Beliefs, the Sh*t Pit and Living a Soul-Led Life: A Live Q&A with Julia Christine

In this special episode, I am joined by intuitive healer and dear friend Julia Christine for a live Q&A with the podcast community. This follow-up to last week’s soul-led conversation dives deeper into what it really means to live a soul-led life, how our thoughts shape our beliefs, and how to shift out of judgment, anger, and frustration- without bypassing what’s real.

You’ll hear wisdom on:

• Reclaiming your power by shifting thought patterns
• Why anger isn’t bad - and how it can be your ally
• Letting go of inherited beliefs and stepping into your truth
• Feeling your feelings without getting stuck in them
• The infamous “sh*t pit” metaphor (yes, really)

It’s a lively, expansive, and grounded chat full of truth, humor, and love.

🔮 Plus, a live card pull from The Magic of What If deck closes it all out beautifully.

🎁 Don’t forget to register for the free workshop:   https://linktr.ee/purepossibilities

The Return To You guided audio is an exclusive gift to the listeners of the show!  Click the link to connect you to the private podcast!  https://podcast.purepossibilities.net/returntoyou

Chapters

• 1:57 Welcome and Workshop Invitation
• 3:40 Living a Soul-Led Life Explained
• 11:54 The Power of Thoughts and Emotions
• 19:53 Understanding Anger as an Ally
• 31:43 Breaking Free from Judgment
• 41:43 The Power of Laughter and Shifting Focus
• 49:43 Simple Thought-Shifting Exercise
• 58:46 Final Thoughts and Closing

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:59

Welcome back to the Pure Possibilities podcast. Before we dive in, I want to invite you to a free live workshop that I'm hosting on Wednesday, july 16th, called why Is Everyone Talking About Nervous System Regulation? This came up for me a couple weeks ago and I thought it would be a wonderful idea to create a safe space to talk about it. We will explore what nervous system regulation really means, why everyone's talking about it and how it applies to your daily life in a real and grounded way. I hope you can join us. You can register at the link below in the show description. Now for today's episode.

Speaker 1: 1:35

I am so excited to share a replay from a recent live Q&A with my dear friend, julia Christine. After last week's episode, she came on to our weekly live Q&A in the podcast community on Facebook and she answered some beautiful questions from source. We talked about living a soul-led life and what that actually means releasing judgment, working with anger, the power of our thoughts and how your beliefs create your experience, plus a few unexpected detours. It's vulnerable. It's deep, lighthearted and full of magic, and if you would like to become a part of our free community, the link for that is also in the show description. You just answer a few questions and you can be a part of our community.

Speaker 1: 2:23

I go in there live every week. Normally, the Q&As aren't as long as this one, however. It is full of juicy, juicy nuggets and I offer reflection questions each week based off of the episodes, and answer any questions that you have. So please feel free to join us. All right, let's dive in. So I started a thing a couple weeks ago called Fun Hair Friday. So this is my fun hair for today Fun Hair Friday. This is my fun hair Friday.

Speaker 1: 2:51

Nice, nice, pretty much my fun hair every day. And then I've got my new what if hat, so that's fun.

Speaker 2: 2:58

If I looked better in baseball caps I would be buying one, but I don't, so I'm not. But I am going to get that journal. That's right there. I love a hardback journal.

Speaker 1: 3:09

This one right here, that one right there. Yeah, awesome, it's lined right, it's lined Okay. Yeah definitely. Yeah, I've got all my stuff, and then some beautiful flowers from my sister. Oh, how lovely, beautiful flowers from my sister.

Speaker 2: 3:26

Oh, how lovely the smaller that one.

Speaker 1: 3:28

right there You're so funny.

Speaker 1: 3:32

Yeah, she has a neighbor that puts little bouquets together, and so she gave me one when I was there the other day. So Very cool, all right. Well, welcome everyone. This is my dear friend Julia, and if you're here, please say hello. I wanted to start with a couple of announcements. The first one is I am hosting a free workshop called why Is Everyone Talking About Nervous System Regulation on Wednesday, july 16th, at 5 pm Pacific, 8 o'clock Eastern. I will drop the link so that you can register totally free, and it's going to be just a little over an hour. It's going to be amazing. So I hope you come and join us and then the link will have all the things. If you want to grab your merch, register for the free workshop. Whatever, it'll all be in that link. So I will. I feel like every time I try and do that when I'm actually in here. Maybe it will let me.

Speaker 2: 4:28

It's like no, you're, you're going live right now. Don't try to do too much, my love.

Speaker 1: 4:32

Oh, we have some visitors Welcome.

Speaker 2: 4:35

Good morning Good afternoon.

Speaker 1: 4:37

For those of you who are not on the West coast, Julia is in Brooklyn.

Speaker 2: 4:41

I am in Brooklyn, it's one o'clock, it's 85 degrees and beautiful outside Nice.

Speaker 1: 4:47

You know this is so fun. Thank you for inviting yourself onto the Q&A. It's been a while since we've done this and it's always so much fun, so thank you Absolutely. Thank you, let's see Says hi friend, I miss you, I miss, thank you, thank you. Let's see, says hi friend, I miss you, I miss you too.

Speaker 2: 5:08

Call me. I'm still on what's it called Marco Polo, marco Polo, yeah, marco Polo, me All right.

Speaker 1: 5:15

Okay. So we are obviously doing a live Q&A with Julia today and we thank you so much for coming and joining us. So if anyone has any questions that they would like to ask I didn't see any posted yesterday. So if you have any and you're here, obviously we have several people here live. So thank you for joining us. Go ahead and drop your questions in the comments. I'm going to go, because there's often a delay. I'm going to go ahead and start with a question. So in this week's episode you referenced sorry, that's okay, I know you're doing two things at once.

Speaker 2: 5:57

Don't worry about it.

Speaker 1: 5:58

Next week. I have belly dancing at that time. How fun is that Amazing.

Speaker 2: 6:04

Amazing. I love it.

