I was roofied in 1982 by two really nice and fun guys. Here's the story. Ep 60

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Diane Brandon Moody: I was Ruthied by two very nice and fun guys in 1982.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is the story.

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Diane Brandon Moody: My college roommate and I were celebrating our birthdays. We both have the same first name, and we had the same birthday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Who knew?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Anyway, we were living in Denton, Texas. We were going to UNT and lived in the dorms, or at least I did, and we went out for our birthday in Dallas. Now, there was a Binnegan's at the corner of

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Diane Brandon Moody: 1… I-35 and Walnut Hill Road.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And at the time, this particular Bennegan's was really more of a singles place. It had a great bar, a lot of fun, a lot of people that were our age, and we were enjoying going to that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We did it before a few times. But anyway, this was our birthday, and so we were celebrating. I don't remember what she had to drink, but my drink was a white wine spritzer.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't sue me, it was the 80s, everybody drank wine spritzers.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, we were having our cocktail, and these two very nice, very good-looking, very funny guys came and joined us, and so we were sitting and chatting and laughing and having a good time flirting was happening.

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Diane Brandon Moody: All of us with each other, we were having a great time. And they said, hey, we're gonna go get y'all a drink, how about a kamikaze?

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Diane Brandon Moody: I had no idea what a kamikaze was, but I said, sure, let's do it. And so, he… happy birthday, and they came back with the kamikazes, and we drank them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I was the life of the party. I was laughing, I was having a good time, kept talking, and all of a sudden, I started feeling really drunk. Now, one white wine spritzer, and

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Diane Brandon Moody: one kamikaze Within the span of 2 hours, there's about 2 hours there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: would not make somebody really drunk, but it did me, and I was a little confused by that, and then suddenly I started feeling, like, super drunk, like I could barely walk.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And even sick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I mean, I was life of the party one second, the next second, I was like, oh my god, I gotta… I gotta go to the bathroom. So I went to the bathroom.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Apparently, I passed out standing up in one of the stalls.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because, a little bit later, my roommate came in, and she was going, hey, are you okay?

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I said, I don't, I don't feel so good. And she said, you've been in here 25 minutes. And I said, no, I haven't, I just got here. And she goes, no, you've been in here 25 minutes. So apparently, I passed out, standing up, leaning against the wall in the ladies' room, facing the toilet.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, she said, maybe it's time for us to go home, and I was like, oh, I mean, I don't remember much about that time frame, but I remember just being kind of…

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Diane Brandon Moody: I was Ruthied by two very nice and fun guys in 1982.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is the story.

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Diane Brandon Moody: My college roommate and I were celebrating our birthdays. We both have the same first name, and we had the same birthday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Who knew?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Anyway, we were living in Denton, Texas. We were going to UNT and lived in the dorms, or at least I did, and we went out for our birthday in Dallas. Now, there was a Binnegan's at the corner of

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Diane Brandon Moody: 1… I-35 and Walnut Hill Road.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And at the time, this particular Bennegan's was really more of a singles place. It had a great bar, a lot of fun, a lot of people that were our age, and we were enjoying going to that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We did it before a few times. But anyway, this was our birthday, and so we were celebrating. I don't remember what she had to drink, but my drink was a white wine spritzer.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't sue me, it was the 80s, everybody drank wine spritzers.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, we were having our cocktail, and these two very nice, very good-looking, very funny guys came and joined us, and so we were sitting and chatting and laughing and having a good time flirting was happening.

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Diane Brandon Moody: All of us with each other, we were having a great time. And they said, hey, we're gonna go get y'all a drink, how about a kamikaze?

