Erectile Dysfunction is NOT a Dysfunction

In this episode, I weight in on what erectile dysfunction really is after working to cure my clients of it for the last decade. 

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Transcript

  Welcome, welcome to the so hard podcast. I am Justina Victoria, and today we are going to chat about how erectile dysfunction is not a dysfunction. 

Okay, so erectile dysfunction is not a dysfunction. I say this all the time and you may be surprised to hear me say that. I know a lot of my clients, when they first start working with me, they're really surprised to hear that. And sometimes even resistant no, something is wrong. Something is dysfunctional.

But.  In my opinion working with erectile dysfunction for almost a decade now I believe that erectile dysfunction is a psychosomatic issue.  I'm not even going to say psychosomatic condition. To me it's not a dysfunction, it's not a condition. It's just an issue. And, again, this may seem very surprising.

Especially if you have erectile dysfunction, because for you, and if you've had it for a long time, for you it can feel like this is the end all be all disruptor of my life. It's definitely a dysfunction, I don't have any control over my body, no medicine is working, no appointment at the doctor has worked, no shock therapy, no this, no injection that, blah, blah, blah, right?

And it can feel like there's something seriously wrong with your body.  And this is why education is so vitally important because without understanding how our bodies work, we can create narratives and to fill in the gaps of missing information.  And narratives can be very dangerous in some ways because whatever we believe and whatever we see in our mind, if we practice that, ultimately becomes our physiology. 

So what do I mean by this? What, let's break this down, right? You may have seen my post on Instagram recently, or you may have received my email recently where I talk about how ED is not a dysfunction but it's actually a psychosomatic issue. And that issue really lies between the gap of understanding whether erectile dysfunction is a mental thing or a physiological thing.

It's actually a nervous system thing.  And with a nervous system has to feel safe in order to function in certain ways. When we feel safe we have a totally different branch of our nervous system online. We have completely different brain function. Completely different brain function.

Physiology happening in the body. When we move into stress, fear, anger, worry feeling pressured, feeling inadequate,  A lot of these emotions that most men feel when they have erectile dysfunction, if not always all men feel when they experience erectile dysfunction, the nervous system is actually shifting gears into a different branch and a completely different way of functioning.

Brain function is altered nervous system function is altered, and most importantly in this state, reproductive function is altered.  So what happens typically is that Is that A man might be experiencing some level of stress. Maybe he's got like a little cold or virus going on that he doesn't even realize he has.

He's overworked himself and he's a little bit burnt and doesn't realize it. He lives a very stressful lifestyle, but that feels normal. He's very habituated to that. And again, it's not It's just doesn't seem like anything's really happening. Or there can be like a really big thing that happens where like maybe you're going through a breakup or maybe somebody you love has died or I don't know, you lost your house or something. 

And so there can be these sort of big stressful events or there could just be everyday stress that has built up to a point over time that the body just cannot function the way that it's always. functioned for you, right? In a predictable way, let's say,  and in both of these cases, reproductive function changes. 

So let's say you go to have an intimate experience with your wife or with your girlfriend or somebody new, and all of a sudden you find that you can't get it up or in the middle of the experience, you start to lose your erection. Most men are conditioned to believe that if something is going on with their erection, there's something wrong with them.

And not only is there something wrong with them, but if they can't perform,  if they can't,  satisfy their woman they're not a man. They don't have any worth or value, right? We take a little bit of stress that the system's already in and that stress is shifting function of the brain of the nervous system and it is switching reproductive function off.

Okay? That is the cause of ED.  That is the cause. Now, unless you have some terminal illness or dysautonomia or crazy blood pressure shit, I have worked with clients with all kinds of health conditions, stuff that the doctors say, Oh yeah, you'll never get an erection again. Oh, you have a venous leak, all this crazy stuff that they tell people and they end up being perfectly fine when they understand the nervous system and they recondition their body. 

And they help come out of the stress response. No and I have clients are like, but maybe I'm the one, maybe I'm the special one that like has the dysfunction, right? It's not a psychosomatic thing. It's my body and it's just no, and that's never the case. It's never the case.

