No wood vibe, no wine vibe, just good vibe you feel me, yo, welcome back to Life at its Peak once more, Damn man. I know it's been so so long, like literally there's just been a lot going on, but I thought, I don't know, give you all a surprise innit. And today I'm actually not here alone, I'm here with Gabby once more. I don't know if you all remember her man. We had like a whole fight about what her actual name was.
Speaker 1:Of course they remember me. Come on.
Speaker 2:I mean they definitely would, because that one was a banger. But yeah, guys, I don't know how to explain what we're actually doing here right now, but it took a struggle because we're not actually sitting in the same place right now. We're actually from like distance.
Speaker 2:She's like in a whole different continent man Bro for real, like if I tell you the struggle I had to get to be able to connect with Gabby, because she kept on telling me she's so busy and I told her, like yo, I'm going to report you to these people once we get on live and she's like, yeah, oh, my god, that's a win.
Speaker 2:But anyways, let's get into what we're about to talk about here today. And before that, actually you know the normals, we have to go through music in it, and what song do I have here now? I'll let you start. What song you have going on right now? What song's keeping you moving right now?
Speaker 1:in the past week, dude, I feel like I feel like I'm going through like my era of just like finding so much new music. You know, when you go through like a month of just like, literally all you do is listen to new music. So, like an artist that I've been listening to a lot is amalu. She's so good like she's so underrated, it's crazy and she looks exactly like zendaya. It's kind of scary, but there's a song by her called silence it's so like everyone needs to listen to it.
Speaker 1:It's just so, so, so, so, so good what's the name? Yeah, that's mine as for now what was the name?
Speaker 2:her name is amalu, so like a m a l o u okay, perfect two words I mean hope I'll get hooked up to silence, but mine is um right over wrong by alex jean, because this man hey is that french?
Speaker 1:no?
Speaker 2:he's not actually french, that's. That's, that's the interesting part. So he's like he's an interesting artist. So he's like, um, he's well, he's, he raps, but it's like you know, like gospel type of rap. So he's trying to what he does. How he started is you know, he started taking like people's songs and making covers from it and recently, yeah, for time, he's been like making his own music. Now, you know, like with instruments and everything, and he raps, like you know. You listen to his rap and it sounds like, you know, like a crazy type of rap, but it's fully gospel and he's just like just rapping about god and everything. And then there's this part of the song.
Speaker 2:Actually, this song that actually caught me was like man said I was my biggest critic, didn't know how to love. I kept judging the way I was feeling. I couldn't help feeling different, had a void in my heart and I struggled to fill it in. I felt alone, unappreciated to the bone, insecure down to the soul, took my value, pushed it away to the floor. Jesus showed the truth behind my scars, like if you listen to it, you're gonna.
Speaker 2:It's like that's so poetic I'm telling you because you, you wouldn't even know that that's the type of music you listen, you're listening to. You know what I'm saying? Because it's so. I feel like we're so, we're already so used to, like you know, differentiating rap music and you know, probably like gospel and everything, and so his his vibe is just like completely different and yeah, I like that about him, though. But yeah, that's a song, alexion right over wrong. Y'all can look it up, and yeah, we yeah, I think we're good to get into what we're gonna talk.
Speaker 2:Talk about today, guys, it's social media, man, social media social media like I don't even know. I feel like starting here I don't? There's a lot to talk about about it, because me personally, I don't know. I don't know, because what do you think? What do you think about it?
Speaker 1:what's your relationship? What's your relationship with social media?
Speaker 2:That's a deep question.
Speaker 1:Like right now.
Speaker 2:My relationship with social media, well, I don't know, okay. Well, let me not say I don't know, because recently, if you ask me how I feel about social media, I feel like there's a lot going on out there that for me, me personally, right now, I know very well that that's not what I need right now. But social media is just social media. Yeah, but what I've been trying to do recently like me and social media well, it's been quite a success because I now try to differentiate, you know, like, have time for everything, basically, and because you know social media is, it's a for me personally, it's a distraction. Other people use it proper, but me, my relationship with social media is just like right now, at this point, I just use it because you know I have to post stuff. You know, like for like content and everything. I feel like that's the excuse I give myself, let me put it that way.
Speaker 2:But it's just like a common goal like sometimes I'm there, sometimes I'm not, but yeah, it's just like whenever. How it depends on how I'm feeling. What about you?
