WEBVTT 00:00:32.269 --> 00:00:34.909 Does Penny put these on YouTube or something? 00:00:36.909 --> 00:00:37.390 Somewhere, yeah. 00:00:37.469 --> 00:00:39.229 Somebody said they they heard about it. 00:00:39.310 --> 00:00:40.989 So it doesn't get wasted. 00:00:41.149 --> 00:00:42.189 Okay, let's open a prayer. 00:00:42.509 --> 00:00:43.229 Good morning, Lord. 00:00:43.310 --> 00:00:48.509 We thank you just that we have kind of a little break in a holiday weekend. 00:00:48.670 --> 00:00:59.310 Help us to remember to give pause to that weekend and not just be all about stuffing ourselves with hamburgers and hot dogs, but to remember uh the veterans and the people who sacrificed for our freedom. 00:00:59.549 --> 00:01:02.989 And we pray that sometime this weekend we would take honor that. 00:01:03.149 --> 00:01:21.469 Um we pray that um you would your spirit be present this morning as we just have some fun and talk about some of the family traditions that we can instill in our family or those that we've appreciated, and knowing that uh you are a God of traditions, you you've instituted quite a bit of tradition into uh your people. 00:01:21.710 --> 00:01:25.069 So um when we bring that into our family, we're doing a godly thing. 00:01:25.150 --> 00:01:27.150 So we pray your blessing on this morning. 00:01:27.310 --> 00:01:27.629 Amen. 00:01:28.269 --> 00:01:36.909 Okay, um, just real quick, um, let's do um just go around and give us your names again, you know, because Sam and Maria, right? 00:01:38.270 --> 00:01:40.590 We only have two names to remember that you have to remember. 00:01:40.909 --> 00:01:42.909 You have to remember everything, but it'll be helpful to know. 00:01:43.069 --> 00:01:52.669 So Kate, Joshua, Suzanne, Polly, Annes. 00:01:55.469 --> 00:01:55.870 Monaga. 00:01:56.109 --> 00:01:57.469 Okay, and John, okay, great. 00:01:57.629 --> 00:02:00.109 So were you guys in the panel last week? 00:02:00.270 --> 00:02:02.430 Did you we were you were okay, okay. 00:02:02.509 --> 00:02:03.949 So you they're familiar faces. 00:02:04.830 --> 00:02:15.949 So okay, um, let's uh you know I mentioned the prayer that um a lot of traditions that God has put into his people. 00:02:16.109 --> 00:02:31.469 I'm just gonna ride the horses and work them up a little quickly some of the principles and some of the things that come out of scripture. 00:02:38.030 --> 00:02:38.349 Okay. 00:02:43.229 --> 00:02:44.030 How about that? 00:02:44.909 --> 00:02:45.069 Yeah. 00:02:49.310 --> 00:02:50.509 Okay, so what's wrong? 00:02:50.750 --> 00:02:58.829 Why don't you go ahead and uh start children off on the way they should go, and when they are old, they will have to implement properties 22 says. 00:02:59.229 --> 00:03:02.109 Yeah, we we use this one a lot in this class, don't we? 00:03:02.429 --> 00:03:06.989 It applies to discipline, it applies to everything, but it applies to the traditions too. 00:03:07.229 --> 00:03:15.310 And uh you know, there's a lot of traditions that we picked up from our parents, and now that we're old, we're still doing them, so that's pretty cool. 00:03:15.469 --> 00:03:15.709 Okay. 00:03:16.509 --> 00:03:28.269 And let's consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another in all the more as you see the day drawing here. 00:03:28.669 --> 00:03:30.989 Hebrews 10, 24 through 25. 00:03:31.229 --> 00:03:45.949 Okay, so the reason I picked that one is it kind of, you know, when we're doing traditional things, particularly as it relates to our faith, we are stimulating our kids to love one another and to do good deeds. 00:03:46.189 --> 00:03:48.109 So that's that's all part of that. 00:03:48.269 --> 00:03:55.069 Um, of course, not uh neglecting to uh uh not forsaking our own assembling together. 00:03:55.310 --> 00:04:00.590 That kind of refers to the Lord's Day of getting together for worship. 00:04:00.750 --> 00:04:13.870 So that's probably you know your most important tradition that you can instill in your kids is regular attendance at church, you know, because kids kids see through it pretty quickly when let's go to church day. 00:04:13.949 --> 00:04:15.870 Uh no, okay, let's watch the football game. 00:04:16.829 --> 00:04:22.670 That sends them a pretty strong message about what your priority is about church when it's optional. 00:04:22.750 --> 00:04:28.110 Um, but if you're there faithfully, uh then it instills something in them. 00:04:28.430 --> 00:04:39.470 And uh, you know, the kids will sometimes complain about it, but it also applies to, you know, for us, we're not gonna do traveling teams, yeah, because worship is more important to us. 00:04:39.550 --> 00:04:46.030 So and you know, our our kids have fortunately made that a priority there in their in their lives too. 00:04:46.110 --> 00:04:47.709 So kind of a twofold thing. 00:04:47.870 --> 00:04:49.230 Okay, Kate. 00:04:49.710 --> 00:04:56.590 Uh so then are there stand firm to the traditions that you were taught by us, either by our scoping word or by our footing saying this? 00:04:57.150 --> 00:05:17.550 Okay, yeah, so um this is New Testament church, so evidently there were some traditions already in place in the New Testament church, but certainly as as an outgrowth of the uh uh the Jewish faith, that um there was a lot of traditions in the Jewish culture. 00:05:17.710 --> 00:05:20.189 Um I think they had what seven feasts? 00:05:20.270 --> 00:05:22.350 Everybody remember what the seven feasts were? 00:05:25.150 --> 00:05:30.110 Tabernacles, I think it's one, Passover, Pentecost. 00:05:30.750 --> 00:05:32.990 Um remember any of the other ones, Jeremy? 00:05:33.550 --> 00:05:38.430 No, this is the ones I remember uh yeah, Rosh Hasha, you know, we in Jewish New Year. 00:05:38.670 --> 00:05:44.750 So they were steeped in in tradition, and these were traditions that God already. 00:05:45.069 --> 00:05:51.390 So um that's something that uh we should certainly uh hold to and pass on. 00:05:51.870 --> 00:06:03.950 Okay, and when your children ask you what does this ceremony mean to you, tell them it is a Passover sacrifice to the Lord who passed over the houses of the Israelites in Egypt and spared our homes when he struck down the Egyptians. 00:06:04.110 --> 00:06:05.870 Then the people bowed down and worshipped. 00:06:06.030 --> 00:06:07.710 Exodus 12, 26, and 27. 00:06:07.950 --> 00:06:14.510 Yeah, so that that was probably you know the foremost tradition of the of the Jews, and it was a family thing, you know. 00:06:15.230 --> 00:06:17.790 Children were expected to ask that question. 00:06:18.030 --> 00:06:22.270 So that was part of their ritual when the youngest child said, What does it mean? 00:06:22.430 --> 00:06:27.150 And so there's gonna be times in your traditions, you know, why don't we do this? 00:06:27.310 --> 00:06:29.470 Okay, got a reason for it. 00:06:29.629 --> 00:06:30.910 So okay. 00:06:31.310 --> 00:06:41.790 Yes, and his mother would make him a little road and bring it to him from year to year when she would come up with her husband to offer the yearly sacrifice for Samuel to greet to him. 00:06:42.110 --> 00:06:44.270 Okay, so that's that's from Hannah. 