Ep 51 How your nervous system fucks up your dating - date change for Simply Irresistible!!

New schedule for Simply Irresistible: enrollment is extended through 11:59 p.m. on Cyber Monday, Dec. 1st. Program begins Tuesday evening at 7 p.m. central,  Dec. 2nd, 2025.

How do you know that you need this program?

*Do you always end up dating "the same guy in a different outfit"?

*Have you ever dated someone you absolutely KNEW wasn't a good idea, but you were compelled - like by an invisible force? (He was married, an ex that didn't work out, obviously lazy?)

*You've had to defend him to friends and family with "but I love him!"

*You're so over-focused on red flags or calling them some version of "avoidant" that you miss anything good about them?

*All men are the problem/there are no good men here (usually statistically impossible).

It's time to book a Love Audit to see if Simply Irresistible is a good fit for you! www.dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit

50 places to meet high quality men over 50 who want to connect is a great place to connect to Simply Irresistible

Transcript

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hi everybody, Diane Brandon Moody here, and this is another episode of 50-something Love, the podcast for all those folks over 50, especially women, who

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Diane Brandon Moody: are still looking to find their great love. Now, maybe you've had a great love and he passed away, or you started out as a great love and then got divorced.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or maybe you just never found him, and you're still looking.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is the podcast for you. I do short, snappy episodes.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can listen while you're walking your dog.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I talk about Pretty much anything.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now, if you have a topic you want me to talk about, please send me a message. You can go to info at dianebrandonmoody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Send me something that sounds like… A problem you've always had?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Something that's completely baffled you, you don't know exactly what's going on.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Please send me those ideas.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I have been on a bit of a podcast break, and I still am on a little bit of a break, but I needed to come on again, and I will be doing this over the next month if, I feel like I need to.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I have announced before that the Simply Irresistible Collective, a group coaching program, is starting.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And that was supposed to have started this week.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I extended it with the full permission of those people who are already enrolled, and there are people enrolled.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because… for a couple of reasons. One is, I just kept getting intuitive hits over and over again that we just weren't ready.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So I would work harder, work longer, try to make it work out, and, I just had obstacles all over the place. And those obstacles, looking back, at the time, they were infuriating me, I'm telling you, I'm throwing stuff, I'm yelling.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But now I see it as those obstacles just being my intuition, getting louder and louder, because I really wasn't listening. Because in my head, I was thinking that putting it off would be admitting some kind of failure, rather than…

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Diane Brandon Moody: just realizing that it… we weren't ready, we just weren't ready. There's new information coming to me, and I'm so excited about this.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's, how the nervous system really impacts your dating.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't know of any other dating coach that's using this information, quite frankly, because… It's different.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's very different. Now, how might you know

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Diane Brandon Moody: If your nervous system is getting in the way of your dating.

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Diane Brandon Moody: For one thing, if you keep picking the same guy in a different outfit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You know how that works.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Everything looks really cool on paper, everything is so different in the beginning.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And then I'll be darned, somewhere along the way, he starts acting exactly like your exes.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And however that looks like for your particular exes, like, maybe he started cheating on you like your exes, or maybe he just grew distant like your exes, or maybe he just got lazy like your exes, whatever they all end up looking alike.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Even though you've made deliberate… Attempts to…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Pick a completely different guy, and voila! There they all end up looking like this same dude.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They all have different names, different ages, and you pick them from different places, but I'll be damned, there they are, they're all looking the same. That could very well be, and most likely is, a nervous system thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or, let's say you have made some deliberate

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Diane Brandon Moody: deliberate actions. You've taken some deliberate actions that you even knew they weren't particularly good for you, and something compelled you

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Diane Brandon Moody: In such a way that you just couldn't seem to stop yourself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That might look like dating a bad boy.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Dating a married man!

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Diane Brandon Moody: Dating an ex that you knew was not a good guy, but you went back to him because he sounded different.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Oops, there goes my dog. You're probably hearing my dog.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, you know, something like that, where you just knew better. You knew better, your brain knew better, your thoughts knew better, but for some reason,

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Diane Brandon Moody: For some reason, it just wasn't something that you could stop.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Sorry about that, had to shut the dogs up. Okay, so, like I was saying, it may be a nervous system thing if you even know that this guy has the potential to be bad news, and you just can't help yourself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That could be nervous system. Another thing could be that maybe your friends or your family have told you that this guy isn't really working out very well.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And your answer to that is, but I love him.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Let me tell you, sister, that ain't enough.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You could love somebody with the heat of a thousand suns, and it doesn't mean he's a good guy or will make a good partner for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You've got to have more than love. You have to have some compatibility.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Compatibility is not the same as fireworks 24-7.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Over the span of 50 years, because that just doesn't happen. You know, there are… there are always going to be times in which one of you is not doing your best, and the other one is a cheerleader, or, you know, you're both going through a down time, or you've had something really difficult happen in your life.

