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Lifestyle Strength
We discuss ideas, principles, and tactics that help people improve their position in life. With a background in fitness, Lucas strives to empower others by sharing amazing stories of challenge, transformation, and growth.
Lifestyle Strength
Authentic Wellness in a Filtered World - Chris Chandler part 3
Ever wonder why personal transformations seem to happen overnight for everyone but you? The truth is they don't— Lucas strips away the filters to expose what genuine growth actually looks like.
Behind every success story lies a messy, often painful journey filled with failures, false starts, and unexpected detours. Whether in business, fitness, or personal development, the people who ultimately thrive aren't those who avoid mistakes but those with the resilience to keep going despite them. As Lucas shares from his experience guiding hundreds of clients, "The real entrepreneur knows they're going to get there, just not today."
This candid discussion explores how finding your authentic path often means shedding aspirations that seemed important but weren't truly aligned with your deeper values. Both hosts share personal examples of misguided passions—Lucas's pursuit of bodybuilding fame and his later realization that online coaching, despite its financial advantages, couldn't provide the human connection he craved. They examine why certain approaches to fitness and wellness work differently based on personality types, and why the most transformative experiences often combine physical challenge with meaningful human connection.
The episode culminates with practical insights on sustainable transformation, emphasizing that lasting change happens only when your motivation comes from within. Whether you're contemplating a career pivot, fitness journey, or personal reinvention, this conversation offers both comfort and clarity: you're not alone in your struggles, and the path forward doesn't require perfection—just authenticity and persistence. Subscribe now and join our community of real people pursuing health and fulfillment in an increasingly filtered world.
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Welcome to Lifestyle Strength, your guide to mastering health and well-being in the real world.
Speaker 2:I'm Ariel, a massage therapist with over a decade of experience in holistic health, and I'm here with Lucas, a seasoned fitness coach, who's transformed the lives of hundreds in northwest Arkansas.
Speaker 1:We're here to share real stories and expert insights about embracing a healthy lifestyle while balancing the everyday hustle.
Speaker 2:Join us as we explore practical ways to achieve wellness and thrive amidst life's challenges.
Speaker 3:Let's dive in. I would say social media has really brought that to the forefront too. It's like we always just see the when we talk about this. You see the result. You never see the work and the timeline that it took to get there. Which we're judging someone based on one point in their life. And gosh, they could have struggled for 30 years before they got to where they were. And I would say most successful business people. This isn't their first rodeo. They've been through the trenches. It's never just worked Like it just doesn't work that way. It's always like gosh, we tried this and we went there and we failed doing this.
Speaker 3:And the more experience you gain, the better it gets, and I would say life's that way too. Like I've really embraced that like, like gosh, I don't have to be perfect, I don't have to come off like I got it all figured out, and that's one of the things I've learned too is, like you know, I'm a story, the whole thing's a story, and I have to go through these trials and tribulations to learn how to be a better person and how to show up better for my family and show up better for myself, and without going through all those things like but that's never the story, right? The story is always the oh this, we see this person and here they are. Yeah, that's the hard part, right? Well, I mean, that's that's just you being authentic, and I think it it's embracing authenticity which is dead now.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's not. That's not what is anywhere. I've continued to try to find that for myself, even like making sure, like even even today I was listening to something about about business, and it was specific to my type of business and the service that I provide and how people are craving that authenticity. It's because they want to be authentic themselves. They don't know how, because if we've grown up in this world of instant gratification and seeing those end results just seeing the honeymoon and you can see the whole dating cycle and the fighting and the awesome moments you just saw the one great moment Right, and I was talking with a client of mine this morning who owns her own business and you know she was to your point. She was saying that business owners, entrepreneurs, they fail, they're the ones that are willing to fail the most. They fail a thousand times and that's nobody ever cares or sees it. And once you realize that that's okay and that it's fine, yeah, you're bulletproof because you can just, you can just be willing to do it over and over and over again, because you only need that one success to make it worth it. Exactly. And that's hard. It's hard for a lot of us to feel, to feel that failure over and over and over again and not know if you're going to get there. Yeah, but I think the real entrepreneur real mindset is knowing you're going to get there, just not today. Yeah, well, you got to keep trying. Yeah, it's not. You know there, there's no, there's no book that's going to tell you how to do it. You got to figure it out on your own.
Speaker 3:And, um, something I said to some high school kids Morgan and I like to give tours of our facility and we were hooked up with some of the local schools and talking about like jobs and what, what it takes to get to the next level and what's, what's that look like now and it to get to the next level, and what's what's that look like? Yeah, and it's they're all kids trying to figure out who they want to be, which is like the perfect age to really get an impact. Yeah, we always talk about if there's one kid that we can impact, it's worth our time, like we can just help one person. It's. It's amazing when we talk about like, um, you know where, the, where the basics, what's important, what's not important.
