Ep 35: What women can do to stand out while dating

The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything. 

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Diane Brandon Moody: Starting in progress.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hey, everybody! It's Diane Brandon, Moody again. I am here with another episode of 50. Something love which Buzzsprout says is in the top 25% of all podcasts.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I know there are people with more listeners than me. But I am thrilled because that means

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Diane Brandon Moody: somebody's listening. Somebody's paying attention. I'm not just talking into the void I love that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So today's episode. What we're going to talk about is how women can supercharge their dating for women over 50, and this is a part 2 as well.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, ladies, I'm going to give you a little bit of different advice that you've probably never heard before. And I'm going to say this

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Diane Brandon Moody: the minute somebody turns out to be something that is different from who he said he was.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You get to walk away. I'm giving you permission to walk away

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Diane Brandon Moody: now. I prefer you do it in kind of a nice way.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and I don't mean super super nice, but just not Herodin and Shrew, but to walk away. So let's pretend you are meeting somebody for drinks at a hotel bar.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Suppose this guy walks in, and he finds you, and you discover he's been using filters online or very old pictures it and look anything like he said he did

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Diane Brandon Moody: in the past. What I've done when that happened is I would kind of suffer through this drink or this date.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and then at the end of it, say, no, thank you. I I think we're not a match.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I think you need to always end it

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Diane Brandon Moody: and end it politely. And that's because of Karma. I don't care if you hurt their feelings. If they're trying to pull something over on you. It's really more for Karma.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So now what I advise people to do if somebody shows up.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know, looking 20 years older than his pictures.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you don't have to stay for the date.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can say

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Diane Brandon Moody: appreciate your asking me out, but I am not interested. You really don't look like your pictures at all. They're very old.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Best of luck to you and walk away. You don't have to.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You don't have to stay. Women have been conditioned over millennia

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Diane Brandon Moody: that we're supposed to be nice.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So

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Diane Brandon Moody: being on Tiktok quite a bit, and having a lot of daters come to me and ask me for advice.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You know they'll say something like this, and well, I stayed through the date, and I tried to be nice.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Why, why stay through the day.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know. I mean, if he lied about his height, if he lied about his weight, if he lied about how old he is, any of that stuff. You don't owe him anything. Walk away.

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Diane Brandon Moody: hold your head up high and just walk away. We're not going to do that anymore. We're just not.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That is the number one piece of advice I have for you

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Diane Brandon Moody: on what you can do to supercharge your dating.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now I am not talking about the guy who you're not sure you have any interest in.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Well, I'm going to give you the opposite advice to that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you meet a guy you had great

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Diane Brandon Moody: phone relationship. You got along well.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you zoomed and or facetimed, and you felt good about them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and then you meet in person, and there's no chemistry at all. What I'm going to say then, is to give it 2 or 3 dates, assuming he's feeling the same way.

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Diane Brandon Moody: 2 or 3 dates will tell you more

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Diane Brandon Moody: if you try to to do it all in one date, and you walk away. You could miss out on some really good guys.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So let's not do that. Okay, so just do give it time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Some people take a minute a hot minute to bloom.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you're looking for something magical, like Cinderella and the Prince dancing until midnight.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That's fantasy. Folks that isn't real.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Give it time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Give it time to explore the end of 2 or 3 dates. You still don't feel like you can do it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Then it's fine to walk away and again be be polite about it like you don't have to be a jerk. You can be polite.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That will also supercharge your dating. Now it sounds like I'm giving you 2 opposing directions.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I am.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I am the person who tries to portray himself as something he isn't

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Diane Brandon Moody: is not ever going to be good for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: He's just not, and the person who is trying

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Diane Brandon Moody: but isn't tickling your fancy immediately.

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Diane Brandon Moody: He might. You just need to give it a little time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So that is the dating advice for today. Remember, if you want to get my 50 places to meet people over 50 going to dianebrandonmody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And it's right there on the home page.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I hope to hear from you soon. I I hope that all is going well for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Happy, dating.