Episode 76 - Why is Everyone Getting Divorced? It's Not What You Think.

Gone are the days when divorce was reserved for extreme circumstances. Now, it seems like everyone is getting divorced -- why?

There's lots of areas we could place blame - self entitlement, selfishness, the masculine/feminine is out of balance in the relationship, the destruction and attack on the family. I could go on.

But what if it's deeper than that?

What if we're being divinely guided toward a new version of family?

The energies on our planet our shifting from the 3rd dimension to the 5th dimension. Structures and systems are crumbling, and marriage is no different.

Join me in today's episode as I dive into the spiritual aspect of divorce and how to build something new, something in alignment with your soul's calling.

Book a FREE Clarity Call with me if you want your divorce and coparenting situation to be as amicable as possible. Let's figure out next steps together. DM me on Instagram to set it up.

Transcript

Have you noticed how it seems like everyone is getting a divorce these days? Women you thought had solid marriages, couples you thought were strong. You look around and it just seems like there's breakup after breakup after breakup. And you might be wondering why. Why is this happening? So in today's episode, we are talking about the changing landscape of marriage and divorce and what that is looking like because it is like any other system right now. There's these new energies on the planet that are moving us into a new dimension, into a new era, and the systems that were built on the old structure of that distorted masculine can no longer hold. So we see systems like the government, healthcare, education, we see those starting to shake and crumble, and marriage is no different. And so we are talking about why this is happening, not only from, like, the daily perspective and what is going on in, in relationships these days, but we're also gonna get into a more of a spiritual aspect of this, because I really strongly believe that there is one. So gone are the days when divorce was really reserved for these extreme circumstances like abuse and adultery and, and those really high-tense situations. Now it just seems like people are divorcing just because, just because they're unsettled, unhappy. We hear this, like, divorcing the good man trend. Like, there's nothing wrong, but I'm not feeling settled in myself. So we are going deep into the soul level stuff, and let's start with what is happening on the... in the spiritual realm, in the energetic realm, where the systems are shaking and crumbling. So if you are not in the spiritual realm, you may not have heard that we're shifting from this three-dimensional energy into this fifth dimensional planet. So what this means is, for the last few thousand years, our system society, everything in our world has been built on this distorted masculine energy. So lots of control, lots of structure, lots of like this is how it needs to be done, and if you're out of line, like, you're out. Uh, control, control, control, and very rigid in how it must look. The fifth dimension is more fluid. It's more of this divine feminine energy. So we're, like, s- fully swinging this pen- pendulum not from masculine to feminine, but from this distorted version of masculine, not divine masculine, to this divine feminine energy. So we are going through a massive planetary evolution and shift in what our world is gonna look like. And the divine feminine is more heart-centered, in flow, intuition, natural cycles, and really this loving, nurturing energy. So we have this, like, rigid, distorted control energy, and we're moving into this fluid energy. So what that means is, like, everything that is built on this old energy and these old patterns, we feel these shaking. And you might not be aware of this, but if you're, like, in the spiritual world, you can start to see these shifts happening. It's almost like, you know, these, these buildings, if we're picturing each, like the government, the education, the healthcare, like as these buildings, like they're shaking and starting... things are starting to fall away and crumble. And we're not gonna go into this devastating crumble. We are moving into something really, really beautiful that is still being born, that is still going through the birthing process. We don't y- know yet what it is that we are moving to in this divine feminine energy. So, you know, things like during COVID, we saw that You know, the healthcare system wasn't what we all thought it, it should be, and crumbling. And we see these new ways of taking care of our health starting develop, to develop, but there's this crumbling that's happened, this, that we recognize that the old way is not the, the correct way or it's not the right way to do things anymore. We're moving into something different, but we don't have a clear picture of exactly what that is. So marriage is the same. We have this, you know, this way that we have been told to do things for generations and generations across cultures, like stick to this, and that is starting to not feel good at a soul level. I really do believe this is at a soul level. Now, there are things and reasons on the surface of like, you know, attacks on families in terms of like the family structure and, you know, the divine masculine polarization within relationship dynamics. There's these cycles of stuck where it's like women are very much in their masculine and control, control, control, and men are like, "Ah, cool. Peace out. I'm gonna go work and I'm not gonna help around the house." And there's this, this, there's a lot of things going on in the day-to-day, but really under the surface of that all, it's just this system is like, this system is shaking and, and crumbling. And we are, we're seeing divorce rates like go up and up and up. And it's not that relationships are getting worse. It's that we feel this, we feel this unsettledness within us, and we see so many women, o- at least online, at least this is prevalent in my feed, even in my friend circles of like, you know, I'm not happy. I'm no longer happy in this relationship. There's nothing inherently wrong. Yes, we might have the day-to-day squabbles, but, but... And we're feeling like we're stuck in this cycle we can't break, and there's all these things, like we're overwhelmed with all of this stuff. But it's like, I know we, I, like I know I have a good man, but I, like I'm so deeply unhappy. And it's not necessarily happy On the superficial level, it's like this, this soul calling, this unfulfillment, this, this knowing that you're meant for something more, you're meant for something different, and you need to break free of this relationship to move into that. And so this, this transition from marriage to divorce for, I'll say no reason, for no extreme reason, we keep seeing this, and I really just believe that this is a