
Overcomers Approach
“The Overcomers Approach” podcast showcases stories of resilience, where individuals transcend challenges to achieve personal and professional success. With a focus on spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, and financial growth, the podcast inspires listeners to embrace their potential and thrive in all areas of life. Join us to learn how overcoming adversity can lead to evolution, healing, and lasting success.
Overcomers Approach
From Caregiving Burnout to Boundaries: Building a Life That Honors You.
What if the bravest thing you do for your health is say “no” on a Sunday? I sit down with Tiffany Moore, Chief Inspirational Officer of Moore to Wellness, to explore how a life built on caregiving, faith, and trial-and-error became a blueprint for sustainable self-respect. From packing up Minneapolis for Dallas with no safety net to navigating the shock of full-time caregiving, Tiffany shows how the wellness wheel—emotional, spiritual, social, financial, physical, occupational, intellectual, and environmental—turns real when one spoke wobbles and the whole ride gets rough.
We dig into the difference between therapy and coaching—past versus forward motion—and why many of us hold strong self-love but weak self-care. Tiffany breaks down her coaching process: rating each area honestly, focusing on two or three priorities, building doable habits, and using accountability to close loopholes. She shares how boundaries moved from theory to practice: declaring Sundays off, holding lines with loved ones, and naming quiet sabotage when a supportive spouse keeps ordering takeout. Support is an action, not a promise; love is measured in the behaviors that honor your goals.
We also talk about the power of slowing down decisions. Not every choice is due today. Breathe, collect the facts, and act when you’re steady, not scared. Tiffany’s message to her 18-year-old self—keep the fearlessness, add relentless focus—anchors the conversation, along with a reminder that your brand is how you love yourself in public. If you’ve felt stuck between caring for others and caring for yourself, this conversation gives language, structure, and courage to move. Listen, reflect, and pick one boundary to hold this week. If this resonated, subscribe share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review on Overcomers Approach on Apple Podcasts so more overcomers can find us.
More about Tiffany and her service, please visit https://mooretowellness.com/services
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Good day, everyone. This is Nicole Ellis McGregor, the founders of the Overcomer's Approach podcast, where I meet with different people from different walks of life, different experiences, different journeys. But the overarching theme is we have the ability to overcome no matter what barrier is set before us. And I'm so happy today that I have Tiffany Moore here today. She is the chief inspirational officer of Moore to Wellness. And she is a wellness coach. And I'm so grateful to have her here today. I know we're both natives of Minnesota. I have to bring this up. We are Northside for Life, Queens, whatever you want to call it. So our roots run deep, which makes us even more, I think, organic and transparent to this journey that we are walking because we've had to overcome. And so, Tiffany, welcome today. Tell me what got you into the space that you're in and tell me how you got here to create more to wellness.
SPEAKER_01:Thank you, Nicole. I'm so happy to be here to tell my story, right? So you asked about how did I get here? Um, it's been a journey, right? So my my journey started even before I knew it was a journey to be a wellness coach. Um people were speaking it into my life before I even knew what a wellness coach was, or just even a life coach. I was like, what? I know I'm good, right? Um, but what I realized is I've been life coaching my whole entire life, right? From taking myself from point A to point B, because that's basically what life coaching is, right? It's moving forward. Um, a lot of people want to confuse life coaching with therapy, and it's not. Um, therapy is dealing with your past, coaching is about moving forward. So um through life, right? Like you said, growing up um in Minneapolis and moving from Minneapolis, I tell people all the time my faith walk started in 2007 when I packed up from Minneapolis, no job, no family, no friends. And I moved to Dallas, Texas, and I've been here for 18 years. Um, during that time, I've had to coach myself from one aspect of life to another, right? When I think about life coaching, I think about um a wellness will, right? When we think about a will, a will, and we talk about the emotional, the spiritual, your social, your financial, your physical, your occupational, intellectual, um, and just the environment around you. And when you sit back and you do an assessment of a will, right? Anything is out of place, that's the area that needs to be coached. And over the years, that's where I've coached myself. Um, yeah, that's that that got me to where I'm at today. But in between that, you know, there's