Speaker 1:yeah, um, mine, I think I feel like I'm I've been like restructuring my relationship with social media just because I feel like, growing up, especially like the age of like, I want to say 15, I feel like that was the peak of like me and my friends and just like everyone kind of like being obsessed about their image on social media, like Like I remember, like me and my friends would like dedicate days to like just taking pictures, you know and there's nothing wrong with that at all.
Speaker 1:I just think we became so like obsessed with it. Obsessed with it at such a young age and like ever since then, like I feel, like I've just become so much more aware of, like the fact that social media used to be like this platform, that where we literally just like share what's going on in our lives and like who we are instead of just like putting on a front of who we want people to see we are, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2:So I feel like that right, there is right, because you know, like back then growing up, well, for me it's like you know growing up, the form of social media that was quite active about posting your pictures and everything was facebook. So, you know, growing up, first of all, my parents didn't even want me on facebook and everything they're like nah, you get exposed to stuff, right? I don't think instagram was a big thing, it was facebook. That was like. You know, facebook and whatsapp that were like really big back then.
Speaker 1:So you know, it was just like you know you wouldn't even read captions.
Speaker 2:People just post stuff. Like you could even post seven pictures a day, you know it was literally like a snap story or something where you like post how your day is going and everything, and I remember they wouldn't want me on facebook, you know, but it's something like this that they know up to probably up to date, like I was active on all of those and it was like you know it was. It wasn't. You didn't know the dark side of it, like what you just said right now, which is completely true, because the difference between what it was back then and what it is right now is like back then you just posted for you know, for just for posting sake, like I just don't, you know, just for posting sake. Like I just want you know, like what people sorry, I just want people to see what I'm up to right now.
Speaker 2:But literally, it's become a story of. I don't want to use the word competition, but sadly it is a competition.
Speaker 1:Sometimes yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Because it's like, okay, if this person is doing this, yo, I might as well. You know, just for clout, just for clout, just for clout, and that cycle is actually you feel kind of like yeah obligated to keep up facts, facts, not even like.
Speaker 2:I feel like it's even worse than obligation, because it's like if they are doing it like yo, I'm not gonna do anything, you know, like that, you just feel I don't want to okay. It's like if you put yourself in this box, that if this person is doing it this way and posting it and everything, okay, I have to also post it so people can see that I'm at the same stage. But people forget to think like yo, we're two different people, we have two different paths. We know. I mean we have two different probably not even the same goals, and the chances of that being the same is like completely slim, almost nothing. So it's like me trying to compare myself with somebody, actually compete with somebody all the way on social media, whereas you know, yeah we're probably not, we're not, we're not the same, and people feel to ignore that completely.
Speaker 2:So I'm like, yeah, moving on. So I had this question, though so do you think our demeanor is affected by social media, demeanor as in?
Speaker 1:because, okay, um, yeah, I think I think yeah, I was just gonna say I think that, um, I think it is, but I feel like, okay, I have two like opposing, kind of like sides to this. The first one is that like, obviously I believe it's affecting our demeanor, but I think I think definitely it like makes us want to. It becomes I don't know. I just feel like we become so obsessed with like ourselves in a type of like way, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:But, at the same time, I feel like we're just becoming so. We're refusing to understand that social media and this whole like era of technology is part of evolution and a part of I know it's a large part of evolution, but it's a large part that we have to learn to adjust to yeah and I feel like people keep comparing us to like previous times where social media wasn't as big, but it's like, of course, like it was different. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean so I just feel like, yes, it's affected our demeanor and, yes, I feel like it's made us like a bit hyper aware about things that we maybe shouldn't be hyper aware about, and that's definitely true. But at the same time, I think we need to start like getting used to, like creating a new definition of what life looks like with social media instead. Of trying to go backwards. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:That makes a lot of sense because you know that's actually quite a thing, because there's like a lot of comparison going on. Like you know, actually, before, before we got on the call, I was just watching this video. Yeah, I was just scrolling on tiktok, I don't know, but I'm just gonna go a little bit out of topic. So, literally, my friend told me the other day well, this completely out of topic, like yo, it feels like our phones actually do listen to what we say, because you know you might talk about something and then you might talk about something, and then you didn't even type it or anything. And then the next minute you're scrolling on social media and you start seeing the stuff I was talking, you were talking about. So back into blind, like topic. So what happened is I was just, you know, talking about like I was preparing, basically, and then I decided to scroll on tiktok while I was waiting for you. I was scrolling on tiktok and then the next minute I see this guy talking about social media and he's like the it's. He just completely said what you said right now. Like we're literally being compared with.
