Ep 39 Ladies, QUIT saying this is your problem

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hi. This is Diane Brandon Moody.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is 50, something love. The podcast. For people who are dating over the age of 50.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So I have a very short and sweet message today. This is specifically for the women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Ladies. Please quit saying men are the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Please quit saying that I know there are some out there who really work hard to be jackasses. But I'm talking about your day-to-day life as to whether they're.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know, worth it or not worth it, or whether you can find your match or you can't find your match. Let's quit calling them the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: because all that does is sets up a barrier, and you create your own drama in your own head, because your brain is set up with the idea that if men are the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Then I'm going to have to make sure there's a problem where I'm wrong, and you don't want to be wrong. Your brain does not want to be wrong ever.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So you're going to be setting that up and creating your own reality every time. You say men are the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now, individually, if you run across people that are behaving in a way that is not the way you want them to. For instance, they're mentioning sex before they even know what your name is.

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Diane Brandon Moody: or they're thinking that because they paid for dinner, that they're going to get lucky or anything like that, you have my full permission to on an individual basis. Decide that's not your guy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: He doesn't have to be your guy. If he is not matching your values and your interests, and what you're looking for in a person you don't have to stick around. If he isn't your guy, he's probably never going to be your guy. So that's okay.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But in general

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't want to hear it anymore. I don't want to hear women consistently saying that men are the problem because you create your own reality. Let's say it all together.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You will be creating your own reality. So let's not do it. Here's another tip.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Admin can use this one as well

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Diane Brandon Moody: every time you run across a guy and you have high hopes for him, and it doesn't work out. I want you to say to yourself, Thank you, universe, or god or goddess, or whoever you pray to thank you. Universe for showing me this isn't my Guy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I think that's a very cool thing to be saying, because what you are are, instead of being mad or hurt or upset, that this person isn't matching what you want, and you think he's an idiot or an ass.

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Diane Brandon Moody: He may behaving like one, but we're not getting to that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can say thank you for showing me this isn't my guy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: so would you rather know that a lot later, or would you rather know it sooner? You'd probably rather know it sooner.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So let's go with that. So

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Diane Brandon Moody: one more time for the cheap seats

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Diane Brandon Moody: quit saying that men are the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: A particular man may be the problem for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: but men in general are not the problem. There are too many good ones out there, too many good single ones out there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And we're not going to go through that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So let's get realistic. And let's be decent with each other. Okay.

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Diane Brandon Moody: thank you. This is your short and sweet episode of 50 something love Diane Brandon, moody, happy, dating out there people hope you enjoy yourselves.