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Wild Moos
Welcome to Wild Moos, the no-holds-barred podcast where the boardroom meets the playroom.
Hosted by Amy of Mooeys and Nicole from Wild Bird Marketing, this podcast dives into the messy, joyful, and often chaotic life of being a mother and a business owner.
Every episode is a candid exploration of the trials and triumphs that come with juggling spreadsheets and sippy cups.
From start-up stories that defy the "perfect mum" myth to scaling a business without sacrificing sanity, Amy and Nicole share it all.
Expect laughter, tears, and plenty of swear words as they peel back the curtain on what it really takes to thrive in the dual worlds of business and motherhood.
Wild Moos is a community, a confession booth, and your cheerleading squad all rolled into one.
Whether you're knee-deep in nappies, drafting business plans, or just dreaming about what could be, Wild Moos is the podcast for every mum who’s ever had to lock the bathroom door just to answer an email.
Tune in for your regular dose of inspiration, commiseration, and a reminder that you're not alone on this wild ride of entrepreneurship and motherhood.
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Wild Moos Podcast Episode 27: Creating Magic in Everyday Moments with ChatGPT and Spiritual Journeys
Ever wondered how balancing business decisions with personal life can lead to unexpected hilarity and insights? Join us as Amy enthusiastically updates us on her successful quest to secure an alcohol license for her salons in Farnham and Horsham, whilst navigating the fizzy world of soft drinks to partner. We banter about the quirky blend of personal and professional life, from the chaos of multitasking personal errands to aligning business ambitions with individual tastes, all laced with humour and candid moments.
Shifting gears, we uncover the magic of using ChatGPT for a splash of Crimbo spirit, crafting a heartfelt letter from an elf named Frankie. This whimsical touch sparks a larger conversation about the joys and challenges of parenting, including managing ADHD traits and cherishing festive traditions like the Elf on the Shelf. Our chat reveals the delicate balance between celebrating life's milestones and nurturing thoughtful family dynamics, showcasing how AI can sprinkle a bit of magic into our everyday lives.
On a more introspective note, we delve into personal growth and the quest for self-awareness through spiritual readings and TV obsessions, from "Tulsa King" to "Yellowstone." We tackle the journey of shedding people-pleasing patterns rooted in childhood experiences, sharing our struggles with vulnerability and the desire to lift others up. Our exchange offers a light-hearted yet meaningful exploration of building healthier relationships by embracing authenticity, self-care, and the freedom to pursue a fulfilling future grounded in love and intention.
Nicole Bilham of WildBird Marketing Agency
https://wildbirdmarketing.co.uk/
Amy Lewis of The Mooeys Group
www.mooeys.co.uk | www.mooeysfranchise.co.uk | www.mooskin.co
Hey Nick, hi Ames, how are you gorgeous?
Speaker 2:I'm good. How are you?
Speaker 1:I'm okay, thanks, you've been a little bit sassy this morning.
Speaker 2:She's always fucking whinging about whether I'm in a bad mood, happy mood, unhappy. Am I really? You're annoyingly perceptive. I think we share that skill set.
Speaker 1:Okay, so Nick's come in a little bit ragey and sassy today.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't describe it as ragey. No, no, okay, absolutely delightful.
Speaker 1:You are an absolute dreamboat. Yes, thank you. How's your week been? It's all right. What day is it? It was Tuesday, but that was last week. What have you been up? I don't know day.
Speaker 2:But how was last week? What have you been up? I don't know. What have I been doing? Surviving, managing life with two little ones and a puppy? That is literally like shark attacks marketing foundation. You've done a few of them done a few of those. I feel like it's been a bit of a flurry of people wanting strategic, creative input, which is lovely.
Speaker 1:It's lovely, isn't it? It's nice that people are doing it yeah and working on that part of their business. What?
Speaker 1:about you Terts, terts. I have got my alcohol license. Ba-ba. So I got it for Farnham and Horsham Came through last week finally, yeah, so I've been working on that. I'm bringing in some beverages into the saloons, into the saloons Saloons. Do you know what, though? I'm so decisive on big shit, but on little shit I just can't. I can't, it's too much. I find it so hard. I feel like it's really hard to support you on this.
Speaker 2:Last week I don't know if you recall we had a conversation and I was with you for your whole walk around Morrisons, for your whole debate around what soft drinks to go with. Should it be San Pellegrino or should it be Dash? What do you think? I just I really want the kids, I'm going to get the girls to try some. And then I felt like I was in every single crevice of that thought. Is it really boring? I wouldn't describe it as boring. I was definitely trying to multitask, just in the same way as when I was having a moan at you later on that same phone call.
Speaker 1:And I was like are you there?
Speaker 2:And you were like yeah, yeah, yeah, Just looking at some wallpaper for Willow.
Speaker 1:Are you fucking kidding me? She was proper ranting and you know, sometimes you just need to be a great friend and let people rant, yeah. And you were like proper going in and I was like, yeah, I'm going to listen and I can multitask. I was listening to every word you were saying, but I was also looking for wallpaper. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I know, I know that really well, because you then said oh, debenhams is actually quite good.
Speaker 1:I was looking for bedding, wasn't I? Yes, I wasn't. Well, yeah, sorry, you're right. So yeah, the drinks. It's been a big decision.
Speaker 2:Clearly. What did you decide in the end, Amy, on? This boring life decision that we've lived out.
Speaker 1:Well, the thing is I actually wanted to partner with some brands that aligned with me Moomies, and also brands that I like and stuff. Moth Cocktails was a no brainer for me because I absolutely love their drinks. So we partnered with them and they were brilliant from the offset. So we've got Margaritas, mojitos and Espresso Martinis, which are my three favourites anyway. Let's make it all of it. And then I did choose San Pellegrino, because I ordered San Pellegrino and dash. This is how much thought goes into shit oh, yawning, here we go.
Speaker 2:I'm hearing it for the seventh time.
Speaker 1:I won't even bother telling you you asked me, and then I got the kids to try it. I mean, have you ever tried that? It's like water, flavored water. That's it like I get it. There's no sugar, there's no sweetness, there's no, nothing, but it is just sparkling water with a hint of lime, with a hint of raspberry. It's just not my jam. It's a very adult like yeah, it wasn't right. But then I have a real issue with san pellegrino and artificial sweeteners, because I, like I, have a real issue with artificial sweeteners. I hate the taste. I hate it so bad and I can spot it a mile away. And san pellegrino, because of the fucking sugar levy and all of that shit, have removed half their sugars and replaced it with stevia. You know the natural one, uh-huh, but oh my god, it tastes like. I just don't like it. However, I got the kids to try it.
Speaker 2:They fucking love it so novelty as well, isn't it drinking out of a can?
Speaker 1:yeah, and then I've got trip the cbd drink. Oh yeah, I've got a normal sparkling water and I've got. I've got vinca, which is a, because I've tried loads of wine in cans and it always tastes like shit and I am a wine snob as we know yeah, and I found this brand called vinca, who have also been brilliant with the whole partnership vibe and they're completely organic vegan wines.
