011. Latinas Overcome Imposter Sydrome: Part 2

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Hello friends. Welcome back to the podcast. We are continuing on our journey with this three-step framework that we're going through on overcoming an imposter syndrome. Before I jump into that, I wanted to give you an update on Bentley bear. I told y'all last week that he was kind of having some issues. He was limping. I was able to take him to the vet and thank God he is doing a lot better. They gave him some medication, some painkillers. And told us that it looks like he might be developing arthritis, which is the cause of the limping. Probably like the jumping up and down just over time. And so we gave him some medication. I found him some supplements based on the veterinarian's recommendations on what he would need in order to support him as he gets older. And I ordered those ages came in today. I gave him some of them with his food. So I'm really hoping that that will help him just as we continue to go on. And hopefully we'll, we won't have as many of these kinds of incidents, but you know, he's getting older and I have a soft spot for older dogs, when Alvin and I were looking to get a dog back in 20, 20 and 2021. Alvin really wanted a puppy. And I did not. I have a really soft spot for adult dogs, older dogs, partly because they don't get, they don't get adopted like the puppies, you know, all the puppies, they go really fast. And I could just literally cry thinking about all the dogs that are like 6, 7, 8, 10 years old and are in the rescues are in the animal shelters. And so I have such a soft spot for them, but you know, this is one of the things you, you get a dog who is an adult or older. And a couple years in and, you know, they start to kind of have some issues because age, and so that's just kind of what it is. However, he is healthy and he's strong and he's doing great and he's in great spirits. And I am just so thankful to God that he's doing well and that the vets took care of him. And we can just hopefully add in supplements. We continue to feed him really well. He eats really, really good. My husband jokes that he probably eats better than 99% of the American population. Which is probably true. He eats all organic eats, raw food. And so I'm sure he's true in that regard. And, we do our best, we do our best, but aging is aging. It's not something that we can, prevent. And so I just wanted to give you all an update that he's doing good and he's in great spirits. He's currently taking a nap on the bed and I'm hoping he will. Not cause a ruckus while I'm doing this podcast. All right. So let's jump in. We're going into step two today. Last week, we talked about how you can identify your limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in imposter syndrome. And so this week I want to help you and figuring out how you can actually change those limiting beliefs, because maybe you did some of the work I'm hoping you did. You did some of the work that I told you to do last week. And if you did, then you're going to be like, dang, I think a lot of negative things about myself. And so you can grow awareness on that, which is a great first step. And now it's about how you can change actually change those limiting beliefs and foster a growth mindset. And so here's some of. The issues that I just want to start off with is we can be aware of an issue and not take any action to change it. And that is why step one is only step one. Awareness is only step one because awareness alone won't change your circumstance, but change is only possible with awareness. You heard that? Awareness alone. Won't change your circumstance, but change is only possible with awareness. You need awareness as the first step to create a change. But. If it's your only step is change is not going to happen. So we can get too comfortable. We can get really comfortable accepting that a problem is a problem and we see the problem, but we don't take action to change it. And so examples of how that shows up in people's language is, oh, I'm just like, this is just the way I am. Or I know that it might toxic trait. He, he, he, he, and we don't do anything to change that. Right. So that's problem. Number one is we can be aware of an issue, but not take any actions. Change it. Problem number two is we can be aware of an issue and we can feel hopeless that it can ever change. And maybe some people then get from that hopeless place to always just the way that I am, because you've kind of given up on the idea that you can change that. And I personally know what that feels like, especially around things like scar. See, that's something that I have struggled with for a very long time. And so I know what it feels like to also get to a place where. You feel hopeless that it will ever change, but we have to continue into this step of reframing so that you can actually get on the other side of that. And so an example of what it can look like for you, if you're aware of an issue, but maybe you feel hopeless that I can ever change is I hear some of my clients will go, like, I know I'm smart. I know I'm capable. Then why can't I apply for the job? Like I know these things logically, but why can I actually do it? And then they feel frustrated and they feel hopeless. Like they can't ever change that. And so part of why this happens is