Speaker 2:You know, people are gonna say, um, back in the 1970s, blah, blah, blah. So his idea was like, okay, it wasn't even social media directly, but it was like, okay, people will talk about how love was back then and how love is right now. So it's like, okay, back then people didn't do anything for clout, people didn't do anything. So, you know, people would have like genuine love and everything. But right now you'd find majority of people on social media are like you know, know, everything is, you know, basically for people to see. So you might even have like, um, a common situation is like people who are cuffed or might be cuffed, you know they'll just post it and everything. You know, post, post, post and you know it might look that these people are happy, but they're just doing it for people to see that they're happy. Probably they're not.
Speaker 2:You know, like there's a lot of stuff you were just explaining that there's a lot of stuff that happens behind all this post and everything now that we don't talk about, which is like you know something. You wouldn't have to go through experience back then. But, like you said, it's important that we learn that we're not longer in those days. You know, now we're exposed to a lot more, much more. You know things and it's either we adapt to them or you know. Whatever happens happens, but it's either we actually adapt to them and actually know like okay, now it's a time and day when there is social media.
Speaker 2:Social media is actually a thing and you need to learn how to manage your emotions, first of all, and also manage, you know, think before acting like manage how you react to certain stuff that you see on social media. It's not like, okay, I'm just gonna see this, okay, I need to do the same.
Speaker 2:You know, like just following the trend, basically, but yeah you know, I was just thinking that actually leads on to something else. I just, I just it just came up my mind right now like how do you think that could affect your mental health? Like put yourself in those shoes, though um with mental health.
Speaker 1:I feel like and this is where it becomes difficult, right, because it's like the thing is meant when it comes to mental health, I feel like the generations that grew up with social media and with the internet are, like, more prone to, you know, developing these mental health issues, which is not their fault at all whatsoever, but because, like I remember, there was a study that, um a podcaster was talking about a while back, where it says that because we're, because we're in social media, right, and we see everything that's going wrong, um with the world, literally every day like I could wake up in the morning.
Speaker 1:First thing I see is, like you know, war, famine. You know all of these things going on in the world right and it's like because of that, we have um by like my.
Speaker 1:So I'm 19 right now, my parents are in their um, uh, late forties, early fifties, and basically the study was saying that I have experienced more trauma than they have.
Speaker 1:Not because I'm not and I'm not saying that because I'm trying to compare trauma, because I know, like back in the days, like they went through so much, but I'm just saying, in terms of being exposed to like all the things going wrong in the world, like we've been exposed to so much that we're almost at the level of like our parents or even like past, that you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So it's like it's so sad that, like I feel like we haven't developed like a proper system for us to I don't know for social media to not be as detrimental to like mental health as it is, because I feel like it would be.
Speaker 1:So it would be very ignorant of me to just say like, oh yeah, we need to adapt and we just need to figure out how to you know, um, you know like just like figure out how to live in this new world with social media and all of that because, like it has like it, it actually does play such a huge role in you know how we think, and like our feelings and like if we're okay or not, you know. So it's, it's weird and I feel like I don't know, but it's just. It's so sad because it does affect us so much and I feel like it has. That's very valid. But at the same time it's just like I'm just trying to figure out in my head, like how do we move forward in a way that's not, you know, like making people suffer so much. You know what I mean yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:What do you think about it?
Speaker 2:well, personally, I me, it's a. For me, it's a complete distraction. That's what I keep, that's a. That's a conclusion I came up with, you know. But at the same time, I would also say it's a distraction if you make it a distraction to you. You know what I'm saying and, yeah, it's the same with like, it goes the same with like mental health for me as well, because if you let it affect you, if you let it get into you, because a lot of stuff happens out there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, true, like you said, you know, we wake up every morning and there's like different news, this happening here, this person, this person died, and you know, in the day and time we're living right now, bro, like, literally, social media is just for bad news these days, if it's not bad news, is hating, you know it's not. Like, like the, the average, like the ratio of good to bad happening right now that you see on social media is actually literally bad, having like nine to one ratio, you know. So, you know it's it affects us to a certain extent. But I'll use an example like for me right now, there was a time where instagram, specifically, bro I don't know if this is me or anybody out there. But Instagram, you know how you know people be like yo. Do you watch Instagram rules, or you know, or I don't know. Is it TikTok? Because I don't scroll on TikTok? Yeah, I literally only have TikTok just to post, like my you know my podcast and all that, but I scroll on Instagram rules. I literally sit down. There are days, like before, I'd sit down down to do work, schoolwork, whatever, and I'd scroll on Instagram reels for like a good two hours without even clocking and then, not like it directly affects my mental health, but it causes this ultimate distraction that will lead to something else you know, like the time that I was supposed to be doing what I meant to do at that time. If I don't do it, like you know, there's definitely going to be consequences because at the end of the day, you find yourself if you had to submit work, you find yourself doing your work in a rush one and doing that work in a rush, meaning you're working under stress, under panic and everything, and then that's where it affects now your mental health and, oh, you know, and you find yourself now in this cycle of you doing the same thing because you know, once you do it once and you succeed and you're given that you're handing that work and then it comes back with a good grade. Guess what happens the next time you have work at you know late? That time you're gonna be like, nah, sure I can hack. And then it becomes like the cycle. It becomes like yeah, it becomes like the cycle of like.
