Have you ever felt the sting of heartbreak echo through a song that seems to narrate your life? Join me, Christi Chanelle, as I open up about the profound impact JLo's movie "This Is Me Now" had on my journey of love and self-discovery. The song "Broken Like Me" struck a chord, reflecting my own pattern of ricocheting between relationships without taking the necessary time to heal and grow. Throughout this intimate episode, I'll share my raw take on the healing process depicted in the film, juxtaposed with JLo's own rollercoaster of public romances, and I'll let you in on why my TikTok video about self-love and internal work before new love sparked a viral conversation.
As we wrap up, I want to extend a heart-filled thank you to each and every one of you tuning in and joining this poignant exploration. Your support fuels this journey, and I'm thrilled to invite you to contribute to the dialogue as we navigate the complexities of love, healing, and happiness together. Remember, you can find our community and all episodes ready for you at ChristiChanelle.com, as well as on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Here's to finding the courage to face our own reflections and the love we deserve.
Have you ever felt the sting of heartbreak echo through a song that seems to narrate your life? Join me, Christi Chanelle, as I open up about the profound impact JLo's movie "This Is Me Now" had on my journey of love and self-discovery. The song "Broken Like Me" struck a chord, reflecting my own pattern of ricocheting between relationships without taking the necessary time to heal and grow. Throughout this intimate episode, I'll share my raw take on the healing process depicted in the film, juxtaposed with JLo's own rollercoaster of public romances, and I'll let you in on why my TikTok video about self-love and internal work before new love sparked a viral conversation.
As we wrap up, I want to extend a heart-filled thank you to each and every one of you tuning in and joining this poignant exploration. Your support fuels this journey, and I'm thrilled to invite you to contribute to the dialogue as we navigate the complexities of love, healing, and happiness together. Remember, you can find our community and all episodes ready for you at ChristiChanelle.com, as well as on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Here's to finding the courage to face our own reflections and the love we deserve.
The Lovey Mishie Bye podcast. Let's inspire each other. Hello and welcome to Lovey Mishie Bye with me, kristi Chanel. So today I wanted to talk about the JLo movie. Last weekend I didn't feel that good. I had a headache and I knew that I just I couldn't work on videos, I couldn't work on editing. I had to just lay down and just go with it. Just go with it. So I turned on the TV, because I usually don't watch TV. This was a good reason to catch up on something or at least put something on and fall asleep to it. I put on the JLo movie. This Is Me Now.
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I had heard a little bit like it had gotten just crazy reviews out there. People were spoutin', hate and a little over the top. If you don't like something, that's fine. You just don't have to be cruel and you don't have to be mean. So I didn't really know what to expect when I put it on, but it was pretty good. I really enjoyed it. Of course, everybody knows JLo can dance. So I'm watching the movie.
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It's about her jumping from relationship to relationship. That was me. Then get it. That's what I did there, anyway. So she's talking about it and I'm connecting. There's this one scene where it's similar to an AA meeting, but it's about love. She breaks out into song in this scene and I'm just like a puddle of mush because the song is called Broken Like Me, and the lyrics justand they just got to me. It's really really good. So if you do have a chance to go, take a listen, you should. It's a really good song if you've ever had heartbreak in your life and felt like you couldn't get it right. I think a lot of us feel that way. I'm like, okay, well, I'm totally connecting with this.
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As we get into the next chapter of the movie, it seems like she's. I mean, yes, she has talking to a therapist throughout the whole episode. But Okay, I'm not being critical, please understand. I'm not trying to be critical, but to me she lost me when she started dancing in the rain talking. You know I'm in love. It's acting like she's done the work, like she's healed. I'm not 100% that she's done the work and healed. Now, maybe while she was in these relationships she was seeing a therapist and she was working through her problems. But I've heard her say I mean, just recently on the Kelly Clarkson show, she said I had a fear of being alone. Where is the work on that? If her fear was getting into relationships and not breathing in between, she still hasn't really done that. You know what I mean? That's the one thing I can say.
