Ep 36: Dating with wounded male & female energy

The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything. 

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Diane Brandon Moody: Pinging.

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Diane Brandon Moody: hey, everybody, Diane Brandon, moody. Here again, with 50 something love, the podcast, that's now in the top, 25% of all podcasts.

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Diane Brandon Moody: which I'm proud to say, because I haven't really tried that hard to make it that. But yay, so I'm going to take it

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Diane Brandon Moody: so. And once again. If you want to learn how to meet people in public and give up on online dating, you can go to dianebreadedmody.com and get my 50 places to meet people over 50, because this came about because a whole bunch of people kept telling me I'm sick of dating apps, but I have no idea where to meet people anymore. So I'm giving you 50 different options. You won't like all of them, but you'll like some of them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and you'll be surprised how easy it is to meet somebody out in the real world.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So today's topic, males who are dating with wounded feminine energy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: where did I get this. Well, I'll tell you I did. An offhanded

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Diane Brandon Moody: quick tick tock about. Women aren't going to pursue you guys. You should do your job. And I mean. It was 15 seconds long, and it got

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Diane Brandon Moody: 70,000 views, and I think we're up to 6,000 comments or 7,000 something like that. And they were all angry, and they were mostly from men.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Here is why I am saying that so many of them in there said they've given up on dating altogether. Now, if that's true, that's fine, you get to make that choice for yourself. If you just are happier, being single and hanging out with your buddies, I mean fine. Go for it, do whatever makes you happy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But I don't really think that that's true in the case of most people who responded to me because they were so pissed, they were so angry.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and anger like that is not usually generated. When you're happy about your choice.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's a choice that you felt like you had to make, or that you just don't know what to do anymore. Or you've been. You feel like you've been screwed over.

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Diane Brandon Moody: so, understanding that a lot of the story I heard was from men only, and I wasn't hearing from their particular girlfriend or wife, or whatever. So I

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Diane Brandon Moody: really am only going by what they said.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There are the ones who were cheated on

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Diane Brandon Moody: the ones who were insisting that women only want rich men, and they're not rich, and women took all their money.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Those were the common threads in there with a few guys who seem to be at peace, not dating anymore. That's fine.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So

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Diane Brandon Moody: here's how I would answer that men who are trying to diet with feminine energy because a whole lot of them responded with the fact that we're the prize. I'm the prize. You're not the prize. I'm the prize, I mean. It sounded very childish. It sounded like a toddler who was stamping their foot.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and that made me think what this is is wounded. Feminine energy, meaning, like everybody, has masculine energy, and everybody has feminine energy, and if you're a woman, you probably have more feminine energy most of the time. But those times when you're having to do everything around the house, and you're raising the kids, and you're

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Diane Brandon Moody: bringing home the bacon. But you're also having to clean the house, and you're having to

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Diane Brandon Moody: pay all the bills because the husband ain't doing anything, you know. That is a woman who's having to be in her male energy, and it's

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Diane Brandon Moody: wounded male energy, and if a man is screaming he's the prize, and they need to come pursue him. This is a man who either had a mother who was not very nice, not very good to him, or didn't have a father to teach him healthy masculine energy, or has been cheated on, or

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Diane Brandon Moody: are wounded by some way by a partner or a spouse.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So yeah, I'm not blaming people for this situation. But let me tell you, folks, you're the only one who can change it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you are the man screaming about. You're the prize, and you're waiting for women to come to you, and you know women cheat all women. Cheat blah! Blah! Blah! Whatever it is, you're not picking very good women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and you're probably not picking them because of the fact that you have wounded feminine energy. If you have that kind of energy about you. You don't have the capability of pursuing the woman who is in her healthy feminine, and besides, feminine doesn't attract feminine.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm not talking about gay couples, and I'm not talking about trans people I'm talking about.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Cisgendered hetero couples.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Your energy needs to match up, and if it isn't, you will continue to keep finding either women who are too independent to want to be around you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: or, you know, are looking down their noses at you because they have more money than you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's okay to have more money than the guy just looking down. Your nose isn't probably helpful.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So

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Diane Brandon Moody: you will keep drawing to you the match that you don't want. This is just a fact. This is how it works, and women the same with you. If you are in your male energy all the time

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Diane Brandon Moody: as a single woman. Until I was 58 I was in that energy, so I get it. I had a job. I had pets. I had a home, and I was on my own, so I was doing all of that. I didn't want to be on my own there were, you know. Some women are perfectly happy that way, and if you are, you know, go with God, have a good time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But that isn't what I wanted. Yet it took me a long time to realize that

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Diane Brandon Moody: what I was doing was wounded male energy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I had a great dad. I loved my dad. In my early years he was always working so he was not there as much.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We had a great relationship. He died 20 years ago of cancer, and I miss him every day, and we were able to make a lot of that right? So sometimes this could be because you had a shitty father who used or abused you, or was absent, or something like that. This may be how you learn to to work in the world, and for men.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know again. Maybe it was. You had a terrible mother, an absent mother, a screaming Rb, for a mother. You had a wife who for whatever reason, was capable of being a good wife

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Diane Brandon Moody: and a girlfriend who took all your money. Whatever

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Diane Brandon Moody: you've got to get over this stuff, guys, women, you got to get over it because you're going to just keep on finding the people that match who you think all women or men are.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and that's just going to keep solidifying in your brain that all women just want your money.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Of course, that's not true. It's not possible for 3.5 billion or 4 billion people on the planet, or a little bit over half.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Of course, that's not true. This is silly. It's just your experience has been that so far, but you're drawing it to you, and you're going with it, so don't do that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So if you want to know more, reach out to me at info at dianprandonmoodie.com. I'd love to chat to you with you about that, how we can get you into more

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Diane Brandon Moody: secure feminine energy, more secure male energy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and how we can learn to attract or

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Diane Brandon Moody: be with the people who fit what we're looking for.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You're in. I hope you're in. I'm looking forward to talking to you soon.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Bye.