Book of Questions, Part 2: Xennial Honest Answers

Back by popular demand: Dani & Katie answer questions from the 1980's and 1990's bestseller by Gregory Stock, Ph.D., The Book of Questions. Which ones would you answer honestly?

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Welcome Back to Generation Inbetween

Speaker 1 0:02

Hello everyone and welcome back to Generation Inbetween, a Zinio podcast, where we usually revisit, remember and relearn things from our 80s childhoods and 90s teenhoods. I fucked that up again. See, it's not just me. It's not just me. I keep saying we're going to do something different and I mess it up every time. Anyway, we are here with a special little fun episode for you guys. We have a lot going on, um, in the weeks to come, so we're actually recording this a few weeks before you actually hear it.

Remember The $30,000 Question?

Speaker 1 0:33

Yes, this is our fourth thing we're recording today which is wild, um, but we needed to have this content to use for later. So just so you know that that's what's going on, and we had such a good time the last time we did this episode topic. We're doing it again, yes. So for those of you who may not have been here before, you're brand new. A few episodes back, we got a little book out from the eighties called the book of questions, by Gregory Stack, phd. That guy, it came, that guy. I got the idea because Bowen Yang and Matt Rogers did it on their podcast Last Culturistas and it was hilarious and we actually had a really hilarious episode. We really did. Although what everybody wants to talk to me about oh no, is her last question, katie. They were like Katie does not have a high price People are saving their pennies.

Speaker 2 1:29

I'm afraid of this now. But yeah, you'll have to listen to our first one if you haven't yet. But we stuck around for one final question and the question was basically like, if you were propositioned on an airplane From a stranger, from a stranger, would you blah, blah, blah? And I just basically named a price and said, sure, well, no, it was. They gave us a price and you had to say 30 000 or I think. So, yeah, yeah, and so apparently that's what everyone remembers from that episode, because they're just like, okay, and I said I don't think I could do it.

Speaker 1 1:57

I don't think I could do it, but give me six months. I might change my mind. When my kids in college like, maybe like 10, 10,000. Okay, are you clean? Great, let me see your STD tests. What?

Speaker 2 2:09

I mean, yeah, I guess Did we even talk about that? What STDs? Yeah, I don't think so.

Speaker 1 2:16

Oh well, that's smart. Well, you know, and then, of course, like I asked my husband the question and his first thing was well, no, cause I'm married. And we were like Ooh, yeah, we didn didn't even. We were just like is it a high enough price? Yeah, we didn't even consider me. Well, we did eventually talk about it. I think eventually we got to it. The first thing we well, because the question asked about right right, it was money.

Speaker 2 2:39

Are you single? Are you not correct? Just had a stranger, and so I think you could almost like in my mind I was almost thinking of like just a different version of myself, me too, kind of like a like, a like it was just me alone in the universe on a plane.

Speaker 1 2:51

We did kind of we did kind of talk about that though, but then because I said, when I was 20 or something, I'd be like yeah right, we did, but I'm just saying like when I heard the question oh, I heard it from that frame of mind. It heard the question. Oh, I heard it from that frame of mind.

Speaker 2 3:04

It was like different Katie, oh right, but like me now maybe not. And then I also said I still haven't asked Brant if oh you haven't, I'm gonna ask him today.

Speaker 1 3:13

I'm gonna do this then. I never asked him do you not want to know?

Speaker 2 3:15

Troy I? I do want to know. I just think he'll be like why are you asking? He'll be like what happened, like hello what happened, like today, that you were asking me this weird question?

Do People Ever Stop Getting Crushes?

Speaker 1 3:28

Although we have had some interesting conversations lately over via text about crushes, right Like how we've talked about. Well, it came up when we were talking about Dawson's Creek too. Yeah, do you think people ever stop getting crushes in their life?

Speaker 2 3:43

That's my book of questions. I would imagine at some point probably you think yeah, I don't know. I mean, I just feel like the older I get, the less the older I get.

Speaker 1 3:52

She's like pay me and I'll have a crush on you.

Speaker 2 3:54

Yeah, it's all about the transactional relationship. I care less about that stuff, like the romantic stuff and the whatever. Maybe I'm just exhausted and have no time for any of it, but I feel like as I'm getting older it's fading, fading, fading. So eventually wouldn't it just fade away? That is the most depressing answer.

Speaker 1 4:17

Sorry, well, I'm not depressed I mean, maybe I am, but I think it's interesting because I don't think. I kind of think the opposite. I think people probably always will get crushes at some point in time. Okay, but the difference is whether you act upon it or not. Correct? And the reason I asked this is because we were talking about a celebrity being good looking, um, and I can't remember now who it was when I was in the green room before we went on stage, and I won't say who it was, but one of the married people in the cast said oh gosh, yeah they're, they're so hot or whatever.

Speaker 1 4:56

And they're like, hey, you can look, you just can't touch. And I'm like that is because you don't die when you get married or you're in a long relationship, or say you're out of a long relationship and you need a break, or you're older or whatever. You don't die.

Speaker 2 5:14

And I think you texted me that. I did, I'm pretty sure I am. No you're not. You're not.