Speaker 3:Um, and one of the things I said, this last group, I thought, was just like it just kind of came to me. I was like you're going to fail a bunch. You may change careers 10 times till you get it figured out, but if you stay in that career or you stay in that situation that you're unhappy every day, you don't want to be there, it's okay to change it. It's okay to step out and go yeah, I gotta make some changes. I go back to like even where I was three months ago, six months ago. It's like I gotta make some changes and it's like just the self-realization. But you gotta, we gotta tell people that, we gotta show them that that it's okay to do that.
Speaker 3:And then some of the teachers came up to me afterwards and they're like that was such a great message. Like I'm glad you said it that way, because these kids always think like, oh, I gotta go to college, I gotta make straight a's and I gotta get this big career. I'm like, yeah, but are you enjoying it? Yeah, is it something that you want to do? And it's like all these kids gosh, I was that. I wanted to be a doctor, an attorney, and this whole big path of all these different things, and until I figured out that I just want to be a problem solver. That's all I mean. And I just happen to own a business, yeah, and that was a great opportunity that I had and that was it. Yeah, I think I'm having a realization now.
Speaker 3:It's all about discovering how to be authentic. It's almost like a skill. Discovering how to be authentic. It's almost like a skill. It's really hard to be yourself and embrace all of the good things and the bad things when you have no idea what it is that you are Sure. Sure. You think you want something or you think you need something. You think you have to be something because of who knows what Right think it have to be something because of who knows what right. You know my, my journey.
Speaker 3:I thought I needed to be a bodybuilder or a model or an actor to have success or to attract women or, to, you know, just fuel my own ego, whatever it was, you know. But I actually truthfully thought I wanted that for a long time and then, only once, I got in the weeds of it and realized this wasn't going to make me happy, right? This wasn't going to fulfill me, right? Did I have to, like, get rid of that part of me and then shed it off? And it sucked because fitness was like a cornerstone of those things. Yeah, so it's like I was losing the thing that I did love but I was just I was on a path of of of misguided passion.
Speaker 3:Right, yeah, it's like you have passion for the thing that you're doing, but it's just not pointing in the right direction, right, right, and we're always trying to recalibrate that because I think it's going to change over time. Right, you know it doesn't mean you have to give up. You know everything that you're doing. Maybe it just means you need to find a new way to do it. Yeah, it makes you feel more gratified. And the next change from that that I went through was like doing online training and going through covid and realizing I didn't want to be behind a computer all day was not my thing. That's gonna be so hard. I could make more money, I could help more people, but it's just not. It's not who I am right, yeah, I mean we. We have a great interaction every. I feel like every day we're together yeah, so it's.
Speaker 3:We're always talking about stuff and right, and it's really like you. You I'm sure that that personal touch and just it's missed. You just can't get that through a screen that like you can in person, like whether it's you're showing us how to do something or you're you're noticing something about us, or it's like you don't get those interactions the same and I feel like there's so much value that you bring every time we're we're working out and it's just like. It's like I look forward to it every day just to say, well, we're gonna talk about today like what's, how's it gonna go? Yeah, what are we gonna do? What it's? You know, I think that's the thing and you know not not to make it about me or anything, but you know I I think online training, like I said, there's a thousand ways to do it, but there's a thousand ways to become fit.
Speaker 3:You know, a lot of people have seen success through going to fitness classes. A lot of people have had help and found success through online training. Um, specifically, what I find really interesting is, I would say, people of more like you, who you are a go-getter. You need to be you. Just if you're told what to do and you are willing to go, do it. You're going to go do it, and that is highly favorable for online training because I can just send you the plan yeah Cool, you know what to do. Go do it. Check in on you a week, right, and a lot of ceos, a lot of business owners who are pulled in, a thousand directors. You don't want to think about it, they just want to be like that's what I got to do, that's what I got to eat, the meals are ordered, I don't have to do anything, I can just, yeah, do it, spit it out, and they can stay productive in to what they're doing. Yeah, um, but that at the same time, like you said, you miss some of that. I would miss that so much. You miss that relatability. You miss that kind of like that, and for me, it's, it's the more impactful change, it's the feeling, right, it's.