because of problem number three, and that is our brain's natural inclination is to conserve energy and avoid risks. So while the brain is highly adaptable and capable of changing how we think about ourselves, and there are mechanisms that promote it, wanting to prefer the status. Status quo, wanting for the brain to prefer what is, is what it is, the familiar, the comfort zone. So the brain relies on habits and routines. And then these turn into familiar situations and behaviors, AKA comfort zones, and many times our comfort zone is uncomfortable. A F. However it's familiar. And again, our brain really likes that. So when I say our brains inclination is to conserve energy and avoid risk. This is why. Being an entrepreneur or pursuing your passion or going into what, the thing that God called you to do. Is so hard because whatever God has called you to do is going to require risk. And it's going to require faith. It's going to require that you take some steps that may be, make no sense to you. But you know, is where you're called. And so these things require risk and the are going to require you to do more work, just more thought and more work. And so it's not the brain's natural inclination. So you have to fight against those things. Now again. When you step out of your comfort zone, that requires more of your effort, your cognitive effort. You have to think more. You have to be more aware. So even thinking about something as simple as. I take my dog for a walk three times a day and I am a human being. So I make it a routine. I take the same walk every single day. I know exactly where my path is. I see the neighbors each and every time now, some of them are like cool with me. Hey, how's this doing? How's your daughter-in-law blah, blah, blah. We have chit-chat because I'm taking the same route every single time. At this point. It takes almost no cognitive effort for me to take that walk, meaning I don't really have to think much about anything. In terms of the walk. My brain will be all over the place thinking about what I need to do today or what I did yesterday, or we'll be making up some story because my brain loves to make up stories. Like it'll do a bunch of things, but it doesn't have to actually think very hard about where I am or where I'm going or what's the route because I've done it so many times. It's my comfort zone. It's very familiar. However, if you drop me off somewhere random and I didn't know where I was and I had to go take a walk with my dog. Well, then it's going to require more on my cognitive effort. I'm going to have to open up my phone. I'm going to have to look on ways. I'm going to have to make sure that I don't hit no dead ends or what would be a good route that would take about 25 minutes. I want to make sure I don't get lost and I want to, you know, I want to make sure I have my phone in case I do get lost and I don't want to get back home. There's just so much more cognitive effort. That's going to go into that. And so that's just a, a more random example of how going outside of your own. Your comfort zone is going to require more of your cognitive effort and therefore your brain might resist it. Because it doesn't want to expend that additional energy and wants to save that its inclination is to conserve that energy. So, yes, I'm not going to lie to you and say, That it's not challenging for you to change these limiting beliefs. It is a fight. But it is a fight that is 100%. Worth fighting for every single time. And this is not all doom and gloom. There are great news. And the great news is, is that our brain is capable of changing the way it thinks. And in order to do this, we must develop a growth mindset. A growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication, hard work and learning. So, you know how my heart really goes out to my heart really goes out to people that believe that people can never change. Because when someone tells me people can ever change. What it tells me is that you don't believe you can change because if people can't change, then how come you can change? Are you like a special. Person that can change, but other people can't. And there are people out there who believe this, and it's rooted in trauma and a victim mentality. And people with this type of attitude oftentimes have been hurt by people over and over and over again. And it's heartbreaking. So it's not like judging them. Like they're a bad person because they think there's no, like this usually comes from a painful experience. To be able to get to a place to think that, oh, people don't change. People can change. So it's the woman who spent years with a man that said they would stop cheating and never did. Or it's the man that grew up with an alcoholic father who kept saying he would quit drinking and never did. It's the person that grew up with a parent that said that they would show up to their games or their recital, but got caught up with work again and never did. So it comes from usually painful experiences. Whenever you have this idea, when you, whenever you have a thought that people can't change. Uh, usually comes from a painful experience where you had to develop that as a way to almost make one feel better about the situation. I am not the same person. I was five years ago and I'm definitely not the same person. I was 10 years ago. 10 years ago, I hated my