00:06:44.750 --> 00:06:52.510 Remember, Hannah brought Samuel to the priest after he had said that she would conceive. 00:06:52.590 --> 00:06:54.030 She was moaning about it. 00:06:54.110 --> 00:07:02.830 Remember, the the priest thought she was, it was Eli, I think it was thought she was drunk, but she was praying fervently. 00:07:03.069 --> 00:07:05.550 And so she dedicated after he was weaned. 00:07:10.430 --> 00:07:13.629 Dedicated, brought him to the temple, but then every year she would come up. 00:07:13.790 --> 00:07:15.390 So they must add a little ritual. 00:07:15.550 --> 00:07:20.510 It would be hard to have a tradition, even though we don't live anywhere near your kid. 00:07:20.830 --> 00:07:26.030 You only see him once a year, but she managed to you know have a little robe ceremony. 00:07:26.110 --> 00:07:27.230 Oh, you've grown, you know. 00:07:27.390 --> 00:07:29.629 So um a little tradition there. 00:07:29.870 --> 00:07:39.470 Okay, we're for everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the scriptures and the encouragement they provide, we might have hope. 00:07:39.629 --> 00:07:41.150 Romans 15, 4. 00:07:41.470 --> 00:07:49.230 Yeah, so the traditions are really a reinforcement to what's in scripture, um, you know, that give us endurance. 00:07:49.470 --> 00:07:54.990 So, you know, when times get tough, then the kids can look back and okay, I had that tradition. 00:07:55.629 --> 00:08:10.670 Kids really um thrive on I don't want to say regimen, but schedule, you know, and you know, they they've gotta be same bedtime, same wake-up time, same nap time, same meal time. 00:08:10.750 --> 00:08:11.470 They love that. 00:08:11.550 --> 00:08:16.910 You know, that's when they're the happiest, when they're regulated there, and traditions help that rhythm. 00:08:17.069 --> 00:08:20.750 You know, they know okay, every every Christmas we're gonna do it this way. 00:08:21.069 --> 00:08:31.150 You know, that there's security in that, and um teaches them endurance, but also teach them that scripture is foundational as well. 00:08:31.310 --> 00:08:38.750 Okay, move next a good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, but the sinner's wealth is laid up for the righteous. 00:08:38.909 --> 00:08:40.830 Proverbs 13, 22. 00:08:41.470 --> 00:08:42.669 Okay, where do I have that? 00:08:42.830 --> 00:08:43.629 Oh, yeah. 00:08:43.870 --> 00:08:53.149 Well, that's your inheritance, your your your traditions that you leave on to them, and then hopefully it goes skips a general, you know, continues a generation. 00:08:53.230 --> 00:08:58.750 I know our kids are still doing things that I learned from my parents, Sammy's parents. 00:08:58.990 --> 00:09:02.029 So uh that's that's part of your inheritance. 00:09:02.669 --> 00:09:04.829 Um okay, good one. 00:09:04.990 --> 00:09:05.389 Right? 00:09:05.629 --> 00:09:06.589 I'm sorry, Molly. 00:09:06.909 --> 00:09:15.469 I'm reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois, and then your mother Eunice, and I'm persuaded now lives in you also second to E15. 00:09:16.029 --> 00:09:26.509 Yeah, here's a here's an indication from generation as grandmother with her faith and traditions she held, been passed down to her daughter and then now to Timothy. 00:09:26.750 --> 00:09:31.549 So uh, you know, think long term when you're doing these traditions. 00:09:31.789 --> 00:09:34.909 It's gonna it's gonna stick if you stick to it. 00:09:35.149 --> 00:09:36.269 Okay, yes. 00:09:36.909 --> 00:09:45.149 And his parents used to go to Jerusalem every year at the Feast of the Passover, and when he became twelve, they went up there according to the custom of the feast. 00:09:45.309 --> 00:09:47.389 Luke 2, 41 and 42. 00:09:47.949 --> 00:09:52.429 Yeah, so that was the only tradition I could find for Jesus' family. 00:09:52.509 --> 00:09:55.149 You know, every year they went up to Jerusalem. 00:09:55.309 --> 00:09:58.750 And you know, from what we know, they were not wealthy. 00:09:58.990 --> 00:10:06.589 You know, we know from when he was dedicated in the temple, they the sacrifice they offered was the poor man's sacrifice. 00:10:06.669 --> 00:10:13.709 So they were not means, but it was a priority for them to get to Jerusalem every look every year, no matter what the cost. 00:10:13.789 --> 00:10:18.509 So that was and then and we see that in in uh the gospels every year. 00:10:18.589 --> 00:10:22.829 Jesus was in Jerusalem, you know, in his in his uh ministry. 00:10:23.069 --> 00:10:26.990 So that's a tradition that stuck, if you will. 00:10:27.309 --> 00:10:30.829 Um so just handy verses to have there. 00:10:31.309 --> 00:10:40.429 Um just uh what are what are some traditions? 00:10:41.469 --> 00:10:47.149 Just throw them out, a tradition that you received from your parents, something that you guys used to do. 00:10:47.230 --> 00:10:54.189 It could be any kind of tradition, it doesn't have to be church related, but just throw a few of them out and then we'll make these guys go. 00:10:58.750 --> 00:11:00.349 One gift on Christmas Eve? 00:11:00.750 --> 00:11:02.269 Okay, is there a reason for that? 00:11:02.429 --> 00:11:04.349 Or I don't know why we did that. 00:11:04.509 --> 00:11:08.269 We just opened one gift and opened one gift on Christmas Eve. 00:11:08.589 --> 00:11:08.909 Okay. 00:11:09.789 --> 00:11:10.750 You don't know why. 00:11:11.069 --> 00:11:12.029 Was it pajamas? 00:11:13.149 --> 00:11:14.110 Was it pajamas? 00:11:14.509 --> 00:11:15.469 No, it was not pajamas. 00:11:15.949 --> 00:11:18.349 So we had special Christmas pajamas for a while. 00:11:18.669 --> 00:11:19.789 We all we all remember. 00:11:21.389 --> 00:11:30.829 It sounds like you know, some traditions, you know, the I don't know if you know the story about the the family that the tradition was you always when you cook the ham, you always cut the hands off. 00:11:31.069 --> 00:11:32.509 Oh and you cook it that way. 00:11:32.589 --> 00:11:36.189 And so finally somebody after many years said, Well, why do we do this? 00:11:36.269 --> 00:11:37.230 You know, why do you cut them off? 00:11:37.389 --> 00:11:38.829 Well, your mother always did that. 00:11:38.990 --> 00:11:41.549 And okay, well, mom, why did you always do that? 00:11:41.709 --> 00:11:43.469 Well, grandma used to always do that. 00:11:43.629 --> 00:11:47.309 And finally they got to grandma and she says, Well, the oven wasn't big enough. 00:11:47.389 --> 00:11:48.189 I had to cut it off. 00:11:49.389 --> 00:11:53.549 So they were doing these things, so it's always good to ask why, you know. 00:11:53.709 --> 00:11:56.669 So you know, for us, we did our Christmas. 