And like I said, unless you have something really extreme, you're going through chemotherapy or something, right? But if you're just an average dude, maybe you have a few health issues, maybe you have no health issues. It is a psychosomatic thing. So. Okay, so we come back to this moment where all of a sudden ED  sort of comes online, right?

Or reproductive function goes offline for maybe an extended period, maybe a few minutes or I don't know, maybe 30 seconds and it freaks you out.  And so that's happening already because the system is undergoing some kind of burden.  It's enough to create spillage, right? So it's forcing the nervous system to shift into dysregulation and causing reproductive function to shut down. 

But you don't know that, right? So on top of the stress, that the body's already under, which is why you're not having blood flow to your dick. We start to create a lot of these narratives, right? And it's all based on this conditioning that you received throughout your life, which is, Oh my gosh, I have to perform well.

Oh my gosh, what's going to happen if I don't get a rock hard day? Dick, all the porn you've ever watched in your whole life is coming to mind and your wife leaving you or you being alone forever, never being able to date again. All of these things are starting to come to mind. And then also fear like something's wrong with me.

Oh my gosh.  If you don't get an erection, that's a sign of a really bad health problem. Like all I've heard it all. I have heard it all. These narratives and these fears, what happens is those things then cause an even more intense dysregulation within the nervous system, an even more intense stress response than what you are already under. 

And then, here comes the cycle of ED.  Eventually what happens is there's this fear that it's not going to work. There's this fear that what if this is the time my body betrays me? What if this is the time that I don't get heart? Or what if I can't stay hard? Or what if I lose it during? And what happens is Of course, that extra stress and pressure, which is on top of a system that's already stressed, which is why reproductive function is limited is going to increase reproductive shutdown.

And then, Neuroplasticity starts to kick in, right? Because when we practice something, it starts to become the automatic response. If we become afraid that we can't get hard every single time we have an intimate experience and we see in our mind this image of failure and, nothing happening and being embarrassed or having a woman walk out on you,  then we are reinforcing To our nervous system to our brain that sex is now a threat Okay, so our ability to be loved and to belong is are vital needs.

They are hardwired into your brainstem. I don't give a shit what anyone has to say on Instagram with their little posts of I don't care what nobody thinks about me. Yes, you do. You are hardwired  to  period. Okay. And these vital needs of love and belonging are equal to food, water, shelter, all of that.

We need to feel valued. We need to feel loved. We need to feel like we belong.  And in order for a man to really feel that, to activate those vital needs, to feel that those vital needs are being met, he needs to feel like he's a man.  Okay? All of this stuff is wrapped up into one cyclical thing that starts to happen.

The more we don't experience ED, the more we think there's something wrong. The more we're afraid that it's not going to work, the more ED you're going to experience. Cause we are now we're just always in a state of stress. But at the same time, neuroplasticity, which is practice and repetition combined with emotion  to improve.

Literally, condition  the body to do something automatically.  So then it starts to feel like something that's out of your control.  Every time sex is on the table, it's oh my gosh. And then you're two years, three years, five years, 10 years down the line, and you're still struggling with E.

D. and it feels just like the most. Impossible thing to cure. And some of my clients, they come to me before they go down the rabbit hole of all these crazy things like pills and injections and shockwave therapy and other clients come to me as the absolute last ditch resort. And in every single case I have ever worked with It was always just a psychosomatic issue.

It was, the person was stressed, didn't realize that they had exceeded. their limit within their nervous system. Nervous system function changed, reproductive function shut down, and then they started creating a lot of terrifying narratives about that because they were not educated on how their body functions.

And then that fear, that conditioning, those narratives, they Started to practice and reinforce every single time they went into a sexual experience, which then became their automatic experience. And then they were at the point where it's oh my gosh. And I wanna say one thing before  we go here about medication. 

Men spend $6 billion  on ED medication per year.  In the U. S.  Okay. Six billion  dollars.  Okay. And the medication only, I'm not even calling it medicine because it's not medicine. It's a  band aid. For some. It doesn't work for a lot of people. Believe it or not. 

What I have found is that the pills only work to the level of narrative you have. The stronger the fear the stronger the stress around not being able to get hard,  The less that the pills actually work for you. So when I have a client who has really mild, ED, he's just Oh yeah, I got to use the pills.

