LEGACY: Building a HEALTHY Future Together | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #082

In this "legacy" episode, Kyle and Selina discuss building a strong and healthy future together. 

Kyle and Selina tackle the often overlooked topic of health legacy and its profound impact on marriage relationships, exploring how today's health choices shape dreams for a shared future.

• Health legacy affects your marriage in both longevity and quality of the relationship
• Gym workout experiences together can create unexpected conflicts when expectations aren't aligned
• Mental health is as crucial to address as physical health—everyone should have at least one mental health checkup
• Avoid negative patterns like shaming your spouse about their health choices or forcing them into your health routines
• Health challenges can limit your ability to enjoy life's experiences together, from playing with children to traveling
• Personal health choices today determine whether future dreams can become a reality
• Couples must communicate clearly about health goals and what accountability looks like for each person
• Prayer is essential for guidance in health decisions that honor God and serve your relationship

Get the Love by Faith Playbook, a collection of strategies to help couples elevate their relationship across various dimensions, including health, finances, and romance.

Chapters

• 0:00 Health as a Marriage Legacy
• 5:42 Gym Dates Gone Wrong
• 10:56 When Health Affects Your Marriage
• 15:14 Playbook Promo
• 17:17 Why Health Matters for Legacy
• 23:54 Personal Health Stories
• 31:29 Practical Steps for Health Goals
• 35:40 Closing Prayer and Resources

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

We're going to talk about our health being healthy. What kind of health life legacy are you trying to leave? You should go to the gym. Then You're going to complain about your weight. You should go to the gym. She wants to have salads all the time. So now guess who's having salads all the time?

Speaker 2: 0:11

If you're going to treat yourself poorly, if you're going to give up on yourself health-wise, then how are you ever going to be healthy enough to have a long-lasting relationship? We, long lasting relationship. We're not perfect people by any means, but by trusting in God, we learned what it takes to build a friendship, a relationship and marriage that has stood the test of time.

Speaker 1: 0:34

With a keeping it real style. We're going to talk to you about everything everything that we've been through are going through and have overcome. Overcome all by learning how to lean on God and each other in order to help you learn how to love by faith Good evening.

Speaker 2: 0:49

Dan Rather here. Who's Dan Rather?

Speaker 1: 1:04

good evening dan rather here who's, dan rather this is like 60 minutes dude what? Yeah, there's an actual guy yeah, there's a host of 60 minutes. I thought it was just a narrator no, there's a like a talking head who starts it. No way, yeah, I never watched it as like a lot as a kid, but I remember it was always like on after football.

Speaker 2: 1:24

You know who I always used to see. My dad was super big on Peter Jennings.

Speaker 1: 1:30

Peter Jennings PBS.

Speaker 2: 1:31

No, it was ABC News Tonight with Peter Jennings.

Speaker 1: 1:35

Okay.

Speaker 2: 1:36

It came on at like six o'clock news Six o'clock news with. Peter Jennings and my dad was so obsessed with him and I think he he died of cancer like he stepped down from his role and died with like he passed in that, yeah, man when's the last time you watched the news? You know what I do as I get the morning brew I did post the morning brew in one of the previous episodes okay and it's like a daily um news fee that you get in your email and that to me, me is my more.

Speaker 2: 2:04

That's my world news tonight.

Speaker 1: 2:05

Okay.

Speaker 2: 2:05

It's my world news in the morning with morning brew. So shout out to morning brew. But it's just. It just gives you the world news, gives you everything from stocks to finances. So what's going on in the world? What's going on?

Speaker 1: 2:15

in pop culture. What's going on in?

Speaker 2: 2:16

political world, all the things all wrapped up into a lovely bulb Awesome. Let's go. Let's dive in. Let's dive right in. Welcome. Welcome everyone to Love by Faith, selena and Kyle, and we're happy that you guys are here. If you're listening for the first time, welcome If you've been with us for a while you know I'm playing.