always been the process. Um 2009, um, I was without any um real preparation, um, really thrown into the day-to-day of a caregiver. Yes, and that really was an area of my life I had no absolutely no experience on and had to coach my way through. How did I do it? Trial and error, right? Like that. There is not there is not a book on here's the 10 steps to like uh to caregiving, right? And so basically what you do is one day at a time, and this works, I'm gonna do it again. Oh, this didn't work, I'm not gonna do that, and just kind of creating my own um two guide on how to caregive that then went into exposing some areas in my life where my will, my wellness will was out of balance, and I put 100% of my time into caregiving. Um, I wanted to make sure that my mother was 100% taken care of, but I suffered on the other side of it. Um so that turned into um actually there was a period where um I had to really sit back and wonder is this my life? Am I worthy of anything else? Is this just going to be it and being content with it? And I wasn't. I was like, I'm not gonna be content with just being a caregiver. Don't get me wrong, because I know there will be people out there going, oh my God, it's your mom. Yes, I love my mom and I will do anything for my mom. Um, but I also had to take care of me, and I lost me in that process, which then turned into let me start looking at self and I started internalizing self. Was I loving myself? Did I feel I was worthy of self? Um and here I am today, right? A life coach, um caregiving. Um, I do more caregiving now from a distance than I do up close and personal. Um I am 100% in love with myself, not in an egotistical type of way, but my actions, right, honor me. And that's been a huge you talk about overcoming, that's been a huge overcoming um approach that I had to do. So long story short, that's how I got here.
SPEAKER_00:I love that you touched on a few things that I want to touch on. Um, you you know, you spoke on, you know, it's a journey. I think people need to understand that this is a journey, you know, and not to put so much weight in ourselves about needing to have it right at the moment. I love the fact that you said trial and error. There will be trials and error. And I think we have to give ourselves grace for what we don't know because there's no real manual, I think, that comes out with caregiving sometimes. They do have some here and there that kind of touch here and there, but the real day-to-day, the real uh getting in there and really doing it. Uh, when you talk about that will, uh, caregiving will expose what parts of the will need some work on. Yeah, and I love the fact that you stated that. And I love the your transparency of saying, hey, that's my mom. I would do anything for her, which I can relate to same for. Um, but with that, if we're not well, then we can't bring our best selves to be the best caregivers that we can be, you know. And I think you said, um, which I do caregiving from a distance for my mom as well. And so I've learned uh how to navigate that and who can I connect with to help to support me in that. And I love the fact that you said that. And I'm doing a little bit of caregiving home in my other spaces of my life, but I think staying healthy and staying grounded in self-love, which is what you speak on, is really gonna help us stay as sustainable or as balanced or whatever that looks like, or when that wheel gets a little shaky, what can we do? And we always I say invest in yourself. And I love the fact that you're here because I think there's so many people that are balancing caregiving, whether that's with uh children or with a relative, with their parent, with their spouse, um, but they still have these lives. So your lives does not have to stop, you know, and so some people think, and so they have you as a role model because you're walking it and you're living it and you've packaged it into your program so that people can really be empowered. So I love the fact that you really kind of touched on each spot. And I I think we as women, and I don't want to take men out, men are doing it out here as well. Some youth are doing it, people are really picking this baton up and and and supporting others, but they can get lost in the self-love component. Tell me a little bit how you as a wellness coach support people that can get lost in who who they are, their identity and their love. What is what does that look like? And how did you how did I love it?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So if someone comes to me, right, and we're looking at the wheel, and I have them rate themselves, right, on a scale of one to ten on that wheel. Tell me where you think you are. Um, and then we walk through each eight areas of that wheel. Um, anything for me, right? Because this is this is me from the life coach, right? Yeah, I what I'm doing as a coach is I'm assisting the person, right? So I'm assisting my customer. Um, I gotta find a name for it. I hate calling them customers, I hate calling them clients. I'm like, what are you? I'm like, maybe they're VIPs, right? Like I want to give them something.