Speaker 1: 6:07

Go ahead and register and you'll get a copy of the replay. Okay, so in the episode this week you referenced living, a soul led life. Yes, and what does that look like? Like? Please tell us.

Speaker 2: 6:22

Oh, wow, it's amazing, it's jarring and it's phenomenal.

Speaker 1: 6:30

Okay.

Speaker 2: 6:31

So when you live a soul led life, what that literally means is that you're connected to yourself, like the whole episode is about, and how to do that and all those things, and reconnecting to the things that are important to who you are, realizing what is true for you, what fits for you, and moving forward in whatever direction based on that, let's say, new information, because, as we talked about, we are so trained and informed from infancy about what is right, about what our truths actually are, and so, as we come into adults and I honestly believe that it takes us 40 years to get there that's why so many women in their 40s are like I am so unhappy, I need to do something else, whether it's work or just their regular lives or whatever. I don't think it's a crisis. I literally think it's us being like hold up a second, nothing fits anymore. I need to be comfortable. This is my life and la la la. Sorry, I'm tangenting. Okay.

Speaker 1: 7:30

Tangent away.

Speaker 2: 7:32

And so what living a soul led life literally is is allowing yourself to make decisions that aren't influenced by what society says is the right thing. What our parents have taught us to be, what our grandparents, what our culture has said is our religions, our political affiliations, all of that stuff Society, like what we read, what magazines we look at, like what music we listen to, all of that has influence on us. And so, not stopping all that, I'm not saying stop being political, stop listening to music. Trust me, I'm not saying that, but what I am saying is I would have a problem if you did say that I'm just saying I would be doing it myself, that's for sure.

Speaker 2: 8:15

But stepping away for just a second and asking yourself what feels good, what fits, what doesn't, and getting curious about what would it look like if I didn't believe that? What if I didn't? You know, like that I have to be honest. I use what if all of the time and I'm so grateful for you bringing that into my existence, because there isn't anything more true than what if?

Speaker 2: 8:47

And our society, what ifs? Into a nightmare all of the time and rather than a space of curiosity, exactly, and what if this and what if this? I call it nightmaring and actually I think actually I stole that from Abraham. But I have literally been walking down the street. We are all good at this, but we create stories and I create this like, well, well then, this is I mean, I need to have this conversation and it's going to be intense and this is how it's going to go, and it's never positive, and I will literally be walking down the street in the middle of Brooklyn and like gather up those thoughts from above my head and throw them away because it hasn't happened.

Speaker 2: 9:24

I heard once that anxiety and worry. Well, this is true. This isn't what I heard. Anxiety and worry is just fear of the future, fear of the unknown, fear of what hasn't happened yet and since it hasn't happened yet, it's completely out of your control, so why would you put your power into being afraid of that? But what I heard was worry is literally praying for something bad to happen, and I was like, oh, wow, and it's true, because we are focusing on it and, as we talked about in the episode, wherever we put our focus. If we're focusing on something for more than 17 seconds, law of attraction is going to start reacting to that and bringing more of that into your existence, and initially it's just going to be more of that and bringing more of that into your existence, and initially it's just going to be more of those not good feeling feelings, not good feeling thoughts, and then from there, if you focus on it for quite a bit more than that, then that's when it starts to bring physical manifestations.

Speaker 2: 10:16

That takes some time you have to have a very focused thought for that to start coming into your life.

Speaker 2: 10:20

It's not like I have this thought and then all of a sudden, something like you're going to get by car, you know it's not like that and and but what is? 17 seconds and you're going to have another thought that is that matches that negative thought. That matches that negative thought. That matches that negative thought and because that's like you actually said in the episode it's magnetic and that is law of attraction. And unfortunately, law of attraction isn't biased. It's based on what you're focused on. So when you have thoughts here's the thing when you notice that you don't feel good, we are totally off subject of your question. But I'm going to finish this.

Speaker 1: 10:58

When you notice that you feel like crap. We're being led where we're meant to go.

Speaker 2: 11:03

Say that again. I said, when you notice that you feel like crap, then you know you're thinking about something that is making you feel bad, and that is the power of our emotions. That's what I mean when I say that emotions are our GPS, because you notice that and you go oh, I'm in the wrong direction, because I don't want to feel bad, so I need to shift my thought. My thought will shift my emotion. My thought, if I keep on thinking it for 17 seconds, that feels better than whatever I was thinking is going to bring more better into my life, which is just going to get better and better and better, even though it's just thoughts in the beginning. Thoughts equals emotions, and now, all of a sudden, I feel better.

Speaker 2: 11:42

Yeah, so that is what I mean by a soul led life is paying attention to those, to those emotions, paying attention to how something feels, how it resonates with you, and following that, and not just the things that our society, our family, all of the beliefs that we have have led us to believe. And just because I want to just clarify something, beliefs are allowed to change, beliefs are allowed to shift and they don't have to like we addressed in the episode. But a belief is literally a thought that you think a whole bunch. And, like we've just established, when you think something a whole bunch you start to receive evidence of that, whether it's good or bad, and so you are generating the evidence. And once you have evidence now you have proof you believe it even more.

Speaker 2: 12:32

And so then you believe it even more. And so, if you are believing someone else's belief, you're believing someone else's thoughts, you're believing someone else's manifestations, someone else's thoughts, you're believing someone else's manifestations. And so that's where you look at those beliefs that you've held, that you've learned from your family, who love you and who have passed those beliefs onto you with every best intention. But they're not you. You are uniquely you, and so that doesn't mean that those beliefs are going to fit. And that's when you say, huh, does that? And you get curious does that belief still fit me? Am I believing that because that's what my mom manifested in her life, or her mom manifested in hers, etc. Etc. Etc.

Speaker 1: 14:34

I believe I've never heard anybody say that you're living someone else's manifestation and that like just kind of hit me so wow it's crazy, right?