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Diane Brandon Moody: All that happens to calm down fireworks, but that's just life. That is… that isn't a bad thing. That isn't a red flag.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Speaking of red flags, this could be a nervous system issue. You are so focused on red flags that you wouldn't see a green flag if it waved right in front of your face.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Of course, I'm not saying ignore red flags, that is not the point of it, but I know several women who obsess so much over the red flags.

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Diane Brandon Moody: that they don't see a good guy when a good guy's in front of them, because they focus on the tiny, tiny minutiae that might, might get in the way sometimes. This is also a nervous system

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Diane Brandon Moody: problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you think all men are the problem.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you think there are no men in your giant city.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you think they're… you know, all men are just different now, and they're lazy, or they're not doing anything, or they're not putting in effort, if you're using anything with all men, fill in the blank.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is also a nervous system response.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There is no statistical chance that there are no men in your large city. If you're in the farm in the middle of Idaho, maybe. Maybe that… that could be a possibility. But not if you're in a larger area. That just isn't the thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, all of these are nervous system responses.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And this shows how I can give you all the tips and tricks in the world, and I do! It's not like you're gonna get out of there not knowing how to write a good ad. If you're a VIP, I give you my

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Diane Brandon Moody: Template.

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Diane Brandon Moody: to the ad where I met my husband, and I got 300 responses overnight. You get that template.

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Diane Brandon Moody: As a bonus.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You'll… you'll learn the basics in there. If there are some… if you haven't dated in a long time and you're unsure of the basics, we will make sure that you understand the basics. But really, simply irresistible is for women who feel like they've tried everything, and it isn't working for them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This… is the message that I want to convey.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I am afraid some of my materials made it look like we were all very basic around here.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're not. We're a lot more… Deep than that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're changing things.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is not saying it's all your fault, because it isn't. That isn't the thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But this is all deeper than just how to write a good ad.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I would really love to see you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: In Simply irresistible. And the way to get there is to book a call with me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You book a love audit on my website, dianebrandonmoody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: slash love audit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We do… I need to talk to every single woman in there, because we're building a community of women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're building a group where we can really trust each other.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Where we like each other, where we become friends. And to do that, I want to be able to talk to you and find out what your particular issues are.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And you know what? If I don't think I can help you, I'll tell you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I… I will.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't think that's gonna be the case, but I will. So, please book a call. dianeparatedmoody.com slash loveaudit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I am delighted to tell you that I have received some calls from women who have been listening to the podcast. This delights me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't always hear from women who listen, and, you know, it's delightful to know that somebody does listen. It's not just yelling into the void.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That's amazing, I love it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, questions about Simply Irresistible, again, book that Love Audit call. We'll talk about it, because I really want you to get the help that you need and deserve.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now, let me just clarify that this love audit call is not free coaching.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I will not be coaching you there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're seeing if we're a good fit. That's really what this is about.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I hope to see you there, and in the meantime, questions?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Info at Dianebrandonmoody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I would love to talk to you. The new calendar, the new thing, is that we will be open

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Diane Brandon Moody: for people to buy the program until December 1st, which is Cyber Monday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, we will be open for, Black Friday and Cyber Monday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But Cyber Monday is the last day. We will be beginning on December 2nd, no matter what.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If there's one woman, there's already more than one woman, but if there were one woman.

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Diane Brandon Moody: we would still begin. We're gonna do it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Beginning on December 2nd. It's Tuesdays at 7pm. I can give you the rest of that information when we talk.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But anyway, it will begin then, no matter what. So please book a call with me, and let's talk, because I think this is going to be an amazing collective.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's going to be an amazing group of women. The ones we have now are amazing. I'm just thrilled to bits to have them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And… we're gonna get somewhere.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're gonna really get somewhere with this nervous system stuff.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We'll get somewhere with teaching you basics and ads and

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know, how to put up with lazy or whatever. We'll go over all that stuff, so you don't have to worry if you haven't dated in years. The basics will be covered. But we're not stopping at the basics.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're going deeper and further.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm so delighted you listened today.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I really hope that we get to talk again soon.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thank you so much. Diane Brandon Moody here with 50-something Love. Hey, if you like this, would you give me a review?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Would you send to one of your friends?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Tell her, hey, listen to this kook.

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Diane Brandon Moody: She knows what she's talking about.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or, you know, feedback. I'm always happy to have feedback. If you have topics you'd like to hear from, please.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Let me know.

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Diane Brandon Moody: In the meantime, I'm signing off for this week. I hope you're having a happy fall, because I am. I'm delighted with cooler weather. Always.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Chat later. Bye-bye.