As the Lunar New Year unfurls before us, many find themselves entangled in the loose ends of the past. Our latest episode offers a sanctuary for those seeking resolution and rejuvenation. We crack open the wisdom of completing cycles, a theme that resonates deeply with the personal voyage of our guest, Myra, whose self-discovery in Guatemala mirrors our collective yearning for freedom and authenticity. Through stories and insights, we unwrap the importance of letting go of ancestral patterns, embracing the transformative power of practices like breathwork, and the vitality holding our traditions close while allowing them to evolve holds for our personal and cultural relevance.
Relationships often act as a crisp reflection of our deepest habits, presenting a tableau of our inner workings. The episode takes a tender look at how we complete each other, urging a dance with vulnerability as we glimpse our habitual reactions through those we hold dear. Myra's narrative extends an invitation to approach self-improvement with a sprinkle of light-heartedness, showing us how the journey within can be both profound and peppered with joy. We're nudged to adopt a humble posture towards life's feedback, an attitude that transforms the way we perceive and dismantle the patterns that no longer serve us.
Finally, maturity is ushered in, not with stern admonitions, but through the liberating acts of acknowledgment and closure. We meander through the necessity of wrapping up our personal cycles, not just for our own growth, but as a catalyst for a ripple of change that can elevate global leadership and societal compassion. Emphasizing the act of offering apologies and initiating tough dialogues, this episode is an ode to the maturity that fosters a more humane world. Join us as we embrace the closure of our narratives, weaving a tapestry of confidence and positive energy for the future.
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As the Lunar New Year unfurls before us, many find themselves entangled in the loose ends of the past. Our latest episode offers a sanctuary for those seeking resolution and rejuvenation. We crack open the wisdom of completing cycles, a theme that resonates deeply with the personal voyage of our guest, Myra, whose self-discovery in Guatemala mirrors our collective yearning for freedom and authenticity. Through stories and insights, we unwrap the importance of letting go of ancestral patterns, embracing the transformative power of practices like breathwork, and the vitality holding our traditions close while allowing them to evolve holds for our personal and cultural relevance.
Relationships often act as a crisp reflection of our deepest habits, presenting a tableau of our inner workings. The episode takes a tender look at how we complete each other, urging a dance with vulnerability as we glimpse our habitual reactions through those we hold dear. Myra's narrative extends an invitation to approach self-improvement with a sprinkle of light-heartedness, showing us how the journey within can be both profound and peppered with joy. We're nudged to adopt a humble posture towards life's feedback, an attitude that transforms the way we perceive and dismantle the patterns that no longer serve us.
Finally, maturity is ushered in, not with stern admonitions, but through the liberating acts of acknowledgment and closure. We meander through the necessity of wrapping up our personal cycles, not just for our own growth, but as a catalyst for a ripple of change that can elevate global leadership and societal compassion. Emphasizing the act of offering apologies and initiating tough dialogues, this episode is an ode to the maturity that fosters a more humane world. Join us as we embrace the closure of our narratives, weaving a tapestry of confidence and positive energy for the future.
www.myrahpenaloza.com
Instagram @myrahpenaloza & @robindra
Sat Nam, welcome to the portal of bloom.
Speaker 2:Portal to bloom.
Speaker 1:It is now February and we're excited to start this new month. It's there's a lot of really amazing things happening this month, including Chinese New Year's the Lunar.
Speaker 1:New Year's, but today we're really excited to dive into a conversation about completions because that's what's showing up for us right now. You know, we started 2024 and I don't know. I kind of felt like wait, what about 2023? You know, there was still a lot of things that that I was working on for closure, putting things to closure, so a lot of the focus that we've been working on personally and with our relationship, with our business and with everything, we've been just focused on completing processes.
Speaker 1:So, you know, I'm always thinking about what's in the way of our potential, what you know, what is it that keeps us stuck in patterns and cycles? You know, we were both kind of hesitant to start New Year's resolutions this year, just because you know it, just same thing, the same kind of pattern repeats itself. We're like we start the year, we're gung-ho. There's this honeymoon phase, right. Anytime we start something new, there's a honeymoon phase and it creates this illusion that oh, wow, okay, I'm gonna be new and fresh starts are great places, like a new year is a great place to start a new and a birthday.