Speaker 1:Well, these guys are ideas, no, because the ideas fest one, the white was beautiful. I didn't like the red and the rose, which is really difficult, because I want the full range. Yeah, that's frustrating. Um, and then when I looked at all of the wines that are available vinca actually you can't buy in many places, but anywhere that does, does sell it it's got the highest reviews, nice. So I've gone with the Pale Rose and Sparkling, oh yeah. And then I've got Fevertree, yeah, the Mexican Lime and the Ginger Beer, and then I have got Bombay and, like Bombay, sapphire and Tonic. So I feel like I have kind of matched most criteria, I agree. So I feel like I have kind of matched most criteria.
Speaker 1:I agree Met most criteria yeah, yeah, yeah, although I've had a few people go oh, there's nothing sweet in there for me, like a pink gin or like a you know, sweet cosmopolitan or something.
Speaker 2:Well, there's time.
Speaker 1:Maybe. Yeah, I'll add to it. But to start us off Also summer might be, you might seasonally change it, yeah, and we can get some seasonal specials. But it also means that we're now going to look at all of the party packages we do and revisit that. Yeah, because I really want to go to town with that.
Speaker 2:I fucking love an event, Like any event, anything, anything. I love planning our wedding. I love any client events. I really love that. Logistics like how do we make this the fucking best that it can possibly be? I love it more than anything.
Speaker 1:Wowzers did you not know this? Should I be an event planner?
Speaker 2:no, well, because I I think I trust your instincts, nicole. I know that's quite negative, I love it, but I think I Trust your instincts, nicole. I know that's quite negative, I love it, but I think I obsess over it. So it becomes you Obsessed. It becomes all-consuming, yeah, because it's riding on such a short period of when it launches or whatever, however long you've got it, for I, yeah, obsess over it too much, not you, jan. Then I do like them every now and then Might get you to help us do our party events.
Speaker 1:We should go to Mooie's and do our own private party and like experience it ourselves. Yeah, get my sister in there as well. Get Yaz, like get a nice group of us and do like a Mooie's party. Oh yeah, you're down 100%. Yeah.
Speaker 2:While we're talking about movies and nails. Uh, can you talk to me about your nails, please hope? Woke up at 4am the other morning, not very well, raging temperature gave us some stuff and then I did this half asleep.
Speaker 1:Oh, you've done them yourself. That's more forgiving, then I thought you actually went and paid a salon for that? Are you kidding me? No, so I said to her earlier, like what's going on, and she went. Well, I'll tell you about it later, but she's got a ring finger different color. You know that that kind of went out like four years ago, but I don't care.
Speaker 2:I did it because we had a family christmas meal on sunday. We all went out for a christmas meal. On the way there, mum and dad paid for everyone. Very nice, on the way there I said to Matt I was like, just to manage your expectations, I think this meal could be care home vibes. That's where we've got to go, because it's in like a it's with a bar on a fucking what are they called Bowls green? So I don't think they have in-house caterers. I think they outsource it.
Speaker 2:I don't know how often they're all really old, like. I just thought it was going to be shit and it was Christmas dinner and it came out. It was really fucking nice, was it? Yeah, yeah, to be shit and it was christmas dinner and it came out. It's really fucking nice, was it? Yeah, yeah, I'd say that eddie and hope brought down the average age by about 20 years. No, that's unfair. It was a nice mix of people. It was a really nice, like massive family meal and they had a busker who was raising the whole thing. The chosen charity was keach and the busker done probably about 10 christmas songs where everyone in the room sang along oh no, it was really nice.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and get you in the festive spirit.
Speaker 2:Huh, eddie was a little why he was just excited. But you've got lots of older people, some of them on crutches, some of them really. Also, they packed out the tables. You know, when you go to a wedding and you're all on circular tables and they are chair to chair, back to back, and then you've got waiting staff going around dropping off food. They add that. But you add a load of frail people and a load of young ones that are like running around in between these tiny little gaps, people with very hot food and some really overweight waiters.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, so it's trying to squeeze through tiny gaps with hot things, known that there was such a thing as a hazard perception test, but I've just had a complete vision of it, so, yes, but we did it for your.
Speaker 2:You have to do your hazard perception test before you do your driving test. I don't know if it's a thing anymore. I don't fucking remember what like you used to have to. Like you'd go to the test center and I don't know if it was part of your theory test, but you'd watch a video and you'd have to press a button every time you perceived a hazard right the age difference here is showing.
Speaker 1:I didn't do any of that. I went to a test center and done my one test one driving lesson, one test, yeah it was. My theory was multiple choice and pen and paper in Milton Keynes.
Speaker 2:This was like one computer for everyone to use. No, I didn't do any of that. Oh, you're so old I am Fuck you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you sassy bitch.
Speaker 2:Anyway, back to the shit chat.
Speaker 1:So are you on board with the old elf on the shelf? Yet Were you all two Fuck?
Speaker 2:no, really, I am holding off for as long as I possibly can.
Speaker 1:I actually quite enjoy it. Actually, the problem is you start, as you mean, to go on Like don't go too crazy. Don't go too crazy. We did put ours with loads of Nutella on the toilet last year, though, did you? Yeah, with loads of. Nutella on the toilet.
Speaker 2:Last year, though, did you? Yeah, I thought last year you were doing the letters from the elf, so we did do letters last year and I'd done her first letter this year.
Speaker 1:Okay, and I used ChatGPT to write it.
Speaker 2:ChatGPT.
Speaker 1:ChatGPT. So I used ChatGPT to. I put in, like all of the history of the elf and the elf's name is Frankie. You made an elf gender neutral. I did with the name Frankie, gender neutral.
Speaker 2:Sometimes she's a she, sometimes she's a he sometimes it's they, so the, she, they, him, her, all the pronouns.
Speaker 1:Yeah, completely Pan. No, that's sexual, isn't it? Fluid is yeah gender fluid.
Speaker 2:So my understanding. Who told me this the other day? I don't know if there is such a thing as gender fluid Like male, female and non-binary Means that, but also means fluid in sexuality.
Speaker 1:I thought that was pansexual. Either way, we've got an elf called Frankie.
Speaker 2:Right, tell me about Frankie.
Speaker 1:Frankie has started writing again. Frankie's lost her hat her her. Yeah, she's a hair now, because that's it. She's lost her hat her, her. Pranks are a little bit shit. Budget pranks, budget. But also she can't, she can't come out until after martin's birthday, because that's when the Christmas decks come down.
Speaker 2:Oh see, I have a brother with a birthday on the 20th of November and we are not allowed to talk about Christmas before then. Is Martin the same?
Speaker 1:No, he's actually not fussed. It's something I've instilled because his birthday is on the 8th of December and I always say we shouldn't put Christmas decks up or anything until Martin's birthday is done.
Speaker 2:Happy birthday, you old fuck. Like we shouldn't put christmas decks up, or anything until martin's birthday is done.
Speaker 1:Happy birthday. Oh fuck. So frankie came out on the 8th we forgot, I think on the first night, and then either way yesterday so consistent, I know right. Either way, I got chat gpt to write the letter so I put in all of the background. She hurt her hand because she was in the freezer last year and got frostbite note listeners this is how you prompt chat gpt to give you decent answers yeah, yeah, it's all in the room I put willow and piper.
