Ep 33 What men can do to stand out while dating PART 2

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hey, everybody! This is Diane Brandon, Moody, and I'm back with another episode of 50 something, love. Let me get my tongue working today. This is episode 33. And the topic is how men can stand out while dating part 2.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So it's been a while since I've had an episode and family issues going on. But here I am on vacation. And what am I doing? I'm doing a podcast episode, Yay.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So I have become a tiny bit Tiktok, famous for.

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Diane Brandon Moody: were talking to people on Tiktok about dating scams, and I've been really horrified as to how many people

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Diane Brandon Moody: are thinking they're in a relationship for weeks, months, years, and it turns out to be a Scammer and they fall for it. They've been dming me and gosh, this is just

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Diane Brandon Moody: stunning. So I have compassion. I'm not trying to make fun of anybody, but what I would love for you to do

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Diane Brandon Moody: is to check out my 50 places, to meet people over 50. Go to dianebrandonmody.com slash 50, the number 50 dash places. I'll put it in the show notes, and this is so that you can kick in your desire to meet people in person. It's been a long time. It's been 2030

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Diane Brandon Moody: years since people have intentionally tried to meet people in order to date them in person. They do it online. But unless you know what you're doing and you're doing it well, people are losing thousands. It's a 2 billion dollars scam in the Us. Alone. Romance scams a year a year. So please check out that 50 places to meet people over 50.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So let's get to the main topic. Oh, one other thing, I just wanted to mention this, I'm so excited. Buzzsprout sent me a notice that said, this podcast is in the top 25% of all podcasts.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is shocking to me. I'm I'm happy, it's. Wonderful. But do you know how many podcasts. There are out there, there are millions and millions, and a whole lot of them don't last.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So yay, thank you. Again, for listening, please share with people send the link. Tell them about it. Tell them me about it. Info at diannebrandonmody.com. There's anything you'd like to hear more of. I'm all ears.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But let's get to the topic how men can stand out while dating part 2.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So guys, one thing you gotta do. And this is true for women as well. You gotta heal yourself

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Diane Brandon Moody: if you're over. 50 chances are you've had your heart broken somewhere along the line. You've been divorced. You've had a bad breakup.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Somebody left you. Somebody cheated on you, whatever your heart's broken, but I want you to avoid deciding that all women are the same, because that's just ridiculous. Of course they're not. And, ladies, you can't do that either. You can't say all men are the same. It's just stupid. It's not correct.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But what I've been hearing from from men on Tiktok is that you know all they want is money. This is also not true. This is a very common

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Diane Brandon Moody: belief that is absolutely wrong, and it probably comes from the women that you're picking. Yep, I said it. You are picking the wrong women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Why are you doing that. Well.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't know. Maybe they're younger than they should be. Maybe they're

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Diane Brandon Moody: not capable of having their own money yet, for whatever reason, maybe they're super cute. Maybe they're scamming you. Whatever reason.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't believe that garbage. It's just nonsense. And you know they're not all out for money. Now, what is true is women biologically, going back to caveman days. We are attracted to success. And that's because over millennia

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know, we couldn't survive without a partner

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Diane Brandon Moody: who was successful in some way, like back in the day. Did you have your own cave? Were you capable of hunting? Were you capable of protecting the woman and the babies. This was very important, and we evolved with this, and this is

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Diane Brandon Moody: this goes back a long ways. Now, in today's world successful may look like several things. It may look like somebody who has a lot of money. It may look like somebody who drives a really cool car. It may be somebody who dresses superfly, whatever it means.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You know women are attracted to success, and there is nothing wrong with that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Men are usually attracted to beauty.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and they don't see anything wrong at all with being attracted to the most beautiful woman in the room.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And that's fine. You're attracted to her. You may not be able to get her, because there's somebody with more status than what you have.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But you can be attracted to her all day long. But somehow men get in my conversations with men. They get very pissed off, that women are attracted for success, but they see nothing wrong at all about being attracted to beauty. The beauty attraction, of course, comes from the fact that biologically, men were attracted to

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Diane Brandon Moody: young, beautiful women because that meant health and the ability to have babies.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That isn't the way the world works anymore. So you know, we've got to adapt, and we've got to change there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So that's 1 thing that you can do differently is heal yourself. I got off on a tangent, but heal yourself, deal with your issues. Somebody screwed you over. You've got to deal with it. Maybe it takes therapy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Maybe it just takes consciousness. And realizing that those hurt feelings have been driving your emotional bus for decades, and it's time that you let them go. I'm not going to tell you how to get rid of that. A coach can certainly help.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So if you need help.

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Diane Brandon Moody: email me at Info, at Diannebrandon. moody.com. I'm not a therapist, and I don't take on therapy clients, but I can point out if that is driving your bus, and you don't want to do that because you're wasting time people. If you're over 50, you're wasting time

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Diane Brandon Moody: number 2. What you can do is to take initiative. What does that mean?

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Diane Brandon Moody: There are a lot of hurt men out there in the world.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and they decide that they're not going to take initiative anymore. They're going to let women chase them. And women do all that kind of labor that doesn't work either. Very often. Occasionally it does, but it doesn't work very often. And here's why the woman who's chasing around men, if the men don't care enough to lift a finger to take initiative.

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Diane Brandon Moody: that is not going to be a good match.

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Diane Brandon Moody: The woman is chasing. She is in wounded male energy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: She's doing that kind of chasing, and you're in wounded female energy. If you are refusing to take any initiative.

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Diane Brandon Moody: that's what happens. So nothing happens. It becomes a stalemate.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't do that. Take initiative. You don't have to chase her down the block. Women don't want to be chased down the block. You can watch body language. If she's not into the conversation, then leave her alone, and it doesn't mean it's personal. It doesn't have to be personal. So chasing no initiative. Yes, do that

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Diane Brandon Moody: number 3 be kind.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You, as a male, will be able to get far more women with kindness

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Diane Brandon Moody: than you will with a big bank balance. You may attract more women in the beginning.

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Diane Brandon Moody: but you won't necessarily keep them, because if that's all they're coming for.

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Diane Brandon Moody: they're going to leave when they find the guy with the

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Diane Brandon Moody: bigger bank balance. But if you're talking about a normal.

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Diane Brandon Moody: heart-centered woman who's healed and who wants to be in a relationship with you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you're kind you will win over

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Diane Brandon Moody: so many women that way. This is why I married my husband.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It started out because we had an attraction, but it really kept going because he was amazingly kind. I had to have knee surgery

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Diane Brandon Moody: a couple of months after we started dating, and he insisted on being the one to help me out, which was great because I couldn't find anybody else who had the time and energy to help me out. That kindness I saw made him a very dependable person.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So kindness in talking to her

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Diane Brandon Moody: kindness and giving her the occasional

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Diane Brandon Moody: compliment. I don't mean love bombing, I mean just the occasional compliment.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Just being nice that goes so far.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and there are so many men who believe that

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Diane Brandon Moody: kind men get trampled on. They get trampled on by wrong women. You have to quit going for the wrong women. Maybe they're not mature enough, or maybe they're just. I don't know.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They're just not right for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: so don't keep doing that. You keep creating your own drama. Men and women both. You create your own drama, and I say that as someone who did, I created my own drama for years. We're going to stop doing that if you need help on not creating the same drama anymore. Please reach out info at diannebrandonmody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you change these 3 things, heal yourself, take initiative and be kind. I guarantee you. I guarantee you that this will up level your dating immediately.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thanks for listening.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thanks to Buzzsprout.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thanks to everyone who has wanted the 50 places to meet people over 50.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I look forward to talking to all of you soon.