Speaker 1:New cycle and, however, you know, we were hesitant to start the cycles, this new cycle, just because there it just felt like, oh, we're the same things are gonna happen again, Like we're gonna have all these New Year's resolutions and then at some point we're gonna drop them all and go back to who we were in 2023 or beyond, and just we were just like scratching our heads a bit and it's like, ah, this is like. This is a common thing in humanity, you see, even with relationships. Nowadays, we have so many images, we have so many stories of how images should look and feel. We have all these images of how a new year should look and feel through imagery. Really, you know, the storybook picture is that it's like it looks perfectly magical, but in reality, your Instagram feed is not your real life.
Speaker 2:I mean stories is what keeps us connected to tradition, and there's nothing wrong with tradition. But if we allow the tradition to evolve, we then start generating another cycle. And what I've been learning, what I've been sleeping in lately, is kind of this spiral effect, this spiral idea that yes, it's a circular pattern but it keeps expanding and it keeps journeying and it keeps evolving. So if we embody more of that behavior of completing cycles, then we start to kind of evolve, the tradition in us starts to evolve. And we need traditions, we need our stories, otherwise we lose our culture, we lose our connection, we lose our ability to relate and to connect in dialogue, in relationship, in connection, in humanity, in humility and all those things if we don't give the tradition the ability to evolve through us Because sometimes eventually it dies if it's disembodied, if it's not embodied, if it's not practiced Say, for example, kundalini Yoga if it's not practiced, the tradition will die right. But then it's up to us to allow it to evolve because it's embodied.
Speaker 1:So yeah, life flows in cycles, right, and in each of these cycles there's a beginning, there's a middle, there's an end right.
Speaker 1:In humanity. We have seasons, we have time. We just talked about a new year and we talk a lot about the moon cycle. Right, full moon, new moon, fourth day of the moon, 11th day of the moon. There's cycles within cycles and we have cycles within ourselves. We have phases of relationships. We have phases of these patterns that play themselves out family, our relationship with money, our relationship with the romantic partner, our relationship with friends, our business and within all these cycles, if we're not consciously putting things into clothes, we carry the weight of the past cycle into the current cycle. And so, like you start this new year and you have this backpack and you still got 2023 on your back because you haven't closed a lot of things, and so to create a life that, in a way of being that is continuously closing loops, closing cycles, is a very powerful way of being. Completions.
Speaker 2:And it takes discipline to complete things right it takes self-respect and it takes that self-initiation to to complete, to close the loop In recycling.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so we're kind of all. We had this interesting experience. We were looking for home for a long time. We were in Canada. We're like where's our home? In Canada? We were living. Every winter came around, summer was wonderful, but the winter came around and it was like 10 months and we were just like this is not our home, it doesn't feel right. We tried everything. We were looking for home in British Columbia, california, all the way up the coast and nothing. Mexico and nothing really felt like home. And I think that's an innate thing, that humans were all looking for this sense of home and home. What we've discovered since moving to Bali even though we feel very much at home here in Bali home is that sense of wholeness that arises when you feel complete.
Speaker 2:And not to say that you're incomplete, but there is the yin and the yang, or the yin and the yang, and when it comes together it becomes a unit, it becomes a fulfilled feeling of holiness, of wholesomeness.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we all have this deep longing for wholeness. We all have this and it's buried deep, and maybe some of us it's not buried so deep, but this is a very consistent thing is that we're searching for home and ultimately, we find ourselves eventually at home within ourselves, within the moment, within a relationship. So it was interesting. We finally found this bridge and we found ourselves in Bali. Of course, there's the honeymoon phase we get to a new country, you get to a new city, you get to a new year, you get to all these new, new, new, new things, and that's the thing that's like a way of being now. We just swipe, we just keep going the next, next, next, next relationship, next business, next year, and if we have that habit of not actually being conscious of what needs to be closed and continuously closing loops and cleaning.
Speaker 2:It's always kind of this search for it's got to be better, there's got to be something better, there's got to be something better. It's almost like we're trapped in another cycle of chronic dissatisfaction.
Speaker 1:And ultimately we're looking for wholeness and that wholeness comes through completion. And so, thinking about it, there's this blind spot of these patterns. It must be a blind spot, Because how do we just keep letting these patterns repeat themselves, right Of a relationship with my father that just keeps playing itself out, or a relationship with your family or your parents that just keep playing itself out. It's a bit of a blind spot and this is kind of how it works. So the mind, it doesn't really distinguish time. The mind.