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Diane Brandon Moody: I had no idea what a kamikaze was, but I said, sure, let's do it. And so, he… happy birthday, and they came back with the kamikazes, and we drank them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I was the life of the party. I was laughing, I was having a good time, kept talking, and all of a sudden, I started feeling really drunk. Now, one white wine spritzer, and

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Diane Brandon Moody: one kamikaze Within the span of 2 hours, there's about 2 hours there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: would not make somebody really drunk, but it did me, and I was a little confused by that, and then suddenly I started feeling, like, super drunk, like I could barely walk.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And even sick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I mean, I was life of the party one second, the next second, I was like, oh my god, I gotta… I gotta go to the bathroom. So I went to the bathroom.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Apparently, I passed out standing up in one of the stalls.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because, a little bit later, my roommate came in, and she was going, hey, are you okay?

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I said, I don't, I don't feel so good. And she said, you've been in here 25 minutes. And I said, no, I haven't, I just got here. And she goes, no, you've been in here 25 minutes. So apparently, I passed out, standing up, leaning against the wall in the ladies' room, facing the toilet.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, she said, maybe it's time for us to go home, and I was like, oh, I mean, I don't remember much about that time frame, but I remember just being kind of…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Really confused, and babbling incoherently, and not able to walk a straight line, really not knowing what was… knowing what was going on.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, thankfully, she drove that day, and we both got in her car and went back to UNT to the dorm.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I do remember it was a dorm with bathrooms down the hall, they weren't en-suite. And so, I remember going in the bathroom and just being horribly sick. I vomited, I don't know how many times, I barely remember that time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But I do remember…

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Diane Brandon Moody: just taking off my pants, my jeans, and walking to my bath… to my dorm room, wearing my underwear. And I do remember that a bunch of guys, because it was a girl's guy's dorm.

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Diane Brandon Moody: howling with laughter that I was doing that in my underwear.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And… but it made sense to me at the time. So I got back to my room, and I was sick several more times, throughout the night. The next day, I had a job. My job was being a checker at Winn-Dixie.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And, I was usually pretty good about showing up on time. I… I did never… I never didn't show up. But in this particular case, I called in sick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Pretty early on, before my shift started, but it was an early shift, and the manager was just absolutely furious with me, because he said… he just thought I was another irresponsible college student, just calling in sick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I wasn't being irresponsible. I was truly, truly sick. And as I figured out many years later, it took me years to figure this out. I didn't do it to myself. It was done to me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, it took 3 days to recover fully. I had a headache. I'm used to having headaches, but this was one…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Like I have never had before, and have thankfully never had since.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I had to wonder… I kept wondering what was in a kamikaze. Surely it was what it was like…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Straight ever clear? I mean, what was it that made me so sick?

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Diane Brandon Moody: And,

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Diane Brandon Moody: like I said, I wondered about it for a while, because I knew my experience was pretty extreme, and it wasn't until just a couple of years ago I looked up a kamikaze, and basically a kamikaze is a margarita with vodka instead of tequila, and that's it. It's nothing thick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And that's when the shoe dropped, and I finally went

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Diane Brandon Moody: oh my god, I was drugged that night. I had to have been, because those two drinks, it took me 2 hours to consume them, it wasn't like I was…

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Diane Brandon Moody: shooting… who could shoot a white-winded spritzer anyway?

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Diane Brandon Moody: In 2 hours, and, to be that sick.

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Diane Brandon Moody: for that long. It just didn't make any sense. But I got stuck on the didn't make any sense, and my own brain just didn't really allow me to understand that

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Diane Brandon Moody: Oh my god, girl, you've been roofied.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now, my roommate didn't leave me there, thank goodness.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I don't remember what the guys did after that. She was not sick, so I don't know if she wasn't roofied, or she

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Diane Brandon Moody: didn't drink or drink, I don't… I don't remember, and I have an asked her. We still know each other. I have an asked her. But, this clearly came to me just a couple of years ago, and clearly, gray hair, you can see it's been a while since that happened in college.