SPEAKER_02:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Um, so but when they come to me, I have them rate themselves. And for me as a coach, what's eye-opening is when they see the aha moments, right? Where they they thought they were higher. But what I'm gonna do is press you on that, right? I'm gonna press you on. Um my job is to listen. So I do a lot of active listening. I'm gonna pay attention to what they don't say, right? And now we're gonna zoom in. So do you really think you're eight in that area? And then I'll break it down to, and then they'll go back and you know, change it. And I normally work with try not to do more than three, right? Um, two is two is ideal. Um if somebody's at a high seven, we might throw that one in there, right? Um, but because seven is where I like to cut off, right? Seven is like, okay, you're on your way, you you're at a good place. If you're below seven, I'm like, no, we we we need to work on that. Um, but so what I end up doing, right, is let's internalize it, right? So one of the things we have to do is define what is self-love, right? Are you worthy of it? Self-luck and self-love and self-care are often interchangeable, right? Self-love is the internal. Am I worthy? Self-care is the behavior and the action to the love part of it, right? So, what are you doing to honor it? Um, what I realized in my story is I had this high level of self-love, but I wasn't operating in self-care. That's what happens to a lot of people in caregiving is they know they're worthy of it, they know they're, you know, they desire of it, they want it, but they don't have the steps to actually do it. And a lot of people think self-care is just going to um the spa getting massage. No, I mean, that is it, that is it too, right? But it's also learning to say no. Yeah, self-care is also putting boundaries in place. One of the things I had to do with caregiving is Sundays. Sundays were my days, right? I made sure mom was taken care of. I didn't I wasn't cleaning, I wasn't washing no clothes, I wasn't going to the grocery store. That was a no and a boundary that I had to put in place. Um, it took trial and error for my mom to understand um at first, but quickly when I was like, I'm not going today, we can go tomorrow. Right. And me as the daughter, right? You want to do, you want to do. I'm like, yes, but I'm like, she can go, it's not that important. Life, what she was asking for, life wasn't gonna end because I didn't go to the store on a Sunday, right? But it was it was my day. If I wanted to sit on the couch and take a nap, if I wanted to watch football all day long during football season, whatever it was, I did it, right? That's self-care, that's honoring, that's putting that boundary in place, that's saying no. Um, I also during that time, um going through a I don't want to say a breakup, it was more of a situationship that just should have never been in the first place. I can understand a lot of my listeners get too situations exactly, yeah. And I had a friend and she asked me, she said, Do you think you're worthy of more? And for me, it wasn't that I didn't think because I always thought I was, you know, I'm worthy of more. I know I am, but I wasn't honoring it, right? I was I was um allowing stuff that I knew was not right for me, right? And that's what a lot of us do, you know, when we when we have the self-love part, but we're staying in situations that doesn't honor the love, right? So from the outside that would make people question, do you do do you think you're worthy? Right. And so as a coach, that's one of the things I do. I dig deep into why are you here? Why, what is it, what got you here? Um how are we gonna move forward, right? I try not to spend a lot of time and just the why are we here? What are we gonna do to move forward? That's right. Me and the client, or I'm gonna start calling them VIPs with me and my VIP. I like the VIPs, yeah. With me and the VIP, they come up with a plan, right? I assist, you know. I you write it out, and I'm gonna find those loopholes. I'm gonna I'm gonna challenge you. Is this even doable? Right. Can you do it, right? Because we can say, Oh, I'm gonna go to the gym and I'm gonna work out six days a week, but you're not even going two days a week. How are you gonna go from one to six, right? So let's start small, let's move forward, let's let's do those things. And so that's what I do as a coach, right? I I help you create a plan that's gonna be successful for you to be able to move forward and balance your will.
SPEAKER_00:I love that. I love that, and I there's some things that stood out to me. One was boundaries. Um, yeah, boundaries, and um, especially if historically your boundaries have been very like flexible, or maybe you didn't have them before, or maybe they've been some people can be too like overly like immersed in boundaries that are just there's no flexibility. Um, and I think boundaries have been put in place for a reason. They're they're there to protect us and they're there to protect the other person. And I love the fact that you said that. And I love the fact that you said, you know, you challenge you know, challenging sometimes you gotta you gotta press a little just to to really get to the work, you know, because we can play around and dance around all day, but to really kind of be challenged um when there's there's a distortion there, it's not making sense, you know. And so, you know, to make having an accountability coach, you know, we can, you know, I'm sure that's in there.
