Ep 47 How to date in a small town or rural area

I have a theory that you really haven't tried everything yet. :)

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hey everybody, it's Diane Brendan Moody, here again with another episode of 50-something Love.

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Diane Brandon Moody: The podcast that discusses all aspects of dating over 50! Yippee!

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Diane Brandon Moody: So…

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Diane Brandon Moody: One other topic that I wanted to cover and was asked for was how to deal with living in small towns in rural areas. Where do you meet people?

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is a challenging one, isn't it?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Although, I don't think it's impossible.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I'll give you a couple of ideas that you can do.

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Diane Brandon Moody: to talk about with small towns and rural areas. Number one, you are probably going to be driving more, so make sure that the areas you said, if you're doing online dating, are a little bit wider, a little bit further away.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you're not online dating, then some of the places that you go and visit, the activities that you do, then, you may be driving there a little bit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I think that you need to be very realistic with yourself in terms of what are you willing to do on a weekly basis or more.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you get into a relationship with somebody while you're living in a small town, and presumably they don't live there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I have said this before, long distance is extremely difficult.

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Diane Brandon Moody: To maintain. Is it possible? Of course it is. People do it. Is it fun? No, it's not.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Does it, …

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Diane Brandon Moody: Does it impede you? It sure does. I've done it twice. I don't want to do it again.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm married, so I don't have to. He's in the next room, not in the next county.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But what you need to look at is, again, what you're willing to do long-term.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, what I know about small communities, rural areas, is that they usually have some kind of community get-togethers. There's the annual fair.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There may be the State Fair, the county fair, there may be a rodeo.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm from Texas, you can always find a rodeo. There's usually a dance hall of some kind.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There are usually… picnics or something that goes on on a community basis.

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Diane Brandon Moody: churches. There are a lot of churches in these areas, usually. Maybe not a lot, numbers-wise, but, you know, per capita, there may be churches.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And, the other resource that you have are friends and family.

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Diane Brandon Moody: When you think you're ready to start dating, you just tell a couple of those small-town busybodies that you are ready to start dating, and you will have 27 women at your doorstep by tomorrow.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, you just have to be a little bit more resourceful.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So when you have these events that are going on around this small town or rural area.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You need to be thinking in terms of not, preying on the people that may be available, but just kind of being aware where they are, and being friendly enough to say hello.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Being friendly enough to ask a question.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It doesn't have to be a romance-loaded question, it could just be something like, oh, I see you're having one of the waffles.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Which is your favorite kind? Or… You know, anything like that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, what you really want to do is be aware of your surroundings when you're in places like that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you have a job that interacts with people, that may be a good resource.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You have to be a little bit careful there, because working with people that you're dating is sometimes prohibited, and if it's a customer, you just really want to be careful that

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's not somebody that you're gonna lose.

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Diane Brandon Moody: … But I think…

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Diane Brandon Moody: just widening your perspective will go a long way. Now, if you really are in the boondocks, if you're in the Australian outback, I can't help you much. You're just gonna have to decide that being with people

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Diane Brandon Moody: is something you'd like to do. And whether it's occasionally or more often, you're gonna have to find a way

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Diane Brandon Moody: Of interacting with more people.

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Diane Brandon Moody: sometimes people are in these very small towns or rural areas because they don't want to be around people, and then when they want to date, they're kind of screwed. Like, what are we going to do now?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Well, you're just gonna have to figure that one out.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I think being involved in clubs, in art, and dancing…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Sports, pickleball, whatever kind of sport you're into.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I think doing something like that will help you meet more people.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Beyond that, I don't have a whole lot of suggestions for you, because

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Diane Brandon Moody: Rural small town, it can be done, but it's a little tough.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's, not always the easiest thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I think, being aware and asking yourself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Is this really where I want to live, or do I want more interaction with people?

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Diane Brandon Moody: That would be good.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't have a ton of ideas for people on this one. I've always been a big city gal myself. So, I hope any of that has been helpful, and if it isn't, I'm sure somebody will tell me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thank you very much for listening. This is another episode of 50-something Love, and it's a short one, so…

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Diane Brandon Moody: That'll give you time to go out in the world and find somebody. Go to your nearest pumpkin patch, or pumpkin spice outlet, or I don't know, something like that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Have a good time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Bye-bye!