Speaker 1:They're ages. I also said their behavior has not been great. Their behavior has actually been. We've been struggling with behavior, yeah, pretty much the last six months. But we've been really struggling with their behavior and, as parents, like we've had to really come together as a team to try and figure this shit out, because it's been really, really tough. It's been quite violent, it's been lots of massive outbursts and we're trying to just figure out what the fuck is going on. I read this article on adhd in girls, young girls the other day and it literally described Piper to a T Bless Everything, yeah. And I said to Martin I'm not interested in getting her diagnosed, I don't want any of that, I'm not fussed. She is who she is. Yeah, but we do need to understand that she may be neurodiverse, yeah, and she may. When this whole like when she just doesn't stop going at you to get her point across, whatever, there is definitely some adhd tendencies there. It doesn't affect her schooling, it doesn't affect her relationships.
Speaker 2:I just is it adhd or is it like compulsive, like not being able to stop behavior?
Speaker 1:it's that she has something in her head and she just can't stop. So even if say pi, wait a minute, she'll just keep going. But it's not that, but this like major outburst, like she loves really hard, and then her behavior is like she'll apologize very quickly. It takes, it doesn't take her long to calm down and then realize what she's done, but then she kind of love bombs as well. There's so many things that she does like she's really messy, she's really disorganized, she's quite chaotic, but she's got so many beautiful qualities and we spoke to school about it and they don't think there's anything there. But also they've got classes of 30, and they've got some really challenging children in this year.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, yeah. So actually, her behaviour, anything she's going through in school, is really minor. Well, that's reassuring, isn't it? It is reassuringuring and I just think it's something For us to be aware of. Like I said, I have no interest In diagnosing her or anything like that, but anyway. So I wrote in ChatGPT about their behaviour and I said Frankie's lost her hat and I would like to put in the story. I'd like you to write the first letter In a series of stories when the hat has been held by Santa until the behaviour of the girls improves.
Speaker 1:Well, chat Tipity fucking nailed this letter. It was so beautiful, so beautifully done. And when I read it out to Martin, he got really emotional. He did because he basically said you know, I'm rooting for you girls, you're my favourite small humans. And it was just really lovely. It was really beautifully done. That's so nice. Yeah, so I need to put in today like an update on how it was. But when they sat and read the letter together and they read one paragraph each and I heard Willow saying to Piper last night I really want Frankie to get her hat back, and she said in there like her head was really cold. So can you do your best to make sure I get my hat back and then yeah, it was really, really lovely.
Speaker 1:But watching them read it and then later on I heard Willow say Pipes. Yeah, I really want us to be good. I really want us to help Frankie get her hat back, because I think this is probably the last year we've got.
Speaker 2:Willow like believing.
Speaker 1:And we found out the other day. One of her substitute teachers last year turned around to the whole class only the ones that were listening to say that Santa's not real and neither is Easter Bunny, and you guys are too old to think like that. Anyway. How bad is that? Did you complain? No, because she hasn't been there since. Just had one substitute teacher that came in and fucked up their lives. Who told you Willow? She told me last week yeah, she was like I don't know.
Speaker 1:She didn't say anything last year and then I said to her what do you mean? She goes. I just don't know if I believe in it anymore. I don't know if I think it's real or not. I was like, what makes you think that? And she went. Well, this teacher told us last year that it's not real. But I didn't know if I believed her, if she was just being mean, and I was like, oh mate, why didn't you tell me about that last year? And she went. I said I don't know like who else was there? And she said a few other kids.
Speaker 1:So I spoke to one of the other kids' mums who is like, she is like Santa's biggest fan, you know. And she was like, if I'd have known then I would have complained last year. But clem never said anything either. So I don't know. But I said to willow about it and I said the thing is, babe, it's like religion as well. You, you know, you can believe in whatever you want, yes, whatever it makes you feel good. So some people will believe and some people won't, but if it makes you feel good, what do you believe? And she went, I kind of like it and I said, well, believe it until you don't like it. It's the last year, isn't it? Yeah, but also, she's a good egg.
Speaker 2:She'll make sure the piper will believe she's so responsible. Isn't yeah too much sometimes?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, but the letters really work.
Speaker 2:I take it back.
Speaker 1:Maybe I should start doing the well, like, the reason I'm talking about it with you is because I don't know if it would help with you and Eddie. Probably yeah, because he's at that age now and because, like it's not apparent so we'd done it last year and it really helped, with them not fighting and like Frankie had said about you know, I know that there's been some violence and you've been a bit mean to the olds, so maybe you know Samson said I'm not allowed to get my hat back until I can get this house nice and calm.
Speaker 2:But I believe in you guys. You're my favorite, like it was so beautiful. So when? How do you do it like? What does the routine look like? Where does the elf appear? Is it the next morning, is it that?
Speaker 1:evening, so she'll move. Willow was really disappointed there was no pranks last night, but she also put in there I'm one-handed, I can't. I'm not very good doing pranks at the minute because I've only got one hand, because it's a permanent injury from my frostbite. And so now they're like, oh, poor Frankie, like she really hurt herself. And then Willow turned around and went yeah, it was her own fault, though she put herself in the freezer.
Speaker 2:I love it. I do feel like our family is missing the magic of Christmas a little bit.
Speaker 1:It's one of those things I feel like our family is missing the magic of Christmas a little bit. It's one of those things like it's a really lovely way of communicating what you want to the kids without it being you two. Yeah, Because our kids are sick of the sound of us parenting.
Speaker 2:Oh, Eddie's bored of mummy. Yeah, like you wouldn't believe.
Speaker 1:But can he read yet? No, no, so you'd have to read it to him.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's a nice thing. So most nights we put Hope down and then we put Eddie down and if Matt's there, we will do it together and we sing the nighttime song and that would be a really, really nice time to do that. Yeah, maybe we hide the elf under his bunk bed, like I think you're right.
Speaker 1:Because it doesn't need to be pranks at his age. But it could just be that the elf under his spunk bed like I think you're right, because it doesn't need to be pranks at his age, but it could just be that the elf is there like I feel a bit weird about, like the elf is watching, I feel that's a bit weird but like I put her on the top of the christmas tree and she had like the, she'd cut off the tinsel and put it around her neck and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:But willow was very disappointed this morning because she was just in a box of games and she'd eaten some of the biscuits and she was just annoyed that there was no pranks. And she's actually done a little card to Frankie about what sort of pranks she wants to see this year All right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know, bossy boots Dictator. I don't know where she gets that from.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I'm hoping that it can kind of bring some peace and calm to the household, because it has been really tough, do you?
Speaker 2:think it's too late for me.
Speaker 1:Could I do it now? He's not going to know, he's so little.
Speaker 2:Yeah, years of blessing.
Speaker 1:Get yourself a cheapy one Like faux elf from Home Bargains or something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or Burn Numb, burn Numb, yes, shall we talk about ChatGPT.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, so this video that I saw on social is going around. You've seen it as well, haven't you Trendy when the trend of asking ChatGPT to write a story of a day in the life of you and your future? So I tried it.
Speaker 2:And it was beautiful. Do you want to?
