What is Actually Happening When a Medium Connects to Spirit — With Dominic Boag

What actually happens when a medium connects to spirit… and how do you know it’s real?

In this episode of Soul Sync, I’m joined by Scottish medium Dominic Boag for a grounded, honest, and deeply insightful conversation about what’s really going on during a spirit connection.

This isn’t about performance, theatrics, or trying to “get it right.”

It’s about understanding the experience of mediumship — from the inside out.

We explore what it actually feels like to connect, how information is received, and why so many people unknowingly block themselves by trying too hard, overthinking, or searching for certainty.

A powerful theme running through this conversation is the difference between thinking and knowing — and how true connection happens when you step out of your own way and allow something deeper to come through.

This episode goes beyond mediumship.

It’s about trust.
It’s about awareness.
And it’s about learning how to recognise when something is coming from the mind… versus something much deeper.

If you’ve ever questioned what’s real…
Doubted your intuition…
Or felt like you might be blocking something without fully understanding why…

This conversation will open something up for you.

🔊 What you’ll hear in this episode

•  What actually happens when a medium connects to spirit 
•  The difference between thinking and knowing 
•  How information is received during a reading 
•  Why trying too hard blocks connection 
•  The role of trust and surrender in mediumship 
•  How this applies to intuition and everyday life 
•  Recognising when you’re in your mind vs in flow 

👤 Who this episode is for

•  Anyone curious about mediumship and spirit communication 
•  Those developing their intuitive or psychic abilities 
•  People who feel stuck in overthinking or self-doubt 
•  Listeners wanting to trust themselves on a deeper level 
•  Anyone questioning what’s real… and what isn’t 

💭 Mentions & ideas

•  Mediumship as a state of allowing, not performing 
•  Trust vs control 
•  Awareness and presence in connection 
•  Getting out of your own way 

⚠️ Gentle note

This episode explores spiritual and intuitive experiences. Always trust your own judgment and take what resonates with you.

✨ Get in touch
If you have a story, experience, or idea you'd love to share on Soul Sync, I’d love to hear from you.
📩 Email: hello@jasonpaulmedium.com

🌐 Website: jasonpaulmedium.com

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Transcript

Intro

SPEAKER_02 0:27

Hello, I'm Jason Paul, and welcome to the Soul Sync Podcast. It's lovely to have you here, all of my dears. Now, in this episode, I'm speaking to a Scottish medium called Dominic Bogue. This episode is centred around a question that I think almost everyone has asked at some point. What really happens when a medium connects to spirit? Now, not what it looks like from the outside, not what people assume is happening, but what's actually going on in that moment? Because whether you believe in this work, you're developing it yourself, or you've simply experienced something that you simply just can't quite explain. There's always that deeper curiosity. Now, some of the questions I've asked myself is is this real? Where is this coming from? And how does this actually work? And that's exactly where we explore in this particular conversation now. This isn't about performance, it's not about trying to prove anything, it's about understanding the process behind connection. What does it actually feel like to connect to spirit? How much information comes through? How do we feel it? How do we articulate that? How do we channel it? And that's what we're gonna be talking about in this conversation. So uh sit back, relax, enjoy, put your feet up, get a couple, and take a moment for you. You're gonna enjoy this conversation. Oh, Dominic, I'm excited. I'm excited. So am I welcome, welcome, welcome. It's lovely firstly to have you on the SoulSync. Thank you. No, thank you.

SPEAKER_01 2:33

Thank you very much for reaching out and having me as your guest.

SPEAKER_02 2:37

Well, do you know what? I was saying to you before we hit the record button, I uh you are one of the people who's got requested to me to come on, and I can understand why, because you you know, your story firstly is fascinating because you know, first things first, you know, I'll let you introduce yourself, but your journey into mediumship was a very young age, and that was the first thing that jumped out at me about you, because it's in stark contrast to my own background in some ways. So to take I guess to lead us in, then you are a medium, you you travel all around the world doing your mediumship teaching, doing readings, and and so on. But I guess I want to f I first understand how you know mediumship, the the spirit first came into your life.