Speaker 2: 2:35

Let's go, we're going. You know it is what it is. We're mid-deep into our last series of season two and that is legacy. Okay, so we talked about friends, we talked about family and how your legacy is important, how you can leave a lasting impression in these areas in your relationship and how it can just create a ripple of goodness into the world. And this episode we are going to switch a little gears out of the relationships, but still how it's going to affect your marriage and how it's going to affect your, your core relationship moving forward, and that is.

Speaker 1: 3:16

Let me say yeah, Health. We're talking about our health being healthy. What kind of health life legacy are you trying to leave?

Speaker 2: 3:23

What kind of health legacy are you trying to leave? What kind of health legacy are you trying to leave?

Speaker 1: 3:26

And more instead leave. What kind of health legacy are you trying to live?

Speaker 2: 3:29

Yes, right, yes, our body's a temple.

Speaker 1: 3:31

The Lord wants us to take care of it. Lord wants us to make the most and have a healthy body so that we can do the most that we can for the kingdom. Yes, right.

Speaker 2: 3:47

So that he can get the best out of us. Amen. Also, with that, I think that within your relationship, health is one of those things that you don't really talk about. You hardly talk about health. When it comes to your relationship standpoint and your setting standpoint, you either work out together or, once you get married, you kind of gain a little bit of weight, or you kind of have the ups and downs but nobody really talks about, nobody really has a sit down moment, weight. Or you, you know, you kind of have the ups and downs but nobody really talks about, nobody really has a sit down moment, and say, like, what are the health goals? What are we trying to reach?

Speaker 2: 4:12

Um, I'm concerned for your health, or you know how your health is going to leave a lasting impression based on the health choices that you make today. I don't know about you, but I want you to live till at least 90, like maybe that's selfish, but I want you to live long, right, because I want to have a long life with you and I think a lot of what you do with your health will affect that. I just feel like, if I truly love you and I love you so much that I don't want to think of life without you, and your health has a major effect on that, depending on how long you live, and so it's an important thing to talk about as couples, because what you want and what could be is often affected to this.

Speaker 1: 5:02

But what I want is just to lift heavy every day and drink protein shakes and have 22-inch pythons like Hulk.

Speaker 2: 5:09

Hogan. Okay, so this is interesting because this health choice affects your marriage in so many ways as well, not just in longevity, but you wanting to be a gym rat affects your testosterone. It affects how much you need out of your wife because of the testosterone. It affects the time away from the house because you're packing and you're lifting and you're doing all the things. It affects your energy levels. All of the things can be affected simply from this one health choice but we went to the gym together like two times when well, once when we were dating and we got mad at each other because I was trying to live and you were.

Speaker 2: 5:54

You have to tell the whole story you.

Speaker 1: 5:57

You always correct me when I'm telling the story do you want me to tell the story? No, I'll tell it from how I remember.

Speaker 2: 6:02

I'm not gonna say nothing from how I remember.

Speaker 1: 6:04

I will listen is like let's work out together, and I'm like that's awesome.

Speaker 2: 6:08

It's a great day.

Speaker 1: 6:08

I love to to lift, I love to exercise. I've always have yes right, yes, and so we set up the time. All right, meet at 6 am. I'm gonna go to the gym yes, get a lift in, got it. I'm thinking I'm gonna go to the gym and get a lift in. Yes, she's thinking we're gonna go to the gym and get a lift in. Yes, she's thinking we're going to go to the gym and flirt and be silly together.

Speaker 2: 6:24

It was a date. Of course I want you to woo me.

Speaker 1: 6:27

Okay, want you to woo me. We had two different agendas happening right there. We didn't know, I wanted to woo her by showing her I could pick up. Go back to the communication 260 pounds To learn how to better communicate. Lifting, get a good jog, get a good sweat going.

