What Self-Love Really Means (And How to Practice It Every Day)

In this episode of Worthy and Abundant, I’m sharing what self-love really means—and why it’s not something you achieve once, but a daily practice.

If you’ve ever struggled with how to love yourself, set boundaries, or stop seeking validation from others, this episode will give you a new perspective.

I talk about how self-love shows up in everyday decisions—like saying no without guilt, choosing yourself, and honoring your needs—and how these small shifts can transform your confidence, energy, and sense of self-worth.

I also share how connecting to God and recognizing your inherent worth can change everything.

If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living from a place of true self-love and worthiness, this episode is for you.

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome back to Worthy and Abundant, the podcast. I'm so grateful you're here. It means the world to me. Happy Monday. Today is Monday, April 20th, 2026. And I wanted to talk to you about the truth about self-love that no one actually talks about. You hear people say just love yourself, but nobody knows what that actually means. What does it mean to love yourself? What I have learned is it's basically every day it's a practice. Every decision that you make is a decision if you're going to love yourself or you're going to abandon yourself. It's not something that you do once and then you're done. It's a practice, a daily practice. It's in the way you speak to yourself, it's in the way you care for yourself. It's in the decisions you make every single day. It shows up in so many different ways: setting a boundary, choosing to rest instead of pushing and striving. The other day, for example, Saturday night, a friend had texted me to ask me if I wanted to go to lunch on Sunday for my belated birthday. And I chose to say no because I was interviewing pet sitters. I had plans to work out, plans to do laundry and work on stuff. And I could have said yes. And an older version of me might have said yes. And then I would have been rushing around and not doing what I needed to do for me, wanted to do for me. And I chose to say no, thank you. And because I had the interviews with the dog sitters and everything. But like that was an example, a small example. So sometimes it feels uncomfortable. And honestly, saying no is absolutely self-love, setting boundaries, not responding to people immediately just because you received a text. Sometimes you're driving a car, sometimes you're busy with something else, and people can wait. And I think that so many of us like we feel like we have to answer, we have to respond right away, or someone's not going to like us anymore, or someone's going to get mad at us. And that's just not true. And if it is true, you have to learn to accept that and realize like, you don't have to jump for anyone. You know what I mean? And so it's definitely something you practice moment by moment, decision by decision. And if you take one thing away from all of this, just ask yourself, what would it look like to choose myself in this moment? What would it look like to choose myself in this next decision? Yeah. So I think it's so powerful when you learn to fully love and accept and forgive yourself for everything. You walk around on the planet in a much different vibration. Your confidence shines, you shine, you are magnetic. People love your energy. They want what you have. They wonder how does she, what is she on? Like, why is she so confident or secure in herself? Because you learn to love your own company. You learn to love yourself to where you don't need anyone else's permission. You don't need anyone else's validation. You don't need anyone else's approval. You only need your approval and God's approval. That's it. Your approval and God's approval. And when you focus on that, everything shifts, everything changes. So I invite you today to look in the mirror. Look in the mirror and say, I love you, or I'm starting to love you, or I desire to love you, or I'm beginning to love you. It's a practice, and standing in the mirror and looking at yourself and looking into your eyes is a way to practice loving yourself. And once you start doing this, guys, I'm going to tell you when you walk by a mirror, even when you don't look your best, you're going to like, I love you. I love you. You're so cute. And I also want to invite you into my community worthy and abundant. It's free. It's on school. And in there, we're going to do live workshops. We just inspire each other. And there's like daily messages and positivity. And it's all about choosing yourself, knowing your worth, and already being abundant because we are abundant. We are grateful for what we have. We know that we have more than others, and we know that we are worthy of all of our desires. And it's something that we don't have to apologize. I have another example I'd love to share with you. I bought some flowers the other day for someone whose birthday had passed, and they were a gorgeous bouquet. And I was like, I think I want to keep these. Like I never buy those kind for me. I buy smaller ones, less expensive ones. But this giant, beautiful bouquet had roses, it had baby sprouts, it had other flowers. It was so beautiful. And I just decided I'm keeping these. My birthday just passed. I'm keeping these. And I had zero guilt, zero shame, zero selfishness belief about myself. It was just, no, you're just not self-abandoning. You're choosing to honor yourself, celebrate yourself, love yourself, give to yourself because you are worthy of these beautiful, gorgeous flowers. You are worthy. And I just wanted to come on today and share that with you. And I invite you to pay attention to how you talk to yourself and the decisions that you make on a daily basis. And just notice because we have to become the observer of our lives if we want to change anything. We have to become aware. Awareness is always the first step to change anything. We have to learn to be aware. And don't worry, you're not behind. Everything's perfect. Everything is so perfect. And timing is perfect. And in most spiritual spaces, they say there is no like time is an illusion and time is a man-made construct. So there's like just now. All we have is this moment now. So right now, I'm an author, a speaker, a coach. I am also a local realtor here in Florida and a mentor and some other roles that I have, leadership roles. And I'm so excited because, yeah, because I just am. I'm excited to give myself all the things that I've always wanted and support myself this way and know that God loves me and God's supporting and guiding me too. So it's a beautiful, beautiful space to be in. And I invite you to join as well. If you're loving this energy and this conversation, please join my community worthy and abundant. The link is in the show notes. It's free. And if you haven't subscribed to the show, please do so and leave a review. It means the world to grow this audience and get this out to more and more people. We need to do our best to help others grow, heal, and evolve and become better versions of themselves. And remember that they are worthy and they are guided, loved, and supported and protected. Because I've been working on my book, my inspiring memoir, and honestly, God has been with me my entire life. I just never knew it. I didn't know it. On that note, I'm gonna say goodnight. Have a beautiful rest of your evening, and look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are, because you are you are beautiful inside and out, and you are worthy of your own love. Take care, everybody. Till next time. You are worthy, and abundance is your birthright.