00:11:56.829 --> 00:12:04.509 The German tradition is to do Christmas presents Christmas Eve, and then just open stockings Christmas morning. 00:12:04.589 --> 00:12:10.110 So we kind of made uh giving simple on Christmas morning at the super price. 00:12:11.469 --> 00:12:12.509 Okay, that's a good one. 00:12:16.110 --> 00:12:16.669 Tradition. 00:12:25.469 --> 00:12:32.909 I guess it wasn't a tradition the whole time growing up, but my grandmother always made a suit, a four-lady suit before Christmas Eve. 00:12:33.309 --> 00:12:45.230 And um one year her pot broke as my mom was taking it off of the stove to bring it into the dining room with white carpet. 00:12:45.709 --> 00:12:49.870 So the pot ends up on my mom's foot in the floor to be surprised. 00:12:50.750 --> 00:12:57.789 Thankfully, there was another pot, but everybody just got one small of soup instead of you know as much as you wanted to. 00:12:58.750 --> 00:13:07.309 My kids went from, yeah, their babies they'll eat these things to no, this is the worst tradition ever, and we're like fighting for something that I really enjoy. 00:13:08.990 --> 00:13:10.349 They're like, okay, it's not that bad. 00:13:10.750 --> 00:13:12.909 But they can barely tolerate it. 00:13:13.949 --> 00:13:16.909 Yeah, sometimes the worst mistakes can become a tradition. 00:13:17.069 --> 00:13:17.309 Right. 00:13:17.549 --> 00:13:26.909 We always had a running joke in my family, you know, once a month or so we'd send out for pizza, and nothing goes with pizza better than some homemade applesauce. 00:13:27.069 --> 00:13:29.709 But mom never got them out of the freezer soon enough. 00:13:29.789 --> 00:13:34.189 So we got used to eating pizza with frozen chunks of applesauce. 00:13:34.429 --> 00:13:37.949 And to the point, like, we really like frozen applesauce now, you know. 00:13:38.029 --> 00:13:41.949 So anytime we get together for pizza, it's like, who's got the frozen applesauce? 00:13:42.029 --> 00:13:48.029 You know, so mistakes can be become a tradition if you're not worried if you think about them. 00:13:48.110 --> 00:13:49.069 Um, anybody else? 00:13:49.230 --> 00:13:50.990 You guys have one to throw one in? 00:13:53.389 --> 00:14:00.189 We have a few, but um we used to um well we did camping a lot. 00:14:00.429 --> 00:14:12.990 Um talk about uh we had a lot of blended family, like my mom remarried, and we had uh Japanese family, and they had a tradition on New Year's. 00:14:13.230 --> 00:14:14.110 What's it called? 00:14:14.509 --> 00:14:17.230 But they called it the Japanese New Year. 00:14:17.870 --> 00:14:39.389 And what we do is our our whole family would get together and we would cook the day before, and then the day of New Year's Day, you would have various families come in at different times, and you would bring your dishes out, and you would sit and you would eat with these people, and then they'd leave. 00:14:40.429 --> 00:14:42.990 It was awesome for the son-in-law's son-in-law's. 00:14:43.309 --> 00:14:53.549 Oh, yeah, because it was temper for everything, and there was fish, and there was all the traditional Japanese food, and um, so that would happen. 00:14:53.629 --> 00:14:56.750 So the family would leave, and then another family would come in. 00:14:56.909 --> 00:15:06.110 So throughout the whole day, you would just be eating all day long, but you'd bring, you know, you'd bring out the prepared meal all the time. 00:15:06.589 --> 00:15:09.309 So, but in the morning, I kind of skipped something. 00:15:09.549 --> 00:15:24.829 So you would prepare the meal the day before, most of the stuff, and then the morning of um my stepfather would make this soup, and it was a little bit of everything, yeah, would go in this soup. 00:15:25.309 --> 00:15:35.309 And it was a tradition that you would eat this soup, the whole family, just the immediate family, would eat this soup in the morning before everyone would arrive. 00:15:35.629 --> 00:15:41.069 I was not a fan of the soup, it had all kinds of, yeah, he loved it. 00:15:41.309 --> 00:15:53.309 So, I mean, it was just and then his mom would make uh tamales for Christmas, but she'd make like 33 dozen tamales for like her whole family. 00:15:53.629 --> 00:16:08.189 So it would be like a three-day ongoing thing of making tamales, and people would come in and help make the tamales and then leave, and then someone else would make them, and we'd have them packed in the freezer, frozen or refrigerated, right? 00:16:08.669 --> 00:16:10.669 So those were just heavy. 00:16:11.389 --> 00:16:15.549 The bad thing is our consistency here every week. 00:16:15.629 --> 00:16:23.149 We're we're could we could be used as a bad example of what not, but to we didn't carry that on to our kids. 00:16:23.309 --> 00:16:25.629 The kids have great memories of these things, yeah, yeah. 00:16:26.029 --> 00:16:29.069 But my one daughter is the one that does the Tamales. 00:16:29.629 --> 00:16:32.189 Yeah, it's not a family thing. 00:16:32.349 --> 00:16:32.909 Yeah, okay. 00:16:33.149 --> 00:16:39.709 And my son on the side, we would go to a lot of air shows, a little military shows. 00:16:39.949 --> 00:16:40.349 Oh, okay. 00:16:40.589 --> 00:16:46.669 My son has taken that and does that with his kids regularly throughout the year with all of his kids. 00:16:46.909 --> 00:16:50.990 Yeah, so it's picked up on different kids of what different ways they like. 00:16:51.389 --> 00:16:56.909 Yeah, yeah, or Donald Law does an annual tamali day as well in January, February. 00:16:57.709 --> 00:16:58.029 Okay. 00:16:58.669 --> 00:17:06.750 Um, so yeah, and but you know, one of the things that that does is it really brings cohesiveness to the family if you can do that. 00:17:06.990 --> 00:17:14.829 Um like I mentioned before, with just the uh the regularity of things, so that kids feel secure. 00:17:14.990 --> 00:17:22.910 Um, the other aspect of that is that um you know, every kid wants to feel special and that their family is special. 00:17:23.150 --> 00:17:29.470 So if you're doing something, you've got a particular tradition, even if nobody else is doing it, that even makes it more special. 00:17:29.710 --> 00:17:34.670 Um, so um that that brings a sense. 00:17:34.750 --> 00:17:40.430 I mentioned a couple weeks ago that sometimes my mother would say when I would go out, she'd say, Remember, you're an Iker. 00:17:40.829 --> 00:17:44.509 You know, okay, well, that means I've got to behave, you know, that means something. 00:17:44.750 --> 00:17:55.549 Actually, uh I found out later that the name Iker in old Germany, and Iker was the guy who went around and made sure the weights and measures were correct. 