What Actually Happens When a Medium Connects

SPEAKER_01 3:31

Yeah, absolutely. And like you, like you said, I was very young. I always and I I still tell this all the time to people, I used to think I was normal, to be honest with you, but again, don't we all? But looking back, there was different things happening in my life that I realized I was very psychic, very intuitive, which of course is a natural faculty with with everyone. But I was never aware of spirit. I was never aware of the dead, if you want to say, or even had any reason to to think about, you know, spirits or mediumship. But sadly, my own father passed away very suddenly and unexpected when I was 14. And the same evening that the police had come to say that he had been found passed away, I remember going up to to my bedroom and I was sitting on the computer when it was the big screens, and it was back in the the Yahoo Messenger days when you would message your friends, and I, you know, I was messaging my friends and just saying, you know, I won't be at school for a few weeks. You know, I'll give you guys a call. And you know, I could really feel a lot of like static is the only way I I could describe it. A lot of change. My hairs and my arms were standing up. I had that horrible feeling that someone was was watching me. And as I I started to like turn ever so anxiously and look towards the door, my my own father uh was standing there as as plain as as you and I right now. And it could have been a minute, it could have been 10 minutes, but it felt just very much like we were both just in in this unique space. And as I was looking at him, he must have could tell that I was taken aback or shocked. And he basically told me that you know he was perfectly fine not to worry about what the police had said. You know, he was perfectly fine. He had found his his mom, his family in the spirit world, and that it was my job to now look after the family and to look after mum, my little brother, and my sister. And as quick as he taught me all of that, he was gone. He was gone, and the room just became so cold and so charged is the only way I could describe it, was my first ever experience of what now I know to be to be spirit. So I you know, I always used to think I was normal. I had no inclination of life after death. You know, I I used to be actually quite scared of of death, and what I mean by that is, you know, what would my life be like without my mum or my dad, or what if my my grandparents pass away and they're not here. That fear of losing people you love, I I I was always really quite scared of. But then no 14-year-old should really need to be thinking about death, should they? So that was my first experience of of spirit and communicating with spirit, I guess you could say.

SPEAKER_02 6:28

Wow, what it to have that happen at such a young a young age, and so suddenly after losing your father, and and yeah, you're right, you know, you don't that age, you know, you you don't you shouldn't be thinking about death shouldn't be something that's you know at the in the forefront of your mind. So that happened. Did I I guess in that moment that that was probably a very confusing thing to happen, but you know, some level of reassurance in the same time. So that acted as a catalyst. And where where did you go and what did you do with it from there?

SPEAKER_01 7:05

Uh I kept it in the closet to see. So I keep it all to myself. The last thing I I wanted to do is run downstairs and you know, tell my my broken and my devastated mother, like, hey, you know, I just saw dad, he's fine or whatever. So I really kept it to myself, you know, bear in mind I I was still in school at that age as well. So I eventually we tried to get back to normality. But things just started to really get stranger and stranger. You know, I I would be in town with with my my grandma, and just as she would be standing talking to people, I would be looking at the other people and I would be getting annoyed. Like, why is no one acknowledging this man? Like, why is no one talking to him? So there's Dominic, like trying to give the side eye and give give him a b a wave or whatever. And I would say to you know, my grandma, you know, that was extremely rude. You know, why did you not talk to Jean's husband? And my grandma go, Oh, Jean's husband's been dead for years, son, you know, and I'm like, Well, who was the m never mind, you know, so I didn't really want my family thinking that I was going crazy. I was, you know, getting into trouble a lot at school for, you know, hearing things and muttering at the back of the class, like, no, but what but why you talk about? So then the teachers would start thinking that, you know, I was being disruptive and being rude. Little did they know that it was, you know, their people actually trying to talk to me. But a few months after we we you had said goodbye to dad and and mum trying to come back to to terms with things, she went to our local spiritual church. And I was working, uh I started working really young. I was a youth worker for our local council um as a drama teacher and youth support worker. So I would I was working. So my mum went to the the the medium, the spiritual church, and my dad had actually came through the medium and she had said to the the the medium had said to my mum, all this different information, it's your husband, and you know, she gave him the evidence. And then the medium says to my mum, your husband's telling me that I've to help your son because your son can hear the voice of spirit. And my mum, very bold and and you know, very blunt, says, Ah, well, I've actually got two sons. And the lady turned around and says, Yeah, but you've only got one that's 14. And she said, Yeah, well, that's true. She says, Well, your your your son's seen your husband, he spoke to him, and whatever else. So that same night of my mum being at that spiritual church, I came home and she was sitting in the kitchen and she says, I want a word with you. So I was like, Oh God, what have I done to you?

SPEAKER_02 9:47

She was about to take you out of the closet.

