“There is a difference in being nice and being kind.” Niceness is rooted in pleasing other people and kindness, though baked in thoughtfulness, has boundaries and allows you to put yourself first.
Now that is a novel concept for me and dare I say, probably a number of other racialized women. How many of us are taught to live our lives on autopilot operating out of a desire to please, to never ruffle feathers and always say yes despite any core desires to listen to ourselves, our gut feelings and our instincts?
Join Shahzia Noorally in this intimate conversation on boundaries, learning about the roots of our "niceness" as women of colour and what we can do to move beyond our natural, conditioned state to ask for what we deserve, say no to things that don't serve us and stand fully in our worth.
The incredible therapists I mentioned in the beginning of this episode include:
Dr. Saira Sabzaali - Transpersonal Psychotherapist, http://talktosaira.com/
and
Nashina Mirani Miranda - https://harbourcw.com/
The quote was from Taylor Poindexter who can be followed on Twitter @engineering_bae
Licensed intro music from NoMo