SPEAKER_01:That's that's that's absolutely what it is accountability.
SPEAKER_00:We need somebody to sometimes allow us to be accountable for when we come up against those situations that are situationships because we're not honoring ourselves and internally we're suffering now. What what more we may present may be one whole other thing, but it's what's going on in the inside more alone at home, uh in in our stillness, in our quiet place. Are we really honoring ourselves and know that we're we are worthy? God did not put us here. Um, we're valued, and so he didn't put us here really to be played with, or um, you know, you know, and and and we're gonna learn, we're gonna hit our heads. We've all had situationships, you know what I'm saying? So what um, how can we come out of it? How can we learn? How can we grow? And that's why I love the fact that you're you're you're present and you've created this program because people do need accountability and they do need boundaries. How do you work with someone whose boundaries is a struggle for them?
SPEAKER_01:What do you what do you so I actually learn boundaries and therapy, right? So I tell people all the time, you know, um life coaching is great, right? But sometimes you need to balance it with some therapy, some prayer, and some life coaching, right? They all they all go together. And so for me, um 2014 was the year where I was like, whoa, what it was like headblown, right? I was like, I was thrown into, you know, I moved my mom into a home with me. Um, my situationship just kind of blew up unexpectedly. I was like, wait, what? Right. Um, and this is probably the first time I'm actually gonna talk about part of that. Um, and that's when you know you're healed, right? When you can actually talk about it. And um, so for me, it was getting into therapy, and I remember my therapist asking me, What brings you here today? And I said, My life is spiraling out of control. And she's like, Whoa, what areas, right? And I named this, this, this. Um, and the first thing she said was, Do you have boundaries? Right. And a lot of times we think we do, right? But as you said, when things are coming at us and it's not honoring who we are, there's not a boundary there, right? And I've had boundaries, but what happens is people will always move your line, that boundary line. And then being the person who always wanted to be accommodating, being that person who didn't want to um rock the boat, I allowed that line to be pushed. But internally, I was the one that was hurting, right? Um, and so when somebody tells me they have boundaries or this is a situation where they need the boundaries, um, I put it back on them, right? And I'll because it's something that they said to me, right? And so I'll change what they said and throw the question back at them. Um, an example, uh VIP said to me she had boundaries with her um spouse, and he was on board with her um getting healthy and eating right and exercising. And I said, Really? And she's like, she's like, yeah. And I said, Oh, okay. What is he doing to help you? Right. She was like, Well, he's always ordering Uber, Uber Eats and DoorDash, and he brought home this. And I said, How is that honoring you? Right. And so she had to stop. And then there was another time where she was like, Oh, he goes to the gym every day. Do you go with him? She's like, No, right. So, where is that, right? So, how is somebody honoring you when they're overstepping a boundary? When you said, This is what I'm doing, this is where I want to go, this is what I need, and then they're sabotaging absolutely everything. Um, one of the hardest things um that I had to learn and that I've also seen with my VIPs is the people around you, right? The people around you can be your biggest sabotagers. And that's a hard one, right? That is very hard and it's hurtful. You know, when I looked at some of the, you know, when I looked at my circle, sometimes I'm had to be like, are you are you for me? Right. Are you for me? Are you against me? What what what are we doing here? Um and again, with that boundary, I had to learn, you know, I'm gonna have to be my biggest cheerleader. You know, I'm gonna have to do it regardless of what that other person is doing for me or not. I have to stand strong. I have to ten toes down in the sand, right? And this is my boundary, I'm not moving it, right? Now that doesn't mean when you're in relationship, I don't want anybody to take this out of context, right? I don't that doesn't mean that there doesn't need to be compromise on certain things, but I don't want you to look at your self, your self-love, your worthy, and start compromising on that. If you feel that this is what you want in life, don't change that boundary.