The Difference Between Thinking vs Knowing

SPEAKER_01 9:48

Yeah, yeah, you better believe it. So I was like, Yeah, yeah, well, I was like thinking is the school called or has something happened. She says, If if you've been seeing things or or hearing things, and I'm like, Sounds like crazy, but I'm like, Do I tell her? Do I not? Do I tell her? I says, Well, you know, remember the night that the police came and I told her eventually about dad, and she says, Well, I've just been now, I had never heard of a medium. So she says, No, I've just been to this spooky church and your dad came and spoke. So in my mind, I'm like, no, dad's gone. You know, I remember cremating him, I remember this horrific bay. I says, Dad's gone. And she went on to tell me the information. A few weeks later, I decided I'm going to this crazy place. I'm going to see what these people are all about. So I went to the spiritualist church. And I sat up the back. It was, you know, quite a small local kind of hall, if anything, it could hold maybe 50 people. And so I sat right at the back of the room thinking, these people are all crazy, they're all insane, what is going on? And I was obviously the youngest there. I stood out like a sore fum. They were all, you know, maybe 14, 50 and and above. But the medium came on, and or the the the chairperson had said the medium tonight has has had to cancel, so Sandra's going to fill in. I didn't know that Sandra was the same lady that had connected to my mum. And she started talking to people, and it was almost like I was at the back of the room hearing Margaret, and then the medium would say, and you would understand your mum's Margaret. I'm going, where does that come from? And then she'd move on to someone else, and I would get, you know, like a strange image of, you know, two cars colliding. And she would dig in that I've got this young man that I know was in a car smash or or a car accident. I'm going, what the hell is is going on? And then at the end, she says, and the young boy just at the back of the room. And of course, what did I do? I turned to look to see who was at the back of the room. And there was the there was the brick wall. And she says, Yes, you, son. Uh-huh. She's like, Your dad's here. I was like, All right. She was able to tell me the street name of where my dad had passed away. She was able to tell me, you know, really precise details. And she says, Your dad's telling me that when you're ready, I'll help you understand what's been going on. And she must have seen the look in my face. She says, You know, you've been listening and hearing some of the things just before I said it. So she says to me, Why don't you come to our circle? Like, what in the hell is a circle? And I kind of gave her the look of a true, whatever. And she told me, you know, a Tuesday night is this night, a Wednesday night will be this, and a Thursday. Okay. And I left it for a week. Because I I just couldn't understand. I was like, what was going on? Like, how did she know that my dad was found in the street? Like, how did she know that but how was I known things that she was about to say? So I tried to understand and there was no way I was ever going to understand. But of course, Jason, I went, didn't I? I went to the circle the following week. And no word of a lie. Being a spiritualist church, there the the night that I decided to go to the development circle was actually their annual general meeting. So we all know what happens at AGMs, you know, they were all arguing and fighting. And you know, I was just thinking, this is great, you know, if this is what I'm going to get out of this, this is fabulous. But as the the the the president at the time had got up and left, something just made me get up off my chair and follow her out the door, down the stairs, followed her along the path. She would end her driver's side of her car. I opened the the passengers and sat in the car. And I was like, so what do we do now? And ever since then, she she kind of took me under her wing, and I sat in her circle three evenings a week at the age of 14 to to really understand what was going on with me. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:59

But I guess the experiences you were having were even to be seeing things visually that seem so real, you know, that's not a no that's not a normal um thing to see physical manifestations. I've only ever seen it once, and it was an outline. But to be having that and to be, you know, it's you know, you can use this word, and we you know, when I read your show notes, actually, there's that word there about gifted, and oh um, you you mentioned that, but you know, and I'm a firm believer that everyone can connect to the spirit world, but for you to be having such, you know, really extreme experiences there and things I can understand. You needed to go to that circle at 14 to understand what the hell was going on. Like you you needed that understanding and support.

SPEAKER_01 14:48

I thought I was going crazy. You know, I'm just trying to live my normal life at school and find by with some grades, and you know, it's the easiest way I could describe developing mediumship is like you're trying to put a jigsaw puzzle together, but you don't have the box to show you what the image is. So piece by piece, as you click it all together, you finally go, Oh, it's an orca, it's a killer whale, you know. So you you don't have a gaze, you don't you you can't understand it. So I was very appreciative that that woman was was willing to take on this, you know, schoolboy, I guess you could say, and and really help me understand. But is there a bigger picture there? Was there a bigger plan? I I really don't know, but we were obviously brought together for for a reason. So it the images and and the clairvoyance say in my book, I was always very clairvoyant. I always could see the spirit in my mediumship. That that was my my my strength to a point, you know, I was able to see, you know, um men's names tattooed on their their their knuckles when I'm able like was your brother R Ronald, like because he's got RO on his knuckle. Like I was able to see so precisely spirit so so clear, like to the point I really got confused with who was dead and who was alive. And you know, I I think they really they got my attention from the get-go.

