CLIENT SPOTLIGHT SPECIAL: From Self-Doubt to Empress Energy: Megan's Journey to Authentic Dating

Megan shares her transformative journey from seeking validation in dating to reclaiming her power and self-worth through our private coaching journey together. Her story demonstrates how confronting dating fears leads to unexpected freedom from rejection anxiety and a clearer vision of what she truly desires in a partner.

• Megan worked with Rachel on relationship coaching combined with tarot readings and a love compatibility report
• Two major breakthroughs: reclaiming her power in dating situations and realizing rejection didn't affect her as feared
• Discovering she could evaluate potential partners without giving away her power or feeling like a "pick me"
• Moving from therapy to coaching because she needed specialized guidance for her specific dating challenges
• Setting clear standards for a partner: reliability, honesty, clear boundaries, and someone who views a relationship as "the bonus"
• Building her "trust muscle" with the universe as an unexpected benefit of the personal development work

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Client Spotlight
• 3:02 Two Major Relationship Breakthroughs
• 6:10 From Therapy to Relationship Coaching
• 9:26 Defining Ideal Partner Traits
• 13:25 Advice for Women Considering Coaching
• 16:58 Building Trust with the Universe

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Did I give it?

Speaker 2: 0:01

away, or was it persuasion? You are in my space. I I, oh wait, I don't care what you say, I'm loving it this way. I'm hoping that you stay. I I, oh wait, it's only you. Or was it your wish? It's only you, it's only you.

Speaker 1: 0:22

I don't care what you say, I'm loving it this way. I'm hoping that you stay okay. So we have a bit of a special client spotlight today. I'm joined by the wonderful Megan, who has honestly been so lovely to work with. I'm really really grateful for our time together and, you know, I really love your story. I love where you came from, particularly in where you are right now. So I definitely was like, yeah, she's perfect for this series of everyone feeding back what's been happening in their life and their coaching journey so far. So, Megan, without further ado, why don't you introduce yourself and tell us who you are, what you do and what we were working on together?

Speaker 2: 1:17

OK, thank you very much for the introduction, rachel, really appreciate it. So my name is Megan Halliday, I'm 38. I'm from London, really appreciate it. So my name is Megan Halliday, I'm 38. I'm from London, I work in finance as an executive assistant and I came to Rachel for relationship coaching. So, yes, so I came to Rachel for relationship coaching.

Speaker 2: 1:37

We also did a bit of tarot at the end of every session and I also did the love compatibility with Rachel which has been really really insightful and it's one of those things that I listen to every once in a while, and every time I listen to it, something new resonates which didn't initially resonate with me. Oh, I didn't pick up the first time, or the second time, or the third time, um, so it seems to, uh, certain things seem more poignant than other.

Speaker 1: 2:11

you know, previous times, um and um, I've really enjoyed my sessions with Rachel yeah, and you know it's so funny that you said those exact words about the love compatibility report, because I literally scream and shout this all the time and it's just so nice to hear from the horse's mouth that, yeah, actually it's the gift that keeps on giving. It's like Christmas day it just keeps giving and giving those kind of gifts. Um, because it's just strange how our brain operates. Right, our brain and our spirit will just take what it needs at the right time, even if it's the same content you know, um, which is awesome. So talk to us about, like, what you feel was the biggest breakthrough so far, because you know you were telling us about relationships, but, like, tell us specifically what you wanted to work on and, yeah, what was the biggest breakthrough, do you think, in this part of your journey?

Speaker 2: 3:02

so I think, when I and when, when I came to you and I, my initial sort of uh objective was to uh, build my confidence and get back out into the dating world, but I walked away with some incredible breakthroughs which go so much more deeper than just getting out back into the dating world. Um, so I would say, actually, I had two really profound, profoundly big breakthroughs, one of which was calling my power back, being able to sit in my own power and my own self-worth and really feel that and be in it and let that project out as well, which massively helped with confidence, especially being on a date and even, you know, being on a date that I knew I wasn't feeling you know the feels from him and he wasn't feeling the feels from me. But I still sat in that and was still in a place where I could be like well, we know this day is not you know it's we're not each other's match and that's fine, but I'm still going to sit here in my power. I'm not going to hand my power over to somebody else. Um, I, I'm going to sit in my value. I know my strengths, I know I have a lot to bring to the table, I know who I am and I'm just going to sit here and have a really pleasant conversation with somebody who seems nice enough, just not my match.

Speaker 2: 4:28

Um, and then I think the second biggest break, the second big breakthrough I had was, um, just feeling the fear and doing it. Anyway, I think that I felt that if a date or dates didn't go very well, I felt like I would feel a particular way about that, would I feel the sting of rejection, how would I react to that and how would that make me feel about myself? And the truth of the matter is I didn't feel anything. I didn't feel rejected, I didn't feel like I had something to prove to somebody else and I was able to walk away with a feeling of okay, so that was an experience and I met somebody new, but were they my match? No, they weren't, and I didn't feel any other way about it.