Speaker 2:It doesn't know whether the past is being played now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly. So quite often the past is being brought into the present, and so there's two focal points that we can play from. One is the mind, which is quite automatic and coming from the mind. The mind is actually always in the past Because the mind's reference point is the past experience, so the mind is always coming from the past experience, so the mind is always generating this entanglement of the past being the present, and so a lot of people have a lot of fears of oh this happened in the past.
Speaker 1:And it's going to happen again.
Speaker 2:The mind is in the past and because we seek it, so we keep confirming it.
Speaker 1:And the pattern keeps going and going and going. So the mind says that this pattern is real and it takes a lot of consciousness to be like actually no, this is not a real fear.
Speaker 2:And a lot of prana.
Speaker 1:A lot of breathing, a lot of breath work. So reality appears to us as a phenomenon, and this phenomenon appears to us through where we're looking from our perspective. So our perspective, or where we're looking from the mind, is looking from the past. So that includes all your past experiences, all your past traumas, all your past past, past, past past.
Speaker 2:Past relations yes.
Speaker 1:And I remember when we were in our third year of our festival and you looked at me and we were about to embark on a big, big investment and it was kind of breaking even. It was breaking even. We were making a little living, but the level that we were taking it to was like whoa, would you sure you want to do this right? And a lot of the patterns were coming up of my relationship with finances and how to manage a business and how to manage life like that, and the way I was able to awaken from this moment. I spoke to a mentor of mine and I really stepped into. So the view that I was coming from. I realized the past story that was repeating itself was because I was operating fully from my mind and the second I shifted to operating more from my heart. A lot of things shifted. So our festival is, and was called Bloom and for the first two years it was a working title.
Speaker 2:We were kind of still allowing it to reveal itself.
Speaker 1:But it felt good. Yeah, it felt good, but we didn't fully trust it at the moment.
Speaker 2:Because we were doubting.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Then this question you asked I was looking for something better Made me look deeper and I said if I wasn't doing the festival Bloom, I would be helping people Bloom. And then, no matter what, I realized Blooming is my calling. Blooming is the way I see reality, the way when I'm in my heart. I want everyone to bloom. I want everyone to experience a level of joy and peace and freedom that I've got to experience after feeling all the other things, after the ups and downs of life. So I realized people are. Blooming is my calling. And then I looked at Myra and I'm like hey, myra, you're in your.
Speaker 1:We had a small apartment in Canada and she was new to the city and she was inviting people, or actually women, over for tea ceremonies, and so it started off real cute. It was like one or two women and all of a sudden it's like a whole freaking apartment full of like 15 women. We had to rent a special venue when we had to rent a whole hall for it and it turned into a festival. But we realized like the thing was. I asked Myra I'm like why get you so excited about hosting these events? And it was.
Speaker 1:She's like there's this 17-year-old girl and I'm θx, I'd say Joy. I would say who do you like? I think it's movies. She is amazing at Tarot and I'm so excited to put her on the platform, to have her sit in front of all these women and just share her gifts. And Myra was lit more than you knew right At first when I asked you the question. She's like I want to free women in Guatemala and I want to create a project in Guatemala and da, da, da, da, da, da da. And I'm like you know, I think the woman you want to free is yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was the baseline.
Speaker 1:Yeah. And so we realized, you know, myra's gift to the world was empowering women, because that's the thing that you wanted most in your life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and with a you're not in a harsh tone, but with like, softness and grace and a gentle approach, as I was seeing that a lot of the like, self-empowered movement within the feminine domain was very not aggressive, but just you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was these ashtangi power yogis running the show and leading the consciousness charge.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but in that reflection it was just a lot of grief and a lot of sadness. So for me the motivation was to bring joy. So when that 16 year old, 17 year old girl at the time was doing these tarot card readings, she was just joy. She was emanating joy, beauty, radiance, and it rippled out and it created so much grace and beauty and softness.
Speaker 1:So we share these two stories because this is how we were able to move ourselves out of the blind spot of operating from the past which is a natural thing that we all do Because we saw, in this blind spot, we are repeating patterns that are not ours, that are my father's and her father's and our ancestors, which we bless them and we're so grateful for them. Yet we don't want to. We want to build, we want to create our own patterns, we want to create our own way, and so we were able to uproot and shine a light on the blind spot by getting into our heart and moving beyond the mind, because we knew the mind is coming from the past. The mind is bringing up only what it knew before.
