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Remix your Marriage Podcast
Sharing our dysfunctional story of relationship, young parenthood and a broken marriage that all started in 1989, to a new incredible marriage. In hopes to help other couples not make the same mistakes.
We will have open and honest conversations about our ups and downs, our bad decisions and how we learned to get through all the Messiness! Marriage is tough but it is also amazing if you do it right!
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Remix your Marriage Podcast
EP8 - The beginning of a new Marriage: Reconnecting, communicating, setting boundaries and having fun again
In this episode we talk about reconnecting and trust-building after infidelity, where we don't just share our story, but also the essential steps we took to revive the love that once seemed lost. It's an intimate look at the shifts we endured to mend a bond that was frayed, as we candidly discuss the slow dance of rebuilding trust and rediscovering the tender rhythm of our relationship.
We highlight the importance of personal growth and the intertwining paths that helped us emerge as better individuals and partners. Acknowledging that transformation often stems from within, we reveal how the book The 5 Love Languages helped fortified our bond, stressing that love is an action just as much as it is a feeling. Listen as we share our blueprint for reconnecting and having fun again.
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Yes, game show host. What is going on? Are you in your head right now?
Speaker 2:Not at all Okay. Are you in your head?
Speaker 1:You want you to relax. You don't seem relaxed.
Speaker 2:I'm literally reclined and my feet are up on a-.
Speaker 1:You're reclined but you're guarding yourself. You're like doing this, you just. You don't seem relaxed.
Speaker 2:Yeah, this is. This is relaxed otherwise. Your face is annoyed with me Because I would like to get on with the show.
Speaker 1:Let's go.
Speaker 2:Hello and thank you for joining us. I am your host, Lyndon.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm Vanessa.
Speaker 2:And welcome welcome to Remix your Marriage. Today we are talking about connection, reconnection. Reconnection for some people, yeah, connection, better connections.
Speaker 1:The word was bothering us, because not everybody needs to reconnect, but some people do For us. We needed to reconnect, right.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Oh, my husband wants to take a picture of me.
Speaker 2:Say cheese.
Speaker 1:So what I can? I go now.
Speaker 2:Absolutely Okay, I'm not going to say absolutely anymore.
Speaker 1:Gosh, it's weird when you do a podcast, you all listen to forget how to talk. I want to still stay, you know stay in our story because there's so much more to go. But we also want to get to the point as we talked about in helping you guys get reconnected if you need to, if you feel like you know you're in a place where you're just not connecting anymore. You're just maybe just going through your average day. Life gets busy, and then you keep thinking, oh, we'll set up our date night next month, we'll do this next month, we'll do it, and then, before you know it, a year or two has passed. So we look at us as what are we like? The older brother and sister, because we are not your mom and papa.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're not old enough for that, no, but that have been through it and that are here, and what I want to talk about is when we reconnected, because I did get that question.
Speaker 2:Well, just touching on what you said, it's basically the rat race and that's what a lot of married couples fall into is just getting in that rat race, just doing the same thing over and over again, and you get so used to it it becomes your norm, yes, so we want to snap you out of that.
Speaker 1:Yes, you need to snap out of that. Trust us, you're not different, you're not like yes, we still love each other. We still. You know, I still find her attractive, I still find him attractive. We're just so busy right now we don't have time for this in our life. Trust us, you got to snap yourself out of it. So with Lyndon and I, it was a little different, unless you're going through the same thing that that we went through.
Speaker 1:I remember just there being a point and just wondering am I ever going to trust him again? Am I ever going to love him again? Am I ever going to feel a certain way? And I have another one of my, one of my other best friends. Remember her saying she goes, just think she goes. You're going to look at him again and you're going to be like, oh, I'm so in love with him.
Speaker 1:And I remember her saying that she's like it'll happen. You're just going through it right now, but I know it'll happen because she knows us so, so well. And I'm like, yeah, I don't see that happening. But you know what? I'm good, I love to think about what we were going through and, like I said in the last podcast, it's just consistency and it's trusting the process, and it's trusting. It's trusting God, it's trusting the leaders he put into our lives, and I don't remember if there was a specific moment or time where I was like, oh, I'm in love with him all over again. And what's interesting, you know what surprised me about this love, is I do you know what surprised me about this love?