Speaker 1:read some of it I can do, actually, if you want. So you write a list, so I just done it in notes of my future goals and desires. So my future goals. I'm really happy to share them because I think if we put it out, the universe is going to fucking happen. So to be financially free, to have freedom and flexibility, to make decisions based on what we want rather than what we have or don't have.
Speaker 1:To live in a beautiful home that we designed and built, to have a happy and healthy family, to spend lots of quality time together, to travel and explore the world as a family. To have thriving businesses. To set up commercial property business, and it'd be thriving within the first year, world as a family. To have thriving businesses. To set up commercial property business, and it'd be thriving within the first year to give us abundance. To have multiple businesses that are bringing in an income that we live off. To utilize my skills to help other people in the business, like in the industry. To have a group of 50 thriving salons within movies and sell the company for 5 million by 2031, ready for my 50th celebrations. To have a happy and successful team who love working in the group, thrive in their work and are paid well for their contributions, like, and there's something about it when you're actually putting it together. It's not about the stuff and that's what I was saying to you the other day, wasn't it? Like it's not about the stuff that you have, it's about the life that you want to lead.
Speaker 1:I don't give a fuck about fancy cars, like I thought I would once upon a time I probably would. I want a really safe car. I want a. I want a sexy car, like, don't get me wrong, yeah, but it's not the be all and end all. I'd rather travel. Yeah, and I know everybody's different, but I'm not good.
Speaker 1:I don't want fancy handbags or fancy shoes. I have no interest in like having social media full of the big. I am like I don't want fancy handbags or fancy shoes. I have no interest in like having social media full of the big. I am like I don't give a fuck. Yeah, I'm not doing it for anybody else. I'm doing anything. I'm doing for anybody else other than the people around me that I love. Yeah, and me, obviously. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I stuck it into chat GPT, so you have to put in. I'm just gonna find me out now, sorry so you have to put in. Tell me a going to find me out now. Sorry so you have to put in. Tell me a story of a day in the life of my future self based on this description, and then you put your future goals and desires. Shall I tell my story?
Speaker 2:if you're happy to.
Speaker 1:I don't mind. It's a crisp sunny morning in 2031. You wake up in the home you and your family designed a masterpiece of natural light, cosy corners and luxurious finishes that reflect the journey and achievements. As you sip your coffee on the terrace, overlooking rolling countryside, your family gathers around for a slow breakfast, laughter fills the air and you feel immense gratitude for this life you have built. After breakfast, you step into your home office where you manage a portfolio of thriving businesses. Your commercial property enterprise has exceeded expectations, providing consistent income and opportunities for others. Today you have a meeting with a young entrepreneur whom you're mentoring, helping them structure their business for growth, a task that feels fulfilling and aligned with your desire to give back. Later you check in with the Mooers team. The group has flourished now 50 salons strong, with happy, successful teams who feel valued and empowered. The excitement is palpable as you finalise plans to sell the business for five million, a milestone perfectly timed for your upcoming 50th birthday celebrations. Your team is celebrating their success alongside you and you know you've left behind a legacy of opportunity and excellence.
Speaker 1:In the afternoon, you pack for a family trip to explore the Amalfi Coast. Travel is now a regular part of your life blend in adventure and connection with the people you love most. As the sun sets, you share a quiet moment with your partner, reflecting on how far you've come, not just in achievements, but in living the life you've always dreamed of. That evening, surrounded by your family, you toast to the future, knowing that your journey has just begun. The foundation you've built is solid and the freedom you've created allows you to embrace whatever comes next with excitement and purpose. How do you feel? Fucking excited, like it's lovely, because it's all my desires, isn't it in one? Are you a bit emotional? Yes, are you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, how come it just made me feel something? Oh, in a lovely way, like when you start to talk about travel.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because that's really what I want. I want a home that I feel safe and secure in, yeah, but I want to travel and I want to explore the world with these kids. If I could do it now I would. I'd take them out of school and just travel the world with them. Yeah, and then you can add in create a daily schedule that will help me achieve this life Fucking hell, okay.
Speaker 2:Here we go.
Speaker 1:I'm not sure I'm going to be following this just yet, but I'm going to give it my best shot. So here's a structured daily schedule to help you work towards your future goals while maintaining balance and focus on personal well-being, family and business success. And it's got six to seven morning routines, seven to eight. It's basically giving me an entire schedule from seven six in the morning until ten at night, nice.
Speaker 2:And how many days into the schedule are we? I haven't done it.
Speaker 1:I did get up and do a workout this morning, but, yeah, me and Martin are two into a couple. We're watching these programmes at the minute, which we're absolutely loving. So every Monday it's quite a late one. What's the programme? Well, we've got three. Tulsa King has just finished, sliced alone yeah, have you seen it now?
Speaker 2:and then yellowstone yes, oh, we've started watching something of the jackal. What's that? I sound like my mom. God day of the jackal, something like that mate, get on board with yellowstone please yeah, go on. What's the net? What's the third? I just want to be beth and when you were there.
Speaker 1:We're talking about being sassy earlier and like you're due on your peer, and when you're having your sassy day, you like don't give a fuck. Do you just say what you want to say? Yeah, you don't really care? No, and as my friend liz would say, how many fucks do I give? Uh, none. And it is beth. Like you just want to embrace your inner. Beth, like, stop caring about what people think. Show the fuck up. I'm looking at you because we talked about videos as well and I need nick to start doing videos. 24 hours.
Speaker 2:I have invested £50 in meeting with a psychotherapist, slash psychic, holy fuck, how did it go? Well, I spoke to you straight. Of course I was going to ring my person. Sorry, matt, to be fair, straight up. Of course I was going to ring my person. Sorry, matt, sweet, sweet, dull. Number one, to be fair, matt had been at home. He was at work at the time and you were like are you okay? It may have been some tears on the call, but it was fascinating. She is intuitive, perceptive, but also backed by science. So the session was probably an hour and she said, you know, she started and was like so how are you Right? Okay, I'm sensing that you need to like a story to break this in, that you're not 100% ready to like go straight in first. So I'm just going to tell you a bit about me. Hope that's okay. And I was like okay, but I I didn't even know.
Speaker 1:I felt like that I needed a little it's hard to be like telling someone exactly how you feel when you've never met them before, isn't?
Speaker 2:it. I feel quite anxious in these environments. I don't like I still vulnerable, isn't it, oh god? But I start getting the shakes, like when I start talking about how I feel and like peeling back the layers and start talking about experiences. Oh, it's happening now. I start getting really like anxious, like nervous energy. So she I can't even remember what shit she started with initially, and then she was like okay, so she'd put I'm part of a Southwood social hub and she'd put a post out to say I'm going to, I've got some capacity. If you want a session, here's how you book on. And I saw it and I was like yeah, fuck it, I'm going to do that.
