Redefining Wisdom

Ep. 104 - Sydney Vachon Part 1 - Why People Run From the Love They Want

Daniel Cianci

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Sydney is the founder of Dating With Depth Society (DWDS), a coaching and content brand that helps people move from anxious, urgent dating into a slower, more intentional approach rooted in self-trust and secure attachment. After years of transforming her own attachment style, she created the D.E.E.P. Slow Dating framework,  a method for building discernment, somatic awareness, and real connection before commitment. Her content has resonated with thousands of people navigating heartbreak, avoidant dynamics, and the pressure to settle.

Modern dating can feel confusing, painful, and emotionally exhausting. Sometimes the connection is real, the chemistry is there, and both people genuinely care… but one person still pulls away.

In this episode, I sit down with Sydney for a deep conversation about dating, avoidant attachment, self-trust, emotional availability, and why so many people struggle to build the connection they say they want.

We explore why fear can disguise itself as intuition, why people sabotage good connections, why love potential is not enough, and why timing, capacity, and attachment readiness all have to align for a relationship to truly work.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why modern dating feels so confusing and emotionally exhausting
  • Why people can want connection and still be terrified of it
  • How avoidant attachment can cause someone to pull away from a good connection
  • The difference between fear and intuition in dating
  • The importance of timing, capacity, and emotional readiness
  • How empathy can turn into self-abandonment
  • Why “friends first” may create a stronger foundation for love
  • Why self-trust is essential for healthy relationships
  • How heartbreak can become a catalyst for growth
  • Plus much more

Follow Sydney:

  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingwithdepthsociety/ 

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