Speaker 2:Okay, I do a little bit of work, then I scroll on social on instagram for like 30 minutes. I do a little bit of work and I scroll on social media for like 30 minutes gaps. Let me tell you I deleted instagram. Yeah, deleted. It took it completely off my phone and I was off off of it for like a good while. And you know that because I was just telling myself okay, let me see, because I was like, and the same thing that made me delete it was something I saw still on social media, like on instagram. Sorry, I feel like we've talked about social media to the point where now the word social media just stuck in in my mouth. But I saw it on Instagram and it was like deleted, like and see how you know how you improve without it, you know if you can leave without it, and I just deleted it Like, I just give myself like a one week break off it, like completely.
Speaker 2:And I'm telling you I was so productive because, you know, each time I want to even get on my phone, that's the only thing I do because I'm not going to. I'm bad at replying to text messages. So if you see me holding my phone, I'm either listening to music or, I don't know, I'm using my notepad, I'm writing. You know, I'm just taking down notes because I thought about something and I'm writing, or I'm scrolling on Instagram reels. So each time I picked up my phone there's already music playing in my ears, so there's nothing to do. Then I'd force myself now to go on my notepad and, you know, start picking up ideas and all that, topics and writing about it, and in the space of one week, the notes I took down just, you know, just by make building notes and you know, just making just building rapport with myself. Actually, you know like making just building rapport with myself.
Speaker 2:Actually, you know, like making myself my own company and shutting down everybody else was crazy, was like those crazy adjustment in how I did stuff, because it's like I came back then and I could see a bunch of messages and this one person like a really close friend and she's like yo, you've been lost for a while. That it felt good. It felt good to be told that I'm like, oh, actually, that's good then, because I would. I know I wasn't lost, but I just had priorities. You know, I'm saying I just yeah, I just decided to, because it's like you tell me I'm lost, but I'm like, yeah, sure, but but I'm here, though I just decided not to make this one of my priorities this week, you know.
Speaker 2:And it's crazy how a lot of people allow this stuff to affect them and affect their daily routines and everything, and it leads to many other things. And that's how you find in our time and age, right now, especially our age group, literally you'd find a lot of people overwhelmed at this age and you're like I don't want to judge or anything, I'm not judging, but it's like what are you going through? You know, and you know we ignore the fact that part of it sometimes comes from just simple ignorance. You know, because even me I found myself in that situation before.
Speaker 2:I'm like, bro, I have a lot going on, I have a lot going on. And when you sit down and you ask yourself, like what do you have going on? And you tell, and you put everything down on the table, and then the next question is what's stopping you from achieving whatever you want to achieve? Because by the time you set all of those distractions away social media being one of them you have a clear view of what you actually want to do and what you should be doing. And I didn't even tell you that same week I registered back in the gym and I'm like, yeah, you know back boiling and everything, and it felt, it felt, it felt.
Speaker 2:Good, don't go online yeah so that's my take I feel, like yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1:That makes sense. I have like two things that I wanted to like add while you were talking and um, so, basically, um, the first one is I agree with you 100. I think a lot of like the reasons why we're stressed is because of social media. Just because it's like this. It's literally built to be addictive, like the psychologist behind the freaking the, the what's it called? Um, the algorithms, like that. It's the most insane like thing ever, which is weird, because that's actually like the degree that I was gonna go into until, um, I thought about how, I don't know, I was like, is this ethical type of vibe? But um, but um, yeah, I just like I think it's weird just because, like, as much as I understand that like, yes, you do play a part in the one, like being the one who's scrolling all the time and like not being able to go and do your work, but at the same time.