Speaker 1 5:18

But I did say that I know you did. She said I'm pretty sure I'm dead. I'm like sure I'm dead. I'm like actually. No, I did, it's gone. You're just tired. You're not dead, I'm tired. Give you another month and you'll be like I have a crush on the mailman because he walks, wait, wait, my male person's a lady, male lady.

Speaker 1 5:35

Well, I mean no judgment there. Like you can have a crush whenever you want. Yeah, I, just because, like we can all think of, like celebrities, we have crushes on or stage crushes that we like From a distance From a distance Admire.

Speaker 2 5:47

Yeah, from a distance Admire.

Speaker 1 5:50

And I think that you just always. I think that that's okay. I think if my husband said, oh my God, I have a crush on some lady I don't know, I would be like, okay, but keep it in your pants. You would be okay, it was just like randomly, like I mean, I don't mean like that exact conversation. I'd be fucked up weird. I don't know about that. I, you're right, I just I don't need to know about it. How's that? It's not going to hurt me If there's a crush on what you're saying.

Speaker 2 6:20

Like is what I just let the crush happen and you don't need to know about it, because it's harmless. That's kind of what you're saying, correct, okay, that's fair.

Speaker 1 6:27

Yeah.

Speaker 2 6:28

That's fair, and I mean there's an argument too. I don't know there's an argument too. Also, though, like that when you have like a crush or an attraction, it does stir up feelings that then maybe benefit the relationship you're in.

Speaker 1 6:44

Oh, that's interesting, If you do nothing outside it.

Speaker 2 6:48

Yeah, that's interesting, so maybe I need a crush.

Speaker 1 6:50

Hey, you need to find a crush then, hey, mailman lady, mailman lady.

Speaker 2 6:56

Yeah, no, we've known each other too long.

Speaker 1 7:01

Oh, maybe you'll get a new one. What about a UPS guy like Leo LeBlanc?

Speaker 2 7:11

What's his name? I don't know, nobody cares about his name. Yeah, he's just ups guy. Yeah, I love that guy anyway, that was just wow.

Speaker 1 7:14

We haven't even asked a question. Well, just because we had recently just talked about it, and we just talked about it in the depths of the ethics already, though yeah, I think I think that now watch troy's gonna listen this episode and then call me and say that line and just to see, what I hope he does, because I hope you're like, okay, that's cool, what if I shock all you? Bitches, what if I shock you all? And I'm like, I'm chill you're not gonna be like that.

Speaker 1 7:36

You don't know. That is evolution. Evolution, katie. All right, I'm let's all right. Okay, just kidding, it doesn't matter. I mean, carlos has a crush on my husband, okay, which?

Speaker 2 7:47

and he's married carlos and your husband are married, correct, right, so it's double harmless. I mean, my husband also is, maybe doesn't reciprocate it, right well, I don't know, he might he does, he might, he's not gonna tell you because you're crazy, I, I wouldn't tell you either. I'd be like harmless my ass. I'm not telling her nothing Because I'm crazy.

Speaker 1 8:10

Wow, that's love it's love and his husband also knows about it. So that's fine, there you go. All right, let me find some that we haven't.

Speaker 2 8:23

Wasn't it like there's 2016 questions or something weird like that? There was, there was. It's like a weird number.

Would You Spend a Week as Someone Else?

Speaker 1 8:32

Two, ninety one. Ok, here's one. Would you want to spend a week as someone of the opposite sex?

Speaker 2 8:40

Oh, I don't think so.

Speaker 1 8:43

Oh, I would OK, why I just I want to know the freedom of being able to pee standing up. Oh, I don't think so. Oh, I would Okay, why I just I want to know the freedom of being able to pee standing up all the time. That's it Literally Well. And also I would love to know the feeling of being able to go wherever you want and not be terrified.

Speaker 2 8:56

Yeah.

Speaker 1 8:56

At any time of day, any time of night.

Speaker 2 9:00

That's a good reason. I don't. I don't know that there's anything Also being that's a good reason. I don't know that there's anything Also being a quote. Unquote man, like you know, aren't you just curious what it's like to have?

Speaker 1 9:08

a penis, though. I would just like to know Maybe.

Speaker 2 9:11

It would probably be very bothersome. I think I would be annoyed really fast yeah same, really fast Same.

Speaker 1 9:17

Except for peeing standing up because ugh.

Speaker 2 9:22

That might be nice, but I don't mind sitting down to pee. That's nice, that's a nice little break, that's like okay.

Speaker 1 9:30

The times that it bothers me is when I'm in public.

Speaker 2 9:33

Okay.

Speaker 1 9:33

Because I don't want to like deal with the whole toilet seat nonsense.

Speaker 2 9:38

It is a whole thing, it's. It's easier just to not touch it at all.

Speaker 1 9:42

Okay, Well, here's. Here's the next part of that question.

Speaker 2 9:45

Oh, okay.

Speaker 1 9:47

Would you want to spend a week as someone very old? I mean I hope that someday I will be someone very old, but I mean from right now I don't know, I think yes, I don't think I would want to do that, because I think it would scare me, okay, of what's to come, okay, like it would be, like I'd rather it be a gradual happening to where you adjust as it happens, than just being like, oh my God, like my joints hurt and like it's going to get to this point.

Speaker 2 10:14

I can't believe it.

Speaker 1 10:15

Yeah.

