The Caim Circle Podcast

Why Self-Help Isn’t Helping: Unearthing the Real You Beneath the Programming

Jessa Frances

 Hey hey friends — welcome back! In this episode, I’m talking about self-development, childhood conditioning, and the moment I realized that I didn’t need to “fix” myself — I needed to find myself.

After 20+ years of chasing self-improvement, I discovered that the self-help industry had me focused on the wrong thing: improving a version of me that was never broken to begin with. The real work wasn’t about becoming better — it was about unearthing the truth buried beneath generational trauma, social conditioning, and stories that weren’t even mine.

I share personal reflections from my childhood, exploring how early experiences shape self-worth, perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing — and how those old stories still influence the way we show up today.

You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting with your authentic self by identifying inherited beliefs, rewriting subconscious programming, and healing the root of your self-betrayal.

If you’ve ever felt stuck on your growth journey or questioned why all the “self-help” still isn’t helping — this one’s for you.

✨ Inside The Caim Circle, we don’t do self-improvement. We do self-remembering. We come home to the true SELF. 

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