Speaker 2: 14:40

Yeah, don't think about it, though, because you just think about belief as a belief. You don't think about a belief as a repetitive thought. It becomes a belief once you have so much focus on it, right.

Speaker 1: 14:49

And then again.

Speaker 2: 14:50

So much focus on it, and then again you get proof, and then, oh, you can't yeah Once we have proof.

Speaker 1: 15:02

It's hard to go back, even when it's negative.

Speaker 2: 15:03

Well, and even if there's a deeper knowing within you that you know it's not true, but you're still believing it Because you're getting evidence of it, because you're so focused on it. And so that's where you can pull yourself out of that, by shifting your thoughts. And it sounds so Give me a break, julia. That's not true, because once there's a belief, it's an established thought and so literally, it all comes back to habit. You're in the habit of thinking that way. You're in the habit of thinking that there are evil forces against you. I promise you there's not. That's not my belief. I know that is not true. There is no such thing, but we have believed that for centuries as a society, as religions, plural, as all of the things. Not true. There are no evil forces against you. When something bad happens, it's not because the enemy is against you, it's literally yeah, so you get to shift your thoughts.

Speaker 1: 16:08

Well, and then I do the work of working with people to regulate their nervous system so that they'm talking about, like taking control of your thoughts and shifting your thoughts.

Speaker 2: 16:38

all of that is still backed and supported by what you're doing, and vice versa. It's simply that I'm looking at it from a much more spiritual place and you're looking at it from a much more physical place. And good, because we are both spiritual and physical beings, and so that's necessary.

Speaker 1: 16:53

Well, in the work that I do, I also there is a lot of spiritual and energetic Absolutely Brought into it as well Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 17:00

And I'm so aware of that. But talking about it neurologically is something that is so far out of my scope. It's like, yeah, I don't care, I want you to be, I want you to feel good, I don't care what your brain's doing.

Speaker 1: 17:10

And when you're rewiring your beliefs and shifting them, it's super uncomfortable, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 17:19

And so to move through that discomfort, yeah absolutely no, I'm absolutely not criticizing, but for me it was like oh, okay, okay, this makes sense, okay, okay.

Speaker 1: 17:35

Okay, I was able to, like, move forward. We have a question. Um, we are going to catch up a little bit here, okay. So exactly, who decided supposed to and should question mark? Question mark yeah, curiosity is the key. Deja is here. Hello, you're back. Yay, and I love the idea that beliefs can shift and change and living someone else's manifestation, oh my gosh. Yes, yeah, all right, so we still don't have any questions. So I know, but this is beautiful already, so we're just going to keep rolling. But y'all, she's here for you.

Speaker 2: 18:13

So whatever you want to ask, like literally nothing's off the table. Okay, so here's a question. Oh, I didn't mean you, jen, no, I'm just kidding.

Speaker 1: 18:26

So when we say ask source, ask universal, like, what, like? What does that mean? Like maybe they're not understanding what.

Speaker 2: 18:39

Okay, yeah, okay, okay, cool. I'm like let me analyze and make sure I know which approach I want to take. Um, because there's a lot of different levels of understanding, like comprehend, like not comprehending, but like no, actually I'm not going to lie, because me understanding some of the stuff that I understand now is like like I didn't know my brain could handle that kind of like because it's so different from the knowledge and the learning that we have growing up, and like how the universe works and all the science and all that stuff Not that the science is wrong, it's just bigger than that. And so, like, our brains are sometimes like whoa. So I'm not going to take out comprehending, but like we're starting at basics.

Speaker 2: 19:19

And so remember that that inner voice, that inner being, that that person who is the you inside of you, is source energy. If you are into chakras, your crown, no, no, your uh, third eye chakra, which is where your inner being is right, everybody, everybody talks about your third eye is where you connect to your inner being. I would invite you to replace that with this is your connection to source. Your third eye is your connection to source energy, to God, to whatever word you use for that being, or energy.

Speaker 2: 20:02

And, yes, that is your inner being, that's the same thing. And because you are source energy, you are an extension of source energy. I am, they are, everybody are an extension of source energy. I am, they are, everybody is, all of us are. And so when we tune in to that inner being, to that inner voice, we are literally connecting to source energy.

Speaker 2: 20:28

And, as I said in the podcast and will say over and over and over again, there is nothing in this universe but well-being. All energy is good energy, all energy is well-being and love and all of the things that we associate with goodness, all of it. Well, that's not true. I know people who have negative energy. Blah, blah, blah, blah. You know all of the things. There's war, there's all the things. Cool, and it's still true.

Speaker 2: 20:54

And when you feel bad, when someone says like let's say that you're in an argument and somebody accuses you of something, and you're like, oh my God, and it hurts and you're offended and all of those things, that reaction, that visceral, physical reaction, is proof.

Speaker 2: 21:12

It is following that GPS of feeling that feels bad, because it is complete opposite of who you know you are. That person would never say that about God. That person would never say that and that's who you are. And so when you feel bad about yourself again, if you can catch yourself and stop and realize you're feeling bad about yourself, you are in conflict, you are in complete opposition to the you that is you, that is source, and that's where you can release some of that and realize that you are love, that you are incredible, that when you speak poorly of yourself, it hurts because it's not true. It doesn't feel good because it's not true. And so, to specifically answer your question, connecting to source means feeling good, because that's all there is is feeling good. And if you're not feeling good, what are you thinking about?

Speaker 1: 22:17

Shift your thoughts and then you're not connected.

Speaker 2: 22:20

Well, no no, no, you're not in. Alignment is a word we like to use. We're not in, we're not. Our vibrational frequencies aren't matching. We're out of vibrational frequency with who we truly are, with source energy. You are always connected and when you don't feel connected, it's because you need to shift your thoughts, it's because you don't feel good. It doesn't feel good to not feel connected. So, holding on to that tether, to that knowledge, even if it's like I don't totally believe this, but I love Julia so I'm going to believe her, I am still connected. It doesn't feel like it, I feel like I'm drowning, but I have a line, I have a lifeline. How do I shift my thoughts? How do I make a joke out of this? How do I get mad so I don't feel so out of control and consciously make that choice? It opens you up to another conscious choice and I'm not kidding before you know it, you're out of it. You're breathing again.