body. I would criticize it. I was yo-yo dieting. I swore I would never get married or have a child. Praise God for how he's changed me. And I praise God for giving us the ability to change in the Bible. There is so many people that God radically changed. There was a man in the Bible named Paul, who was persecuting Christians. And so he was going out, he was finding them and he was ordering them to their death. And then. Got changed him. And he became a great apostle that spread the gospel. He became a leader to the very group of people. He was persecuting. People can change. You can change. I can change. And even if you struggle with a very loud inner critic or self doubt, which is keeping you stuck in imposter syndrome. That can change. So in order to do this, you have to believe in a growth mindset. You have to believe. That abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication, hard work and learning. That is really important to start with. If you don't believe that you can change, if you don't believe that you can develop. Certain skills that you can develop abilities, that you can develop an intelligence in a certain area, a mastery in a certain area. If you don't believe that you can develop those things through dedication, hard work and learning. Then why even try. So you have to make the cognitive effort, the, the decision in your mind. That it is possible. Yeah. Right now I feel imposter syndrome because I don't think I can actually apply to that director level position, but you know what I believe in my ability. To figure out what I need to figure out. When you believe in focus on developing a growth mindset, you will focus on how you can improve. How you can figure it all out and do it even better. How you can learn the skills. How you can learn the skills for example, to present in front of senior leaders with less anxiety. You begin to focus on, okay, how can I do this? And one of the most incredible things, especially as Latinas and my dog, you. The ones that are like me, daughter of immigrant parents, first eldest daughter of immigrant parents. Is you'll find that. We had to figure out a lot of stuff. We had to figure out a lot of stuff in our childhood, growing up for our families, we were figure out are people. I just made that up. We were figure out are people. But we go into adulthood and we start second guessing that we can figure things out, which is so incredible. Like I do this, so I know it. It's so incredible to think. We had to figure so much out as first-generation Latinas, as the eldest daughter of immigrant parents, we had to figure out so much on our own. What is FASFA? What is this tax form? How do I apply to this? What am I supposed to do in an interview? What do I do in college? What like, just. All these things we had to figure out yet. When we become adults, we have this nagging self doubt. That will, I'm scared to do that because I don't have what it takes as if you're not going to figure it out. So. This tool that I'm about to share with you. Is really great for honestly, everything in life. Like everything. I love this tool, whether it's communicating better with your partner or your colleagues or overcoming imposter syndrome. I love this tool. It's a tool for changing your limiting beliefs. The negative self-talk and fostering a growth mindset. And it's going to help you to move out of being stuck in the emotional cycle of imposter syndrome and more into a logical space that will help you take action. So the tool is called interpretation versus fact and interpretation versus fact, as a tool by which you can analyze the situation by separating out your interpretation of the situation versus the facts of the situation. The interpretation of the situation is usually your understanding of what happened. It is usually subjective it's from your personal perspective, and it can vary among different people. That's what makes it your interpretation. That's what makes it your perspective. So if you think about, when you look at art and you get 10 different people saying something. That's your perspective. It's the same thing you're looking at, but people will come out with different interpretations of it. So that happens with situations as well. That is what happens in imposter syndrome as well. So that can vary among. Different people. And interpretations are usually not universally agreed upon. So they are not universally agreed upon because they are interpretations. They are influenced by individual perceptions. And so when you think about interpretation, that's one thing, right? So that's interpretation. And then we put versus fact. Uh, fact is an objective and verifiable piece of information. It is something that can be proven. Its true or false facts are not influenced by personal opinions, beliefs, or interpretations. They are what they are and they are generally accepted as true and can be independently confirmed. And so one of the biggest issues with imposter syndrome is that you believe your interpretations are true. Instead of focusing on the facts. And when you focus on your interpretations and you believe it to be true, you're disempowered because your interpretations in an imposter syndrome cycle, our limiting beliefs, their negative self-talk. And so this tool will completely transform the way you think about yourself and your situation. The