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My Thai Wife
Balancing Emotional Support, Cultural Respect and Beer ( ep.2 2023)
Ever found yourself tangled in a web of little white lies you’ve told your partner? Wish you could navigate the tricky waters of honesty with more ease? Sunaree, my wife, and I, are with you today to break down the importance of open, truthful communication in relationships. Drawing from Sunaree's unique Thai perspective, we share our thoughts on being upfront about everything - from party budgets to personal shortcomings. We dive into the negative ripple effects that even the tiniest of lies can have on your relationship, and the trust-building power of honesty.
Have you ever wondered how to balance emotional and cultural respect in your partnership? We tackle this head-on, discussing the role of emotional support and cultural appreciation as the cornerstones of a sturdy relationship. Sunaree introduces us to the Thai concept of 'Sabai Sabai', a relaxed and harmonious approach to life. We also touch upon the often-underestimated importance of emotional intelligence over academic intelligence for understanding life better. Get ready to unravel the secrets of effective communication in relationships, whether you're engaged in a cross-cultural affair or seeking to understand your partner better.
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Hello everyone and welcome to the third episode of my Thai wife podcast. I am Mike and this is my wife, Sonari.
Speaker 2:Hello, I am Sonari.
Speaker 1:Everyone know you, Sonari. They listen to you every week already. Just say hello.
Speaker 2:Yes, hello.
Speaker 1:How was your week, sonari? Everything good, everything okay. Yeah, because last week you were very, very, very tired. You said you're not sleeping enough, and everything.
Speaker 2:Are you better? Now a little bit better.
Speaker 1:Good and about work not too hard, Everything regular.
Speaker 2:Before years, but now a little bit hard, but it's okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, you sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, and today in this episode, we thought about giving some relationship tips, right? We spoke about this before, maybe help some people that are in relationship with a Thai girlfriend or Thai wife, or maybe have Thai. We can help some Thai ladies that are in relationship with a foreign man. Right Without reading what we wrote, I want you to tell me, without reading, what is the most important thing in a relationship between Thai and foreign.
Speaker 2:Number one for me is Honest.
Speaker 1:Honest, honest, honest.
Speaker 2:Honesty Okay, honesty Okay.
Speaker 1:What do you mean?
Speaker 2:Everything. Number one, my sh Number one, is Honest.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but what do you mean by that?
Speaker 2:Everything for this. When you tell everything need, to say from hard and don't do this, don't say just okay, okay, okay and you good about Can you give me example. This is not easy to actually because, just Honest, you know this, susa. You know everything, susa.
Speaker 1:Okay. But let's say, let's say I give you an example about beer. We always have big problem about this, right? Let's say, you take your money and you have some limit for beer for every day. Right, let's say, one day you lie to me.
Speaker 2:No, it's not nice If I do this, so you don't trust me anymore, right? One time, it's okay, two times, three times. If I spread, you start one time first, you're gonna have two, three, four times it's not nice.
Speaker 1:I see you do this more than 100 times.
Speaker 2:Shut up.
Speaker 1:Really no shut up. So you think the most important thing is just to be true with each other, right, uh-huh? And what about if, like, maybe you do something? Oh, I know, maybe you break something, right.
Speaker 2:What do you mean? Break Feeling?
Speaker 1:No, no. Let's say you go to my car and break something in my car, you will tell me, or you just do like nothing.
Speaker 2:Of course I call you, I tell you I break this. I break one, two, three. Yes, I need to tell you. And about?
Speaker 1:money Also? You sure yes, Because I see not many times, but you know have some people lie about money.
Speaker 2:No, I don't lie, but it's not nice.
Speaker 1:I don't say you, I didn't say that you lie. I just mean that some people, let's say, say oh, oh, even when they not say together, oh, I feel not good, I need some money to go doctor, but they use this money for something else.
Speaker 2:Maybe, but not me. I normally I'm not asking, I have, I have work, I have job.
Speaker 1:I have money.