Speaker 2 10:15

Whereas when it's gradual, like A, you don't have a choice and B, it just is. I think, I think I would like it, maybe from the mindset perspective.

Speaker 1 10:23

Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 10:29

Like it might be nice to be in that mindset, for but it, you know, it depends how physically uncomfortable you are. But to just kind of be in that wise, fuck everything stage.

Speaker 1 10:34

I'm already there. Yeah, I mean not actually fucking everything. Well, no, you wouldn't do that, not even for 30,000't ask me in six months though, because I don't know once you have a college, um, I don't think. Yeah, I would not, I think. But this is getting into the substance topics. The movie, the substance, because the next part of it is is if you would want to spend a week as someone.

Speaker 2 10:58

Very beautiful, hmm, I mean, I mean, I think so. Yeah, I want to see what that looks like, and then it said very ugly.

Speaker 1 11:07

I mean why I'm just saying like for real, just for perspective, I guess, for perspective Okay.

Speaker 1 11:14

You know how like this is going to be terrible. You know how, like they've done social experiments where people like who are very beautiful make themselves look different. Yes, They've done social experiments where people like who are very beautiful make themselves look different, or they put on like a bigger body suit or like whatever, just to see how different society treats you. Yeah, I don't know. I don't think I'd be disheartened, I don't think I'd want to do either one.

Speaker 2 11:37

Yeah, because I already know, I'm just especially now, like being in my 40s. I'm just comfortable with who I am and what I look like and, honestly, us like doing this podcast. At first I'd be like, oh my God, like on video, and now I'm just like that's just what I look like, but now people ask us to throw pies at each other.

Speaker 2 11:52

So hey that's what I look like in pie and all the things, um, so I just I don't know that I need to be more beautiful and I don't really want to be more ugly, so I would maybe pass on those.

Speaker 1 12:04

Oh, I would not mind being more beautiful. You go, girl. I'm sorry, katie's like I'm hot enough, it's fine.

Speaker 2 12:11

No, it's just a lot of pressure Like look, I've done so much internal work to be okay with who I am, what size I am. You don't want to start over am what size I am, what I look like, what I sound like. I don't want to go back. I don't want to put something on a pedestal that I've spent so much time and energy. Getting rid of that's very wise. I just want to be me, although I wouldn't mind being old for a week or having a penis for a week or just continue.

Speaker 1 12:34

You just said you wouldn't, because you want to sit down to pee.

Speaker 2 12:38

I said have a penis. You don't just pee with a penis, okay.

Speaker 1 12:42

Although I guess if you have a penis you can still sit down to pee, I guess you can't. When what? Like when you potty train boys sometimes you train them first to sit, cause they get it everywhere. True, I'm just saying If men can sit down to pee right.

Speaker 2 12:59

I guess it'd be kind of tricky sit down to pee, right, I know I guess it'd be kind of tricky because what if it dangles in the bowl it depends on? I guess I don't know.

Speaker 1 13:05

All right, all right that is a weird thing to talk about, okay, um, I don't want to ask any like heavy questions, okay, no, I'm not asking that one, okay, okay, no, that's too similar. Okay, did we ask this one? Tell me if I did. Okay, if your friends and acquaintances were willing to honestly tell you what they thought of you, would you want them to?

Do You Want Honest Opinions From Friends?

Speaker 2 13:34

We didn't ask this one before. Oof, are our kids included in that? Well, it says friends and acquaintances, so not family so not family. Okay, I don't know, probably not. I feel like their opinions are okay, like just keep them, they can have them, and I don't need to know them. I think I agree with you. I respect them for having them, but I don't need to hear them. All Right.

Speaker 1 14:04

Because obviously you're not going to like every single thing about every single person that's in your life.

Speaker 2 14:08

That you love and care for. Yeah.

Speaker 1 14:10

And I would crumble on the inside and die if I knew everything. Okay, so I just started watching a few episodes of black mirror. Have I told you this? You just said you've been watching. Okay, I have like upped my tv watching game in recent months because I have a weird sleep schedule right now. So anyway, you would like it. It's a good show.

Speaker 2 14:33

It's like twilight zone, but it's all about technology yeah, okay, there's this one episode um Bryce.

Speaker 1 14:38

Dallas Howard is the main character in it, because you know, every episode's different. I love her and they basically walk around. Everyone walks around and ranks everyone. Everybody has a constant ranking. Everybody you interact with all day long, you rank them, rank them, rank them. So people who have like four or five stars get treated very highly in society. People who have low ones get treated like crap, and once your ranking goes low, it's very hard to get it up again.

Speaker 2 15:03

Okay.

Speaker 1 15:04

So there's a lot of fakeness, it's a lot of like Instagram, but in real life, okay, it's crazy. So then all this she's trying to get her. I won't say too much because you need to watch it, but I was like that would stress me out. I would constantly having to worry about people ranking you and also knowing because, like, she has an interaction with somebody and she's in a bad mood and they rank her like a one and then her ranking goes down. She's like why did you do that? Like, why did you rank me bad? Yeah, and then like, if you curse in public, your ranking goes lower.

Speaker 1 15:38

So I'd be, nope, you'd be out, I'd be living on the street somewhere, because I'd have yeah, I'd be out, but it's very interesting. Like all the episodes are like that.