Speaker 1: 6:42

We did good, get the heart rate going, we were down to the floor exercises and she just keeps coming over and stopping me and she's like doing her thing over here and I'm doing my thing over there, quiet, and I'm like you know, checking her out across the gym. It's awesome, it's going, going good. And then I remember how she comes up and stops me and I'm like you're messing up my heart rate and she's got got all grumpy mad Not even just grumpy, she got mad that I told her to stop talking and let's keep working. And I think that was one of our first fights, one of our first squabbles, if you would. How do you remember it? You got that. Look like I'm totally wrong. I didn't say anything.

Speaker 2: 7:19

No, I'm not saying nothing.

Speaker 1: 7:20

You have that. Look, I'm not saying that. You have that. Look, I'm not saying nothing. Tell the people how I got it. There was a floor.

Speaker 2: 7:24

We were both on the mat doing like ab workout stuff and it's like my least favorite subject in gym. Nobody wants to do the abs. And I was being flirtatious. Okay, I am seeing my boyfriend and he's glistening and you're glowing and you're pumping all this weight and you're glowing and you're pumping all this weight and it's just, it's a very attractive moment. Okay, so I'm trying to capture and just have this moment connection with you and you just were not having it. You were just trying to get your sweat on and go to the gym and I was totally just not even there. So you do, you do say you're messing up my heart rate and then you kept going, like you didn't pause you just in one swift breath. You're messing up my heart rate. You kept on your sweat and I said, oh, snap, um. That's humiliating, that's embarrassing.

Speaker 1: 8:18

I feel foolish, I'm going to leave she was afraid that everybody heard me tell her that I was messing up her heart it was okay.

Speaker 2: 8:23

So, yes, it was multi-layered in the sense that, a I thought I was humiliated in public and that was one of our big aha moments, like we don't want to have these conversations in public where humiliation can be present. B I was like discovering for the first time that this was a hormonal thing. I was very edgy and irritable and emotion, highly emotional, at this stage of the month, and we realized that after I blew up at the parking lot, you know, on the drive home, I was like, oh snap, I think that was not that big of a deal, and it totally was. And then, number three, I thought that we were both playing when you were just working out.

Speaker 1: 9:02

I definitely take some of the heat there for being oblivious to being flirty and having fun at the gym.

Speaker 2: 9:08

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 9:09

I was not on that at all. I was being the good Christian boy and not.

Speaker 2: 9:13

So then, when we got married and we got a gym membership, and then we would go to the gym together. That was awesome. I totally just did not talk to you.

Speaker 1: 9:22

I was like no, I just said that was awesome. I was like she's like no, because I purposely did not flirt with you.

Speaker 2: 9:28

I purposely did not flirt, because now you're looking at me now you got, now you're looking at me as a wife and now you're like oh, she's hot, like oh, like she's sweating, like my whole dessert you know exactly, and I was just like nope, nope, absolutely not, you will not, uh, you will not talk to me.

Speaker 2: 9:43

I will not talk to you, like, please get away from me. And so now, every time we go to the gym, every time we go to the gym, I tell kyle kyle, you're messing up my heart rate, you're messing up my heart rate, kyle, please back away. And it's become a joke now. Yeah, but anyways, we say all that, to say going to the gym together or going separate can affect your marriage. Yeah, in a good way or in a bad way so what else do couples screw up?

Speaker 1: 10:09

I think the um. They screw up the, the shaming of health, like trying to like negatively. Like you should go to the gym, then You're going to complain about your weight. You should go to the gym. You should do this.

Speaker 2: 10:20

Shame when it comes to health. What you eat, how often you eat, what you drink snacks at nighttime like if you're together, it's just you know what you think is healthy might not be what your spouse thinks is healthy.

Speaker 2: 10:35

Yeah, and because you guys are now married, some partners might feel like an obligation or a responsibility to not just make healthy choices but to force their partner to make healthy choices, as according to what they think, is healthy, and if they're not in alignment with whatever their partner is trying to control in that area, then there can be strife, there can be rift, there can be distance, there can be you don't understand me there can be a huge disconnect. All because of that.