Speaker 2:You have to remember too, that part of this adaptation wasn't coming from an egoic place. It was really coming from a community space, a space of creating again more fluidity, more freedom, more relationships, more ways to gather together, to continue to share in story and traditions, and allowing that embodiment to evolve, to break free from the habitual hunting thoughts and patterns that we either choose to carry or don't choose to carry.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So the first step is like whoa. The way we're kind of designed here is that we're coming from this illusion, we're coming from this idea that, well, the mind is coming from the past. The blind spot is, whoa. We don't realize that the mind is continuously just coming from the past. Yet if we, through breath, through practices, we bring ourselves into the present moment and bring light and bring awareness to whoa, that's a pattern, that's from the past. I'm gonna be here. That will bring us home. This will bring us back to the state of wholeness. Otherwise, we're just gonna be looking for it everywhere we go.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and the beautiful thing about a relationship is that sometimes you know the opposite can see us more clear than we can see ourselves. So you always kind of pinpoint my patterns and, depending on your, you know the method that you've been applying, that you're practicing and embodying. Depending the depth of that method of self-cultivation and preservation, you're either triggered by it or you're not. Quite often I find myself being so triggered and like F off, you know, let me be in my misery.
Speaker 1:Well, there's that quote. I don't know what movie it's from. I think it's actually Jerry McGuire and it was something like you could complete me. You know it's such a cheesy relationship quote, but it's so true it's an every rom-com, and this is how we complete each other. Is we help each other complete each other? Yeah, I help you complete you, completing yourself. You know not that I complete you, but I help you complete you, you know.
Speaker 2:So that I can see you know the defaults or the program that I'm running, that he knows, because we commune in, you know, in areas and aspects that we wanna, kind of you know, become a little bit more exalted in, like, I know I wanna be a better mother, but why am I like reacting so, you know, victimized by my daughter not wanting to wear what I told her to wear, you know, and it's like because I was controlled. It's me trying to control.
Speaker 1:And then that's yeah, so the past coming back, that blind spot that you don't even realize you're coming from, exactly.
Speaker 2:So when he picks, when he, like you know, calls it out, of course I'm ah, let me be in my thing, and but then it takes. It takes a good ability and a good practice to be able to like ah, you know, it's not about me, it's about my bigger version of myself that I strive to become.
Speaker 1:Our teachers, Kathy and Nando, mentors, friends, they tell us all the time that humbleness is the first door to take in life, in relationship, especially, that that we humble each other to that feedback that we may give one another. You know, if we take it personally then it's not really gonna help.
Speaker 2:And that's the cosmic joke Is you know, don't be so serious. You know, don't be so serious when your reflection, your mirror, is reflecting back at you the thing that you've been trying to overcome, or the thing that you've been trying to not repeat.
Speaker 1:Reminds me of when my yoga teacher of the past where I mean used to say stop being such a tight ass. During downward dog I had tight hamstrings and it was that. It was just this humbleness to be like to let go, that I trust you, wife, that you complete me.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And your job is to show me my patterns. Just, you don't have to like you know, like that. It's just more like hey, did you notice? Did you notice like when, so late, when your daughter did this, you did this? Or hey, did you notice your son was doing this and you did that?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And just to take, and then for me to take it back and make notes on these things.
Speaker 2:There are opportunities to explore. They're not these like concrete, set in stones ways of behaving. When we come together and we pinpoint these things, there are opportunities to explore it deeper.
Speaker 1:And the thing about it is we're so quick nowadays, you know, always like on to the next thing, on to the next thing, on to the next thing, on to the next thing. You know that if you don't slow down and catch it and record it in a notebook. So once you catch the pattern, immediately write it down. If you're really fancy, put it in Excel sheet, put a date on it, you know, and just say here was the trigger, here's what happened, dah, dah, dah. And just make a habit of wow, I'm gonna complete all of these things. You know, in a month you could say wow, here's the 30 things that came up and here's what I see as the pattern and here's where it came from and here's how I'm gonna close them. Whoa.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:You know it's a delicate. There's a delicate space with relationship, right when it could be like it could be taken as blaming. You know You're blaming the child or you're blaming the wife, or the wife's blaming the husband, right. But if you both commit to number one, going to one, I'm no longer operating from my view of reality, which is my mind. I'm operating from my calling, my Dharma. People are blooming, women are empowered and if we're operating from there, we're committing to moving away from the vicious circle of blame and we're moving into learning. We're committing number one. We're committing to being humble. Number two we're committing to learning to be in a conscious state of learning so we can create new patterns, so that we can truly create a new future.