Speaker 2 15:47

They make you be like, yeah, like I don't I don't need to be perfect in the eyes of the people that I care about and love, but like I don't know, I also don't need. I know now, I I don't mind asking for feedback, like we ask our friends about this podcast, yeah and singing. If I've had like an audition or something, I don't mind feedback on that. The very act of performing is constant feedback.

Speaker 1 16:12

Oh 100%.

Speaker 2 16:13

And you have to be okay with that. But I just think, like who you are as a person, that's just kind of who you are, right, and unless it's extreme, like someone needs to step in because you are having a substance use issue or a relationship in your life is harmful yeah. Someone needs to step in. I just, I don't know, I don't. I'm not saying everyone has to Like I don't mind when people disagree with me either.

Speaker 1 16:38

Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 16:38

Like, oh, I don't know if I would do that or whatever. Oh yeah, like, oh, I don't know if I would do that or whatever. But I think, as far as like the opinion of what they like, that you do and you don't do like it's, you don't need to know. I don't think, I don't think so either.

Speaker 1 16:50

I mean I don't want to, I mean I don't even want to know that with my spouse Like, yeah, this is wonderful, he makes the bed every morning Love.

Speaker 2 17:09

Like perfect, and part of it's because the dogs like to jump on the bed. He doesn't like them jumping like on our sheets and stuff. He'll shut the door, but like they still somehow get in. So he will just immediately make the bed so they cannot get to like the pillows and sheets and stuff. So but it's, it's wonderful. Meanwhile he has like this very tidy nightstand and there's my nightstand, which at least once a week I have to like basically dig out. One of the things I do is I just stack clothes there like like I take off a shirt, I stack it.

Speaker 2 17:34

I stack it my robe in the morning, take it off, put it there. So last night on your night stand on my nightstand and it is not. It's like a leaning tower or whatever, and I know. I I'm sure it drives him nuts, and last night he doesn't say anything.

Speaker 1 17:48

He doesn't say anything. I see, I would not be able to keep that to myself.

Speaker 2 17:51

So I last night I was like really warm because I was wearing one of his like giant hoodies. So I just like took it off and went to put it in a pile. I was like, oh man, that thing's about to fall over. And he just looked at me with this look and I said I'm a lot, I know, I'm sorry, I love you, and I just got in bed kind of like I don't want to hear it.

Speaker 1 18:09

That's good for him. I can't. I get anxiety with stuff Like I. I mean, you've been to my house, you know it's like a. It's kind of I don't want to say we're minimalist, but it's not a lot of extra things and luckily trinae align on that, so it's not a constant battle, right. My kids, on the other hand, yeah, no, caden is a little more cleaner than cooper man. He's like a typical creative chaos, chaos, hoarder, all the and I can't but like I've had roommates in the past who live like you and I can't but it's like it's that one corner do you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 18:51

like it's my nightstand, I know, but I don't necessarily do. We do share space yeah, that's what I'm saying, but like I don't you know, it doesn't like necessarily manifest itself other places, but um, I couldn't handle it yeah, and then I have my own.

Seeking vs. Avoiding Routines

Speaker 1 19:04

We don't share a closet which you and troy share a closet yes we don't share a closet because that would, but now I I'm a little messier in my closet because I have a lot of shit well, that's me too, and it's not really like organized in a certain.

Speaker 2 19:18

It makes sense to me, yeah, same, but like I don't think it would make sense to anyone else, which is why when I'll be like, oh my closet and grab whatever, no one can ever find the thing I'm saying. But I know exactly where it is. But his is like color coded I wish I had my long sleeve. I really wish I had my own bathroom. Yeah, ours is bigger now, so it's not as bad.

Speaker 1 19:36

We have our own sink, so we have our own we have our own sinks, but I need nobody in there. I need nobody in there when I'm getting ready.

Speaker 2 19:41

Well, all my girls use ours in the morning because of the lighting.

Speaker 1 19:45

Yeah, so, yeah, anyway. There's nothing I hate more when I'm trying to get ready and there's somebody else in the room with me and Troy's like I live here too, valid, valid, he also needs to get ready, but also, you take 15 minutes to get ready. Start to finish.

Speaker 2 20:00

Yeah, so you need your time.

Speaker 1 20:02

And I just I get that I do a lot of things Like I've got hair to groom, I've got like things to pluck.

Speaker 2 20:08

Well, and just like getting in the right mental state too.

Speaker 1 20:10

And I don't want you watching me like especially if I'm trying to put stage makeup on I'm trying to like glue eyelashes. I have to concentrate.

Speaker 2 20:16

Yeah, you don. I don't like anyone watching me trying to put on like leggings oh God Cause it's so awful. Oh sports bra, even Cause it gets like stuck, yes, and then I got to yank it, and then it gets stuck on my back and then I get a yank it and I'm like, and I'll just look up, he's just like watching me. I'm like stop, I know you've seen.

Speaker 1 20:35

I'm like just kidding help.

Speaker 2 20:41

I'm rolled up in my sports bra.

Speaker 1 20:43

That's why I'm also like I'm not like a duo shower person, Cause like uh-uh, I gotta like shave my legs and like wash my hair. It is not a cute time.