SPEAKER_02 16:12

Well, they certainly did that, didn't they?

SPEAKER_01 16:14

Yeah, yeah, to really get my attention, and then they took it from there, I guess you could say.

SPEAKER_02 16:20

I guess this is what I'm coming to find with my unfoldment. All of our journeys of unfoldment are very different, and I I believe that it happens for a reason when the time is meant to be, and you know, I I I look back at my life now a lot, and I, you know, really, you know, wonder how much free will was really involved. Because you I start looking at things and I start thinking, that coincidence that happened there when I was in that place at that time, you know, what was that meant to be? But talking about the journey of unfoldment, because it is something that is so unique for everyone, and I think this is why it's also so difficult to sometimes develop your mediumship, because it's such a personal thing that when people are trying to get you to unfold, you know, trying to get you to unfold, assisting one to unfold or to help, whatever you want to call it, but it's it's it's it's a difficult old journey for you because you were already having such strong experiences. And how how what was that journey like for you? And how did you sort of start to unfold that and work with that and develop that?

How Information Comes Through in Mediumship

SPEAKER_01 17:51

To be honest, even still to this day, I still haven't really had the chance to really reflect back, even though you know I've I've written my life story, even going back and through all of that process, it's hard to really comprehend because everything just really unfolded naturally, which which sounds really bizarre. But you know, even when I would be at development circle, you know, my my teacher, she certainly put me through my paces and she gave me the opportunities, you know, even to to get to a place of being comfortable and her trust in me. I I started demonstrating spiritualist churches in the UK at 16, you know. So she then had me on platform with her and giving the messages and and and really that just came naturally because it wasn't something that I ever wanted to pursue. You know, I didn't I didn't plan to be a medium, I didn't even know that this was something that was possible or something that people were were interested in. So things just started to to really unfold. And I again, even with friends, you know, I still kept it to myself. Even in school, you know, my friends Rachel and William and things would say to me, Oh, well, we meet up tonight. And I'm like, tonight, not Tuesday. Oh no, I've got such and such. So I would make excuses because I couldn't meet with friends because I was going to Tuesday Spook Club. But I started but I started starting to notice people in the church congregation, people that worked in the school office and such and such as mum who's in my year. Like I started people are starting to come that I actually know, so people might start you know learning about me. The secret might, the cat might get out of the bag. The cat certainly was getting out of the bag, that's for sure, with claws. But then people started really coming to the church and saying, Do you do you do private readings? Can you do private readings? Will you do private readings? And I seen that as a good opportunity to, whilst I was coming to the church, saying to people, I don't really know what a private reading is or whatever, but what I do standing up there, I'm pretty sure I could do sitting on a chair. And I started to do private readings for the church and put money into the the church to help pay for funds. So basically at 16 I was then starting to do, you know, private readings and you know, demand just grew from there. Then I had other spiritual churches asking me, Will you come here? Will you come there? Will you do this? Will you do that? And before I know it, going from 16 to then 17 years old and you know, things starting to unfold. But it was it was very, I'd like to say very natural, but I don't want to say easy. Okay. I would like to say it was a way of life that I had to learn to understand. And it was a way of life that I would say I became comfortable with once I started to realise that I wasn't crazy, and these images I'm seeing, these names or these voices and these people I'm seeing are actually spirit, they're not dead people, and that really helped me.