And he conditioned himself that the pills always work for him. And they're always his backup no matter what. And he feels really safe with that. They always work. I have somebody with more of a moderate thing. What I'll find is that the pills will work some of the time, 50 percent of the time.

But clients who are, really at the end of their rope they're really afraid they're, they've done everything they've gone, gone to all these specialists and stuff and they haven't been able to resolve their ED the pills just don't work for them.  And so what that tells us is that.

The level of stress hormones that are pumping through the body at any given time are preventing the effect of that stress hormone. quote unquote medication, right? It's if you, this is just my theory. This is not like a scientifically tested thing, but I don't know how many people would be doing this kind of study, but my theory is that like when you drink alcohol and you let's say you get into a really stressful situation, but let's say maybe you're buzzed or drunk, then you get into a very stressful situation.

All of a sudden, boom,  you get sober. Versus if you're just really relaxed and having a great time, right? I find it to be a similar effect.  If you're struggling with ED, I want you to understand that it is something that is completely  100 percent reversible.  You have to believe that in order for your body to receive new instruction  and to have a change, have a physiological change.

But the missing link, when you're searching online and you're finding, Oh, sometimes ED is mental. Sometimes ED is physical. The missing link is the nervous system. And the nervous system is what makes your thoughts, your mind, Physical, it creates your physiology, your thoughts create your physiology.

This is a scientifically proven fact,  unlike my theory about alcohol and stress. With, when it comes to, belief and biology, we know for a fact now that, epigenetics the study of how our belief, the chemical environment in our body changes our physical expression, our physiological expression is a proven fact.

And it makes a lot of sense when you really understand how the brain, how the nervous system function, when you are relaxed, when you feel safe, when all of your needs are getting met, when you are in an environment that feels nurturing, supportive, healthy, right? Your nervous system is going to operate from a state of safety and wellbeing, and it's going to produce elevated emotion.

That elevated emotion is a Chemical environment that's being produced inside of your body, which then influences the way every single cell  functions. Every single cell. It is getting information from that chemical environment, which then allows the cell to function very optimally. But when we go into stress, and the body is producing a very different chemical environment within the body. 

The cell gets a totally different signal. It starts reading your genes in a different way, actually. Most people talk about genes turning on and off, but they're not, genes don't, genes are not doing anything. They're just blueprints. So we have, we have coherent blueprints, healthy blueprints, and we have mutated blueprints.

We all carry those. And so when we walk around in a very stressed state,  The cell can start becoming confused and reading the blueprints of the genes that are a mutation that have little hiccups in their information. That is what happens. So this is how mind and body are one. This is not pseudoscience.

This is not, um, wishful thinking. This is a scientifically proven fact. That's why we have the whole sector of epigenetics now is dedicated to this understanding. So on a much kind of larger scale bigger picture sense  ED  is really just, this is what's happening.

For some men see, and again, it's. It does come down to epigenetics, right? It comes down to what I believe is either  blueprints within your DNA, right? The type of blueprints you have specifically. And the things you're afraid of. Whatever we practice in our mind that we fear, Can just that alone can become your reality.

So if you're afraid of erectile dysfunction, you're likely going to experience that  Some men when they stress right and they hit that point of spilling over they can't sleep right? They might have insomnia. They may not have erectile dysfunction, but they have insomnia, right or  They may not have erectile dysfunction, but they get panic attack,  right?

Or they may not get erectile dysfunction, but they have really extreme food sensitivities and gut issues, right? So everybody is different.  But it's all one thing. So I want to put your mind at ease. I want you to understand that ED, first of all, is not a dysfunction. Your body is functioning properly. When you move into the stress response, reproductive function is supposed to shut down. 

It's supposed to, if you are running from a lion, why would you want or need energy and blood flow going to your dick? We need that energy and blood flow in the arms and legs so that we can run, we can fight, we can protect ourselves, we can get back to safety.  This is not a dysfunction.  It's literally how your body is supposed to work.

You just didn't know that. And that's why we have to fill in those gaps, those missing pieces of information with education with facts, with science, not with narratives. That are scary.  So if you are, you know struggling with ed, you can reach out to me on my website justinavictoria. com or you can reach out to me on instagram Shoot me a message and I do offer free consultations Happy to help in any way I possibly can and I will see you guys next time