Speaker 1:I just think the issue right now is that we we're struggling to find a balance, because I don't think, I genuinely don't think, that there's a reality where we can live without social media or, you know, tiktok, whatever it is, just because we've curated our world around it like almost completely right yeah but and I think that there are two extremes it's either, um, we're on social media and it's eating us alive, or we literally, you know, decide to like move away from social media, like as you said, and just kind of cut ourselves off from a period of time.
Speaker 1:And not that I disagree with cutting yourself off, because I think I do this as well but I think we just need to like create some kind of balance, because the reality is that, like you know, there's actually this like theory, right, there's this theory in psychology of, um, this is just like something that I was talking about with, like, some of the psych students. I don't think it's like an actual theory, but, um, we're just talking about how, like, when it comes to addiction and all of that, actually, this is actually how they handle addiction. Right, it's like when you're addicted to drugs, it's like they don't just cut you off completely. You know what I mean. They do it in increments, right.
Speaker 1:And then it's the same thing with, like, social media not to compare the two extremes, but it's the same thing with social media to the extent that, like, we can't just one day cut ourselves off just because when we come back it'll be so much stronger, because we feel like we've been depriving ourselves. You see what I mean.
Speaker 2:So I feel like that's crazy, how, it's true, figure out some kind of exactly.
Speaker 1:We just need to figure out some kind of like middle ground, which is what I feel like I've been trying to do with myself. It's like I know that for me well, for me, I'm like I don't know. If I don't know, anyway, let's, I won't label it. But for me it's like, when it comes to texting people like the people that I talk to on a daily basis, like my really close friends, my family, they know that they can call me and I'll pick up if they need anything. But when it comes to texting, just because I'm trying, not I like I'm not a social media person, if that makes it's.
Speaker 1:I feel like it sounds like I'm lying, because I post like frequently on instagram and stuff like that, no, that I know, so I mean probably other people exactly think that, but yeah, exactly but but it's like.
Speaker 1:It's like, um, I kind of like take the socializing and I don't know how to explain it, but, like, I've chosen different aspects of social media specifically that I see are helpful for me and the ones that I see aren't helpful for me, if that makes sense. So, like, when it comes to like instagram, I and this is why I prefer reels over tiktok, just because tiktok is so damn addictive, but reels you can somehow break that cycle after like 30 minutes of scrolling, if that makes sense yeah, because it becomes the same thing exactly.
Speaker 2:No, I say like it's the same thing on in terms of like. After some time the content becomes, you know, it starts repeating each other. So I'm like I've seen everything. Now I can drop my phone yeah, yeah, literally exactly like.
Speaker 1:It just starts repeating each other.
Speaker 1:So I feel like, uh, because I've noticed that, like, I can scroll on instagram and I'm okay, and I can post an instagram and I'm okay.
Speaker 1:But if I'm on an app like um, like snapchat, if I know, like I'm, snapchat is just an app where, like, I feel like I could talk to people for forever and I'm also just like, I feel like my introversion can kind of like shows in the way I text people, in terms of like, how much I text people. So I feel like sometimes I just reach a point where I just need to cut myself off, if that makes sense. So I don't know, it's just realizing. It's just like coming to, to terms with, like, the way you are as a person and how, um, you operate on social media and how you can find a balance to make sure that you don't feel like you need to run away from social media and deprive yourself of like scrolling because, like you know, tiktok is entertaining at times or like, and also, like, you don't have to like, you know, it's just finding that balance, basically yeah, yeah, yeah, facts, it makes sense what you're saying.
Speaker 2:And because, literally, the reason why I haven't started listening tiktok funny enough was like did I say, listening watching tiktoks funny enough was like I had a friend and I was like yo, you know, each time I forwarded instagram reels to them like any of my friends, everyone is just gonna be like bro, are you seeing this now? Like this thing has been out for like six months now. Like you know, I'm saying because I think there's this gap where tiktok reels, uh, for I become on like instagram after some time. So it's like anybody who's used to watching instagram reels watches everything late. I don't know if you realize.
