Overcomers Approach

Insightful conversation with Carly Pippin on unraveling human behavior, embracing authenticity, and reshaping personal narratives for profound growth

• Nichol Ellis-McGregor • Season 5 • Episode 1

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We explore the deep connection between personal narratives and growth with Consultant Carly Pippin. By reframing our stories, embracing authenticity, and letting go of comparisons, we can unlock our fullest potential and build fulfilling lives.

• Shifting perspectives on personal narratives for transformation 
• Understanding the power of memory and anti-memory 
• Strategies to break free from feelings of being stuck 
• Emphasizing the importance of authenticity in our lives 
• Navigating the comparison trap in social media 
• Preparing for leadership responsibilities and transitions 
• The significance of legacy in personal and professional contexts 
• Final reflections on enjoying the journey toward self-discovery

Authenticity takes center stage as we explore its vital role in personal relationships and self-perception. Carly challenges the notion of seeking universal approval, encouraging us to be true to ourselves and form genuine connections. We discuss the comparison trap, particularly in the age of social media, and stress the importance of focusing on personal growth over external validation. By embracing our true selves, we can cultivate relationships that are not only supportive but also challenge us to grow in meaningful ways.

Aspiring leaders and entrepreneurs, this one's for you! We discuss the psychological shifts and adjustments required to transition into leadership roles, from setting clear priorities to maintaining financial stability. Carly emphasizes the importance of self-accountability and the journey of growth that leadership entails. The episode concludes with a heartfelt reflection on building a legacy aligned with personal purpose, reminding us that every experience contributes to our journey. Tune in for insights on embracing growth both personally and professionally, and connect with Carly through West Coast Growth Advisors for guidance on your path.

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Speaker 1:

Good day everyone. This is Nicole Ellis McGregor, the founder of the Overcomers Approach podcast. I am so happy to have here Carly Pippin, and she is an international speaker and consultant with a specialized focus on human behavior with a global reach. She delivers the message that, regardless of anyone's background, occupation or origin, every individual encounters personal and professional challenges stemming from their own perceived flaws.

Speaker 1:

Carly emphasizes that the key to living a fulfilling life is how you and we utilize and transform these stories. She has devoted her life to mastering the intricacies of human behavior. Carly empowers others to do the same. Through her expertise, she guides individuals in looking beyond the surface and dwelling into the core essence of their being. By uncovering and addressing the deeper issues that hinder personal growth, carly enables her clients to design their lives with purpose, rather than succumbing to a life dedicated to duty. That is amazing, carly. I am so happy to have you here. I definitely know that what you have to offer and your expertise and experience falls in line with the Overcomers approach. With my listeners, who come from all backgrounds, all walks of life, occupations, all cultures, we're all trying to move to our fullest potential, and that starts with mindset. Tell me, carly, how did you get here today to go into this field to empower other people to do the same.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I would say it's similar to many individual stories where we have our own personal challenges and struggles and once we find the thing that really sticks, then really gives us those amazing transformations, it's hard to not want to share them, it's hard to not want to actually bring this to other individuals and help them get to the other side.

Speaker 1:

Exactly, I totally agree with you. We're in this together and using that shared lived experience with others to let people know that it is possible. What can people expect to change in our lives by shifting their perspectives on the stories they've created?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so when individuals have these stories, they literally live by them and sometimes we don't even recognize how attached we are to this story, which is quite interesting, but it'll frame how you view and experience your entire world. So if you have a particular story about any individual, including yourself, that it is this way and this is the way it is and it's no other way, that is how you will live and experience your world, and the interesting thing is it's just a story. The world has delivered to us both sides of the equation in whatever we experience. And when you see the other side, which you know they had an article in Scientific American, I think it was in the last year they actually talk about this. We have memory and we have anti-memory. So we have what we remember, which is our story, but then we have the other data and details that we forgot, which is our anti-memory.