Speaker 2: 5:24

And then, you know, after some pleasant conversation and a couple of drinks, hopped on abouts and went on home and had a lovely evening, you know, catching up with my friend, who I live with, you know. So I feel that those are the two big, fundamental, like you know, breakthroughs that I had, um, which, which has been amazing because I feel like I proved myself wrong and I was able to, you know, feel okay about going back out and dating and not taking it personally and not feeling like I owed somebody something or I wasn't enough, and I feel like that in itself was quite a big breakthrough.

Speaker 1: 6:10

That's so amazing. I just love everything you said, because it's exactly what I really want to put out into the world, and you definitely like hit the nail on the head with this that it's not about being chosen, you know, it's not about any of this. It's really sitting in this, empress energy and holding the vision, which is exactly what you're doing now holding the vision, attracting more of these opportunities and understanding the difference between your value and these opportunities that come in. They do not have to be intrinsically linked whatsoever. So I honestly feel like you've done an amazing job, like knowing where you've come from to here. Even your aura just radiates, like yeah, I'm Megan, you know I'm here, I'm a whole vibe, you know I'm a whole galaxy of myself, and if you get to come on this journey, then you're pretty fortunate, you know, because it's a pretty good time over here. So I love that for you.

Speaker 1: 7:05

So where? Well, I guess we spoke a little bit about like where you were in your love life so far. So where, I guess what made you think, all right, I'm at this part of my journey? Because I know you had done loads of different things before. You'd done, like, some healing work, you'd been therapy and all this, this stuff what made you want to make further change and be like, no, okay, so this part of my life I'm willing to invest in Rachel, like I want to do life coaching, like what made things click for you um, I think it was I.

Speaker 2: 7:38

Yes, I've done a lot of work in therapy and I've unpacked a lot um, but I felt like I needed something that was a little bit more more of a niche um and um.

Speaker 2: 7:49

I really wanted to expand more on the real dating world. I guess um and um that was you know, I, I do. I'm very much in a place where um that was you know, I, I do. I'm very much in a place where I know I don't need to be with somebody to feel a sense of fulfillment. But I do acknowledge that I would like to eventually meet my person and um, I recognize that. You know, if I don't explore that, if I don't work on that, and if I don't, you know, iron out these, these few crinkles that I have, I'm never going to start the journey to meet my person. So for me it was really important to take that, that first step, and start to, to actually spend some time working on that, that one specific area yeah, I think it's really intentional of you as well, because it's really common to just have that desire, have that quiet confidence and that quiet wanting of.

Speaker 1: 8:49

That's what I want and then go into what a lot of women do at the moment, where it's like it's just gonna happen, you know, and that actually is an avoidance tactic so that they don't have to deal with the rejection, they don't have to deal with the trial and error and working through things and ultimately exposing their own vulnerability. But you've been like, actually I know that that's that there. That risk is there, but it's not going to kill me and I do want this. I've got to do something about it, you know, yeah, exactly, yeah, so brave and like so what do you feel like is a one tactic? I feel, when it comes to dating, that you're definitely going to be running away with moving forward when you're meeting these new people in your life?

Speaker 2: 9:46

these initial meetings, um, and going in knowing exactly who I am and you know, figuring out if this is somebody that I may click with but not in and then an overly like, you know, not in a way where you know I'm going to hang on this person's every word. You know. It's really about me figuring out does this person, does this person, have similar values? Does this person have? You know? It's really about me figuring out does this person, does this person, have similar values? Does this person have, you know, the same ambitions and the same goals and the same objectives on a, on a personal level, um, in terms of relationships, um, and really de-centering them in in a way where I evaluate whether or not this person takes those boxes for me instead of handing my power over to somebody else and feeling like please pick me, just pick me.

Speaker 2: 10:32

Yeah, not that I even feel like I've even been a pick me, but I think every woman can resonate with that just a little bit.

Speaker 2: 10:38

So if everything was in your favor and you could ultimately, you know, guarantee success like where would you see yourself with your love life in six months, at the end of the year being out there, dating um, being very specific about who I meet with um and being very clear my intentions in who I'm meeting with um, and I know the, the type of person that I want in my life and the type of person I deserve to have in my life, um, and I'm just not prepared to settle because, yeah, I think ultimately I would much rather spend a fulfilled life with family and friends and amazing people in my life than in a relationship that doesn't make me happy. And then I've just ticked some boxes that society expects me to tick.

Speaker 1: 11:26

That's so good and you know I love when other women inspire other women or women inspire other women. I should say in terms of what it is that you're looking for, because now I can just feel you're in a completely different vibration when you are talking about that person you want to meet. So could you give us like some characteristics of what's on your like list of things that are desired traits, I should say, for the kind of guy you want to call in?

Speaker 2: 11:53

I think that for me, is somebody who is reliable, somebody who follows through with what they say they're going to do, somebody who is honest and somebody who is very clear on who knows what they want and also very clear on their boundaries, somebody who is very much their own person and their own right, um, and understands that a relationship is just the bonus, you know, um, and that is that, that's what I want, and I know that there is somebody out there who has that, who has those traits, um, and I'm, you know, I'm looking forward to meeting him, so excited I'm excited for you to meet him too.