Speaker 2 20:57

I actually said something like that just the other. Oh, I was just going to take a shower by myself because I need. I said I need to shave my legs.

Speaker 1 21:04

Yeah, I got the shit to do.

Speaker 2 21:05

I need to do all the things and like I don't like to be cold in the shower, Me too.

Speaker 1 21:10

I'm not trying to share the water.

Speaker 2 21:11

It's not cute and I'm just like I don't like this at all, at like you or don't like want to be by you. It's just like I'm all I'm in a business relationship with this shower and I gotta get shit done, yes, and not be cold for 50 of my shower that's just marriage.

Speaker 1 21:31

I guess I know it is.

Speaker 2 21:32

It's nice that they want to be by us same with the kids. Sometimes I'm using my bathroom. I talk more to my middle schooler when I'm helping her do her hair, and she has a lot of hair then any she's got tons of hair. It takes us a good 30, 40 minutes to do her hair and we just chat, so I guess I should just be thankful for the time.

Speaker 1 21:50

My kids aren't really wanting to chat with me much lately. That's fine. Cooper's about to be 13. Aaron too, and Kayden's like already halfway out the door.

Speaker 2 22:00

So yeah, I mean I don't when they do want to talk, you know, I mean it's good that they're independent, it's good that they have their own lives, and if they need to talk to you they'll find you. Yeah, that's true.

Speaker 1 22:13

That's true. All right, ready for the next one? I'm ready.

Speaker 2 22:26

Don't know how we got on. Duo, there we go, all right, oh my God, does the fact that you've never done something before increase or decrease its appeal to you? I mean, this depends on what. It is Same, because there's definitely things I've never done before, like I would like to go to London. God me too. I would like to like even performing-based things, but would I like to skydive? No, no, would I like to bungee jump.

Speaker 1 22:50

No, I've done that. What do you?

Speaker 2 22:50

think I liked it at the time, but I would never do it again. Never do it again, yeah, yeah, I don't know, that's a weird question, because there's all sorts of things I've never done that I want to do, and it increases the appeal.

Speaker 1 22:57

I think, generally I like, I like to do new things. Generally I like to try new things. I love to travel, which I don't get to do much, but I like to meet new people.

Speaker 2 23:08

I like to go, have new experiences, yeah we share that you and I have that alike. I do glean energy from new situations usually, but our husbands are opposite from new situations usually, but our husbands are opposite. They find the energy or the solitude or the confidence in things they know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, creatures of comfort, which isn't the worst thing, because I think Either way is right or wrong. No, either way is right or wrong, it just is. It's just different.

Speaker 1 23:39

And I tell Troy that all the time I said I'm not saying my way is right and yours is wrong.

Speaker 2 23:48

I'm just saying that's who we are and it's a different dynamic and I think, acknowledging that sometimes okay, like when it comes to travel and things like that, nobody is the same.

Speaker 1 23:53

I mean, like all humans, even if you're alike with someone, there's going to be differences, right, so sure, I don't know I'm trying to think of like. Right, so sure, I don't know. I'm trying to think of like, yeah, I think the different. I think the thing about this question is it's gotta be something. That's the fact that you've never done something before that interests you. Yes, because, like, obviously, you say Danny, let's go camping for a week and this giant national park. I'm gonna be like no, no appeal, zero appeal. I've never done that, but I don't want to do that.

Speaker 2 24:25

Right, it's not on your list of things you would like, but like if you say let's.

Speaker 1 24:29

I would love to go to Paris for a week. I would be so excited because I've never been. I would love to go check it out. But for some people, even if they want to go there, they get anxiety about it, True? You know what I mean.

Speaker 2 24:39

True, there's still like it sounds great, but there's still maybe not going to do it, or there's, I think about. Just even back to performing, I want to go audition for other places in the area that I haven't auditioned for yet, just because that's something I've never done. Yeah, just, and it may not go great or it may whatever, but I'm okay with that. Yeah, because just the idea of it is like, yeah, that's something I want to do. Yeah, you know. So, yeah, I think that question is very dependent on what you're talking about, which, I guess is the point I mean.

Speaker 1 25:14

it's supposed to be. There's no black or white answers.

Speaker 2 25:17

Oh, here's a good one, uh-oh.

Speaker 1 25:21

Should I even ask this?

Speaker 2 25:22

I don't know what it is. I'm scared though.

Speaker 1 25:25

This could go lots of ways and we'll see if the memory even comes through, because I'm blanking. Oh, actually, I'll remember the second part. So the question is what was your oh God, Sorry, I'm 12 years old what was your most enjoyable dream and what?

Speaker 2 25:46

was your worst nightmare. Oh, geez I can't remember.

Speaker 1 25:50

I have trouble remembering dreams. Now you see why I'm giggling. I remember dreams quite well and I remember a recurring nightmare I had when I was a kid. Okay, Do you want to know? I swear to God.

Speaker 2 26:00

I've told this before you told me this one. Have I said it on an?

Speaker 1 26:03

episode, or have I just told you I?

Speaker 2 26:05

don't remember.

Speaker 1 26:05

Well, whatever, If y'all heard it, then just hear it again. And I had a recurring nightmare when I was a kid. The street I grew up on there was a way I would like walk home from school. And I remember in this dream I'd be walking.