Speaker 1: 23:24

Yeah, you know, it's interesting, We've talked. Obviously we talk all the time just every day.

Speaker 1: 23:32

And you know I have mentioned that I haven't felt as connected as I would like to and that I'm not necessarily hearing what I want to be hearing, or that's not the right word, but I know what you mean. But I feel like it's because I, I I'm forcing it rather than allowing it, because we've talked about how, like I have you know, to get to where I am now. I was just following the little nudges and doing all the things and just going on my way, but it wasn't. It doesn't seem like it was intentional, although clearly it was.

Speaker 2: 24:14

But now.

Speaker 1: 24:15

I like I have these desires and these things, and so I'm like, almost like wanting to make it happen rather than allowing it to happen. So I want to talk to you about you separately.

Speaker 2: 24:30

I love you, but this isn't for everybody, but I have, I have things to tell you. The important part about everything you just said is forcing versus allowing, and I want to replace the word forcing with trying yeah, with feeling like you have. And, trust me, this is something, and that's why I said, when you asked me what it feels like to have a soul led life there was a word that I use that I was like I didn't say challenging, but I was like, oh, sometimes it's really uncomfortable and that's because the human part of us, how we've been raised since the moment we were born, is that you have to do something in order to have a result, that you have to be doing something, and so when we talk about allowing, it is literally doing nothing. So, if you can shift your perspective excuse me that doing nothing is doing something and allow yourself time to do nothing, allow yourself a moment to connect to yourself, which is connecting to source and flow. With that I honestly I don't know if this will help anybody, but I think about and honestly I think I got it from Abraham.

Speaker 2: 25:47

They talk about flowing in like the river right, and so if I literally allow myself to visualize what it would feel like to flow in a river, to float down a river.

Speaker 2: 25:57

I visualize the clouds above me, that I hear, the birds Do you know what I mean? Or the burble of the river, or the Creek that I'm flowing down. And when I find myself asking but, but how, and what about, and things like that, I realize that it's almost like, as I'm flowing down the river, I'm trying to like, grab the reeds, and that means I'm in resistance, because I'm not just allowing myself to flow with that. And when I come up, I actually had a visualization of me, like putting my feet down in the river, and it was like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, don't stop. Remember, pull your feet up. You don't have to think about it, you are protected, you are provided for worthy of flowing and allowing yourself to be. And all of the answers come in at that point, all of the like I said, in like the next logical thing, the next thing that feels the best. You're like okay, I'm going to do this.

Speaker 2: 27:07

And it's like oh, that feels good, I still feel in flow, even though I'm now doing something, and so it's not about trying to connect because, remember, you are connected, period, you are that being, if you want to call it a being, so you don't have to try to connect. It's like plugging oh wow, I'm totally dating myself. It's like plugging a phone into a landline and then trying to keep plugging it in. It's already plugged in. You just got to pick up the receiver.

Speaker 1: 27:33

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 27:35

Do you know what I mean? And so you just have to allow yourself to get into that space and to find those little things that, like I said, practice, practice, asking yourself what you want, what you want. I did that today, when I was getting dressed like you recommended.

Speaker 2: 27:56

How do you feel? I feel amazing. I mean, right, it works and it takes time. It really does. It's going to happen before you know it, but remember that you have I don't know who all is listening but I had 45 years of practicing the complete opposite of hating myself every day, not looking in the mirror. Yeah, I can't tell you. It sounds so egotistical, but it's freaking not. I have spent so much time this past week looking in my mirror and admiring how beautiful I am. Never in my life have I done anything like that. I mean, I talked to you and I'm like I look so good today. I want somebody to compliment me, and they do, and they do Literally, and I that one. Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2: 28:39

Last weekend I was walking and I saw this beautiful woman I already told you this story and I was like, oh my God, look at her body. Like, oh woman, I already told you this story and I was like, oh my God, look at her body. Like oh my gosh, she's got this big butt. She looks amazing, she's got her tummies showing, she's so confident. And I walked up to her and she needed to ask me a question that I didn't know she was going to need and she interrupted her question to be like hold up, you look amazing, you are beautiful. And I was just like, okay, I was just thinking the same thing about you. And Okay, I was just thinking the same thing about you and I was comparing her body to mine instead of embracing my beauty, while she was thinking the same thing and, like we don't give ourselves enough credit, we don't realize how amazing we are and the more you can. I don't know why I started talking about this.

Speaker 1: 29:21

Because somebody needs to hear it. Cool, we all need to hear it.

Speaker 2: 29:25

Cool. We all need to hear it the more you can, the more in alignment you are with that voice, the more because that, because she already knows all of that stuff about you. She already loves and appreciates your beauty. She meaning your inner being and source. That's all there is. That's what they mean. When they say all is well, it doesn mean that the world is perfect, that there's not people dying, that there's not tragedy, that there's not illness. It means that all is well, you're perfect, you're amazing, everything is awesome, awesome.

Speaker 1: 30:07

We have a question. Thank, you for all of that. Julia, that was beautiful. Okay, let's see we're going to catch up a little bit here. So we all teach from a different perspective and way because we all resonate differently. Yes, yes, beautiful.

Speaker 2: 30:25

Which is why it's important not to allow someone else's beliefs to be your beliefs. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 30:33

What kinds of feelings come up and out when we get angry? What are the frequencies that are shifted when hate comes up?

Speaker 2: 30:42

Okay, Hate and anger are the same, I mean meaning that they're the lowest vibrational frequency. Well, anger is not the lowest vibration. Hate, depression, stuff like that Because hate is powerlessness. Hate makes you feel out of control and as humans, as physical beings, we have to feel in control and we start getting depressed because we don't. We start feeling hateful because we feel like we have no control about whatever it is that we are hating.