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I didn't go out on this healing journey when I left my last relationship. It was traumatic. It actually propelled me away from men. You know, I tried to do the dating thing. I tried to do all that. I saw a red flag and I ran for my life.
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I was saying I was out there dating but I really wasn't connecting with people on purpose. I just didn't know it. So as I went through and moved through, I started to I have like these spurts of no dating, dating apps, no dating, dating apps. So I mean I saw a few people here and there, but I did not in any way or at all want a relationship. I thought I did. I really didn't internally and that's why I wasn't making any connection, because I didn't really want to make those connections. So I did the work.
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I have not been in a committed relationship for almost seven years. That's a long time. I am happy and and that doesn't mean I won't be happy in a relationship, it just means I'm happy in my life and I'll never settle for anyone just because I'm afraid to be alone. So with this I'm watching it and that's when the movie felt a little superficial to me. I was like you know what, not feeling that. I am not feeling that I was very glossed over. But if you think about it, of course it was. If she wrote this movie, she paid for this movie, she directed this movie, of course it's going to feel superficial because she hasn't done the work. She hasn't done the work. I'm like you know what? I am gonna do a JLo episode on Love, you Miss you, bye. But before I do that I'm gonna put some feelers out and see if I'm touching anyone with this. Is anyone picking this up in the movie, besides the fact that I don't like the movie? You know, whatever I open up TikTok, I have over 2000 followers there and they are not afraid to jump in somebody's comments. I'll tell you what. So I record a TikTok.
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Here's my problem with the JLo movie. It's not the art, it's not the dancing, it's not even the singing. My problem is she talks about how she went from relationship to relationship to relationship and then she had growth and found self-love and then she went with Ben? I don't think so, because if the problem was she couldn't be alone, she hasn't been alone. She hasn't done the internal work to figure out why she keeps going from relationship to relationship to relationship. You see what I'm saying? There still was no growth there. She went from A-Rod to Ben. Now I'm not saying that they're not gonna last, I'm saying she didn't do the work. So whatever was there originally is still there.
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So that video right there went mini viral, and when I say mini viral I'm saying right now, as I pull this TikTok up, it says 95.9 thousand. So I'm pretty confident it's gonna be 96,000 by the time I'm done with this podcast. In that, though, even bigger than the views is when people stop what they're doing and not only watch your video, but they stop what they're doing in comments on the video, because that's where you can really start to make connections. And for the first time, I'm actually going viral for something in my niche mental health, healing yourself, relationships I picked up like 75 new followers. These people that are following are following because we're talking about healing in relationships, all relationships, and that is really, really cool. Like that's the first time I feel like I'm building a community there. It gives me hope that.
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You know, I really feel like as I move through the discovery of social media and the discovery of podcasting, I learn more about myself. I didn't go film Love you, miss you Bye last week at my dad's. You have those doubts. You know where you stop believing in yourself for a little bit and that's what I was doing I'm like why does anybody care about this? Why does anybody care about me talking about this? It was just, I think I just needed a recharge, really, and when I recharged and watched a movie and was able to get up and post a TikTok, the universe said don't give up. It was just a really good sign that I'm still heading in the right direction. It's really those things along the way that make me go. Okay, I got this. Keep going, don't give up.
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Your breakthrough is ahead, whether it's a, let me tell you, you know the breakthrough I wanna have. I wanna have my breakthrough on YouTube. That is a hard platform. That is a really hard platform. I think TikTok's easier for me for some reason. But yeah, and all the platforms are so different, I feel like Facebook's more of an older crowd, which is really my niche, but I'm not making movement there, yet it's. I know I'm one viral video away on any platform of doing that. I did that on my Code Green Plant Simply Vibe-in page on Facebook and I had a video that went really viral. It was like 125,000 and I picked up like 1,800 followers. So I know it's possible. It's just finding the right content for the right social media platform. Yeah, it was really cool to have a video go viral last week. Back to JLo Everybody is going to heal in their own way and move through hardships in their own way, and I'm not trying to judge the way that she moves through hardship, but I'm saying if you have a fear of something and you don't figure out why you have the fear of something, is it really gone or is there just a bandaid put over it?