Speaker 2:Receptivity, yeah, humility, receptivity and, ultimately, trust.
Speaker 1:And so, then, we allow completion to be a part of our lives. In that way, I feel like we should write these back into our vows. I now commit.
Speaker 2:I now recommit to deepening my humanity. Our wedding vows are being rewritten.
Speaker 1:Here we go To be continued. So completion is a process and wherever you go, there you are. That's the thing that we're trying to avoid, right? I mean, that is just the way it is. You have a new job, there's a honeymoon phase, you love it, and then it starts to feel like your old job. Yeah, and the patterns reemerge. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because the reason why that honeymoon phase is so prevalent is because you're so present. But then you get into the rhythm and it becomes mundane. And one thing that you can, you know, when you align yourself to your destiny, however it unfolds for you, right, the better version of yourself. One thing I remember Kathy taught us was that, even if the mundane feels habitual, it's your opportunity to weave in the joy. It's your opportunity to weave in aspects that you strive to want to commune with, that you strive to want to be in allyship with. You know that you want to cultivate in body more.
Speaker 1:So you know, have you ever done a course that you didn't complete?
Speaker 2:Oh my god, yes.
Speaker 1:Have you ever started a new year and then complete the year before? Have you ever started a new relationship, like even a new girlfriend or a new, you know dude friend or whatever? Yeah, we all do these things where you know you take it to almost the finish line and you don't complete it. You know we had this one course we started together and there's like one module left.
Speaker 2:Or start a course.
Speaker 1:And we started another one. So let's finish, let's commit to finishing that and just bring this to life. You know, the podcast has been great because a lot of this stuff we talk about becomes alive in our lives, and that's been a real blessing. So time lives in your mind, Time exists in our story. We are timeless.
Speaker 1:It's all in the mind. The rest, yeah. So we bring the story everywhere we go and in that way, the same patterns and same cycles keep repeating. We start to realize that, we start to see it and the big thing is okay, I am aware. Now, that's the first step. The first step of this whole process is number one. I am now aware. So we help each other become aware, Be aware of what's stuck right, what is repeating, what's showing itself up.
Speaker 1:To get that is stuck and that's the beauty of life is like what's in the way is the way. Do you know what I mean? You don't have to go searching for anything, you just wake up, brush your teeth, do your Kundalini yoga, have your tea, have you do your tea ceremony, get the kids to school or whatever your pattern is, whatever your processes are, you just live. Then you live in a way that you're like I am consciously completing programs, I'm completing things and watch. Things will start to show up for you to complete and email out of nowhere like, hey, we were wondering if, boom, that's an opportunity for you to complete that situation. Close it. Yeah, like our bookkeeper just emailed us from Canada the other day and I was like, oh yeah, great, and I didn't even message her. She messaged me and I'm like that is, it's calling to be closed. Wonderful, that's just beauty.
Speaker 1:So we don't have to look anywhere, we don't have to do anything, we just have to start to commit to the process of having a completion in our lives. I complete everything so that I can be fully present for creating a beautiful future Makes sense. So a part of that is well then, we talked about it a little bit, but taking 100% responsibility. I feel like we talk about it every podcast, but really that's it. So now I'm aware of the thing that's causing the patterns and where I'm stuck, or at least like I'm aware that I'm stuck in this or I'm aware that I'm seeing this pattern. Then the next step is to take ownership. That hey, okay, I'm responsible for that showing up in my life. Because if you use the blame game like, oh, it was the market crashing, or it was her fault, or it was that culture's fault, or my culture's fault, or whatever you come, up with.
Speaker 2:This always happens to me. I saw it coming, or whatever the narrative.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so the second you take ownership, it begins to rewire your brain. Then reality changes and what was consistent will begin to change. And what was consistent was you. You are the one in all of your problems. That's the one thing that's in all the problems is you. So you need to change these problems.
Speaker 2:Yeah, nobody can take away your tranquility except for you.