SPEAKER_02 20:49

It's uh even sort of dedicating so much of your life to it as well, and it being such a central theme to everything that you've done. I just you know, I I struggle to even comprehend doing that myself at 14 or 16 when I look back at where I was. So it's just very interesting. Maybe that had nothing better to do. Wow, do you know what to dedicate so much of your life? I can understand. But for for you, I think it, you know, when you explained that story to me, it almost kind of feels that the uh the the circle that you went to was very much kind of like a healing thing that you had to go to just to understand what was happening for you. And you know, I remember thinking back to myself when I was at school. I knew I was different. I I knew that I couldn't articulate why, but I knew I just had this sense of wisdom. Don't but there is a difference between wisdom and common sense. I would have wisdom, but I would still lack common sense. But I knew that there was something about me that just felt like I was very sensitive and able to sense things and perceive it. But yes, you know, and but it took me a long time to really believe in the spirit world, even though my own granddad was a medium. Because I wanted to believe it, I did, but I thought it was more wishful thinking than reality for quite a long time. So you you kind of went on this, you know, of what feels like the absolute bullet trade of development. And that sort of took you, you know, into what it feels like, you know, is you doing that as a profession at a very, you know, young age. And you know, and you just used a very interesting word there, which is flow. You know, you it was flowing, and yeah, you know, I think there's a lot to be said for that in life because it things should flow. They shouldn't be, you know, should be a struggle. No, they shouldn't. And and you know, I think we can try a lot in our lives to really control our lives, you know, to the eighth degree, and they feel like our lives are out of control. So I think there's a lot to be said for that. So you, you know, I want to sort of get lots of value for the listeners today as well, because you've been unfolding and working with people to do that for quite, you know, for many, many years now. So I I guess, you know, when you're trying to take people through that journey of unfolding their mediumship, how is it that you, you know, sort of try to help people navigate that from all that you've learned? Because it's, you know, it's a difficult thing to try and help people, you know. I think it is anyway. I think out of all subjects, it's a very difficult subject to teach because it's um so personal and feels so different to everyone.

SPEAKER_01 23:35

Well, that's that's the beauty of of this type of thing. And you know, the the the journey is certainly a strong word to use and a good word to use. Developing is is a journey. It's it's it's something that is personal and it's something that is always going to be different for so many people. My approach to teaching uh is keep it natural. You know, I always look at students and look at what their abilities are or what uniqueness um they've got. And I've tried to keep it organic. And one of the things I really pride myself in with teaching is I nourish people, even if they're they're they're not doing good, or even if they're you know they're they're miles off. I always try to bring them about and say, Yeah, but look at what you were able to do here, and let's really focus on that. And you know, I see so many students come and they've been to, you know, this course, this course, this college, that academy, and and they become so destroyed at times with some teachings that I think you know, if you if you can't help people, then at least you'll be cruel to them, you know, because it's hard enough. And you know, I'm a true believer that developing mediumship can be a very lonely journey as well. So I, you know, I I teach from experience. That's that's the easiest way I do it. But I also come from a different perspective of I put myself in the spirit side of life and think, well, what's happening with them as they're trying to communicate with the medium? How are they able to communicate what's going on there rather than the demand of the medium of want, want, want? You know, I try to look at it in both perspectives. But you know, my my my teachings are very crazy, very unique, very, you know, personal experiences that I've tried and tested throughout my 20 years of of working with spirit. Even today, some of the things are so so out there, so crazy, that no one in their right mind would even teach, you know. And that's what I always say to my students my teachings may sound simple, they may sound crazy, but I assure you they're effective. You see. But one thing I always stress to any students is please do not come into to my class, my workshop, or or my course and try to be me. It's not possible. There's there's there's something very special in you as a student, and that's why the spirit have got your attention. So if you try to be another Dominic or another Doris Stokes or Estelle Roberts, or if you try to be anyone else and you're denying the spirit the gift is seen in you. So I give them that from the get-go of come in and just be you. I can't teach you how to be a medium, but I can help you understand what maybe abilities you've got and help you strengthen them. The rest is up to the student in the in the spirit world. You know, I can give them the soil and give them the pot and the water and you know the the daylight, but they have to plant the seed. And once they plant the seed, then it's up to them to let it let it bloom. So I like to think I'm a farmer by by keeping the the organicness and the natural and uh just try to help them be comfortable and being themselves, to be truly honest.

SPEAKER_02 26:40

It is, and it's that it's the beauty of that individuality and mediumship, I think, because you know, I can understand why we find ourselves in situations where we, you know, when you look at a teacher who's doing mediumship, and you know, you can surrender your power a lot of the time to that of a teacher. And I you make an interesting point about courses, I have to say, you can find yourself going on however many courses for your development, but you know, courses are only going to get you so far because you know I think a lot of the work of mediumship is you have to work for a lot of your own stuff as well. And it's you know, I I I ask myself at times why do I keep going back to mediumship? Why would why does it drag me back so much? Because it actually improves every other area of my life. Um and it's the one time when I go and throw myself into mediumship, but I do you know what? I absolutely love getting the advice from the spirit world. I think please bring it on. I need I need that at times in my life because you know it's very, very reassuring. And you know, it's mediumship is one of those things where I feel like I just can't stop getting drawn back to it because it absolutely fascinates me because it's you know the unknown, isn't it?