Speaker 1: 11:09

Insecurity.

Speaker 2: 11:10

Absolutely.

Speaker 1: 11:11

You don't think I'm attractive, or he's always talking about what I'm eating, like he's worried about me, what I'm eating like he's worried about me getting fat, like yeah why is he talking to me like that?

Speaker 1: 11:19

yeah, or she's. She always complains about me just sitting on the couch and watching sports or not exercising or not doing, um, not working out like I used to, and you get these insecurities going and it's just like just had children, as a as a woman, you just had babies and it's like your body's not snatching the way it used to and you're.

Speaker 2: 11:40

It's hard to get back on track and your whole schedule's off. It's hard to work out, but then you see your husband working out and you start to feel like some kind of way of wow, I wish I can have that, you know, start to get resentful because you're starting to feel like if feel like they have the freedom to go and do that, but I'm tied with kids and I can't do it. And I'm trying and it's hard and my body's not the same. And just so many things, bro, so many avenues that this one topic can turn into. But, like I said, couples don't realize it and they don't sit and talk about it. They don't cast that vision to be like what is important to you and how can I support you? You know, yeah.

Speaker 2: 12:20

I want to say another problem, since it's fresh in my head, yeah, and that is you feel dependent on your partner to become healthy, okay. So, for example, I like this is a general example, this is not what's happening right now, but I want to lose weight, selena wants to lose weight, okay, and so, therefore, selena has to look at you know what she eats and the portions that she eats and she has to look at how often she works out. So now Selena is saying Kyle, this is what I want to do. Let's do it together. This is what I want to do.

Speaker 1: 12:54

Let's do it together this is what we got to do exactly like.

Speaker 2: 12:58

this is what we have to do. So now, all of a sudden, kyle's not eating carbs anymore because selena wants to go on a diet, or kyle needs to work out when selena wants to work out, because that's going to help me, that's going to keep me accountable, and, before you know it, you're forcing your partner into something that they didn't necessarily sign up for. They want to support you, but you're forcing them to support you in a way that's affecting their whole life and their whole choices Negatively, exactly, and they didn't exactly sign up for that. And now they feel bad because they're like, well, I want to be there for you, but I didn't sign up for this. Like, well, I want to be there for you, but I didn't sign up for this. I don't want to do this, and you're basically just shifting this blame and shifting this.

Speaker 1: 13:41

you're, you're being dependent on your partner it could definitely open up the wrong ways. Another resentment exactly she forced me into this. She's you know what now? Now she wants to have salads all the time. So now, guess who's having salads all the time? This guy, right, you know who hates salads.

Speaker 2: 13:57

Kyle hates like in real life guys. Kyle hates salads. He's so mad when I have to put kale in something.

Speaker 1: 14:04

Well, you know, we all have our weaknesses.

Speaker 2: 14:07

Yes.

Speaker 1: 14:08

Salads and kale. Keep them off of my plate.

Speaker 2: 14:12

Keep them off the plate.

Speaker 1: 14:12

No, every once in a while. Plate no, every once in a while, like every once in a while like this these last couple weeks where it's been just hot. I crave like a nice salad with some good chicken and ranch and cheese that's summer like a, but I always crave like an antipasto, like a nice with with the meat and the cheese and the whole side note have you heard the tiktok saga of the antipasto lady?

Speaker 2: 14:33

no okay, I won't go into it.

Speaker 1: 14:35

But really the question is why does health matter, like we're talking about legacy, like you're talking about big? When I think of legacy, I think of like big lasting impression, lasting impact that you made in the world for Christ through your health. Does that make sense? Does it go in this category?

Speaker 2: 14:55

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Speaker 1: 15:11

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Speaker 2: 15:31

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Speaker 1: 16:13

Yeah, how does this fit into the big legacy talk?