Speaker 2:I feel like I was feeling really like confused. I felt like I was depressed. I just felt frustrated, unhappy, like not aligned to what I was doing across everything. And okay, I said to Matt last week or at the weekend I think I don't think I think I need to get a job. I think I need to get a job. I think I need to get a job. I'm not enjoying Wild Bird as much. And Matt was like you do realise we have this conversation every three months. It has to stop. Maybe you should get a job, because I'm not sure if you're happy. And then I obviously got quite upset about that. So, yeah, I have been really struggling and I think that you have noticed that I've been struggling and I can't oh, I couldn't put my fucking finger on it. I thought I was like, I thought it was fear of success, fear of failure, something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you've been questioning loads lately, oh my god, but also like been sensitive, yeah you've been like really concerned. Yeah, had some really bad knocks as well, but you've been worrying so much and you do that whole like you're okay. You're okay, like real deflecting, but normally you're like you always check in, but it's like don't talk about me, I want to talk about you. Yeah, I want to give you advice, I want to help you, I want to fix everything for you. What can I do for you? Like so where's it come from?
Speaker 2:so, um well, there are two large parts to it. One is you end up being is how she described it to me. You end up being what you didn't get when you were a child, and this is no fault of anyone else's. Everyone is just trying to be the best version of themselves trying to do what they know that they can.
Speaker 2:No one fucking knows. And also, when we were growing up, our parents had no fucking clue about any of this shit. So, disclaimer, no blame here. But one of my earliest memories I'm sure I've told you this is my mum standing in front of the mirror and her saying I was sat on. She's got this little wicker chair that I think my sister made still in her bedroom now tiny little stool, and I was sat on it. Mum and dad have got like a wall of mirrored wardrobes and she stood in front of this mirror. I think she was going out, she was wearing something. She said do I look fat? I said no, mummy, you're beautiful.
Speaker 2:That from that point on, I felt like it was my mission to make her happy, like to make her feel safe, to make her feel beautiful, to make her see what I could see, and that's what I do now. I'm a people pleaser. I spend my time lifting other people up. I bend over backwards to do that, and so she was asking about my parents. I told her that story, told her a bit about my family life, told her about my siblings, explained that I've always been the joke like you're the mistake of the family, you're not part of the original family. The joke that's not a joke. Do you know what I mean? And then I explained a bit about my dad and how like he avoids emotion, avoids talking about it, just berries, berries, berries, berries, and then we'll blow. So we spoke about that and she said can I just?
Speaker 2:When you came onto this call, do you know what you did? I was like no, not at all. She said you spent all of your energy making sure I was okay, all of your energy making sure I was okay, all of your energy trying to make me feel comfortable. Where you have paid for this session and you show up and your first objective is to make me feel comfortable typical envy style. That's hard like yeah, yeah, she's not gonna let you do it, I'm not gonna let you people, please, you won't get that here in this space. Then she was like how are you feeling about work? And I was like, just feel really like meh, yeah, like unaligned. I just I don't know if I'm on the right track. She said I feel like you're going round and round and round about and you've got all these different avenues to go down and you're not going down any of them, you're just going round and round and round this roundabout, round and round and round and round.
Speaker 2:I could do this, I could do this, I could do this what's that called something paralysis, isn't it?
Speaker 1:it's not like decision paralysis, but it's like. It's like a form of procrastination, isn't it? I did say paralysis yesterday yeah, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2:And then she said you spend all of your other time making sure everyone else is okay, who's looking after you? Then we started talking about work and she was like the more that you look for validation in other people, the bigger this hole is going to feel in you. We need to fix this. Tell me about what else is going on. And she's just so perceptive like she. She can hear what is going on here before I even say it.
Speaker 2:And as well as trying to unravel the psychology side of why I am the way that I am, she apologised and said I wouldn't ask you these Usually. If we were working together, it would be over a longer period. I wouldn't ask you these direct questions. I was like I don't care, I want help as quickly as possible. I'm not bothered about that. And then she said so you have avoidance, attachment. You will bury all of your feelings because they're not important, they don't matter. Everyone else's feelings do yours. Don't bury, bury, bury, bury, bury. And then guess what happens? You're more like your dad than you realize, because they just just erupt, erupt. And they erupt at Matt, not in like a fucking with the table, like none of that, but I do have emotional outbursts and they're so confusing because it could be anything. And then she said lots of what's going on is driven by a fear of rejection.
Speaker 1:And I was like, oh, oh okay, it's why you get so hurt if someone's left the bit, like if someone said they don't want to work with you anymore, or if someone says they don't like something. Yeah, so.
Speaker 2:I spoke about the double dampings and she was like right, okay, you are constantly. If we want to get spiritual about this, you're on this plane to combat rejection and it is so deep it goes back thousands and thousands of years and in every life you are being rejected, consistently and constantly, and every single time it's a lesson, but you're not learning from the lesson.
Speaker 1:So you're going to keep coming back getting rejected until you learn what are we going to do?
Speaker 2:about it. So every time that it happens, my conscious, subconscious, past life, all of that shabazz just brings back every single memory of every time it's happened in the past and I obsess over it and I live in it and I wallow in it brings back every single memory of every time it's happened in the past, mm-hmm, and I obsess over it and I live in it and I wallow in it, mm. So her solution is you've got to. She did a visualisation where she asked me to describe where it is in my body. You shut my eyes. What does it look like? What's the shape? And it was like, you know, when you get those tonne weights, mm, the anglialia angular, with the handle on my chest, oh wow, I see, that's what it feels like. She's like okay, just lift it up and put it on the desk for me, which I did. And she said I want you to look at it, which I did, so you know. And now I want you to see it vanishing. It's gone like that. I think that's nlp, I think so it went.
Speaker 2:And then she said now I want you to think of the happiest memory that you have, and it was the kids for me. And she asked me to describe it as a colour and as an object and then to replace that feeling across, like to explode that from my heart, and then replace that feeling across my chest. You're back in the room, how do you feel? And the rejection was gone, like the feeling of rejection, the fresh stuff, completely gone. So she said, what you need to do is where it sits in your body. She also asked how I, when I was a kid, how I would deal with anger, frustration or upset, like if someone had really hurt you. What would you do? And I would take myself off to my room and sob my heart out into my bed, like without, into the pillow, without anyone knowing, and really wallow in that feeling. I just presume that's what every other fucker did as well. I've got no clue. How did you deal with?
Speaker 1:I don't know. Actually I was just thinking that, like, if I was asked that question, I used to cry a lot as a teenager. I remember I was always like the one that cried. Do you know what I mean? I was always a talker, so I'd probably talk about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, until people got annoyed, which happens like still to this day, like you're still banging on about this so I don't know whether to get san pedro drinks or I do, I do, I have to work things out, but it's the same, with feelings like I keep talking about it poor martin listen like when I parted ways with a really good friend of mine. It was heartbreaking, it was one of the hardest things I've ever done and it was a conscious parting, I think, on both parts. To be honest, I talked about, I talked that through for 18 months, yeah, and he kept on saying I think you're living a lot more in her head than you're living in hers. Well, I think you live in yours?
Speaker 1:she's. No, yeah, she's living in your head a lot more than you are in hers.
Speaker 2:That's what he kept on saying. Yes, she was consuming some of your brain power.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he said like you are literally obsessing about this, you're consuming yourself with it, you are constantly talking. He goes I don't mind, you know, bless his little heart, I don't mind you talking about anything. He said, but you just you can't process it. I said but this is me processing it. I have to talk it out. I have to think of every scenario or every reason behind it. So I'd probably have done that.