SPEAKER_01 27:53

And well, the the thing is with mediumship, it's it's something that I always preach. Mediumship, it's a way of life, you know, it's it's it's a way of life. And I always say to to students as well, you know, mediumship is like a muscle, it needs to be exercised, and it the more it's exercised and practiced and and and used, the stronger it will become, but the more familiar you'll become with it, you see, and and on that journey with developing a mediumship, whether you're using it, doing private readings or demonstrating, or maybe just as a self-development, the most important thing and the most beautiful thing is for you to build that relationship with the spirit world, you see. And when we build that spirit relationship, then all I can say is the the opportunities and the possibilities are endless. It's we who will restrict ourselves. So it's just allowing them to be a part of us and to go through life as one, knowing that we're fine, we're normal, and you know, just allow the journey to unfold rather than try to manufacture it or or control it, just go with it.

SPEAKER_02 29:01

And if people do want to sort of go on that journey to build that relationship with spirit, you know, what what would you advise them to do and how how to do that?

Why People Block Themselves Without Realising

SPEAKER_01 29:14

Just just sit. You know, a lot of people get so fixated on meditation and things like this. Uh, you know, I used to come home and I like the dark, it's just it's just me. But uh I would sit in the dark and I would just sit silently. And in my mind, you know, I I would call out to my dad or I would ask for, you know, I am here for you. Come closer to me. And I would just talk and have that conversation with the spirit, and I would familiarise you know, certain feelings and sensations that I now know 100% is when spirits with me. So when things would happen, when I would get my my calling card on or my shiver, I would then feel the presence of the spirit. And that's where I would, you know, talk and ask, where where are we going from here? Where did it go wrong last night? What could I do differently for you? And I just I guess you could say I would just plead my heart out to them. But take yourself away from all distractions. Hence why, you know, I encourage the dark if if you're comfortable, because we can easily our mind is like a little monkey. It can jump around too quick or go from, you know, relaxing and concentrating on your breath and you know, really getting comfortable. And what am I going to make for dinner tomorrow? I'll need to go pay that bill and remember to go to Tesco's and get, you know, your mind then goes wandering, so it's not, it's not staying with with the objective. So if we're in the darkness or or if we have no distractions, then it comes down to just having a communication or a thought that, you know, will then lead into more and more. So creating a beautiful space, some people call it sitting in the power or whatever. I I just like to call it, you know, sitting with spirit and giving them the invitation to come close and to share a moment together. So just doing that on a regular basis and familiarizing yourself with the presence of the spirit.

SPEAKER_02 31:08

I think sitting for spirit is such a better term. I'm starting to think that's such a better term than sitting in the power, because sitting in the power requires you to feel that you are needing to do something, to charge something, to build something. And I I think even the word power implies that there is effort required, which puts you back in the in the head rather than it's almost that you just sit, just sit for spirit. Well, what should I do? Just Jason, just do nothing, just sit, because that is the nightmare at the start, is is is the mind. And I can sit down and you know, uh, even no, I've been practicing this now for a long whole time. When I sit down now, sometimes it I just my mind is just a nightmare at times. And you know, I'll be sitting there and I will be just about quieting down, and I think, oh, something's come back into my mind. Something's so trivial. And I think be quiet. But we a lot of people now they expect a lot to happen very quick in mediumship, and it's it's not, it's you know, even to go on the journey of quietening the minds is you know, takes control, takes practice, and you're right in what you're saying, it's like a muscle that you're you're you know building up and learning to flex. But we expect a lot very quickly these days, don't we? You know, we want expectations are high. Well, you know, I there's a masterclass by the end of today, I will be an expert, Dominic. So, yes, you're welcome. Yes, so it's you know, we were all in a rush these days. So, you know, I wanted to very helpfully in the show notes, you've directed me to a couple of you and I will always be stuck together, a story. And I do want to come on to some of these beautiful apparently you know what that means, this show that I do indeed.

