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Remix your Marriage Podcast
Sharing our dysfunctional story of relationship, young parenthood and a broken marriage that all started in 1989, to a new incredible marriage. In hopes to help other couples not make the same mistakes.
We will have open and honest conversations about our ups and downs, our bad decisions and how we learned to get through all the Messiness! Marriage is tough but it is also amazing if you do it right!
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EP13 - If only He knew: Things you wish your husband understood about you. Husbands listen, trust me!
Today we talk about Gary Smalley's "If Only He Knew" the book that helped save our marriage! In this episode we uncover how this book reshaped Lyndan's perspective on his wife and women, emphasizing the importance of understanding and respecting gender differences. Hear about a desperate husband who followed Gary's unconventional advice and saw his marriage flourish. Learn why proactive learning about each other’s needs, even before marriage, is key to fostering deeper connections and understanding.
Our journey takes a heartfelt turn as we share how faith and new experiences brought hope back into our lives. Discover how friendships with Julianne and Derek positively influenced our family and how a visit to Mosaic Church in Hollywood became a pivotal moment for us. We also delve into the dynamics of spontaneity and compassion in marriage, discussing the importance of empathy, especially around PMS, and how open communication has strengthened our bond. Tune in to be inspired by our story of mutual respect, spontaneity, and the transformative power of understanding in relationships.
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Speaker 1:Hello and welcome to Remix your Marriage. I am Lyndon. Oh, I was going to say I am Vanessa. With my lovely wife vanessa.
Speaker 2:Um, I am so excited about today's episode as am I because this is the book I know we are talking about, the book that I never read, that changed my life yes which makes no sense.
Speaker 1:And the book that changed my thought process, not only about my wife, but about women, about intuition. Today we are talking about the book by Gary Smalley. If Only he Knew, If.
Speaker 2:Only he Knew.
Speaker 1:And this was the book that changed my life. It changed my perspective, it changed my egotistical thoughts of my wife and of women.
Speaker 2:You realized I wasn't crazy too.
Speaker 1:I'm still realizing I did, there was, there was I mean there's you know, there's moments, but there was a lot of things. I thought this is only my wife and she's crazy. And after reading this book I realized that it's so much deeper than what we see on the surface that how, how we are so wired differently from each other men and women are wired so differently, and trying to communicate with you the way I want to be communicated with was horrible.
Speaker 2:You, you also, to back up just a little bit you also needed to be in a place of pure desperation, of healing your marriage, to where, when the pastor asked you to read this book, you were like, okay, I'm going to whatever I need to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So you. I would hope that husbands wouldn't need to get to that place and just read it. I think this would be great for people who are engaged too, or even dating.
Speaker 1:Yeah, read it. I think this would be great for people who are engaged too, or even dating. Yeah, absolutely. The book just opens up with this man who is desperately wanting to stay with this wife and she wants to divorce him. She can't stand him. She's already talked to the divorce attorney. He's gone to Gary, the author of this book, and said I need your help, I do not want to get divorced.
Speaker 1:Gary ends up reaching out to the wife. The wife was like no, I'm done this. This. This guy's an egomaniac, he's a whore, he's the worst person, the worst husband. I am done. And Gary says to the wife is there any way, by any stretch of the imagination, that you will take him back? And she said absolutely not. And then Gary just said what if he did this? And what if he did this? And she's like well, I would consider it. So he goes back to the husband and he tells the husband yeah, you're done, dude, she wants nothing to do with you, but here's some advice that is in this book. Here's some advice that I can give you that can really help and maybe help you get her back.
Speaker 1:So she ends up going through with the divorce. The husband says I'm getting an attorney. She wants 20%. Gary says give her 25%, don't get an attorney. That's where it all started. That's where the change started. Because he didn't want to do that Long story, gary runs into the guy two months later. He says I did everything that you've told me to do. I took it. I practice all of that stuff. My wife and I are now remarried and I've learned so much about my wife and her needs and her wants and everything that I was doing wrong and we are so happily married. We're still learning, but we are back together.