Speaker 2:See, I thought that I was quite good at communicating my emotions and my feelings.
Speaker 1:I don't fucking think I am, I don't know. I think I can tell what mood you're in or how you're feeling, but I don't think I communicate it. I don't think you need to. You're quite verbal. You can tell if Nick's in a good mood or like this morning. I would sassy, sassy, mcfucking sassy, but I also find that funny. I'm not sensitive about it.
Speaker 2:I think I feel more like myself today. That's probably why, yeah. But the other thing she said was like you're a people pleaser at heart, so let me guess, let me share something and you tell me if this is accurate or not. With this is not with matt, but with your friendships, with your relationships with clients, you come in as the savior. You come in here and you bend over backwards to make this person okay.
Speaker 2:So you're here, you're doing everything that you possibly can, everything that you can bending, bending, bending, bending, bending but you're not communicating that, you don't feel on a level with them. So then you start to think, fuck this, I'm not going to carry on doing this when they're not appreciating it. So you're trying to get on a level with them and then guess what client or friend or whoever it is, goes. What the fuck are they doing? Like nick's not doing what she was before. Why is she now? Like stepping up to this plate, like how dare she? What's she doing? Because you're not communicating any of this, but you feel the disconnect because you are doing far too much, because you're living in people pleaser oh, wow yeah and then, if I look back, but then you're getting the rejection, yeah, because you're, you're showing up different to how you were in the beginning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then if I look back to a lot of the business relationships and the things that have happened over time, that's definitely a pattern.
Speaker 1:Yeah, definitely so do you feel that people then take advantage of you? And then?
Speaker 2:you get fucked off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, she said I've seen that actually, now that you put that like that, I've seen you do that with clients, yeah, she said, you are super susceptible, which I have known for a long while and I keep learning the lesson Not making the same mistakes again, but it does happen again and again is I'm super susceptible to people that are going to take advantage because I'm a people pleaser. So I'll always come on at this level and if someone is there and can recognize it, they'll just continue on and I'll continue to not. And then you get like spicy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm not gonna have this. I'm not gonna have someone take advantage and they're like what the fuck like? Yeah, exactly yeah.
Speaker 2:So the other thing, like she would. She was calling out behavior on the call, like we were talking about Matt and how I deal with certain things, and I'd given her an example and she shared something back and I said, all right, so I just need to do this, this and this. And she was like, okay, I take your that you don't want to talk about this, and that's fine. She was like okay, I take your that you don't want to talk about this, and that's fine, but I just want you to recognise what you did there. You've completely shut me down and I was like fuck, like you can't there's, you are so exposed and so vulnerable. Because she can read you, because she's got the science backed behind her. Like she can read you, because she's got the science backed behind her, like it was fascinating to be on is it uncomfortable, though at some point, yeah, fuck, yeah, like you've.
Speaker 1:You're fully exposed, I know, but to have someone telling you what you're doing wrong, like yeah oh it, I didn't.
Speaker 2:It all came from a place of love, like it wasn't. I'm not saying that she loves me, but it's okay, it came from a good place. It was never like pitched as like a, as like a.
Speaker 2:Oh, fucking like never took offence which is wonderful, because I'm super sensitive, as you well know, because I've got fear of being rejected. So the advice, what I need to do now is and one of my comments initially was I just feel like it shouldn't be this fucking hard, like I feel like I'm wading through shit and I don't want to fucking feel like it anymore. And she went it shouldn't be like that and it's not going to be like that. And even just having someone say that to me was like fuck, oh, my fucking Christ, brilliant. So my homework is I've got to live out the rejection right. So I need to do what nicole is comfortable doing, which is sobbing my heart out in private bring the rejection up out of my body and release it and I think also going forward like what how are you going to prevent that from happening?
Speaker 1:how are you going to take on that rejection?
Speaker 2:Carly's given me like multiple things to work on, like multiple things to like check myself before I go into any client environment, ensuring that I'm aligned. But so once I've exercised this um thousands of years of rejection, which is always going to be work in progress, I will then be. She just said. I just I've just seen something, I'm going to share it. I see you in the bath with a candle writing down what you want from your life and that's it. That's it. Hmm, release the rejection and do that, and then you are coming from a place of love rather than lack and going forward.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't take it so. Personally, I know it's going to be difficult well, it's more.
Speaker 2:For me, it's more going. Oh, that's why I care about it so much. And she's. Her personality is very similar and her biggest tip was embrace the rejection, embrace it and learn, because it's a learning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay. So how do I feel afterwards? I feel like I've got clarity. Yeah, I feel like someone has defined what the fuck is going on and why I was feeling so shit about it. But trying to explain to Matt that I'm holding onto some rejection that's thousands of years old, to a man that does not believe in reincarnation, was a little bit testing. Did he just laugh at you? No, he knew that I was doing this and he was like oh, fucking hell. Right, here we go. Here are things that Nick's tried to fix her Fucking brilliant.
Speaker 1:Well, it's better than the last one. We done that psychic reading virtual.
Speaker 2:Fuck.
Speaker 1:Or the.
Speaker 2:Mindvalley, that one. Why haven't?
Speaker 1:I won the Omaze house for's sake. So, yeah, we did do that, didn't we? And then we both sacked it off after paying for two months. I was like I couldn't do it. Mind you, the online reading was 20 quid, I think mine was more was it?
Speaker 2:I don't know, I don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 1:It makes me really, I know, because I mean the tarot reading and afterwards I remember saying to you I don't think I don't want to talk about it. It makes me really I know, because I mean the tarot reading. And afterwards I remember saying to you, like I don't think we've spoken about it on here, no, so we done. Nick saw this tarot reader that was recommended. She was over in Africa I think Kenya, yeah and Nick was telling me about it and I was like she could do a tarot reading from Kenya online. I'm not sure I believe in all that shit anyway, but yeah but Nick was like, yeah, it's amazing, I'm.
Speaker 1:She's told me I've got something like I've got, I'm gonna be winning summit in two days like all of this.
Speaker 1:I was like fuck it, I'll have a go. I came out of that call. I remember Martin looking at me going how was it? I was like, uh, it's all right. Yeah, I'm not sure. I mean, she kept on banging on about me and I recorded it on my voice notes. I've not listened to it again and I actually want to burn it if I could, but she was saying to me that I've got a very controlling person in my life and I need to remove that person. She was going on and on.
Speaker 2:I think it was me you control it, fuck off.
Speaker 1:And I was like she goes what's your, is your partner controlling? I was like no, and she was like, are you sure? And she kept on questioning have you got business partner? And I was like you know? It just kept on making me question everything and I walked away from it going. I don't think I believed in any of that, but I'm not sure, and it took me about a week to process it, to then sack it off and go.
Speaker 1:No, it was bullshit no, fuck it it was all bullshit, because I thought about it, I've analyzed it, I've looked over my notes.
Speaker 2:Nope, fuck that I went into that and was like are you gonna surprise me in about three days time?
Speaker 1:is this a trap? What miraculous like 150 000 pound pay rise I think you're trying to reach me it was so funny. And then a couple of days ago, I just said, yeah, I haven't even listened to it. I don't want to relive that bullshit, but it only cost 20 pounds. It was a good experience, but we do try some shit, don't we? And it's not just spiritual shit. The mind valley manifest oh, actually, maybe it is.