00:17:56.029 --> 00:17:59.309 So it's like, oh, I guess Iker set the standard, don't they? 00:17:59.389 --> 00:18:02.509 You know, so I told that to my grandkids now, you know. 00:18:02.589 --> 00:18:10.029 So, but it's all about, you know, if your family's not special or you don't do something special, then that has less meaning, you know. 00:18:10.269 --> 00:18:19.470 So um, and of course, you know, one of the facts here is that American families spend about 37 minutes a day together. 00:18:19.869 --> 00:18:21.710 And that's that's kind of crazy, you know. 00:18:21.789 --> 00:18:33.950 But when you when you have younger ones, you know, so maybe that's all-inclusive, you know, when they're teenagers or something, but um that kind of highlights one important tradition, and that's eating dinner together every day. 00:18:34.190 --> 00:18:42.269 You know, that's that's a priority that we eat dinner together every day, even even when they're teens, you know, have the have their friends over, you know. 00:18:42.430 --> 00:18:50.029 So um, and and that gives you an opportunity to pray and be open about your faith. 00:18:50.190 --> 00:18:56.349 You know, if if uh your faith is a natural part of your conversation at regular meal times, well that sinks in. 00:18:56.430 --> 00:18:59.230 That means it's okay to talk about your faith, it's real. 00:18:59.629 --> 00:19:03.710 Um and you can build some traditions into that meal. 00:19:03.869 --> 00:19:13.069 When our kids were young, we always sang, you know, they each got to pray, you know, take turns, they pick a praise song, so we'd always start with a song and then a prayer. 00:19:13.230 --> 00:19:16.029 As they get older, that kind of faded by the wayside. 00:19:16.190 --> 00:19:19.869 But you know, when they're young and moldable, it's it's pretty easy to do. 00:19:20.190 --> 00:19:26.589 Um and they mentioned belonging, um, it's a great way to keep the religious things going. 00:19:26.670 --> 00:19:28.190 So we'll read through that. 00:19:28.430 --> 00:19:42.670 Um I'm just gonna go through some of these lists and um well, maybe we first ask you is there a tradition that you guys you know, we talk about Christmas time. 00:19:42.829 --> 00:19:48.750 So sometimes husband comes in, well, we did it this way, and the wife comes in, well, we did it this way. 00:19:48.909 --> 00:19:57.309 I don't know if you experienced that at all, and how did you did you blend say a Christmas holiday or Easter thing together? 00:19:57.789 --> 00:20:11.230 I think there all may have been a little conflict thing with uh Christmas, because when I grew up, I don't know if it's a Mexican thing or just my family, we would open everything Christmas Eve. 00:20:11.789 --> 00:20:16.269 It was then her family, she grew up with it all on Christmas morning. 00:20:16.509 --> 00:20:17.470 Christmas day, okay. 00:20:17.710 --> 00:20:20.430 So that would be the one thing I can think of. 00:20:21.789 --> 00:20:23.149 So what did you settle on? 00:20:24.190 --> 00:20:27.710 Christmas morning, like always, I always do what my wife wants me to do. 00:20:30.029 --> 00:20:30.909 So you compromise. 00:20:35.629 --> 00:20:36.509 Okay, yeah. 00:20:37.149 --> 00:20:39.549 Sometimes we're waiting a lot of times. 00:20:40.829 --> 00:20:46.430 At first, when we uh our kids were young, um, we went all over the place. 00:20:46.589 --> 00:20:58.029 We went to probably about three different houses Christmas, Christmas Day, and it was overwhelming, and then we just got to a point where we're like, we're gonna do it at our house, and if anyone wants to join us, come on over. 00:20:58.269 --> 00:21:04.430 So we had the smallest house ever, but we had a ton of people in the house, and we were in California. 00:21:04.750 --> 00:21:11.309 We lived in California, and everyone was all over it was buffet style, and it was just wherever you fit. 00:21:11.470 --> 00:21:16.430 Yeah, wherever you fit is yeah, so it kind of turned into that for quite some time. 00:21:16.670 --> 00:21:17.309 Yeah, yeah. 00:21:17.549 --> 00:21:38.589 But getting back to, I know you're talking about the holidays, getting back to dinner, that was probably the best thing ever with all of our kids throughout their whole upbringing was eating dinner together because there was a lot of different schedules as they got older and it was difficult. 00:21:39.710 --> 00:21:53.549 Um, everyone was kind of all over the map, but dinner became priority, and so we really worked on that a lot, and all of our kids have taken that on, so it was um one thing that stuck. 00:21:53.869 --> 00:21:55.309 One thing, yeah, stuck. 00:21:55.549 --> 00:21:57.069 Yeah, I mean there's a few. 00:21:57.470 --> 00:22:03.069 That was almost a therapy session where I would ask my kids, okay, what do you want to talk about? 00:22:03.230 --> 00:22:09.789 Yeah, because you're trying to vent or say something to whatever it is on the table here. 00:22:10.269 --> 00:22:10.990 Yeah, yeah. 00:22:11.230 --> 00:22:19.470 And you know, sometimes they would say something, but not always, but it gave them the opportunity to do what you got to complain? 00:22:19.710 --> 00:22:20.109 Bring it. 00:22:21.069 --> 00:22:23.389 We all love you, so it worked well. 00:22:25.789 --> 00:22:31.549 And the teenager is gonna be a little tough because you know, most boys are monosyllabic at that point. 00:22:32.029 --> 00:22:32.909 How is how is school? 00:22:34.670 --> 00:22:35.549 Exactly. 00:22:35.789 --> 00:22:40.750 And the girls, well, we didn't have girls, but I think the girls they they don't go oh, they just roll their eyes, I think. 00:22:40.829 --> 00:22:53.710 So that's um but when you're there for you know half an hour eating, sooner or later food comes, you know, some talk comes out, and it takes just takes persistence and patience, you know. 00:22:54.029 --> 00:23:07.470 Um so I think one of the things your homework assignment today is gonna be um just to kind of look at a calendar and come up with a couple of your own traditions that you can start. 00:23:07.710 --> 00:23:15.710 Um and you know, we we kind of had them not intentionally, but we kind of had them all throughout throughout the year. 00:23:15.950 --> 00:23:23.710 Um you know, you could make up your own thing to do on uh New Year's Day, you know, some sometimes we'll have that. 00:23:23.789 --> 00:23:30.269 And I think the Polish tradition is you eat pork and pickle penny or something, you know, something crazy like that. 00:23:30.430 --> 00:23:31.549 It'd be food. 00:23:31.710 --> 00:23:58.269 Um, for us, um my family, my crazy uh kindergarten teacher and mother, on um Washington's birthday always had a tradition where we would go out to one of we lived in northern New Jersey, so we'd go out to one of Washington's places that he slept, and we'd have a picnic in the middle of winter, which was February, so we're pretty cold picnics quite a bit, but we're the only ones there. 00:23:58.430 --> 00:24:03.789 Um so when we moved to Ohio, we thought, okay, we're gonna keep that tradition going. 