How Do You Want To Feel This Year?

Have you ever had an epiphany in the shower, one of those moments that shift the way you see everything? I certainly did, and it led me down a path to discovering the sheer delight of self-celebration and the realization that we are not projects waiting to be fixed. During this candid conversation, I unwrap the layers of personal growth and share the intimate details of a solo dinner—an act of self-acknowledgment for the strides I've made over the last year. It's not just about patting ourselves on the back; it's about being truly present in our own story, cherishing every step we take, and doing so free from the digital world's relentless tug.

This heartfelt discourse then cozies into the warm embrace of self-care and its pivotal role in our lives, regardless of the season. Discover how this personal practice is less about indulgence and more about the profound impact it has on our interactions and life's trajectory. I recount a day led purely by intuition and the revitalizing power it unleashed, setting the stage for you to consider your own self-care rituals. And, as we meander through our yearnings for joy, passion, and love, I extend an invitation to join me in setting intentions that resonate with our deepest desires. Together, let's forge a path towards a 2024 brimming with happiness and an unwavering commitment to our well-being.

Chapters

• 0:00 Importance of Self-Celebration and Personal Growth
• 5:20 Prioritizing Self-Care for Personal Happiness
• 10:10 Focus on Desired Emotions

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:59

I hadn't intended to release another episode until next Tuesday, since I just launched yesterday, but I was in the shower this morning and I always get all kinds of crazy awesome ideas when I'm in the shower. I believe Actually I know it's because I'm completely out of my head when I'm in the shower, because I have music playing and I'm dancing and the water's flowing and I'm just completely out of my head. So this morning I decided after my shower or while I was in my shower, that I wanted to talk about the new year, and this is pretty important to me. I feel pretty passionate about the fact that it doesn't matter that it's a new year, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter that it's the first day of the month, it doesn't matter that it's Monday, it doesn't matter. None of that matters. What matters is that if there's something that you want to be different in your life, that you make a decision, that you want something to change, there's nothing wrong with you. You don't need to be fixed, you're not broken. But if you want your life to look different, you've got to do something about it. Otherwise you're in the same spot next year and you're reflecting back on your previous year and you're beating yourself up about the things that you didn't get done and all of that. And then you're setting new resolutions for the upcoming year, and then a week or two passes and something happens in your life that you make an excuse that you're not able to do this or that, and then another day passes, and another day passes and then you're just sitting there beating yourself up about all of these things that you didn't get done. In my opinion, one of the most important things that I believe everyone should focus on is how do they want to feel, how do you want to feel in this moment, how do you want to feel throughout every single day, and what can you do to make sure that you are feeling good?

Speaker 1: 3:17

Most of the time Not all of the time we all have things that come up that throw us off, but we also have the ability to recenter ourselves and find the things that make us feel good. I was driving home from work tonight and I was hungry and I was thinking that I didn't really want to come home and cook dinner, and so I decided that I was going to take myself out to dinner and I thought you know what a great idea. I'm going to take myself out to dinner and I'm going to celebrate me. I'm going to celebrate what a freaking awesome 2023 I had. There were a lot of ups and downs for me throughout the year, but so much personal growth, a lot of growth in several areas of my life. I met a ton of amazing people this year in various communities that I've been a part of, and it was just a really amazing year, and I know that 2024 is going to be a magical year of more growth and love and passion, because feeling good is one of the absolute most important things to me and I wanted to celebrate that.

Speaker 1: 4:36

How often do you go out and celebrate yourself? Do you ever go out to dinner by yourself or out to eat by yourself? That's not something I ever used to do before, but it's pretty empowering when you do it. And I didn't take out my phone the entire time. I didn't just go out to eat by myself and sit on my phone the whole time. I literally put my phone in my purse. There was a football game on, so I did watch that for a little bit, but then I just sat and enjoyed my dinner and thought about the things that I was really proud of myself for For doing and accomplishing this last year, and I thought about some things that I'm interested in doing for this upcoming year, and I was just really present present with myself.