Speaker 2: 16:16

It fits into the big legacy talk, because what you do today affects your tomorrow. Right, it goes with. Same goes with health. If you're going to treat yourself poorly, if you're going to give up on yourself health-wise, then how are you ever going to be healthy enough to, like I said, have a long-lasting relationship? One of the things that I have seen is, as marriages get older and as they grow older, health complications become more common. Right, okay, yeah, and eventually, if you're serious, if you're a Christian couple who's serious about marriage, then, you took the vow in sickness and in health.

Speaker 2: 17:01

That is a vow, that is a lasting legacy. So, in sickness and in health, I would much rather love you in good health than to love you through sickness.

Speaker 1: 17:14

And so what?

Speaker 2: 17:15

you choose today in your health is going to affect that, and, as we talked about all the problems in earlier in this episode, those problems can lead to rifts and drifts in your marriage. And so how do you create a lasting legacy in your health? You have to really ask yourself how important is health to you? Are you being selfish and prideful in assuming that you don't have to think about it, don't have to think about your choices, that you could just simply worry about it later and think that it's not going to affect how your wife or how your husband is feeling? Or are they worried? Because I know for me, I would like to think that I'm not as healthy as you are, kyle. I feel like every time when I go to the doctor, they find something wrong, where, compared to you, they're like we'll see you in 10 years, you're fine, get out of my office, there's nothing wrong with you.

Speaker 2: 18:15

And if I left that unchecked, okay, if I did not take supplements, if I did not move my body, if I did not give frequent checks and tests done and make sure that everything's healthy, then how would that look 10 years from now? Right, how would that affect our marriage? How would that affect you. You know, if I didn't, if I was worried about being sick and I did nothing about it and I just continued to deteriorate, how would that affect our marriage? How would that affect our family, you know?

Speaker 2: 18:46

And so what I have to do today is 100%. I'm thinking of it with the consideration of you. I'm thinking of it with a consideration of how long do I want this to go on. I'm thinking of it with the consideration body and I'm choosing not to take supplements and I'm choosing not to stretch and not to do things for myself that's going to put me in a better quality of health. Then all of those dreams can just go out the window, absolutely. I think part of loving your partner is loving yourself enough to take care of yourself in a health standpoint.

Speaker 1: 19:39

I always think of it when I think of my health. Legacy is that my body is not my own. My body is for the Lord. My body is the Lord's and, by being married to you, my body is yours.

Speaker 2: 19:50

Yeah, that's Bible, that's scripture.

Speaker 1: 19:51

I am taking care of the Lord's body. I am taking care of Selena's body by exercising, by staying healthy. I'm giving by putting in the time and effort to be healthy, to eat well, to not overeat, to maintain myself. I am giving the Lord more days, not giving him more days, but I'm giving this body more days to be here to do things for the Lord to do work for the Lord.

Speaker 1: 20:18

I'm giving this body more chances, more time to, while it's here on earth, to do more for my wife, for my kids, to minister, to strangers, to give, to earn, to give. And so a health legacy is a legacy of longevity, is a legacy of having time to pour out for the Lord is building into the rest of it. Right, I think I mean, this could have been our week one episode of this series. You could have started with health and about how health is going to give you a chance to pour into your family. More Health is going to give you a chance to pour into your ministry. More Health is going to give you a chance to pour into your family. More health is going to give you a chance to pour into your ministry more health is going to give you a chance to pour into your friendships more?

Speaker 1: 20:59

yes, right, yes. And so in this series where we're talking about legacy, we're talking about lasting health, is is the key to lasting right, even and even just the healthy mind. Like we, we read for recreation, to keep our mind sharp, to keep learning new things. I was going to say mind Growing.

Speaker 2: 21:16

I was going to say mental health is definitely part of maintaining your health.

Speaker 1: 21:20

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 21:22

I talked about this before and I'm going to share now publicly, and that is in this day and age. It is almost ludicrous to think and assume that everyone does like. We all need a mental health checkup at some point in our life everyone is battling something in their mental health everyone is going through something mentally. I mean, if not from 9-11 on, you know, if not from the wars and the political things that are happening, that would put stress on you alone and even just the anxiety of the current economic situation.