Speaker 2:

So when we kind of dive in and see that other side and we pull through that anti-memory, what's really inspiring is it changes the story. We see what really occurred, we see what's really happening and that changes the whole experience of our life. So even I was working with an individual who had a perception about their mom, just a perception about their mom and the challenges that they've gone through. And when we shifted the story and we saw what actually truly occurred that there was both challenge and support in the situation with their mom, it completely changed the experience that they were having with her. And what's interesting is they went from I'm never going to talk to this woman again to hey, Carly, we're good, we're cool. Now I'm actually enjoying this relationship, thank you. So it's quite an interesting dynamic.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I definitely love that, and I'm kind of a nerd when it comes to reading those type of books and articles. I'm nowhere in the medical field or in psychology, but I work in the field of human services and so where I see a lot of people going through some struggles and challenges and, just like you said, we have that memory and we have that anti-memory and how we perceive things, you know cause we have a real lived story. But then how do we work through those challenges to become our best selves? And I so totally like that, because I think what some people do is that they have their story and, like you said, they're never going to speak to their mother again, or I'm cutting half of my family off, or conflict seeing what's on the other side of that, and that we get to grow.

Speaker 1:

We get to grow with our people, whether that's our family, our tribe people, we work with our career, and so I definitely love that and that's the space that I'm in and that's something that I completely agree with you with, because if there's no growth and we have our story, but the story still is yet to be written, and so I definitely, definitely love that concept. What do you think people could do, because people get stuck. They get stuck in that space of my story and they own it like a badge of honor and I think in some aspects we can, we should. But when it's time for us to grow or move forward or really work on that, what are some of the things you think people would do to become unstuck?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, so definitely, it's first also just reflecting on that dynamic and knowing first off. First, it's like this isn't a place of, you know, we need to judge ourselves and hate ourselves and beat ourselves up. Um, first thing is I really like to help shift the perception to realize that there's a reason this is occurring, you know, and. And so we don't have to sit here and be like what's wrong with me, right, we kind of change the quality of the question where it's like what is happening, like why is this occurring, instead of like what's wrong with me, there's something bad wrong I need to fix myself. It's why is this occurring? Instead of like what's wrong with me, there's something bad wrong I need to fix myself. It's like why is this genuinely occurring? And then we kind of dive in and we just ask more questions to see how to get to the other side.

Speaker 2:

You know, I've had individuals who we find out what their strategy is in certain dynamics and it's like well, why would you actually change that? Like I know what I know about you, like this is actually quite a beautiful strategy for you and you've just been judging it at this bad, wrong thing, as opposed to understanding, like what it truly is right. And it's funny because I remember working with an individual who they really love personal development. They really love it and they struggle sometimes with the investment internally, and so every time that we would have a new package together, it would just there would be some crazy blow up in their life and then they'd have a new package and then by the time they had their first session, everything would be okay. And we had a giggle and I was like okay, so your strategy is you've been consistent and we've worked together. You know, once every other week for years, right, and that's the consistency. But your pattern is is you're struggling, giving yourself permission to actually invest in this, and so your life blows up. And then by the time we get on the phone, everything's fine, but you're grateful you bought the package because you really wanted to do it anyway. So I was like all right, how do we actually just give you permission to do what you want, right? So, um, and it was fun, because after that it just became it's just like a regular thing now, right, it's like now she just has permission.

Speaker 2:

But it was kind of going and finding the root cause of that, which wasn't actually the blow-ups that were occurring, but it was this perception that she had growing up about, you know, spending money and what she should spend money on and shouldn't spend money, and all this like feedback that she had gotten where it's like no, the truth is it's like she can afford it, she's totally fine, and she's just made it like a pattern and the big blows don't have to happen anymore. So we all have these, these things that occur. We all have these dynamics and these.

Speaker 2:

You know the stories that we tell us, the patterns that we have, and the first thing is we identify them. And the second is, you know I like to put a little lightness on it we don't need to judge it. No matter what you're doing, you're doing it for a reason and you have some value and you're doing it for a purpose. So it's like let's actually understand why it's there and then, if it's required to be transformed which some of them, we do transform, because some of them can be damaging to our health and wellness and finances and stuff like that, but other ones, you know, they're actually fine and they serve a purpose. And you look and you're like it's actually not damaging, right, kind of a brilliant strategy, like why would you change this?