Speaker 2:Oh, I wasn't sure if there was a little rick in there for me to say yes, talk to you, because sometimes you just talk and you ask me a question, but you keep talking.
Speaker 1:I just keep talking Well you don't Am. I being annoying.
Speaker 2:There's just not necessarily a break in there for me to say yes or no, or you know no joke.
Speaker 1:You guys. I think he forgot he was in the podcast and I was talking too much. Do you have anything to say about what I just said?
Speaker 2:It was from like five minutes ago, so I was just kidding.
Speaker 1:No to me. You can interrupt me and say, let me just say something really quick. You can point a finger and go, let me say something like finger.
Speaker 1:Why? Why the dad jokes. What surprised me is I was waiting. If this makes sense, I don't know if this is going to make sense to anyone. I was waiting to feel the same way I felt before the affair. I was waiting to all of a sudden forget what had happened, and not forget what had happened, but all of a sudden be oh, that's my husband. I love him again. I know that sounds kind of childish and weird, but I think I was waiting for that and what happened blew my mind. What happened is he transformed very slowly into a man that I never knew he could be with. All Do love and respect hun.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:You did, you became. We were going through our worst financial time and our hardest, hardest time as a family financially, and I saw him just do everything he could to provide for us, to protect us, to be the husband he knew I deserved and it was. I can't let every single episode. I can't help that because I'm really thinking back to that time. He took a job that we thought would lead him into can I mention it's the studios. It was the studios and we thought it was going to lead to big things.
Speaker 1:You know, we were just I'm literally not even living paycheck to paycheck, sometimes without a paycheck, and we had so many families and friends help us and I didn't know the kind of work they were making him do until after the fact, because that's what a real man does. A real man just works for their family and does not complain. And Lenin never came home and complained and he had told me later that you know he worked for a prop house and the things that he had to do and he had to go into dumpsters and he had to jump on boxes and he was demeaned when he was there and treated not so well and you know, was videotaped most of the time. I don't know if I could say I don't know how much you're going to edit, but I do remember.
Speaker 2:I do remember going from making six figures a year in the nineties and early 2000s and while I was at this prop house I was in a dumpster smashing boxes in the rain and my wedding ring slipped off my finger into the dumpster and I was digging looking for my wedding ring and I felt in that moment like God was saying we're starting over, like you're starting from the bottom, you know, to go from suits and ties and six figures to being in the bottom of a dumpster looking for my wedding ring. Yeah, that was a brand new start for me, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think it's just. I think what hits me and impacts me so much about those moments is that you never, you never told me, you never told us because you knew I would feel you didn't want me to feel sorry for you. That was the last thing and I think that that was something not so many words turned me on. I know I'm kind of crazy, but just knowing watching a man being rebuilt into this new incredible husband, I think that's when, you know, the light started coming through in our relationship. And we also I don't know if we mentioned oh no, I don't think we did mention this and we had agreed, you know, obviously, to have each other's passwords on our phone and very important, and when we did end up getting social media again, we shared a social media account. So messages, you know, we could see each other's messages and everything was out in the open. That was just to, you know, bring back the trust factor and all that.
Speaker 2:I remember seeing on Facebook the Facebook account was called like John and Amanda and in the comment someone said OK, who cheated? And you do? Yeah, I remember that and I thought it was funny, but then it still snung a little bit because you think that you're being slick and you know it's pretty obvious that something has gone wrong in some cases if you're sharing an account.
Speaker 1:So I do remember snarky remarks, yeah, and they're no longer in our lives, so that's fine. But and then what we had decided? So I was saying that because we really, really started to build a life together, we did life together. This may I'm not saying this is for you right now. Who, if you, you know you haven't gone through something like this in your marriage, but if you have, one of the best things that we did was we did life together. We he would go to work and, but we would go to the gym together, we would run races together, we, we did everything together, down to our social media account.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:We, and then eventually it came to a point where I really started to enjoy it. I started to love going on runs with him. I and I think it's because I started to see a new man it felt like the man who had done that was gone. He wasn't there anymore and it was just so different and it was like I said and I've sent this so many times I didn't know that I could have this husband on the other side of this pain.