Speaker 1: 21:59

What's happening?

Speaker 2: 21:59

we've all gone through something yeah and and and. To not consider mental health and getting a at least one checkup in your life regarding your mental health is just like saying I can grow up and never go for a physical checkup. I don't need a physical checkup because I'm healthy. I don't need it and we've all gone through at least one physical checkup. Why would you not go through at least one mental health checkup, even just to hear the doctor say get out of my office, I'll see you in 10 years.

Speaker 1: 22:31

to do that.

Speaker 2: 22:33

And so it's just as important. I was going to touch on that, so I'm glad that you did touch on that I'm going to share part of my testimony, that kind of kind of sucks.

Speaker 1: 22:41

Okay, it's. It's not my, it's part of my testimony because it has to do with my parents. Okay, and my parents, um, both died young. They both were called up to heaven, I think long before they were supposed to Right. But God knows the timing. God's timing is perfect. I trust that. But the reason they were called up early, as hard as it is for me to say and people might not agree with it, but they didn't take care of their body. They did what they wanted, they lived how they wanted to live, they loved the Lord, but they didn't always live for the Lord, right, and at the end of their lives they were doing their best, but all the choices they made in their young life, in their young times, in their 20s and 30s, caught up to them yeah and it and it cost them those, those smiles with their grandkids, and those those times that we talk about the, the, the travel, the retirement lifestyle, that we pray one day, you know, to just be full-time doing and enjoying.

Speaker 1: 23:51

And it's tough, man. It's tough to see how important you know I'm going back to what I said before how important that health legacy really is.

Speaker 2: 23:59

Absolutely, it's part of that foundation. Yes.

Speaker 1: 24:02

Of your relationship. Yes, you want to have a long relationship. You want to have a lasting relationship. You want to have a lasting relationship. You got to take care of yourself to get there. You can't get to the end by not paving the road nicely at the beginning.

Speaker 2: 24:13

Yeah, Thank you for sharing that. Yeah, I remember a few years ago I had some really bad back issues, really bad back pain, and the back pain was connected. It went down to the hips, it went down to the hips, it went down to my knee, it went down to my feet Like I couldn't walk. I was wearing a boot six months of the year, I was going to a bunch of doctors and we just couldn't figure it out.

Speaker 2: 24:39

And I think it was because of pregnancy and the childbearing experience. But I it got to a point where I couldn't play on the playground with my kids. It got to the point where I couldn't walk barefoot. So if we went to a water park I sat out because I couldn't walk without proper supported shoes. And it got to the point where I started to fear that going to see the Grand Canyon or going to hike somewhere with you or with children was going to become impossible. And it really scared me because I was so young and it just it really scared me to think that those dreams were going to just become vapors in the wind. And you know, thank God we figured it out. I went to a personal trainer Pope Fitness, you know trainer you shout out your trainer.

Speaker 2: 25:29

And Travis Professor Travis, my trainer and for what they did and just helping me understand that. You know, lifting weights was helping my core and helping my back and once I figured this out, I really tried to make an effort to keep that going in my life. And for people who lift weights, for people who go jogging, for people who eat clean, for people who take supplements like essential oils, all the things that you're doing for your health in moderation we don't want to make idols of these things. We don't want to do these things in place of seeking God and depending on God for our healing and all of our things. But to do it in moderation and to do it in balance is to keep those dreams alive, like you said, with your parents, so that they don't live short, so that they don't die young.

Speaker 2: 26:25

Like I said for everyone who gets married, you're getting married with dreams. You're getting married with these intentions and these thoughts and these desires of your heart that you want to see things come to fruition. And these choices that we make now is really going to affect that what you do in your health and how you do it. I think number one, you got to share your goals with your partner. You got to let them know If you have a concern with your partner. It's really important to talk about those concerns because maybe they don't even realize that it's keeping you up at night, maybe Kyle eating Oreos every single night, which?