SPEAKER_02:That's right.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, make people come up to you, you don't come down to them, right? And so that's taking people out of their comfort zone, and that's a lot of times what happens in life coaching is what I'm seeing is I'm moving people out of the comfort zone. We get so content with the way things are that that fear of moving forward, yes, keeps us where we're at, right? It's a stagnant, it's a paralyzing state, and um my whole life has been about throw the dart, listen where it lands, right? Like when I I so I had when I moved to Texas, I had been here maybe two years, and one of my cousins says to me, Oh, some of us in the family, we took a bet to see how long that you would stay there before you came back. Right. Wait, was there money in was there money? Because I need the money because y'all all lost, right? And so, but that's just people making a bet against you, yeah. They may have been supportive, but not knowing what they were doing behind the scenes sabotaging, right? Because it goes on to be careful what we're speaking, be careful of the things that we're doing. That's just not speaking for yourself, that's speaking other people speaking into your life. Don't do that, you know. Um, you talked about you know with prayer. Yeah, uh, who's praying for me? Because I don't want everybody to be praying for me because I don't know what you pray. Right, and words power, and I need to know what power, yeah, yeah. So, you know, um, but yeah, that's basically what I do. If someone's struggling, um, we we gotta work through it. We have to figure out why is there that struggle, you know, if it's a fear. Um a lot of times that means you might lose some people. I'm not telling people to go go get a divorce from your spouse, right? Um, but you're gonna have to re-establish that relationship with your spouse because they've gotten so used to you one way that when you start changing, yeah, they're looking at you like you're changed. Well, yes, I did, right? Aren't we all right? We're all supposed to change. So um, I'm encountering some of that right now, right? Um, with just relationships, friendships, you know. I'm looking at some of my friendships, and I'm like, ooh, not that they're not friends, we're just not on the same page anymore.
SPEAKER_00:So that's so good. I love the fact that you touched on that. I love the fact that you touched on therapy. You know, I love the fact that you made the delineation between therapy and coaching, looking at the past, you know, uh, but moving into the future. And I, you know, really making an investment into ourselves. I know people are starting to move into more into therapy space and the life coaching space, that this is just an investment into who you are. I think so many people, you know, they're willing to buy the bags, the cars, you know, all these other things. But, you know, these are just things, you know, that um that investing in yourself is so empowering and it's so it allows us to make wiser decisions when it comes to those things. I love the fact that you talked about this, our circle, you know, we we talk about our friends. I you do you put family in there? And I think these are things that everybody navigates, you know. My story is similar. I moved to Arizona with my husband, but there's a lot of family members like, oh, you're not gonna buy a house. This is kind of like a joke. This is is it really gonna happen, you know? And I was kind of hurt, you know, with because this was family, you know. And I think um you talked about, you know, assessing friendships. And I think um, I love the fact that you said that I believe we should be constantly growing, whether that's individually, with your spouse, with family members, whatever that is, we should be constantly growing. I love the fact that you said that because a partner or a spouse could look at a person and be like, oh, you've changed, you've changed, you've changed. Yeah, but you you're growing, and that's what we should be doing. We don't want to be the same, but we want to grow the benefit for something greater, of course. I love the fact that you said that. And um, you know, I think uh you brought the about the husband and the wife, you know, what is he doing to uh make you help you healthier? You know, love is an action, love is a sacrifice, so it's like saying, you know, well, if you love me, you're gonna put in this sacrifice to support me in getting to that gym or not ordering the over maybe meal planning, yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and that's what I ended up doing with her, right? Creating a meal plan, right? And you know, um, he wasn't on board. And I said, Is this for him or is this for you? Right. And so those are the kind of questions that I have to make sure that we because there's gonna be a hurdle. So how am I helping you as your as your coach, as your accountability partner, whatever name you want to put on it, how are we overcoming that, right? We talk about overcomers approach. What is the approach, right? How are we gonna overcome that? Um because especially it's I want to say it's easier when you're when you're single, right? Because you don't have someone else. Um but you even if you are with someone, even if you have because even as a single person that I am, I have a support system, right? And so my support system, they're asking me, how's this going? How is this going? What did you do for this, right? And I can be open, I can be honest, and I can tell