Speaker 2:But, more importantly, I didn't know I could be this woman on the other side of this pain I was going to say, during this time of becoming a better person, I started seeing you through different eyes and really starting to love you more and remember, oh yeah, like this is why we started this thing in the first place. You know, we didn't start off as enemies. We started off being attracted to each other and trying to oppress each other and doing things for each other, and I started to see that side of you again and that was a direct reflection from what I was doing. So it's so important for couples to constantly take care of each other and do things for each other, so you can just be a mirror to each other.
Speaker 1:What I find interesting is we've been together so long Like we'd known each other since I was 15 and you were 16. And then we, you know, get into this marriage to do. I'm so thankful Look at me saying I'm so thankful for that time and that journey, because I don't know how we would have changed. I just think there was such an urgency for both of us to change. Of course he did like he said. You know, 95, 98% of it was his fault, and I get that.
Speaker 1:I also needed to look at myself and look at what I could do to become a better not just wife, a woman, you know and to grow and to learn from this, because every through every pain you should, a painful moment in your life, through every hard thing you've gone through, you should learn about yourself and learn.
Speaker 1:And I think that's what I did and I think that that happening in our marriage pushed us, because for me, the urgency was I just don't want to hurt anymore, I just want to be sad anymore. I don't want to think about it all the time. I don't want it to be the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last thing I think of when I go to bed and that was my life and I'm like God, I just, whatever I need to do, I need to pray every day. I'm going to pray every day. I need to, you know, talk to my mentor once a week. I need to do life with him. It's like I just need to get better. And then, before I knew it, it was just we started having this joy again and we started reconnecting, and in a whole new way that I never thought it's so weird, because I was just waiting to feel the same.
Speaker 2:Once we decided to move forward, then it was important for us to do everything we could really not to waste each other's time. Right, Like we could have just went our separate ways and moved on, but like no, we're in it. So you know, if you're going to train for a fight, you're going to be in the gym hitting that bag every day, Right? So, whatever it is, you got to put your all into it. So I think that's what the difference was we weren't just being regular anymore, we were going. We were trying to go over and beyond to fix this.
Speaker 1:Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2:One of the things that I wasn't doing before was really validating your feelings, and I think it's really important. Even if I don't agree with you, I think it's really important to validate how you feel about something. So, if there's something that I said that came out the wrong way, I had to learn and I'm still having to learn this.
Speaker 1:About five minutes ago oh so you laugh Okay. That was funny.
Speaker 2:Okay, I mean it wasn't meant to be funny, but okay, so I still have to take in what you're saying, even if I didn't mean it that way. I need to validate your feelings and then hopefully I can explain to you what I meant without you getting too defensive. Yeah, because understandably, things can come off wrong.
Speaker 1:And I could be a bit defensive, a little bit. Oh, and you can be defensive too. This is where you say that.
Speaker 2:Never the other. One of the other things I had to really think about was what was it in the beginning that I did to get you attracted to me right? So we talked about those dolphin shorts. I don't have those dolphin shorts anymore, so I can't wear those for you, so I had to really figure out different ways of trying to impress you.
Speaker 1:For me, this goes into five-leveling languages. We had never heard of five-leveling languages before. We have just discussed how mine has changed. Last night or a couple of nights ago, yeah, that it was acts of service, and anytime Linden washed the dishes I mean lawn mower, anything like that was because women were much more deeper emotional creatures than men are. It's not about looks to us. It's not always about that. You still look how you looked when you were a teenager. You still look good. You still take care of yourself, thank you. But if you're looking good in this body and face and you are on the couch eating chips and doing nothing, it's not gonna turn me on. I don't care how good you look.
Speaker 2:And so-. However, oddly, if you were doing that, it would really turn me on, oh my God, you are crazy.
Speaker 1:No, it would not If you saw me being lazy-.
Speaker 2:It depends on what you're wearing.
Speaker 1:Oh my Lord, see two totally different people, because I actually believe that. Yeah, but that wasn't it. It was like I said that earlier. It sounds strange, but I know half the women out there listening to me understand that when I watched you turn into this different husband, this man, this provider, this protector, that was the turn on and that's what did it. It was watching you grow into this man that I didn't even know was possible and I'm not saying was possible in you, was possible in anyone, because I didn't have a father figure like that, so I didn't have anyone to look to for that, yeah.
Speaker 2:And at the same time, you were changing, you were becoming more attractive. How was I becoming more attractive?