Speaker 1:

I love that. I love that which leads me to being authentic and being transparent. So part of, I think, that work is you have to have a sense of authenticity, like to move forward in what, in what you want, you know, into that next level and to really set your mindset to really be able to move to the next step. And some people, you know it's like a catch word now be authentic, be transparent, but that's a real thing. How do you think people can to prepare theirself for the mindset shift? And I feel like the story you just told me kind of aligns with that somewhat, because there's a part of the story that's working for us, you know. But how do we just be true to ourselves and be true to who we? You know we were created to be like? I think we are genuinely similar but like, yet different, and there's so much value in that and don't don't run from that when, when there's some aspects of that that's good, like, how do people remain to be authentic?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah. There's definitely some unrealistic expectations that we place on ourself and even others that they're going to like us, right. So we expect other people to like us when we're authentic, or we expect to be liked when we're authentic. That's not the purpose of being authentic. In fact, you're probably going to piss a lot of people off and just remember like half the world's going to love you and half the world's going to hate you. We get to see it with leaders and we actually get to see how balanced it is. In our world, we're truly. Half of individuals support them and half of the people in the world really hate them and think they're awful, right, and so it's like it's it's our own personal desires that we think we need to be liked by everyone, which you just can't you just can't.

Speaker 2:

So part of it, as well as when you're being authentic, is like understand you're not being authentic to be liked, you're being authentic to be you, and the main person that's going to like you is you, and you wake up with you every day, you go to bed with you every day, like I highly suggest, like loving and appreciate yourself.

Speaker 2:

It's the only person you're not going to get rid of, the only person that's not coming in out of your life is you. So when you struggle with that relationship, it's probably one of the biggest struggles of all. And so when we think about like that authenticity, I say it like sometimes I've had clients who have been in relationships and stuff and they have gotten into this authentic component and all of a sudden that relationship shifts right. And then they're out and it's like, well, what were you doing before? What did they sign up for? And it's like, well, they signed up for this facade that I couldn't hold up anymore. And it's like awesome. And now, after that, it's like, when these individuals left, like, what kind of friendships are you attracting? What of new potentials? And it's like ones that are actually in alignment with me, where I can be myself, and it's like great. So what do you really want, you know? So it's like we go through the pain of kind of disconnecting from the individuals that really just don't align with us.

Speaker 2:

You know, they just don't, and technically you don't align with them either you gotta be someone else to keep them around like chances are that's not someone that you align with anyways. So yeah, authenticity is it's not about being liked, it's about being liked by yourself. It's about loving and appreciating who you are and being. You know those individuals. That again, it's not just the supporter but it's also the challenger, right? Because if we're truly authentic and you really care about someone and you really care about the individuals in front of you, you're not just going to show up and sugarcoat things all the time. You're going to say like, hey, I'm paying attention to this, are you paying attention to this?

Speaker 2:

And sometimes there's conflict and arguments and challenges that come with it. But what about you? I want my friends to be authentic and they do. And they say, carly, do you hear yourself? Like I don't think you're hearing yourself and I'm like, yes, thank you. I'm like it's so annoying, but I see it now and I'm I'm annoyed and I'm going to write it down and those are my good friends.

Speaker 1:

Awesome.

Speaker 1:

I love that. I love the. Then, basically, you said you know we're not, not everybody's going to like us. You know, and I love the fact that you brought you know we have leaders and leadership in all aspects of the world and we do see about half people like half people hate them, and it just shows me like there's a resiliency in the leaders. But also, just turning that to ourselves and saying, hey, we're not here to be liked by everybody, we are here to like ourselves and those people that align with us are going to be with us and those people that aren't aren't and that's okay.

Speaker 1:

And maybe through the process of learning that, you're finding out that maybe it's just not a good relationship or whatever that relationship, whether it's professional or personal or whatever that looks like, maybe this is not, we're not aligned to be together, and that's okay. And just having that awareness I think is huge. And I like the fact that you say you know, when you reflect, you know, and then you have those people there that do like you and do care for you and are going to be authentic with you and maybe challenge you in areas, because if they really care about you and they're aligned with you. They're going to want you to grow and flourish and do great things, and I definitely love that, because some people feel tied or committed to somebody who maybe has been in their life, maybe they've been their friend for 20 years and it's no longer we're we're different people now and and so I've had that with myself and and and I think part of me is that we grow through these journeys and we find out like, oh, we were friends in high school, but we were just we're different people. Now we don't align, and that's okay, you know, that's okay, and I love the fact that you said that.