them, you know, yeah, I failed, yeah, I didn't, you know. Um, because the coach, the coach doesn't always do get it right, right? But what I have known is what I've learned is I never stay stuck, right? Come back to the drawing board, let's do it again, right? Let's start all over. And that's that overcoming. I'm never, I'm never gonna stay stuck, right? I'm always gonna keep moving, I'm always going to overcome whatever hurdle it is. Yes, and however the approach is, that's that's the trial and error, right? I tell people all the time with the experience that I have now and all the stuff that I've been through, uh, my approach is a lot easier. It gets easier through life experiences and through you know hitting your head one too many times, and you're like, nah, this is you know, and one of the other things I just want to make mention here is you don't have to rush it, right? Take the tunnel, write it out, think about it, right? A lot of times we're especially caregiving. Um, I'm looking back now, and some of the decisions that I made, some of the decisions me and my siblings made um were knee-jerk decisions because they needed to be made right then and there. So we thought, right? And some some did, but a lot of them we could have planned this out better. Um but a lot of times, you know, we're making that knee jerk because we're like, we have to make the decision right now. Um there was a situation a couple of years ago, um, and I was having some issues with my hair, and I was sitting in the doctor's office, and I just started bawling. Um, because you know, they're telling me I have alopecia and I need to do this and I need to do these. Like, here's the different treatment plans, right? And I'm like, I gotta make a decision right now, right? I remember texting texting my aunt, right? She's one of my support people. I remember texting her, and she says, take it all in, breathe, and you don't have to make a decision today.
SPEAKER_00:That's right.
SPEAKER_01:Just that settled me, right? I'm like, oh, I'm thinking I need to make a decision today. No, I didn't have to make a decision, right? In that moment, they were just giving me the information, and so you're thrown all this stuff, right? Life is a look, life happens and stuff is thrown at you, and we have to breathe, right? Breathe through it, breathe through it, and just that settled me into making the right decision. So I at that moment.
SPEAKER_00:I love the fact that you said that because some things don't know some decisions don't have to be made right now. We could we could just breathe, slow down, take a pause. I love the fact that you said that, and I'm sure you do that with your VIPs, you know, like there's some urgency that know the house is not going to burn down. What's the worst that could happen? Sometimes it's not even that bad, but also I think when you're used to living in reactive and being very impulsive and just making decisions um that just really re kind of reset, relearning, you know, how to slow down and just put push the reset button, pause. A decision does not have to be made now. And as beautiful, and as beautiful as luxurious as your hair is today, I don't even know. I don't even see an alopecia.
SPEAKER_01:So it's right up here, it's up here.
SPEAKER_00:I would know, yeah. I know uh we're winding down uh here, and I just wanted to ask a couple of questions. Uh it sounds like your VIP, this it sounds like it's really collaborative, you know. You you know, you guys are coming. put this plan together. And I like that, you know, um because you you're really helping them navigate, you know, just really kind of being there. And some people need that because sometimes it's just hard to kind of be out there on a ship by yourself. And sometimes you need to get with somebody who's in a neutral position. You know, family members are wonderful. We love them. Friends are wonderful and they love them. But sometimes someone needs to sit down with you and just with a clean slate and just on as someone that has no, you know, definitely no motives, but just to sit there and let you plan this out from a holistic perspective. And because every component like you said physical, mental, spiritual, economics, all that, those wills are going to always be there and sometimes they're going to come out of alignment. And sometimes we just need help with navigation and kind of redirection. And I love the fact that you said, you know, if you don't we don't get it right, we just go back to the board. And I think, you know, we've both been in like leadership positions we've in in our personal lives, professional lives or just or just uh not even maybe professional, personal, where you have to sit down for continuous improvement at jobs or for our personal lives and we got to reassess. No, no, no, let's go back and reassess how's this been working? What didn't work? What can we do better? You know, and we have to do that for ourselves. And so I love the fact that you bring that to the table. Uh going back and and uh my last question is and then I'll give you an opportunity to give your website for my listeners if they want to get in contact with you to be a VIP I love it for mortal wellness. Being that we both for you know young girls from the north side of Minneapolis um and you know kind of navigating that terrain and growing into the self-love what would you tell 18 year old Tiffany today that you wish she would have known back then eight so 18 year old Tiffany was fearless.