Speaker 1:Your change in attitude, oh, you just said it didn't matter. I could sit on the couch and each eat potatoes.
Speaker 2:Yeah see, attitude isn't what you're wearing. Eat potatoes eat potato chips, potato chips. But you're changing your attitude. The way you spoke to me, the way you treated me that all changed for the better. Okay, and it could have been a reflection of what was going on with me that changed you, but that made me so much more attracted to you, because the physical part has never gone away. I've always been 100%.
Speaker 1:Were you more attracted to me because of my forgiveness and grace towards you, or did that? How did that make you feel?
Speaker 2:That made me like you more, that you were forgiving me, and it made me happy. But the attraction came from the way Did it make you happy?
Speaker 1:That's kind of a weird word. It made you happy.
Speaker 2:It made me happy that you decided to stay with me, okay, but you're talking about the attraction. Yeah, you're saying where the attraction came from. The attraction came from the way you were treating me and how we were getting along and how different you were. I don't think you realized how much you. I think you were so focused on how much I was changing that you didn't realize how much you were changing and you were just becoming this kinder, just better person, this better wife, this better friend, and that is what got me way more attracted to you. Outside of the physical part, of course, we know about date night. Date night is everywhere. Everyone knows that you have to do date night, but it starts to become.
Speaker 1:You hear it. You know, when you hear something so much over and over again, you tend to ignore it. I feel like that's a date night in this marriage. Podcast, YouTube, Instagram world.
Speaker 2:It can fall on deaf ears.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it really can, yet it is very, very important.
Speaker 2:So this is how you mix it up you and I take turns planning date nights. I think a good way to do it is one spouse plans at one time and other spouse plans at the other time. The other spouse does not get involved at all and it's a surprise where you're going to go. So you could go to a fancy restaurant. You can go to a not so fancy restaurant. You could have a candlelight dinner in the backyard. It's up to that person who is setting the date.
Speaker 1:I do think that there are couples that husbands or the wife is a planner. That could lead into disappointment. So it's like you almost should give whoever the gifting is, whoever the one who likes to plan plan it.
Speaker 2:So that is a perfect segue into what I was going to say Next, because the next thing is to be each other's biggest cheerleader.
Speaker 1:So I really didn't know what you were going to say. I know, which is super cool.
Speaker 2:I know I like that. So I think it's important that we cheer each other on in our triumphs and our failures and if the other spouse just doesn't want to do it and you both agree that it's just one of you that's going to do it, so be it. But I think that you should try the back and forth and in anything you do in your life then you tell me you want to do, I got your back.
Speaker 2:If you told me you want to be a pilot. Ok, let's look up the schools. How much does the school? How long is it going to take? I have your back and anything that you do, and I think it's important that if your spouse comes to you with a dream, don't be the dream killer. Yeah, OK, let's figure this out. Let's see how we can get you there.
Speaker 1:You know it's so crazy. I'm so used to you supporting my dreams and my goals that sadly I didn't know that there were spouses out there that didn't do that. So I'm so sorry if this is hitting a nerve Actually I'm not, because this is the wake up If your spouse is telling you that you know they have a dream to be a ballroom dancer, to have your spouses support and doing the dance classes with them. Whatever you need to do, whatever that is, that's a turn on. Am I here just to tell everybody what the turn on is? Yeah, I don't know why I'm so obsessed with that right now.
Speaker 1:One of the things that you do is you are. You constantly tell me you think I could do anything. It's almost a lot of pressure because he believes I can do anything. You also are OK if I decide to quit or I don't want to do it. He's so supportive and I have been struggling. Here we go.
Speaker 1:I've been struggling so much these two years in finding like who I am again and I've been in therapy and just going through. You know some things. Emotionally it's probably an age thing as well, but Lyndon always supports me. If I have to leave a job, he's there to support me. He just takes on the load and those are. That is a way. I don't know if I went off topic. No, that's OK. But your spousals support in all things not just the things that you care about, in all things, really really strengthens a marriage and continue. I think that's why we have such a great marriage and we don't get bored. And we don't because we're constantly challenging ourselves for new things and doing new things, and then we both have each other's back on that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm going to go slightly off subject. So I found out a while back that Facebook and all of its algorithms I can never say that word, right?