Speaker 2:When she said he is the worst person, worst husband. Yeah, and he did that big 360.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that being said, this is an important episode for us husbands to listen to. Of course, wives, you should listen to this, but go grab your husband if you can, or send this episode to him, but don't send it like you're.
Speaker 2:Also, if you're engaged or if you're in a serious relationship, wouldn't it be better if people I think that we forget that we did not do things the I'm putting quotes up traditional way we got married super quick and super fast, that we learned all these things about? I know you learn in your marriage, but a lot of these things we should have learned before we got married. So I think it'd be great for people like that. I'm just adding my two cents, yeah.
Speaker 1:I love. One of the things he says is that you know you have to go to college for four years to get a degree in whatever it is you want to do, whatever business you want to do, but we can just get married. There's no law, there's no rules, so we could just be a parent too, yeah, so it's important that we treat our marriage and our relationship the same way we would treat our career.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's important to really get to understand each other's side Exactly. So one of the things that I want to talk about is intuition, a woman's intuition. I did not believe in that and this is one of those things that I know. You wish that I knew, and there was times when you would tell me not to do something. You would ask me not to do something, and I'm like she's crazy. Like I can go down this street, I can do what I want, and I just didn't believe that there is a reason when you had this feeling about something.
Speaker 1:And one of the stories he talks about is this husband invests $50,000 without telling his wife. And he goes to her and says, hey, I just invested this $50,000. And she's like you know, I don't know finances, but I feel very uneasy about this. And he goes well, you don't know finances, so you know this is my decision, you know I'm gonna. This is what's best for our family. Anyway, she ends up talking about it. She goes I don't know what it is, but it's not sitting well with me. Well, he goes back. He's able to pull his money back out of that investment. A week later, that investment company got busted and everyone lost their money, and she had no idea why she felt that way, but it was just something that she felt in her, and they have proven scientifically that a woman's intuition is a real thing.
Speaker 2:From the moment Lyndon read this book. How many years has it been? 17, 18 years ago? There is not. I am not lying and I'm not being dramatic, even though I tend to be dramatic.
Speaker 2:There isn't one time Lyndon has not listened to me when I say I don't feel good about something, I don't feel right about something, I don't like this. It was like magic. However, I I struggled with that. I, I really felt like he, you didn't take me seriously. I sometimes felt very naive around you, you know, and, um, you made a lot of decisions without talking to me. So then I didn't feel respected and I had already struggled with not feeling very bright growing up and not feeling very smart. So then, to have my husband undermine me and not believe in me. And when I knew I felt it in my gut. I felt you know, I, I, you know people call it intuition. I felt it was the Holy Spirit that would just always speak on me about things. And then, after this Lyndon, after that book, he would just respect me all the time.
Speaker 2:In the beginning it like shocked me. I was always surprised. I'm like oh, so we're not going to do that. No, you don't feel good about it, do you and I'm like no, and so now it's just common, it's what we do. You do not make one single decision, even buying an RV. That's why our walls are all white, because you can't decide on what to put up on our walls, but not even like the smallest decision you. You just do not make without me and you want to make sure I feel good about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I want to be clear, I wasn't undermining you and I think this whole mansplaining thing and all of that has gotten a little out of hand. Because you know we are, we are kind of wired to be the providers to take care of our wives, and I know this goes against some things that people believe, but we're just wired that way.
Speaker 2:I'm wired to want to take care of you, but as women, it can feel undermining when your husband you look at it as if your husband is not trusting you and not believing you and when that's really a good point to make is that we're just wired differently. You know there was a lot of times that you know there's probably too many. I cannot remember, like all the little ones with decisions, but I think the most impactful and biggest decision was changing churches, and if you know what that's like, that is very difficult. We are not church shoppers. We stay pretty loyal to our church.
Speaker 1:Well, we were at that church for 17 years.
Speaker 2:Yes, we raised our kids there and we loved it. I mean, as you can see, the worst time in our marriage we had the biggest support and it was because of that church. But we had been there for many years and we both kind of felt it, without saying anything, that we kind of felt like our growth had kind of there was a ceiling.