Speaker 1: 5:21

So I think that what I'm really interested in sharing with you today is that it doesn't matter that it's a new year. What matters is you. You are important and how you want your life to look is important, and if you want something to be different, then figure out what that is. Other people don't get to decide your life for you. Sometimes it might feel that way, but it's really about you and how you feel, because if you're feeling really crappy about yourself, you're not gonna show up in your relationships the way you want to. You're not gonna show up in your life the way you want to, because when you feel good inside, you show up differently 100% of the time.

Speaker 1: 6:16

I know that when I'm not feeling good about myself or what I'm doing, I will take it out on other people. I mean, I think that's us being human, you know. But when you feel good inside and when you feel like you have a little more control over your life even though there's things going on around you that are out of your control and you can find your peace and calm and grounding within yourself, then that is huge, because then all the crap that's going on around you, it doesn't matter as much, because you feel good within yourself, your body. So when things come up, ask yourself questions like why is that really bothering me? What's going on with me? Because, generally speaking, what's going on with you doesn't have anything to do with other people, and what's going on with other people usually doesn't have anything to do with you, and so we tend to project onto usually the people we care about the most what's bothering us. And you know, maybe somebody did do something. I mean, that does happen sometimes, but a lot of times it has to do with how we're feeling about ourselves, and that's important to remember when you're moving throughout your day. And if, ultimately, what we want is to feel good, then what can we do throughout the day to create that feeling? What are things that you love to do? What are things that make you feel good? Is it just simply listening to music? Music makes me feel good. I'm a huge music person, you know connecting with a friend if I'm upset or I just need to talk or vent or whatever.

Speaker 1: 8:11

The other day I was feeling a little bit off. I was a little nervous about launching the podcast and I had a ton of things I needed to do and I decided to just follow my intuition throughout my day and I got up and I decided to go for it. I was like, oh, it'd be kind of fun to go for a walk. It was a beautiful morning. I went for a walk. It ended up being like almost 60 degrees and I'm in Seattle, so that was weird for the end of December and then I went and grabbed a coffee and chatted with a friend. And then I came home and I had moments throughout my day where I was crying happy tears. I had moments in my day where I was crying sad tears. But I needed to move that energy in my body because I just spent the whole day reading and connecting and just doing things that felt good for me. I absolutely had a list of things I needed to be doing, should have been doing whatever, but I knew that I needed that moment and that time to connect with myself and just be. And then the next day was incredible. I had so much done and I felt so good because I obviously needed that release, that space, that peace, and you need that too. We all need that.

Speaker 1: 9:45

A lot of times, we think that we don't have time. I don't have time for this, I don't have time for that, I don't have time to do things for myself, I don't matter, it's not important, I need to take care of everybody else. But that's not true. It's simply not true, because if you're not taking care of the things that make you feel good, you're just not going to be able to show up for everybody else. So what's one thing that you can do for yourself each day?

Speaker 1: 10:11

Focus on how you want to feel. How do you want to feel every single day, and do things that will make you feel good, to help you just navigate through life, you know. So I just wanted to remind you that it doesn't matter that it's a new year. What matters is you and how you want to feel, and if you want your life to look a little bit different, that is absolutely okay. But what's not okay is to not do anything about it, because you are important and you matter and your life is important, and how you view your life is important and how you live your life is important because it's your life, it's your life and sometimes things don't happen as quickly as we want them to, and we have to find patience and trust that things are going to work out exactly as they're meant to, because you really are where you're meant to be in this moment.

Speaker 1: 11:12

Sometimes it doesn't feel like that's an easy thing to believe, but things happen as they're meant to. But you have the power within you to make changes If you want to. If you want to change things in your life, you absolutely have that power. It just takes little steps every single day and I believe it all starts with how do you want to feel? So how do you want to feel in 2024? It's not necessarily a resolution, it's just a daily practice of how do I want to feel today. In this moment, I want more passion, more love, more fun, and so I navigate through my day like what can I do to feel those things and feel good in my body? I hope you have an amazing 2024 and I hope you do the things that fill you up and bring you joy and make you feel good every single day. Have a beautiful, beautiful day, much love.