Speaker 1 26:21

I don't know if I was walking home from school or not, it was just the way I would come down the street when I was walking home from school and I'd get to like my next door neighbor's house and in my peripheral vision I could see that everything behind me was like turning dark and cloudy and scary and like ominous, but everything before me was like bright and sunny and whatever. But I couldn't move. So it felt like the dark was catching up to you, and that was the whole dream.

Speaker 2 26:54

Dang, and you had it more than once.

Speaker 1 26:57

Jen, do not be analyzing me out there, she already is I know she already is.

Speaker 2 27:01

Yeah.

Speaker 1 27:02

Oh yeah, I mean, I had that dream a lot. I also would have. I mean this, this is very morbid, but after my dad died, I remember I would have a recurring dream that me and my mom and my sister and my grandma were all in a car and we like drove off this thing and I jumped out, but they didn't. I know which. Obviously we all know what that means Like I was terrified of being left alone.

Speaker 1 27:25

But, anyway, I don't know what the other dream is about, but, dang, I can't think of like enjoyable dreams. I mean I can, but not like specific. I can't think of like enjoyable dreams, right, I mean I can, but not like specifics, right.

Speaker 2 27:35

I can't think either way. I've just had the dreams like what you talked about, like my grandpa was in my one dream when I woke up and then, yeah, I can't think of I've had. I've certainly had the dreams where, like, I wake up and I'm just frozen with fear.

Speaker 1 27:51

Yeah, oh yes.

Speaker 2 27:52

In that moment I remember what I was dreaming about. But then I like get up, I like double check the doors and check on the kids and make sure everything's good, and then like try to go back to sleep and usually by the morning I don't remember.

Speaker 1 28:03

I used to get really bad nightmares, like as an adult, and I would wake up screaming Like I'm talking and I could never remember what they were about.

Speaker 2 28:15

Oh, my gosh.

Speaker 1 28:15

But sometimes I would like be half awake and half asleep and I would think there was somebody standing in our room. Ooh, yeah, and I would. It would scare the shit out of Troy, obviously. And then one time I was on like a girl's weekend and we're all sleeping in a hotel room and I forgot to tell them like I I've been having this problem, and one of them was super pregnant, so she was having a hard time sleeping and I woke up screaming and she was like it's okay, go back to sleep. And so then I didn't even remember.

Speaker 2 28:41

And the next morning she was like um, so hello, I have two kids that would sleepwalk, oh no. And so they would just come to the end of our bed and look totally awake.

Speaker 1 28:55

Oh, I hate that that's so creepy and be talking total gibberish. Caden had done that a couple of times when he was younger, but not much.

Speaker 2 29:02

They usually say it's when they're like, I mean it could be anything but overtired, so their brain is still on, but like their body's trying to sleep. But yeah, it was always creepy and we we'd usually just kind of guide them back to bed.

Speaker 1 29:16

I mean, I've had good dreams too, where I wake up and I'm like oh, that was such a good dream Me too.

Speaker 2 29:20

But then I can't remember it. Yeah Me either. You need to keep a dream journal like by your bed.

Speaker 1 29:25

I'm not good with you, know that. Don't worry, I'll get you. Katie tries so hard guys she's trying so hard to get me. Look, I need to show you all the half-written notebooks I have, because I'm always like this is it? I love that. Now I'm going to be a, and then I love a half-written notebook, and then I just, and then, like six years later, I'm like, oh yeah, look at this. Okay, so we remember bad shit, not good shit.

Speaker 2 29:46

Yeah, yeah, yeah, surprise uh, oh.

Speaker 1 29:49

If you could script the plot for your next dream, what would the story be?

Speaker 2 29:55

definitely like vacationing somewhere with family and friends. You're so cute what that wouldn't be. That's cute, oh no I don't know, I don't know I haven't thought anything yet like something happy and upbeat and just like with the people I love you know what's.

Speaker 1 30:11

You know what are good dreams is flying dreams. You ever flying dreams dreams? Those are the best, those are really good.

Speaker 2 30:16

I vaguely remember one I had, maybe like a year ago not flying, but I was on a cruise ship and I just remember it being like was Joshua?

Speaker 1 30:23

Jackson there. I don't know, I can't remember. Oh, maybe that should be my dream.

Speaker 2 30:36

should be my dream and there I just gave you a plus flying with joshua jackson on falcor, on falcor, on falcor.

Speaker 1 30:40

Oh my god, that would be so good katie's like vacation with family and friends and he's like joshua jackson riding falcor flying through the air in a fantasy world. Oh body glitter.

Speaker 2 30:56

Body glitter. I don't know, I don't know All the things.

Speaker 1 30:59

I don't know what I would want to dream about. Something happy, obviously. Yeah, of course, I don't know. I mean, that sounded like a fun dream, so I'm going to go with that.

Speaker 2 31:10

I like your dream. I do too. It's not bad, all right what time is it?

Speaker 1 31:13

yeah, let's do one more yeah, one more um, I'm not asking that. Some of these are like that is too loaded of a question for today uh, we've been recording a while.