00:24:03.950 --> 00:24:07.149 So, where can we have a Washington's birthday picnic in Ohio? 00:24:07.309 --> 00:24:09.869 So we picked the beaches of Lake Urie. 00:24:10.509 --> 00:24:22.829 So just windswept, freezing beaches, but you know, we'd get the family, uh our kids would come, and we we had 20 or 30 people come out for this uh crazy tradition. 00:24:22.990 --> 00:24:25.389 So now last year they haven't stuck with it. 00:24:25.549 --> 00:24:31.869 My son did that in Bellevue, Vienna, yeah, at Washington's birthday picnic, and he had probably 20 neighbors that showed up. 00:24:32.029 --> 00:24:34.109 He just went door to door and invited them. 00:24:34.269 --> 00:24:35.629 So pretty cool. 00:24:35.789 --> 00:24:37.869 Um, which highlights another thing. 00:24:37.950 --> 00:24:50.349 So if you're doing a tradition, something like something like Washington's birthday, or Lincoln's birthday, or something, um, I don't know, uh Moses's birthday. 00:24:50.670 --> 00:24:53.309 Do something while you're there, you know, because people are open. 00:24:53.789 --> 00:24:56.430 So we always would do like a trivia question. 00:24:56.750 --> 00:25:01.069 Okay, you know, what was Washington's favorite dish? 00:25:01.389 --> 00:25:03.069 You know, okay, peanut soups. 00:25:03.149 --> 00:25:06.029 You know, so you you can you kind of teach as you go. 00:25:06.190 --> 00:25:11.869 So uh traditions, that's kind of my point, is traditions are a perfect opportunity to teach as well. 00:25:12.029 --> 00:25:15.869 Because you're already on a subject, now you can get into it a little bit deeper. 00:25:15.950 --> 00:25:17.309 So think about that. 00:25:17.710 --> 00:25:29.869 Um you do need to, you know, that's why I suggested putting something on the calendar because you do need to schedule it and you do need to, you know, stick to it for a couple years before it becomes ingrained. 00:25:29.950 --> 00:25:33.549 Um, and you can certainly lost your kids help to do that. 00:25:33.629 --> 00:25:41.389 You know, there's lots of things you can do to uh that they might have some crazy ideas too, like Washington's birthday or something else. 00:25:41.629 --> 00:25:45.950 Um take a break from technology. 00:25:46.269 --> 00:25:51.549 So if you're doing a traditional Washington's birthday, do it someplace where they don't get cell phone reception. 00:25:51.869 --> 00:25:55.309 You know, sometimes that alone is an issue, okay? 00:25:55.549 --> 00:26:04.670 Once a year or twice a year we have a technology break where we put our phones away for a day or whatever, and just have fun. 00:26:04.829 --> 00:26:07.069 Camping is a good way to do that as well. 00:26:07.470 --> 00:26:11.069 Um then just keep on going. 00:26:11.389 --> 00:26:15.789 Um second page lists a couple just a couple ideas. 00:26:16.269 --> 00:26:23.950 Um when you go through, you know, look about where you came from, where what's your heritage, what's your ethnicity. 00:26:24.349 --> 00:26:26.909 Lots of traditions that you can pull out from there. 00:26:27.309 --> 00:26:37.549 Um in February also is uh Shrove Tuesday, you know, the day before Ash Wednesday, a lot of traditions around that. 00:26:37.789 --> 00:26:52.430 So you could pick up things from the church calendar, but in Germany, they their way of getting rid of all the fatty and uh yeast, which is kind of the tradition, is they make what's called phosnox, these are donuts basically. 00:26:52.750 --> 00:27:03.710 So, you know, the Tuesday, the day before Ash Wednesday, our dinner is donuts at applesauce, sometimes frozen, you know, and so the boys love that. 00:27:03.950 --> 00:27:06.909 Um so lots of opportunities. 00:27:07.069 --> 00:27:13.230 So look through your heritage too, and you know what their grandma used to do, or whatever, you know, what did they do in the old country? 00:27:13.389 --> 00:27:26.750 Um competitions, you know, families tend to, you know, we have a musical family, some families are athletic, some you know, they tend to have certain bents based probably on you guys, but have a friendly competition, you know. 00:27:27.069 --> 00:27:37.149 If you are into sports, have a touch football game every year, or Thanksgiving Day, or um do a game night, you know, on a certain occasion. 00:27:37.389 --> 00:27:43.789 Um have making your own pizza, that's something we always did for um parties. 00:27:43.869 --> 00:27:51.549 You know, that when you have a birthday party with the kids, they all get along with pizza, they make it and they decorate it themselves, so make your own pizza. 00:27:51.629 --> 00:27:53.789 To this day, our boys all make their own pizza. 00:27:53.950 --> 00:27:57.710 So that's something that was because I was Papa John's pizza, you know. 00:27:59.549 --> 00:28:02.990 Sunday drives, this used to be real popular in the 50s and 60s. 00:28:03.149 --> 00:28:16.269 You'd go for a Sunday drive, just hop in the car, go someplace, um, you know, look for a strawberry picking place or look for somebody who's selling honey, something like that, just to get out and do something as a family. 00:28:16.589 --> 00:28:24.269 Um I mentioned traditional holidays, um those are full of them, uh full of traditions. 00:28:24.430 --> 00:28:30.269 Um you can even pick, you know, celebrate an off-holiday. 00:28:30.430 --> 00:28:35.549 If you go through the you know online, there's a there's a holiday for every day of the year. 00:28:35.710 --> 00:28:39.230 Um so International Tuba Day is one of those, you know. 00:28:39.389 --> 00:28:42.750 So pick one of those and make that your family tradition. 00:28:42.990 --> 00:28:50.909 So on you know, on June 14th every year, you know, celebrate it's a flag day or something like that. 00:28:51.069 --> 00:28:51.309 What's that? 00:28:51.389 --> 00:28:51.950 It's flag day. 00:28:52.109 --> 00:28:53.789 Flag day, okay, there you go, flag day. 00:28:53.869 --> 00:29:01.069 So um, you know, go go and pick something crazy and make that your holiday, and that'll make your family unique as well, you know. 00:29:01.149 --> 00:29:05.069 So um, and then you can also create your own holidays too. 00:29:05.149 --> 00:29:13.069 So if you want to do that, um, you know, family eat cake day or whatever, you can just use your imagination, that one. 00:29:14.109 --> 00:29:17.069 Um, because we're we were musical. 00:29:17.549 --> 00:29:21.389 I had all my instruments in the basement so they could play that anytime. 00:29:21.470 --> 00:29:26.589 So we do family band kind of stuff and just get them playing away. 00:29:26.829 --> 00:29:34.670 Um mentioned that adventure events are secret language, something or create a secret way to say I love you. 00:29:34.829 --> 00:29:44.509 Um there was an old um episode of uh what's the guy with Tim Tim Allen, is it? 00:29:44.909 --> 00:29:47.389 Um Tooltime, yeah, no one tooltime moved. 