way that you use this tool. Is like this. You reflect on a situation where you are experiencing imposter syndrome. And then on a piece of paper, you draw a line down the middle. And on one side you have interpretation. And on the other side, you have facts. You then go through, what is your interpretation? Remember? Personal perspective. Versus the facts. What is objective? And you write down what belongs in each column. For example, I'm going to give you two examples to make sure that you clearly understand how this works. For example, I had a client who was experiencing imposter syndrome in her career when it came to pivoting into coaching. She had been an assistant principal and held other leadership roles in education. And she was very well-educated well-experienced when it came to her coaching executive leaders in education, though. People like superintendents, she was struggling. Massively struggling hard with imposter syndrome. So we built her awareness on the limiting beliefs that she had and the number one limiting belief that kept her stock was the limiting belief that she was not credible as a coach for executive leaders because she, herself had never been an executive leader. She had held leadership roles, but not in executive leadership role. So we ran an interpretation versus fact on this. And so this is an example that I'm painting for you right now. When you start thinking about where you're experiencing imposter syndrome, remember step one was all about awareness. So you should. Have awareness on what that situation is. You want to begin to really clearly lay that out? What's the situation going on? So here we go. She was struggling with imposter syndrome about coaching executive leaders. She was thinking, who am I? I don't, I'm not credible. So this was the situation. The situation is she wants to coach education leaders such as superintendents. And she has never been a superintendent before. That's the situation? Super dry. That's just what it is. The interpretation she created was I'm not credible. That is what she made that mean. I am not credible.

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Then I asked her about the faxed. Tell me what is true. About your ability to be a coach to executive leaders. And this is what she said. Number one while I may not have been a superintendent directly, I spent seven plus years in education. I've held multiple leadership roles in education. I've interacted with superintendents a lot over my career in the last three years and have given them advice as well. I have two years of coaching experience. I've invested over$10,000. In my leadership experience, I have a doctorate in leadership. I have active listening skills, relationship, building skills. So executive functioning skills is basically what I have been working on. Now I want you to notice something. I want you to notice how, when we ran an interpretation versus fact on the situation, Notice how. She had way more facts than she did interpretations. So one of the things I said to her is like, it's really interesting how. You have a lot more reasons as why you can be an executive coach to executive leaders. Then why you can't. Why you can't was, I'm not credible. Why you can is all of these reasons. But she was running with why she can't. And so this is why this can be such a powerful tool is also just to visually see that. Now, it's not always going to be like that. Sometimes you might have the opposite where you have way more interpretations than you do facts. So even if you do have way more interpretations and facts, See how much more specific we were able to get in the facts. And so, as we were coaching, I was helping her get more specific because a lot of times when we think we're thinking in generalities, and so she didn't actually say I spent seven plus years in education. She said, oh, well, I've been in education for a long time. So I asked her, okay, how long, how many years have you been in education? And then she tells me how many years. And when she says I've held multiple leadership roles in education. Okay. How many leadership roles in education? Oh three positions in education. When she says things like I have coaching experience. Okay. How much coaching experience do you have? Cause that's what I mean when I'm telling you to do interpretation versus fact, I want your facts to be specific specific and they are clear. And so I want you to get very specific in your facts when she said I've invested in my leadership. Abilities. How much have you invested in your leadership abilities? Right. So I want you to get clear and specific about the facts. So on this one, you'll see. Okay. She had way more facts than she did interpretations. And even if she didn't, which I'm going to give you an example of where that is the case with a different client that I had. I want you to even notice how much more clear her facts were, then the interpretation interpretation is okay. I'm not credible. What if I'm not credible or I'm not credible? The facts are so specific about the reasons why you are credible. And here's the thing too. Let's say she said some things like I have zero years of experience in education. I have two months of experience in coaching. I have never invested in a leadership course. I mean, let's say that's what she said, right? We can then look at those things