SPEAKER_01 33:02

Yes, well, it's quite a lot to go into depth with for you just to yeah uh to read. But you know, you you did ask for some you know experiences or or or some you know messages and things that have stood out, and yeah, this is one that I I still tell to to this day, to be honest. But a few years back uh I was doing readings in Manhattan in in New York, and I had this young lady come for a private reading, and you know, she she was if she was 50, then she was only 50 that day. You know, she was really young, and I was very aware of a beautiful, you know, muscular, tall, you know, beautiful man that came in with her in the spirit world. So as she sat down, I I began the reading, and you know, I I always sit with a scribble or a notepad, exactly like you see with with Tyler Henry. That's nothing new for mediums, just new on television. You know, so I scribble, I dooddle away, and I kept hearing, you and I will always be stuck together. So I thought, well, that's a bit generic, you know, that's a bit beige, you know, I could say that to everyone, sounds wonderful. But again, I never deny spirit. But I says to her, I says, you know, this this man who, you know, said was her husband, he passes, you know, how he passes and the situation. I says, but he keeps telling me, you and I will always be stuck together. So I scribble it down, I keep writing, and I think if I says to her about 20 times, then that's an understatement. But then I got into he's bringing my attention to just a few months ago, you and your son had celebrated a special anniversary, but he was also a part of it for spirit. She says, that's correct. I says, he's showing me helium balloons. And she went, okay. And I says, but they're letters. She says, Uh-huh. Sounds right, okay. I says, but then he's now telling me to talk about Central Park. I says, there must be something to do with Central Park and his name. And she says, That's correct. You and I'll always be stuck together. It kept coming so persistently. I says, Well, he's talking about the balloons, he's laughing about the balloons, the helium balloons. I says, but eventually you let the balloons go, the helium balloons go. She says, That's correct. In the back of my mind, I'm like, this does not make sense. But again, it's not my reading to try to understand. I just kept it flowing and you know, it was a beautiful reading. I says, I need to ask. I says, because this is so weird. So as I finished the reading, I says, Do you mind if I if I ask you why you are so relating to you and I will always be stuck together? And she cried the whole way through the reading, but not of a sadness, but almost of a relief, you see. I kept writing it down, the blue and helion, blah, blah, blah. And she says to me, she says, the anniversary you were talking about with, you know, me and my son done, she says, We done our anniversary for our wedding. She says, Okay. She says, we had some friends around. She says, we live directly across from Central Park. I'm like, oh, okay, maybe that was the central part. I said wonderful. She says, no, no, no. She says it gets better. Okay. She says, out on our our our balcony, she says, we had helium balloons. I says, yeah, yeah, yeah. She says, we had the initial I. She had red love heart and the initial U. I says, oh, oh, the letters, uh right. Okay. She says, and what we'd done, myself and my my son, we said a little speech for for her husband or dad uh his dad. And eventually we then let the balloons go to blow out into the sky. She says, and as they blew over into the distance, she says, the I and the U got entangled in the trees, and the love heart went up into the sky and blew over the building. She says, All right, okay. She says, and we're there for two weeks. She says, and eventually my husband's friend had said, you know, this is getting ridiculous. We have to go and, you know, get them down. So they go away over to Central Park, the thing where the balloons are. And as she got to the balloons or the tree to go up and get, she looked down, and someone had placed flowers with his name on it. And she pulled the I and the U, she took them home, she deflated them, she creased them out, and she framed them. And they now sit in her her her lounge in in in New York in a beautiful big frame. You and I are still stuck together. Aww. Yeah. Yeah. It just it really just it gives me, you know, shimmers, gives me goose bumps. But again, I had no clue what I was talking about. Something that I felt very generic, you and I all this up together, but I just I had to just let it unfold. And but yeah, so she she had to go back and get those big foil balloons and and you know, let the helium out, and I guess you could say she preserved them um in the the the frame. So yeah.

Trust, Surrender & Letting Go of Control

SPEAKER_02 38:07

There's a lot to be said for that story because trusting in what you you know we're we're getting in that moment, because you know it it just it makes me it reminds me back to readings I've done over a period of time when I felt that something is very generic, but this is where the mind gets in the way, you know. Oh it's taken me, I've been in a long place for a long time with my mediumship, Dominic, where I don't realize it, but the evidence goes ding straight into my head, and I didn't even realise I was doing it for a long time. But you know, the beauty in that and you know the impact that had, and you know, is is is absolutely beautiful.

SPEAKER_01 38:48

Well, that's why we do what we do. That's that's you know, if we if we really screwed back the purpose of a medium, no, the purpose of a medium isn't to prove life after death, the purpose of a medium is to help heal the grieved and the broken heart on both sides of life, you see. So when it's done personally, what I feel, you know, I'm not perfect, I'm still developing you know all the issues years on, and I still screw it up and get it wrong. But when the intention is right and when the need is there, then then beautiful things can happen. And you know, that's just a little example of how intelligent and how clever spirit are.

SPEAKER_02 39:23

What are some of the greatest lessons that spirit have taught you along the way, then in the unfoldment of your mediumship?