Speaker 2:Is that how you say the expression. Yeah, it hit a ceiling, we reached a ceiling. We reached a ceiling, is it really Okay? And we were in a very bad place. So Bella had seen a Instagram post. Who's Bella? Oh, bella's our daughter. If you don't know who Bella is, you need to go back and listen to our other podcasts. Okay, so she had seen an Instagram post, and this was eight years ago, and it was, uh, julianne and Derek Huff. Uh, if you don't know who they are, google them, instagram them. Anyways, we were big fans. We love dancing with the stars.
Speaker 2:We knew they were going to be in Studio City and at the time we lived in Santa Clarita, and if you know anything about what we've talked about, santa Clarita, I love it, it's my hometown, but you don't leave Santa Clarita, you stay. It's like this bubble, you stay in and nice and safe, and I'm like I am not going to Studio City for that, because I was just so unhappy. And then, just Bella begged us. So it does start with Bella. Bella begged us and then something just was telling me I'm like we need to do this for her together. And they just did fitness and we didn't know if they were doing it once or twice.
Speaker 2:However, they were doing it, but Bella really wanted to go. There was going to be a lot of people there and they would be hosting it, and so I, for I I wouldn't say forced, but I asked you. You were super hesitant about it. I'm like I just think we should go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just. I just thought it was some type of advertisement. I didn't think they were really going to be there. Yeah, I thought we'd show up. You didn't even care.
Speaker 2:You're just like whatever my girls want to do. Right, but I didn't want to disappoint you and Bella oh, you're right by thinking that they were going to yeah, and so Bella was getting irritated with you and and so Sophia was just like, let's just go along for the ride. So we go to studio city. They are there, we start. By the way, I had was done with fitness, so I hated the idea of working out. I was just so over it. But we worked out. We had the best time.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And while we were there, lennon's like yeah, maybe we'll do this once a month because we're not going to drive out to studio city every week. I just think it's funny because we drive out there all the time and and then I'm like, all right, we'll see. So then they started posting on Instagram where we're going to do a different kind of workout every week in this area and I told him I'm like I think we got to stay committed to this. I really and did you want to?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you did not want to, and I'm just like it was upsetting me that you weren't as excited as I was, because something was stirring in me.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:I was getting like hope again. And, oh my God, what is it with me talking about things and it just it hits me, my, my emotion.
Speaker 1:Well, I think I, If this was before, before the affair, I wouldn't have gone.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I would have asked you not to waste gas and all that stuff. But because all of this stuff had happened, I had read this book and I'm like, okay, she's feeling something inside. I cannot deny it because I know that's real. So I'm just going to hang out and I'm going to trust the process.
Speaker 2:So I'm just like, I feel like we got to stay committed to this. I just I don't know what it is, I'm just so happy when I go. It just felt like there was something sparking in us and we would go, we would do hikes, we would do different types of workouts throughout the city. Then we started to get to know Julianne and Derek a lot. They would call us fam family because we were the family that always came together.
Speaker 1:The absolute, realest, kindest people.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And my top 2% of the best people.
Speaker 2:The best people.
Speaker 1:That I've met.
Speaker 2:Yes, our youngest, sophia, was struggling with socializing in school. It was torture. It was so hard to pick her up from school because she would cry she was just getting. It wasn't even so much. She was getting bullied, she was. I think that is as bad maybe worse to be ignored. And that's how she felt and we knew that change had to happen, but we just didn't know what. Sophia ended up meeting a girl there that graduated from this charter school and they both related with socializing. Where was the charter school? They both related with socializing.
Speaker 1:Where was the charter school?
Speaker 2:And then I'm getting there full word.
Speaker 2:And um, and then, and then Sophia meets this girl and she tells us and I'm like, what's the name? She's like, oh well, it's in Santa Crita. And my jaw dropped. I'm like, are you serious? I go, we're from Santa Crita, and she's like, oh my gosh, it's the best school, whatever. So she gives us that information. We're so excited, we even told Julianne about it. I'm like this place is so great. Look at, it's changing my daughter's life, you know.