Speaker 2: 31:24

I want to encourage you to let go. See, this is why vocabulary is so important to me. Let go of all the excuse me, but bullshit that defines those words. Remember, if there is only well-being, if there is no enemy, then hate is an emotion, then hate is an emotion. It's not darkness, it's not. It's not. It doesn't feel good, and that's the important part. But it's not evil. It's not all the things that we have made these words mean. Anger is not bad.

Speaker 2: 31:58

I started saying a while ago, and I heard it from somebody else Anger is your ally, because when you notice that you're feeling angry, literally it's your body saying something's not right, something's not resonating, something needs shifting. And anger when you're angry at something, you are in control. There is power in anger, and so that's why anger feels better than hate or than depression, and so, because depression, again, is powerlessness, and so that's where, if we look at the lowest vibration and then the next higher, it's almost like a scale. And so like I like, like no, I'm trying to use an example, but like, and so when you feel anger, it's really important to just acknowledge it, and when you need to, if it's, if you've been in it for a while, that's when you might need to do that release that like you're talking about and that comes through tears, that comes through screaming, that comes through aggression. If you need to beat something up, I highly recommend kickboxing if you need to beat something up.

Speaker 1: 33:10

In a healthy way. We're talking about healthy.

Speaker 2: 33:12

I don't mean beat someone up, I'm talking about beat up your pillow or a bag or something like that. Whatever that is for you. Sometimes it's going for a run, but be careful, because you don't want to abuse your body. I like to put on music that is for you. Sometimes it's going for a run, but be careful, because you don't want to abuse your body. I like to put on music that is angry music, that there's lots of curse words, that I can jump up and down and that feels good. And so now I've pulled myself out of this anger.

Speaker 2: 33:38

I remember very specifically making that conscious choice to do that. I was really upset because something didn't happen the way it was supposed to and I was mad at this person and I knew I couldn't say anything to them. But at the same time, like I was just and it was like Julia, everything's fine, and I knew that. But I was still upset and I was like I need some angry music. And so I listened to this song. I jumped up and down, I cursed the hell out of it. I imagined my five-year-old little girl jumping on the couch, like all the things, and I got rid of this anger and I had so much fun. And so the song was over and I felt good, right, and at the same time I knew that those thoughts were still right here, and that's where I consciously chose to keep myself busy, to put another song on, to do something else. I could have fallen right back into those thoughts. They were right there. That's where you're in control. That's where you're in control of the anger.

Speaker 2: 34:36

When you notice it, you're like, okay, cool, something's wrong. What's going on? What is affecting me? What am I allowing to affect me to get me to this point? Is it my thoughts? Am I by myself, and stewing about this person's decision that obviously I didn't have control over is making me feel, or I'm allowing it to make me feel, or did somebody just attack me verbally or whatever, and I'm angry about that? And so there's all different ways to get out of that kind of anger and largely honestly forget it. All you got to do is ask yourself of what they said was true. Does it fit? It? Obviously doesn't if you're angry about it.

Speaker 1: 35:15

We had an episode about that, a couple of weeks ago.

Speaker 2: 35:17

So is that true? No, it doesn't fit. Get rid of it.

Speaker 1: 35:21

It's not yours, it it's not yours. Well, and also allowing yourself to process that anger, even just without doing the why first, like, feel through it and then it can give you a little more clarity when you're, when you're looking, I don't even know that I see what you're saying and I I, I absolutely agree that it's important to feel your feelings Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 35:44

If you don't feel them, they're not going to guide you. But not every angry thought, or not every time that you feel anger or offended or any of those things, you don't have to play it all the way through every time. Sometimes you catch it at the beginning so you haven't held on to it. If you're holding on to something, yes, get rid of it, but if it just hits you, sometimes just again saying hold up, is that even true? No, so that's not about me, so I can let it go and it doesn't need the process because I've let it go, because it's gone, it's not there anymore.

Speaker 2: 36:18

And so yes and no, it depends on the situation, it depends on what it is. Is this an old thing that is stirring up old stuff that definitely needs releasing?

Speaker 1: 36:25

This is effectively because of how people treated me in my past.

Speaker 2: 36:29

Yeah, are you pushing it down? Are you pushing it Like, okay, fine, I just, I just have to stomach this and keep going with this person. No, you freaking, don't? You can ask yourself is what they're saying true? And usually, if it doesn't feel good, the answer is going to be no. But I will say, when I first tried this, I felt like an out of body experience, and it was your fault.

Speaker 2: 36:49

I'm not going to lie to you, Because it came on the heels of me, actually taking on what that person said to me when they yelled at me a different time and I called you in tears and you called me back and was like Julia, this has nothing to do with you, this is all about her. And like coming into that, the next time she yelled at me, I let her yell and I just looked at her and thought to myself is what she's saying true? And the answer was no and it was like okay, so she's yelling about me, but it's all about her, so I'm just going to let her keep talking. Whatever, it doesn't have to affect me. And then she said something else. I was like well, is that true? And I was like yeah, that is true, I have changed, but do I want to do anything about it, or is that my choice and I'm moving forward? In my truth, I don't want to change, I don't want to do anything different. So not about me, about her adjusting to the changes I've made or not.

Speaker 1: 37:40

Which is a whole other conversation.

Speaker 2: 37:49

Yeah. And then she said something else and I asked myself is that true? And the answer was no, or was yes, and I was like do I want to change it? I was like I could change that, and so I interrupted her and said you know what? Thank you for bringing that part to my attention. Here's what I'm going to do to try to make sure that that doesn't happen again. This is how I'm going to change my behavior. What is she going to say to that you? This is how I'm going to change my behavior. What is she going to say to that You're going to keep yelling at me after I just said thank you, thank you and.