SPEAKER_01 39:29

A lot of things, to to be truly honest, but uh one of the greatest things I've I've I've learned is to stop trying to be perfect, you know, even even in my daily life, you know, I've always said to Spirit, let me have a normal life as well. I'll I'll always do what I can for you, but let me have a normal life. And one of the things I've always heard echo back is it's okay to get it wrong, don't be perfect, don't be perfect. And I would always say, but why not? Why not? Why can it not be perfect? And what I kept getting told back was if you get it perfect all the time, young man, then we are nothing to you. We have nothing we can learn, with nothing we can share with you. It then becomes boring, it then becomes dead. And that's so true because if it's constantly perfect, then you have no room to improve or no room for more to learn. So, you know, one of one of the greatest things is is to stop trying to be so perfect and just just do your best is the most important thing. But also, even in mediumship itself, allowing the unfoldment to to just be natural, you know, like we said earlier, not to try to need to, you know, you know, uh evoke a power or anything. Just keep it natural and keep it realistic as something. But spirit spirit shares so many different things that even you don't realize what they're doing right at that moment, and then maybe a week later you go, oh, now I see it all now, or now I I get it. But one thing I will share with listeners is love always wins. Love always wins, and that for me is is is why the spirit world comes to communicate as well, is because of that unconditional love and that that bond of the the love. So no matter what is going on, or no matter what happens in your life, just know that love always finds a way. Love always wins.

SPEAKER_02 41:19

I think I think that's a you know a very good message in in the times that we're in at the moment. And you know, I think you make some really valid points there. You see, you are at the moment, you've got a very busy year by the sounds of it. You're going to Plymouth to Scotland to the USA. It's like a sounds like a welter, Dominic, to be quite frank.

SPEAKER_01 41:41

It's actually funny because uh I've actually kind of scaled down a little bit. I'm not doing as much as what I normally do, which is nice, but yeah, I've I've just about to in two weeks start my my international travels, so yeah.

SPEAKER_02 41:53

Interesting. Well, would you like to leave us on a final note today, then? And it's I must say, your book is beautiful. It's a very nice book. And that's your book titled The Voice of Spirit. I like it as well, Dominic, because the text is slightly bigger and my eyes are getting worse.

SPEAKER_01 42:09

So it's Well Hey, welcome to my words.

SPEAKER_02 42:13

It's a book that I don't need to wear my glasses to read for a change, and there's very few of those now.

SPEAKER_01 42:18

Well, you know, I I I tried to keep it an easy read as I said to you, but you know, I wanted to really write that book so that people out with mediumship, out with spiritualism, out with this type of world could pick it up and maybe get a little bit of insight into the normality of it, if if I can even call myself normal, but to help educate, not from a, you know, you you don't die, but from another point of view of how their loved ones could communicate and to look at a bigger picture and you know to also empower young people as as well. Like if you feel that you're different or strange, well, there may be a natural beautiful gift in there. And so don't be scared to be different. It's certainly a message that I would leave with a a lot of the listeners as well is you know, don't be scared to be different, don't be scared to be unique and and be you. And if you are developing mediumship, just remember that you know the spirit wants you. They don't want another Dominic or another Jason or or whatever they want. They just want you to be you. So if you are going on a journey of unfolding and developing your mediumship, maybe just give yourself the the little nod that you are worthy and that you are good enough and that you don't need to be anyone else. So go out into the world and and shine your little light because the spirit world will then soon make it a beacon of hope and maybe a rainbow in someone else's uh storm. So yeah, definitely. And my parting words will be if you cannot help someone, then at least be at least be kind to them. And if you cannot love them, don't be cruel to them.

SPEAKER_02 43:54

Oh, I love that message. I love that. Embrace your individuality and shine very bright. Dominic, thank you for coming on the SoulSync.

SPEAKER_01 44:03

It's been a delight, my dear. Absolute pleasure. Sincerely, thank you very much. And uh I look forward to us maybe doing it again sometime. So sincerely, thank you so much for taking time and having me.

SPEAKER_02 44:15

Embrace you. You are wonderful, you are amazing, you are. The best. Embrace you because no one else will. I think that was a bloody lovely conversation, don't you think? But in all seriousness, you are worthy. You are the light. You are God. God is eternal. Everything that you need can be accessed. You are a being of limitless potential. And on that note, SoulSync, I wish you a very lovely week. I'm telling you a lot of love as always. You can always as well subscribe to my YouTube channel, Jason PaulSoulSync. Go there. I'm going to be releasing mediumship videos soon where I'm going to talk much more in depth about my mediumship because sometimes I don't always get the charts on this podcast. And I'm going to talk to you and you can see me, so just subscribe there. But until next time, lots of love