Speaker 1 31:25

We need something I know something light guys, some of these are just sorry. We have a lot of um a lot of deep ones, a lot of deep ones and a lot of like stuff that is like kind of happening in society right now so I just want to get into right now, oh not asking that one. It says how old were you when you first had sex? Nope, sorry guys, not today maybe a bonus episode down the road uh, and this one is what do you like best and least about your life? Nope, no, I'm going there.

Speaker 2 31:59

Oh geez, not today. Gregory Spock, phd Not today.

Speaker 1 32:04

I'm sorry I'm having. Okay, this is kind of boring, but it'll be good. We kind of talked about this a little bit. Do you seek or avoid routines in your life, For instance, sleeping in the same part of your bed, ordering the same meals, returning to the same vacation spots?

Speaker 2 32:18

and why that's a tough one because I do feel like and I guess my life's a little, my routine's a little, shooken up at the moment, but I do feel like every week is different in my house to an extent, like I teach lessons different times. If I'm in a show, that messes up the routine, if my kids are in a certain activity, that changes the routine. So I don't feel like in general my life is like super regimented. But it says do you seek or avoid?

Speaker 2 32:47

Right, not if you get to have them or avoid Right, not if you get to have them, but I do find like comfort and calm in having stuff structured out, whether, even if it's different from week to week, like okay, from this time to this time I'm doing this, I'm doing this, and then I'm doing this and really trying to do that we were talking. I'm trying to tuesdays be my writing day and, believe it or not, it's been really hard to like push back against all the things, especially even owning a studio. People like, oh, can you cover this? Oh, can you see this person this day? And it's been good for me because I've had to be like no, yeah, that's the one day yeah that you can't put me on here, you know.

Speaker 1 33:29

Except guess what we're recording on tuesday?

Speaker 2 33:31

But that's because I'm going to Disney World tomorrow, right, so that is like that's on me. Okay, I could have said no to chaperoning the chorus trip to Disney World, but I'm not and we're going to Hollywood Studios.

Speaker 1 33:42

I'm going next week Yay. So I love Hollywood Studios. I've never done the.

Speaker 2 33:46

Tower of Terror. Though what Never. We did that musical here that my student wrote you have never. That's my favorite. I've never done it. I've always been too scared. Oh, you're going to see why I love it Too scared, my daughter's like. You're going on it tomorrow.

Speaker 1 33:58

Oh, you'll love it.

Speaker 2 34:06

One of the best parts of that ride for me is not even the actual ride. It's just everything you do before you get on the ride.

Speaker 1 34:09

You're going to love it and then I will have something to talk to my student about and they have the best outfits for that ride. If I worked for Disney which I plan to do one day when my kids are gone That'd be cute. I'm only going to be 50 when Cooper's out Like that's so young, that's young. I want to work there and that's where I want to work, because when you and hopefully you'll have a good worker, if you have somebody that gets super into it, it makes the ride that much better, I can't wait.

Speaker 2 34:36

Okay, well, I'll report back on that. What was our question? Oh, routines, yes, do you seek?

Speaker 1 34:40

or avoid them. Bottom line, I don't avoid them.

Speaker 2 34:44

I'd say I seek them but I'm okay Like going with the flow.

Speaker 1 34:47

I seek them in daily life, but I don't like routines and leisure time, like when I'm on vacation, I don't really want. Well, we used to have to have it when the kids were young, like that was different. Or we'd come to Disney and you have to like pack it all in, like that used to drive Troy crazy. We don't have to do that now. Like I'd rather just eat when I'm hungry, like if that's three o'clock, then that's when I'm eating. Like which drives Troy crazy. Now, on the flip end, because he likes a good routine, no matter what day it is.

Speaker 2 35:15

Yeah.

Speaker 1 35:15

But like daily life, yes, like I, but. But I also have routines. That's like I like can be done at a various time during the day, like I will work out. I work out five or six days a week. That's a non-negotiable for me. Unless I'm sick has to happen, but it's never at the same time every day. Yeah, it's not.

Speaker 2 35:37

You fit it in where it fits, but that's part of my routine that has to happen at some point. Yeah, okay.

Speaker 1 35:43

You know what I mean? Well, that's fair. I mean yeah, and you're kind of like that too, yeah, like you have things that you have. You know you want.

Speaker 2 35:50

I'll tell you one that, like I don't think will ever go away for me, is waking up before the rest of my house.

Speaker 1 35:56

Always.

Speaker 2 35:56

Like even now I don't have these morning meetings anymore because of my job, and I was still up at five today. Just because I have to get ahead of my day, I have to get ahead of A the other people and animals who are going to wake up, get ahead of a the other people and animals who are going to wake up, and not just that the emails, the texts, the phone calls, the things, all the things that turn on at like seven, eight, nine o'clock in the morning If I wake up and all that's already going, I I have so much trouble functioning, I get it. And so I have to get up early, even on the weekends, like I, I'll, I'll. This is crazy, but I'll have to make myself sleep in, I'll have to be like no, I get it.

Speaker 2 36:34

Do not set an alarm. And when you wake up, lay here for a while, don't get right up, don't get on your phone, don't make coffee Like cause. Then you're going to grab your planner and be like, oh no, not get up.