Speaker 1:So the only way, the most powerful, impactful way to dissolve a pattern you don't have to go to a psychologist, you don't have to do years of anything is to constantly just be aware of it, to clearly see it. Oh, it could be from this situation. Oh, it could be from that.
Speaker 2:To choose to do something about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know it doesn't have to be this big mega shift, but, like you say, baby goat, micro steps.
Speaker 1:Micro steps. Yeah, yeah, so that's how we dissolve patterns is by clearly seeing them and then committing to taking ownership. Then you'll notice like in your body, naturally we resist it. You know we keep resisting. Like I know this pattern's here, but I'm resisting it. I'm gonna go in the blame. I'm gonna blame everybody else but me, because the blame gives me a dopamine hit. Yes yeah, makes me feel good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you go back to the victim thing. Yeah, because it gives you that?
Speaker 1:yeah, but then if you've like the partner that is there to complete the other partner, to remind that you're here on a bigger mission. Yeah, then we can focus on this state change of moving from resistance to flow, no longer resisting reality. What is showing up as in the way is the way it's showing up for you to resolve the pattern.
Speaker 2:So what's showing up in?
Speaker 1:your life right now. I don't know what's showing up for you.
Speaker 2:I mean, you know what's showing up for me?
Speaker 1:I do you want me to tell?
Speaker 2:you. You can see it clearly. Yeah, I mean, what's going on showing up for me is just not hydrating my vessel enough.
Speaker 1:So not taking self-care.
Speaker 2:Self-care and just you know like. Oh, I had tea this morning, I had tea last night, but it's not enough and my pattern is for me to run off not being hydrated enough.
Speaker 1:So yeah, the world I mean chronic dehydration is like a thing across. It's a global thing. I think it's a global thing. You know. I mean honor that water in your life. You know water flows. Water is sacred no water nourishes, makes everything move nicely.
Speaker 2:We come from water, we are water, holy water yeah.
Speaker 1:So then, yeah, so we go from the state of resistance to state of flow. We're no longer resisting the pattern, we see the pattern and now we're going to put ourselves in states that allow us to shift the pattern and then, if we're able to sit with it, to be able to sit with the past in the present and kind of just break through it. You know what I mean, like be able to just sit with, like, yeah, you know, quite often I'm, I'm, don't want to do the things that I know I need to do you know I don't want to do it.
Speaker 1:I have these program in cycles of laziness, or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2:You know procrastination or just rebellion to like. Don't tell me what to do, even though you're the one telling yourself that you need to do the thing. But there's this.
Speaker 1:And then that is exactly. It Is that because the mind is coming from the past, sitting in the future. Here she, I like, quite often, all of us. It's so funny that, like your mom, your dad, like like I, you know we all think to embody our parents in the relationship.
Speaker 2:I become his mother, or he becomes my father, and and we've normalized this a bit, you know like we've kind of like, oh, overlooked it, oh, it's a very common thing, and it's like well, actually be my husband.
Speaker 1:You know that's just going back to the moment, right?
Speaker 2:To the present.
Speaker 1:So yeah, so the very Capricorn you know, C is for completion, c is for Capricorn.
Speaker 2:C is for closing the loops.
Speaker 1:Closing the loops and, and you know, these patterns keep repeating themselves. And these patterns come from this kind of flight or flight response to life. So we're, you know, going from the survival of life to this very conscious thriving in life, which is just, ah, I'm aware of the pattern, I'm aware of my ability. I'm not only aware of the pattern, but I'm confident in myself, in my ability to dissolve the pattern. And this is where the shift comes. And that's because I have a higher calling that I'm not just about survival, I'm about helping people bloom. I'm I'm about my was, about empowering women. You know, when you come from that space, it shifts everything.
Speaker 2:And sometimes, I know, for some women, the mind, because we're so automatic, automatically wired in a way where we do so much. You know, multitasking is kind of like our domain and because it's again, it's a story, you know we're able to do all of it and still, you know, show up for whatever the thing is, maybe not, you know, maybe consider that, you know, concentrate on one thing at a time and give it your all, give it your 100%, give it your focus. And if the mind because I know that for me, I'm, I'm definitely I'm very Vata, I'm very mind oriented and I want to find solutions through my mental projections versus really sitting with him and feeling through it, because I won't give myself that opportunity to feel through it, because my mind wants to rationalize it and can become really dominant in, like you know, justifying all these things, why I shouldn't, or why, or all these ways where I have already been in real reality, in the present, there has been no feeling right, because I have to pick up my son at 12, you know, or whatever. Is it that the task at hand that needs to happen?