Speaker 1:I did it. I'll go with that. That was it? Okay, I think so.
Speaker 2:So they actually have an algorithm knowing the behavior of couples who are going to divorce. So they know the type of messages they send, the type of things they post, even if the post don't say I don't love my husband or I don't love my wife. It doesn't have to say any of that. They just know the behavior and they will start sending you divorce attorneys. Oh my gosh, you know how you get those ads pop up. If you say remix your marriage, remix your marriage, that may hopefully send your phone into getting our I don't think that's send to people.
Speaker 2:What remix your marriage Is that stuff?
Speaker 1:Yes, because are they going to get divorce attorney stuff?
Speaker 2:No, no, I'm giving an example. So if you were to say, remix your marriage a hundred times, your phone picks up on that. So Facebook's algorithm will just pick up on those behaviors and start sending you divorce attorneys and therapists and things like that, but not anything that says let us help you fix your marriage, it's all. Let us help you speed up the process of divorce. Oh, my gosh, you're so right Speed up the process of divorce. I mean, it's horrible. Okay, so back to the good stuff. I just wanted to let you know, if you start seeing ads about divorce, it's time to check yourself. It's time for you and your spouse to make some moves.
Speaker 1:Because I'm so sorry I keep interrupting you, but because if you're listening to this podcast, it means you're trying. Yeah, it means you want it to work. So we are speaking to those couples who feel like there's a chance. Maybe you just lost some connection, maybe you are going through what me and Lenin went through, and so if you're listening, it means you're trying.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, moving forward. I think another thing to do is sending each other texts throughout the day, sexy texts, compliment texts. I think it's so important to say thank you, not just over text, but in person. When you cook, I always do my best to say thank you, that was good, instead of just assuming that that's your job, yeah. So I think it's very important to show gratitude to each other throughout the day.
Speaker 2:And then also, if your spouse is at work, they could be having a hard time. And if you just send a text that says hey, I want to let you know that I'm thinking of you, yeah, I love you. I have a little surprise for you when you get home, just little things like that. That's going to really uplift them. And then, typically, it's the male wanting to get the female to have sex. I don't know why I'm having a hard time saying sex. Anyway, typically it's the male that wants to do that. So even if you know, like, say, your husband is sending you sexy texts and you know, oh, he's only doing this because he wants some later on, you know, let it go.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Accept the compliment, enjoy the compliment, and he's trying. And I say the same thing to the man, even if you know that your woman has only sending you compliments because they listened to this podcast, let it go.
Speaker 1:But I would like to add to that. I think that it's really important I do too much assumption that people know what five level languages is. If you don't, we should put some kind of link in the show notes. Yeah, Put it in the description. If you don't, I want you to stop everything and I want you to take the level language test because it is very, very. I believe it's important. It made an impact on our life.
Speaker 2:You ready for some controversy?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Some controversy, some controversy. He looks nervous. No, so you know that people often say don't ever go to bed angry.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah. It's your spouse. We just went to bed angry two days ago.
Speaker 2:I strongly disagree with the statement Don't go to bed angry, because sometimes the sun does have to set when you're, when you're a little angry with each other, and why would you rush to clear something up that needs time just because you're about to go to bed? Yes, so sometimes you need the night to sleep it over, to sleep, you know, to think it through, and then start fresh in the morning and talk about it. So definitely don't not ever talk about it, but it doesn't always have to be. Don't go to sleep angry, because it's gonna happen sometimes.
Speaker 1:I think there should be a time limit on it, and this was a huge mistake in our old marriage we call it our old marriage is I would make linen stay up till 3, 4, 5 o'clock in the morning until the problem was fixed and and he wasn't mad at me anymore. That's what I thought, but really linen was like throwing up the white flags and I surrender, I'm just gonna tell you whatever you want to hear. But he was still upset and yeah, a lot of times problems can be fixed overnight, you know, and and we do need sleep, we do need time, we need time to process, because I know that a lot of the times that that you know, I have stepped away, which is has been a new thing for me, and this goes for anything, this goes with an argument with my kids, and you know whoever and and when I step away from it and I don't react immediately and sometimes sleep on it and I come back. Sometimes it's not even that big of a deal. I'm like, oh, I'm not really that upset about it, I just was having a bad day, you know. And then we but there needs to be a time limit, we need to come to each other and talk to each other.