Speaker 1 36:45

I used to be a super early morning person when my kids were little, because they were early risers and I was a stay at home mom for 80, 100 years, it felt like at least I swear it felt like that I mean, no, no shade, so you stay at home moms who love it. I just did not. But anyway, my kids woke up so early both of them, so I knew I had to get up early to work out, cause, again, this is a, this is a part of my like. Now I make myself exercise mostly so I can stay in shape to do my job. Um, but back then it was for mostly for mental, like clarity and coping, you know. So I was like if I want to work out I have to get up at like four 30, 5am or.

Speaker 1 37:40

I'mm, I'm not going to get it done. It will not happen. And that's the only thing I had for myself when they were little, especially because of Tori's job. Like everything else, the whole rest of my day was for other people, everything, so for lots of years. So that was it. I had one hour. Even after they went to bed, I still had to do all this stuff for you know, so get ready for everything else.

Speaker 1 38:08

Yeah, so I had that one hour, but now that I don't have to do that anymore, I am not an early morning person anymore I used to be. Now, when I wake up in the morning, I am a morning person, being that, like I, am a better functioning person in the morning than I am at night.

Speaker 2 38:23

Same. Oh, my goodness yeah.

Speaker 1 38:25

But also like I stay up later now than I used to, and just crazy because I I am like shifting and like I don't have super early morning clients anymore. I used to have super early morning, and now my earliest person is like 715, which is not that different than when I get up normal at 630 on a school day. So, anyway, I get that though, because that's your time before the rest of the chaos comes in.

Speaker 2 38:52

Yeah, and it's yes, it's kids. It started when my kids were small and even then I, like my daughter Erin, has always been an early riser and even now she gets up earlier than she needs to because her middle school starts so late, but she's not getting up as early as she did. She's a teenager, so she's sleeping more and staying up late. But even in those hours I remember I would get up at like four, 30 and she'd she'd be up by five. I get those 30 minutes, but her and I would. We kind of had like an agreement Like she'd get up, I get her a little something to eat and then she I think she's like me, she needed the time.

Speaker 1 39:30

And I wouldn't see her, she'd go read a book or do whatever.

Speaker 2 39:35

watch TV, I didn't care. I'm like turn on the TV girl, like let me do what I need to do in this other room and we kind of like had our own space in those moments, uh, which was good, but but I don't see her that early now.

Speaker 1 39:47

Our kids were not like that when they were little.

Speaker 2 39:48

They are now but when they were little they needed instant, instant, immediate interaction.

Speaker 1 39:53

And it did not stop all day. That's a lot. I still remember it Like that was like, oh my God. And I can remember like the times when Troy was gone and it would be like Saturday or Sunday, cause all the days don't matter when you're a stay at home parent, like everything's the same and your kids are small, and I remember being like it's Saturday. Can y'all please just sleep? I don't want to get up. Yeah, but there was nobody else there to get up. You know you were a single mom. Like you have to just go.

One Food Every Day: Caesar Salad vs. Chocolate

Speaker 1 40:27

Yeah, early morning All right, well, that was a bummer question that was kind of a bummer question. Okay, well, think of another fun thing to end this with. All right, let's um okay, I have one, okay this one is pretty common.

Speaker 2 40:40

The kids always ask me if you had one food you had to eat every day the rest of your life, what would it be?

Speaker 1 40:49

Oh, my God. That my kids and my husband asked that all the time. Why? Why is that such a popular question? I just answered last week, I know.

Speaker 2 40:53

Whatever, I don't mind. What do you think?

Speaker 1 40:55

I, what did you? One food that you could eat every day? Yeah, oh, I said chocolate. Of course, chocolate's a good one, I like that. Yeah, troy said pizza, because you can have all different kinds.

Speaker 2 41:04

Yeah, that's. That was kind of my question too.

Speaker 1 41:06

Well, like, what's not the only thing I always say that's not the only thing you're eating, you just have to eat it every day, and I pretty much eat Caesar salad every day, katie, I love Caesar salad.

Speaker 2 41:13

Literally, it's like one thing you have to eat every day for the rest of your life Caesar salad. Ask my family. Not a day goes by that I did not eat Caesar salad. I am not kidding you. Ask anyone in my family, I will not. I will not prompt them Next time you see Brit, next time you see him. So yeah, Be like what's something your mom eats every day.

Speaker 1 41:43

I guarantee so is your Caesar salad like a traditional Caesar salad, where it's just like lettuce cheese and like one other thing on it?

Speaker 2 41:50

Lettuce cheese and dressing. I don't like croutons. That's so sad, but like that's about pizza. No that's about pizza. No, you can do more to it, so you probably don't, I don't. I have one in the fridge right now that I walked in with it's. Troy, that's his favorite salad, is it's a boring caesar salad. I put kale in mine too okay, really kind of like bulks it up and you can add something chicken. Sometimes I'll put hard boiled egg on it see if I have a salad.

Speaker 1 42:16

It's got to have a lot of things and it drives him crazy I don't know mine salads with a lot of things either.

Speaker 2 42:20

No, I've seen you make them?

Speaker 1 42:21

Yeah, but your daily sustenance, okay. Chocolate and Caesar salad. Chocolate and Caesar salad.

Speaker 2 42:27

You heard it here first. All right guys. Well, thanks for tuning in. This was a fun, unpredictable book of questions.

Speaker 1 42:34

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Speaker 2 42:38

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Speaker 1 42:50

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