Speaker 2:Why did you ask so if, if one of If I need it, really really important, serious this I ask.
Speaker 1:So I ask If we have someone that listen to us and his wife is die right and he find, find out she lied to him, she ask money for I don't know sick buffalo, her mama, buffalo sick, but mama, not have buffalo, mama live in Bangkok, have condo. What do you think he need to do? Wow, wow, wow this, wow this. I don't know. You think he need to finish with her or maybe have to understand what happened.
Speaker 2:No, First, if you ask me, you need to talk, do you sure? But what she lie. If you have sick, buffalo sick, why Need to tell True, my need to tell everything.
Speaker 1:So just better. Just hey, hey hey.
Speaker 2:If you need.
Speaker 1:No, if you need money, tell Money for party. Hey Tiras, I want to go party. Can you send me 3000 baht? Yes, this better yes.
Speaker 2:Why Don't lie. If you lie. First time you lie, okay, one day. Him don't know. Two day, no, no, one day. He know how. Everything you lie Need to tell him true. Like me, no, I don't think I'm good, but I'd say I need money for this this. I go for party. He say I need to explain why need money for party. But if for this, this, this, why need this? Need to explain. Don't lie. If you lie, they don't know. One day. They know, him know.
Speaker 1:Okay. So let's say he know, after one time he find out, you think he need to? Okay, okay, baby, I don't think we are together anymore, or better just try to explain and figure out.
Speaker 2:If for me, I think, need to free and also tell lady, why, when, also you know why lady don't tell this. Because if I tell him because I need money, maybe lady, our friend, if I tell why, no, no, why he say my mom sick, my dad sick, this, this, this. Because if tell everything, true, frank, not keep money and up to relationship, up to how long you stay and how long you learn, that right and but for me I should tell everything, for you, for my boyfriend, my husband know everything, I like this, I drink, I this, this, this, for I can do everything, not mama sick, papa sick, no, I this, I don't like a.
Speaker 1:I think also it's bad luck for papa mama if talk like this.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, it's just why I don't want to. When you need money, you can ask. Please, darling.
Speaker 1:Darling.
Speaker 2:T-Rac. I need some money for one, two, three, no, but can lie a little bit. But have, you sure can lie a little bit.
Speaker 1:If I lie to you a little bit, no, not me. Me let's say have. Not lie, but just say okay you mean not say 100%, maybe say 90% okay, but 90%, and the first it you, you show, you talk everything 100%.
Speaker 2:Now, you, you feel you know nothing tomorrow.
Speaker 1:You know you're not like. Yes, not only yes because you don't like.
Speaker 2:But if you lie, everything I'm not and the smoke I'm not drink my, then one day, when do be together, you hit, you hit it because you have to hide everything. Yes, you go wow, what can you? If he asked, this is, what can I do? But for me better. People stay together need to learn each other right okay. Okay, I'm like this, my family like this, you like this, your family like this for talk. We're talking. Okay, then we tune the okay.
Speaker 2:Connect connect, yes, okay okay, then we talk, but don't lie please. I don't like, like, no but you?
Speaker 1:I remember when I first meet you I lied to you a little bit about my work, because I was shy, my work wasn't that good back then, and I lied to you.
Speaker 2:Yes, first time you let me and then you say no, yes, then this you think if this happened to some lady?
Speaker 1:Let's say, lady find out Boyfriend lie about work or about house or something she need to finish with him, or up to I.
Speaker 2:Don't know. But for me, yes, just say blah, blah, blah, blah, but need to learn, then one day, if you, you know everyone, can see all I be One, two, three, four, five, I become John. I I really, really smart Evan just show yes, but it One day you have feeling, then you feel sad. Wow, I like to her this, I like to him this Well, if you know, what can I do? Right? This you're thinking, not Right. So how can I tell I'm you also? You free too much? Yes, you're not happy.