Speaker 3:You know, maybe they have that feeling on their own, they can do their workout, they feel empowered, they move on and they make a transformation. Maybe it might happen I'm sure it does for some people, right, right, I think more often being there, listening, understanding, like what you have going on in your life and how we can pivot what we're doing to you know, serve you best and what season life you're in, when, what schedule you have that week, what you know, and and that's a lot harder to do on a screen. Sure, I don't say it isn't possible, could be possible, right, but you know, knowing that you've got a lot going on, sometimes people just need to be heard. Sure, that's what this, that's what you could get the most out of in the session, right Versus the workout, like the for sure, the workouts, the workout, yeah, it's going to be hard, right, you're going to feel it. It feels the same. It's either your heart's beating faster or your muscles are burning. Nothing else is different about that one.
Speaker 3:You leave the gym like feeling empowered, like wow, I feel hurt, or he helped me with this one specific thing, or yeah, like that's to me what makes it worth it. I totally agree. I mean, we've had plenty of sessions where it's like I walk away going gosh, that was great, like. And it wasn't that we had a great workout, it was that it was a great experience, yeah, all the way through, and the work workout was tough, but also it was like the conversation, the, maybe we just I learned one new thing. That was all it was. Or maybe you learned one new thing, yeah, from us or whatever, whatever it was. That's the other thing you're like. I like that. I get to learn too. I feel like. I feel like we have great conversations and we talk about all kinds of stuff and um, it's always like I walk away feeling like we all learned something today and, um, it wasn't just that we're here to work out and we're robots, it was just we actually enjoyed it. We just had a good conversation and just so happened to build some muscle and, you know, get in shape.
Speaker 3:Right, it's the same that, like you know, when you, when you find that that person, that business partner or that person you're doing a deal with, who it's like you just click, like you, just yeah, it's. It's like, okay, we both have the same idea. Like we're trying to make a deal or so both parties are happy and successful and make money. But like, it feels different when you have the one that's like I, like you, like you got, you get it. Yeah, you know, yeah, and then your results compound because of that.
Speaker 3:Right, it's like's like you manifest it because you're working together with the same mindset versus, like you know, I'll do it. How did this guy disrupt me the wrong way. Yeah, no, you're not going to have the same energy Right. Or even if it's something, you have any discontent towards a person you just feel attached from. Like my wife Julia, she's got an online coach and he is serving what he means to serve for her, but she doesn't know anything about him. She used to see somebody other than her husband to tell her what workouts to do.
Speaker 3:Because I can't tell her what workouts to do. She didn't listen to me, right? That's funny. I got a question for you. Sure, what do you think like? I would love to motivate more people to do like what Morgan and I are doing? What is, what is something that's like from your angle that you see that people need to realize or think about differently? I know some people probably get started and they quit, or they get to a spot where it's hard or what. What would you say? That is like the biggest key to someone like following through and being successful with changing their life. Let's just say that, okay, I think this has changed.
Speaker 3:I think this change is based on a person's personality. Personally, I think it. I think it really depends on how you go about. It is dependent on the personality, but ultimately, no matter what every person's going to decide, they truly want it? Yeah, like if they don't want it, if they're just doing it because they know they need to, it's not enough. Yeah, if they're doing it because their doctor told them to, it's not enough. They're doing it because their spouse told them to, it's not enough, doesn't? It doesn't matter?
Speaker 3:If you truly wanted it, you'd understand how to make it work in some capacity. It may not be three times a week, it may just be once a week, right, or it might be 10 minutes a day, doesn't really matter, it's just knowing that, like, I want this thing and I think that x action is gonna help me get there. Yeah, cool, commit to it, do it blindly and be willing not see results. Doing it right. That's and that's hard for certain personalities. So if we're thinking like tactically, uh, I would say like for if you have more personality where you work well with like some pressure on you, like setting a committing to an event is a really good way to start, yeah, or like a challenge, any anything that has a set time and date.
Speaker 3:And we used to go back and and the old acronym, like smart goals that used to be for everything, I don't, I don't think it's necessary for everyone. Um, everything, I don't, I don't think it's necessary for everyone, um, but I've seen, you know that. That's how I got started. I I felt bad, it was like that discovered the insanity program by sean t. Yeah, it was like I'm gonna do this program. It's three months long and they had like a prize at the end. You got like a shirt if you get to the end and I didn't get the shirt because I had like a prize at the end.
Speaker 3:You got like a shirt if you got to the end and I didn't get the shirt because I had, like, I was like 16 years old and had illegally torrented it and downloaded it, so I wasn't technically doing it the right way, but I still just challenged myself, and so it was just putting that pressure on myself to see can I finish this thing, and that's what got me through. The really hard part was that, just that initial commitment, and by the end of it I had seen some results, and that was empowering. Yeah, so it's. It's figuring out how to how to empower yourself.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for listening to today's episode. We want to invite you back next week as we continue the conversation and be sure to follow us on social media to get all of our content and clips and anything you might've missed. Again, thanks for listening and we'll see you next week.
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