00:29:49.710 --> 00:29:50.430 Yeah, yeah. 00:29:50.589 --> 00:29:57.950 And he and his son wanted to show their affection for each other, but they didn't want to say it out loud because they were guys. 00:29:58.589 --> 00:30:05.629 So they decided when one says, Hey, how the lions do it, that was a way of saying I love you. 00:30:05.869 --> 00:30:07.710 So come up with something like that, you know. 00:30:07.789 --> 00:30:15.549 Uh Carol Bonette used always tugger you're remember at the end because she was saying I love you too, or her mother or whatever, her mother, her father. 00:30:15.789 --> 00:30:21.309 So find a way to say sensitive things without having to say it out loud. 00:30:21.629 --> 00:30:24.509 Um we invented a sequel language. 00:30:24.589 --> 00:30:26.670 Actually, this is a tradition from my father. 00:30:26.909 --> 00:30:37.309 He and his brothers invented a sequent language where if you take if you have a consonant, you take the letter like L, you put it U, and then the letter again, lul. 00:30:38.190 --> 00:30:47.230 So my and then vowels were the vowel A-E-I-O-U, and C and H were cash and hash, because you couldn't say cuck. 00:30:48.269 --> 00:30:51.629 So I'm judging hash and on E I cash ash over. 00:30:52.269 --> 00:30:54.430 So come up with a language, you know. 00:30:54.509 --> 00:31:00.670 Sometimes it's talking backwards or something that the kids can find silly, but it can be something secret between you. 00:31:01.149 --> 00:31:03.950 You guys got a language there, or you're looking at each other. 00:31:04.109 --> 00:31:05.950 Yeah, I have to. 00:31:11.149 --> 00:31:19.789 Between the grips and the blood in LA, the uh the blood would not say anything with a C word. 00:31:20.349 --> 00:31:28.269 So they'd say like a bump of your okay. 00:31:28.670 --> 00:31:29.869 That's where my mind went. 00:31:30.109 --> 00:31:30.990 Yeah, yeah. 00:31:31.950 --> 00:31:35.470 But you could make you know, you could have your own uh no, I don't know, that's true. 00:31:36.829 --> 00:31:38.589 So that's something you can have some fun with. 00:31:38.750 --> 00:31:40.589 Um bury a time capsule. 00:31:40.829 --> 00:31:42.109 That's something we used to do. 00:31:42.190 --> 00:31:51.789 We had a we had a septic system, so every time we the septic system got pumped out, we had to dig up to where the the hatch was, and there was our time capsule. 00:31:54.990 --> 00:31:55.549 It works. 00:31:57.069 --> 00:31:59.149 I brought it in a visual here. 00:31:59.789 --> 00:32:01.950 This is something you can do too for cheap. 00:32:02.190 --> 00:32:08.589 Yeah, it's just a painted stick with uh inches on it. 00:32:08.750 --> 00:32:14.670 So kids' birthdays or whatever, they come up and like knock them off, and they can see how much they've grown over the year. 00:32:15.069 --> 00:32:17.710 Oh, I was taller than my brother at this time or whatever. 00:32:17.869 --> 00:32:20.509 And then you know now we got grandkids on there too. 00:32:20.990 --> 00:32:28.589 So it's you know we put it on a stick because I figured in the old my family that they had it on a door post. 00:32:29.069 --> 00:32:30.829 But when you move, you can't do that. 00:32:30.909 --> 00:32:37.149 So I made it this way and hang it up, and then you send the kids, you know, something special, you're gonna take the drawer. 00:32:37.549 --> 00:32:42.109 We did that, but we did do it on the door posts and paint it over it when we moved. 00:32:42.990 --> 00:32:43.789 Yeah, yeah. 00:32:45.149 --> 00:32:55.950 So things like that were whenever my mother would wallpaper, she'd let us write all over the walls so that when the wallpaper came down, so crazy stuff like that. 00:32:56.029 --> 00:32:57.710 That's a tradition that kids remember. 00:32:57.869 --> 00:33:01.309 Uh movie night, um that that's always good. 00:33:01.389 --> 00:33:11.950 That involves technology, but you know, can you can yearly watch uh Christmas story or or um Sound of Music or something like that. 00:33:12.190 --> 00:33:17.309 But Sound of Music will that'll stick in your brain for quite a while. 00:33:17.869 --> 00:33:28.909 So adopt a restaurant, some people make, you know, okay, we're going paisanos every, you know, the third third Thursday of every month or something, you know, that becomes a kind of a regular thing. 00:33:29.069 --> 00:33:30.829 You know, remember those days of paisanos. 00:33:31.069 --> 00:33:36.190 You know, you get the you get to know the waiters and things like that, and it becomes a family thing. 00:33:36.349 --> 00:33:48.909 Uh, community service, that's always a good thing to do, whether it's church or you know, a lot of families every Thanksgiving they'll go out and serve food with the kids with the um at the shelters or something like that. 00:33:48.990 --> 00:33:50.589 It doesn't have to be on a holiday. 00:33:50.750 --> 00:33:59.710 It can be, you know, uh we're just gonna take care of, you know, we're gonna make meals for the shelter on you know first Tuesday of the month or something like that. 00:33:59.869 --> 00:34:01.869 So that gives them opportunities. 00:34:02.029 --> 00:34:04.190 Um you guys mentioned camping. 00:34:04.509 --> 00:34:12.430 Um so when your kids talk about camping, do they talk about what what parts do they remember? 00:34:14.590 --> 00:34:19.710 I know with Boy Scouts they always remember the locations more. 00:34:19.869 --> 00:34:21.309 We go to the beach. 00:34:24.990 --> 00:34:26.909 The desert, the motorcycle rating. 00:34:27.470 --> 00:34:33.389 Ah, I think it's the location more than anything that they're okay, okay. 00:34:37.630 --> 00:34:40.349 They had all the amenities, they weren't like roughing it. 00:34:41.630 --> 00:34:45.789 Yeah, it's usually when things are roughing it that they remember those. 00:34:46.110 --> 00:34:50.670 You know, they don't they don't often talk, oh you remember how beauty beautiful and sunny it was? 00:34:50.750 --> 00:34:54.349 You know, that they remember, oh I remember we were rolling in the mud, you know. 00:34:54.989 --> 00:35:03.550 So don't let don't let uh bad times sometimes that forms better memories than the easy times. 00:35:03.869 --> 00:35:20.190 Um have stargazing, you know, no no people don't look at the sky enough, so keep track of what's happening in the sky and go out and look at the you know, just last week Jupiter and Venus and the moon lined up nicely, so don't do that. 00:35:20.349 --> 00:35:27.710 I have an app for the International Space Station, so I can look up, oh okay, you know, next week it's gonna be flying over. 00:35:27.869 --> 00:35:30.509 So you can go, anybody ever seen the space station go? 00:35:31.230 --> 00:35:33.230 Yeah, that's that's pretty cool. 00:35:33.469 --> 00:35:40.269 So uh something like that becomes gets them out of their shells and thinking figure, and that gives you opportunity, you know. 00:35:40.429 --> 00:35:41.309 Isn't God great? 