Speaker 2:I was like bullshit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but this one, this sounds because it's not so.
Speaker 2:Woo, woo, I don't mind trying stuff but no, and we did. When were we in the car and I was researching, like going to see spiritual people, and it was? Oh yeah, we've gone to rushton or something uh, yes, yes, you're right. So I'd really like to work with guy long term. I was like, what does this cost really? So she gave me the figure and she likes to work with people over three months, and how much is it?
Speaker 1:one, one, one, one. One thousand one hundred and eleven pounds, yeah, and how often do you see her? Every two weeks for two hours. One one, one, one, yeah, one one, yeah. It's like angel numbers, isn't it? Yeah, that's her number, yeah, so then she's not going to change that.
Speaker 2:No, I hope not, but each session is two hours.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I could do that for two hours.
Speaker 2:Oh right, fucking hell I would introduce If you want to meet her, like say yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know. The problem is I take on people's opinions and I think about it and I analyse it and I'll go over it in my head and then I'll make a decision and at the minute I kind of just feel like I don't want any more noise. I'm so tunnel visioned at the minute I don't know if I could take on any more noise. But also I'm so tunnel visioned at the minute I don't know if I could take on any more noise. But also I'm starting the goldman sachs thing.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, you don't in february and there's going to be a lot of information yeah now, and it's going to be business information, I don't think I can merge the two agreed yeah, but she is doing one-off sessions in december, is she?
Speaker 1:I'd be. I'd be really open to doing like a one on one session. I don't know. I just don't know. If I might, I could be bothered to have someone tell me what's right and wrong. That's their opinion, you know. Like there is a little bit of that now. I don't know if it's an age thing or whether I just got to the point of going. I just don't know if I can be fucking arsed with someone else's opinion, because it changes everything, doesn't it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and because you are like the next level problem solver if she sticks a problem in front of you about, you might want to think about fixing this you're going to want to try and fix it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just feel like I've got loads at the minute.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Do you not want a thousand years of rejection to deal with? I don't think I do. No, no, I think I'm okay. Okay, yeah, I've definitely had many lives though. Yeah, I thought it was quite reassuring that I'd been around for a thousand years.
Speaker 2:Frankly, I thought it was really reassuring, so Matt Billum's reaction that he was working last night. So I delivered it on a phone call, which is probably best for us communication wise, because then I don't have to read his like what the fuck face? Whilst I'm trying to talk about my thousand years of rejection.
Speaker 1:I can just imagine Matt's face, because he's so matter of fact as well, isn't he? And he's so like he was like his response was here she goes.
Speaker 2:What do you mean? A thousand years, you know? Do you know how old you are, do you? Yeah, that's not possible Scientifically. I was like, yeah, don't come up with science right now, like that's not where this is coming from. I said, han, you know, it just depends if you believe in reincarnation. He just went, absolutely not tapping out.
Speaker 1:You've lost me and he's like.
Speaker 2:I started to bless him like he was talking, he was driving but I was on his phone, so he's driving away and I said he got someone else in the car with him no, thank god.
Speaker 2:So I said do you want me to tell you what happened? Like that's me sense checking, are you in the right headspace to hear about this? And he was like, yeah, go on. Then he said, just so you're aware, you are on my phone. I'm doing my best to hear everything that you can say, because he knows I'm like why are you listening? What the fuck? The?
Speaker 1:expression. The rejection's coming out, it's oozing. Don't reject this idea so he did really really well.
Speaker 2:But it's more the reincarnation piece of like. So I've got rejection. That's like every time. It's like triggering a thousand years of rejection. What do you mean? A thousand years years? It's still 37. We did have a constructive conversation this morning. I said what do you think about? Yesterday? I could just switch your maths back. He would have hung up and gone fucking crazy bitch, fucking insane. I said to him I was like who knew that you'd be married to a woman that's got a thousand years of rejection baggage with her? And he went. I wouldn't quite face it like that, poor Matt Billum poor Matt.
Speaker 2:So, oh, that is so funny, my face hurts, it's so funny to be fair, when we spoke this morning because I like this is, he is well out of his comfort zone on this, like completely, and I'm going, so I just need to exercise it, like I need some time by myself so I can cry into a pillow and just let it like, feel it and let it out, and he's going. It's like are you okay? Do you think you'll have that done before the weekend before?
Speaker 1:do you need me around for this?
Speaker 2:what do we do with the dog while you're having an exorcism? But to be fair, I said you know, what do you think?
Speaker 2:like you've had some time and some sleep to think about it. And he was like, yeah, I think it's good. Like he's obviously putting the reincarnation to one side and just said, like I know that you haven't been right. And we we'd kicked around like, is it fear of failure? Is it fear of success? Are you just unhappy? Yeah, bless him, the man deserves a medal for the turbulent life that he leads with me, my emotional rollercoaster. And he said it's so obvious. I'm just gutted that we didn't define it between us because really, if you track it and trace it back, it's clear that that's what it is. Yeah, exorcism, manifestation done by March. I'll be in a much different place, I think so, but you'll make that happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, iorcism manifestation done by March, I'll be in a much different place. I think so, but you'll make that happen. Yeah, I've got to commit. You don't need someone else to do that for you.
Speaker 2:No, no, she did send me something this morning which was very nice. Should I share it? Yeah, and then I did my chat GPT thing, oh yeah. So I will not rescue you. You, for you, are not powerless. I will not fix you, for you are not broken. I will not heal you, for I see you in your wholeness.
Speaker 1:I will walk with you through the darkness as you remember your light, amazing, nice so that's what you've got to say to yourself when you're taking on new business and you're not just trying to fix it for everybody. You're just you are there to do your job and it's yeah. And we talked about a scenario this morning, didn't we? And I was like it's not your job to fix it yes yes, totally so.
Speaker 1:I feel like you just need to do that. You need to have that reminder. Your post-it note, yeah, instead of just ask a fucking question. It should be you don't? It's not your job to fix, it's not your responsibility.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I've got two post-it notes. One is not it's not your responsibility, and the other one is you make them feel seen. You make them feel heard. They have the solution in themselves. You are not here to fix or to rescue yes, that's it.
Speaker 1:And how does that sit with you perfectly, is it?
Speaker 2:yeah, does it relieve, like relief. Oh my god, yes, yeah, so we're talking about some scenarios exhausting, being you in, isn't it, poppy? I'm just talking, I just feel like I'm listening going where's the solution? Where's the solution? Where's the bam bam, bam bam? Like in fucking a maze, like trying to find while someone's unraveling whatever they need to.
Speaker 1:I've actually felt you do that with me, yeah, and you're so actively like you want to help and I keep saying to you like, but you've got to charge me or you need to tell me, give me a quote, or you need to. You know, you can't just do this for the love of it or for the love of me. Like we're working together, here we are and you're like no, no, blah, blah, blah blah blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and I'm like what it's so funny?
Speaker 1:Oh fuck, chat GBT, shall we finish up. I don't want to rush it to an early close like last time. What was that word you used? I'd never heard the gooch. I'd never heard of that before. And you said that was like kicking a gooch or something.
