Episode 67 - What if God Wanted You to Get Divorced?

We’re flipping the typical script on its head today and contemplating an uncomfortable question: What if God wanted you to get divorced?

We hear that God values marriage, but what if there’s more to the story?

Join me as I discuss my personal experience and share my reflections on this topic.

… because maybe (just maybe) staying in a marriage to please God is a limiting belief. 

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Transcript

Today we’re going to talk about something big, tender, and probably a little triggering:

It’s this question for you to contemplate…

What if God actually wants you to get divorced?

I know. That’s a big one.
Especially if you were raised to believe that divorce is a failure… or that a “good mom” stays and makes it work… or that commitment means staying even when your soul is screaming for something else.

But today, I want to offer you a different lens.
One that might feel radical… and at the same time, (hopefully) deeply validating.
Let’s take a breath and open the door to a new perspective.

If God wanted you to get divorced, how would he tell you?

The answer is quite simply this: he would tell you in the same way he tells you anything he’s guiding your toward or away from.

✨ The Nudges You Keep Ignoring

If you’ve felt a whisper… a gut feeling… a quiet knowing that your relationship was no longer aligned, you’re not making that up.

That’s your intuition. Your soul. God. Source. The Divine.
Whatever language you use—it’s real.

And the thing about those nudges?
They don’t go away.
They get louder.

First it’s a whisper.
Then a discomfort.
Then you start waking up with that ache in your chest.
You find yourself crying in the bathroom, fantasizing about freedom, resenting the person you once loved.

Those nudges aren’t there to torture you.
They’re there to guide you.

And if you don’t listen?
That’s when life starts to feel like a fight.

✨ Downstream vs. Upstream

When you’re following what God wants for you—what your soul chose for you—life starts to feel like you’re in a canoe, floating downstream.

It doesn’t mean it’s easy all the time, but it feels aligned. Clear. Right.

When you’re resisting that flow—trying to cling to a marriage that’s complete, trying to please everyone, trying to force what no longer fits—you’re swimming upstream.

You’re exhausted.
You’re fighting the current.
You’re getting dragged across the rocks.

And your body knows.
You feel it in your chest. In your gut. In your heart.
The anxiety. The heaviness. The rage. The numbness.

You aren’t meant to live like that.

✨ What If It Was All Part of the Plan?

Here’s a reframe that might change everything:

What if this isn’t a mistake?
What if it’s sacred?

What if your marriage… your heartbreak… your unraveling…
What if it was planned by you, your partner, and your children—before any of you even came into this life?

What if you chose this experience together, so you could grow in the exact ways your souls needed to grow?

Maybe your marriage was never meant to be forever.
Maybe it was meant to be a chapter. A mirror. A lesson. A catalyst.

Maybe your kids chose you, knowing you’d walk through this fire—because you’d come out the other side more alive, more grounded, more real.

This was personally my experience – the moment my ex and I made the decision to separate, it was like a giant weight lifted off of both of us and we were finally able to relax and move on.

It took us 3 years to finally give in to ALL of the divine guideance we were being give. 3 years of fighting. 3 years of therapy (together and seperate). 3 years of trying desperately to cling to a marriage we didn’t believe in divorce. We didn’t want to break apart our family. We didn’t want to fail at this.

And yet, the RELIEF we BOTH felt once the decision was made – I can’t even describe to you. And the next part, well... it felt like turning the page and starting the next chapter. There was an ease to our relationship that hadn’t been there in years.

We finally got ourselves out of the water and into the canoe.

✨ Divorce Isn’t the Opposite of Devotion

Divorce doesn’t mean you didn’t love well.
It doesn’t mean you failed.
It means something finished. A chapter of your life is finished.

And endings can be just as sacred as beginnings.
… and, they are also new beginnings.

But more importantly, they are simply part of your story.

The relationships that are the closest to us – our spouses, children, and parents – they are often the hardest because our souls signed up to grow together… and that usually means there are BIG lessons to learn for the purpose of our own growth.

When we can learn those lessons, then we grow as souls, as spiritual beings.

God doesn’t want you to have a miserable life. He is guiding you ALWAYS.

Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is say yes to the life he is calling you towards—even if it means walking away from the one you thought you'd have.

Even if it means going against what you previously believed. Or had been told.

💛 Final Thoughts

Trust the nudges God is giving you.

Look for ease. Look for joy. Walk toward these (and know that these are different than instant gratification or hedonism).

Look at where things feel hard. Walk away from the hard. (and take the time to understand the difference between feeling like you’re drowning or suffocating vs. simply going through something uncomfortable that will pass).

If you’re…
Wrestling with guilt.
Grieving the vision you had for your life that seems to be falling apart.
Questioning if you’re selfish, if you’re giving up by leaving a marriage.

I want you to consider this:

Your soul is on a path and you are being guided by the Divine. By God.

And maybe, just maybe, part of your path involves divorce and co-parenting, and single motherhood.

And if God is calling your toward that, then follow. You are on the right path.

If this episode landed for you, share it with someone who needs to hear this.
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And as always, thank you for being here.