Remix Your Marriage: Who the heck are we?

Have you ever felt like you were just "playing house" in your marriage? Like you were fumbling in the dark, trying to figure out what it meant to be a spouse, a parent, and an adult all at the same time? That's where we, Lyndan and Vanessa, found ourselves as high school sweethearts turned teenage parents. Join us as we peel back the layers of our messy, chaotic, yet ultimately rewarding journey in marriage. We'll delve into our pasts, exploring our upbringings, and the significant events that molded us into who we are today - a far cry from those two broken kids pretending to play the marriage game.

Stay tuned, because we're going to be revealing a major event that rocked our marriage to its core in a future episode. We believe that by sharing our unique love story - with all its trials, tribulations, and victories - we can offer encouragement and inspiration to others struggling in their marriages. Whether you're on your first, second, or third marriage, we respect your story and we're here to tell ours. So, pull up a chair, fasten your seatbelt or go for walk and listen in as we embark on this journey, showing you that it's possible to Remix Your Marriage, to make mistakes, and to learn from them. Because in the end, it's not about perfection, but about embracing the messy realities of life.

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Transcript

Lyndan 0:06

Hello and thank you for joining us on Remix your Marriage. My name is Lyndon.

Vanessa 0:12

And I'm Vanessa. Are you going to say Remix your Marriage like that every time?

Lyndan 0:16

I might say Remix your Marriage, okay.

Vanessa 0:19

So this is just a quick introduction to who we are. If you've come to this section, you're probably like let me figure out who these fools are before I even take any kind of marriage advice. So my name is Vanessa. Did we already say that we?

Lyndan 0:32

did.

Vanessa 0:32

Oh shoot, and we were high school sweethearts I don't love that word because I don't look at this as sweethearts. We basically were two broken kids who came together dysfunctionally.

Lyndan 0:45

At times we were high school enemies.

Vanessa 0:47

Yes, had a baby very early, had a pretend marriage and something massive happened in that moment of our marriage that changed the course.

Lyndan 1:00

Well, when you say pretend marriage, we were actually legally married?

Vanessa 1:05

Yes, it wasn't like a. You know, I don't know why I said because I felt like we were hurt, like I was pretending to know what I was doing when I had no idea what it was to be a wife.

Lyndan 1:17

Yes, and me pretending that I knew what it was to be a husband.

Vanessa 1:20

Like we were playing house. Yes, because we had a baby young.

Lyndan 1:24

But we legally went to Las Vegas.

Vanessa 1:26

Yes, we did. We went to Vegas, we were legally married.

Lyndan 1:29

In 1996 and got married.

Vanessa 1:31

And then something massive happened in our marriage that for most marriages, I think, that would end up in divorce, and that's okay. We first and foremost want to let everyone know that we are not judging anyone for the choices that they've made. We are simply telling our story.

Lyndan 1:52

Yeah, if you're on your first marriage, second marriage, third marriage, that is not our place to judge.

Vanessa 1:58

Because everybody's story is different.

Lyndan 1:59

Yeah, so we're just talking about our story and what happened to us and how we got through it and the massive thing they hit our marriage. You've probably guessed it and I guarantee you you're right, but we're not going to talk about that until episode five.

Vanessa 2:12

Because we want to share our background. We're going to start with my childhood, where I came from. The. Both of us are simply going to tell our story and how we were raised, and I'm going to be honest and speak for myself. I am nervous about it, but I truly believe that we need to use our pain for a purpose, and it is. Everything that has happened to me has developed me into the woman I am now the wife, the mom, the friend. So I'm proud of my life, but it's going to be a little tough. And why are we doing this?

Lyndan 2:47

Well, as mentioned, open and honest conversations and not worrying about what anyone else thinks. These are our conversations and we love if people get it and learn from us, and if they don't, you know, then they got to move on. We're going to do our best to help out and go over all the things we wish we knew during the first part of our marriage.

Vanessa 3:09

And honest. We are going to be as honest as we can.

Lyndan 3:11

I think we said honest, like 12 months Seemed like we're not going to be honest.

Vanessa 3:15

And just so you know, we had to have. We have three amazing kids. They're all adults now and we had a conversation with them about things that they didn't know that happened in our marriage before. We did this podcast just out of respect for them, and they are our biggest cheerleaders, so we're excited. We both have a passion. The why and why we are doing this is we have a passion to help marriages that feel broken, that if you are out there and you feel there's no way I can save my marriage, I just want you to give us an opportunity. Listen to us, listen to us. Together we have some fun things. We do have a marriage challenge, which we've used in the past with people. We've changed it up, we sparked it up a little bit. We 2023 did.

Lyndan 3:59

Yes, yeah, as mentioned, we have done a podcast In the past and we will talk about that story. But in that little time that we did our 49 episodes, we did get a lot of mail email not actually physical mail.

Vanessa 4:13

So long ago, it was people were.

Lyndan 4:16

But you know that we were able to help a lot of marriages and that's, you know, not because of us, but that's, you know, god working through us. So that is our mission and our plan is to help you along the way and, you know, get some advice from you as well. We don't know everything.

Vanessa 4:29

Yeah, and maybe you're not even going through anything massive. You're just kind of bored. You're kind of thinking in the back of your head is this? It Is this like what marriage is and just accepting it. And we are here to say marriage can be phenomenal, but you got to put your work into it and you got to do your research and you got to listen to the right people. That's right, that's where we come in.

Lyndan 4:50

So it's a little bit of who we are, what we're trying to do for you. First episode we'll be dropping soon. We'll be doing one a week.

Vanessa 4:57

Yeah, one a week for now and we're starting with my story and then five, episode five should be the big one That'll be the big one. All right, so stay tuned with us. We're excited.

Lyndan 5:07

That's re, re, re, re, remix your marriage.

Vanessa 5:09

I knew that was coming. It had to.

Lyndan 5:12

All right, then All right Peace.

Vanessa 5:14

How do we sign off?

Lyndan 5:15

Well, you can say love you and I can give you our peace.