Speaker 1:

So, yeah, I'm going to take that and carry that with me because I think, especially based on your story or where you've been in life, you get so tied to the story that you stay tied to things that maybe you shouldn't, and so that's good, that is definitely good. What do you think? People, as we go through life and it ends and now anybody, I think, just the use of social media and what goes on in the world it's easy to start comparing yourselves to other people Like this I should do that, this is where I should be, or their life looks so wonderful. Those are really like social media moments, and sometimes we don't know if they're real or not, and so I think what do you think people can do to get out of the comparison trap of that Like, and why do you think people compare themselves to people so much? Yeah?

Speaker 2:

Yeah. So that comparison dynamic is. You know, individuals are having these unrealistic expectations to have a life that's actually not their own. What's's interesting is, you'll look at something. You'll be like I wish I had that, I wish I had that. And it's like, okay, you know, I wish I could travel more, I wish I could buy more of this fancy stuff.

Speaker 2:

And it's like, and and I'll sit there and I'll be like, okay, let's take a look at your bank account. I was like could you do it? What could we put out? What could we put out in your life that would give you permission to do that? And then we look and it's like, oh, wow, we actually can budget and we can cut things to actually give you what you want. And it's like, but is that worth it to you? You know, do you want to actually cut those things that you're investing in? And then they say no. And I say can you see that you can actually have a lot of these things that you're comparing yourself to, but you're choosing not to because what you're truly investing in is what's important to you, right, and that's, and I think that's like the fascinating thing. I mean, I think about it with personal development too, like there's individuals who don't travel as much. I don't travel as much anymore.

Speaker 2:

I spend so much on my personal development. It's crazy. So I could be traveling every month if I just stopped spending on my personal development, but I don't want to. To me, this is the travel within, this is the travel inside, this is the travel within my own psyche, my mind, understanding human behavior to the greatest degree possible, and so that's my version of travel. And so if I go out and compare myself and be like, oh, I wish I had what they had. It's like well, where do.

Speaker 2:

I actually have it in my own form, where I've invested that time and energy. Sometimes we even compare it to relationships, and I see this with a lot of individuals who really, truly value maybe business or finances or another area of life over relationships, where they're like I wish I had that relationship and it's like, well, where do you have that relationship? Where do you have those deep connections? And I see it very often, especially with business owners and executives, where they're like my employees or my family, and I'm like, yeah, they're the ones I'm most connected with and I said, okay, so I could switch it out and you can have this relationship that you see, but you don't get the ones that the business cause look, he doesn't have it, he's not building that, and it's like do you want that? No, I actually love my life.

Speaker 2:

So we get caught in these comparisons because we forget how much we truly love our life. We forget how much we truly are grateful for what we created in our form, because just for these moments and times, we think it should come in this way and if it's not coming in this way, it's not valuable to me. So this is really important. When we get stuck in those comparisons. It's like what are you actually admiring in them and where do you have it in your own form? And one really quick example as well. This is really helpful is even if we think about wealth, if you valued finances and wealth building, you would have it like the other individuals that you're admiring, but you don't.

Speaker 2:

And there's nothing wrong with that right, like I still suggest, like creating financial stability, because that's important. It's the world we live in. But at the same time, it's like if I go through your life and I ask you in all these different areas of your life, the things that are important to you, how much you would sell them for Right, if I could buy them. There are things in there that are priceless, that these wealthy individuals don't have. Because that's your wealth, that's what you invested in, right. And when I say, okay, I'll give you all the money in the world, but you don't get this anymore, you see the look on people's faces. They're like I cannot live without this. And it's like that's because that's worth more to you than what they have in their bank account. And they said no to that because the bank account's more important. And there's nothing wrong with either decision, but it's having gratitude for what you created. Yeah, yeah that is.

Speaker 1:

That is good. You know that is good on so many levels. I think to like the comparison trap. You know, like people have different values and people have different things that are important to them in their life. It doesn't make anyone less wrong or right. It's what works for you and what's important to you. And if you want to do those things, what the questions are what do you need to do to get there? How do you want to do it? Can you do it? Like some real realistic, practical questions that need to be asked. And once you come into your awareness, do you really even want that life that?