Speaker 1: 27:08

is something he does. I don't eat them every single night.

Speaker 2: 27:10

You do it a lot.

Speaker 1: 27:11

Carry on.

Speaker 2: 27:13

Five out of the seven days no folks Keep this moving.

Speaker 2: 27:16

But okay, here's real talk, real talk, testimony here. It used to concern me. I used to be like he's going to have a heart attack because he's eating Oreos. But when we talk about the overall things, you know, when we talk, when we, when Kyle and I sat down and he shares with me, like this is how many steps I'm getting a day, like I'm really active, I work out, I do these other things in my life to keep me healthy. These Oreos are not is not going to jeopardize that, you know. Then it makes me see the bigger picture.

Speaker 2: 27:48

But you might be at home worrying about your spouse because you don't see the big picture. So having a conversation about you know, these are my goals, these are what this is what I'm concerned with. Or honey, this is what I'm concerned at regarding you, you know, talking about your health goals, talking about what you want your health life to look like and how your partner can contribute to that, or how you guys can do it together. Or maybe you need extra things, like getting a personal trainer was not cheap.

Speaker 2: 28:17

You know getting supplements is not cheap. No, it's an investment you know, sometimes you might have to put in some investing to really see ultimate results and to really get you know. Maybe surgery is one of those options and you have to really sit down and talk about it with your partner, because what do you, what is the lasting legacy that you're trying to have and what steps do you have to take to get there?

Speaker 1: 28:40

And even if it's just for me, if it was just surface, where my wife wants this cosmetic thing to love herself better for me and you, I'm willing to say yes to that. If it helps your mental health and helps you love yourself better, I'm down, I'm willing to invest in that because it's going to pay off in your peace, in your you know mental health cosmetic or, you know, counseling, you know things that are outside of the health insurance spectrum.

Speaker 2: 29:12

All those things is really important to help you see and help you feel good about yourself. Because, let's be honest, when you take care of yourself, your ultimate health, your when you're at your optimal, when you're at your peak level that affects your marriage in a great way. Who wouldn't want that? Who wouldn't want the healthiest, happiest, most energetic content person as their partner, who feels good about themselves, who loves the way that they look? They're going to bring that into your bedroom when it's bedtime. You know what I'm saying. They're going to bring that into the present time when you've got to connect with your kids or when you've got to connect with each other on date nights. That's going to bring themselves into just feeling like I can do all the things. It's going to push you guys to make more goals.

Speaker 2: 30:08

It's going to push you to focus on other things. It's going to push you to get out of your house and enjoy each other more. It's going to push you to do more with each other, to be more connected with each other. So why wouldn't you want to encourage your partner to reach that ultimate health? By all means?

Speaker 1: 30:27

I'll finish with this thought, and it's one that it goes back to working together.

Speaker 2: 30:32

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 30:33

Right. We have to empower our partner. We have to. You want accountability from your partner. If they ask you for accountability, you have to be real clear on what that accountability looks like. You have to be real clear on what that support looks like and what you want Like. I would tell you if I want accountability, I don't want you to question every food choice I make right.

Speaker 1: 30:52

I want you to help me, when we're making groceries, to be like let's make this choice, let's do that, let's make this meal. You know, let's kick this into breakfast instead of that.

Speaker 2: 31:02

Can I say one thing right here yeah. If you can't be that accountability person, that your partner wants you to be. You need to share that too. Okay, Like if you're saying I want you to keep me accountable and you're like, every time you ask me to do that, it doesn't end well, I don't think I should be the one to do it. I think you should find a different person. That's great.

Speaker 1: 31:24

Like I think you should.

Speaker 2: 31:25

I think you should find a different person. That's great. I think you should make that clear, just as you're being clear about this is how I need to be accountable. You might not be the one to do it and be okay with sharing that.