Speaker 2: 38:09

I shut the whole thing down. I let her go on her diatribe, knowing it had nothing to do with me. But here's the one thing that I'm willing to adjust so that we can remain friends, and I'm going to tell you what that is. And you're okay with that? And now we can go to dinner. You know what I mean? It sounds so simplistic, and here's what I want to tell you it is. It doesn't have to be as big of a deal as we make it Once we start to get consciously aware of how we're feeling. I'm getting angry. I am reacting to this. Okay cool. Why? Okay cool? Is this true? Okay cool, not about me. Or here's what I need to do I need to shift my thoughts, I need to shift my focus. I need to move out of this experience. I need to move away from this, and sometimes here's the thing too, as far as processing anger, sometimes we really need to shift our focus first. I have this example Can I curse? Can I say bad words? I think so.

Speaker 1: 39:06

Okay, I hope everybody's okay. I mean, I don't mind, I don't think Facebook blocks it.

Speaker 2: 39:12

So I mean I'm not gonna go crazy, but like I had somebody, I was talking to somebody and they were talking about being in the shit pit and like I don't know how we're gonna get out of the shit pit. And I think this is such a good analogy. I love it so much. But when you are in the shit pit, all you see is shit. You smell like it, you taste it, it's all over you, all you see is shit. And so how are you going to work through the shit when it's all around you, when it's all you see? So what I say is shift your focus. I'm in a shit pit, julia. What else am I going to focus on? Look up, look at the blue sky, be grateful that there is fresh air out there, Get excited about the next time you get to smell fresh air. And, before you know it, just by shifting your focus remember law of attraction 17 seconds just by shifting your focus, before you know it, you're out of the pit.

Speaker 2: 40:04

If you keep focusing on now that you're out of the pit, you keep focusing on that fresh air, on the amazingness of the universe, on whatever it is that makes you feel good, all of a sudden you're showered. You don't have shit all over you anymore. Now the shit pit still there, still there, still angry about it, whatever that is. But now I'm kind of above it, I'm outside of it and I can look down and be like, oh, that's not as big as I thought it was, or maybe even, oh, that's bigger than I thought it was. That's going to take.

Speaker 2: 40:34

But now I'm in a better place to be able to say how do I want to deal with this? What's the best logical step to get rid of this shit? And sometimes, especially if we're dealing with world stuff and politics, there's nothing we can do about the shit. So why are we wallowing in it? And I'm not saying to turn your eye against it. I'm saying get yourself out of it and then you can analyze if there's anything that you can do that. Is there anything in your power to maybe clean a little bit of that shit up? And there might not be, and that's okay. You know the shit pits there but you're not going to focus on it. And that doesn't mean you're denying your reality. It means that you know it's there but you're focusing on the parts of the reality that make you feel good and those things are just going to expand, and that's the point.

Speaker 1: 41:28

Okay, we got to catch up here.

Speaker 2: 41:29

Sorry, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1: 41:30

No, that's okay, I talk a lot, but isn't that a great analogy? I love it, it is. I've never heard so much. I've never heard you talk about the shit pit.

Speaker 2: 41:39

I can't believe I've not talked to you about the shit pit.

Speaker 1: 41:41

Surprise and delight, okay, okay. So we have love, that self-love, julia, and it's that which exists. To define the other. Anger typically stems from hurt. I love your definitions. Have to watch this again to take notes. Yes, I remember learning in Shannon's program how attached slash addicted, I have been to frustration because it gave me a sense of control and self-righteousness about being right.

Speaker 2: 42:12

And that's beautiful. I'm interrupting. That's beautiful. And then what's next? Recognize that you've made the conscious decision to be frustrated. Instead of being in the shit pit, you're climbing out of it. But there's more. And once you realize there's a consciousness, okay, what feels better than being frustrated? Because it doesn't feel good to be frustrated all the time. So what's the next best thought? What's the next best thing? What makes me feel a little bit better than this? Where do I shift my focus so that I'm not frustrated anymore? What's the next logical step? Tune into yourself and you'll know.

Speaker 1: 42:48

Sorry, thank you, oh it's okay, I love that.

Speaker 2: 42:52

I love that you understand that you were addicted to the frustration and now you can move out of it.

Speaker 1: 42:56

No, absolutely, it was a beautiful realization during our program. Yeah, it was amazing. Is that true? Good reminder LOL, I've heard you which raises our vibration, which then raises the vibration all over the world, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 43:16

Absolutely. It's funny I guess I don't really need to talk about this, but just about raising the vibration all over the world. I used to be you know this, and I've struggled with releasing this. I used to be super political and a super activist and super like all the things, and I realized that that kept me in a space of hate and of anger and all I saw was injustice or poverty or people you know dealing with weather issues and like not getting the help they need, and how does that make you feel it doesn't feel good. And so that doesn't mean like we have this, it's because of empathy. We have this sense of guilt that why should I feel good when all of these people are suffering and so cool? I mean not cool, but like that's okay.

Speaker 2: 44:04

Have that feeling, allow yourself to feel that and then remember that fighting those things, being in resistance to those things, even though they are hateful things, let's say, in your perspective, fighting hate is still fighting. Resisting hate is still resisting, it's still resistance. And if you are in resistance, then you are not in alignment with well-being, even though it seems like it is, because I'm actually resisting hate. So it's still resistance. Law of attraction isn't biased, it just senses resistance. It doesn't sense resistance because there's hate. Do you see what I mean? And so what you do is you shift your focus and you start looking at the amazing, like Fred Rogers said, that, like when there's a horrible incident, look at the people who are helping, and what you're doing is you're literally shifting your perspective from seeing horror to seeing love. And the more you focus on the love, the more love you feel, which, if you're feeling it, that means there's more love that you're generating.

Speaker 2: 45:07

And while this isn't totally accurate, I like to say it if you are generating love, that's the only thing that can combat hate. Hating hate does not combat hate. It adds to hate. Hating hate does not combat hate. It adds to hate. Loving despite the hate, living your best life despite the tragedy, is going to minimize more tragedy-ish A little bit of an exaggeration, but it also is true. There's enough truth to that to be true, if that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 45:39

It makes sense to makes sense yeah, okay, good all right, we don't have any more comments does?