Speaker 2:So one tool for me is it's okay to outsource someone to help you do the motherly things right. Because, again the story for me, when you ask me what's coming up for you right now, I'm getting real and what's coming up for me is being a controlling mother. You know, I want to pick up my kids from school, I want to do the drop off, I want to do you know the surprising the snacks. I want to take them on a day trip to their favorite place. I want to take them out to out of school during a weekday and, like, have a one on one with them and yeah, all those things are great, but also at the extent of me being moody or being extra exhausted.
Speaker 1:And not taking care of myself and not taking care of myself.
Speaker 2:You see the cycle of that right and being super dehydrated because I hadn't had time to actually drink water and sit, you know.
Speaker 1:Because you were running around the town taking care of the kids all day. Because, yeah, beautiful, you're an amazing mother.
Speaker 2:And I have a specific reason for that motherly support. And I oscillate between that. You know there's periods where, like, I'm fully engaged and then there's periods where usually it's when I'm sick, where I like hands off and allow you know my external domain to just help and you know, assist. And now I'm actually at a point this week I've practiced, where I'm like I'm doing drop off and my support can do the pickup you know I'm support.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's liberating so much and I'm going to keep doing it. So that's what's coming up for me. And it's also been the story that you know I wanted my mom to pick me up and only my dad picked me up and I really wanted mom time and I never had enough mom time. So it's like that rigor meditation of my past.
Speaker 1:That's coming up for me. I'm just so in awe of. Like. You know, I just started talking about completions like a week, two weeks ago, and I wrote it down, I put it on my wall and I just kept thinking about it and then, quite magically, things that needed to be complete started to show up and I'm like, wow, I just set the intention and now I didn't have to look for what needs to be completed. The thing just shows up. And that's the beauty of life is that you will be given opportunities over and over again to complete things. You just have to be able to see them and put them into action.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right let's let's complete this podcast.
Speaker 1:Yeah and and as we finish, maybe you know what think about any Actions you want to take to allow completions in your life. Are there people you need to talk to? Old friends, new friends? There's their bills you need to pay, as their banks that need to be reconciled, as their taxes that need to be done. Is there any cleaning up you want to do with your kids yourself, you know?
Speaker 2:anything that's taking up space in your heart and in your mind. That's kind of an indication to actually make space, to look at the space that it's taking up, so then you can make space for Emptying the self, so that you can be more present. You can be. You know the embodiment of the, you know evolution of tradition, of what it is to be a human on the planet.
Speaker 1:Yeah, then, to have those deep, those harder conversations with friends and family, whoever, and say hey look, I saw how I did this and I'm sorry I showed up in that way, you know, and in that way maturity happens Not just for you, but for them as well, and, in a way, humanity as a whole Can start to grow up, because that's what humanity needs right now is to grow up and become more mature.
Speaker 2:A lot of it Is that we're also charged up. You know, in in in Latin America, we call it cargada. It's doesn't we cargada? You're so charged, you know. So it's time to lighten the load lighten the load and grow up.
Speaker 1:you know, I Guess maturation yeah well maturity, you know.
Speaker 2:A lot of people, a lot of humans you know Haven't been initiated into what it is to be a mature version of themselves, of themselves.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so that is really in comes from your ability to close, put closure to things and start, and as you do it, even as you take the smallest closure to the biggest closure, you start to gain a level of confidence in yourself. And then, when you start to do it in the community, with your friends and family, those completions allow a level of maturity to up level and now you become more mature, your friends, community becomes more mature, the planet becomes more mature and then, all of a sudden, you start to see world leaders that are more mature and they're doing things that are Humane and compassionate. You know, for example, it's just that, that's just the way it is, because the world is operating from the past, from you know, these diapers, these world leaders and diapers. But we'll go there later. We'll go there later.
Speaker 2:Yes, another topic at a later time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so we hope that you know, with completions you can begin to see life flowing like water, yeah, like water to access your power in new ways, because you can create a beautiful future for yourself right now.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm. You just have to choose. You know what's gonna give me more energy.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, wow, okay. Well, that's what that's. That's a wrap for today. Okay, so now that now.