Speaker 2:Oh, but like me, I Tell you everything. I like this, this, this, this. Then just fine, I can do everything. Also, I have my friend also. When they they meet, they lie everything you mean about another couple, right Okay? Like one, two, three and buy. Sorry, not tell well, no, no need to tell, don't say any names and Then you know now, now start the be couple chicken up to one tooth.
Speaker 1:I know them. I know them, don't tell me okay you know just why?
Speaker 2:because For me, for me, I think this my side, okay, this my side, mm-hmm, if I want to be with someone, I want them to know what I am like this, this, this, but I'm not good. Yeah, I'm bringing, and small square.
Speaker 1:Just this, everything else you very good, I think, in my opinion. Yeah, but I tell yes, my mama hate you, but everything else is perfect. It's not okay. I'm joking, I'm joking. I'm joking. Okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. He long towel Okay okay, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop. Can we continue? Mm-hmm, have very sensitive equipment here. Stop, soul things at me. So, dan Ma, okay, okay, so go to crap.
Speaker 2:What's on team guinea.
Speaker 1:No one can see.
Speaker 2:Neeming goosey Go to crap.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay. So I understand. Your first tip is behind us and now it's bring us to. Can I give one tip also?
Speaker 2:can.
Speaker 1:You know when the tip, I want to say that it's called Her family will always be number one, but so are you. This mean that First, when I met sunery, I Didn't understand. I know you remember this. When I met you, you always say your family number one, family number one family number one.
Speaker 1:And you remember, it's made me feel like, wow, so everything you do is nothing. But you know, in Western culture, in this different culture, yes, we think that, yes, you're right, husband and wife, poor and Mia have to be number one. But in Thai culture, in Eastern culture, family and husband, it's same level. This, when you say your family number one, does not mean I'm number two, right, yes, but this I'm, yeah, together.
Speaker 1:Yeah so I think my tip that I can give people maybe you have some question about this but my tip is that Even if she always tell you her family number one, family number one, you have to understand if she really love you, you are her family, you are also number one, yes, of course. So I Don't know how long it take for really love someone. First, you know just, you meet and you like and maybe in love. And but when? For my, for my experience, when my Thai wife Started to really like me and love me?
Speaker 2:No, I'm not when I meet him and not love you. I'm fucking hate him.
Speaker 1:So why you stay with me?
Speaker 2:No, man, because you sure, then I tell you everything. I, I told you this, I'm like this. This is then Wow, wow, wow. And also, you know, thai for me no, I'm not so, just for me Wow, wow, wow. You really really came out everything from me, and also my family also.
Speaker 1:I can't believe yes, but Thank you, Thank you for say that, but I just mean that I want people that not. Don't worry if your girlfriend or wife tell you no, my family is number one. This means you number one for her also, because you are her family, right?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Okay, so this is my tip and I think many people will struggle that because I told you before, in Western culture, right, we think that when you say someone is number one, nothing can be same level with it. You know, no me, but I think for you beer, family and me same level.
Speaker 2:No, be a number one, you're number two, you're number 10.
Speaker 1:Where your family number one beer.
Speaker 2:Number two family. You number hundred.
Speaker 1:I'm hundred.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I want to know who number three and four, just this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah just no one.
Speaker 1:So number one beer, then your family, and then it's many, many, many time beer, and then me.
Speaker 2:Man, man, man man be, a to get a number one man be a you like me more than your family?
Speaker 1:I oh no. So me, beer and family. I spoke right in the first time no, like beer and mung and family same.
Speaker 2:We call mung same family.
Speaker 1:Oh, so first beer?
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, and mung and family same.
Speaker 1:Understand.
Speaker 2:Number two so.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's good, and.
Speaker 2:Shut up.
Speaker 1:Okay, do you have any other tips, maybe that you want to talk about? I know we wrote that before.
Speaker 2:I don't know Check Number For me. We need to support. Support you mean like, let's say, we stand with you, you support me, I support you, right, yes?
Speaker 1:But normally the the foreign men support the lady more.