00:35:41.469 --> 00:35:42.829 Look at the universe, you know. 00:35:43.070 --> 00:35:44.670 So things like that. 00:35:44.829 --> 00:35:47.710 Um, if you have hobbies, that's part of it too. 00:35:47.949 --> 00:35:59.550 Um create a family cookbook, so you know, collect your recipes from mom, find out why she sliced the ham at the end so every time she cooked the ham. 00:35:59.949 --> 00:36:08.590 Um scrapbook, I'm not a scrapbooker, but sometimes kids get into that, and that's something that you can always go back to and look at. 00:36:08.989 --> 00:36:11.869 Um, I mentioned pumpkin patches. 00:36:11.949 --> 00:36:21.550 You know, we our tradition was to go out in Pennsylvania and go out to the pumpkin patch and do a hay ride so the kids remember that, you know, so it's consistency doing it every year. 00:36:21.789 --> 00:36:25.070 Um first day of school pictures. 00:36:25.230 --> 00:36:30.110 Uh that's always a tradition. 00:36:30.590 --> 00:36:40.349 Um we have great pictures of I have two pictures side by side of first day of school pictures waiting for the bus. 00:36:40.670 --> 00:36:44.670 And one is from like third grade, and they're all hair is combed down. 00:36:44.989 --> 00:36:50.829 You know, they're smiling and happy, and then I have one from uh like eighth grade. 00:36:50.989 --> 00:36:51.150 Yeah. 00:36:53.630 --> 00:36:56.750 So when you put them side by side, it's a lot of fun. 00:36:56.909 --> 00:37:08.190 Um so you know, just I guess make sure you put it into your into your calendar to create a few ones and report back next week, okay. 00:37:08.349 --> 00:37:12.269 I want to hear a little different one, you know, come up with something creative. 00:37:12.590 --> 00:37:15.309 Um throw one in there. 00:37:15.389 --> 00:37:19.150 So since we moved here, sorry, see the clock, so we can get this in. 00:37:19.630 --> 00:37:22.909 Since we moved here, we all moved, we moved here in 22. 00:37:23.150 --> 00:37:24.190 2022. 00:37:24.590 --> 00:37:26.029 May of 2022. 00:37:26.509 --> 00:37:33.710 But some other family members showed up maybe at the year, six months prior to us. 00:37:34.190 --> 00:37:41.630 Providentially, we showed up, but we didn't plan it other than with our we discussed it with our kids. 00:37:42.349 --> 00:37:56.509 But the other people that showed up, we didn't like, alright, we're all who's in but it was almost like we were colonists, we didn't know anybody, we didn't have any other connection other than each other. 00:37:57.309 --> 00:38:05.070 So the moms decided to uh have this family dinner. 00:38:05.469 --> 00:38:15.389 So we would we would meet like once a month, maybe when it started, and it varied between every two weeks and two months, but consistently, roughly about you know, about every month. 00:38:15.710 --> 00:38:16.670 It's a great tradition. 00:38:16.750 --> 00:38:18.909 We've been doing it for four years now. 00:38:19.550 --> 00:38:20.989 We didn't start it. 00:38:21.789 --> 00:38:36.829 I think it was more towards the young like my daughter's age and her cousins that live in Hendersonville, my son-in-law's uncle and aunt live in Hendersonville, we showed up here, my son-in-law's parents showed up, another friend of ours in Murfreesboro. 00:38:37.070 --> 00:38:40.429 So we all we knew was that's all we knew. 00:38:40.590 --> 00:38:40.989 Yeah, yeah. 00:38:41.230 --> 00:38:43.630 So we would get together, have a meal. 00:38:43.710 --> 00:38:45.550 We've been doing it consistently. 00:38:46.429 --> 00:38:56.349 I think it's a great fun tradition for the kids because all these kids, cousins, get together, and we have a competition for the best meal, it's all popular. 00:38:56.829 --> 00:38:57.150 Oh, okay. 00:38:57.469 --> 00:38:58.029 It's all themes. 00:38:58.509 --> 00:38:59.070 Yeah, okay. 00:39:00.989 --> 00:39:03.710 Yeah, yeah, whoever's whoever hosts determines the theme. 00:39:06.029 --> 00:39:16.349 So I don't know if you're all if you have connections here or anybody else, but if you have a friend group or some other connection, that's really doing well. 00:39:16.590 --> 00:39:39.789 Everybody enjoys that that time, the kids especially seem to have some playtime and fun, and that really promotes the cohesiveness of things because when you guys are gone, because of the relationships by the young the kids, cousins are gonna stay in touch with each other and they become friends, you know. 00:39:39.869 --> 00:39:49.550 So it trickles down the generations, and you know, so I'm I'm still pretty friendly with my cousins and because of traditions before, and then it keeps trickling down. 00:39:49.710 --> 00:39:52.829 So that family time together become friends. 00:39:52.989 --> 00:40:10.909 Um, you know, I've often said family is God's way of forcing you to look get along with people you would normally not associate with, but it's uh but it builds those relationships and it gives you coping skills for for I don't know if they're I just think it's true. 00:40:11.150 --> 00:40:16.269 Yeah, yeah, but it it it gives them coping skills for dealing with people that I don't like not like them. 00:40:17.070 --> 00:40:23.389 And another thing I wanted to add, it's it's kind of not a family thing, but it is a family thing. 00:40:23.710 --> 00:40:30.909 Our our our um our daughter and son-in-law, and what they do is well now they have six six kids, five kids. 00:40:31.150 --> 00:40:33.789 And brand new those are last week. 00:40:34.429 --> 00:40:34.750 Oh, six. 00:40:34.909 --> 00:40:35.710 Which kids are we talking about? 00:40:37.309 --> 00:40:37.469 Five. 00:40:37.710 --> 00:40:40.029 Yeah, I'm like waiting for many families. 00:40:40.750 --> 00:40:57.550 Yeah, um, they take one child a month and they take them out on a date, that's right, and they let them pick what they want to do, and then usually if you have a sitter, like if you have more than one child, and if you have a large family, it's nice to spend one on one time. 00:40:57.869 --> 00:41:14.829 So if you can just pick out one day out of the month where you're taking that child, and it doesn't have to be a full day, they usually just do like maybe three, four hours that they're gone in the evening after Jeremy gets off work, and then just give that child that special time. 00:41:15.869 --> 00:41:17.630 It could be walking around a Walmart, who knows? 00:41:17.869 --> 00:41:21.070 They have the resources to do it, we set the grandparents to do it. 00:41:21.389 --> 00:41:23.630 Yeah, we'll be we'll be touching on that in a few weeks. 00:41:23.789 --> 00:41:24.509 We'll be talking about it. 00:41:24.590 --> 00:41:27.789 I see you're I see you took a spin on that because we don't have the resources. 00:41:27.869 --> 00:41:32.429 I mean, we do, but we don't have family around, so we do three different opportunities. 