and go, okay. So given these are the facts, what are the things you think you would need in order to be able to be a coach that can successfully coach executive leaders in education? And then we can go, okay, well maybe we need some more years of experience in coaching and then she can go work on that and then we can go, okay. Maybe she needs some more experience in education and then she can go work on that. But now you have action. Versus when you say I'm not credible enough and you leave it right there, it's filled with shame and then you shut down and you don't have any action to take. You're just stuck in a cycle of imposter syndrome in shame and not being good enough. And that's not who you are. So that's why this tool is really, really important. So let me give you one more example. I had a client who had a performance review and her manager told her that she seemed to just not be very comfortable with senior leaders. She didn't seem very comfortable. She was kind of sh she was like, you seem to be a little bit short, like you're not comfortable. You're not like your usual. Friendly personality that I know you are. And that was the situation. So if we just think about the situation, I want it to be very factual. The situation is not. My manager told me. I suck at life. Right. Because it's not, that might be how you go in. You tell your friends, like you might go and be like, yeah, I had my performance review. My manager says that I suck that I'm not doing a good job. But remember those are your interpretations. So I want you to always go back to let's look at the situation. Okay. You had a performance review with your manager. The interpretation that my client made up was I'm not good enough. I'm not doing a good job. I'll never get promoted. You see, I told you I'm not doing good. It was these different thoughts that were all around her not being good enough or doing enough and never being able to succeed. Those were her interpretations about what happened about the feedback that her manager gave her. Now the facts. Uh, his manager said I don't look comfortable in meetings. Manager said, I am short with senior leaders. Manager says I'm not usually friendly and warm. Like I am with her. I do not feel comfortable with senior leaders in this case for her. That was a fact, she did not feel comfortable with senior leaders. And so that was a fact. Another fact that she wrote down is I can learn how to present to senior leaders with more confidence. Is that true? How can that be true? Is that a fact? So let's even talk about that. I can learn how to present to senior leaders with more confidence. We just talked about the brain's ability to learn. As skill its ability to change the way that you think. Of course you can absolutely learn how to present to senior leaders with more confidence. I'm not asking if you believe it right now, but is this a truth? Is it possible? I'm not saying that you think you can do it right now, but is it possible? You don't have to believe that the earth revolves around the sun, but it still does. So the point is not, do you believe it right now, but is it true? Is it a fact? So, if you look at this situation, she kind of had even, she had some, she had a good amount of interpretations and she had a good amount of facts. Either way though, you're able to discern out. Okay. This isn't about my worthiness is isn't about me sucking at life. This isn't about never being able to get promoted. It's about feedback that I got. What are the facts and what are the things that I can now take moving forward? Because I clarified what the facts are. So that's it. If you just go back to what actually happened, what were the facts? Not the things that can be argued against two different people. You have to be able to look at a fact. And know that if you put 10 people in a room and you explained the situation, they would all come out with the same thing, because it's a fact. This is so important. And instead, my client believed her interpretation of what happened, that she was never going to get promoted. That she's not good enough that she's not doing a good job. And that was keeping her in the cycle of imposter syndrome, where she was not applying to the director level position. So the interpretation of I'm not good enough, I'm not doing a good job. I'll never get promoted. Was keeping her stuck. As you use this tool of interpretation versus fact in two steps and step one, you break down the situation that has come to your awareness and is causing and process syndrome. Like I just did with you in my previous client. So maybe for you, you might remember a colleague that said you would never be taken seriously or a manager that said you were too soft-spoken. Or a manager that questioned you a lot in a meeting, and you took that to mean that you are not credible and that people don't take you seriously. I want you to break down what factually happened and then break down the interpretations of that situation, because this can really transform the way that you look at what you're experiencing and how you can move forward. So that's number one is to discern interpretation versus fact of the situation itself. And then step two is to pull out the limiting beliefs from your interpretation line and reframe it with a fact in the fact line. Because when you go through interpretation versus