My 45-Minute Disaster Date - How I Turned a Truly Sh*t Situation into Gold

Ever been on a date that seemed perfect on paper, only to have it take a nosedive faster than you could blink? That’s exactly what happened to me during a 45-minute dinner that ended with me being left at the restaurant! He was handsome, drove a nice BMW, had a great job, and was well-educated but suddenly he had to leave the restaurant abruptly, cutting the date short and leaving me feeling undervalued. This bizarre experience made me question why my value wasn’t being seen and led to a deep dive into understanding self-worth in the dating world. 

This experience led me to develop a three-step formula for dating, which I will be discussing in detail in my upcoming masterclass, "The Psychology of Dating Up." The formula emphasizes that a man's inability to see your value does not diminish your worth. It also highlights the importance of more than just superficial qualities in portraying your value.

In the masterclass, I will cover:

1. Understanding Your Value: Recognizing that your value is intrinsic and not dependent on external validation.
2. Setting High Standards: Why it's crucial to maintain high standards and not settle for less.
3. Identifying and Attracting High-Value Men: A three-step process to attract men who are intentional, plan dates, and meet your standards.

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Additionally, I introduce my signature program, "Attract Your Equal," which helps women attract their equal partners within five months or less. The program includes:

1. Dating Mindset: Shifting your mindset to attract the right kind of partner.
2. Dating Filter Optimization: Filtering out unsuitable matches both virtually and organically.
3. High-Value Man Magnet Blueprint: Identifying what a high-value man looks like for you and where to find them.

I encourage listeners to sign up for the masterclass, where they will learn actionable strategies to revolutionize their dating lives. The masterclass is scheduled for Thursday, the 8th of August, and includes a special bonus for those who attend live. I look forward to seeing you there!

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Chapters

• 0:00 Transforming Dating Dynamics for Success
• 7:00 Mastering the 'Attract Your Equal' Program
• 10:48 Empowering Manifestation Workshop Invite

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Did I give it away? Or was it a persuasion? You all in my space. I I, oh wait. I don't care what you say. I'm loving it this way. I'm hoping that you stay. I I, oh wait. It's only you. Was it your wish? It's only you. It's only you. I love what you say. I'm loving what you say. It's only you, I love you. I love you. It's only you. It's only you.

Speaker 1: 0:52

Okay, it's story time. I'm gonna be telling you about the date that lasted 45 minutes. So the year is about like 2017, 2018. I'm on a date with a friend of a friend, and he is everything on paper that I could ask for. So he's super handsome. He drove a nice BMW, picked me up in the BMW, planned the date, university degree, educated to the same level as me at the time, had a great corporate job, made great money, traveled a lot everything that you could really think of and so I bet you're asking how did that date last 45 minutes? So we were on our way to the restaurant and all of a sudden, his friend calls. Now, um, she actually was his best friend. Actually, let me get that right. She called and said that she was in a crisis. Now, that conversation didn't last that long because I think she realized, oh, you're on a date, let me not interrupt you. And so, hung up, we continued laughing, he ha ha, it was great. We get to the restaurant and it's not long before she calls again.

Speaker 1: 1:54

Now I was a bit like okay, like what could possibly have happened now. So he picks up the phone and says I've got to take it and instead of taking it in front of me, he leaves. So he's outside of the restaurant. Now, bearing in mind I'm saying that the whole date lasted 45 minutes, I bet you're thinking, um god, like he's already eating into what a quarter half of the day, correct? So he's like you know, yapping away outside. I'm sitting there on my own, feeling a little bit uncomfortable, but still like okay, it's okay. The food comes and I think I took maybe two bites and then he's like right, we're gonna have to ask for the bill and we're gonna have to leave right now. So I'm like it's very rare that I'm speechless and I don't have anything to say, but I was like in shock, in actual shock. So he gets the bill and we leave and I'm just just did not have the words and he I think he said sorry once and then um drove me home and I lived quite close.

Speaker 1: 2:48

So I remember just getting home and just feeling genuinely bad. Like, just genuinely bad. Like what, what is this like? I know I'm a high value woman. Like I know I'm, you know, top shelf. So what is going on? Like why? Why?

Speaker 1: 3:03

I feel like the question for myself was like, why was that not obvious? Like why was it obvious that this kind of treatment cannot run? Like, why would you think that you could treat me that way? And I feel like this is the scenario that so many women um, hey, alex, so many women go through, that they, um, you know, they come to this point where it's like, why was I treated that way, when I know the high value?

Speaker 1: 3:27

And when I really played with this, I developed this formula, which is now going to be a three-step formula I'm going to be talking about next week in my masterclass of psychology of dating up, because it's so important to understand that. First of all, you know if a man doesn't see your value, it has nothing to do with your actual value itself, like it doesn't take away anything from you. But two, there's also more than just dressing up or listing your like degrees or, you know, talking about how successful your business is. That's going to portray your value. You know, like I said, it's a three-step formula that I perfected where, in the end, it came to a point where I was then in the driver's seat like being picked up was just no-brainer, like having a man plan dates just no-brainer.

Speaker 1: 4:11

I was getting really top quality men that are over entrepreneurs or they're in the corporate world or they're dabbling in both, and they were intentional. They're planning the dates, they're calling you. And then it got to the point where it's like, okay, I'm the one who gets to choose, I'm the one who gets to say, actually I don't know if there's fully in alignment with me, but not from a point of me feeling like they don't even meet the basics. That makes sense, because, as I always say, you know, it's not just about good, it's about let's get someone who's really going to empower us, let's get someone who's really going to give us a kind of experience when it comes to a relationship, where we're settled in it in a way where we feel fulfilled. You know, we feel like we're on a journey together, and so I was really looking for that kind of quality.