Speaker 2: 45:49

anybody have any questions. I love to focus on the love, yes, and the more we all do that absolutely, absolutely and and I'm I'm not sorry, I'm a little bit sorry Laugh, if you're in a shitty situation, find something to laugh about. Even you might not be able to find something in the shit pit to laugh about, but sometimes, when you can kind of get outside of yourself and be like, oh my God, I'm covered in shit and laugh at that.

Speaker 2: 46:23

Like you're laughing now and you're already on your way out of the pit until you go oh, there's so much shit. But if you can find a way to laugh, if you can like, to me that's the instant like, like, like. It's almost like that laughter clears you from the shit, like it doesn't take you out of the pit but it like gets it off you for a second until you diver back in. It gives you that little bit of space to be able to like. Okay, if this was funny, what's gonna feel better. You know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 46:51

And it all happens subconsciously because we're out of practice, because we're not in awareness of feeling all of those things and realizing that we think so many thoughts. What if you could control your thoughts? What if you did realize what you were thinking? What if you did I can't think of the word what if you were aware of your emotions and of how your thoughts made you feel and how when you shift those thoughts, which is so much easier than you think? Can I do an exercise really fast? It'll be fast.

Speaker 1: 47:29

Sure.

Speaker 2: 47:29

Okay. So if everybody, I'm going to tell you to close your eyes, you don't have to close your eyes, but I want you to take just some deep breaths. I don't care how you do it, just take some breaths and I want you to really feel actually I lied breathe in through your nose and out through your nose, like breathe in and out through your nose. Really feel the air coming into your nostrils and leaving your nostrils. Notice how the temperature is different on the way in than the way out. Maybe one nostril is more open than the other. You're really thinking about how that air feels coming into your nostrils. And now feel how your lungs are expanding while you breathe. Feel the air like literally filling up your lungs and then leaving.

Speaker 2: 48:15

Maybe. Notice something that you haven't before. Notice how your lungs go out forward and back, but they also go side to side, so that you have like 360 breathing. And now you're focusing on your lungs and that's it. That's the exercise. But I want you to notice how quickly you went from thinking about the air in your nostrils to thinking about the air in your lungs. That's it. Shifting your thoughts is that simple. We make it so much harder.

Speaker 1: 48:45

Thank you for that. That's a great way to be able to do that shift really quickly. Yeah, so thank you for sharing that. Absolutely, it's just an example.

Speaker 2: 48:56

It's not that hard?

Speaker 1: 48:57

No, it's not. I agree. Let's see, I love to focus on the love. When I look at all the hate, I feel paralyzed. When I focus on love, I free myself to help. What if? Da, da, da? What if I mean seriously, what if da da, da, what?

Speaker 2: 49:17

if I mean seriously and honestly. I would love to encourage whoever said that to remember that focusing on the love and feeling better and not paralyzed Paralyzed is out of control, that does not feel good. Yeah, it actually frees yourself to help. Sure, yes, absolutely Absolutely. But more important than helping is freeing yourself to live your life, to love you, to experience the things that you need to experience. And I know that we are trained that we have to prioritize the other people in our life, and you're right, we do. But we can't do that unless we've prioritized ourselves first. We can't do that to our fullest ability unless we prioritize ourselves first, and so I love that. It's beautiful and free yourself up for yourself, and that will allow you to help.

Speaker 1: 50:13

Yeah, yeah, all right, we're going to do last call for any questions. If you have any questions, drop them in the comments, please, and while we're waiting, we're gonna draw a card. For the magic of what, if card deck is this one or two?

Speaker 2: 50:28

volume two volume, two volume two definitely my favorite.

Speaker 1: 50:33

I love both of them, but that's the other cool thing about the merch Is that you can customize it With To be your favorite. What if? Yes, or you can just have the curiosity of just the what if?

Speaker 2: 50:49

What if Da?

Speaker 1: 50:50

da, da, I was at dinner last night with my sister and my brother-in-law and my parents and my dad's like Does anybody ever ask you what the dot dot dot means? I'm like, no, it's a curiosity it's pause.

Speaker 2: 51:06

Yeah, it is, it's pause. Yeah, it's what if and when you ask yourself what if you're taking a pause from the status quo?

Speaker 1: 51:17

what if I practice being void of judgment of myself and others? What if it's interesting, if oh, look at that, would you please pull a card? There you go. I haven't even seen it, ta-da.

Speaker 2: 51:35

Ask and you shall receive. Ask and you shall receive.

Speaker 1: 51:39

Every time, every time. So it's interesting because when you also notice how often you are in judgment of yourself and others like that's a, that's a whole thing, right there too, you know, when you notice that and shift that, shift those thoughts and when you start to becoming become more aware, you start to catch your thoughts, and especially when I'm speaking specifically about how we think about ourselves.

Speaker 2: 52:09

Like I used to say, I tell this story all the time when I was running late, I would text somebody and be like I'm the worst person in the world, I'm so sorry, I'm running late. And it was like wait, finally, when I finally started thinking about how I talked about myself, I was like I'm late, I'm not the worst person in the world, I'm just running late. Everybody runs late. You know what I mean? It was like not everybody, but most people run late. And it was like why? Why does that make me the worst person in the world? And it was like huh. And then you start thinking about and then, and then you're like well, that was stupid. It was like okay, hold up. No, it wasn't. And also, why would you think that? Like, why are you jumping to being angry or to being judgmental, or being and automatically putting yourself in a not feel-good space? And not, why, like, why would you do that? Because that's judgmental? But yeah, but again that, huh, why is that important for me to judge myself? I'm human.

Speaker 1: 53:02

I make mistakes. And it is interesting, like when you do catch those thoughts, like when you're paying attention and you're like, oh, like I'm doing that over and, over, and over again, and it's like yeah, I, I always challenge people to start like count how many times you say the can't, or how many times a day do you say the word sorry, or how many times.

