Healing After Hours with Shaniqua
Welcome to Healing After Hours with Shaniqua, a late-night safe space for the person who looks fine on the outside but feels heavy on the inside.
This podcast is for the quiet overthinkers, the emotionally exhausted, the people carrying pain in silence, and the ones trying to heal while still showing up for everyone else. Here, we talk about real life emotional burnout, hidden pain, relationships, loneliness, healing, faith, purpose, mental exhaustion, and learning how to breathe again after carrying too much for too long.
Hosted by Shaniqua, each episode feels like a late-night conversation that reminds you that you are not alone. Expect honest talks, healing reflections, faith-filled encouragement, calming moments, and gentle reminders for the nights when your mind won’t slow down.
If you’ve ever stayed awake thinking about everything you never said out loud… this space was made for you.
Healing After Hours with Shaniqua
The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Needed | Why So Many of Us Confuse the Two
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Have you ever wondered if people love you for who you are… or for what you do for them?
Sometimes we become so used to being the helper, the fixer, the dependable one, that our value starts to feel tied to how much we give. We begin to mistake being needed for being loved, and without realizing it, we build relationships around responsibility instead of genuine connection.
In this episode of Healing After Hours, we're having an honest conversation about the difference between being loved and being needed, why the two can feel so similar, and how confusing them can leave you emotionally exhausted.
If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, afraid that people would leave if you stopped doing so much, or wondered whether people truly know you beyond what you provide, this conversation is for you.
Maybe real love isn't found in how much you carry for everyone else.
Maybe it's found in finally believing you're worthy of being loved, even when you're not carrying anyone at all.
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There's a difference in being loved and being needed. Well, let's talk about it. Of course, when we think of love, we think of emotions. You have so many different emotions for a person or for a thing that you kind of can get it mixed up with being needed. A need. Need is associated with like action. Something is being done for you or for someone else. Being needed is comforting to a lot of people, or is when someone calls you, you feel like you're the only person that can get that thing done, so they have to keep you in their life because without you, where will they be? That is a form of attachment that we want you to get rid of in the name of Jesus, right? We're gonna cover you under the blood of Jesus and get that off of your life because you could feel like someone loves you because they have you around so much, but actually they just want you there because these things they don't want to do themselves, they want you to do it. I don't want you to be in any type of environment that only needs you for what you have to offer. Now, if you're doing things for someone and they only way they can repay repay you back is probably to bake you a cake, or they can um they do stuff to help you out as well. That is a healthy relationship, no matter what type of formal relationship it is. But if you're always the one doing, doing, doing, um, that's just they just need you around just because of that purpose, and they don't want to anybody else to go do it, they don't want to show anybody else to do it, they don't want to have to find anybody else to do it. So don't I want you to not be so giving of yourself to people all the time. I want you to sit back and see if they're actually giving to you in any area because it could be a different area that they can give to you. May not everybody ain't gonna do the same thing, right? The your the way you show your love is different than the way they would show their love to you, but I want to make sure that you are actually being shown love and you're not just around to fulfill a purpose of someone else, okay? So we're gonna pray against all those spirits, anything that you feel has attached itself to you, or you feel like you're in a situation you can't get out of, that you feel like it is a need-based relationship. We want to ask God to prepare a way for you to exit, or it gradually starts to slow down. So, because you are you're amazing, you're wonderful, and we don't want you to be stuck in a place where you feel bound to that you have to be around because they ain't gonna make it without you. You will make it, okay? You or you won't make it without them, right? You will make it, okay? You're gonna be great, you're gonna be wonderful, right? You'll be blessed.