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Remix your Marriage Podcast
Sharing our dysfunctional story of relationship, young parenthood and a broken marriage that all started in 1989, to a new incredible marriage. In hopes to help other couples not make the same mistakes.
We will have open and honest conversations about our ups and downs, our bad decisions and how we learned to get through all the Messiness! Marriage is tough but it is also amazing if you do it right!
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Remix your Marriage Podcast
Ignite Your Marriage 10 Day Challenge: Games, Romance, love and some laughs (link in the show notes) Plus a FREE giveaway!
This is the 10 Challenge that has changed marriages! One of our favorite things to do together with our Remix Your Marriage community!
10 Days of fun things to do together, for each other to Reignite the flames or to add fire to the flames that haven't stopped burning! This challenge is for all couples!
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Hello and thank you for joining us on a very quick episode where Vanessa is going to do what I am going to go over the marriage challenge that we are kicking off on Valentine's Day. In case you didn't know, I'm Lyndon and this is Vanessa. Oh, hello, and this is Remix, your Marriage, and at the end of this episode we will be going over our free giveaway All right.
Speaker 2:So what I'm going to do is I'm going to go over each activity, whatever it is, for the next 10 days. What you'll be doing, Just going to go over it briefly. The whole PDF will be in a link in our bio on Instagram. We also have a Facebook group page where we can all do this together, kind of talk about it. It'll be cool. I think that we'll kind of revamp do, maybe a couple times a year.
Speaker 1:The Facebook page is Remix your Marriage, so it's the private group, not the regular page. So if you are not a part of the private group of Remix your Marriage, we will add. You Just look it up and you will see a picture of me kissing Vanessa on the cheek.
Speaker 2:No, we need to update that picture. It's sold and I don't like it.
Speaker 1:It's old-ish.
Speaker 2:Okay, so day one, which will be Valentine's Day what a great way to spend Valentine's Day Day one is a 30-minute walk. The reason we added the walk is because Lyndon and I phones away, unless you want to take a picture, which we would love if you took a picture and you tagged Remix your Marriage and posted it. Yeah, and posted it. But what we love about our walks is our talks. It's just we have learned I learned something new about them again and we just talk about everything and anything, and it's been just such a great time together. All right, so we want to flirt and compliment each other. Remember back in the day when you used to flirt, when you used to I don't know, do you cheat? But also make sure it's their love language too. Make sure it's not something that's forced.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but have fun. Have fun with it. Yeah, you don't want to overthink it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, One thing I have decided that I do is if I see Lyndon and I think he looks good today I could see his biceps. I knew he was going to do that. He looks at his biceps every time it's like a tick he flexed. Anyways, I wish you wouldn't look.
Speaker 1:I can't help it.
Speaker 2:Anyways, going back to, if I see that he looks good, I'd never wait to say anything. If I'm thinking about him and he's not here, I'll call him and just saying I love you. I was just thinking about how incredible you are and blah, blah, blah. I didn't mean to. We're good, yada, yada, yada. No, if you think something kind, say it and just flirt, compliment each other. It's important. Day three, probably my favorite, seven second kiss. How many of us do?
Speaker 1:Yeah, quick, half second kiss.
Speaker 2:Or you know what? Some couples don't at all. They don't kiss anymore.
Speaker 1:That's true. So when are they doing the seven second kiss?
Speaker 2:When they say goodbye, when they say hello, if they're together all day, say they work together.
Speaker 1:Just randomly.
Speaker 2:Like surprise, give them a nice seven seconds. There's a four in the number seven.
Speaker 1:Does it have to be tongue in bolt?
Speaker 2:If they want, I don't care.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's optional.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's optional. Go for it All right Day. Four couch time no phones, lenin. Another thing we love is our couch time. Make sure you've walked and even asked. I'm sorry I have to say that Fitness, you know professional here, but couch time is so great because it's one of the things that we love with our family, with our kids, with each other. We just want you to disconnect from anything digital. Hold hands, talk about your day and day. Five sexy flirty texts. I know we had talked about flirting before. This is a little bit more specific.
Speaker 1:This is if you're apart. So the other flirting is when you're together. This is when you're apart.
Speaker 2:Exactly. I mean it says it Send whatever that is, whatever your partner enjoys, likes you think is just flirtatious, go for it. Number six at home date. We love these. I don't know about you, but sometimes I have no desire to get all dressed up and to leave the house and go for dinner, especially if we've had a long day. So have fun together, cook together. It can be just such an incredible experience just cooking and talking together. Maybe you're doing takeout you could do that as well, whatever is comfortable for you. Seven sweet notes I love a sweet note.
Speaker 1:How about a steamy shower and then the steam goes on the mirror and then you write like a note like you're in a movie. Yeah, Like a little rom-com.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Okay, you can do that Extremely. I went directly to horror movies.
Speaker 1:when he said that it's the steam. I don't know why.
Speaker 2:So maybe not for me, hun, yeah, and not to.
Speaker 1:But I'm just right red runoff.
Speaker 2:No see, that's my thing. Cuff, okay, but some other people may like it. I like a little Post-It, just like I love notes. You know, before we had phones and texting and we would have to actually leave each other notes. I remember the little hearts, like you know. I'll be back soon, anything like that. Number eight is my favorite, but also some of you are going to fear it Slow dance. I know it's going to actually, for some of you maybe feel awkward in the beginning, like why are we slow dancing in the middle of our room?