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Diane Brandon Moody: The reason I tell you this story…

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Diane Brandon Moody: is because I am, once again, teaching Dating Safely and scam-free.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is the, project that I'm doing for this quarter.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And there are a lot of women these days who are afraid to date. They, see the…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Dominic Pelico's story in France, the man who drugged his wife and allowed 70 men to rape her while she was unconscious over years. That's a horrifying story. And then to find out, there's

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Diane Brandon Moody: a website, and I'm not gonna name it because I don't want to, but the website was giving lessons on how to do that, and selling vials of

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Diane Brandon Moody: drugs that you could drug your wife with. Apparently, this was about spouses.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They were doing livestreams and horrible things like that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That was awful. And then Telegram had its own set of members that I think was in the thousands.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't get hung up on the numbers of how many people. I know it was said 62 million people had viewed online, and immediately a bunch of people wanted to argue with the number, as if that is the point. It's not the point.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Even if it was only…

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Diane Brandon Moody: 6 million, or 600,000, that's way too many. That's too many to learn how to be doing this to assault and rape women. There's too many. We're not gonna do that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, I have been teaching Dating Safely and Scam Free for a couple of years now, and it's one of the more popular free classes that I teach. I have updated it, there's new scam information and how to avoid that, because AI is making that a little trickier to spot.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I've updated it with, personal safety.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Once upon a time, I would have thought that calling a friend before you go on a date with a stranger is just ridiculous. That's too much. Why would you do something like that?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Now I know why, and I think it's a good idea, because, like I said, the roommate saved me from being assaulted. I was not assaulted in any way, other than having been sick for 3 days.

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Diane Brandon Moody: damn sick, and I… I would never be able to recognize these guys this much later, but if for some reason I knew it was them, and I recognized them, I would have no problem

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Diane Brandon Moody: hitting them over the head with a hammer, or something. I mean, I would have no problem with that for what they caused me, and they didn't rape me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It was just the sickness that makes me feel that way. That in itself was an assault. I wish I would have reported it, but like I said, it took me many, many years to figure out that that's what happened to me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, all of that being said, I still believe in love. You can see the sign. I still believe in love. I still know that there are very good men out there who are looking for good women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: The trick is weeding out the bad ones, taking the cautions and precautions that you need to in order to keep yourself safe.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Most of them are pretty easy, and just…

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Diane Brandon Moody: just easy to figure out and easy to do. When I taught this a couple of weeks ago, a couple of… both… everybody… everybody at one time or another said, oh my god, I never thought of that. So, they learned something.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So I would… I'm inviting you again to come to Dating Safely and Scam Free, and I will show you the places where it's worth the extra caution.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I will show you the other places where if you're feeling too cautious or too upset, this may be outmoded

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Diane Brandon Moody: body protection from your nervous system. For those who don't know about nervous system, I go into this a lot more in depth than other places, but this is a case of your body protecting you, and sometimes overprotecting you from what it perceives as a danger.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You don't have to give up on love. You don't have to give up on meeting a guy that you want to be with, on dating people. You don't have to do this.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But you need to do it intelligently and with some brains. You just do. That's the world that we're in these days. So, come to that free class.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Dating Safely and Scam Free. It's on Thursday, May 21st, from 7 p.m. Central.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Till when we finish, which is usually a little over an hour, but if you have questions, I will stay and answer them. And I'm looking forward to seeing them then. And, one of my…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Tips is you need to keep an eye on your own drink when you're with a stranger from when it was made all the way up to when you consume it. And that's if they offer to get it for you, or if you're getting your own. You just need to

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Diane Brandon Moody: employ that kind of caution these days, I'm afraid. And listen, it's not new. I did… this was 1982 when I was roofied, so it's been around a long time.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But, you're gonna learn how to be safe, how to keep yourself from harm so you can relax. You can relax and date, and have fun, and find the guy for you, because he's out there looking for you, too.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thank you so much, I hope to see you soon.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you want to come to dating safely and scam-free, go to my website, dianebrandonmoody.com. There's a link for you there on the top banner. You can go there, sign up, and we'll see you then. Thank you.