fact, you're going to find limiting beliefs. It's an. An avoidable when you're doing, when you're dealing with imposter syndrome and you're doing this tool. A lot of times, you're going to see the things that come up in interpretation as I'm not good enough, or I don't belong here or they're better than me, or they are much more well-educated than me. They come from money and I don't. So they have so much more to work with here. Like just all the different things, right. So you're going to see all those limiting beliefs come up in your interpretation line and then you reframe it. Step two is to reframe it with a fact in the fact line. So, for example, let's say your interpretation might be that you're not qualified enough in the fact line you should put in facts. Like how many years of experience that you do have, like I did with my first example that I shared with you. How many years of experience do you have, what skills do you have? What skills do you not have instead of just saying I'm not qualified enough and not having any specificity, not giving yourself something to work with. What is the deal here? Let's see. What, what do we work in with? How many years of experience. How many skills, what skills, and it's going to force you again, to think more instead of just believing the lie that you are not qualified enough. And so, as an example, you may have in the interpretation line, I'm not qualified enough in the fax line. You may, I have, you might have, I have six years of professional experience. Four of those years was in a nonprofit doing administrative work. Two of those years, how to focus on finance. I am skilled in being organized and relationship building and problem solving where it might be. I have 20 years of experience. I have. Seven years of experience at an executive level. Managing 20 plus people and three, you know, you, you see where I'm going with this right? In the facts, you have to be a lot more specific because they are facts and they are there. You just have to force your brain to stop going directly to the I'm not qualified enough and ending there to actually digging. And it's really like some digging. That's what he can like. Like just that energy that it takes can kind of feel that way. And so you can go through those things. And when you do that, don't you see how different that feels to go from? I'm not qualified enough. That just sucks. Right? Like I'm not qualified enough when you go from that to. Okay. I have 10 years of professional experience. Six of those years. I did as an individual contributor. And got. Great performance reviews year after year. Four of those years have been as a manager, managing two direct reports. Like you see how you can just start to already calm down and your emotional brain isn't spinning out, but now you can kind of anchor into logic and you can kind of just see things for what they are. It's really helpful for you. And so go into interpretation versus fact. And I will say for myself as a Christian, I recently started the practice of taking interpretation versus fact, and then using my limiting beliefs and reframing them with the word of God with using the Bible. And so for example, I may have a limiting belief that other people are better than me, or I just don't have what it takes to succeed are I'm just not as good as X or Y. And that's when I'm in my comparison mode that can happen. I will get into comparison and I start looking at other people and what they're doing in other entrepreneurs. And. All these different things. And then that keeps me stuck in fear and self doubt, and it gets me distracted. And then I'm not working on the things that I know God has called me to work. And so this is my interpretation, right? I'm like, I'm not as good as this person that person's better than me. They have what it takes. I'm just not working hard enough. They work so much harder than me, or maybe they're lying or maybe it's not what it looks like. Like I just get caught up in all these different things. Right. And then I will go into, okay, well, what does the Bible have to say? And what can I use from the Bible? Because as a Christian, I believe that the Bible is the word of God and that, that is the truth. And so when I look at the Bible and I was thinking about this limiting belief, I ran into Isaiah chapter two. Now Isaiah chapter do is where he is describing a vision in the last days. And it's like madness. People are like going into a cave. They're trying to hide. They're throwing away their golden silver, and they're just like throwing away the things that they were idolizing. It's a madness and he ends. This chapter with verse 22, where he goes. Stop trusting and mere humans who have, but a breath in their nostrils. Why hold them in esteem? And I read that and I said, God said, why are you so worried about what they think about you? Why are you so worried about them? Why you were so worried about them. And it's not, I read this and I just remember thinking like, okay, but people are important. And I, and I had to read it in context. Again, this was the context of it's the last days, and the people that were idolizing all their gold and their silver and all these other things are throwing them away because at the end of the day, none of that stuff matters. And when you are so worried about what other people care about, what