Speaker 1: 4:55

So, in order to get there, this three step process really helped me see that. You know, as I just mentioned, it's not just about this one way of doing it, but you know these there's so many of you that are doing one part of that process and so, just because you're only doing one part, when it's a three-step process or three-step formula process, it's almost like you're not doing any of it and it all just falls through. It's almost like when you think about like business, like okay, you may be doing one part of it, your marketing may be great, but your products are not that great, so it's almost like you don't really have a successful business at all if you're fumbling on that one part. So if you're curious already about that, head to the link in my bio because I'm going to be talking about exactly what that process is and how to already start revolutionizing how men treat you, based on the high value top shelf woman that you are. But we're also going to be looking at why it is that you need to be aiming high, like there's so many of you that talk to me about. Maybe I should be dumbing it down a little bit, you know, maybe I shouldn't be aiming so high. Maybe I should knock some things off Actually part of your survival as a successful woman to make sure that you keep those standards high. And we're going to be talking about why. And we're going to be talking about how.

Speaker 1: 6:01

We're next going to be talking about what settling looks like, because so many women are talking about, oh, you know, maybe it's about a man earning a certain number in terms of finance. It's not about finances. That's one type of settling. It's only one type of. You know, each person is 360, you know, completely 3D dimensional. So we're going to be talking about what settling looks like from every different aspect, because there are types of settling that women miss because we feel like we should be the nice woman and we should just allow this and we shouldn't be so picky. So, again, that's going to be a really important topic if you're going to be bringing in the kind of quality men where you're not then disappointed on the third date because you let something slip when you could have just decided that was a no brainer deal breaker for you in the beginning. And thirdly, we're going to be looking at the different steps I took from 45 minute dates, which is ridiculous, to actually coming to a point now where I'm in partnership with someone who really we're really in a, in a how do I even?

Speaker 1: 7:00

I don't want to use the word power couple, because I know that word gets thrown away. I do love that word, but I want to give you more of a definition. It's in a way where I feel fulfilled, not because it's just about us being this codependent or merged identity, but it's from a really deep spiritual place where I just feel lit up, right. I feel lit up with him and I feel lit up without him, and that's the level that all of you should be aiming for. It's someone that can really give you that boost in terms of who you are and really help you evolve into the next iteration of who you're supposed to be. It's not about just going for the good guy, because there's 101 good guys out there. We really want to be digging up when we're really thinking about who it is that we want to become and who it is that we're becoming right now.

Speaker 1: 7:43

So I'll be talking about that in the masterclass and also in the masterclass, you'll get a little introduction about my signature program, which is called Attract your Equal. Now, attract your Equal is all about women like yourselves being able to attract your equal within five months or less and I say or less because there are women that have gone through that entire container, who have done it in three months. So it really is possible. And again, I love the number three. So there's a three-step process to that as well. So firstly, we'll be looking at your dating mindset. So so many of you are going into the dating scene with the same level of woundedness, and if you know anything about psychology and that projection, when you go into the dating world with the same level of woundedness, you actually attract that same person as well. So no wonder you're having not only the repeated situations happen, but you're also projecting that onto other people and attracting that same person, who also has you know, their feelings about what dating is like. So no wonder you're not moving forward together.

Speaker 1: 8:36

We'll then be looking at your dating filter. Now, when I say the word filter, a lot of people automatically think virtual. We're talking about like, what filters you put in your app. And I'm not only talking about that. I work with women who not only are on the dating apps, but they're also looking for organic reach as well. How do they do this organically. So the dating filter optimization part of Attract your Equal is about both. It's essentially about how can you filter so that you're not even attracting any of those guys that want to stay in the talking stage forever and ever and ever, or the guys that think it's okay to cancel the date after 45 minutes because they have something else to do. They're not even coming in into your world and there is a way to do that, both virtually and organically, that I will be teaching you, should you wish to be in that container in Attract your Equal.

Speaker 1: 9:20

And thirdly, this is my really favorite part of Attract your Equal program this is a high value magnet, high value man magnet blueprint. So first of all, we'll be identifying what a high value man looks like for you. Now, so many women think that, okay, I know what that looks like on paper. It's someone who's six foot, it's someone who, but and my clients have been through this program are really surprised and they have the breakthrough of, oh, I thought that's what I considered high value, but actually I also, or instead of that, I want this. And it's like, yeah, that's right, you know once we actually go through what that really means for you and not just why, not just like okay, this is what I want, but like why? You know, how does that tee into your evolution? That's where we can then pinpoint exactly where you can find them. That's another big question Where'd you find them? Where'd you find them? And we'll be looking at that based on your criteria. Them, where'd you find them? And we'll be looking at that based on your criteria, your new criteria of what a high value man looks like.

Speaker 1: 10:17

And the most important thing is you know, when you do find where they are, what do you do when you're there? You know, is it a case of you're just there and things just magically happen? No, you know, there is a practical strategy that we will work through as well. So if all of that interests you, my suggestion is first signing up for the masterclass. This is where you're going to get the bread and butter of how to change your strategy literally overnight. Once you hit end, call on that Zoom. These are strategies that you can really implement. They're things that you can already incorporate into your world and you can find those shifts.

Speaker 1: 10:48

I remember when I first ever did this workshop, women were talking to me about the things that they were manifesting, sending me messages. It was crazy. That's literally just from the masterclass alone. So if you want to experience exactly the same and you want to learn how to do things differently not the way that's just been regurgitated out by different dating coaches all over the internet then I recommend going to the link in my bio, getting yourself a free spot. Are live thursday, the 8th of august, which is next week, and I cannot wait to have you there, and there's a bonus surprise for those of you who come live. It's really, really important. I think this is the most generous I've ever been in my entire career. So definitely come live for your bonus gift and I cannot wait to see you there. See you there, see you later. You Thank you.