Speaker 2:And then, and then we ended up Sophia ended up enrolling into that school. Anyways, we keep going and I think I just told Lynne I go, just trust me. And I think you started to have a lot of fun. We learned it was our first time going to SoulCycle ever, you know, fast forward to that, the SoulCycle instructors that we met ended up being incredible friends of ours. And then we introduced us to Core Power Yoga, where Bella ended up getting to be a certified instructor. About two years ago she became a certified instructor with a core power. But the biggest change One day we were just after SoulCycle. Yeah, we were all chatting, and so we got to know them very well, to where we were like the like, the four of us, five of us. Sometimes my son went, we would hang out with Julianne and Derek.
Speaker 1:After everyone was gone.
Speaker 2:And who was his girlfriend, but his wife at the time, while everyone was gone and we would just talk and she's like. I don't know why. I feel like I have to.
Speaker 1:You said that backwards. You said it was his girlfriend, but it was his wife at the time.
Speaker 2:Oh wait, no, no, no, it was his girlfriend then and wife now, yes, and so, and so then she was like I don't know why. I feel like I have to tell you guys something. I got nervous because she seems so nervous about it. Let's just keep in mind we were not looking for churches. It wasn't something we were doing. We were happy, we knew we needed change. We didn't think that changing our church was possible. We just it wasn't something that we really looked at, you know. And then, and then we didn't know her faith or anything. She's like okay, I'm just gonna tell you really quick there's a church called Mosaic. It's in Hollywood. It's incredible, it'll change your life, and that's it. She kind of leaves, then we get in the car and Bella's like mom, we have to go, please. And she's just going on and on and I looked at Lyndon and he's looking at me like no, like abs, we are not going to go to church in Hollywood.
Speaker 1:There's no way.
Speaker 2:And I looked at him and I go I think we need to, I think we need to, I think we need to take the jump or the leap. And I didn't have him convinced which I think is so beautiful of him because he wasn't convinced he did. We didn't have him convinced which I think is so beautiful of him because he wasn't convinced he did. We didn't convince him, julianne didn't convince him, but he trusted me, he trusted his wife and that meant everything to me. So the following Sunday we go to um, we, we go to Mosaic and I still remember it like it was yesterday. It was eight years ago and we walked in and I even remember where we sat and the moment worship started and Mariah McManus, who is worship leader there, she just her voice. The minute it was like within seconds, and let me tell you, she has one of the most incredible voices in the entire world.
Speaker 2:But it wasn't even so much that. It was just this feeling that all of a sudden, I felt in my heart. God say you're home. You're home, and I'm bawling, I am crying. I look next to me, bella's crying she's still Sophia's crying and I'm looking at my husband. I look at you, love, and you're just shaking your head. You're like you got like. I felt like you were thinking I am with these three dramatic, crazy girls and I was crying because I knew it was going to be a hard conversation with Pastor Gary, who had completely changed our lives and our marriage and I think that is one of I wanted to share that story because there's so many decisions Lyndon trusts me on, but that is the biggest life change because now Mosaic is, we are completely different people.
Speaker 1:We have grown, god stretched us and it's still stretching us and I have to say, like from that decision, I've met some of the best people. I have friends there that I would have never met before. It's a very diverse community and our girls needed the diversity. As did I. Yes, it was just one of those things that I would have never listened to you and I would have fought you on it and talked about gas and travel and all of that stuff we got in the car and I looked at him.
Speaker 2:I go, you understand, this is our church. Like I just looked at him, I'm like you know, this is our church now and Lennon's like well, maybe we could do both churches and I'm like this is our church. I'm honestly, I'm a better human because of my relationships there.
Speaker 1:So moving, moving past the intuition, I like to talk a little bit about sex.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, yeah, let's go there.
Speaker 1:There is for a majority of relationships. There's a misstep. There's the men, who can have sex at the drop of a dime. They can get home from work, a man can be stressed. A man can be happy, sad, and sex is always on the table. Women are typically wired differently. You have to feel good. There has to be cleanliness. You can't have bloat. You can't have bloat. Room cannot be messy, exactly so. There's so many things that I was like, but this is part. This is why I thought you were crazy. Why does our room have to be clean in order for you to enjoy sex?