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. So she was fearless she was if there's something that she wanted she was doing it right I don't want to say by any means necessary but I was going to make it happen right it was it was going to happen. I was going to use my resources um I would tell that 18 year old Tiffany to stay there right be fearless be fearless um in addition to that stay focused yeah um that was probably one of the biggest things I was fearless but I wasn't focused yeah having the both of them I would have been a bad chick at 18 right I had one of them I needed both but yeah I would say be fearless go for it right yeah whatever that is dream big I Oprah made a um Oprah said something one time and it has stuck with me she said dream big and then dream bigger and that stuck with me and so I would say go for it yeah go big or go home yes yeah and stay focused on it right stay focused um the other thing I probably would say and I'm learning this not that I'm learning it now but I'm really incorporating it now um your brand right your brand is how you love yourself and how you show up for yourself people are either gonna buy it or they're not and we need we need that we need to know especially now with the internet and what people are posting in social media what you put out there that's your brand that's right be careful what's out there because that's how people are looking at you that is exactly how people are looking at you so yeah that is so true that is so true we are our brand and we want to be authentic to our brand and we want to be careful about what we put out there and I think the space that we're moving into in terms of the the internet um and what people have access to we have to move cautiously but yet strategically and I love the fact that you said that I love the fact that you said fearless you know uh being fearless at that age uh and maybe not being so focused but that's okay because I think we need to move in this world with a sense of fearlessness and boldness like never before you know and sometimes we could start out at that point but life could break us down and then we be be we we become fearful. Yeah and so that's what happened right I had all these things and I would go for it go for it go for it and then things weren't happening the way that I thought that they should right and then it it it just chipped away at that chipped away and the the the self-confidence comes down the self-esteem comes down and then had to build it back up right and that's where that self-love comes into so yeah that's exactly what it is so I'm living now I'm living fearless again you know it's it's it's it's a wonderful place to be it's a wonderful place to be and I'm glad I'm glad she's back I'm glad she's back too because we need you here and and people who may not have made it back to where they back to where what's innately in them you we have a role model for someone to say hey no this is I've lived it I walked it our journeys may not be the same but they sometimes people need an example they need a guy they need somebody to help them navigate those waters because uh people think they're just out here alone and no one's really gonna understand you know but if we don't open our mouths and be fearless with it people are not gonna know so we got to show up fearless and I love the fact that you said that Tiffany well this has been an engaging last three I so appreciate you taking the time out to to connect with me. It's so nice to and also connect with someone that um we we have you know similar we come from Minneapolis but you know our journeys have navigated and been similar but yet different but somehow we have reconnected we fought fallen in alignment for divine purpose and a reason and I want to thank you for saying yes I would I I thank you this and I know my you're welcome and I know my listeners will as well if they want to get in touch with you what is your website my website is mortowellness.com um you can connect on there you can send me a message um I reply I reply back to my messages it's not some automatic out automated thing you know it's me it's it's me you put put a face to um that email um but yeah moretowellness.com my social media um on instagram is miss tiff1222 i think you can type in more to wellness too but it's on the website you can connect there also so yeah yeah you'll if you go to my Instagram you get to see me right you get to see me living fearlessly you get to see me traveling you get to see me being a clown sometimes joking so yeah that's that's that's that wellness will right I'm making sure my wheel is balanced um so yeah that's that's where it's at connect with me at more wellness.com and it's m-o-o-r-e okay thank you and I'll make sure that's in the description and you guys I have observed her social media as well and she's walking this out so this is not she's walking it out and I love like you said there's the comical side if you want to laugh you know there's the healthy side she's in working out I seen you go out one night it's like hey I want to see a play you know being spontaneous you know people need to see that and it's real and it's authentic so she actually is walking the walk and I appreciate that because people want to see that you know and you're walking this out for real Tiffany it has been a pleasure more to wellness chief inspirational officer right I've been abundantly blessed and I know my listeners will as too thank you very much for spending this time with me. Thank you for having me Nicole take care thank you