soul contract thing. This is the evolution of what we're going through on the planet. The, the family structure is evolving, and when you think about divorce, we're only like a couple generations into divorce being, I'll say, more and more common. Like, when my grandparents were, were, you know, married back in the day, divorce was very uncommon, very unheard of, and it's only taken a couple of generations to get where we are, where there's like almost a 50% divorce rate, depending on where you are. And so we see this evolution of family happening, and we... There's a way to divorce you know, a way to divorce of what's expected during divorce. It's expected to be confrontational, expe- it's expected to be conflict, like high conflict. It's expected to be like y- people expect you to be fighting. The process is designed for you to be fighting. But more and more people are shifting away from that because they know that, you know, moving into this divine feminine energy, they're not m- maybe thinking about it that way, but there is a need for more fluidity, more of a nurturing heart-centered approach. And that's, you know, really what I do in my coaching is like, how can we make this as amicable as possible and as peaceful as possible, and really, like, what is best for the kids and what is best for you and what is best for your ex? Like, how can we do this in a really healthy way where you're actually like, you know, dissolving one version of your relationship and building a healthy different version of that. So divorce has typically meant one thing, m- and marriage has typically meant one thing, but we are rewriting the story. We are rewriting the narrative of what it means to be married and then divorced, and what is the new version of family looking like. And we get to be really, really conscious about rewriting that story. We don't have to follow the script that's been given to us, and really that's only been laid out starting with super high confrontational situations. And, you know, if you've have g- started the divorce process or if you've gone through any of it, like lawyers are out to mitigate all possible risks and think of every what if scenario, and you're having fights potentially over stupid little things that aren't even pertinent to your relationship. They're made up on these what if hypothetical scenarios, and you can give me all the reasons in the world of like, "Yeah, that's just for protection, blah, blah, blah." And you can choose to play that game if you want to. You can absolutely choose to play that game or you can choose to play another game. You can choose to say like, "Okay, we are ending our marriage, and it sucks that we're ending our marriage," but it doesn't have to mean screwing our kids. It doesn't have to mean fighting. It can be something different. And it takes a lot of, I'll say courage and conscious effort to say, "I'm gonna reject how the way things have been done, I'll say in the divorce industry in this, uh, since we're talking about that, I'm gonna reject how things have been done, and I'm gonna go my own path. But I can tell you with absolute certainty you are capable of writing your own path and your own story in this. Regardless of what is going on in your scenario, you are so powerful in y- the creation and manifestation of what is coming and what you're building, that you can absolutely reject the script that's been given to you, and rewrite your own version of what divorce looks like, of what this new version of your family looks like, of what it looks like to support your kids across two households. So I want you to know if you are currently in a marriage and you're feeling that rattling and shaking, you're feeling like, "I, I can't pinpoint exactly what's wrong. I know, but I feel like I need to get out. I, this, this is crumbling. It's not working. I'm so deeply unhappy," I can tell you from my own perspective that, yes, we had problems in our relationship, but when we both... Now, we were able to come to this decision, you know, to split up our marriage, to break u- up our marriage, we were able to come to that from a very amicable, um, position right away I will say the years leading up were more the, more the conflicts that we faced, and yes, we c- we faced some conflicts, you know, as we were rebuilding a new version of ourself because any change is gonna be unsettling and uncomfortable and you're, you're There's gonna have to be some give and take. You can't control everything, and especially I find as mothers, that can be really hard for us at times of not having full control over, you know, how our kids are being treated, how they're, you know, being fed, you know, the clothes they're going into school, are they remembering, you know, that it's green shirt day at school or whatever it is that we can't control. We have to let go of control. When we're splitting up a household, there's gonna be some, some giving up control because in return we're getting some of that, I'll say freedom, but it's really this, this freedom to go down a new path that our soul is really calling us to do. And I can tell you that when we made the decision to split up, it felt like a really big weight was lifted off of us, like our soul, like we finally just like gave in to what God was calling us to do and just saying like, "Hey, guys, your soul contract's over. Like this needs to shift now so you can build this new version of, of family for yourself." So it felt like a big weight and it felt like we've been on the right path ever since. If you are, you know, feeling this unsettledness, if you're wondering why everyone is s- splitting up, if you're just like, "What is happening? People are being selfish. They're not holding true to their vows. They're all of that," like all of that rigid rules is really the way of that distorted masculine when the structures were built, and we are moving into something different. And it's not to say there will not be a place for marriage down the road. I really, really do believe that we are meant to be in partnership, we are meant to be in relationships, we are meant to be in families, all of that stuff. We're just building something different, and we don't know exactly what that looks like. But you can choose to move into the direction that you wanna go rather than playing in this high conflict, you know, battleground that divorce has the reputation for, and that's the script that, you know, you're supposed to follow. So if you wanna do something more intentional with your co-parenting situation, with your divorce process, definitely reach out and book a one-on-one call. The link will be down below, and I am here to work with you wherever you're at, whatever your dynamic is right now to make it a better scenario and really rewrite this version of relationship and the r- the version of your family that you are desiring, that your soul is calling you forward to be and to have.