107: Helping Kids Take Ownership of Their Space and How Decluttering Can Solve Your Anxiety with Katy Wells

Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball

Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball
107: Helping Kids Take Ownership of Their Space and How Decluttering Can Solve Your Anxiety with Katy Wells
Feb 17, 2026
Katie Kimball

What if the stress you feel at home is not just about your schedule… but about your stuff?

I know. That sounds almost too simple.

But when Katy Wells came back on the Healthy Parenting Handbook podcast, we did not just talk about decluttering. We talked about cortisol. About magnets for your attention. About why walking into your own kitchen can change your mood in seconds.

And friends, this one hit close to home.

Because if you are trying to raise independent kids, teach life skills, keep up with meals, laundry, school, sports, and somehow protect your own nervous system… your environment matters more than you think.

Here is what we dig into in this episode:

  • The surprising research linking clutter and elevated cortisol levels
  • Why the average American home may be holding over 300,000 “magnets for your attention”
  • How clutter quietly fuels anxiety (even if you think it does not bother you)
  • What a “nightly reset” looks like in real life with kids
  • How to pass ownership of the home to your children without nagging
  • The difference between modeling and inviting kids into responsibility
  • Why action creates motivation (and not the other way around)
  • The simple starting point that breaks the clutter and anxiety cycle

We also talk about something that might sting a little: why systems alone will not save you.

If you have ever walked into a messy kitchen and felt your shoulders tense… or walked into a clear counter and felt yourself exhale… this episode is for you.

Let’s talk about how simplifying your home can actually strengthen your parenting.

Resources We Mention for Making Home Your Happy Place

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