Speaker 2:My gosh the fact that I don't even have to explain that to women, Women everywhere right now. I know, I get it.
Speaker 1:And men everywhere are going. Why does it matter? Why do I need to brush my teeth now, when we were dating? Why do you need a brush? I'm not actually saying that. I'm giving examples.
Speaker 2:Okay, yes, so if you would let me finish what I was saying, that sounded really bad, that everything always has to be clean, because I am a spur of the moment person too. Okay, go ahead, don't get frustrated, go ahead.
Speaker 1:Why do we have to brush our teeth now? When we were dating, we could just have sex and we didn't have to brush our teeth. And if you're already naked in the shower, why don't you just stay naked and come to bed and we can have sex that way? I think all that way, and and look.
Speaker 2:All people brush their teeth. Though hon, I do have to say that.
Speaker 1:I may maybe, but I don't remember when we were in our twenties Like I remember just kind of going for it Okay, okay, good. So learning to understand that just because you, I am ready at the drop of a dime doesn't mean that you are. So what I have learned through this book is the importance of courting you throughout the day. So helping clean or cleaning myself, cutting I don't mean cleaning myself, I mean cleaning.
Speaker 2:Helping you clean the house myself. I just got a total visual when you said myself Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:What's your visual Like?
Speaker 2:a cat. No, oh my gosh, I don't want that visual.
Speaker 1:I know that it's important for me to tell you I'm proud of you when you're just in your regular everyday clothes, to tell you how beautiful you are and remember to tell you how lucky I am to have you. And I think a lot of times that men, husbands, we assume that you know that we think you're beautiful, we assume that you know how much we love you. So we don't always say it. So I really had to learn to get in the habit of saying it, telling you I love you and all of those things texting you I can't wait to see you, I can't wait to kiss you, giving you kisses, goodbye, and it's a whole warmup and not doing it just because sex can be.
Speaker 2:It's where you're. It's where the love language comes in. By the way, knowing your wife's love language, yeah, because you could do something for me, that isn't that big of a deal, like I don't know. Uh, I don't want this to sound bad, but I think the lowest of my love languages is, uh, touch. What is that? One Physical touch, physical touch, physical touch, which is not something that I don't like, but it's at the bottom. So if you're physically touching me all day and different it's, it's not gonna. You're not really courting me that way, cause that's on my love language but acts of service is my love language.
Speaker 2:So if you're doing like you were saying doing things around the house that is a turn on. So it's really, really important that spouses know what the love language is.
Speaker 1:But I also believe that if we're apart, if I'm at work or you're at work and we're not together that words of affirmation through a text or leaving a note on the mirror just saying I love you- I feel, like, even if words of affirmation is your last one, it's still part of the courting process.
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, can I ask you something? When you say men can have sex at the drop of the dime, so what if, like, something big happened that day? What if something tragic happened that day? What if, you know, I don't know what if we had a day of a lot of things going on or some kind of trauma or something? Can you do? You still want sex, or do you need like a minute? Does that make sense? Because I've never understood that. I know that men, some men, well you, sex is a comfort for you.
Speaker 1:So that's a perfect example. You don't understand that because you don't feel that way. So if something tragic happened to you or to someone, you know, the comfort that you need is different than the comfort that I would need or be okay with. So if something tragic happened on your end and I was like you know, come over here, maybe we can have sex and that's going to make you feel better, that's the last thing on your mind.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But for me that can be a stress reliever. It can be like, yeah, this is actually helpful.
Speaker 2:You feel closer to me too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like a it's. It's a very hard thing to explain without sounding like a complete pervert, but it's. It's the truth. Like we are. We are so different in that way. So finding a way to I don't want to say come together, but finding a way to find that middle ground where I can do it at the drop of a dime. You need a little time, and finding that middle ground to where we're both happy is so important.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Once I learned what sex means to him truly and I love sex too, but I'm just saying but what I? I think I learned to love sex once. I understood a little bit more of how he felt when we had sex. He felt closer to me, he felt that I loved him. He felt that he was more than a roommate. We were doing something that was something you couldn't share or do with anyone else. Our first marriage retreat we went to, I remember we looked at each other and he's like you're not crazy. And I go yeah, and you're not a pervert.