00:41:32.509 --> 00:41:36.029 There's a mom and dad date, there's a mom date, and there's a dad date. 00:41:36.269 --> 00:41:42.429 So between those three opportunities and my four kids, they rotate throughout the year, and once a month everyone's getting to do something. 00:41:42.590 --> 00:41:56.829 So they get three opportunities in the year to do something with individuals, and they have all the other things like Kenny and Caesar go and do inter life, and the girls and I go do HG, and so they have other sort of one-on-one time, but that's like a specific time. 00:41:57.070 --> 00:41:58.429 We've been late every single month. 00:41:58.590 --> 00:42:01.309 I still owe Caesar a date from April, but it's okay. 00:42:01.630 --> 00:42:02.670 We're gonna get there. 00:42:03.389 --> 00:42:04.829 But he remembers that, right? 00:42:04.989 --> 00:42:05.949 Oh no, yeah, they know. 00:42:06.029 --> 00:42:06.429 Yeah, yeah. 00:42:06.670 --> 00:42:12.029 He was like, Yeah, let's just go today, and like do you see what we're doing today? 00:42:13.469 --> 00:42:16.750 And that and that's the and the kids, you know, have that expectation. 00:42:16.829 --> 00:42:18.269 You know, we're gonna do it again. 00:42:18.429 --> 00:42:20.429 It doesn't take much to set a precedent with kids. 00:42:20.829 --> 00:42:23.389 Maggie only wants to go to Dunkin' Donuts, it's fine. 00:42:25.230 --> 00:42:25.710 Right? 00:42:27.389 --> 00:42:33.150 And we'll talk a little bit about in two weeks, we're gonna be talking about fun times and family times and date night. 00:42:33.550 --> 00:42:37.710 But um one of the points though is that it doesn't have to cost anything. 00:42:37.949 --> 00:42:48.269 You know, it didn't cost anything to get in a car and go to Washington's birthplace and or Washington's headquarters and have a picnic lunch, you know, but it created big memories. 00:42:48.509 --> 00:42:54.349 You don't have to go to a restaurant and you can make your own pizza or some dish at home. 00:42:54.509 --> 00:43:00.989 Um so you know, kids cooking night can be once or every other month kind of thing. 00:43:01.150 --> 00:43:04.509 So it doesn't have to cost anything if you're clever around. 00:43:05.070 --> 00:43:07.789 Um, so don't let that stop you. 00:43:08.590 --> 00:43:20.269 So um, and then you know, maybe enlist your parents uh what what uh traditions they remember from their youth that they didn't pass on, you know, those don't make them feel guilty or anything like that. 00:43:20.349 --> 00:43:29.230 But um guys have any thoughts as to tradition that you want to maybe pick up that your parents started. 00:43:36.190 --> 00:43:38.429 Didn't they did they have traditions? 00:43:39.469 --> 00:43:40.909 Not many, to be honest with you. 00:43:41.070 --> 00:43:45.949 Yeah, I don't think either one of us came from homes with too many traditions, kind of chaotic homes. 00:43:46.029 --> 00:43:50.269 But I think I think the the kids' cooking would be good. 00:43:50.349 --> 00:43:52.670 I mean, me and my mom did cook together sometimes. 00:43:52.909 --> 00:43:55.070 Um I enjoy cooking sometimes something like that. 00:43:55.630 --> 00:44:00.989 Yeah, not a lot of we're kind of laughing because I don't know, it's hard to think about what traditions we want to carry on. 00:44:01.150 --> 00:44:03.469 Yeah, it's more so the traditions that we don't want to carry on. 00:44:03.789 --> 00:44:12.029 Yeah, but if you're intentional about it, you're filling one with another, you know, a healthy one for an unhealthy one. 00:44:12.190 --> 00:44:13.150 Right, yeah, yeah. 00:44:13.309 --> 00:44:18.110 And you know, and it can be a lot, a lot of food traditions are around foods. 00:44:18.989 --> 00:44:26.349 Christmas Eve, you know, Tammy didn't feel like coconut big meal because we're you know going off to Sunday school or to church and stuff like that. 00:44:26.670 --> 00:44:33.389 So she would make burger noodle casserole, it's kind of a homemade version of hamburger helper. 00:44:33.869 --> 00:44:38.909 But we'd get out wine glasses and let the kids drink grape juice out of wine glasses, you know. 00:44:38.989 --> 00:44:43.070 So we we set a fancy table and candles and stuff. 00:44:43.150 --> 00:44:49.150 It was not fancy food, but they got to drink out of wine glasses, you know, so that was kind of special for them. 00:44:49.469 --> 00:44:52.190 So simple things like that, that's all it takes. 00:44:52.269 --> 00:44:55.070 But you got to do it every year, so they're gonna remember it. 00:44:55.150 --> 00:44:57.309 So um, okay, so go do it. 00:44:57.469 --> 00:44:58.909 You got your homework assignment. 00:44:59.070 --> 00:45:03.469 Okay, I'm gonna follow up next week on uh what traditions you have. 00:45:03.630 --> 00:45:09.389 Get out the calendar, figure it out, maybe come up with something each month to do and be responsible. 00:45:09.550 --> 00:45:10.590 Let's close in prayer. 00:45:10.750 --> 00:45:17.309 Lord God, we thank you for the fact that you're a God that created traditions for us in Scripture. 00:45:17.469 --> 00:45:27.150 We have a whole church calendar that um helps remind us of your constant love, your constant activity in our lives and your uh impact on the world. 00:45:28.349 --> 00:45:44.670 Um as we remember, we remember your goodness, remember, remember your grace, and remember that we are a part of a greater church family, a part of the church universal, and these traditions help us reinforce that. 00:45:44.829 --> 00:46:06.590 So help us to be in our families replicators of that, that we give our children memories that uh give them a sense of belonging, a sense of unity with their family, and a sense that through our earthly fathers and mothers, that you are our heavenly father. 00:46:06.909 --> 00:46:12.349 And uh the things that we teach them become easier because of our traditions. 00:46:12.590 --> 00:46:13.389 So we pray for that. 00:46:13.550 --> 00:46:30.829 Pray for each family here and each couple, that they just have the wherewithal and the courage to go in and uh come up with their own traditions and uh try to be like everybody else, but be their own unique family, because that's uh how you treat us. 00:46:30.989 --> 00:46:48.269 And yes, that would bless the rest of the day, especially Kenny as he preaches, and as we celebrate and remember our veterans that you would help us to, as families, honor you, honor those who went before us. 00:46:48.349 --> 00:46:49.710 And we pray this in your name. 00:46:49.949 --> 00:46:50.269 Amen. 00:46:51.389 --> 00:46:53.550 Okay, go and do it. 00:46:53.630 --> 00:46:54.829 You got your assignments. 00:46:55.070 --> 00:46:55.230 Okay. 00:46:56.029 --> 00:47:04.269 Next week we are leaving your child to place that we get to place paper. 00:47:05.469 --> 00:47:06.909 So that would be good. 00:47:09.150 --> 00:47:09.309 Okay.