Speaker 1:I felt that linen was very upset with me and he's like I'm sorry, I need to go to sleep right now, I need to, just I can't. So, as difficult as I was for me, we went to sleep and the next day when I saw him, I'm like do you want to talk about you? Good, and he goes. You know what? I am really, really good. But it all is like depending on what it was. It wasn't life threatening, it wasn't horrible, it was just. He just looked at me and he said you know what I am good I am and I know him well enough to know he was well. So that was just an example. But yes, you will sometimes go to bed upset. Just give yourself a time limit, say, okay, we need to talk about this by dinner tomorrow, the next day, you know.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:I think that when you are connecting with your wife, that when your wife and you are having a conversation, that you should have your eyes on your wife you gave me crazy eyes.
Speaker 2:You gave me crazy eyes when you said that oh, we need video. Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:Lyndon truly believes that he could hear every word I'm saying when he's checking his email. Now he has a very busy job and he's getting emails and texts that actually do need to be responded right away, and I understand that. But what I would? I would I think, oh, this is for everyone else, this is impressed. What I think that should happen is could you hold on a moment? I have to take care of these emails because I can't listen to everything you're saying right now.
Speaker 2:Are you telling me to talk to you like you're a secretary?
Speaker 1:No, I'm just trying to think of a polite way to say it, but I rather that than looking at your phone going I heard everything you said because that's impossible.
Speaker 2:I'll work on that.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's all. You guys heard it here. You heard it here.
Speaker 2:You can even check in with me later to see if I've done it.
Speaker 1:Everyone can check in with you. Yes, oh my gosh, it's so dope.
Speaker 2:Okay, so the last thing, which I think is very important, is never stop Learning about each other.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Vanessa, you are a different person Than when I met you when you're 15 years old? I would hope so. So why in the world what? I continue to treat you and do the things I did for you when you're 15, when you're different. So constantly learn about each other, keep talking, telling stories After 30 years. Occasionally we tell each other a story that the other person hasn't heard. So always talk, read, listen to podcasts about relationships. There's a really good one called Remix your Marriage. Share that podcast, listen to it and continue to learn about each other. I know anything that I want to do. I love Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Before I go to class, I sometimes I'll go on YouTube and just look at some new moves. I'm constantly thinking about ways I can better my Jiu Jitsu With your workouts. You're always looking for new workouts where you can get better results quicker. You're constantly working, so why would we not do that with our spouse?
Speaker 1:Exactly exactly. We should always want to learn more. There are times and we will get into our marriage challenge. The every day is something different, but one of the greatest things. That's why we added the 30 minute walk, because there are times that me and Lenin, when we're walking and he'll start telling me a story about his childhood and I'm like what the heck? I didn't even know that happened to you Like I'm discovering new things about him because we continue to spend that time together and we ask each other questions. We ask each other questions about our day. It's not always, it's never. I'm so grateful for that. It's never one-sided.
Speaker 2:Yes, just remember, this is your homie-lover friend. Treat him that way.
Speaker 1:Homie-lover friend. Wow, that was old school.
Speaker 2:That's right. Yeah, thank you so much for joining us on this episode.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I'm excited. The next episode is hopefully gonna come out this week as well, because Valentine's Day is coming up and we need to get started. It's going to be like a mini episode. We're just gonna go over really quickly what the marriage challenge is, why we're doing it. I mean, I think that's obvious.
Speaker 1:How it works, how it works, and what we are gonna do is we already have a Facebook group page that we had like years ago, and what we'll need to do is we're gonna put a link on our Instagram and you can sign up your email, do all of that. We'll add you to the Facebook group page so we can have other couples that we're doing this with and we can share about it and talk about it. But we're super excited about it and we are going to start it on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2:We mix your marriage on Facebook. You can find it under Lyndon and Vanessa or we mix your marriage on Facebook and then we will add you to the private group. We'll give you the option once you're on that page. Yes, you can find us on Instagram. Remix your marriage pod on Instagram and you can also send us an email with any questions or comments.
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Speaker 2:And we out. That's it.
Speaker 1:You didn't say love hard.
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Speaker 1:Who are they loving hard?
Speaker 2:Each other. I hope that was a very odd question.
Speaker 1:I don't know why.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 1:Bye.
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