Speaker 2:Yes, what I want to support not mean about just money, no support. When you feel bad, you feel down, just you know, need to talk and hey and ask you know not why, why, why not just question but need to Slowly and support, not just money, hey you. Okay, this is for make A couple.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Yes, for Relay can come down. Not, don't say Fuck you fucking stupid. No, don't say like this let's say Okay, give example.
Speaker 1:Let's say today I feel very bad, okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, if I, if I.
Speaker 1:No, no, we play, we play. Ask me what happened.
Speaker 2:No, first. If I see your face, you fucking said First I just what happened and you quiet, no, I stop. Then I have, and I do this to you.
Speaker 1:No, but wait, I want to be we show. Ask me. You see my face. You come to the room. You see my face. They said what happened. Ask me.
Speaker 2:Just have you know, hey, you okay.
Speaker 1:No, I'm not okay. I'm very sensitive today.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, you need some, some hot water, you need some food, but please don't do like this.
Speaker 1:You know what happened today.
Speaker 2:What happened?
Speaker 1:Someone tell me in my work that I'm fucking fat.
Speaker 2:Okay, don't listen to me. Okay, please listen to me. Okay, you, everything you forfeit, okay.
Speaker 1:And they say I have ugly wife also.
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, but don't listen to me.
Speaker 1:They say my ugly how I can go to Thailand. And I find ugly, ugly, lady number one in Thailand.
Speaker 2:Okay, but if you listen, then you think too much. But what do you think, how you can?
Speaker 1:They say, she very stupid also.
Speaker 2:Okay, why not listen?
Speaker 1:I don't know this. What they say make me feel very sad.
Speaker 2:Wow, wow, wow. This you're very sensitive. Okay, you want to kick your mouth. Why you?
Speaker 1:want to kick my mouth. You say support. Why kick my mouth?
Speaker 2:Because I try to help you but you couldn't think away here, okay.
Speaker 1:Okay. So basically you mean that if sometime you see someone down, yeah, don't let go Try to. In Thai I know they say Can you explain the listeners what you mean?
Speaker 2:Not just to say my number one, you know how from her Number one is how can I say Like it's okay, everything will be okay Now. Now just a head form. But okay, we are like we are fighting together, okay. Not fighting, but not fighting each other fighting the world. Yes, okay, everything will be okay soon. But now you just have to calm down. Calm down and wait. Everything will be for me. I believe in the Buddha, if you think you think you're not.
Speaker 2:You're not If you're not speak back to someone you know For sure, one day, come on, come back.
Speaker 1:So I have another tip for everyone. This is a difficult one because for me in the beginning it was very, very difficult to understand it. The tip is respect her culture. This means basically that have many things that different between Thai culture and let's call it Pharan culture, for example.
Speaker 2:I remember what is Pharan?
Speaker 1:What is Pharan? You want to talk about Pharan.
Speaker 2:No, maybe some don't know. What does it mean? Pharan?
Speaker 1:Pharan. Normally Thai people say this for everyone. That is not Thai, but I know. Have Pharan and have Arab. For you it's not same, but let's say everything called Pharan. So I remember, for example, the first time I put my feet your face not like kick you, just show my feet to your face you were fucking angry me, you remember that, yes. In my culture it's nothing, but can you explain what's bad about this in your culture?
Speaker 2:I don't know because I don't like it? Because in Thai no one do this.
Speaker 1:Why? What's wrong about it?
Speaker 2:It's not nice because it's very bad To do it like not respect.
Speaker 1:And what about another part of body, let's say head?
Speaker 2:Also, don't slap head.
Speaker 1:Don't touch head.
Speaker 2:Can't touch head Old more. And what is slap?
Speaker 1:Let's say my girlfriend. I sleep together and I put my hand on her.
Speaker 2:Yeah, can do this, not only just girlfriend, boyfriend, papa, my, but can do like this slowly.
Speaker 1:But if this Like move your head hand slowly on her head.