Speaker 1:

You see, and I could totally understand that, and me and my husband used to travel more frequently and now we've gotten to the point in our life we've done a lot. He's done way more than me and that's fine. He does it for his work but we begin to feel like, should we go on a vacation? Like no, we really didn't feel like it. And once we thought about the time we're exhausted sometimes when we get back home, we really wanted our travels to be intentional, like was there something new about the culture that we wanted to learn? What was the purpose? Was it really for rest, like we really wanted to be intentional about where are we traveling to and to the money thing Can we really like afford it? Like, if we don't want to spend $3,000 or whatever it costs to go somewhere, what can we invest that in that's going to be important to our home and what will be a better outcome for us? And so we really begin to ask those questions and I love the fact that you stated like to really have that self-awareness, like is that really important to me? And really get the focus on us and not so much on them, because they're doing what they, what works for them. And and I also have met people who that is their life. Work is their life and they love it and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that, yeah, and so I love that. And it just reminds me to just kind of just stay in our lanes and find out what really works for us and ask those questions. So I really really do. I really like that. That truly resonates with me.

Speaker 1:

What should people do as they transition into leadership roles in their companies or they've taken on entrepreneurship, their own business, so that brings a whole nother set of responsibilities. Sometimes that means you're responsible for a team. Sometimes that may mean you're responsible for a budget. If you're an entrepreneur, you are responsible for structure in your day. It takes a whole lot more self-discipline, and so those are all good things. But sometimes, when people make the transition, I think they have to reset their priorities or ask themselves re-ask themselves questions, because this journey may look a little different. Or ask themselves re-ask themselves questions, because this journey may look a little different. What do you think could help people as they prepare a transition into leadership or entrepreneurship pursuits? What do you think could help with that? Because it may shift their value system a little, may shake things up a bit.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it definitely shakes things up definitely.

Speaker 2:

So, when we think about this as well. This is just a forever journey of refine, repeat, refine, repeat, refine, repeat. You know, I think it's like when we step into that next role. Sometimes it's almost like our internal system says we've made it, but you'll never make it. There's nowhere to make it to, and every time we achieve a goal, there's going to be another goal, and another goal, and another goal. And so just remember that we've never made it. There's going to be forever learning and growing opportunities, and that's why I say refine, repeat, right.

Speaker 2:

So we hop in, we see exactly what's going on, the challenges that are occurring, and we really structure our lives around overcoming them, making sure that we're structuring our lives around the day-to-day things that are our top priorities and then ensuring that we're holding ourselves accountable for it. As an entrepreneur, you are the only one who is going to be holding you accountable. I think it's a little tricky, but remember, at the end of the day, the other thing that holds you accountable is your bank account, your livelihood right, because if you don't get this right, your livelihood is impacted. So that's your accountability. Partner is your actual livelihood, and if it's not functioning and it's not doing well, then it's to check in and be like okay, where am I not holding myself accountable? Because my accountability partner is like you're not. You're not sorting this out like and what's the next steps?

Speaker 2:

right, when we think about leadership roles, like even you as a leader, if you're in a company, you want to have this accountability level, because if you're not holding yourself accountable, guess, guess what You're not going to be able to hold your team accountable right. And so, even having these other leaders around you and these other individuals that can help, whenever I work with companies they're implementing the job scorecards, they're getting talent assessments done and the importance of it is is you want to know where you're at, want to be able to tell, like an employee, exactly what they're responsible for. You want them to understand the priorities, because if they don't, they're just working day-to-day on just these day-to-day tasks, not understanding the true priorities of the business, of the company and so, yeah, whenever we're stepping into these next stages, it's like it could be really challenging if you don't understand your priorities.

Speaker 2:

You don't understand where you're going whether you're in a business or you're doing it on your own and you don't understand, like even the values of the company, whether it's your own Company or a company you're working for because then it's like what are we showing up to do? Just day-to-day tasks and leadership? It's not so much about day-to-day tasks anymore. It's about that vision, that mission and making sure all of it is structured to achieve that right. And so that's where it starts to shift and change, where you go from being the employee getting stuff done to actually having more thinking time and more implementing time and more innovating time and creative time and more problem-solving time and more you know delegation time. So it's a really different role and sometimes even getting accustomed to that can take some time. And especially if you're promoted in a business, I know it can feel uncomfortable sometimes to move from that role of being a colleague with these individuals to now basically your boss.