Speaker 2: 53:25

And obviously I don't care how many times you do it, but I want you to be aware of how often you're using words that are putting yourself down, that are taking away your power or not taking away giving away your power, and it's fascinating. And then you become more aware and so then when you start saying those words, you're like whoa, like I literally am trying to get the word stupid out of my vocabulary. I think it's incredibly toxic and it's in complete opposition of what the actual like you know me, like where the word started, is completely different to how we use it now, and it comes from being stupefied by something, like in awe of something, and now it means that you're an idiot or that you're. You know, and I happen to, I happen to know that the energies of the universe abhor the word and that we use it far too much. So it's something that I'm trying to get out of my vocabulary. So every time I use it, I'm like whoa.

Speaker 2: 54:17

I'm like whoa and I at first I was using it a lot more. And then it was like okay, I actually used it the other day about somebody and I was like, but it's okay, I use it against him. And it was like no, it's not, but it's him. No, it's not Okay, it's never Okay. But like literally, like when you want to make a shift, you notice how many times you want that thing or that you do that thing and how it's a habit. Everything is a habit, which is why I say everything is practice, whether you're practicing that habit or you're practicing a new one.

Speaker 1: 54:52

All right, so we have a jaw drop. I think that was from the card pool, yeah, and then a judgment. Sneaky little bastard.

Speaker 2: 55:02

I always like to say about judgment and guilt they go hand in hand, because when you judge yourself, it's because you feel guilty about something, or I mean ultimately shameful, or yeah?

Speaker 2: 55:13

all of those things. I said it in the podcast but I didn't go into detail. I don't know if you remember the movie the NeverEnding Story, but the hero goes through a swamp of despair with his horse and it's one of those things that the more you're in the swamp, the more depressed and despair filled. You get to the point where the horse couldn't fight it anymore and the horse was literally sucked into the swamp more and the horse, like, was literally sucked into the swamp. Gratefully, the hero wasn't sucked into the swamp, but it's this really traumatizing scene of the movie. That's guilt and judgment, because once you're in it it's not impossible to get out of but it is challenging.

Speaker 2: 55:53

And so when you feel that guilt and when you feel that judgment, as soon as you can get out of it, because it will just continue to pull you down and make you feel more guilty and make you feel more judgmental and literally make you hate yourself more and more and more and more. Judge and guilt equals swamp of despair for me, that's a good analogy.

Speaker 1: 56:15

I have actually seen the NeverEnding Story. If you can believe that there's a lot of movies I haven't seen, but that is one of my favorites. I love that movie. I haven't seen it forever, but I love that movie. All right, that was the last call for questions.

Speaker 2: 56:32

Well.

Speaker 1: 56:33

Do you have anything else you would like to share?

Speaker 2: 56:36

I don't think so. I think I've said a lot. Have anything else you would like to like to share? I don't think so. I think I've said a lot. Um, I think that if anybody has more questions, obviously they can reach out to you. They can reach out to me. I'm not on my social medias right now, so the best way to reach out to me is through my website, which is JuliaChristineHealercom. A little promo there.

Speaker 2: 56:56

I didn't mean to do that, but there you go, you can also reach me through my podcast, but actually nobody's ever done that for me before. Has anybody messaged you, yeah?

Speaker 1: 57:04

So it's possible.

Speaker 2: 57:06

I know it's on, it's on there so that you know you can do that as well. But I'll do my best to get back to but you can always contact me through Shan as well, through pure possibilities, yes.

Speaker 1: 57:20

Don't forget about the workshop. Do not forget about why is everyone talking to that work System regulation? Wednesday, july 16th, and the link to register is in here in the comments and I will. Yeah, I'm excited about it and it was so funny because it just like, it just like came to me the other day. I was like why is everybody talking about nervous system regulation? And then I was like trying to figure out what I should call the name and I'm like I'm just gonna call it that.

Speaker 2: 57:51

I mean it makes so much sense because, you're right, everybody's talking about it. Nobody knows what it is, which is normal for us. Nobody knows what it is, which is normal for us. We always talk about stuff we don't know what it means, but we're going to talk about it like we do, so I love that you're providing an opportunity for people to realize what it actually is and the reason why it's so, the importance behind it and why everybody's talking about it, and why everybody's talking about it Exactly.

Speaker 1: 58:13

And he says love your podcast, julia. Julia has an everyday podcast. I do, yeah, and so guess what? So I'm drinking tea today and every time I do this I feel like I need to put reading glasses on. But we're just going to not talk about that part.

Speaker 2: 58:29

I, oh my gosh, I've actually been like do I need regular glasses?

Speaker 1: 58:32

Cause I need my reading glasses so much these days, and I don't so sweet lemon, everyday, immune, my yogi tea and your breath fills you with energy, anywhere and anytime you need it. And why is that? Why is that?

Speaker 2: 58:52

Why is?

Speaker 1: 58:52

that? Why does your breath?

Speaker 2: 58:53

fill you with energy, and what was the next thing you said? It fills you with energy, and what was the next thing you said?

Speaker 1: 59:00

it fills you with energy anywhere and anytime you need it.

Speaker 2: 59:05

Yeah we talk about. This is the very beginning of our podcast about while you're driving where, whatever, yeah, I mean it connects you to you yeah, exactly, and that's you're asking me like a trick question.

Speaker 1: 59:17

No, no, I no, I'm like.

Speaker 2: 59:17

why is that? Like? We know why that is and that's why it's so important Because you connect to yourself, you find that inner peace and move forward and allow the frenetic energy that we are trained to experience as much as possible to subside for three breaths. Anyway, I'll get off.

Speaker 1: 59:37

That was the 11am alarm. What if I easily step into my magnificence? Done, yes, well, thank you for joining us today. Thank you for everyone for participating in the chat and hanging out with us today. We appreciate you so much and reach out if we can be of any support. So have a wonderful day, you guys. Bye, sending you so much love.