Speaker 2:Okay, this normally just love from heart, but not slap. It's not nice.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And also if you too young, it's not nice to my Thai cause. Many, many, many.
Speaker 1:I remember one time you lay down on bed, I think and I want to pass above you, above you, and you were fucking angry.
Speaker 2:You start screaming Because you cannot.
Speaker 1:Like I cannot pass above you right.
Speaker 2:No, yes, you have to pass like this.
Speaker 1:What can you make this? No one can see what you show. Like pass around, you mean Not above.
Speaker 2:Yes, okay. And also, you see, when I never pass this yes, I walk, you walk around.
Speaker 1:Yes, okay, but I know that have many things that will People will think are weird in Thai culture. But you have to understand this is very different culture from foreign culture, very different.
Speaker 2:But if no, if for Thai it Thai not case, okay, you can, fran can do whatever Fran want, but for me I don't like. And also first number one If you don't like, don't do to them.
Speaker 1:What do you mean? This, I don't understand.
Speaker 2:I mean everything I don't like you to do. Slap my head and.
Speaker 1:So if I don't like someone, slap my head, I not slap someone's head. Yes, you mean this? Okay, yes, that's why.
Speaker 2:That's why I not do it, because I don't like people do it to me. That's why I respect Number one need to respect each other. Culture is important, but need to talk. No, I don't like this. Number one not keep.
Speaker 1:Wait. So you are moving. We are moving to another tip that you have Right. So what is the tip?
Speaker 2:For me, I think, everything not keep feeling what do you need, what do you want, what do you?
Speaker 1:feel. If I keep my feeling and I not share with you this, what happen? What happen to me?
Speaker 2:Easy to someday you keep.
Speaker 1:And then explode.
Speaker 2:Yes, Easy to one day boom.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Need to because, no, we stay together, need to talk each other. Okay, I don't like you do this, oh, I like this. Maybe I need to speak, have a reason, okay, because if you speak, so you know, okay, I don't like you do this, and you say, sorry, I don't like you do this, okay, can we have half for this? Okay, everything, talk, talk, talk for.
Speaker 1:Right, okay.
Speaker 2:If not talk.
Speaker 1:So let's say Okay.
Speaker 2:Quiet Welcome.
Speaker 1:Not let's say, every time I sit, I pick my nose and you don't like right? Let's just say this yes, and if you just keep, keep, keep, one day you fucking angry me. But if you just tell me very easy, mike, and you stop pick your nose, yeah that's it, keep, keep, keep.
Speaker 2:You do just, sometimes you do nothing fucking.
Speaker 1:So, oh, I understand. You mean, let's say, you angry from before, right?
Speaker 2:and then I do something very small. Yes, then you're angry me even like, and come and buy me a slump you.
Speaker 1:You think this important only in Relationship or in life in general. Let's say, in your work, both you think in work. Let's say some Thai lady come to work in let's say, another country, right, and she have boss and her boss, I don't know, say something, or someone from her stuff say something and she don't like. You think it's better to say yes, so I don't like you do that, or better to be quiet. But see, okay.
Speaker 2:Can do, you can be quiet, but it's not tell, because you know everyone different, different culture, different. How can see different Father, mother, different style, different background? Yeah, okay, but I need to hey for not yet, yet, not, yeah, but hey, I think you do this not good, need to talk this not good.
Speaker 1:No good, or just say I don't like when you do that.
Speaker 2:No, I can say you do, I think there is not good, but but need to sit and talk, everything to talk, okay, all friend of work, all Husband, and why all skill friend, but need to talk, sit and talk and come down and talk and keep reason, reason. So I give reason. Why, of course, have a lot of questions why is not good, what is good but good to talk and all, but have some. Some people Do mistake but never say nah, I'm not missing, but need to sometime need to listen to something else.