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That's what I want to know. That's the question that I'm the most curious about. I think you see where I'm trying to go with this. I just wanted it to connect to you because it connected for me.
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I love falling in love too. I love it. I'm a love addict. It was a love addict. I know with 100% certainty If I go and start dating which I may I don't really want to fall in love. Is that bad? Am I traumatized? I think I'm traumatized. I don't know. I'm just really happy and I'm afraid because the past I've always put myself last and it became about the other person. What's he doing? Should we go hang out? It becomes a new life and maybe I'm not ready to have a new life because I really like this one, if that makes sense. I really like this one. I like what I'm doing.
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I know if I added another person to my life that I wouldn't be able to focus on me. I wouldn't be able to focus on my podcast or anything else, because I would be so in love and that would take over everything. And it has. My kids are grown. Trevor's almost grown, he's 15. He's about to be a junior and I've given so much of myself to others. I see that I'm about to have 100% to give to me and it's lighting me up. It's really lighting me up and maybe that's what it is.
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I don't know yet. I don't know if it's the trauma, if it's the love for myself, if it's the excitement of doing what I'm doing. I just am not ready for a distraction yet. I don't want to fall in love right now and that's probably when it will happen, right? Isn't that what usually happens, like you're not looking for it and it hits you in the face. I'm telling the universe give me a little bit more time.
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I really enjoy my life right now, Unless unless I find somebody where they find me that has the same type of drive and goals and joy and is just vibrant and living and can be a co-pilot and a co-partner for me on this and we could do it together Now that that I can get behind. But I definitely don't need a needy person. I definitely don't need somebody that doesn't have a job, doesn't have a car, has so much trauma and baggage that they bring it with them to every relationship. But you know what? Here's the thing about growth. I think I'd be able to spot it really quick and maybe when I was doing those apps, I did spot it really quick and I just didn't have time for it. So I guess in that aspect, it'll be fine. Plus, it'll be really good content to tell you about what I'm actually dealing with. So hang tight for that. It's definitely coming, because this is about a journey. Right, we're taking a journey together. So I will eventually have to go into that category and I hope I don't scare too many people off, because I have no problem saying I can only see you, like once every other week or something, I don't know.
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So I was gonna read through a bunch of ways that you could stand. Being by yourself, stand yourself is really what it's about. And I read through it because I actually recorded that part of it at my house, in my home studio, and the mic was a little off and I'm like I gotta figure that sound thing out. It's really, really important and I read through it and did it on the mic and it's a lot of the same things that we've been talking about. I don't need to read the article to tell you that being alone can really be great.
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Reading. Lay down and read a book, watch a good movie, go exercise, get your endorphins pumping. Go cook, maybe videotape it and put it out there. If you're a really good cook, there's just so many different things to do. Do a podcast, come on mine, hang out with me. Do the things that you didn't do because you were too busy focusing on your partner or your kids.
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You've got to carve out time for you, and if you're heartbroken right now and you're feeling sad and depressed, all of those horrible feelings. It's gonna be okay. It was okay for me, and I've been through heartbreak a lot. But you know what? For the first time, I can actually stand myself. I mean, I could stand myself before, but I like myself. I'm not just standing myself, I like myself. I'm glowing. Can you not see that? I'm glowing and that is what I wanna give to you. I'm not gonna read an article right now about how to be alone, because it's really about finding yourself.
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Self-help books. Do you know that? That's how I got through my heartbreak. I couldn't afford a therapist. I had to listen to audiobooks. It got me through it. It'll get you through it too, whether it's actually reading it or listening to it. Guarantee you're gonna be okay. Just gotta find yourself. But once you do, once it feels like the pain's never gonna go away, you walk through it. Then you look back and go. Why was I even with that person? Why? I know I did, a few times actually. But yeah, I hope that that's what you take away from this. We are stronger together. I'm trying to build a community.
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