Speaker 2:So it's like the tiktok trends, you know people would have and everything, and you know I'd follow them and I'll. It would be so funny at the moment for me and I send it to somebody and the person won't laugh and they're like dude, I literally saw this thing months ago and that's when I was like you know what, since you're up to date, I'm actually gonna go to tiktok. So when I forward stuff to you, you can have, you know, reason not to relate or not to laugh about it, but I was just trying to bridge that gap. But anyways, that's what it is. And what do you do to? You know, to like, because you talk about balancing, you know, finding that balance and everything, which was something I actually agree with. Because when I talked about, you know, when I told you I cut it, cut it out for a week, coming back, I was realizing like yo, I can't actually live without it, and me being able to live without it meaning I can control how I use it. You know like, at the end of the day, it didn't take the best out of me, so it's like it can still be there, but I can choose when to use it.
Speaker 2:So what I actually did in order to, you know, bridge that gap or find that balance was. I created a different page so I have like a different. I have two accounts so I don't use, I don't, I don't, I don't stay on my main, I stay on the other account. That kind of helps me. Now you reduce the amount of time that I, you know, spend on there. That's what I, that's what I started, how I started treating it and then after some time I just became used to it. You know I'd get in. Just look, because I barely get messages from there literally texting me. There is just like what are you thinking? So? But what do you do to? You know, like, stay out of that shock. You know, out of that that want to?
Speaker 1:you know, just scroll to scroll and yeah, um, I well, it's weird. First of all, that's an interesting way of going about it that you um picked up, but I think for me, what I stopped myself from doing is the thing is, I know myself and tiktok just doesn't work for me. Like all my friends know, if you send me something on TikTok, I will see it five years later. I genuinely do not open that app just because I know myself and I know that it will just contribute to my stress if I were ever to open TikTok just because I know how addictive it can be. So, just like when it comes to that, like I caught myself off from TikTok completely. So it's like the apps that I use are literally just like when it comes to that, like I caught myself off from tiktok completely. So it's like the apps that I use are literally just like instagram, pinterest and snapchat and whatsapp to communicate with, like family members.
Speaker 1:So, um, yeah yeah go ahead, go ahead, I'll tell you okay, I was just saying, uh, yeah, so, um, when it comes to the apps that I actually use, like Instagram and um, uh, what's what else? Snapchat, all those things, I think I'm just trying to like use it in a very like aware way, like I tried to be super aware of like, um, how it affects me, and all of that, because I know that and this is a fear of mine, right?
Speaker 1:I? I feel like short-form content is literally just making our brains function in a short-form way, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:So it's like every time I catch myself, like you know, my dopamine receptors are telling me like I need to keep scrolling, or something like that. That makes me realize that like, oh, I'm falling into this thing that all these algorithms are trying to get us to fall into. That's literally what they're trying to do, right? So it's like I also like try to prioritize. Like, if I know that I'm lazy and I don't want to do anything, like I'm not gonna act, like I, it's easy for me to just cut myself off. I'll just like watch a lot of youtube. Like youtube is my thing.
Speaker 1:It's like what I do, what I, because I I feel like it's long-form content and it doesn't like it doesn't affect my dopamine receptors the way that, um, the way that tiktok and reels do you know? So it's just also like being aware of. I feel like this is probably just like a me thing, but like I'm just like so scared of being addicted to something. So for me, it's like just being aware of, like what social media does and like what the people behind social media are actually doing. Like being aware of that makes it easier for me to be like okay, let's watch youtube instead of like scrolling too much, because this is just gonna just ruin, like you know my ability to enjoy something, because I'm constantly looking for the next best thing.
Speaker 1:You know, because that's literally how Reels and TikTok are made. It's like it's constantly it's short form content that like makes it easier for you to just like quickly keep looking for the next best thing in like the span of literally like seconds, you know, which is just like. It's so like unhealthy for our brains. So I feel like just being aware of certain things like. That just makes it easier for me to be like okay, I need to find a balance and I need to switch certain things up yeah, I mean that that's that's.
Speaker 2:That's definitely a good one, because you know it makes sense, it completely makes sense because that's something that's something you definitely want to. You know, like you definitely advise somebody to do. Because if you go on something like YouTube and you're like I'm going to watch, for example, because what I would normally watch, there's this podcast. I watch on YouTube Shits and Gigs. They're so good. There's two guys. You probably come across them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've come across them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll go to their podcast probably and their is gonna be, I don't know, like an hour long podcast. So I'll just tell myself, okay, because I definitely can't sit there for like an hour. That's something I've definitely not being able to do. I don't even movies I don't watch. Like I literally have movies and watch 30 minutes. If you, if you enter my netflix, it's literally like I've watched like 20 minutes. I can't stay for that long. So I'll put, like you know, their stuff and I'll just be there, I'll just let it play. Just let it play and I'm listening and I'm probably getting work done. That's like a way and it actually makes sense. You know, I started doing that but I actually didn't think of it that way, like that's not the reason why I did it, but now that you said it, it's actually making you know, it's actually connecting, because it's like staying on short, like the, the short content is actually because you're definitely looking for the next best thing, you know you watch this video and you're happy, you know.