Speaker 1:So if someone come to you, let's say in your work, and say Soonerie, listen you. I just give example. This, not true? I don't like your perfume. This make me wow. I don't like you always put too much perfume. You need to listen to them or no, I act. Why? Because this make me headache. I'm very sensitive to smell you sure, yeah but your perfume also worry.
Speaker 2:I'm not perfume, no, you use, but on because on just why I smell your this.
Speaker 1:No, I really. When you wear too much perfume, this make me had a. Can you put little bit less, okay? Okay, so this normally someone talk with you. Uh-huh but if someone say why you put too much perfume, can you stop off? Okay, so you mean up to how people talk to you.
Speaker 2:Yes, so, even though even don't like people's this is why you this mean tell you need to do this is, but if Please, can you put a little bit more than before and it's okay. This means less, you mean this mean Respect, because big, you know speak. But why you this? This mean you have to do I need to do One, two, three, same day, like I said, fuck off. But it's ask me, nice, okay. So now real, can I have this guy? Can you? Yes, this mean you know up to one. Yes, but Snaree, why you put too much perfume, what I do, fuck off, go away. But Sonaria, because you put a lot of perfume. Man, I'm here, they can, you are a little bit less, I'm sorry, because Different, you know different.
Speaker 1:Oh, yes, I have a question what about the opposite? What happened if someone be, let's say, not keep, but not talk back? Let's say someone in your walk, or even your husband, let's say always I a yucky, yucky, yucky, mm-hmm. Okay, okay, okay, okay, this is also not good right? Yes, have to say stop, stop, yeah, I mean right. Let's say you now, I stayed true story, you a me too much everything. If you not have something to you, yeah, I think you headache.
Speaker 2:Yes, up to me because I like Maff. I have fun when I give you.
Speaker 1:Even you don't mean I want to get you, I know but can I be honest and sometime tell you hey, sunari, I think you, yeah, you're too much. Can you little bit come down?
Speaker 2:Can. Can but sleep outside.
Speaker 1:So for you, me and you, everything different all your.
Speaker 2:Your tip is not for me, just for me. You know, if you, if you say you want I stop, yeah, you stop, okay, I think I can do, but you sleep outside, you can sleep with dog.
Speaker 1:Okay, I thought I get you. I sleep with dog. Yes, perfect.
Speaker 2:I know so bad, you know so bad from it. Not, I know they get you because it's well. Oh yeah, you go sleep with dog outside. I know Chongqing, I say nothing, okay, but if you stay inside room, yes, I cannot stop Until I sleep. If I sleep, I stop, I wake up, I see even and come, I buy you my. So If you want I stop, you get sleep outside with dog as cap.
Speaker 1:I have just two options yeah, yeah, or sleep with dog. Yes, will you choose? You want, I choose now. Yes, let me think maybe three, four more episodes than I decide.
Speaker 2:Okay. Okay, and then I will let you know if I now start to sleep outside but I think, better you sleep outside, because you, you know, when you know you don't like I wake up, I chong chong chong, chong, chong chong, you don't like. Better you sleep outside.
Speaker 1:No, also when I outside I can sleep because not have tractor near my ear.
Speaker 2:Okay, when I sleep.
Speaker 1:Have tractor near my ear Yesterday I tried to sleep. You know what I do, you don't know. I put pillow on your face, not hard, just put pillow like this, so little bit quiet.
Speaker 2:Oh, my, you also.
Speaker 1:But I have reason, I'm fat.
Speaker 2:It's not important, fat skinny. No, not important. You need to listen. Need to listen this. You know you snore, right, you need to stay a can stay in the floor, have a mattress. You want a long mattress in fall.
Speaker 1:You want a sleep on floor and you sleep sub by sub by on bed.
Speaker 2:Yes, so also Because cool also snow, you are snow, but you better, you sleep because have mattress and also very soft. Yes, have pillow, have a blanket, have everything so when I snow, you can go sleep on floor now, because I don't you to how you call this. Fall down, no, when you pass me.
