you'll be on your way to fucking a new. You, man. Yes, a new you. And be ready for Kit Kat. Definitely. Definitely ready to find yourself on the street.

01;21;22;01 - 01;21;37;06
Unknown
Another episode, bro. I think it'd be. I mean, I would love to talk more deeply about that. Just about the introspective part of it. Right. And the fun that was had I mean, yeah, let's. Yeah, let's do another episode about an episode. Yeah. We can invite a few people. We can all have different experiences, talk about it.

01;21;37;06 - 01;21;52;05
Unknown
And you could do a series even, of just one on one interviews and you could it could be a whole series even. Yeah, because I'm sure it's. I'm sure it's different from. Oh, I don't know what happened. I met this dude. Like, when you. Right. When he got here, he already had a committed girlfriend. Like, how did you do that so fast, bro?

01;21;52;05 - 01;22;10;29
Unknown
Yeah, that is true. It's different for all of us. I'm sure. I'm sure Tyrone's got different experiences. Yeah, I got different spears. Daniel allows different. Oh, right. And we're all from different places, different parts of the diaspora or the home or the motherland. So. Could be interesting. That's a series. I mean bro, this is he going to be seeing more of this guy right here.

01;22;10;29 - 01;22;26;25
Unknown
I mean usually in the first, you know on the or one of the early episodes. Yeah. Now you on this one. So this will definitely be handled better in terms of this will be on YouTube. Sure. There's where we grow and we learn it. Yeah, yeah. I feel like even this one, we even just know each other a bit better.

01;22;26;25 - 01;22;48;02
Unknown
And so we even flow better in this one than I think the first one. Yeah. Like we said we would. Yeah. Bro. And yeah, that, that, that part with the one that was funny that was dude. So at the time it was, it was like my comedy mind was like, oh shit, this shit is building up.

01;22;48;02 - 01;23;08;15
Unknown
I could say that, couldn't I? Yeah, that would be wild. So, oh. Then again, it's like that. It's like. It's like, I wouldn't even say that I'm super liberal, just as open as I am and silly as I am that conservative black America. So I was like, Nick, you can't you can't let it out that for too long.

01;23;08;15 - 01;23;25;23
Unknown
Yeah. I was like, oh yeah. Oh, you know, I mean, what do you, you, you caught up with that? She was fucking hilarious, man. Bro, this is a good time talking, man. Definitely gotta do more of this. You know, appreciate it dude. And yeah, you know, let me know whenever you want. Come back on. Absolutely. Thank you so much for having me.

01;23;25;23 - 01;23;41;25
Unknown
Let me talk my shit. Go. Yeah. No problem bro. I learned a lot more. Good. Likewise, man. So thank you. I like hearing about you, too. Thank you. And guys, thank you for listening and are watching to the third culture part, Third Culture Talk podcast. I'm your boy. Nya Yeanafehn. this is Justin small. And I'll see you guys in the next one.

01;23;41;26 - 01;23;43;10
Unknown
Peace, peace.