Speaker 2:And then I bet, let me just scroll up and see what's next. And the funny thing is, I don't know, but there's certain stuff that's actually supposed to be beneficial, for you are scrolling on like tiktok and everything, and then you'd keep it. Yeah, literally, you literally be like I don't have time for this right now.
Speaker 2:You're looking for the next you know the next exact same content that you want to see. I don't know if it's something in the brain, but I don't know. But do you think that has changed a part of you so far?
Speaker 1:um, definitely I think so, because it makes me like less able to just sit with myself. You know what I mean. Just because, like, yeah, we're so, it's so hard for me. I remember there's this time that I was watching um, I was gonna say who it was, but just so that they don't come for me, after I was watching youtube with someone and they were unable to sit through the whole thing right and like they would have to keep skipping ahead every time, like it would become boring for them. So after a while, after I also started like being on reels a bit more, I caught myself doing that and I was like, um, this is no zero, because I know that.
Speaker 1:I know the thing is, I've done my research and I know what it's doing to my brain and that's why I'm like okay, wait, pause, let me just like go back to like forcing myself to quote unquote be bored, so that I could find a way to not be bored by the things that I claim are boring me. You know, because it's not boring, it's just that we're so, we're looking for something that that's not what you're looking for at that time exactly like you're looking for something that is so interesting, like you don't even allow the build-up you know that is, which is literally insane.
Speaker 1:So for me, I feel like it's affected me in a way that I don't know really, just because like I feel like me being me, like sometimes I'm a bit, I'm a bit much. So I like I've done my research enough to like find a balance that obviously is not always like what it like. The balance isn't always perfect and sometimes I just scroll, but like I've done enough research to kind of just like I'd like to say that it hasn't affected me as much as I feel like it's affected other people. So, not to sound pretentious, by the way, I have done my research and all of that, but like, yeah, I don't know no, but guys, gabby's saying that she's much, she's Gabby.
Speaker 2:She's not much.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, wait. Okay. What about you? Has it affected you?
Speaker 2:She literally.
Speaker 1:Has it affected you?
Speaker 2:Who me? Yeah, interesting. I just said who me, that's crazy and we're just two of us. But yeah, I think it has, though, like both the good and the bad part of it has affected me because I felt like the, the downfall, I like that word downfall. The downfall of it was like okay, you know it led to a lot of things like procrastination, not even a lot of things like that's the main thing. It actually sums up to, yeah, being on, you know all those reels and everything.
Speaker 2:It's all down to procrastination, because you're like I'll do this, I'll get stuff done. I'll get stuff done because you know it normally starts like, okay, give me 30 minutes, you know that's what you tell yourself. I'm going to take a break 30 minutes, I'll scroll, and then after that, you know I'll get stuff done. Then, when the 30 minutes is over because you know time be moving fast while you're scrolling and you're like, oh damn, okay, let me get another, like 10 minutes here, because normally that 30 minutes will end at like, let's say, 9.50. And you're like, since it's 9, 50, let me just start at 10, let me just give myself you know I started, you know 10, so I can get stuff done. 10 is here and you're like, oh damn, 10, okay, but I just need to finish this video. Once the video is done, you find yourself you move to the next video a long time ago.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it's like for me in that cycle, I feel like it kind of helped me because, to be honest, the time I took off because even literally right now, I still delete it.
Speaker 2:You know, I still delete it because it's not like I feel like I can't live without it, but at the same time, I just don't want myself to be used to it. You know I don't want to use the word addictive because it's crazy how that's true. I don't want to, you know, get to that part where I'm gonna have to start thinking like yo, am I addicted to this? You know, yeah, and also there's a lot of drama happening on literally the only reason why I keep on downloading. It is, like I said, I just have stuff to post, you know, so I have to, you know, update and everything. But it has literally turned me into, you know, it's a complete different, it's a complete change because, you know, at the same time you're trying to get used to it and at the same time, when everything is done, you appreciate how you could put yourself first without putting your. You know you could put yourself first and actually find priorities in the things you do because, you're like, okay, I'm trying to get stuff done.