does that really matter at the end of your life here on earth? None of that matters. And we all know that. When we really sit to think about it, we all know that when we are on our deathbed, we're not going to care about what other people thought about us. Or if someone laughed about the video that we posted on Instagram, or if someone's going to make fun of our LinkedIn posts, because we finally decided that we're going to build our personal brand. We're not going to sit there and think about that we know of is when we sit down and think about it, but it doesn't stop us from actually worrying about it in our day to day. So that's why we have to remember these things. And so I use this first where. It goes, stop trusting and mere humans who have, but a breath in their nostrils. Why hold them in a steam? Because it puts it into the context of what's happening in Asia and Isaiah chapter two, where it's like at the end of the day. That's not going to be what matters you comparing yourself to other people when you're in your death bed, you're not gonna be like, I really just wish I sat there and I compared myself more to that person, or, you know what. I just never felt like I was as good as that print. No, that's not what I'm going to be thinking about. I'm going to be thinking about the life that I lived and the people that I impacted and my children and all these different things, just like the goodness of all the life that I have lived. And so I know I have to remember that and that's how I'm using this tool right now. I can use it for myself to decipher what my interpretations are versus what the word says. And so use this for yourself. Use this tool for yourself to decipher between what is the interpretation that you are running with versus the fact of the situation. And so we went into, let's kind of recap here. We went into the challenge of being aware of our issues, but hesitating to take action and not actually changing. Remember that awareness alone isn't enough to create change, but it is. Critical for you to have awareness in order to create change, we have to actually get to the root cause and move beyond these limiting beliefs. I talked about our natural, our brain's natural tendency to conserve energy and resist change. And so that's why living the life that God called us to living a purpose, build a life, doing things that are outside of the norm are going to be challenging, but they are a hundred percent possible. God created us to be adaptable and able to change the brain is adaptable. Change is possible. So in order to do this, you have to develop a growth mindset. You have to believe in your abilities. To be able to develop anything that you want to develop in any skill, any intelligence that that can be cultivated through dedication, hard work and learning. I shared with you interpretation versus fact, this tool allows you to analyze situations by separating out your interpretations from the facts. It challenges, your limiting beliefs, it challenges your negative. Self-talk. And it moves you from the emotional cycle of imposter syndrome to a logical space that empowers action, which is what we're going to talk about next week is all about action. A lot of times we want to just rush to action and change things, but we have to change the route we have to change. Who we, what we believe and who we believe we are. We have to change these beliefs in order for us to have sustainability in the actions that we take. So this tool involves breaking down situations that cause some of the impostor syndrome and it distinguished, it helps you distinguish between those interpretation versus facts. And then I went through how you use this tool is you use interpretation versus fact to go through the situation that's causing imposter syndrome. So you want to identify that situation, which we did last week. And then with that situation you want to go through what are the interpretation versus the facts of the situation. And then you want to take the limiting beliefs that are under the interpretation line, and you want to create facts. You want to reframe them into facts. I shared with you, the ways that I have been using my faith as a Christian to support me in that process, using the word of God, to be able to put Bible verses. The words that he has shared with me, with us in the fax line. So I can remember that. And just remember that changing limiting beliefs. This is an ongoing journey. Y'all like, this is forever. Yeah. So we. Until we're done with our life here on earth. We're going to continue to do this work of changing our limiting beliefs. It's an ongoing journey. And by adopting a growth mindset and using practical tools like interpretation versus facts, it gives you the ability to transform the way that you think. Remember, Romans 12 two do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is God's will. I think about that verse a lot. And so this is about how you can transform by renewing your mind by changing the way that you think. It's time to fight for change because it is available to you. All right, we're going to go over next week on how you can take action. Take your homework by the way is go through this tool. Make sure that you are separating out interpretation versus facts and you're reframing those limiting beliefs. All right. I will see you again next week. Ciao.