Speaker 1:Oh, understand, go above you same. We spoke before. Ah, before I say something, I want you can you explain to a listener in Thai, have something that call sub by sub by right, sub by sub by yes. Can you explain what mean? Because this, not only the word sub by sub by, by the way, mean comfortable, but not only this Can mean many, many. But I know sub by sub by mean to do everything slowly, chacha right also can mean this and also so.
Speaker 2:But I mean Everything is from you not thinking too much, and you, you feel happy, sub by sub by mean. Even you do, you still work with this is but a case. But you're not serious. But if not think Not a boom, boom, boom on your head. This means everything flow, flow like flow.
Speaker 1:Yes, no, so you mean sub by sub? By mean not have too much on your head. Yeah so you can be comfortable, you can relax.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, okay, and I know, okay, so by sub, by, even you drink coffee as a by sub, by this can you think this just from Thai culture?
Speaker 1:Or you see this also in another countries, like in in my country, in Israel, you see that happen also. People not have this mindset of sabai sabai. You think here people more tense.
Speaker 2:I think also here, sub by sub by, like If you have good feeling, this cause sub by, let's say, a good feeling and nothing is even need need to do. Let's say, bossy, you need to do this right now, but Even you need to send one camp one hour, but if you have good feeling, you have this. You're not okay Just one hour, just one, okay send, but because you have this from here, from her.
Speaker 1:So you understand that okay. So this, what means?
Speaker 2:but if you don't have sub by, sub by Even, how are you?
Speaker 1:Okay, so you so my stomach in same quiet mind, right, okay, I understand before, before, before I thought it where my name so.
Speaker 1:Wait about your name some soon we finish the show, I promise you. I give you an arm some. But we came to the last tip. I have the last tip for today and and this tip, I try to explain to you that before you didn't really understand, but I'm sure you will understand now. So the tip says it's I.
Speaker 1:I wrote it like this listen to your wife, her seat is street smart without smart your education. In many ways this mean many people that meet Thai lady think that they are not educated or something like this. Maybe they not Finish school or go university or did it. You know this what I say, you know what important street smart, right. So basically, what I mean is that a Steered street smart mean that you are educated yourself. You know you, you, you seen how people Leave you. You met many people, right. It doesn't mean you have to be University smart, quote-unquote in order to be smart, right, and I think many people have this mistake that they come from a foreigner country and they think that, oh, I went to university or I did this or I did this, and they think they are smarter right.
Speaker 2:I think so. But also better if you feel you're a university, yes, but this is not mean so many people know you feel university, but you, your brain, not work, you don't know how to do this. You, you just get the how called this degree. You don't know how to do this, but someone not feeling university, but they can take care family, they can make money. Because this number one is brain, exactly brain.
Speaker 2:And also about your how could you feeling and you think, no, you, you, you feeling about good idea also, yeah, good, yeah, good idea. Not, this is not care about it, it's just what, when you wake up, what can I do? Today, you've just seen. And also about my many people, not sweet but may have big miss. Yes, yes, because from experience and brain and try, maybe right, maybe wrong before, also about fit a university. So, yes, this you just can read and write. But if you not do this, let's see. If you from a rich family, nothing, you not do this. But if from poor family, even nothing. In the University they think where I think, what kind of every day, what, how can I do for I get Money back, hmm, yes, different.
Speaker 1:You know one of our, our friends I will not say his name here, I just say he's from Australia and normally he stay in Japan. I will not say his name. Once he told me a very smart thing. He told me you know Many of the ladies that walk in Pataya. They have one thing that no one else have, okay, they have. It's called Intelligence. How do you, how you say that? I forget, oh, emotional intelligence. So basically, just don't under the under estimate your Girlfriend or wife intelligent, even if she didn't feel a Finnish University or some high studying. Anyway, we ran really long this episode, so we want to thank you everyone for listening to us and we hope, we hope you come listen to us again in the my Thai wife podcast.
Speaker 2:Thank you, bye, bye.
Speaker 1:Bye, bye.