Same Man, Different Outfit, Ep 67

Have you ever found yourself trying to date a guy with certain qualities and he originally had them. But something happened, and eventually you discover that he's just like your alcoholic dad or the ex-husband who carried carried secrets or your first boyfriend who cheated on you. 

There's a reason for it, and we're going to talk about it on Thursday, July 9th at  7:00 p.m. central time. It's free, and you can sign up for it at https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com/same-man-different-outfit.

And, I'm also announcing a 14 day run of daily podcast episodes from today (July 3rd) to July 14th when Simply Irresistible Collective begins. 

Questions? Reach out to me at info@dianebrandonmoody.com. 

Enjoy!

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hi there, Diane Brandon Moody. I am a dating coach for women over 50, and I'm here today to announce that I'm doing a podcast bomb.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Several days, 14, 13 days, something like that, of a new podcast episode every single day.

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Diane Brandon Moody: They're gonna be short, because even I can't talk that much.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But I am doing this to let you know about my new webinar and a focus that we're going to be looking at for the next quarter, July, August, September.

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Diane Brandon Moody: is called Same Man, Different Outfit. Now, you have probably experienced this somewhere in your life if you've been dating a while.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's… that…

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Diane Brandon Moody: you know, you know a type of guy, maybe… maybe you didn't have a great relationship with your father, or your uncle, or your grandfather, or somebody in your early childhood, and you vowed that when you get married, it will not be the same way. This is not going to be the same kind of guy that I am around all the time. And then.

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Diane Brandon Moody: voila!

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Diane Brandon Moody: You end up with one.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Just like it. Even though you tried not to.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You do, anyway. This is something I totally get. I spent a few years doing that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And, you can always find a way to get out of it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So… we're… we're gonna talk a little bit. So, first of all, my, same man, different outfit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: event is going to be on Thursday, July 9th, at 7 o'clock p.m. Central Time. It'll be live, it'll be on Zoom.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And you need to go to my website and look up dianebrandonmoody.com slash same dash man dash

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Diane Brandon Moody: different dash outfit, and I'll put it in the show notes so you don't have to remember it exactly, but go to that

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Diane Brandon Moody: Page, and sign up.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's free.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It'll be probably about an hour and a half. I'll leave some room for questions.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And we're gonna be talking about that. So, you want a certain kind of man in your life, and I get it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And for some reason, every time you think you got them, it turns out it doesn't work that way.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, we're going to be going into that. There are reasons, and it's fixable.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can, you can fix it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, let's… let's talk about how that happens.

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Diane Brandon Moody: No, I'm gonna say that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We're not gonna talk about it. After all, I'm gonna save it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But, let me just tell you that it happens to a lot of women, because there's something familiar that goes off in your brain that just says.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I know this.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And it's so… sometimes it's so under your conscious brain that you can't possibly be able to name it very well. It's… it's not obvious to you. It's not obvious to other people. It's just… that's… that's the way…

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Diane Brandon Moody: human beings work. Your brain is a computer, it's a very fast computer, it's also an algorithm.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And, but sometimes it's very primitive. So, it learned how to… Keep you safe by…

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Diane Brandon Moody: recognizing patterns and predicting those patterns into the future. In familiarity.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or certainty, both are things that people really want in their lives.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Both of those things.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Are things that your brain kind of…

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Diane Brandon Moody: crawls out looking for, like, crawlers on the internet, just kind of crawls out looking for them. And that… since you recognize this, it's a… it crosses off the boxes of certainty and familiarity, there's a way that that happens.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, we're gonna talk about it, and I can't wait.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, DianeBrandonmoody.com, same man different… slash same man different outfit, I'll put it in the show notes. These are going to be short episodes, but I hope that you will listen to them as they become available daily.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I look forward to seeing you on Thursday, July 9th. It's gonna be so…

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Diane Brandon Moody: good, so fun, and we're gonna have a blast. So… See you then. Bye-bye!