Speaker 1:Hey.
Speaker 2:But just give into it.
Speaker 1:Even if. Let it go. If you're part of the Rhythmless Nation, it's okay. You don't need rhythm to slow dance. All you do is it's a hug and you just rock back and forth, that's it.
Speaker 2:And choose a song that means so much to the both of you, like, have it ready on your playlist and just go for it. It really is beautiful, and I love this one because I'll never forget the feedback that we got on this. We had, you know, several couples tell us the last time they had slow dance was at their wedding.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that, and just make sure it's not an R Kelly song.
Speaker 2:Okay, next Nine play a game together. Do some kind of activity, whether it's pickleball or. You don't have to go all the way into pickleball. You can play a card game together.
Speaker 1:I mean something as simple as having a little pillow fight. I mean I think that's fun as long as, as long as you know you don't get too crazy and try to knock each other out. But yeah, any type of game that you guys love playing Fun together. Yeah, trivia games. If you're, you know a friend's nut, go get a friend's board game and you know, just have fun with it. Just have fun together.
Speaker 2:I don't know. I didn't know where you were going with a friend's nut, but you went crazy about the show Friends. Yes.
Speaker 1:They knew, but you were a little freak 10 date night.
Speaker 2:This is going to wrap up the challenge with a special night. The phones remember only for photos Whether you want to go to a restaurant. Recreate your own. What is a great date night for you? I have to say I used to say try not to make it a movie, because you don't talk during movies, but we've grown from that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because Lyndon and I absolutely love movies, love new movies, we love watching movies together, as long as there's a dinner to follow to where you can talk about it, or before. Yeah, you're right, it can be before. But just do a date night, you know, get dressed up, do the things like you're dating. This is all to bring you back to where you were when you were courting each other.
Speaker 1:Yep when you were dating Yep, this is not your husband and your typical husband and wife date. This is I'm trying to get her, I'm trying to get him date.
Speaker 2:So this is the fun part. Okay, that I didn't mention. We have a written on the list, so you guys will see all of this when you go to the link and you know you save it, downloaded, whatever. By incorporating sex into these days, you'll not only reignite the passion, but also reinforce the idea that your relationship is more than just friendship. It's an intimate and loving partnership. So we would like if six out of these days, seven if you want to do all 10 days, by all means all 10 days.
Speaker 1:So 50 to 70% is the goal.
Speaker 2:Yes, on the PDF, we've helped you out. We've added the days that you can incorporate sex. If you need help with that, I think that slow dancing is going to lead to that. I believe flirty texts all day long is going to lead to that. Oh yeah, that's all the fun. That's what we're hoping for, but that, but sex is an important part of this because that is your intimate connection and, like I said, that's what makes you different than just friends doing a fun 10 day challenge together.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know, very, very important part of the process is that part of the connection.
Speaker 2:We want you to rekindle your intimacy in these next 10 days and, if you know you're like you guys, we are rekindled, we have sex all the time. You know what?
Speaker 1:So make it even better.
Speaker 2:All right, and that's it. 10 days, 10 days. I think that's doable, absolutely. If you want to raise the bar. I'm going to say some. I know.
Speaker 1:No pun intended.
Speaker 2:If you want to raise the bar and you want to, you know how, like when we have fitness challenges, we'll be like, okay, raise doable and raise the bar. Always raise the bar. Where is your mind?
Speaker 1:You're doing mad puns? Okay, just go ahead, I don't even get that Wrap it up.
Speaker 2:No pun intended, I'm wrapping it. Oh my gosh, if you want to, like when we would do fitness challenge, I would say, like you know, you modify it, but for your advance. You know pushups on the on the toes instead of on the knees. Okay, this is for those pushups. Pushup on the toes, people. Day one 30 minute walk. Day two flirt and compliment. So on day two, 30 minute walk, flirt and compliment, and so on. Seven second kiss. It just stacks, yeah, it just stacks. Okay, so that's for your advanced options.
Speaker 1:And, as promised, this is the giveaway that we're doing. So on Instagram, on our remix your marriage pod account, there will be a picture that says who referred you. So what's going to happen is you're going to refer as many people as you can to like that page. They're going to go under the picture that says who referred you and they're going to tag you At the end of 30 days. It's going to start on Valentine's Day and in March 14th, at the end of those 30 days, you're going to see who referred the most people and then we're going to send you something special in the mail and that's your challenge.
Speaker 2:That was the game show host person you always wanted to be. I like it. You got to live that right now. Yeah, that's exciting. I'm going to be out this literally the second.
Speaker 1:That's true. All right, you guys. Thank you so much. It is Super Bowl Sunday and we told a little fib like we were going to record this earlier, but no, we waited until Super Bowl Sunday.
Speaker 2:I know we did but I did injure my back, you did injure your back. Yeah, I had like stuff going on.
Speaker 1:So so sorry, it had nothing to do with me. All right, you guys have a great day.
Speaker 2:Have fun, do the challenge and refer friends to do the challenge. Please have a couple of friends do it with you, but we'll talk about it more on the Facebook group.
Speaker 1:All right, thank you guys. I hope your team wins.
Speaker 2:Go Usher.
Speaker 1:Love hard, remix your marriage and we out Peace All right. So just go hard a little.
Speaker 2:Love, peace, peace.