Speaker 2:This is what I want to be.
Speaker 2:This want be Like a simple example of like what people normally go through is like, um, I don't know you, you told yourself like I'm going to lose 10 pounds and you know, and you'd find, just bro, scrolling is actually a huge thing that we actually ignore, cause, thinking about it, it's, it's all over the place.
Speaker 2:Because, like I was saying, you'd find yourself, you tell yourself like, okay, I need to. You know gym and it's a workout to do this but you find yourself literally scrolling in the middle of the gym. You know, because you have your phone and you're like, I need to see who's updated, I need to see who's posted, and I used to do that a lot, you know, I'll just literally be in the middle of a workout and I'll just pick up my phone and you'll be like, okay, let me check and see if this person is supposed to have this. You know, just to attach. Now, at the end of the day, that person didn't post, but you found yourself in reels, you know. So it's just like I, it's just so unnecessary for me that I'm like you know what?
Speaker 2:I might as well just get rid of it, you know yeah because if it's not benefiting you, if it's not helping you like, why is it there? Yeah, literally so I'm just trying to right now, I'm just trying to focus on myself and trying to learn on how to like actually appreciate my own space and time, you know so I can be like, so I don't be dependent on all this stuff yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, you know. So I can proudly, you know, wake up one day and be like you know. I wish I could be that person. You know, one of those guys who are like I I don't have social media and I have time for that but at the same time, man, it is what it is yo, it is what it is, I'm not not going to completely cut it off. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. I'm not going to completely cut it off.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But yeah, yeah, I don't know, that's it. Yeah, I just feel like so okay, Now I was going to yeah, no, go ahead. Go ahead.
Speaker 1:No, I was just going to say how like.
Speaker 1:We don't think about how much it's literally created to screw us over. So it's like I don't know, when it comes to procrastination and all of that, sometimes I literally just me being me like, just being like a stubborn competitive person. I'm like there's no way. There's this one person behind Snapchat who sat there winning, you know, and I'm losing, just because they were smart enough to create an algorithm. You know, that's that addictive, you know what I mean. Like, if you think about it that way, you're kind of like maybe I should just, like, you know, ditch this for a while, type of vibe, because it literally created to screw us over. So yeah, but that's.
Speaker 2:That's a whole hour. Like that's a whole different topic. I literally talked about that in my last drop, I think. If I'm not mistaken, yeah, it was the last one.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But any who's so at this point? Yeah, like we're already getting. What's something, what's like your word, out there for you know? Let's sum up social media. Yeah, what do you want to put out there? What's your message?
Speaker 1:My, my message I guess my message is that I'm not like the reality is like I don't want to sound like the type of person to be like, oh like, just drop social media, drop tiktok, drop all of that, because I don't understand it's entertaining and like I feel like there's a certain culture and a certain type of like I don't know togetherness that's come of TikTok and of, like you know, social media. So I think my whole thing is just like finding a balance and being aware about how it's affecting you and like how, if it's actually taking over your life, and like how, if it's, if it's actually taking over your life, because I feel like, if you reach the point where obviously we procrastinate, procrastination is normal, but I feel like there's a line where, like it crosses over from just being procrastination to being something that's literally just taking over your life. You know what I mean. So I think my thing is just like being able to be aware about how it affects you and finding a balance that is specific to you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, um, that's a deep message, but yeah, I mean I'd agree with that 100%, not gonna lie, because at the same time, like you said, you can't completely, because if you tell yourself that you want to wake up one morning and cut it off completely, it's, it's impossible, because it's true, when you come back, you're gonna be like yo I haven't been on this thing for like a month. I need to catch up. You know, I need to catch up on the latest trend, latest whatever, and you find yourself in this unending cycle of wanna compare, compete and find yourself in literally battles that are not yours, because in this day and time, like, there's a lot going on, a lot of clashes and all that, and you find yourself in one of those. So, word, just find that balance. I'm gonna stick to that as well. Like literally be able to find the balance. But if you see that it suits you to cut it off completely, please do be my guest, because it's okay you don't have to be on social media.
Speaker 2:It's literally okay. Yeah, but what we talked about before, about how stuff affected us well, nori, not sorry, not affected us, but like how stuff was before and how we get compared to right now. I feel like it's something we're gonna expand more on, but for now, that's it and peace out. Thanks for listening. See you in the next episode.