Speaker 2:

You're the boss and you're going to tell them what to do or not to do and it's like, man, I was just complaining about my boss with you last week and now I'm the boss and it's like so that's also a psychological transition where you're going to get accustomed to now being more of the challenger you know, so it's, it's a really interesting dynamic and I think we get excited about being a leader, but then we get slammed with all these things because we forget to prepare ourselves for the other side, Right?

Speaker 2:

So definitely just telling you guys all this now so you can start to think what are the challenges that come with being a leader and how can I even prepare for those things now. You know, and even as an entrepreneur. It's like what are the challenges that come with being an entrepreneur and how can I prepare for those things now?

Speaker 2:

You know, and even that dynamic when people are leading into entrepreneurship like I highly suggest, like, if you have a full-time job, do stuff on the side. If you have a part-time job, that's also great, do stuff on the side. But I don't suggest draining your savings and you're investing in your financial stability to build a business, because what happens then is you actually watch your finances drain and you feel the stability go away and that makes you more volatile in your business and it makes it harder to build you know, it's a lesson I learned the hard way until.

Speaker 2:

I actually understood human behavior and then, yeah, I actually, after I learned that the hard way, I went back and I got a part-time job and it was the best thing I ever did for myself and I kept it until it was like I'm good, I can go now, I can now and and it's different because it's like when you watch that savings drain versus you're building your business and you have that part-time job and you watch it grow- there's a huge difference in how your business gets built. The psychological impact is massive.

Speaker 1:

I love it. I love what you said because I can relate to both sides. So I was. I went into not my current role, because I still hold a maintain a job as I do side my side visions and stuff. And I did try that where I was like I'm just my husband's like quit your job, go into your purpose of mission as our savings depleted, as my credit card debt got higher, that's not going to work, work. So it's like let me get back into a field and I definitely. I took a job just to get money, but then I also found that I needed to attain a job that fell in line with my core values and my purpose, which is what I've done, so it brings more balance and peace for me. So it's not like I'm going to work, I'm really fulfilling my purpose and destiny at work. But also I'm doing these things on the side that do this fulfill the same intrinsic thing that I love to do, which is to serve, empower, educate and so. But I did try that. That didn't work for me at all. So I get that and it takes planning and discipline and I love the fact that you said that Prepare yourself for that.

Speaker 1:

And then I was a colleague that went into leadership, so I no longer was a part of the team, I was in management, and it was very difficult. I wish at that time I wish I would have had a mentor, or I did somewhat have a mentor at work, but she wasn't. I just designated her as my mentor. She didn't know it. I just gleaned from her leadership. But really preparing for that, because priorities are different. What you're exposed to is different information data are different. What you're exposed to is different information data. And now you see what really goes into a lot of this decision-making that the team really doesn't have an awareness to, and then having to be the person that's not liked possibly. So yeah, and you have people on your team that are just going to like you, but then there's going to be some that's going to go. I don't like her anymore, and so that was a tough period.

Speaker 1:

I'm glad I stayed the course, but it was. I did that for seven years, but that was tough, and so I wish I would have had someone like you at that time in my life to help me through that process Because, like you said, the psychological aspect and the shift that you go through can be a lot, you know, and we did have managers that came in that quit because they couldn't handle it and so I got recruited in because they had run out of possibilities. But it was tough. But, like I said, I studied the course. I love that that we really have to prepare for that and just plan and an awareness of what's potentially going to happen through the process, cause I feel like if we're more proactive, the more we plan. And you said something you said repeat and refine, did you say? I just want to make sure I had that right.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, refine, repeat, refine, repeat, refine, repeat. It's like our whole life.

Speaker 1:

Yes, and I think with repetition it just changes. It's called neuroplasticity. I think we just we strengthen our brain to be able to cope with these things, so I love that. I have two last questions and then we'll be closing out the podcast. Why do you think legacy is so important? You know legacy whether it's our children if we don't have children, maybe it's our community, maybe it's nieces and nephews, or just the spirit of who you are is going to reside there. Why do you think legacy is really important to build and create?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, the thing that I love about legacy is, I remember when it first got introduced to me, I was like I could do that, like you help people even when I'm dead, like that's cool. That was my first thought around it, and then that was it. I was like I just want to dive in and I want to figure out what that looks like. And I want to figure out, like, what do I want to leave behind for people, like, what do I love that I would love to give to the world? What have I gotten to experience? That would be really cool to try to like leave some extra bits and pieces of that right.