Speaker 2:It was like pulling out. So, amy, when Amy makes a decision to do something she wants, it acted on immediately, apart from when she sweats the small stuff like San Pellegrino versus I can't even, fever tree can't even remember the name.
Speaker 1:Oh, dash shall.
Speaker 2:I like she'll sit on that decision for at least two weeks but if I've made the decision.
Speaker 1:I'm done oh, she's in.
Speaker 2:She's like can it happen yesterday, please? I'll come the fuck on Bridget now.
Speaker 1:I am really impatient. Oh my God, I know, does it bother you a lot? No, when I've made a decision, I know it's the right decision. We've just got to go with it.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, I like that. It's proactive, fucking hilarious, because you will, literally your little brain will be going. I don't know where to go. What about this? What about this?
Speaker 1:the same as the 12 days of christmas video?
Speaker 2:yeah, that like when else have you done it? Like your summer party, like whether I don't know whether to do this, like because the girls and I've got to sit here and listen to uh-huh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I know it's actually probably the one time that I don't people please and try to fix this, because you're just going, so I do this tiny little like dance, amy dance that. Shall we go over here. Shall we go over? There, I don't want to fix myself. It's very endearing, very endearing.
Speaker 1:Oh, it's not at all, I think it's brilliant, but when I've made a decision, I'm fucking done, yeah.
Speaker 2:Oh. Yeah and that's exactly what happened when we recorded, but it didn't record last week. You just went right. That's the end, then I'm done. I think I was mid-sentence. Genuinely. What I said was it felt like you've pulled out and jabbed me in the gooch by mistake.
Speaker 1:Your little willy has been squished on my gooch.
Speaker 2:What the fuck is a gooch? Just your fucking perineum, Like I don't know how.
Speaker 1:You don't know this. I've never heard of it. And Nick turned round to me and went how do you not know that when you deal with intimate waxing the job you do like I put it that way how do you not know this? And I was like I've never heard of this. Is this even a British terminology? And he went fuck you, of course it is. I don't fuck you, of course it is American slang. I was like oh, there we go. Maybe that's why I've never heard of it before. Gooch, there we go, new word for the vocabulary. Are you finished? Yeah, actually. Do you need a wee-wee? Yeah, I do, but I feel like we should listen to your ChatGBT story. No, and then finish up with that?
Speaker 2:No, do you not want to share it?
Speaker 1:I can share it, but I imagine I'm just giving you pre-warning I'm not hitting you in the gooch, I'm not doing anything.
Speaker 2:I'm not coming to an end, I'm finished. Oh good, I'm glad you sorted yourself out. So I briefed it in with a load of shit about life, and then it spat this out no, I can't read it all Like. This must be boring for other people. Fuck, no, it's too long.
Speaker 1:Is it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you've done yours. Maybe to be continued, because you are also about to wet yourself.
Speaker 1:Do you want to stop making the decision for me, Like I'm okay?
Speaker 2:Not people pleasing now am I no.
Speaker 1:No, you're not Am.
Speaker 2:I this. Yeah, hold on right. I'll just read the visualization piece. The early morning light filters softly through the bedroom curtains and you wake. Naturally, no alarm, no rush. There's a sense of quiet confidence in your body and understanding that you're exactly where you're meant to be.
Speaker 2:You lie still for a moment listening to the gentle hum of the household as Matt brews coffee downstairs and the distant chatter of Eddie and Hope beginning their day. Your heart fills with gratitude. Everyone is content, settled, happy, the air feels lighter, your mind untroubled and your spirit is calm. This is peace. You slip out of bed, pad downstairs and greet Matt with a warm smile. You wrap your arms around each other with a silent acknowledgement of how far you've both come. He kisses your forehead and you both laugh about something small. No tension, just an easy, loving exchange. The bickering is there sometimes, sure, but it no longer carries the heavy weight of threats or fears. It's just life, simple and honest. Eddie and Hope sit around the kitchen table giggling over breakfast. Eddie's behaviour has turned a corner. He's more present, more at ease. Hope's eyes shine with delight as she talks about her day ahead. You feel a surge of joy at their happiness. Being a mother in this season of life is fulfilling, even fun. They're thriving and so are you. After goodbyes and hugs, they're off Eddie to school, hope to her activities, leaving you and Matt exchanging knowing smiles. Everything feels aligned.
Speaker 2:You open your laptop in your home office, a space that reflects your personality warm textures, arts. You love notes of encouragement, wild Bird. Your business hums along confidently. Your diary shows a handful of one-to-one strategy sessions with owner-founders. These clients aren't just clients, they're partners in impact. Your work now is so perfectly matched to your talents strategies, sales and marketing coaching that it feels effortless. You look at your schedule and the names of the clients who truly value your input. There's no dread, only excitement. You have financial freedom, the power to choose who you work with, and it all feels so balanced. You have two partners. Both have brought in new opportunities. You're gaining tractions in areas that once felt unreachable. The ease at which you attract the right projects is astounding. You were born to do this. Beyond that, the money projects is astounding. You were born to do this. Beyond that, the money flows more steadily. Now there's a buffer growing and the end is visible. It's liberating.
Speaker 2:Your first client call begins. The founder is grateful for your insights and as you guide them through a challenging sales strategy, you realise how naturally this wisdom comes to you. Your client ends the call inspired and appreciative. You feel their energy lift and that spark of making a real difference fuels you. You stand, stretch and take a moment to revel in the freedom of it all. You're working on your terms from home and still able to travel globally to deliver workshops. That balance of rooted comfort and expansive experience is intoxicating. This goes on. I'll read you the bit that's relevant for us. You check a message from amy. Together you're moving forward with the SAS pension plans and purchasing your first commercial property. It feels like a big step, but you have the right team in place. The pressure doesn't feel heavy. It's more like a welcome challenge, a sign of growth. Everything is lining up your finances, your career, your relationships and mine is fucking.
Speaker 1:I mean it's really long, but it's beautiful yeah.
Speaker 2:I might read the last bit. So, after tucking in Eddie and Hope, you and Matt unwind in the living room Bouch, no, just joking, maybe there's a film on. Or maybe you just talk softly about your future travels, the next workshop in a new city or the steady accumulation of your financial safety nets. There's no anxiety about what tomorrow brings, only excitement. Before drifting off to sleep, you step outside for a moment. A cool night breeze touches your skin. You inhale deeply, feeling grateful, abundant, connected. You are living the life you truly deserve and it's so natural that it feels like it was always meant to be this way. As you close the door behind you, you head to bed. You know tomorrow will bring its own set of challenges, but you will meet them with calm, confidence and clarity because you have it all the peace, the family, the work, the balance. You're exactly where you need to be oh, I love that me too.
Speaker 2:I let matt read it this morning and he said the cold night breeze. Just chat gbc know that you just said the cold night breeze? Does ChatGPT know that you fucking hate the cold? Well done, Matt so well, oh, that was lovely. Yeah, cheers, chatgpt, that's good, that's good.
Speaker 1:Exorcism manifestation Are we done Jab Jab with a gooch Boom, have it Bye, bye.