Speaker 1: 12:36

I can't wait. I'm really, you know, I'm looking forward to meeting him so excited. I'm excited for you to meet him, too. I can't wait. I'm really looking forward to the day of just like there won't even be any warning, I'm just going to get a selfie with you, too, and it'd be like I knew you were going to do it. I knew you were completely capable of this and how not like I just you know I've said this already on this recording but you're really glowing. You seem like you're in such a good space, and it comes from this inner strength, right, that wasn't necessarily 100% present before we started this work. So I'm just so proud of you and, you know, I hope you're really celebrating all the success that you've had so far.

Speaker 2: 13:14

Thank, you, rachel. I mean it couldn't be possible without you, that, your guidance and your steers. So thank you.

Speaker 1: 13:21

Oh, it's so sweet and so what about anyone? Because there are plenty of women that like swim my orbit. You know they're hovering around and just not quite sure. And I get it, because there's so many of us relationship coaches out there. We all have our different little niche. Um, I love to price myself on being different, like I, exactly as you said, don't believe in women just being a relationship, to be in a relationship. We're all beautiful. We can be in a relationship tomorrow, yeah, with anyone, but we don't just want anyone, you know. So what would you say to a woman listening to this right now? She's not really sure about private coaching. What would you say to them if they're in front of you?

Speaker 2: 14:00

Yeah, I mean, I think it just depends on where you are with your journey.

Speaker 2: 14:04

But I would say, as a starting point, if this is something that you know you want to dig deeper into and you know you really want to start to reframe and rework your ideas around dating, maybe your self-worth, your confidence, getting yourself out there, absolutely Like, I think that you're so constructive with your guidance and your steer and all the tools and all the topics that we've discussed, and it certainly helps build, and you definitely do work on a lot of the that may may even just be in a blind spot that you're not even that aware of, and I think that the outcome will very much surprise you in the sense of like, if you're open to it and you're prepared to do the work, um, you'll be so surprised with the outcome because I was, like I expected to feel things that I didn't end up feeling and life went on like life was good, you know, and I think just calling my power back, like for me specifically, being able to call my power back and sitting myself with and sitting, my own power and, as you said, my imprint impressed power that is just such a powerful, powerful, powerful position to put yourself into and you know, my experience has been really, really positive and I would encourage anybody who is even remotely curious just to give it a go.

Speaker 2: 15:28

I mean, even if you just do the love, compatibility, you know, that in itself, I think, is very insightful and it's something that you have forever and it's something that you can go back to at different times in your life. It could be a month or two apart, it could be a week or two apart, like you will pull something different out of it every single time and it'll just feed it more into your self-awareness and just kind of, you know, help you put the puzzle pieces in place. So I would highly recommend, if anybody is even remotely curious, you know, to speak to Rachel and you know she can run you through everything she has to offer. And, yeah, I certainly hope that there is something, that there is something enticing in that for you.

Speaker 1: 16:16

Yeah, oh, I think, yeah, it's really really great. That report particularly is so good and I think, like for your coaching as well, it was a good complementary to the work that we were doing as well. Yeah, so no, thank you so much for that. And, like I said again, you know it's women like you who are open, you're ready for change, that are just so easy to work with because you're open, and you know, if you're open, then everything can fall in line for you. So I'm excited. So, ok, what are you celebrating today? Like what's like a win that's been recent that we haven't covered already.

Speaker 2: 16:54

Oh my goodness you know what. Actually, this might sound a little bit woo-woo. I don't know how much of this you want to use but, um, I, I've been, I've been practicing.

Speaker 2: 17:07

I appreciate this one.

Speaker 2: 17:08

Yeah, it's gonna sound very, very woo-woo, but I've been practicing on my trust muscle, in the sense of asking the universe for the things that I want and then having them show up, in some cases the same day.

Speaker 2: 17:22

And I've experienced this in the last two weeks, um, and that has been quite a bit of a win.

Speaker 2: 17:31

It's been a massive eye-opener for me, um and um, I appreciate, appreciate this is a little bit of a, you know, a side tangent, but I do think that, with your coaching, I think with every step I've taken in terms of my own personal self-development, it's led me on to something else. That has, you know, um, that has made me rethink or delve deeper into certain things that were kind of on the periphery and I've kind of brought to the center and kind of focused on that and worked on that and I feel like that has been quite a big. I appreciate it's separate from you know, the relationship coaching, but I think that the wind that I've had the last couple of weeks in terms of really building that trust muscle and seeing the universe bring things in for me, um, has been, it's been amazing and amazing it's so beautiful and it's so related to relationship coaching, because you need that trust, right, you need to be like I'm, you know, surrendering to that and good, okay.

Speaker 1: 18:37

well, thank you so much for sharing everything that you did. You know you've been really open, really vulnerable with everybody here. So, yeah, thank you so much, and we will definitely, I'm sure, bump heads in some capacity, I'm sure, in the next six months again.

Speaker 2: 18:52

Yeah, yeah, excellent. Thank you so much. Thank you, rachel. Thank you for all your help, all your guidance, all your support. I really really appreciate it.

Speaker 1: 19:00

thank you for giving me to this next stage oh no, thank you, and you say you're ready to leave you.