Speaker 1: 31:34

And then I think the final piece that goes with that is to pray Pray for yourself, pray for your partner, pray for your health situation, so that the Lord will guide you and the Lord, the Holy, will show you what you need to be doing, what you can do better, what you need to let go of. Yes, and don't skip that step. Yes, because it will. He will speak to you. Because it is his body to use and to have and to make how he wants it.

Speaker 2: 32:01

Yeah, he's in it.

Speaker 1: 32:02

He will be there to speak to you in that and speak to you about your partner, if that's what he needs to do too, yeah, don't be afraid to pray over your health, over your partner's health.

Speaker 2: 32:13

Amen.

Speaker 1: 32:13

In Jesus name.

Speaker 2: 32:15

Amen. That's great, kyle. You're so right on all of those things and all of those closing points you know, especially with the power of prayer and just having the Holy Spirit help us tell us how we can become healthier people. A lot of the times the desire is there but the how is missing and the Holy Spirit can help you connect that. He's done it multiple times with us and so just speaking from testimony of that, so thank you for sharing that. I think this is a great stopping point to talk about it.

Speaker 1: 32:48

And so just speaking from, testimony of that.

Speaker 2: 32:49

So thank you for sharing that. I think this is a great stopping point to talk about it, because obviously we can go on and on and on about health, but we just wanted to get your gears kind of moving to help you see how this should be a legacy point for you to talk with your partner on, and we hope that you do that. We hope that this encourages you to make some healthier choices and get some healthy goals together in your marriage so that you can love by faith with your temple. So, kyle, why don't you go ahead and pray us out?

Speaker 1: 33:15

Let's do it. Lord, we're grateful, we thank you today that you have given us life in this body, Lord, that you've given us new life through your son, Jesus and through the forgiveness of sins. Lord, I pray for all those listening, Lord, that they would take health and wellness seriously, that they would take their mental health as seriously as they take their physical health. That they would do it for themselves, that they would do it for you, they would do it for their partner, Lord. We give you glory. Lord, I pray today for all those people who are struggling, that you would give them courage, that you would give them hope, Lord, that you would give them an answered prayer today over their health legacy. I pray for all those people who are here with us, together, walking this walk, fighting this fight to leave a lasting legacy of a healthy life In Jesus's name, amen.

Speaker 2: 34:10

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Speaker 2: 35:01

Make sure you tune in again next week for another episode of Love by Faith. We hope to see you then.

Speaker 1: 35:06

Take care, see ya, bye, love, by Faith. We hope to see you then. Take care.

Speaker 2: 35:09

See ya Bye. Love by Faith y'all, love by Faith y'all. So the antipasto salad.

Speaker 1: 35:16

Antipasto salad.

Speaker 2: 35:17

The antipasto salad Not antipasto, antipasto. Antipasta.

Speaker 1: 35:23

Yeah, before the pasta Antipasta.

Speaker 2: 35:26

Can someone explain? I don't understand the whole terminology of antipasta.

Speaker 1: 35:33

It's Italian, it's literally antipasta, like before the pasta.

Speaker 2: 35:37

You get the salad before the pasta. Yeah, even though there's pasta in the salad.

Speaker 1: 35:42

No, there's no pasta in the salad. What is in the salad? Lettuce cheese meat veggies dressing? No, there's no pasta in the salad. What is in the salad? Lettuce cheese meat veggies dressing.

Speaker 2: 35:52

What is in an antipasta salad?

Speaker 1: 35:55

in the american antipasta salad. That's all I know. Okay, we got like usually the pepperoni, and there's sometimes they'll do like ham or turkey, right, and then cheese, tomato Right, olives, if that's your thing, banana peppers if that's your thing. It's crazy and there's no sign.

Speaker 2: 36:12

There's no sign of lettuce, and lettuce, yeah, lettuce is the base.

Speaker 1: 36:15

Are you sure? A thousand percent. Okay, so I used to work in a pizza shop. Okay, yes, you just rolled your eyes at me, so