Speaker 2:

What are the things that made an impact on my life? And so that's been a really cool, inspiring kind of adventure. And then, when I started to think about it, what I realized when you're creating a legacy is it asks of you. It asks of you to engage in goals. It asks of you to engage in day-to-day tasks that are beyond what you ever expected yourself to be capable of. And so it's been pretty cool because it's made me already right and I haven't even, like done that much or gone that far yet.

Speaker 2:

It's like a long time away, but it's asked of me to face things within myself that I've struggled facing. It's asked me to become and tap into parts of myself that I've struggled believing in, and it's been one of the greatest journeys in that aspects in regards to growth, personal development and understanding like what we're capable of as humans, and I think that's also just a really inspiring component. And you start to move from like is this even possible? To you start to see the light when you start to break it down to such a degree that you're like it is possible. I'm taking the steps, I'm on the right path. It's going to take forever, but these are the cool steps that I get to take to build up to this right and all the learning and education, and it's amazing how it can fill your time and your days with things that are inspiring but also, again, that can create income.

Speaker 2:

Because the other question I like to ask when I'm doing the legacy piece is, while I I'm building this, how, in each step, can I also create an income?

Speaker 2:

And so that's part of why I love the personal development component, because there's a significant quantity for me to learn, but every time I learn it, I can go implement it with other individuals even before, like I'm ready to take that next step. And then I'm getting to like make money off my education until the next step, over and over again, and then I get to be of service and I appreciate it and the more that I, the more that I help people with it, the greater depth and knowledge I get Right, and it's like the more I understand it and the more I see it in implementation and all these different ways. And so you ask the question it's like it's like why wouldn't you give that to yourself? You know, how can you do that? Like what a cool thing to do. And then, even along the way, it's like how can I actually create an income doing these things that I love? You know, how can I do that?

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I truly believe that that is definitely possible Creating an income, that and to do something that we love, that we're purposed to do. I think it takes a mindset shift to do that, but it definitely is something that can be done, and so just hearing that is really affirmation and confirmation for listeners out there and even for me as I continue to walk my journey and still figure things out as I go through life at this stage of life. But it's never too late. I'm still learning and wherever we are in the journey, it's all very possible, and so I'm thankful that there's people like you along as are in the journey. It's all very possible, and so I'm thankful that there's people like you along.

Speaker 1:

As people walk this journey, that there's people along to help them. Whether they are lightbearers, mentors, coaches, educators, people are there to help us along the way to get to where we need to get to and to ultimately leave a legacy. My last question is what would you tell 18-year-old Carly? You've been through some things. You share with me how you went into entrepreneurship, got a part-time job what would you tell 18-year-old Carly, now that you've had some wisdom and you've learned some things and you're helping people on their journey as well. What would you tell her?

Speaker 2:

Yeah that you've got this. You're in the perfect spot. You don't even realize it yet, but everything for you right now is like the perfect spot, perfect time, perfect place. And enjoy the journey, cause yeah, it's, it's going to be a big one, it's going to be a long one, but everything's on the way. You got this.

Speaker 1:

I love that I love the fact that you know cause some people can feel doubtful at 18 or 18, or there's just so much coming at them. But just to really have confidence that, no matter where we are in the journey, we are at its perfect spot. Even if there's a little challenge there, even there's a little discomfort, it's really there to take us on the next phase of our journey. And that means our mistakes, that means some of the bumps we hit, but also the successes. And so just to let our listeners know, no matter what age you are, you got this, you got this. And so, carly, thank you for that confirmation, thank you for the amazing insight you gave us today. If anyone wants to get in touch with you or your consulting services or any of the organizations or businesses or individuals, what is your website that they can go to to look at those services?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, they can hop on over to West Coast Growth Advisors and they can also definitely connect with me directly there, so it's just westcoastgrowthadvisorscom.

Speaker 1:

Okay, thank you, I will make sure I put that in the description of the podcast. I usually take about a week to get through editing and things like that, but I just want to thank you, carly, again for your wisdom and insight. It's been so appreciative today. Thank you,