Self-Trust: The Foundation and Frequency of All Trust - Deep Trust Series Ep 2

In this episode of the Pure Possibilities Podcast, I continue the Deep Trust mini-series with an exploration of self-trust - the foundation and frequency of all trust.

How often do you second-guess your choices or look to others for approval before trusting your own inner guidance? I dive into what it really means to build embodied self-trust, tune into your body’s wisdom, and follow the subtle signals that guide you toward what’s true for you.

I also share how to notice the difference between anchoring your truth and handing away your power, and offer a playful, body-based decision exercise that helps you reconnect with your natural yes and no energy.

And of course, a Magic of What If card pull to close the episode - a reminder that choosing love over fear is one of the highest acts of self-trust. 💜

✨ Reflection Questions:

1. When I share my ideas or desires, am I anchoring my truth or handing away my power?
2. How does my body feel when something is aligned versus when it’s off?
3. What does my full-body yes feel like? What does my no feel like?
4. What’s one decision I can make this week without asking for anyone else’s input?
5. How can I honor my intuition, even if it’s different from what others expect?

Chapters

• 0:00 Setting The Deep Trust Frame
• 3:06 All Trust Begins As Self-Trust
• 5:53 Anchoring Truth Vs Seeking Permission
• 9:16 The Body’s Yes/No Experiment
• 13:18 Honoring Somatic Signals Over Logic
• 16:16 Weekly Practice: Hand-On-Heart Check-In

