Conflict, Connection & The “You, Me & We"

In this episode, we sit down with Obi and Peju for a refreshingly real conversation about what actually holds a marriage together when the “new relationship glow” fades. From the very start, they share how their relationship was built on friendship first, the kind of foundation that keeps you connected through kids, careers, changing seasons, and everything life throws at you.

They unpack the idea of rediscovering each other over time (because you don’t stay the same person you were when you first fell in love), and why rediscovering yourself is just as important if you want to love someone well. The chat gets practical as they talk about conflict styles, how differences don’t have to become deal-breakers, and what it looks like to work through tension without losing the relationship. 

And just when you think it can’t get deeper, they share one of their most powerful tools: creating a marriage mission statement / “marriage manifesto” — a North Star that helps them stay intentional about what matters most. It’s honest, funny in places, and full of takeaways for anyone dating, engaged, newly married, or trying to strengthen what they’ve already built.

Obi & Peju (The Jedi & Spark Show)

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Kathryn Wilson

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