Speaker 1:And that's the name of our book.
Speaker 2:We really were blown away. Blown away because we did not know anything about each other and, yeah, I just had to add that. Yeah, I can also be spontaneous. It's not that if you know you didn't have anything nasty to eat or anything, I'm not like go brush your teeth, but there's certain things I love. I love when you know you just get out of the shower, I've showered and I love. I love everything clean and fresh and all that. But it doesn't mean that it has to be that way in order for us to have sex all the time, cause sometimes we're just like let's go. Yeah, you know, I really don't know why. I wanted to make that clear.
Speaker 1:Cause I sound like a crazy person. Well, and you've become this person. So in the first part of our marriage you were not like you are now, but over time you've.
Speaker 2:Become like a crazy person.
Speaker 1:No, become the person that's spontaneous, that you're on. Oh, the spontaneous part, yes, Because before it had to be this whole setup and the only time it wasn't a whole setup was if it had been like three or four weeks then you're like let's just, let's just go, you know.
Speaker 2:Just so sad. I would just say that I'm like, all right, let's do this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was excited. So over time, like you said, you've you've become to understand me more and I've understood you more, so now being spontaneous can happen, because it doesn't feel like it's a chore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, another thing before we close, that I was blown away by in this book. That was so powerful that I think every man should know. Lyndon understood PMS. He understood that. You understood that it was a real thing. He understood it. You understood it.
Speaker 2:So I keep saying he cause I'm looking at you and it feels so silly you understood that these are hormones, that I don't mean to act this way, that I'm not using it as an excuse. And once you understood that, I really also did my best, because then I was like, oh okay, he gets it now. And then I felt like I had an excuse to ask for more, want for more. But I made sure I wanted to respect him in that that he understood. But to the point where he would bring me chocolate home, you would still. Yeah, you still do. He still gets things for me at the grocery store, with no question. Just he does.
Speaker 2:And there's just things like who would have thought a book would have? But not only not that it's a book, but that it was written in a way for you to honestly have compassion when it comes to me, about PMS and when it comes to women, that it's a real thing and that it's just I'm in a mood, but then I also once you started to understand it, if I was in a horrible mood, I just would learn to communicate. I just need you to know I'm PMSing right now. I apologize, but I'm a mess today.
Speaker 1:And I have, I turn up the patients. During that time. I give you a lot more wiggle room. You do, you do, Because if I took it for for what I felt like it was, we'd be fighting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, which we were, we did, but.
Speaker 1:I know that you can't control it.
Speaker 2:Also, I mean you need to teach a class on it, because there's three of us, three women, in this house and we all run the same time and he does not leave the house. We do not scare him away, he just gets us all we want. I really have a great man.
Speaker 1:I just become the butler, but that's okay. No, you don't. So, as we close, just understand your husbands. Your wife is not completely crazy and, for wives, your husband is not a complete pervert.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:We're just wired differently.
Speaker 2:Wired differently. That's it, and we just have to learn. We just have to understand each other. We were just wired differently, wired differently.
Speaker 1:That's it, and we just have to learn.
Speaker 2:We just have to understand each other. Yeah, that's it, and I want to tell you that I love you.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love you too, and when you wore that dress at that wedding, no, we're not talking about that right now that dress. I couldn't focus at all. I forgot who got married. I was all I could think about was that dress and what was underneath and thank you, I love you and that was just. You look beautiful.
Speaker 2:Thank you and.
Speaker 1:I'm a very, very lucky man.
Speaker 2:Ladies rent the runway. Why did I start rent the runway so late?
Speaker 1:They don't know what that means yeah. I bet you, a lot of women, know what that means. Well, men, you need to learn so you can try to avoid it.
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Speaker 1:Love hard. Look at you, little freakity.
Speaker 2:Why do you have to go there? You always go there, you said hard Love, please. I really don't think you should do that.
Speaker 1:Do what, okay, bye, alright now it's time for the first episode of the new. Okay, bye, all right.