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:58

Welcome back to the Pure Possibilities podcast. I'm so glad you're here for episode two of our deep trust miniseries. We're going to dive into self-trust being the foundation and frequency of all trust. I've received such beautiful feedback about this series already, which makes me so incredibly happy. It's clearly touching on something that we all feel because honestly, how many of us don't trust ourselves sometimes? We doubt our choices, we second guess what direction we're going, what direction our path is going. And we wonder if we're really capable of handling all of the things that life is constantly throwing at us. Last week we talked about what deep trust really means, that deep soul level knowing that even when life is looking different than what we expected, we're gonna be okay more than okay. Today we're diving into the root of it all, self-trust. Because all trust, trust in others, trust in life, trust in the universe begins right here with you. When you have self-trust, you carry it's like this internal compass that is calming and centering, and it says, I can rely on me, I can trust me, I do trust me, I will trust me. And without it, everything else seems wobbly, conditional, or dependent on other people's approval. You probably heard me say this before, and you may have heard others say it as well. All trust is self-trust. Self-trust is the foundation of everything. It's the confidence that you'll show it for yourself, that you'll listen to your intuition, and that you can handle anything that comes your way. When we don't trust ourselves, we end up outsourcing that trust. We ask everyone else what we should do, we wait for permission, and sometimes we even find ways to blame others if something doesn't go the way we hoped. I have definitely done that. And it's not that people are trying to misguide us. Usually they're offering advice through the lens of their own experiences, fears, past experiences, and conditioning. But when we give their voice more power than our own, we lose that connection to ourself, to our inner voice and our inner knowing. So before you share or ask, pause and ask yourself Am I sharing to anchor my truth or to have someone else decide for me? When you share from that heart-centered space of your truth, you strengthen your self-trust. When you share for approval, you weaken it. And I love that practice. And the difference is sometimes people, I guess the difference between those two is awareness. When you're speaking to anchor, you're grounding in your truth. When you speak to seek permission, you are like handing your power away to someone else. So the next time you talk through something with a friend, notice does this conversation strengthen what I already know in my body, or is it diluting it? Your inner knowing doesn't need permission from anyone else. Self-trust isn't just a mindset, it's an energy, it's a sensation. Your body speaks truth first before logic, before fear, before stories. Okay, so we're gonna do something kind of fun. Imagine you and your friends are deciding where to go eat, and you've narrowed it down to three different restaurants A, B, and C. So grab a piece of paper, write one down on each piece of paper, crumple them up, mix them around, and you can close your eyes if you don't want to, you know, peek and pick one at random and read it out loud. Now notice, notice your body's response. Do you feel excitement? Do you feel open? Do you feel expansive? Do you feel like that yes? Or do you feel that slight like drop into your stomach, that contraction, the oh, ick feeling? You know the ick? I definitely know the ick. That is your body talking to you. Whatever is written on that paper, it doesn't mean that that's the direction that I go, because it's about listening to how my body is responding. And so when you tune in and actually listen to what your body is telling you and you're open to it, that is where that inner trust really comes in. Trusting that your body knows the answer, not your logical mind. I know I've said this before, but our intuition and our inner guidance is calm and peaceful and often unexpected. So you may think with your mind that you know the answer, but then when you pull that piece of paper and you read it and your body goes, ugh, yuck, that's information. And you want to use that because your body never lies. So the exercise isn't about the choice itself, it's about observing how your energy responds. Your body never lies, your mind can rationalize, your ego can negotiate, but your body will always tell the truth. And when you start to honor that and anchor into the awareness of how your body is communicating to you, acting on your hell yes and pausing on your no, you begin aligning your vibration with your authenticity. And when you show up from that clean, clear energy, being our best self, being honest with ourselves, expressing ourselves in a healthy way and being true to you and not abandoning yourself, life is going to meet you there. You're going to magnetize people and opportunities that you are a match for, even when things don't go as planned. You can trust that it's part of your expansion and a nudge for you to listen deeper rather than doubt yourself. Okay, so here's something to play with this week. Before you ask anyone else what they think, pause, place your hand on your heart, and close your eyes if it feels comfortable, and take a deep breath in and exhale. Ask yourself, what do I already know to be true for me right now? Say your answer out loud to yourself in the mirror, and then notice how it feels. If it feels grounded, open, peaceful, that's alignment. If it feels tight and heavy or uneasy, that is also feedback. This is how we build embodied self-trust moment by moment, breath by breath, choice by choice. Okay, we're gonna dive into our reflection questions for the week. Are you ready? Grab your paper, open your notes app, whatever feels good for you. Number one, when I share my ideas or desires, am I anchoring my truth or handing away my power? How does my body feel when something is aligned versus when it's off? What does my full body yes feel like? What does my no feel like? What's one decision I can make this week without asking for anyone else's input? How can I honor my intuition, even if it's different from what others expect? You know, it's interesting as I've been learning how to listen to my body talk. Our bodies have a lot to say. They really do. And for me, I will often feel energy moving in my body. And it's like tingly. I've I mean, I've said that to people and they're like, what are you talking about? It's tingles, it's like tingles in my toes or tingles in my belly, or like the ooh, in my stomach, or just like a full, oh my gosh, yes, this is raising my energy, it's raising my vibration. Oh my gosh, this feels amazing. That's what you want to allow to guide you. That, oh my gosh, is this a hell yes? Or ooh, yuck, the ick. You don't want to follow the ick. That's not the direction or the path that you're meant to go. And we know, we know, even without writing things out on little pieces of paper, we know deep in our being and in our soul, what we want, what we desire, and how we want our life to look and feel. And we push that down and suppress it because of the opinion of others. What are other people gonna think? And you abandon yourself, which creates that lack of trust in yourself because you're not doing what feels good for you and what your truth is, because you always know the answer. It's about whether or not you're open to allowing yourself to actually listen to what it is and honor that truth. Allow those questions to move through you this week and notice the sensations, the soft nudges, the inner yes and no that guide you forward to what's true for you. All right, we are going to pull a card from the magic of what if card deck volume two available on my website, purepossibilitiespodcast.com. Okay, what is the message for this week? Okay, today's card is what if I consistently choose love over fear? What an amazing card. Choosing love over fear, and that is self-trust. Are you choosing love or are you choosing fear? Are you choosing what feels juicy and yummy, or are you choosing what's safe because it's scary and unfamiliar? What a beautiful card for today. What if I consistently choose love over fear? All right. So remember all trust is self-trust. And when you stay true to your energy, your intuition, your body's wisdom, and your authentic expression, you are strengthening the foundation for every other kind of trust in your life. Next time, we will explore forgiveness, not for others, but for your own peace and as a pathway to transcending into the next most powerful, magnificent version of yourself. I'm excited about that episode too. This whole series is, I'm this is a good one. Until then, keep listening to your body talk, keep trusting your energy, and remember your body always knows. And ask yourself am I open to listening? Have a beautiful, beautiful day and an amazing week. Much love.