Ep 34 Why are people SO OBLIVIOUS to dating scams?

The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything. 

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hey, everybody! It's Diane Brandon, Moody, and I'm back again with 50. Something, love. I am still in Hawaii, but we will be leaving soon. So I am taking advantage of some spare time to catch up on some podcast episodes. So this is episode 34. Why are people so oblivious

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Diane Brandon Moody: to dating scams.

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Diane Brandon Moody: As I have said previously, I've recently become kind of sort of Tiktok, famous for revealing dating scams, and I have had people in my Dms. Constantly

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Diane Brandon Moody: telling me that. Yes, they fell for this. They fell for that, this one and that one and the other, and they have lost thousands of dollars. I've talked to people personally who've lost 4,000 6,000. 10,000.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And to me these dating scams are so obvious.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But they're not to everyone. And again, I'm not trying to bad mouth anyone. I understand how it happens, and that's what I'm here to share today.

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Diane Brandon Moody: How is it that people are so oblivious to dating scams.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Here's 1 way you're lonely.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You have to admit it. That word lonely really upsets people.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They will back away from it every time I say it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: but they're they're lonely. And here is somebody online who's saying all the right things

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Diane Brandon Moody: and that gets them started number 2.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They are love bombed by these people.

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Diane Brandon Moody: What is love? Bombing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: love? Bombing is when somebody comes on really strong and really quickly. They tell you they love you within 2 days. It's impossible they don't love you, or they tell you you're the most beautiful woman they've ever met. Why are you still single? I wish I could take you away to a fantasy Island kind of vacation.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They just overdo it so much so soon, and I'll tell you that feels really good in the moment.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you have been lonely and you haven't had male attention or female attention for a while. And suddenly somebody is telling you that you are so amazing

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Diane Brandon Moody: that feels great.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But it's not real. It's not real at all.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So you've got to. The minute you start hearing somebody love bomb you

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Diane Brandon Moody: please, please just cancel and block. Don't talk to them anymore. Love bombing is manipulative.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's not good. It's never used for your benefit. It's used for manipulation. It's not good. Just please, please block them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: The other reason that people fall for these things is for some reason they are happier

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Diane Brandon Moody: hiding behind a computer screen or their phone

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Diane Brandon Moody: than they are being vulnerable enough

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Diane Brandon Moody: to actually go out on a date or to meet somebody in person.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They're just too scared, but they don't admit it to themselves. So this unconscious belief is driving their bus.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That is what they're making their decisions from.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That ain't good people. It's not. It's not good, don't do that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And if it feels too good to be true, it is.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Here's what I tell my clients.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you can't meet that person online within 2 weeks, please

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Diane Brandon Moody: delete and block them immediately, because the longer you keep talking to them, the more you are going to be hoodwinked by this crap. And then they're going to tell you some sad story about needing surgery, and they can't afford it, or you know they need a gift card because their phone crapped out. And

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Diane Brandon Moody: there you go. You know you're trapped. You're losing money. So if you cannot meet a person within 2 weeks, don't.

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Diane Brandon Moody: don't just don't.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And let me tell you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't think Instagram and Tiktok are the best places to do it. I think dating sites are pretty crappy. A lot of them are scammers as well, but I think you have a better choice chance of meeting somebody

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Diane Brandon Moody: on a dating site than you do

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Diane Brandon Moody: on these terrible social media platforms where people can have many, many different profiles.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I haven't had anybody. DM, me yet. That was legit wanting to meet me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They're all scams, and I don't even talk to them. So don't do that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, please, if if you have been spending a lot of time talking to somebody online.

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Diane Brandon Moody: understand that that isn't a relationship at all. He's not your boyfriend. She's not your your girlfriend. She is a fantasy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's just like, if you watched Titanic again, and fell in love with Leonardo Dicaprio again.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's every bit as real as that which is to say, not at all real.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Please help get some help.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm a dating coach, Dianebrandon, moody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can download my 50 places to meet people over 50,

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Diane Brandon Moody: which is a great place to get started.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So think about actually being available in person

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Diane Brandon Moody: in places that you're probably already going to your hobbies or your clubs, or whatever you're probably already doing it. And there goes a truck. Sorry about that. So, anyway, these are the reasons why I think people keep on getting scammed, and while I don't think it's your fault. Scamming is a criminal offense, and it's the criminal's fault. You do have a choice whether you fall for it or not. You do

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Diane Brandon Moody: you? You don't have to fall for it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Let's get in the real world. Let's get you finding somebody who actually has a chance of reciprocating your feelings.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Are you in.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Let's go. Then thanks again for listening to this episode of 50 somethings, love.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'll talk soon.